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I think that sometimes, especially lately on Cerb, the written word may be taken out of context and thus create a hostile environment. The advent of email and texting has corroded the human connection. Sometimes, a perfectly acceptable and accurate statement can be taken out of context and interpreted in a negative fashion when in fact it was meant to be the opposite. When we speak face to face, seldom do we get the wrong idea about the intent of the comment! My advice is, before jumping all over a post you may disagree with, re-read it and if clarification is required, approach the poster before jumping all over him/her. Let's keep this wonderful playground a fun place to be :)

PROSTITUTION IN CANADA IS VERY MUCH LEGAL! PLEASE GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT AND DO NOT SPREAD BAD INFO! Some of you seam to be getting a little heated over this thread and I just want to remind you all that cerb is to remain a friendly, helpful and inviting place. Anyone disrupting that, starting fights, provoking, flaming, etc... may be suspended or removed. Now... this topic has been gone over again and again and some people just don't get it! Prostitution is very much LEGAL in CANADA the laws however just make it very hard to do legally. -You CAN NOT discuss anything in a PUBLIC PLACE (Internet is not a public place, your hotel room and your house is not a public place and neither is an ad in a magazine or website considered a public PLACE) discussing it on the street or in a hotel lobby or hallway is illegal. If you discuss it in PRIVATE like your hotel room or house it is very much LEGAL. -If you are caught in a place that is COMMONLY used for prostitution (Brothel) then you can be changed. -If you make money as a THIRD part (Pimp/Agent/Driver/etc..) you are LIVING OFF THE AVAILS and that is illegal Anyone on cerb posting UNTRUE facts about this is doing HARM to our community and must be STOPPED. If you pass BAD INFO you cause more problems for EVERYONE. Telling people that prostitution is illegal in CANADA is BAD. Stop watching AMERICAN TV!!! What happens on COPS and those other shows is in the USA (We DO NOT LIVE in the USA) Some municipalities have BYLAWS that license "Escorts" (Not Prostitutes) if so DO NOT use the word "ESCORT" in your ads. Use Courtesan or Prostitute or even Service Provider. If you get caught using the word "ESCORT" they can charge you. Some may try to charge you anyway cause they use this as a way to police the sex trade in a unethical and unconstitutional way.... you can appeal any by law charge and get it tossed out. Remember BY LAWS do NOT have any criminal records, they DO NOT have any JAIL TIME or anything like that. AGAIN... ANYONE SPREADING FALSE LEGAL INFORMATION IS CAUSING HARM TO OUR COMMUNITY AND NEEDS TO BE TOLD THEY ARE WRONG!

This is the third time I have attempted to form a response to this thread, so here is hoping the third time is indeed a charm. So, where to begin? I guess the most logical, since this is a thread of apology, is to begin there. It takes a big person to admit their own fault and for that I applaud you. Mistakes happen and words/phrases get spoken that can lead to more harsh words, the snowball effect if you will. Yes the thread in question was heated and from that we all should learn and move on! Everyone here has to remember that unlike in the "real world" every word we speak, or type I suppose, can be read and or quoted over and over in their entirety by the next person. To avoid confusion or conflict discretion should be used when quoting and discussing the relevant topic. If the thread is getting a little dicey take a step back and take a breather. We may be madder than hell at the previous posters comments, and that is fine, but we mustn't let our anger get the better of us. If someone has annoyed us keep the rebuttal stern but respectful. If I post a comment I must keep in mind that my words are now public (Cerb) record and can be quoted as such. If my statement is incorrect I must be aware that my words can and will be corrected. That said when I have my statements corrected this too must be done in a respectful manner. As of late I find myself steering well clear of any heated or controversial thread as I just don't enjoy them. I do not enjoy the drama, conflict or issues that tend to come out in these types of threads. Words can be more painful than that of the cruelest torture and we must all be aware that there is an individual attached to that avatar. I may disagree with the person or their comments, and that is my right, but I must disagree with them respectfully! There is a fine line between debate and argument and on this board one rules and the other is not tolerated, please do not make the wrong decision on which is which! We all have a role to play and rules to play by on this board and I am fully aware that if I don't like those rules, well I know damn well where the door is! If respect can not be maintained during our very adult oriented discussions here then there is indeed a problem. Please, keep in mind that I am not attempting to single out any party or parties involved. Think of this a blanket statement or rant if you want on the state of Cerb affairs! I implore everyone who reads this to please play nice and be the kind of friends we all need to be in this community. There you have my thoughts on the subject, agree or disagree with me that is fine but one thing you can not argue with is without respect we will suddenly find ourselves in a very style CL world! When that happens Stevecurious will be closing his account! Thanks for listening...

