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In light of recent events, I feel compelled to write this message. There has been much talk lately about the increasing prevalence of negative commentary and in-fighting amongst members of Cerb. My history as a hobbyist dates back approximately thirteen years. In that time I've had the pleasure of meeting many incredible ladies, as well as corresponding with many like minded individuals through forums such as these. I have spent a fair amount of time in cities such as Toronto, and as such I am also a member of other boards. Without going into specifics, I can tell you that they have had, and some continue to have their share of problems. In part, that is why I chose to distance myself from them and join the respected Cerb community. Lately, I have begun to feel that those difficulties endemic to other boards have slowly filtered into our own. I would hope that we as a community will take it upon ourselves not to allow this to transpire. Some of the most endearing features of Cerb include acceptance, non-jugement, unity and community. In some sense of the word, Cerb may even be considered a loosely knit family of sorts, albeit (at times) a bit dysfunctional. This is really the situation I'd like to avoid. Our collective intellect, knowledge and sense of togetherness surely merits more than being reduced to petty squabbling. We ourselves are not the enemy. If anything, we should be rallying together to support initiatves such as the constitutional challenge and other such pursuits that hopefully will strengthen the foothold and legitimacy of the adult entertainment industry. Let us be mindful of the fact that we are here for one another. Cerb is not an entity in and of itself; Rather, it is WE who are Cerb. We make up our community and it is we who are ultimately the authors of our success or misfortune. As the dawning of a new year approaches, let's take it upon ourselves to reflect and resolve to rise up and overcome these issues, in order that we may all benefit the community as a whole. To do otherwise would be a disservice to ourselves and the industry we make up and support. Thank you for reading.

Check ! 66 times/posts now ! A huge shame to loss PP. At least for now. The several thousand Cerb members must now learn from and act on what has been learned here. Onward and upward folks. We shouldn't sweep this under the rug.....but there is no positive way to "address this properly". Each and everyone of us must react to this and make Cerb what it should be in 2012. Now a quote from a not so wise man : "Let this post ... rest in Pete" "LeeRichards" ;) HAPPY NEW YEARS FOLKS !! Cheers to a Happy and Horny 2012 :chug: !

I personally think its a damn shame to lose such a great member of Cerb. Pete's hitting the nail on the head with what he is saying and so is the Mod. To those of you that are trying to sweep this under the rug, I respectfully ask you review your position. Cerb has lost some very good ppl this year. This needs to be addressed properly. Less posts, and reviews, makes this a less interesting environment. Less ppl come, less ppl see your ads, less traffic = less money for Cerb. These kinds of attitudes, and cliques have to stop. (you know who you are) It's going to end up biting all of you guys that are responsible in the ass. He is a regular contributor, and for all of you that have had him as a client will attest to, a gentlemen and what most ladies would look for in an ideal customer. Time to wake up, seriously.

In another thread discussing the genuineness (is that a word?) of the encounter, I mentioned that I thought that sex was a basic human right. Kubrickfan suggested I start this as a topic, so here we are! My reasoning behind the assertion that sex is (or should be) a human right is that on a very basic level, everyone requires touch and intimacy. Sex doesn't have to be something that is limited to marriage or relationships and it's not a bad thing if you like to fuck all the time (join the club!). It's an emotional and physical release. I know when I'm cranky, a good fuck will make it better. I tend to think the world would be less fucked up if certain people were getting laid more! Society often puts restrictions on sexual behaviour and what makes a person worth sleeping with and that means that some people get the shaft when it comes to the sexin's. That's totally fucked up to me. Why shouldn't everyone be able to enjoy sex, when they want and how they want? So Cerbies, what do you think?

