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hey folks Just a quick note to all who happen to know me, some more intimately that others!!! Was diagnosed this week with bone cancer in the jaw, where they thought it was just a bad bone graft after trying to install a post for a bridge. Now on the list at the General for this new "laser knife", just not sure when (welcome to Ontario Health care), then probably some chemo or radiation. So I may be out of commission soon for a while, but will try and keep connected. If I have not reached out to you ladies, not because I did not want to!!! So in the meantime, play safe, play hard and of course.......lots of licks!!

After reading, and re-reading a very recent thread,( and I'm probably wording this poorly) , but to all the ladies out there, I think it's safe to say you have our utmost respect and appreciation. Most of the guys here feel the same as I do towards you, with the utmost respect and appreciation. Anyway, I thought a thank you to all the ladies is in order. You are appreciated and respected by the majority of CERB guys here, and I for one don't want this to ever be a boys club For whatever it's worth RG

Well here is where I get tired of the spin put on this by people and the press. All the opposition parties jumped on Harper about ethics and contempt of parliament. The big one in the debates was the "leaked" DRAFT of the AG's report. Firstly it was a draft that was circulated to the departments concerned to correct factual errors and collect further data. It was not the final report, and the AG herself said that. That report was circulated in confidence and was to be treated as secret, for many reasons, not the least of which the damage an error could cause. Release the report, the opposition says, but that is against the law. Read the law that governs the AG and you will see that it must be tabled in parliament first. A part of our great democratic tradition. It is tabled and debated in an open forum governed by parliamentary procedure, not on the hustings where nobody is held accountable for their words or actions. So we have leaders spouting about another's ethics and contempt for parliament using a document they know was obtained through theft or violation of a person's sworn oath. The employee who leaked it, (purportedly a Liberal partisan, but I cannot confirm that) did so in violation of the trust the people of Canada placed in that person. So we are to believe that the other leaders are so morally superior and respectful of parliament? They chose to go on the attack using evidence they know is factually incorrect, was obtained illegally, and because the report by law, is to be tabled openly in the House of Commons first, was used in contempt of the very same parliament they say they are protecting? Bull shit, it is political opportunism plain and simple. Bottom line, the whole lot of them are challenged by the truth. This isn't a rant in favour of any one party or leader. It is me saying I am sick and tired of the hypocrisy espoused by politicians of all stripes whenever they open their mouths, egged on by a press corps that thrives on scandals (even if they have to create them) and special interest groups who are looking out for nobody but themselves. Give me a break.

If you can still perform well when you're with a woman--and particularly when you masturbate--you don't need the little blue pill (Viagra) or any of its substitutes. Don't fall into the trap of taking meds you don't need and don't try to fix what ain't broken! :icon_wink: It sounds to me like you're needing something that's not usually available from a paid companion. You might take some time to ask yourself what it is you feel you really, truly, deeply want and need from another person in your life. You don't say whether you're married or in a steady relationship, but if you are, it could be that some of your needs there aren't being fulfilled. If your partner is going through a difficult time and you're having to carry a bigger share of the load without getting a lot back from her, right now, you may be feeling emotionally drained and physically tired. If you're single, it could be that you want more non-sexual companionship as in social connection, or a relationship based on shared interests and activities. Maybe the certainty of an encounter with a paid companion is no longer what you need; dating, with all its pitfalls, uncertainties and realities can be a joyous thing in part because the outcome is not so certain. Maybe you need to know that the woman you're with is there because she wants to be with you and not because you've paid her for her time and attention. We companions often say that we're paid to go away. Maybe you want someone who might be able to stay for a long time. Maybe, for a little while, it would be better for you to get lots of good exercise, be sure to eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep. It's surprising how often attending to these things can improve how we feel about everything in our lives. Whatever you feel, trust that feeling and listen to your own heart. There's absolutely nothing wrong with not wanting paid companionship, or even sex, for awhile! But if it seems that you don't feel you want want anything, or that you don't find pleasure in the things that used to delight you, please do talk to your doctor. Anhedonia (the loss of joy in life) is a symptom of depression. Depression is treatable, but when it's ignored, can cause serious problems in your life and at times may become life-threatening.

