Ask a Hobbyist!

[roamingguy 300291]

How do you, or would you deal with a S&B or theft?

 

A B&S I would just decline the encounter...that said I've been fortunate, never had a B&S

Now theft, basically it's suck it up. Are you going to report it to the police. Physically try and get your money back...she could turn around charge you with assault. I know the one time it happened to me there really was no recourse. However a couple CERB ladies were very supportive, and since that time I stick to CERB ladies.

A rambling for what it's worth

RG

[Lexy Grace 103696]

I have read many posts regarding the "types" a person likes and it has been made somewhat clear that they only see their "types" for one reason or another.

Do you ever have fantasies of providers that may not be your typical/usual "type" and/or have you searched outside of that "type" box and taken the plunge to see a provider that is not normally your "type"?

[jafo105 39057]

What is the one piece if advice you wish someone had given you when you started hobbying ?

 

My first experience was with a Massage Provider and I had invited her come to my home.

 

I greeted the lady at the door and I told her to make herself comfortable in the living room while I get our tea. (Yes I said tea - I do not drink).

 

Then I went into the kitchen. The next thing I know is that she has crept up behind me and is now completely naked. Boy was I shocked and speechless. (I had not seen a naked woman up close and in person like that in ten years)

 

She gave me a big grin and said, "What, you told me to make myself comfortable."

 

I never knew it could be that easy to get a women to part with her clothes. Especially on the first date -- and within the first 5 minutes.

 

Needless to say that was one memorable experience.

 

I wish someone had told me what it meant if you told the lady to make herself comfortable. Then again, what a wonderful surprise to learn it the hard way.

 

That was three years ago.

[CristyCurves 169032]

How much value do put on what another hobbyist or sp has to say about another provider? Would it impact your decision to see/ or not see her?

Do you base decisions in other aspects of your life as well on others opinions, comments?

[BarrhavenWoody 10776]

Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought...

 

"wow, she way out of my league?"

 

 

Most of the ladies are out of my league. That's one of the great things about this hobby! :)

[roamingguy 300291]

I have read many posts regarding the "types" a person likes and it has been made somewhat clear that they only see their "types" for one reason or another.

Do you ever have fantasies of providers that may not be your typical/usual "type" and/or have you searched outside of that "type" box and taken the plunge to see a provider that is not normally your "type"?

 

My type is a woman between mid twenties to early fifties

Although I hate these labels, for purposes of discussion here, can be a spinner to bbw

From 5 foot to almost 6ft tall

blonde, brunette or redhead

short hair to long hair

no tattoos to tattoos

Well I guess I don't have a typical "type"...what keeps me connected with certain ladies is the chemistry/clicking we might have. Really that plays a bigger part in who I would like to see. And don't ask me what that chemistry/clicking is, but I'll know it when I see it

I don't know if that answers your question or not

RG

[Ice4fun 78396]

I have read many posts regarding the "types" a person likes and it has been made somewhat clear that they only see their "types" for one reason or another.

Do you ever have fantasies of providers that may not be your typical/usual "type" and/or have you searched outside of that "type" box and taken the plunge to see a provider that is not normally your "type"?

 

 

I have never really thought about it that way before but now that I am I think you might have something there.... I have only seen a couple of SP's multiple times and I would put those as "my type" using your terminology. Beyond them... the majority of the ladies I gave seen only once tend to be people quite different.... some I am not sure I would have seen when I first started in thus hobby so I think as I move along m appreciation for a more diverse type has grown which I think has been a good thing.

 

Additional Comments:

How much value do put on what another hobbyist or sp has to say about another provider? Would it impact your decision to see/ or not see her?

Do you base decisions in other aspects of your life as well on others opinions, comments?

 

Not sure I rely that much on others for my choices on who to see... i generally look at th ads... che check profiles and recommendation.... gave a look at their website or Blog.... i can't put my finger right on it but it us a sense of connection I am looking for.

 

All that said there is certainly at least one SP whose opinion I would trust without hesitation.

[Phaedrus 209521]

So, to pile up a bunch of stuff...

 

What made you finally take the leap?

 

A simple desire for sexytime with sexy people, and an aversion to... complications.

 

Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)?

How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc)

 

A bit of everything, but I tend not to look at ads much until I've already decided to see someone. But pics, web presence and recos have all sent me to see people. Pics are the least reliable, but... I've just seen a truly irresistible smile...

 

Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought...

 

"wow, she way out of my league?"

 

All the time! That's half the point of this - I can think that, and book anyway!

 

Mind you, I've seen some eye-watering rates, and those people are truly beyond me.

 

Have you booked a session and not be able to perform as you hoped? If so, how did you handle that?

 

Yes. You just accept it and have fun some other way.

 

In the course of your hobbyist experiences, what has surprised you?...what have you learned?... or discovered?...how have those things spilled over into other facets of your life?

 

I've been surprised by how normal everybody is, how strong the community hereabouts is, and how much the ladies look out for each other (mostly).