Reaching this milestone, and have thought it through and through for quite sometime now, this post will be my last in the general discussion area,recommendation area and other areas as well. I will keep my profile active, and continue to chat through pm's or profile pages, by saying hello to those good friends, and of course checking out the ladies schedules and announcements and social groups. ;) I'm sorry but I just don't have anything more to say or add into the those sections of the board. My reasoning for staying out of posting here,is that the content on the board has lost some of it's "reality" in why we we all chose to become a member here on CERB. That being a community of people striving to have the same result, good fun,sex of course,how to stay and play safe and play along nicely with each other. The latter certainly has not been happened enough lately in my view, I had read MOD's note to those Elite Members and Sp members in that section.I hope that it is okay to quote MOD here in the general area where some other members can see what was said...I think it is important to all general members as well. The site is suppose to be... 1) a positive side of the industry 2) A fun place 3) A community 4) A place to get friendly advise 5) A place where the ladies can come and not worry about being slandered 6) A place for the "Good clients" to feel at home When I first started here, the wealth of information provided by members was such a huge importance for men and ladies to ensure quality time together and it was always very positive back then and great fun... but not so much lately. Those members that have provided that information of safety/quality time/advise/ health issues etc etc are and can be the key to continued success of this board. So stay positive folks. It has been a fun place, until recent past months,that is my own personal view on the matter Just far too much hostility lately, and I rather not participate in those discussions, and yes I have been guilty myself of doing so, but realizing it is only counterproductive. However I would like to say, I really have not found it lately a place for "good clients" to feel at home at least that is my feeling. I always consider myself a good client with ladies I have met and I of course look forward in meeting new ladies as well in the future. We all see the hostile quotes left in the rep points handed out, we all see the hostile thread comments and even lately comments left on other profile pages. We all have our own interpretation, but that is what happens when you have a diverse community, I guess. I'm sure some will be happy that I will be staying away from posting, and I think some others may not (48 threads started of rec's...lol.. I did give back to community in a way :) ). So thank-you all, it is not good bye, just tuning out, may you all enjoy the Holiday Season, and have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Two days ago was what in my country is known as 'Day of innocents' when we play pranks on people so I decided to pay one on you cerbites and announced a sudden departure writing in fine prints that nothing said above was true. Being honest I never expected such a response. My PM inbox went to 90% capacity (must say it was not empty but still) with kind messages from you nice people wishing me the best and then the same people telling me 'oh I just read the ad again lol' I even heard it was a topic of conversation among some chat users. I am very grateful, touch and flattered and want to say thank you for all the love shown to me :icon_biggrin:

Looks like the twitter feed plug in also puts a cool live twitter stream on your profile as well. See Alexandra-Sky's profile here for example. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?do=getinfo&u=39777

You may try every avenue there is, but if no one will fuck you what are you supposed to do? People with disabilities are a perfect example. Most of the world either pretends they don't exist, or pretends they're asexual. One of my clients (not on CERB) hadn't been touched (fucking touched! not a caress, not a brush, not a handshake) in over five years. But anyway, I wasn't arguing that prostitution should be decriminalized on that argument. I was just saying it's a shame that certain people can't get laid when they should be able to. You said it.

I've been reflecting a lot lately on my life and my relationships and my work as an SP and have realized that 2011 has been a year of personal growth and spiritual 'enlightenment' for me (by spiritual I'm not really talking about religion or anything of the sort)... So I thought I'd start this thread to provide everyone with the space to share some of the life lessons they've learned this year and perhaps share the stories and context around that learning. And what will you do differently in 2012 as a result of this learning? I'm going to have to think about mine because there are so many and they are all quite deep and personal... What about you? xoxo Sky

What you may want to try is, knowing that you usually don't know when you have free time until the last minute and given that you're only available to play at night time, send an SP of your choosing an email... Let her know your situation and she may agree to screen you with her screening process.... if you pass, that way when you contact her for an appointment, if she is available, then she will agree to meet you. Doing the screening in this way may save you the hassle of not finding anyone at the last minute. I'm not sure if all the ladies would be ok with this process but some may and ask them politely.

Great advice RG and great post Doc. Seems a fitting time of year to look at new beginnings. Lets make 2012 a fun and postive year for CERB. Happy New Year everyone. Looking forward to all that 2012 brings.