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We all make mistakes. Sometimes we loudly make mistakes. I don't think any one of us who participates on a regular basis has a perfectly clean record when it comes to controversy - whatever gets stated may be misinterpreted OR be in diametric opposition to our own belief structure, moral code or personal credo. That being said, it takes a big person to step up and realize that they have offended someone and back down. That is what being part of a community is all about, bending slightly for the greater good. Will these situations happen again? Hell yes. Can we still function after? Hell Yes. Thanks Amelia. Thanks Sophia. Good night John Boy. Good night Mary Ellen.

Really! Mind your own business clearly you have something to say about every post I ad. Shows your caddiness and insecurity. I can debate with you all day! I think in my opinion who the hell are you,to state anything about my lifestyle. Go on with your business and leave mine/ me out of your opinions. They are nothing to me.. And you were absolutely out of line writing that garbage.. Have a good day,and good luck in your future,business as you are only getting older none the wiser. If I get the boot for this whatever,I will not let anyone trash me PERIOD! Additional Comments: Oopsy! For stating my opinion to this threat! I know now not to state my opinion on any thread,as the boot is being enforced! Disregard all my opinions to this thread,as I am not a lawyer nor do I know the law at all. Again oopsy and sorry if anyone has thought my oponionly statements may be inaccurate. Won't happen again,as I will not reply to any thread like this.

Giving the benefit of the doubt is wise. After all, if the other person really meant to be offensive, they'll find another opportunity. Everyone benefits when we pause before posting something emotional. Strong feelings matter, but they also cloud most people's writing. One needs to be more cautious when feeling angry, frightened or disdainful than when feeling delighted or celebratory. If you're feeling really charged-up, it's never a bad idea to ask for help. See if someone you respect is online. PM them and tell them that you're steaming over X's post and you want to reply, but you're not sure whether what you want to say will get across in the way you hope. See what they think. There are intense things going on a lot of the time, but no genuine emergencies. It's rarely critical that we reply to a thread immediately. Taking a few minutes to step away from the keyboard, make a pot of tea, talk to the dog, plan dinner or focus on something else for a few minutes is not going to be a poor choice!

I just received the negative reputation point today. That's why I brought it up. But you are right, I apologize. It wasn't right.

I'm not involved in the comment in question and should probably stay out of this, but, especially given the recent threads, your comment feels to me as if you are trying to pick a fight. This post is a week old and nobody would have noticed it if you didn't bring it up again. I have nothing against you and generally enjoy your contributions, but this seems a bit petty, in my opinion. I apologize in advance if this post offends you.

Old Dog, what you described sounds familiar...oh yeah! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xHKTE75dgE4

Glad you said that... went to the doc for the annual checkup today. I discovered that anal is not for me either. Of course, he didn't leave me an envelope in clear view nor did he try to sweet talk me. I must say that I was rather unprepared for the intrusion. All I heard was " drop trow, I need to check for hernias and prostrate problems".... then AYE CARUMBA!!!!! I sobbed a little bit. Went home and read some Jane Austen and put on a Hugh Grant movie to console myself. I felt so... so... so... ummmm... violated. For Steve... I know!!!! Dinner would have been nice. Even a cuddle. He won't call again, I know it.

Whew! Sunshine and happiness....let us let bygones be bygones! Sometimes we feel very close to a subject and tend to get very emotional about it. My wish, as the self proclaimed "Fairy God Mother of Joy" is that we all find it in our hearts to first forgive those who "piss us off" and to second, "realize that as intelligent human beings, we can debate without being hurtful!!!? KKK meg being too nice again...oh well, my point of view; hmm part of the democracy we all share?