 

Have you ever invited a friend into the hobby?

 

No.

 

What is the one piece if advice you wish someone had given you when you started hobbying ?

 

I wish I'd started long before I did. My younger self needs a good smack with a clue-bat.

 

Once I'd started, I was OK, mostly because I'd done quite a bit of reading here first. There was a huge amount of good advice then, too.

 

How do you, or would you deal with a S&B or theft?

 

This is what the scam/warning threads and CK's diary are for. In the case of theft, I'd certainly consider getting the law involved.

 

But I've never actually experienced either (this is a useful site :) ), and I honestly won't know until it happens... which, with luck, will be never.

 

I have read many posts regarding the "types" a person likes and it has been made somewhat clear that they only see their "types" for one reason or another.

Do you ever have fantasies of providers that may not be your typical/usual "type" and/or have you searched outside of that "type" box and taken the plunge to see a provider that is not normally your "type"?

 

Yes. One of the great things about this, for me, is the ability to see people I'd never normally even meet, much less get into bed with.

 

How much value do put on what another hobbyist or sp has to say about another provider? Would it impact your decision to see/ or not see her?

Do you base decisions in other aspects of your life as well on others opinions, comments?

 

It matters. Some peoples' comments matter more than others.

[Guest S****r]

What a great thread! I am fully enjoying reading it!

Here's one of my questions:

If the government does criminalize hobbyists, are you going to drop out of the community?

What will you want us providers to do to reassure you that it will be safe to come see US?

 

(I guess that is two questions.)

 

Thanks!

[cinelli 22184]

What is the one piece if advice you wish someone had given you when you started hobbying ?

 

Looks aren't everything.

[Tallguy007 4172]

What made you finally take the leap?

Do you find yourself booking a lady because of her ad or recs or pictures (mostly)?

How important is web presence (outside of cerb - website, blog, other ad sites etc)

 

I went the escort way after my divorce and some failed attempts at dating. While I did want a woman's touch, I wasn't ready to properly commit (blaming the job and that the kids elected to stay with me). It took me quite a while, mostly due to american tv influences making me think I'd be mixing with a criminal and exposing myself to criminal prosecution. Thank goodness I stumbled upon cerb and got some straight up information.

 

What hooks me while looking for company is some good pictures and some text which makes me feel like she's laid back and likes what she does. It is critical to me that I can find all the info online (rates, rules, comfort zone), as I know I'm too shy to outright ask. I have no problem following a link to a website to get the extra info. A nice website does help project that she is a professional.

[cinelli 22184]

How do you, or would you deal with a S&B or theft?

 

I've had a couple of Bait+Switch incidents. I always leave. If someone is dishonest about pics then I wonder if something else is going on as well. One time I went to a ladies incall and her friend said the lady was not there...when she was upstairs waiting for me. Her friend said I could have a session with her, I said no thank and left. Next thing I know the lady I went there to see is calling me out for a no show. I should have tried phoning her when I was still at the door. Too late now.

 

I've only had two thefts, both were my own stupidity. Had a lady visit my hotel room in Vancouver and then later noticed my Canon SLR was missing. Obviously shouldn't have left it lying out in the open. Also in Vancouver had a double. One girl excused herself and stole my wallet while the other distracted me. Again, I should have been more careful.

 

Additional Comments:

What will you want us providers to do to reassure you that it will be safe to come see US?

 

I honestly do not know. For now I think I could stick with the SPs that I know and feel I can trust.

I might be very reluctant to see anyone new for a long time.

I'd avoid anyone young or new like the plague. Too much chance of them rolling over.

[Tallguy007 4172]

How much value do put on what another hobbyist or sp has to say about another provider? Would it impact your decision to see/ or not see her?

Do you base decisions in other aspects of your life as well on others opinions, comments?

 

Not that much. I only browse the reviews to confirm that she's "real" and preferably not new on the scene. I'm just not the type to TOFTT.

 

For the other aspects of my life, I do take advice from others on subjective matters: which restaurants are good, for example.

[Guest blue***el]

I do a great deal of research until I feel comfortable enough to book an appointment with an escort. Usually I look at four main things to make a decision:

1. Face (If I can't see their face in the pictures I won't msg them)

2. Age (I find mature women so damn hot)

3. Boobs (They have to be big and natural)

4. Oral skills

[Nicolette Vaughn 294340]

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website?

 

The reason I ask if because when I had my former website, many people have admitted to being intimidated to meet me based on the way I had presented myself and in my writing.

 

What they expected of me in terms of personality before meeting me was a no nonsense type of person from the website. When they actually did meet me, they said "they didn't expect me to be that nice".

 

While I am an assertive person, I was sort of shocked to realize that it was too evident. Some respected and admired me for it, others felt intimidated and then others speaking through the grapevine thought I was a "bitch" without having ever met me.