Another positive thread...this is a good sign for CERB Some quick thoughts. 1. When posting, offering opinions etc, remember this underlying philosophy it's a good guide "CERB is not a review board-It is a recommendation board so if you do not have anything nice to say...Please don't say anything at all" 2. CERB is a useful place to gather information from a cross section of people engaged in this lifestyle, if you have a question, ask 3. Not everyone agrees with everyone...be a pretty boring world if we did. You can respect another opinion without agreeing with it. State your opinion without putting someone else's opinion down. 4. Sometimes people start on CERB on the wrong foot, and get derailed. Short of it being a banning offence (up to Mod/Town Council btw) a second chance can be warranted, they can get back on track, and they can become positive CERB members. If they don't well they will come to the attention of the Mod/Town Council and dealt with. 5. If something posted annoys you (or you haven't had your first cup of coffee LOL) sit back, relax, watch tv etc, then post when you've cooled down...that emotional response can end up looking bad too 6. Not everything posted has to be about escorts. This board has humour, music, LOLCats etc...much more than escorting. If you don't want to read those posts, don't...but they just may put a smile :-) on your face 7. For those who think the ladies carry more influence than the guys, I believe we are all equal and opposite sides of the same coin. It might seem they carry more influence, but most "other boards" are for the guys, this board is for EVERYONE, lady and gentlemen alike. But that's just my opinion Just some quick thoughts. And I love how there are many CERBite's who care about this community and don't want it to go the way of the "other boards" Thank you drlove for posting this thread RG

Sitting here with mouth open in shock at the rudeness expressed by some people. What stuns me the most is that she probably thought it was fine to complain. I call that a shrew. Gifts are always appreciated and charming, but should never be expected. So what if he does that for everyone? It's a gesture that clearly makes him feel good. I see no harm in that. I have received some very lovely gifts in the last 2 years, including a flight and hotel in Florida for a week in Feb from one of my very randy Snowbirds. That aside, when a Gentleman shows up at my door with "a little something because I was thinking of you" I get the best warm and fuzzy. And if its not to my taste (hasn't happened) I most certainly would still get that warm and fuzzy. And you know why? Its not the amount or the gift itself; its the fact that this person thinks of me as more than body parts. And that's the biggest turn on of all.

Thanks to all of you who have offered comments so far. I know that being on this site is somewhat ironic but we are all here because sex is important to us. In my case it has taken too much importance and I must deal with that.

As far as being competitive goes, I feel that there is really no need for it whatsoever. First, there is room for everyone on this board. Indeed, it's Cerb's hallmark feature - acceptance, non-judgement and the sharing of information is what makes it great. In terms of the ladies, every single one of you are unique and bring your own special personality, attributes and knowledge to the community. I could never compare one to another; it just wouldn't be fair, or right for that matter. I feel we are blessed to have all of you here, and the sum total of Cerb is infinitely greater than all of its parts. That said, I have witnessed many ladies here go above and beyond in their efforts to help a new SP get acquainted with the board, offer business tips etc, and even recommend other ladies to clients! This demonstrates true class, in my opinion. In the end, the track record of the ladies speaks for itself, so there is no need for pettiness or cattiness at all. It's really a moot point when we remember why we're all here in the first place, which is to enhance and enrich our community. Therefore, I prefer to focus on the positive.

A fashion statement? Who the hell wears a cape these days without attracting attention. A cape is handy for anyone who needs to cover a major boner or camel toe. Personally, I think a cape is a hold-over from Victorian values. Back in the early day - a cape represents a flourish of class & mistery without much of a costume change For both super guys and super chicks! Super Man Super Girl (why not Super Woman?) BatMan Wonder Woman Martian Manhunter Rocket Robin Hood Who did I miss?

As we approach New Year, there's much to be thankful for, and much to look forward to. What I have to say here is heartfelt, and sincere. I want to thank all the women I met this year, every one of them, who gave me pleasure, affection, fun, and indelible memories. All my friends and correspondents on cerb, who've shared their thoughts and experiences with me. I'm glad to have been able to patch up some strained relationships recently. I'm grateful to the members of the social groups I belong to here for their contributions, and to mod for keeping things sane. In 2012 I hope to meet many more new friends, and to renew acquaintances with some special people. I hope that some of our absent friends return to us, at least socially. And let's resolve to make this board the best it can be. My good wishes to all for a happy, healthy, and enjoyable 2012.

VENUS ENVY my friend. That's where I got my copy of Rent Girl. They are located downtown on the corner of Bank and Lisgar :)

I think we might have been reading the same thing!

