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My Provider Response: Wait…silly me here has been living my life and working with other clients when what I should be doing is waiting for your ‘maybe gonna test’ text. 🙄 I apparently missed the memo about not spending time with my family or making doctor appointments so I can accommodate you on your last min whims. Silly me and wanting a quality of life outside of work. Yes work. This is a job, I don’t sit around waiting to answer clients when I am not at work. I know the value of my time and have a work and personal life balance just like I assume you do outside of your Mon Fri 9-5 or what hours you work. Can I assume by your stance sir your okay with me answering other Customers texts and calls in your paid session. Great…now excuse me well I take a break from being impaled on your 🍆 to answer this random text, oh and that text, and this call. Sorry an email just came in..got to answer that too. That’s okay right…I mean they are trying to reach me NOW after all. I am suppose to drop what I am and do that by your logic. So you won’t mind me taking time away from your paid session to do that right? 🤔 Or, does this fast answer world you seek only revolve only around you and your needs, not the other gents seeking my service too. Let me put it in your own language: I don’t have a hard time getting a serviced or my needs met, not even in a busy restaurant. Not ever… Maybe it’s because I treat my servers like people and they respond to that and meet my needs.. Maybe because when it’s busy I know they have 7 other tables and are getting their food and drinks from a busy bar or kitchen that also serve all the tables in the restaurant. So I don’t wait till my drinks empty expecting them to magically appear like the bottom of the glass as an alarm to notify them it’s empty. Common sense kicks in and I ask the service to swing by with a refill when I am low, not empty cause I know life takes a min and they aren’t able to snap their fingers to make it appear. After all, I am not their only customer. My Hobbyist Response: As a hobbyist myself I find this frustrating too. I promise, I get the frustration but I manage my expectations accordingly. Those that know me know I even find booking stressful. I tend to internalize that it’s a problem with me or me being female when I don’t get an answer. It sucks but it’s life and I manage this by pre booking and allowing response time. Please try to understand this is our work and Most of the messages we get do not turn into bookings. Your not actually a client until money exchanges hands. Manage your expectations around that. If this is happening a lot you may want to change your approach. Consider we’re both two sides of the same coin and if you can understand our needs when approaching us I promise we will better try to accommodate yours.

Tons of reasons for a name change. I have been putting off one myself for a while now. I am just so bonded to this one it’s hard to do. I don’t like the overlap between my personal like kink usage of it. It was less of an issue when lyla was smaller not now with so many new members I want a little separation from it. Likewise I have friends that have different personas attached to the name and they shed them as they develop and evolve so they aren’t painted by the same brush of expectation in things. I can easily see that being thing with the Barbie aspect be the route she chose for only fans. She has a ton of reviews and a history she doesn’t hide so while name changes make me raise an eyebrow I have no hesitation about it in this case. I just wish she worked here more 😢

Yes I tried messaging last week when she was in town but didn’t get a reply. She seems to only have a post up when she is working. She’s defiantly not retired though and changes up her adds so you might not alway recognize her.

I would be interred in knowing more myself. I’d rather be getting the spanks but delivering thems pretty fun too. 😂 janes feeling feisty with summer here 😈

Yeah I do too. I just don’t feel able to discuss things in the same context before without rubbing one person or another the wrong way. So I don’t! I think that’s not an uncommon feel here at the movement. Hopefully we can all find a way to reset and be more patient with each other. Take the bitching to the inboxes and cut each other some slack. I think we all miss old lyla. And Lydia…this place is not the same without her. She was the 💗 and a force. Big loss for all of us and the site in general.