[CristyCurves 169032]

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

[conquistador 18487]

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

 

Christy, i will admit i do choose a lot based on looks, but that is subjective to each person...and for me, i can go from really fit to curvy. It really depends on the face for me, pretty face wins me all the time lol...but, yes, looks are important.... As I'm sure for most men...

As for the weight increase, if I've been seeing a particular SP for awhile and we got along, it wouldn't really bother me, as we have some sort of connection...that's why i keep seeing her. However, for an SP i haven't met and she gained 20lbs (say from her pics), it could be a deciding factor, all depends on how it's carried.

[Guest fi****ek]

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website?

 

The reason I ask if because when I had my former website, many people have admitted to being intimidated to meet me based on the way I had presented myself and in my writing.

 

What they expected of me in terms of personality before meeting me was a no nonsense type of person from the website. When they actually did meet me, they said "they didn't expect me to be that nice".

 

While I am an assertive person, I was sort of shocked to realize that it was too evident. Some respected and admired me for it, others felt intimidated and then others speaking through the grapevine thought I was a "bitch" without having ever met me.

 

I always like hearing what a woman has to say, what she thinks, how she sees the world. If a lady has an attached blog to her website, I'll always read it.

 

A lot of men are insecure, they fear assertive women as a result. Their egos take over. You're not responsible for what others think. If somebody says, "I'd didn't expect you to be that nice", the fault lies with them, not you. Why would they expect you to be "not" nice? If that's the case, why contact you to begin with, if they truly felt that. Can't help but feel, this is nothing more than someone playing games, attempting a power play.

 

You're a business entity, but you're also a person. A business entity can't be beaten up, humiliated, threatened, etc, but a person can. I recognize that I represent a physical threat to a lady. Maybe, because I'm a bigger guy than average, I'm more physically powerful than average, I understand the kind of damage I'm capable of inflicting. I also understand the most important thing is that I acknowledge that no means no.

 

You have to set boundaries, you have to protect yourself first and foremost. Whatever a lady has to do to feel safe and comfortable with me, is fine by me. I won't take offence, I won't rush to judgement.

 

All it takes is one bad date to make you reconsider your career.

[Guest c**io**m7]

Do you form a significant opinion of an SP based on her writing and how she presents herself whether it's on a site such as this one or what's presented on her website?

 

The reason I ask if because when I had my former website, many people have admitted to being intimidated to meet me based on the way I had presented myself and in my writing.

 

What they expected of me in terms of personality before meeting me was a no nonsense type of person from the website. When they actually did meet me, they said "they didn't expect me to be that nice".

 

While I am an assertive person, I was sort of shocked to realize that it was too evident. Some respected and admired me for it, others felt intimidated and then others speaking through the grapevine thought I was a "bitch" without having ever met me.

 

I have to answer yes to your question. Before booking, I used to research post history, websites and/or blogs. I found this gave great insight into the person behind the persona. I always looked for not only beauty but, the ability to carry a decent conversation. I looked for warmth in the anticipation of cuddling during the post activity chat.

 

Additional Comments:

Have you ever looked at an ad or profile and thought...

 

"wow, she way out of my league?"

 

Out of my price limit, yes.

Out of my league? No.

 

As I have always picked my partners based on personality first, I have never considered anyone out of my league...not in my personal life and not in this hobby. I have always been the type who will spark a conversation with anyone, avg, GND, DDG, super model type...it never mattered.

[kimmyxoxo 3362]

What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger...

 

And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying?

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

[Triple HHH 12345]

For me the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger knowing I am going to have sex with her is one of the joys of hobbying, so many beautiful woman here,

wish I had of found cerb 15 years ago.

The downside of being a hobbiest is I have to alert a 100 percent of the time not to get caught!!

[6dave9 4008]

So many of you intimate that you choose a lady for things other than looks so...

If your favorite companion was to increase in size 15 to lets say 20+ lbs would your attraction change?

 

Hi Christy, probably not.. if she is my favorite to begin with, the connection is important, as she knows me and what turns me on or what I really enjoy, and I have learned what she likes as well.

Her smile and embrace when she is with me is just........ :-)

 

(besides .. If a lady has put on a little volume, hopefully it will enhance the cleavage even more... LOL sorry couldn't resist...;-) I am so bad...!!)

[qwertyaccount 15793]

In a session if you "blow" to fast, do you just want to run out right away or do you stay and chat, or massage, enjoy a beverage?

 

A massage, and especially chatting over a beverage are the best parts of a session!

 

Now that you made me think of it, next time I'm going to do my best to blow fast so I'll have more time for the good parts!

[Studio 110 by Sophia 150333]

A massage, and especially chatting over a beverage are the best parts of a session!

 

Now that you made me think of it, next time I'm going to do my best to blow fast so I'll have more time for the good parts!

 

Sometimes I will facilitate it this way, cause I can sense he is just TOOO horny for anything else at first, so get that out of the way, then rest of the time is unwinding and relaxing:)