I love Cerb because every single time that I log on I don't know exactly what direction it will be heading. There are continually new topics being broached and old topics brought back but with new slants and opinions. The variety of opinion is one of the things that makes this so appealing. My mind and thinking have been challenged on a regular basis and that has to be good for anyone. There are however the things that one can depend upon. I know that there will be creative ads from beautiful and amazing women. I know that there will be new recommendations made every day. I know that if I stop into the chat area someone will say hello. I know that there will be a continual supply of new jokes and good humour. I know that I can stay current on legal matters and current opinion on news from across the country. I know that there will be tips and suggestions about protocol and better ways of doing things. I know that over a period of time I get nice little PM's and notes in my guest book. I know that I can pick and choose on what I will read, and what I will comment on. I know that I am meeting amazing people who share this community and whose varied presences make it change and grow every day. I know that even though the socials are not directly Cerb sponsored, that they have been incredibly fun ways to put faces to names. I know that the Mod and Council are on top of things and that they are doing yeoman service to keep this site what it is and from going the way of the other *erb boards that I have heard about and will stay away from. What I don't know is what happened to the Fat Bastards? (http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=63808) Did the Mod feel that Cerb was threatened and buy them out? Yup, I love Cerb. Thank you to all members for what they do.

I do love my newbies! ;)

The year of 2011 brought to me much the same as what Sky referred to in her opening post in this thread. Reflection on my life and where it is going, and as well a spiritual enlightenment that may or may not be related to religion or a 'higher' power. The context is based on my life 'before', a life that many would probably think of as the perfect easy life - well educated, a loving wife and amazing family, a good career and job, a home, financial independence. On reflection, it was perhaps easy but I also know that I worked at all of that to achieve what it was that I had and still have. Then came the 'shock', out of the blue, unexpected, unanticipated, and it brought me to 2011 in a state of confusion and mindless wandering and wondering. So what has 2011 taught me? So many things. That life goes on, and it will be whatever I choose to make it. That drifting aimlessly is not something that I enjoy or can continue. That the belief that I can take control of my destiny is stronger than the 'whatever happens, happens,' attitude that I have had now for too long. I have learned that I do enjoy my own company, but that I cannot shut out everyone else around me. It is not what I want or what they want. Cerb and people that I have met here have taught me about ideas and concepts previously unheard of or even contemplated. The stereotypes of course is one, and my total re-evaluation of them. Polyamourous relationships has been something that I have thought about a great deal and have yet to really clarify in my mind. I have new friends through Cerb, and have found that it is sometimes easier to make new friends than to relate with friends that my wife and I had for such a long time. That is something I am still thinking about - the why of that? I have learned the power of writing. The writing that I refer to is what I do in my personal journal. It has become very a cathartic exercise for me and always brings me around. I have learned that I also think too much, over-analyze too much, question too much, apologize too much, and need to develop more confidence in the moment, in the present, and sometimes to just accept - myself mostly. 2011 has been a year of exploring sexually and otherwise, of coming to terms, of learning to accept, and it is the preface to a me who will once again begin to plan ahead, to anticipate and look forward to things, to enjoy life, and to continue to learn. In short 2011 was needed in order for me to live again.

I was cut off on my rep point Drlove. :) When I first started here, not only was I welcomed by many Gentleman that directed me on this site, but also by many fine ladies I now consider friends. They went beyond themselves to welcome a new lady and that meant a great deal to me to stay focused no matter what threads went to the wayside. That is far from competitive if you ask me. I'm now able to help newcomers as well and see so much caring among the women here. However, it's a public board and we're not always going to agree. It would be very sad to see people leave for that reason or the fact "competition" may be perceived. It's really not worth it. I enjoy this community too much to leave. I think instead of constantly going over and over the negativity or rehashing the "uber competitive SP's", points made in this thread for the second time, why don't we just forgive and forget? Anything less is pretty immature. I'm tired of it and want to continue making this place happy. Life is too short folks! :)

Nice thread Alexandra. A few things I've picked up; Kindness and generostiy are their own rewards. Life is brief and fleeting-live it and enjoy it (but with dignity). Savour and protect your friends-they're the family you get to choose. Cover their back whenever you can and they'll do the same for you someday. Don't confuse tolerance and compassion with weakness. Sometimes you just have to kick a little posterior. A jerk will always be a jerk-you can't talk reason or sense into them so don't try. Everyone falls and sometimes you need a hand to get back up. When your time comes and you stumble, don't allow your pride to get in the way of others helping you.