STEPHEN HARPER was visiting an Ontario primary school and the class was in the middle of a discussion related words and their meanings. The teacher asked Mr. Harper if he would like to lead the discussion on the word 'Tragedy'. So our illustrious leader asked the class for an example of a 'Tragedy'. A little boy stood up and offered: If my best friend, who lives on a farm, is playin' in the field and a tractor runs over him and kills him, that would be a tragedy. Incorrect, said Harper. That would be an accident. A little girl raised her hand: If a school bus carrying fifty children drove over a cliff, killing everybody inside, that would be a tragedy. 'I'm afraid not', explained Harper, that's what we would refer to as a great loss''. The room went silent. No other children volunteered. Harper searched the room. Isn't there someone here who can give me an example of a tragedy? Finally, at the back of the room, little Johnny raised his hand and said: If a plane carrying you and Mr. Ignatieff and Mr. Layton and Mr. Duceppe were struck by a 'friendly fire' missile & blown to smithereens, that would be a tragedy. Fantastic, exclaimed Harper, and can you tell me why that would be a tragedy? Well, said Johnny, it has to be a tragedy, because it certainly wouldn't be a great loss, and it probably wouldn't be a fucking accident either!

When writing a pm, email or texting, please do not send one liners! Many times, it come across as being rude. Ive been on the recieving end of this threw txting, hence the reason why I do not text anymore to make a 1st appointment! WE can not hear your tone of voice, so when you send something like this: "WHEN CAN I SEE YOU?" It just sounds rude. First off, INTRODUCE yourself! Say hello, how are you, I am Mr.XXX. The reason why you are emailing or pm'ing: I am interested in meeting with you on this date and time for this long. A little about yourself, if your comfortable saying anything, some ladies actually request that you do, some don't. Then sign off... Looking forward to hearing from you, Until we meet, or what ever. When you write an actual pm or email, we WILL respond! When I see something that is not like the above described, I dont even want to put in the effort to respond, since you did not take the effort to say more than 3 or 4 words to me! And I am sure I am not the only lady that feels like that! And most importantly!! Read her Ads, website and profile!! They are very imformative. Hence the reason why we put so much effort into them! The effort your going to put in by pm'ing "Whats your rates?", "What time do you start?", or the big question, "What do you look like?" will be alot less than clicking your mouse on the link to her website/profile! You just look very lazy and disrespectful! We are not asking you to write an autobiography about yourself or a novel! 5-6 lines is not asking for much! I know some men are men of very few words, but if you cant take a few minutes to learn about us and say more then a few words, then imagin how we think the encounter will go with you?! Starting an email/pm politely can and will get you a better or if any encounter with your choosen SP/MA! ****************** I've searched and could not find a thread about etiquette on pm'ing, but found this thread, which only shows you how to START a pm: http://cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=15861 If I missed it someone let me know and Ill ask the Mod to add this post to it! Thanks, Tiffany Amber xoxo

While I think screening is really important for many of the reasons already stated, I have some better ways to "protect" SPs: (@ the comment about sreening being necessary so that sex workers aren't killed) how about people don't kill/hurt us? how about we don't get discriminated against by the police and health care systems? how about decriminalizing prostitution? and how about humanizing sex workers and valuing our work? while I recognize that screening is essential and does lessen the risk of violence or whatever it may be the we need "protection" from, we need to look at the bigger picture here. sex workers wouldn't be killed at the rates we are if it weren't for how we are perceived to be less than human or immoral. and there are larger structures that govern these discriminatory ideologies. Sky

It is the wonderful guys here, that keep most of us here. We know how you feel about us, it comes out everyday in your posts. We also know that there will always be a couple of bad apples in the bunch! But as long as you guys keep us smiling and laughing, we will always know we are appreciated! Thank you so much guys for all you have said and done to make our days a little brighter!

I think this thread has provided a lot of people with enough screening info regarding some people's personalities and perspectives to make an informed decision of who they will and will not see. The screening process is not always about the information but the compliance of clients. If they will not be respectful or follow the rules or instructions in the booking process, how likely are they to do that once in the bedroom (regardless of what the booking/screening process is.) This thread is like a war - aren't we supposed to be getting together to have some good sexy, sensual fun? With so much anger and disrespectful comments it's hard to believe that people's intent is about hooking up with each other. Find an SP who you are comfortable with in all ways (screening, booking, location, personality, sexuality) and go with it.