First experience with an SP was too terrible to describe... It's a miracle I ever tried again. First experience in a sex shop was entirely unlike . Not even remotely.

Julia, you posted this 1 hour ago and no one replied yet, I will go first cause I want to read your story. I was 17 and recently single, I looked older then my age, I stopped at the video store and rented a XXX movie and a regular movie. My mom asked what I had rented and I showed her the regular one. Now I lived in the basement at my parents house and had my own TV and VCR so after everyone was in bed I would watch the XXX movie and masturbate and ejaculate 3 times on the same hard on and then I would fall asleep and when I woke up in the morning I would beat my meat again twice before breakfast.

I saw Jessie for the nth time tonight, and she agreed to having her own thread on here, so I'm happy to start one for her. Here's what I wrote about her in Cato's Night Out: If I was organizing a "hottest body on the planet" contest, I would want Jessie to be a contestant. I love what dancing all the time does for the female body: the perfect abs, the round, prominent bum, the defined and gorgeous legs. I love how she dances, and the warmth she exudes. Not only beautiful, but gentle and incredibly sexy at the same time. For almost a whole song we just cuddled, with her on my lap, in her beautiful nakedness, holding me close. That's all I wanted her to do, at that moment, though when she's dancing before you it's electric. I love her smile, and her laugh, and her astoundingly beautiful body. A blonde Aphrodite. Beauty and a sweet, sweet disposition.

Hey everyone , While recently visiting a friend of mine , we were having a few drinks and having conversations girlfriends usually have with each other. We came across the topic of anal sex and exchanged feelings and thoughts on the act , and she shared some "anal experiences" with me. Anal sex is something that I have thought about trying for sometime now , but can never seem to bring myself around to doing it. The main thing stopping me is the thought of how painful the whole experience must be , and the thought of something going IN where "things" are supposed to be coming out! Lol! I have been told that the first time is the worst time , and if u can bear it the first time , every time after that becomes easier and easier! But I have been told by someone else that she does it for clients occasionally , and that every time you have anal sex it hurts worse every time! Because I have never tried it yet , I have no idea what it is true .. OR if both females could be telling the truth & everyone just reacts differently to having anal sex .. Either way , I am very curious on how everyone feels about anal sex (whether being the giver or receiver) , and if they feel it is any better than oral or intercourse. Look forward to hearing your replies ! xo

His words not mine btw lol. Steve is a guy that although I have not met I have had the pleasure to get to know through our communication and as most here know, he is a great guy so he deserves me and whoever wants to post here wishing him a happy birthday and a special cake :)

Everlast- What Its Like I like it because its all about not judging others. I love that song!

You can NOMINATE more then one person if you wish but don't overdue it. Only those you think really deserve it as space is limited in the poll system. Once the vote poll is up you can VOTE for as many as the nominations as you would like as the poll would be set to multiple choice.

Amelia's new website is mind-blowingly amazing. You'll laugh, you'll cry, you'll start checking prices on flights to Yellowknife. Two thumbs up! www.stateofamelia.com

Huh... brunette is taking the lead. Must be my pale skin and green eyes. And yes, I fully agree... a nice brunette makes lighter eyes just pop! And I'm also thinking of adding a bit of a curl to my hair, which I think would look best in brunette. Thanks everyone! I must say, I am actually surprised by the result!

would not Would you be there for a friend when they needed you?