Miserable or joyful, everyone can find in one's self a reason to prove the world is as one sees it; And not as it truly is.... Because life is not good or bad, it just is.... That's what I am still learning... I also learned that you can learn new things relatively late in life, like juggling, having fun at the arcade or new English words ... Looking forward to 2012...

The ladies NOMINATED icons are now on the profiles of all the ladies who received 5% or more votes.

MMM Turkey pot pie..delish Turkey turkey turkey, all great ideas for the rest of the bird in the freezer

Is this who you mean Berlin? He's a big boy!

House smells of cookies -drool-

Personally, I love a good cape and kinda wish they were the fashion du jour. I'd jump on the train.

I don't want to come across as saying everyone has ample opportunity outside of paying for sex. I'm absolutely, horrifically inept when it comes to finding a woman, which is why I have been single for a retardedly long stretch of time. It's not a lack of looks, or personality or whatever. I'm just bad at getting into a relationship. So, I'd say most avenues are not available to me either. All I meant was that we are almost describing sex work as healthcare. I'm not entirely against the notion of sex work having therapeutic value, because I think the argument is there that it has. But, if we try and portray it as therapeutic in the sense that it meets a distinct and important need for those who cannot find another avenue, it opens up the topic of regulation. Other therapists need to be licensed and regulated. So, why wouldn't sex worker/therapists? I think everyone should have ample opportunity to satisfy their sexual needs. As a very sexual person who cannot possibly afford to satisfy my needs fully, and who can't find a girlfriend with a map and flashlight, I feel the frustration acutely. But, there's the other issue: if sex is a basic right, (and I'm playing devil's advocate, so please don't pillory me) wouldn't it have to be made affordable or free for all? Otherwise, that right is still being restricted. Sent from my HTC EVO 3D X515a using Tapatalk

Also Zorro!

Sometimes there are no other avenues. The best thing to do is document all your attempts to have sex: pick-up bars, dating sites, etc. If all attempts to attain sex fail within a reasonable amount of time, say a month, then you should have the right to see a service provider legally. What are you supposed to do, wait out this sexless life until you win the handsome gene pool the next life around? I don't think so.

My dogs My family My friends My health My sanity My freedom My safety Free will... Yup. That about covers what I cannot live without. Or truthfully, would rather not have to live without. I'm just really thankful for the aforementioned. :)

According to the movie Incredibles, Edna (the incredibles fashion designer) says "NO CAPES" !! And that the following superhero's have had a disastrous ends by cape snags such as... Thunderhead-his cape snagged on a missile fin Stratogale- Cape caught in a jet turbine Metaman- express elevator Dynaguy- snagged on take off Splashdown- sucked into a vortex I strongly advise against capes!!

I have overlooked this thread almost on pupose, as it made me question my own intent and desire. I once has had an awful flirtation with addiction. So much so that it deystriod my life, of the material and as physical. I was at that cross road where I needed to decide what I was going to do to fix it....it did not happpen the first time What I have learned and want to share with you is... If there is something that is disrupting your life, setting off those triggers, or simply affecting you in a harmful way and you have no control over it... then THAT IS AN ADDICTION. so if you do hun.... then you do need to make an attempt to understand it. Do so with an open mind;) Sincerly, my best wishes, xoxo

There is no reason nor need for a martyr. Everyone's preoccupation should be that of positivity. Quite frankly, dwelling on the perceived notion of negativity only perpetuates the notion of its existence. Can we not just move on? :)

It sounds like there is a genuine concern here for the OP. I'm not sure if this thread is the best place to post jokes about sex addictions.