I think you have been missing the point that has been expressed so many times in this thread, but I will express it one more time: *Ladies working in this industry face violence at an exponential rate in comparison to Gents who hobby.* How do you know I'm not some sicko? Well, do your research! A reputable lady who has reviews and has been around for awhile with no complaints is your best bet! Wow, talk about stigma and prejudice! If you think a lady may have severe mental problems, don't book with her. It is my experience that the quality providers with the strictest screening also have the best head on their shoulders. Then don't book with the ladies who request it, and stop complaining about those of us who are proactive about our safety. Again, it's your choice, but don't expect us to be heartbroken or complain.

For those of you using the "it's a two way street," "clients are at risk too" type excuses, blah blah blah. Give me a break. The risk that you will victimize me is much much greater than the risk that I might rip you off. There is a much greater risk that you'll use my name to out me, harass me, stalk me, etc than there is that I will use it to ruin your life. Let's get real. And for those of you using the "oh, but what if she publishes my name on a bad date list" excuse: There are two sides to every story and you probably did something to deserve it. Straight up. It's much more likely that you were a dickhead than it is that she was trying to be vindictive. I hate these conversations. My safety is more important than your precious name. /end rant

Hello all, being a silent member and not having had much activity my account did not have the privilege to create a new recommendation for this wonderful young lady. Although I think an angel like Blythe does not need much recommendation, having had the pleasure of knowing Blythe for almost a year and been on several dates with her, I thought I would pay back to the cerb community and introduce her to those who might have not yet discovered this gem. She is young, beautiful, sophisticated, intelligent, honest and yet kind and friendly true companion, A date with Blythe is hardly just about sex although she has all the right skills and natural gifts. It is about having the pleasure of being with an amazing girl who makes you feel special. She is one of those girls that makes you wish you had met her not as a SP but as a real friend...

I didn't post this in the election thread because I feel like this should stand on its own and don't want it to be lost in the midst of a-gajillion posts. http://shitharperdid.ca.nyud.net/ xoxo Sky

Refined but playful, classy yet erotic,stimulates both the mind and body. A women who makes you feel like you,ve been lovers for years even though you just met, she seems to know exactly what you are thinking at all times and is a true seductress yet she can take you to places you may not have been before, truly a refreshing surprise !! A treat to sample again and again.

Hi everyone. Happy Friday! Okay, so it's now the second time I've heard this today. Someone in Ottawa is calling around to people telling them their computer is infected with a virus and offering their services to fix. Not sure if it's a new scam, but it's the first I've heard of it. I also heard through a local ISP that they have received calls from their customers as well stating the same thing. Things that make you go hmmm. Satin

There are two other cancers that hit men, especially when they enter their fifties. There are very simple tests that should be done every year. Not checking the stats, but I suspect these are far more common. Colo rectal cancer can affect both genders, and the test is so easy. Get a FOBT kit at the doctor or clinic, take it home , put a fecal sample in the kit, and put it in the mail. There's no cost and the province will send you back the results. Prostate cancer is obviously a male disease. At your annual physical a quick examination and a requisition for a PSA blood test will identify a problem in it's early stages. If you're getting a prostate massage with your regular MA she might even be able to give you a heads up. I do these tests ever year, and I advise all the guys to follow suit. You only come this way once.

Lol.. Ironically I totally got an e-mail like that.I found it to be offensive,so I was quite rude when I responded.. I was quick to say what I had to say and make sure I did not recieve another message to that effect again.Maybe we know the person,maybe not..I do not care to know anyone who speaks to me in that manner,neither should you put up with that BS! Sometimes we just got to laugh it off :) Or have a drink hah.. KIDDING!!

