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Sometimes one can have a tendency to find yourself in a period of down time, when you have the blahs, when you are just out of sorts and nothing just seems quite right or quite good enough or quite satisfying enough. For some it may be pretty easy to go to that place, others go there rarely and the fortunate few perhaps never go there at all. For me of late I seem to go there more frequently than I wish to or certainly need to, and luckily for me I recognize it and take steps to alleviate it. One of my steps is to look at whatever it is, and then pull out the good from it, because there are always bright sides when one wishes to take that perspective. For example, I recently broke my leg, and that certainly hampers my mobility, and everything that I do takes way longer than it used to. But then, if it were the other leg that I broke I would not be driving at all for six weeks. If I had not had the experience in previous times in my life when I learned how to use crutches and my wheelchair extensively, then this would not be as easy as it is. And a neighbour brought me biscuits and banana bread last night because of it. I am a fortunate man. For the first Christmas ever, one of my kids will not be home for the holidays. But I am retired, and I can travel, and I am going to go see her for a few days at her home in December and we will have our own little personal Christmas. I am a fortunate man My wife passed away totally unexpectedly a little over a year ago, and yes, it is hateful. But I look at her things and I smile and I look at pictures from my mind and I smile. I recall our times of being together for forty years, and I smile. I am a fortunate man. I have an amazing family and amazing friends all of whom support me and help me, no matter what. I am a fortunate man. What is truly amazing is that I have Cerb friends. Friends that in some cases, I have never even met. I have people that I could write a personal email to who would give of their time to reply with their wisdom and compassion and humour and best wishes. I am a fortunate man. Perspective is everything. We just need to remember it sometimes. We are all fortunate if we decide to choose that point of view. I am now smiling as I write this. So what is your perspective?

Lets all give Angel a warm welcome back, and let her know she has many friends here for her.

Hey Gents, My opinion is that the majority of women in this industry choose to enter the profession of their own free will. That being said, we also know that there is a dark side of this industry in which women are coerced to work, and in which they may be economically exploited by a "pimp" who keeps the money she earns. Although I hardly ever encounter these situations with escorts/MA's, I got to know many women when I was stripping who were coerced into the industry. I won't go into all the details, but I will give one example. I was in the dressing room and another dancer was on the phone. She said on the phone: "Please can I leave? I've been here for 6 hours and I've only made $200. I really don't think I can make anymore. The club is dead." She hung up and said to her friend: "He says I can't leave until I make $300." I'm not saying these things to make anyone feel bad, or because the majority of strippers are in this situation (that is absolutely not true). But what I will ask is, what do you as a hobbiest do to mitigate the risk that you are participating in the exploitation of another human being? Do you only see reputable indies/agencies? Do you think you can "tell" when you meet her? Have you ever been in a situation where you suspected the lady was not there by her own free will? I hope no one is upset at me for bringing up such a dark topic, but I think it's important to talk about these things once in a while :) Megan

I specialize in it northernfool. :) Check out my website and click on 'Something Different'. There's also a review by Mutau who joined us for a MFM. I put the F in the middle because that's where I like to be!

It was more the respectful, the whip and the beer. And now my laptop is making funny noises. No wait....thats me! :D

What a moving post. I share your perspective. I spent much of my life self-medicating... trying to kill the "pain". Then I realized that pain is relative, and that perspective is what matters. When "bad" things happen to me, it is usually simply a case of me not understanding "it"... usually, after some reflection, I can see what good can come from bad situations. Sometimes they turn out to not be bad at all. Sometimes, they're just bad. Shit happens. What I have come to see is that I have a choice - to swell on the sadness, or do what you describe, and try to focus on the positives. Thanks for posting this - it's always helpful to be reminded. And, as an aside, I always laugh at threads like this because if I ever tried to explain the depth of some of the threads on this board, and the mutual support we often get here, "outsiders" would never believe it. Peace, to all.

While I totally understand the spirit and origin of the OP's question, I would also add that eliminating the mystery can also fundamentally chance the experience. One of my absolute favorite things is seeing an MP for the first time. While I have a general sense of what will transpire, it's the unknown that keeps my heart racing and my stomach fluttering... knowing what will happen, as if from a playbook, significantly diminishes the experience for me. No two MPs are the same, no two experiences are the same. Know that the MPs here that have been recommended are all amazing... trust them, and enjoy the mystery!

I like LeeRichards because we both like Malika!

