Phaedrus

This is what happens if wasps decide that your spare bed is a good place to build a nest. Ewwwww. Full story here.

Seems reasonable. The only thing I'd say is... if you're going to fake it, fake it well. If you fake it and your partner knows you've faked it, you've probably got the worst of both worlds. It's like many other things: the problem is not what you do, but what you get caught doing :)

Well, that sucks. I hope whoever was outed is doing OK. One thing I have to say - and I know this is going to sound perverse - is that I actually find this hugely encouraging. They do this because they're frustrated. They *know* where this debate is going. They know that society is, in general, moving in a less judgmental direction and adopting more of a 'live and let live' attitude. They know, deep down, that no matter how sincere and strongly held your own personal morals and values may be, the time is past when you could force the rest of society to abide by them too (provided there's no harm to society). They know that people are largely coming to the conclusion that laws that make life far worse for some members of society while having no discernible positive effects for anyone will not, in the end, survive. And they know that they have no reasonable argument to back up their beliefs; all they have is fear and misdirection and smokescreens. I think a lot of the folks who tasted defeat twice in the debate over homosexuality (once when it became socially acceptable, and again once gay marriage became a reality) have moved on to this as the next battle. But they're going to lose again, and for the same reasons. Just as letting two guys or two women have their commitment to each other recognized by the state didn't unleash a tide of polygamy or incest or bestiality or floods or plagues of locusts, so will the decriminalization of sex work not make the slightest difference to day-to-day life for most people, while greatly improving it for some. And so what do they do, in their frustration and their rage and their impotence? They do the only thing they can: they lash out, at whichever target is available. They attempt to silence their opponents, because they hate and fear the arguments against them and know that they cannot ever win any kind of reasonable debate that's based on evidence and logic. To some extent, I can sympathize; it must be a terrible thing to know that you're wrong, and that the world knows it, and that you're too heavily invested in this to back down gracefully, and that in the end you'll lose anyway - again. That must hurt like hell, every day. It doesn't make their lashing out forgivable, or acceptable, but... I can kinda see where they're coming from.

Good luck with the new relationship! And if that doesn't work out... don't worry about the silly new laws. This industry isn't going anywhere :)

A guy gets arrested for dealing weed. And his name is... Paul Stoner :) http://www.nbc29.com/story/26316075/stoner-arrested-in-orange-county-drug-bust

Yes, ENB posted quite a lot of quite interesting stuff during her week guest-blogging at the Dish. A couple more of her posts, this time on sex work and shaming, here and here.

Much of this industry revolves around the revelation of things that are generally considered private, from the revealing photos and self-descriptions posted my many (if not most) providers, to the very detailed reviews and recommendations posted by their clients, to the questions and answers about what may or may not take place during an encounter. This doesn't strike me as being any worse than a lot of other stuff that's just accepted as part of the way the business operates. But then, I'm a guy and nobody's paying much attention to my body on a daily basis, so I may simply not understand... Fair enough. And when it works well and the client is none the wiser... no harm, no foul. But there's a chance that things might not go so smoothly, and in this case having been up-front about it would probably have been the better option. It's up to each individual lady to decide for herself what the chances are of things slipping, and what the consequences might be, and therefore whether or not to disclose things in advance. Perhaps guys who feel very strongly about this should mention it when booking so that they can delay until next week if need be, but that opens the door to a whole other pile of awkward... Three things on this. The first is to simply note that there are some folks out there who don't deal with blood at all well, irrespective of its origin. Second, there's the health angle. No encounter is risk-free from this point of view, and we all make our own decisions about what level of risk we are or are not prepared to accept... but I don't think most of us consider blood-exposure when doing so. Saliva, sweat, semen, vaginal mucus? Yes, all the time. But urine and feces and blood are not things that most of us would expect to encounter unless something had been explicitly arranged. And of those, blood is by far the most efficient at transferring pathogens. It opens up a whole load of new things to worry about, including many things that aren't usually considered STIs. It doesn't strike me as unreasonable to be unhappy if a health-risk that you hadn't expected is suddenly thrown at you, no matter what sex you are or which side of the client-provider relationship you're on. Finally, to quote the OP: "I felt something touch my lip I moved back to find a bloody spunge slipping out of the ladies vagina." I've never had anything remotely like that happen to me, and I can't honestly say I'd react gracefully if it did. Reactions to this sort of thing are likely to be immediate, visceral, and not the result of some well-thought-out reasoning. It's not clear to me that calling the OP immature is either reasonable or helpful.