There’s a lot to unpack here but if your worries about them blackmailing you and getting scammed your not doing your homework on the provider. There’s info on the boards here on how to do that. Leave booking newer girls to the guys that are more experienced first and learn your lay of the land before taking chances. Try looking at their references before booking and look at how long the name has been active. Off the top it also sounds like your needing GFE or Conection Based Providers. There’s a lot of us here. Some key words to scan posts for that type of provider are: -GFE -intimacy coaches -connection based -empath/empathy -fetish providers -switches -pansexual The bottom 1/2 being more controversial for some I am sure. We’re generalizing here but law of averages I stand by it in my experience. Other have their own . I say fetish providers and switches because we tend to work off the your reactions, read body language and are adaptable. A vast majority of of us do gfe too…it’s about connecting to that need more than it is the medium used. Pansexual is not a given on its own bout I included it as gender and sexuality tend to be more of a fluid concept for them and they don’t tend to think along gender and sex roles to the same degree as most. Sex is not typically not a binary concept for them. It really just a matter of doing your homework on the girl. But choose your providers based on what you establish your needs are. We don’t all service all needs and those that do likely don't do it well.

Sounds like you need a connection based provider and there are tons of us here on lyla.

Believe it or not, provider or not, as a female hobbyists I get super shy too. I always feel so awkward and hate booking new providers for the first time. It gives me actual anxiety. No joke, I tend to regular the same people to avoid it. Trust me…no here would call me shy. Panic is a thing and is less uncommon than you think. Your likely either not doing your homework looking into the ladies you book or something is off in the approach. Maybe a bit of both? 🙂 I am sure one of the gents will swing by here latter and link off some tips on homework. On my end I will say, keep in mind with strangers written form is hard to decipher. Don’t talk around things or make us chase you for basic information. I also can’t read between the lines if your talking around things to be polite. I mean be polite, ☺️ but there is no body language or voice to add the tone. You need to have a clear a clear message as to who you are, what you seek and when you had in mind. Lastly, I am biased here as I am a provider that only takes new clients with deposit. However, if your doing the above and having a hard time….book a reputable provider that seeks a deposit! Just make sure she has a reputable name that she won’t want Loose. Scammers don’t care they are changing their names/pics/# all the time. For the ladies that their name is their brand they aren’t going to try to screw you over $100. I turn down muli hour bookings that come up all the time because I have a single hour on the books with deposit. We all have…that deposit is our contract to you as well as yours to us. It protects your time as well as it protects our time. Plus a client putting it out there tells me he’s serious and respects my time and that’s a nice way to start the process. 😘 If your not willing to put a deposit down make sure you do your homework on verifying pics/other adds using them type deal. Watch for a repeated number in several ladies profiles, they have hidden management. Beware of posts that offer 24/7, party friendly, or unprotected sex. 🥺 They aren’t taking care of themselves. Don’t expect them to take care about you. Sure there are exceptions but your gonna get screwed over a lot finding them. Lastly, why don’t you drop me a message consistent to what you usually send a new provider. Don’t edit it to reflect the advice here. Send exactly what you send and I will give you private feed back on my end. I can only speak to me personally and not all providers. Just make sure it’s private in dm so we’re not affected by an audience. 😘 I hope something in there helps. If not Kimmys right on your likely in a shit list.

That my gents is why it’s nice to have the links to the post or profile. Some of ya all hobby more than the rest of us and if we’re not following that peroid of time the post is made we may not connect it to the same girl next visits. Also… I am lazy and I want ya all to do the work for me. 😉 Don’t think I am suppose to say that but those that know me, know me. 🤷‍♀️ 😘

Best to add a link to her profile if you can https://www.lyla.ch/profile/240404-emily-beauchamp/

Can’t speak for everyone but I take 3 other sources of deposits methods. Amazon gift cards and you can sent them electronically or buy it hard copy at a store and Send me a pic of the card front/back. I also have accounts at my favorite hali/darkside lingerie shops and other stores where one can go and leave cash with my name and I get credit for it. Lastly, I will also meet clients that want to give cash if they come to an area close to me. This last one I am a a little selective about with people here new to hobbying ad many get nervous and are no shows.