In most circumstances, I can't imagine why someone would need to tell their adult children about their choice to spend time with a paid companion. Many of the gentlemen here report having learned a great deal after they joined CERB. Their preconceptions about the women who choose to be paid companions usually fly out the window pretty quickly. Similarly, their notions about the kinds of men who employ our services are also challenged and changed. Men who are in all other areas of their lives thoughtful, sensitive, and open-minded are usually surprised about the hidden or sub-conscious prejudices and stereotypes they've held unknowingly or without sufficient reason or experience. If it takes a potential client some time to align their experience, how much longer might it take his adult child, particularly if that child has no interest in being educated? Too many adult children are prone to considering their parents to be in their dotage, or verging on it! It's not that they imagine their parents to be unable to navigate the choices they face in their day-to-day lives. Rather, they're aware, as adults, how often everyone makes purely emotional choices and that most people can be manipulated to some degree when their personal needs or desires are part of the equation. Beyond these matters, it seems to me--speaking as a parent--that ignorance about one's parent's sex life is part of the parent/child relationship, even into adulthood. My own teenage son sometimes tells me that I'm not a woman, I never was a girl, I'm his Mom. I don't have sex, never did and won't want it in the future. In other words: he doesn't want to deal with his Mom as a woman with needs and desires outside of his because that's one of the privileges of childhood. Moms are Moms, period. Older children usually think that it's just plain icky to imagine that their parents have sex, particularly now that the parents are, say, over 40! :icon_lol: As a single parent, my agreement with my kids has been that they didn't need to have any significant involvement with anyone I might date unless or until that man were to become a major part of my life. They knew I dated and, this way, they didn't have to deal with anything more than that. As a paid companion--even if I'm your favourite companion, even if you see me weekly or monthly for years--my expectation is that this is a very private involvement, not a relationship that either of us will need to deal with in broader terms. Even if you are a well-known or public figure, this confidentiality is sacrosanct. I accept that this kind of secrecy can be a burden, sometimes, but I also consider it to be part of the price that each of us pays to have the relationship. If a companion and client were to decide to end the transactional aspect of their involvement and become a real-life couple, that's great. I still can't imagine why their children would have any need to know how the connection between them really got started.

would would you blackmail someone in order to get something you really really want/need?

I like Angela because she tells it like it is.

First visit to a sex shop. I had been maried 5 years in a purely monogamous relationship. I locked my keys inside my truck and when I left the restaraunt they were closing. I went into the sex shop and asked to borrow the phone. (Yes many years ago we didnt all have cell phones) While I waited at first I was a bit embarrased every time someone came in but after waiting over an hour for the tow truck I loitered around the store, ran into a very adventurous young lady and the next thing I knew we were shpping for her and the party that followed. My first SP was within a few months of that encounter. I was hooked on the "variety" of life. She was one of the few,if not the only SP advertising in the Winnipeg sun. I was terrified she was a cop and I was going to get busted. After all she looked nothing like a "hooker" on TV. She wasat least 20 years my senior, very proffesionally dressed in a upscale downtown apt. After about 20 minutes of reassuring me there were no cops hiding inthe hallway she gave me the experience of a lifetime. the 1 hour turned into nearly 3 hours or very slow, very romantic, very personal experience, that still has never been bested. I saw her twice after that and then never again cause I was ready to leave my spouse for her.

Since this wasn't you it happened to and no one knows the entire story and we don't even know if this really happened..but if it's a robbery, wouldn't it be best to notify the police in this case? Couldn't posting someone's address and phone number put them in danger? Seems fishy..I'm all for warning people about dangers, but this girl didn't even belong to this forum and just reminds me of some of the former "owners" I've worked for that make up stuff with multiple handles and have said bad stuff about some girls *shudders*. I do say that Cerb is spectacular and the IT place to be!

I like RGs contributions to the community here - even his abysmal jokes :) And, of course, his willingness to take a Y for the team...

Hmmmm... what if someone had a tattoo of "Tattoo" - the little sidekick to Ricardo Montalban from Fantasy Island???

It's not about the cock, it's about them gorgeous slapping balls! Yumm! Okay now to the cock, I notice when my man struggles with fatigue or distraction and can't get it fully up, I can't feel much..But..when he delivers me an orgasm- then enters me, feels twice as big!! Big or smaller-give your ladies an explosive orgasm before entering her pink parts and you will increase both parties satisfaction by a soaking wet yummness and your hardness will feel much bigger. *Some men should have penis reduction surgery*

This may be a little late, but you all know that Greekfest is on in Ottawa at the moment? I have to say, I'm having a very hard time keeping a straight face whenever one of my friends announces how much they love greek, or how much they're looking forward to it...