I've noticed over the last month or so that there's been quite a few articles in the more business-oriented end of the press (places like Forbes and The Economist) arguing in favour of decriminalization on purely pragmatic grounds. I think this is a significant development: the more people realize that the only serious argument against sex work is that "it's against my personal morals", the more they'll come to understand that the proper public policy is to simply allow those who find sex work immoral to not engage in it, but not to inflict their own perception of morality on the rest of society, which may not share it. It'll take time, and it may be a bumpy ride on occasion, but the tide seems to be flowing the right way...

I can't see how surprising a client with this could be expected to end well. OK, there are doubtless some who would see getting it on at that time of the month as a positive thing, but I think they're probably a minority of the population. I'd have thought most reactions would range from neutral to strongly negative. However, expecting SPs to take one week in every four off is quite possibly going to make life difficult for them. In the past I've seen SPs offer BJ-only or BJ+greek appointments for a few days at a time on a regular basis, which seems like an entirely reasonable thing to do. There's no reason not to do FS appointments, provided everyone's OK with that. But whatever you do, the most important thing is to be honest and up-front about it. If a client wants to avoid that, then there's always next week... As a side note, it strikes me that what the ladies really need is to get some sort of button installed that they can press and just flush everything out in one go, rather than this messy process over a few days. This seems like an obvious design enhancement to me.

A trip to Vibe not so long ago, to see someone new. The recos above had piqued my interest, and... well done, guys :) Natasha is lovely to look at, interesting to talk to, and great fun to play with. The shower to get started was fun, the massage was very good, and what came after was... a lot more fun than the shower had been ;) Definitely an experience to be repeated!

A long day at work, and after that... well, honestly, I'd had enough of worrying about other people. Time, I thought, for some relaxation. A quick check of the ads hereabouts, and... yes... I'd been thinking about seeing Kimber for a while. A quick phone call, a few minutes in the car, and I'm checking out the new rooms at Paradise (or one of them, at least). Very nice. And then Kimber walks in, and I'm not checking out the room any more. If you want to know what she's like, the previous posters have it bang on: friendly, sweet, great fun to be with. And that's just her personality... anyways, before long she's massaging out all the day's stress... and once she started on the bodyslides I was gone. Things only got better from there - Kimber is very good at somehow knowing what you want her to do before you've even thought of it yourself, and the result of that was... awesome! And then there's time for a shower for two to clean up, and a little more chat, and it's time to go. Until next time...

It's been a while since we let you all know what's been going on at the FB Lodge, so I thought I'd send everyone an update. Our summer started with high hopes of us finally getting some exercise. We thought basketball would be good, and so far it's been working well. Except for that one time when Old Dog... actually, no, you don't want to know about that. Lee Got a really good opportunity to go to someplace in Eastern Europe. He sent us some pictures. Looks like he's having fun! I've been here all summer, unfortunately, but I did manage to get out now and again But it hasn't all been fun and games. Yes, all you people telling us we needed new furniture... we heard you, and we've been hard at work. Here's a chair we built... and it must be a good one, 'cos it's already attracting the ladies! Finally, in case you missed it, there was the FB BBM summer party. I think we had a good time. It looks like we did.

Trolling: level 100

Google will start rewarding you for using https by default. http://www.forbes.com/sites/larrymagid/2014/08/07/google-to-reward-sites-with-http-security-in-search-rankings/

Yeah... we guys just have to remember that GFE is GirlFriend Experience, not GirlFriend Eventually, and if you have a GirlFriend Expectation then it'll screw everything up in no time at all. So don't do that.

Wow! Congratulations, MN2!

Congratulations, Spud! Keep 'em coming!

Honestly? I think it depends. As an example, with kissing I tend to just see where things lead (you can work out what she's OK with and what she's not pretty easily, I think), but on the other hand I can't imagine greek - even if it's advertized and explicitly requested/arranged in advance - without something being said at the time. But the most important thing is to remember that anything you care to mention may just not be on the agenda right now, for whatever reason, and to respect that when it happens - whether the lady's ad or website explicitly calls it out as being YMMV or not.

Congratulations, Cato! That's a lot of redheads!

Have a great day, mrrnice2! Enjoy yourself!

That's a hell of a lot! Congrats, RG!

That would probably depend on the subsequent partner and relationship, so I don't see that there's any definitive answer anyone can give you right now. But having said that... none of us here are teenagers any more. There comes a point in your life when you know that any new relationship is going to be with someone who has a past, who has done things with other people... and you many never know everything. You may well never want to know everything. Is it not enough that people have exes, and possibly kids from former relationships, and whatever else? Provided nobody's bringing a STI to the game, does it really matter whether your new partner has had only one previously, or a thousand? Or whether an envelope containing money may have been sitting on a table at any point? I don't see how it's rational to worry about these things. Of course, people aren't always rational :)