Along the same lines of thinking as Malika, I would say sex between consenting adults is a basic human right But no one's need or right for sex should interfere with another person's right to say no, or a child's right not to have their innocence taken from them But the human right or need to have sex, along with basic human intimacy and companionship should allow, without stigma, other avenues of sexual contact beyond dating/relationships/marriage. If sex is a basic human right, then professional sex workers (who freely as adults enter into the profession) should be allowed to practice legally. They provide that basic human right to a lot of us, without the strings of dating/relationship/marriage, not to mention it's a hell of a lot cheaper too :-) A rambling RG

Hmmm...now I am probably going to ponder for ever on that one. I agree with you on the most part...but everyone? no, not in my eyes.If a pedophile, someone that only want to have sex with kids, is only obsess with them, shouldn't be allowed to have sex. But as for the rest...fuck away! For me it's honestly a need...sometime physical one, but most of the times when I literally urge to be with someone...it's because I want to let go. I want to share a moment of vulnerability with someone that I think you can pretty much only access when being physically bond. Thought one thing I found strange...sex is now really open, literally you open a magazine and bam sex! and orgasms! and whatever...but yet we are so up-tight about it! It's literally like you need to have lots of sex, BUT the society tell you, you need to feel guilty about it right after... bah. I hump for fun. I try not to complicated my life with the "basic" sex...I already have hard time understanding bdsm and all that go with it:P

I've always been a very strong believer that smart IS sexy. I really don't think you can have one without the other. Like Henry Rollins said "I want me one of them readers, that's what I want!" :p.......Nothing hotter to me than an intelligent woman....so thanks for this, Berlin!

Being self-employed. at the moment I am currently watching some porn of Belladonna and Sasha Grey fucking while eating cereals:)

I believe that in life it's the experiences we have that feed our soul. Authentic interaction is what we crave as humans. We like to feel that those we interact with are there in mind, spirit and body in any given situation. It's why we chose to do business with certain companies over others with the same products. The people we interact with will either allow us to feel connected or we go elsewhere. If I feel I am simply another sale, I will not return; instead I continue to search until I find the place "I belong". I will drive extra miles for services I could receive around the corner when the provider makes me feel truly welcome and appreciated. In retrospect, I can see that it's the authenticity that keeps me coming back to every interaction I chose to participate in. I do not have a persona; my clients meet "me" at the door. I have never made up a "work" character; instead I've tapped parts of me that were not given the opportunity to present on a regular basis. Over the years I have integrated all of myself into my work on some level and I cannot entertain if the experience isn't authentic on both sides. I will turn down an appointment or show a guest to the door if I feel I cannot interact with them in a genuine way or vice versa. Guests with whom I have developed a more encompassing relationship with have often pointed out that there is no change in me whether I'm entertaining them or they are included in an aspect of my private life except my choice of attire. Developing a genuine, professional connection will take time with some providers. Repeat guests give a provider the opportunity to get to know them and feel comfortable letting their guard down. Trust is integral in this process; SPs are not trusting by nature usually. I feel strongly that if a woman has to create a contrasting alter ego in order to do this work, then it will eventually leave a negative impression on her in some way. Life is challenging enough without having to pretend to be somebody else daily for your livelihood. The key is initially finding a provider that presents the qualities that you resonate with and then allowing the time needed for the relationship to develop. cat

This is exactly why I posted this in the ELITE/SP ONLY area. A small handful of people are creating a hostile environment for some. Pushing good members like Pete to do things like this! It's bad for the board, bad for the ladies as it makes potential and really good long term clients not feel welcome. I think jealousy is playing a role in this with some and maybe even boredom for some? Not sure but what we need to do is suggest to the council that anyone causing a hostile environment here gets ONE warning then the BOOT! I know myself and the other mod have talked about this for a while now and we both agree... it's a handful of people killing the vibe for many and it has to stop. Those people responsible need to find a new thing to focus on! Pete, I hope you come back and post. Your a valued member here and one many of the guys look up to. I know I appreciate all your contributions to cerb and this post hopefully opens up some peoples eyes. The ladies who are doing this are just making themselves and other ladies loose business. You kill the friendly vibe of the site and kill off the top members and the quality posters you kill the traffic to the site and hurt business for yourself and the others. It's just dumb!

Stockings are pretty much Universally sexy! As for shoes...I have an entire closet dedicated to them! Not every lady dislikes shoes, stockings - and don't forget the garters! :icon_wink:

I'm with Emma here. What color, netted, lined, patterned, plain? I have them all and love them all. Shoes well..........:icon_smile::icon_smile::icon_smile:

What woman doesn't love stockings and heels.....i have lost count of how many pairs of heels i own.....:wink: