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Reaching this milestone, and have thought it through and through for quite sometime now, this post will be my last in the general discussion area,recommendation area and other areas as well. I will keep my profile active, and continue to chat through pm's or profile pages, by saying hello to those good friends, and of course checking out the ladies schedules and announcements and social groups. ;) I'm sorry but I just don't have anything more to say or add into the those sections of the board. My reasoning for staying out of posting here,is that the content on the board has lost some of it's "reality" in why we we all chose to become a member here on CERB. That being a community of people striving to have the same result, good fun,sex of course,how to stay and play safe and play along nicely with each other. The latter certainly has not been happened enough lately in my view, I had read MOD's note to those Elite Members and Sp members in that section.I hope that it is okay to quote MOD here in the general area where some other members can see what was said...I think it is important to all general members as well. The site is suppose to be... 1) a positive side of the industry 2) A fun place 3) A community 4) A place to get friendly advise 5) A place where the ladies can come and not worry about being slandered 6) A place for the "Good clients" to feel at home When I first started here, the wealth of information provided by members was such a huge importance for men and ladies to ensure quality time together and it was always very positive back then and great fun... but not so much lately. Those members that have provided that information of safety/quality time/advise/ health issues etc etc are and can be the key to continued success of this board. So stay positive folks. It has been a fun place, until recent past months,that is my own personal view on the matter Just far too much hostility lately, and I rather not participate in those discussions, and yes I have been guilty myself of doing so, but realizing it is only counterproductive. However I would like to say, I really have not found it lately a place for "good clients" to feel at home at least that is my feeling. I always consider myself a good client with ladies I have met and I of course look forward in meeting new ladies as well in the future. We all see the hostile quotes left in the rep points handed out, we all see the hostile thread comments and even lately comments left on other profile pages. We all have our own interpretation, but that is what happens when you have a diverse community, I guess. I'm sure some will be happy that I will be staying away from posting, and I think some others may not (48 threads started of rec's...lol.. I did give back to community in a way :) ). So thank-you all, it is not good bye, just tuning out, may you all enjoy the Holiday Season, and have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

I would like to take this oppertunity to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas with a healthy and happy new year. Especially all the special ladies that I have had the privilidge of spending time with and also all my friends here on cerb. I have been absent a lot lately from cerb and will be for the forseeable future due to a devastating fire that destroyed our home and business. Thankfully no one was hurt but the anguish and turmoil of losing everything has taken it's toll. With so many things to do I find I have very little time to interact with this wonderful community. In time I hope to be back on a regular basis but untill then take care of you and yours.

This is exactly why I posted this in the ELITE/SP ONLY area. A small handful of people are creating a hostile environment for some. Pushing good members like Pete to do things like this! It's bad for the board, bad for the ladies as it makes potential and really good long term clients not feel welcome. I think jealousy is playing a role in this with some and maybe even boredom for some? Not sure but what we need to do is suggest to the council that anyone causing a hostile environment here gets ONE warning then the BOOT! I know myself and the other mod have talked about this for a while now and we both agree... it's a handful of people killing the vibe for many and it has to stop. Those people responsible need to find a new thing to focus on! Pete, I hope you come back and post. Your a valued member here and one many of the guys look up to. I know I appreciate all your contributions to cerb and this post hopefully opens up some peoples eyes. The ladies who are doing this are just making themselves and other ladies loose business. You kill the friendly vibe of the site and kill off the top members and the quality posters you kill the traffic to the site and hurt business for yourself and the others. It's just dumb!

Magi is quite an exotic little pixie from the Eastern Provinces and I don't mean Atlantic Canada! She is about 5'4" about 115lbs, late twenties with natural B-cup breasts. Her hair is dark brown (much darker than the agency photos). As soon as I opened the door I knew this was going to work: Magi has a beautiful smile and radiates confidence and sexuality. I had booked her for 2hrs which was a good thing: she is a total delight to converse with, quick-witted, well-traveled, intelligent, irreverent and mischievously funny. But once things turned to physical contact, Magi is a sexual dynamo. She has boundless sexual energy and simply will not stop until she has fulfilled her open-minded goals of mutual sexual satisfaction! I knew very little about Magi when I booked her other than that on some *ERB boards she was considered an apparently retired "legend." But Magi now will long linger in my memory as an uniquely fun and intensely physical escort experience.

I wish to extend best wishes to Eric on a speedy recovery from injuries sustained when his vehicle was struck by a drunk driver last night. The vehicle didn't make it (written off), but seems like Eric will be okay even though he spent over 12 hours at the hospital being stitched and bandaged up before they released him. This tragedy hits very close to home. Let me take a moment to urge each and every one of you to leave the car parked at home if you plan on drinking and don't hesitate to take the keys from someone you believe to be impaired so they don't harm themselves or others.

Darling ottawaadventurer, This is the very best place to be! Knowing what you don't know is far more important than thinking you know it all. I would say you are a "Kinkster" and that leaves your identification fluid to indulge in whatever takes your fancy at the moment. I identify as Mistress in my day to day life but only because there was a need in the community to state my identity so others could put me in a neat little box. In nonsexual situations I am a Dame by nature so I chose the title of Mistress. But I have inclinations that do not fit into any set category and I enjoy both sides of power exchanges depending on my partner at hand. I can be top or bottom, mistress or slave, domme or sub as the experience presents itself. We are multifaceted creatures and there is never a single title that will describe all of our dimensions. As a society, we have decided that people need to fit into molds so everyone can classify and categorize us easily. Well, I'm not alive to be what people think I should be, I am here to simply be me. I refuse to be told that I need to identify and live as only a single trait, I embrace all that I am as that is truly all life requires of me. cat

Thank you all for your 'get well' wishes. They have lifted my spirits. I'm back from a follow up visit at the hospital. Stitches will be removed in about a week, collar bone to remain in a brace, and the doctors continue to monitor a blood clot from my head injury. Some could be angry and bitter from this type of accident...I choose to be grateful. - Grateful that no one was with me in the passenger seat, police say no one would have survived the accident from that position. - Grateful for the airbags in my vehicle that limited the injuries. - Grateful for the donors who gave the 3 units of blood I needed at the hospital. - Grateful for family, friends, and my CERB family for thier kindness and support. We all have an ability to impact drinking and driving. This is not just a problem at Christmas time, but year round. I ask all of you to make proper choices in this area. I am proof that your choices do not impact you alone. I am grateful, I am lucky...this time. Thank you all for your caring thoughts. E.

Fetish play carries a stigma simply because of the lack of awareness. I often meet people who's boundaries have yet to be defined because they lack understanding of the fluid potential of the experience. They don't understand that the power dynamics are not cut and dried. It doesn't have to be painful or scary nor will it ever fit in a neat little box. That's the wondrous thing about sexual experience. It can be customized for each person to the letter, with each experience being tweaked to perfection. Restraints are now considered vanilla as are toys so imo the lines between the worlds are alread blurred. If one looks at the attendance of Sexapalooza here in Ottawa, the first year had the highest attendance for the shows history and continues to grow every year. This tells me that fetish isn't the taboo everyone thinks it is, it's mainstream. People just arent' ready to say it out loud yet. I do not distinguish between my vanilla or fetish worlds. Life is life and my inclinations are my own. I get bruised as often from vanilla play as I do when there is "fetish" involved so if someone has an issue with marks, all I can do is apologize for my genetics. I truly delight in opening up new experiences for my guests and many have walked paths they had never considered after I whispered in their ear the adventures they could have. The golden key is keeping an open mind to the very real fact that life isn't simple, clean or clear. It's delightfully complicated, messy and challenging; which I'm eternally grateful for. Any judgements issued on anothers interests springs from ignorant unawareness and should not be taken to heart as those are people that will have to learn in their own good time and we can't and shouldn't wait for them to have the "light bulb" moment. Malika, you are an extraordinary young woman with amazing talents that you constantly hone and perfect. I have seen your work and say "Stand proud and apologize to no one for it"... cat

For me, it's about knowing that I am not alone out there. I am not some sort of sexual deviant for having normal human desires for companionship and well....sex. There are thousands of "normal" like minded people out there with similar interests who aren't afraid to talk about it, even if it is in this somewhat anonymous setting. I also like staying informed about all of the current issues that pertain to this hobby. Cerb has also helped me to see the sp's as "real" people with the same wants, needs, likes, dislikes, desires, etc as everyone else. Thanks to everyone for making CERB such a great place.

To everyone here I give a big big hug! I hope you all have loved ones to spend your Christmas with. Christmas can feel lonely for some, so if you are, I hope this thread helps you feel wanted and loved too! You all mean so much to me, please have a safe and lovely Holiday:) xoxoxox

Yep, what others have already said. What's great for me is having a community where I can find out the answers to questions that you just can't ask anywhere else - and also, sometimes, when you don't even know what questions you should be asking the answers will arrive anyway.

First to Eric. Take care buddy... you have become a great friend both on and offline in the past year. I need a healthy wingman.... so get better soon!!! Angela... thanks for doing this. You are one of the true good souls on CERB, one that cares for the people in the fold. For everyone else... Sunday marks the 34th anniversary of the death of a buddy. Barry was 16, with his whole life ahead of him. On Christmas eve, 1977, he and his girlfriend shared a bottle of wine at her house, and shortly after midnight he got into his car and headed for home. He never made it. His car went out of control and crashed into a cement light fixture. Barry died almost instantly from the injuries he sustained. At 4 am, Christmas day, police showed up at the door of Barry's house and had to deliver the news to his parents. I can't think of a worse duty for a cop, and I can't think of a worse thing to hear as a parent. That, my friends, is a ghost of Christmas past. I am so grateful that 34 years later, our friend Eric did not share Barry's fate. I do ask that for all of our sake, you exercise caution and good judgment when drink and distance are involved. You matter to more people than you can imagine. Merry Christmas.

Change and renewal is inevitable and needed if Cerb is to survive and remain relevant. PP is not the first to go nor will he be the last there have been many others who have just slipped away or reduced their public involvement. Seems to be the nature of the beast. Cerb just might be on the cusp of a changing of the guard as it were and it might be the time for a new generation of players to make Cerb their own. With the new year coming it seems timely to look to the future. Peace MG

I must ad that it's not solely the ladies creating this atmosphere. Just for the record.