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Wel she’s 9 feet in her 👠 though 😂

Halifax is fetish friendly, one just have to follow out protocols as you would the ladies in any province. I haven’t been to either but try @East Coast Kimmy, I don’t know her height. Also I have heard legends on the strength of @MsManda legs and she’s fetish friendly for the right respectful gents. Have fun

@Yasmine Lyla @Francesca Lyla

Do they though? Do they really need to be called out publicly on a non related thread? We not all 12 here. We’re of age consenting adults trying to have a good time. Trust other hobbyists to be able to read a situation. You may not know me I was actually a hobbyist for two decades before a provider and am still hobby with woman now. To be clear I am not defending the provider or taking a provider verses hobbyist sides. Not at all. What I am saying is 2 wrongs don’t make a right and this isn’t the place with for that. You took the time to to not only high jack a thread that had nothing to do with that provider in question but to nit pick her publicly cause your ego is bruised or your annoyed with her service and this isn’t the place for it. I am 💯 on bard with hobbyists sharing this info with each other in inboxes. It is part of the very foundation this place was built on in the pre harper days. I have and still use that service. So what I say comes from my hobbying side Sir. Provider me has this to say… If a provider is cunty with you just don’t book em and move on to another business model. Share that info okay, but do you need to be petty about it and kill our buzz dragging us with you. This is not the right space for it. If you want a provider that is easy access who may not not care to see you but will anyway there are plenty of options for that! Many ladies have establishments or people that make the decisions for them and and maybe LL list is a better fit for you. 🤷‍♀️ Some of ya here seem to think that being sex workers we owe you the right to our time, our energy, our bodies and our personal hosting and living spaces. Even before your a paying client at that! That’s is not the case in the independent model.

@bornafireI have had way too many orgasms today to put together e a tutorial on how to use an inbox/Dm. To be clear we have them, It’s not just a concept. Can we shut this shit down now MODs so we all stop feeding the clogged wheel. I think we established Emily’s great and not currently working here. @Julie Lyla@Grace Lyla @Kian Lyla

Dude…this statement serves absolutely no point except to spread someone’s personal information without their consent. What purpose does it add ito this convo. Now excuse me while I add to my ‘No Booking’ list. 🙄

Just saw this now Mr. i am always open to chatting about this next next time we chat. 😉

I spend time in the valley all the time. Ya all think this but it’s simply not true. If it were one of us would have done it by now. A location that multiple people can go to is the issue. “Can’t park in front of a hotel or in the street around a hotel.” “A friend lives on that street.” “The people that own the Air B&B are friends with my wife.” All things I hear any time I make an effort to book there. I would absolutely love to service the valley but when any of us try it doesn’t work and enough business. It’s incredibly hard to book more than one client in a location that works for more than one person in my experience. No one’s setting up shop with if they can’t even get enough support for muti bookings for an overnight. Many of us have tried. Clients don’t follow through. They just don’t and than the hours of planning and conversing with clients just becomes a wasted time suck. If you think different feel free to do the research on a discrete location for the hobbyists and we will come. Any of us would if the pre bookings are there. Just be prepared to shop for a new location and change the spot every few months because discrete stops being discrete after a few months of men coming and going. Lota eyes in the valley. 🤷‍♀️

Awesome thanks @clearbluesky15 There are defiantly things I am going to incorporate to keeps my worlds from bleeding into each other.

Welcome to the cult. I have to learn better myself 🥹

Ya know I work both sides of the line…hobbying and providing and at this point I am just gonna lay it out there. Nothing wrong with the services you seek but your expectations and general approach are the biggest things you need to have over come to get a local provider to book you. Point blank. Your really just wasting your time locally. If any of provider local providers were willing to hook you, you would have had a message in your inbox by now. Lots of advice in your feeds but you just don’t want to hear it. That’s why no provider is accepting your bookings. It’s just that simple. Also… My clients do their homework and know about me when they book. I am not taking time out to meet someone who doesn’t want to pay a deposits. I will move on to the next gent that will. I think most experienced ladies here will say the same. You want providers to meet your expectations in how you want to be treated. You don’t want to listen to or accept what we need in exchange.That’s why you can’t get the bookings you seek. again…it’s that simple. #HighMaintenance

You hit my wheel house there. Both in personal play and in work sessions. 😘