I am definitely more interested in seeing a provider who posts actively and seems to be nice/fun/funny/smart/etc. but I still look at the other factors like location, availability, looks, options, etc. I have been with a provider with whom I disagree with on some opinions, but I respect her opinions & her reasoning and I was more attracted by her candid discussion than turned off by our personality dissonance.

I could be wrong, Steve, but my recollection is that there's a new batch of nominations each time. Previously nominated members get to keep their 'badges', but I think they have to be renominated to participate in the poll.

Yes. It's not the be-all and end-all, but I'm more likely to want to meet someone who contributes here, someone who I feel I have some kind of connection with even if we've never met. Pretty much all the ladies who I haven't met yet but would like to are ones who post at least semi-regularly, beyond ads.

Although I interpreted your comment much the same way Andy did I was also confounded by the neg. rep. point given to you. Your original comment, from post #18 as you say, didn't seem deserving of negative rep. However to each their own I suppose. Either way you believed you erred and thus you apologized so case closed?

I prefer black and white photography and always have. Draws my attention everytime. After that, personality is good.....current is good too. Peace MG

Without one I would be without business. 90 per cent of my clientel consist of men who have no clue what a review or recommandation board is, they find me by googling key words like bbw voluptuous mature escort or on directories such as EC. Also, i was told by many that after viewing my ad on a directory, they decided to go with me because of my website (informatio, design, personnality that it exposes) even if they had never thaught of playing with a chubby girl. If like me you prefer it low key in regards of reviews (which are often explicit and could be use in a court case for agency girls and incalls) you can't not survive very long without one unless your main source of advertisment is old school: the good old classified! Posted via Mobile Device

Then going full circle... I understand the trepidation. I withstood a well lubed index finger in a latex glove for a very short time. He didn't have huge hands, and there was only one thrust. It's not everyone's cup of tea.

Absolutely! Black socks with man garters and zinc oxide on my nose. NOTE: My previous statement is not truthful in any way, shape or form! If you were (or are) an SP would you see me knowing I wear black socks with man garters to the beach?

As a few threads over the last few weeks have clearly illustrated, debate or discussion can and often does bring emotions to the surface. I concur that with the written word nuance, subtlety and even humour can be easily lost or misunderstood. But I'm not sure there's anything that can change that except not participating in a thread or for folks to be more chill. Should I care if someone I've never met and will never ever meet "disrespects" (a popular word these days) me?....I don't. Seems simple...be kind to each other and don't take shit so seriously...:) Peace MG

As Amelia, it it is also necessary for my apology . I was repeating information that was perhaps not exactly true, however I do think I have stated, as well as other's have, that in calls are not legal. That being said,I was fallowing a wikipedia quote about case law....which is a bit different. 'Prostitution' is not defined in Canadian statute law, but is based on case law which deems that 3 elements are necessary to establish that prostitution is taking place - (i) provision of sexual services, (ii) the indiscriminate nature of the act (soliciting rather than choosing clients), and (iii) the necessity for some form of payment. [2] If anyone is confused by my statements then I sincerely apologies.For it does clearly state that prostitution is legal. I did not mean in any way to cause this to be such a disturbance to everyone, just trying to understand. As we all have read in our research, that even in court this can be confusing let alone for the general public to understand. For there is the catch 22 clause in court:( Again I hope we all can go on to our daily lives, put this behind us, live and let live, sorry:(