Guys ... You did it again!! Phaedrus was left out. I like his avatar and the way he cares about others. I also like Sky because she speaks up her mind but always in a respectful way and I like her pics so well done that I have to admit being a bit jealous hehe

I like touch because when I last commented on his photo saying it may have creeped me out a little bit, he was quick to make sure I wasn't scared off by sending me a few kind words! Xo

There's really not a lot of choice around Sydney. Most of the girls that pop up around here are either on their way up in the business and once they make the money to set themselves up somewhere nicer/cleaner/bigger/busier, they're off to bigger and better things or they're trying to make ends meet in the short term. Sydney and the area is just too close a community for the most part. Everyone knows everyone's business and they make a point of disapproving. That makes it hard for SPs to work since so many people take it upon themselves to be judgemental. Hell, there was years when Sydney didn't have a sex shop due to the outcry of morally outraged residents and we still don't have a strip club due to morality by-laws even though most of the people that wanted those laws are dead from extreme old age at this point. I can't imagine our quaint little town would be much more accepting of SPs than they've been over shops. When I get the urge to see an SP, I usually make it part of a trip to Halifax. I treat it like it's Vegas Scotia. The other problem around here is money. There's a fair number of people out of work, but there's also a much larger part of the population that have jobs that hover just above minimum wage. With that being the case, even the people who are interested in a quality SP, don't have the resources to keep her working to the extent that she can get elsewhere. Hopefully between the Lower Churchill Falls power generation deal that's still pending and the shipbuilding contract in Halifax, there'll be a lot more jobs created over the next 3 years that will change that, but right now, it's pretty bleak for convincing an SP to call Sydney home.

If you can't get to the bacon, let the bacon come to you. The Bacon Truck:

And Penelope will also be a star®!! ;)

Welcome back Penelope :). It is nice to see you back and that you are doing well. Every small step forward is a step in the right direction. May your strength and perseverence continue to serve you well.

To each his/her own. Life is too short to worry about things. One should just do what feels right, keeping in mind not hurting other person. Thats my philosophy at least

@hbonthedl This is an old thread that illustrates a more profound meaning to GFE. It's elaborates that GFE is more so the style and not the services offered. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=10214 However, I'm sure that GFE has a different meaning for any provider. Simply ask what to expect. I'm very welcoming to any questions that you might have and I'm sure that everyone here on the board is the same. Provide that you ask with the same mutual respect that you would appreciate in return. I really likes your question. Thank you for posting it! XoXoX

I do agree with Megan's comment while most ladies in the biz does it out of their own free will, there is always some that is exploited by third party. How do I decide to minimize this risk? honestly, as bad as this may sound .. there is no sure way to avoid this based on the choice you made be it either agency or indy provider. Could you tell if she is being forced to do it? There is signs one could read, a little hint or giveaway. ex: she is not very comfortable trough the time spent. saying this not everyone gets comfortable with everyone they met. hence its not the perfect indication. it is quite hard to know for sure really. Since i started hobbying, luckily i havent encounter this situation where the lady i am seeing is there because of exploitation. (i would hope not anyway..) but there is one thing a hobbyist can sure do! respect the lady, dont give them a hard time as they are there to please you. be kind as for something that you think is normal might not be so normal. if you are courteous, at least the lady wouldnt have a harder time than what it already is. ** end of my rumbling about ha ha

I like RG because he always does his best to give good advice to those who post questions. And he succeeds most of the time ;)

I think rather than try understand all the possibilities, you just have to take the plunge. If you do a little research you will find many reputable ladies and spas here who will recognize the signs, that you will need a little extra attention. Take a few extra bob and don't be too pushy and I'm sure they will let you know the score and take you in hand.. If you repeat you will make friends, and probably get better service as they get more comfortable with you. Keep your expectations realistic and I'm sure you won't be disappointed.

I have yet to find an Agency or an Independent MP that was not forthcoming with information regarding services that were available or the compensation required. All one has to do is use a little common sense and a little discretion, any information that you want can be obtained through email, phone or even a PM via CERB. Discretion goes a long way in this hobby... Rodehard

The year was 1936... Nazis were threatening Europe... Roosevelt was President, Mackenzie King was Prime Minister... people were still doing the Lindy Hop.... prohibition had been repealed... and the girls... oh the girls... here they were... the first women of CERB... Ethel the Unready, Myrtle the Minx, Mildred the Manitoba Manhandler, Sheila the Shy and up front Harriet the Harlot... ohhh those were the days.... Ohhhhh and here is pic of the first trio.... Martha, Clover and Esther....