Truth is I am completely tired of the rhetoric, hyperbole and spin. No doubt the Conservatives made errors as did the previous Liberals. I am tired of American-style attack ads and those of you that promote Web sites such as one mentioned above are part of the problem, not part of the solution. Promote ethical and open dialog. Stand on what your candidate and party will do, not what the other guys did. Here's an example: Debates have become nothing more that speaking points and sound bites. During the debate both the Liberals and NDP rolled out grand plans that they would put into place during the next four years. When asked where the money comes from, they both indicated it would come from money saved by cancelling the F35 fighter acquisition. The only problem is this is money that would have not been spent for about 10 years down the road -- but most Canadians don't know that. Wonder why so many Canadians are apathetic about voting? There is no doubt the way the political campaigns are has a lot to do with it. Satin

best to PM her for that info

Thanks to the gents who take us for the gems we are and all the skills and knowledge that come with us! I've met some of the most respectful men in my life working this job and have enjoyed most of my experiences! xoxo Sky

Although I respect people's preferences in not wanting to give their full real name to their SPs, what are the assumptions here about what we will use it for? What do you think we're going to do with it?

I don't really know where you got the impression that me posting this was somehow pro-liberal. To be frank, I think all parties misrepresent the beliefs I hold of what it would look like to live in a more just world. I was merely pointing out that the Harper government has destroyed much of the gains that social movements in this country have achieved and have been working on for a long time. I don't think the Liberals are much better and I'm not sure why everyone keeps playing this game of 'either or'. It's quite telling of both our political system and our electoral system. Sky

It's too bad we can't vote for Sheila Fraser.

Well I get my name split and then varied; - Win - Winni - Cub - Cubbie or Cubby Hmm, certainly a trend. I don't have a real preference. But the Winni and Cubbie variations seem to sound better coming from the ladies.

I am kind of laughing to myself as I read this. I probably have the dumbest CERB name on here! So if you get a PM from me, I always use my real name. I like that a LOT better! Wonder if the Mod allows a change on name here somehow? Surely I could think of something better.

Ummm, you can but you're choosing not too. You seem to make a lot of demands: a) Only men reply to this thread. b) Close this thread. c) Don't quote me. Once you post something publically, anyone can reply. That's just the way the overwhelming majority of web forums work. If you don't want the world to be able to read and reply to what you write, then you shouldn't post it.

Unfortunately, other methods of screening which require the SP not take any personal information only protects the SP until she meets you. I don't really want to list out all the methods of screening and safety as I feel it may take away from someone else's trying to be safe. If I tell you all the ways other may keep themselves safe, I could be giving you ideas of ways to circumvent those... and I hate hearing about these girls who fell victim to yet another sicko they have yet to catch. I just wished that someone would have taken information of people like The LI Ripper, or the CL Killer, or Picton, or Joel Rifkin... you know, BEFORE body upon body started piling up. 'Extreme' screening method might not have stopped people like this, but it could have had them caught long before they were able to kill that many people.

No one is saying your safety is less important. What people are trying to say is you do take FAR less risk. You, as a client, are never taking as much risk as your escort. And my life is far more important than your name. You might get ripped off, be put on a black list... But I may be chopped up into little pieces and dumped into a ditch, not only losing my life, but deeply hurting those who are close to me. It's not nice and even I don't like thinking about it, but it's a reality. To this day there are serial killers out there, uncaught, taking their anger out on prostitutes of all types. (street, escort, ect.) When a client says and acts like he is taking more risk than I am, it's completely thoughtless.

I find Gents seem to forget that part of the equation a lot when visiting us and worrying about things like getting caught. That we, quite literally, are sometimes putting our lives on the line... that we can never really know when we will be made victims and we do things in attempt of not only keep ourselves safe, but to also put our mind at ease that you won't be the last person we see. While it's far more likely you will be a fine upstanding gents than some dangerously mentally unstable person... I think as with STDs, we do have to recognize that that particular risk does exist. We have to recognize and then take steps to prevent the risk. For some, this involves getting a real name.

If the lady requests it as part of the verification, and I really wish to meet her, I will provide it I've only been asked once to give my name (in addition to a reference) and was comfortable doing so. I'll admit providing my full name, the first time to a lady, well when requested, it was provided, but omg,someone really knows who I am now. But you know, it must alleviate any concerns the lady might have on meeting someone privately for the first time and helps quite a bit in establishing trust...and I got to meet and have a great and memorable encounter with a wonderful lady too. My thoughts RG Additional Comments: A quick additional thought. Really when you analyse and think about it, why not provide the information. The paranoia about being blackmailed??? Ladies will make much more by being SP's than if they blackmailed (assuming they find a guy rich enough to blackmail, or in a position to be blackmailed) a guy. Not to mention word would get out, and the lady would soon find herself unable to get clients. The risk, in reality, is much more borne by the ladies than the guys Just thinking about it, the only reason for verification is a tool for the ladies' safety, and once done, it help establish a trusting relationship between the lady and client, and allows the lady to feel safe, secure and relaxed. Just a quick additional rambling RG

We may ask for your full name,number etc..but there are other ways around it..PROVIDE REFERENCES. We just want everyone to be safe..yourself included. I'm sure YOU wouldn't just call any ol number of a provider without checking her out first. I'm in NYC right now and have no problem getting the guys full name and or references..usually both. I was supposed to go to Long Island too but with all the bodies being found of presumed prostitutes i won't take a chance even if i did get all the necessary info. You have to understand that not everyone gets us...some still think of us as druggies or drunks working for pimps without a mind of our own. We need to feel safe and secure in our chosen career because that's exactly what it is our choice of career. Would you work for someone you didn't know at all? Emma

I am quite comfortable giving my real name. I like making friends with the ladies and have an on going relationship. One reason is I try to be selective in my choices, and I think I have pretty good judgement in the service providers that I decide to see. There has to be a degree of trust in her, and there's no incentive for her to give up your identity. It's just a matter of being up front and honest with people, treat them the way you expect them to treat you.

Not a problem for me.....If it puts your S.P at ease your experience should be that much more enjoyable....Tks

It's a matter of safety for both you and the companion. If she is asking, anyone else she has met or screened has had to provide the details. You are entering my personal space, whether a hotel or condo and I want to know who you are. Due to all the crap being pulled, screening process are getting a bit more strict with some ladies, and I being one of them, am sorry if you do not like it, but there is no way I will visit with the details. Personal safety is way more important to me than any amount of money.

We may not be giving you our full name, but we are (often) inviting you to be alone with us in our personal homes. You are not at risk for violence like we are! Posted via Mobile Device

I think each lady has the right to decide what business model works best for her. There is no right or wrong answer. The consumer also has the right to choose what works best for him/her. Vive la difference and perhaps take the time to explore the various options :)

This whole issue is very perplexing. If you have the time to respond to threads, why on earth could you not take 2 minutes to write a reco? Actually, I am surprised that we haven't seen an influx of reco's since this issue has come up. No matter how popular the lady, a reco is still very important for many reasons. We are all human and certainly vanity plays a roll. Who does not like to read about how great one is? It is almost hurtfull when you know you had a great time and yet nothing was mentioned, especially when you have seen that person more than once! Furthermore, eventhough not every person reads the recos, alot do, so yes, it is a strong advertising tool. Such a board could not exist without the participation of it's members. This participation should not be limited strictly to the "fun" threads. Reco's are what inspired this board and what will keep it fresh and useful so....get on the reco train!

for me, my social lie has pretty much vanished, but im starting to get it back again. Personally i had friends who were not really friends (had nothing to do with being a SP) you live and learn. If i go to the bar, im not out there to make new clients, and usually im with my friends that know what i do, and accept me for me, if i need to answer my phone, i just say its a friend. if you start making an excuse for something, its like a white lie right? and everyone knows that one will turn into another, you will eventually get confused and it will come out! why bother hanging with someone that seems to be waiting for you to mess up? i would just get not bother, if your friends cant accept you or who you are, what you do, or even the fact that you dont want to tell them, then how are they your friend? thats how i determin it now, and ive gained good relationships from sticking to that. I dont want to be friends with someone who doesnt accept me, and vice versa.

Two things you can pass someone through kissing is the bacteria that causes cavities and the bacteria that causes gingivitis, or gum disease. Once a person is over 35ish the teeth harden up and cavities become very rare (my dentist told me this) but, as we age we become very susceptible to gingivitis due to the changes in our saliva's ph and our ability to control these critters. One can pass these germs through drinking out of the same cups too. I have noticed a trend for familial teeth problems and I asked the dentist about that too. He said it is not unusual for an entire family to be infected with the bacteria, and, just add less than enthusiastic cleaning and you have problems. Gum disease can really destroy your mouth. Brushing once a week with hydrogen peroxide is a good way to kill the critters and rinsing with a solution to restore the ph (found in drugstores) will help. I love my teeth! I am very selective with whom I kiss!