My parents were gone for the weekend. Since I am disabled, I required and attendant to look after me. I was 18 years old and my attendant thought to celebrate my coming of age, he would take me to an adult video store and let me pick out some movies to rent. I was so embarrassed walking through the parking lot to the video store, during which time my attendant shouted out: "...is going to the adult video store!", or something to that degree. The video store was called Rixxx Flix. He also started singing a song he made up: "Rixxx has flix, that will make your dicks do tricks!" The walk through the parking lot to the video store seemed to take forever, since I was serenaded by his shout and song. Once inside the store, my embarrassment turned to disgust and nervousness. Disgust, since there was a guy in a trenchcoat ducking down the rows, as he searched for videos. I was so worried that at any moment he was going to open his trenchcoat and flash everyone in the store, including myself. Luckily that didn't happen. Eventhough it didn't happen, to this day, the image still haunts me. I was nervous, since it seemed like all the naked woman on the boxes were continually staring at me and saying: "Pick Me!" I couldn't decide which one to pick, they all seemed tantalizing. I just wanted to pick out two movies and leave quickly, before someone I might know spotted me. My attendant wasn't any help. He told me I had to pick out the movies without his help. The longer I stayed there, the more nervous I became. Finally I picked out two movie and headed for the cash. We didn't have ID, but they assumed we were trustworthy, because I was disabled. For some reason people are too trustworthy of disabled people. We weren't to be trusted, since we gave a fake phone number, so there was no chance they would call my house, alerting my parents, that I had rented xxx movies. One of the movies we rented was: "The Wicked Woman", starring one of my favourites, Jenna Jameson. You should definitely check it out. It is a classic. I can't remember the name of the other movie, but it pretty much sucked. The girls in the movie were nowhere near as attractive as the ones on the box. Talk about a real boner buster! Actually, being a man, it still made me cum! lol.

I must say that we have some of the best MP's in this city and I often feel spoiled at the great choices I have when I decide to have a massage session on any particular day. thanks to the great ladies of this city for the smile on my face and the relaxed swagger as I walk around this city after spending quality time with one of this cities A+ MP's.

Seriously - I stated my opinion in clear spell checked English - would you prefer I reply with the same rumbled jumbled replies telling people they know nothing about the laws in Canada. Everyone here just wanted to help and stated there piece yet I have a temper....That's a good one.

Also, if you have an account on cerb for example and show pictures and list details, then that is also public, so being worried about a website being used as "evidence" doesn't make sense. Just as an aside, I've seen more problems with SP's using their work phone for personal use as well. By doing this, they increase the risk of being discovered by thus outing themselves eventually to people in their life who make cause them grief. As Cat and others have pointed out, this is where most trouble originates from. If your number is published anywhere on the net, it's amazing what can come up when you google it. I"d be more worried about that when checking into a hotel and list that number when registering, or have the phone on your person when you try and cross the border. But not to get off track, I just have one of the those free websites which is more a convenience for clients to peruse as a backgrounder. I do not book without communicating with them first and making sure they are clear about what type of encounter they should expect and I get a feel as to whether I want to see them. Also they must call me and have a callback number in order to confirm the appointment.

Does your cat know, RG - lol? Ooops, just read the title and it's for the guys, but I'll comment anyways - I don't have kids either, but if one day my nieces/nephews asked me about it, depending on their age, I would certainly try and explain it to them as honestly as possible.

I do understand the frustration - sometimes pearls of wisdom flow freely from a particular individual and it almost hurts when the system blocks you from recognizing that post. Sure, you MAY go back after you spread the love, but it's that feeling of instant gratification "you have nailed that response, I am so inspired" or something of that nature that you want to reward instantly. Posting something in a quote afterwards is like kissing your sister. It's like getting a gold star on a test... you knew that you aced the thing, but when the teacher gave you a gold star or a smiley face stamp, you just felt so much better. When a person recognizes your post, it just strengthens your sense of belonging in the community, gives you a warm and fuzzy feeling and generally makes you smile... and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!

The idea that the level of nudity on a website is an indication of the level of service is absolutely ridiculous. In fact, that assumption makes clearer to me the posts of late where providers have "vented" about how they are perceived. I feel that being a respected client means understanding the world of the provider. The risks. The implications. The issues at play. If you actually think that a woman showing her wide-open pussy on display for you is some indication o what the services will be like, I assume that they would rather not see you. Sigh. To all the wonderful and patient women on CERB, I apologize for this Neanderthal.

I agree with a lot of what has already been said: - show your personality - show you are having fun - show your body type - yes to lingerie (put on your fav tunes and dance in your underware) - use a camera that takes quality photos (not grainy) After the shot, do some cropping. This is an easy way to hide your face and you do not have to worry about doing it when you take the photo. I also think you should work the underware angle because of your handle. Looking forward to the results.

Bijoux :bowdown::bowdown::bowdown: