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It makes me very sad to be reading this article this morning: http://www.ottawacitizen.com/news/Driver+charged+with+impaired+driving+collision+that+critically+injured/6092152/story.html The positive thing from that story is the LCBO staff did their job and called the police, and luckily, the police caught him before someone died. Not everyone is that lucky. I've heard the mantra 'If you drink, don't drive', since I was a child. If only everyone heeded that very simple advice, a good friend that I lost in the summer would still be alive. If you drink, DON'T DRIVE. It's that simple. If you've had a few drinks, you are NOT capable of driving. It doesn't matter how many times you've safely made it home. It can happen to anyone. Have a designated driver. Call a cab. LEAVE the party after two drinks. Whatever it takes. Just don't do it. Thank you.

I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now. A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult.. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. 'We must do something about father,' said the son. 'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.' So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded, 'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up. ' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks.. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.. On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: a rainy day,the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life.' I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands.You need to be able to throw something back sometimes. I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.

The whole point of this board is to be a positive place for everyone to interact. There are plenty of other places that thrive on negativity. It's nice to be able to come to a place and read VALUABLE POSITIVE threads. Real life is far too stressful and to infuse un-needed stress in what is supposed to be fun is ridiculous in my view. YMMV is an important anacronym to learn. You may have a bad experience with JaneDoe and then JohnDoe has a great one. Each person is an individual, each individual is unique and chemistry just doesn't always happen no matter how skilled the lady is. I am pretty certain that CERB will never become like the other sites and I, for one, am quite happy about that; with or without a recommendation!

Lexy Grace said pretty much the way I see it as well...And completely agree with the notion of " I should be able to ask....if you are asking this of me too..." I for one do not ask for much information, as I have noticed a great deal of " uncomfortable-ness" with this issue, as they seem to always studier and hesitate over this, so to make you feel better, I will go on good faith. I also rarley see dates outside of this site. Most of the time, only accepting my donation at the end of a date...I have not been steered wrong yet....but perhaps that is just luck??? ( many of which appreciate this from me) But for me, I am very comfortable with my clientle, rarely take someone without getting to know a bit about them first. And I do look at your profile and get an idea from that if you are recognized member here or not. If you are new member then I may ask more detailed info, but for the most part go on good faith that you are honest and true. But I am certainly more cautious when I travel... So in a way ....Your participation here on the site will reflect on your reputation here, and will make it easier for me to " screen" you... Just as you seek me out....I will follow up on your rep here too:)

This is a topic that is always on my mind and I never know how to approach it without sounding upset or hurt that anyone would think I do not value them and their privacy/discretion. It makes me feel like I am being disrespected and my privacy doesn't matter because I'm being paid for my time. Well is does and greatly so. I am in this industry by choice, to have fun, build a business, maintain a great reputation and make some awesome friends on my journey. When I am questioned as to why I require certain information, it is for my safety. My safety comes first. I always think why would I ruin my reputation over one person by putting their privacy in jeopardy? With that being said if someone doesn't want to provide such information, there is always someone waiting that will. I expect the same courtesy to be extended to me in regards to privacy and discretion. Put the shoe on the other foot, the client being the SP. The date has been booked the SP is waiting for a complete stranger to arrive. They have a name, cell and possibly an email and forum handle. In those last 10 minutes before this complete stranger who was unwillingly to give any real information about them self is about to enter the SP's personal space or the SP is about to enter the clients, how do you think the are feeling at that exact moment. Scared, nervous and possibly shaking. The SP is not comfortable and ready to have a relaxed great encounter. Scary to see a certain scenario coming from an SP and imaging you being that SP. It is exciting meeting new people but the communication and the feeling of safety needs to be there, at least for me and many SP's. Some SP's have no problem with this and can just see about anyone with a name and cell, is that safe IMHO no but everyone is entitled to run their business the way they choose. Some/many prefer to take the much safer road traveled. I guess my point is when an SP asks for certain information, please take in to consideration that it is for their safety and nothing else, we value our lives and the safety of others.

I'm getting more and more interested in cooking and watching a lot of food network shows. I have also bought a couple of cook books and have been making stuff from time to time around house. Just the other night, I had a thin boneless skinless chicken breast wrapped around slices of old cheddar. I rubbed the chicken with a montreal steak rub, and grilled it in a toaster oven. When it was almost ready, I sauteed some chopped green onion, yellow onion, and red bell pepper in peanut oil and tossed that mix on the chicken when it was done. To top it off I sprinkled it with dried chili flakes. Served with a side of ceasar salad, best meal I've had all year.

I must say, I'm happy to be your science experiment any day ;) On the topic itself, I cant' see their being any doubt to the benefits of a massage with a 'happy ending'. After a good massage, my whole body tingles, and feels alive. Same after a good orgasm. So combine the two and...wow. Anyone wanna open a rub'n'rub, for the ladies? ;)

I don't give a damn whether it's healthy or not. I like it, so I'm doing it anyway!

I feel the need to start this thread, due to the lack of respect and attention to following simple instructions lately. Ive worded this in reference to no one, just a generalization to a few things. You contact me, we go through screening and agree on the date and time. You are told you will be contacted a few days prior with details to confirm. 3 days prior you are emailed with detailed instructions with a number and a date and time frame to call and confirm on. Scenarios as follows: Scenario A) You don't call within time frame - Encounter is cancelled and time is available Scenario B) You email letting me know you cant call within that time and we agree on another time in which you don't call - Same result as above - encounter cancelled. Scenario C) You call and confirm and encounter goes ahead as planned Scenario D) You email the morning of to ask if we are still on, yet I never heard from you - What do you think the answer to this question is? Scenario E) You leave a voice mail with we emailed and Im calling no name, number or anything else in the message - Chances are the encounter will be cancelled as its very rude to call a number back and say Who's this? And Ive asked you to call me, for discretion I would rather not return the call unless I have been given the ok to do so. We have a system in place that works for our own personal business, if you dont wish to follow instructions, dont waste our time. I value your time and respect your wishes on privacy, discretion and everything else. If you value mine, why does one feel its okay to not follow the simple instructions that I have given. I can be flexible with my confirmation policy when you let me know in advance. I ask you to call as that is how I confirm my dates, I wont email or text you any details so you have to call (my confirmation email is very clear on this), at this point if you don't like this policy it is your time to say that you are declining our date, I wont get mad as I would prefer your honesty over wasting my time and that of someone else who would have enjoyed the visit, but due to the games someone else has played they were unable to visit. When I ask you to call when your parking - I MEAN it, dont call from the lobby if I have asked you not too(considering discretion is SO important, why does the fact that your calling from in front of the hotel staff and repeating the suite number aloud not strike you as indiscreet?) Just because im not a revolving door, does not mean I want attention drawn to myself at any time. I enjoy the places I stay and wish to keep it that way. I also enjoy the company that I keep and NEVER want to jeopardize anyones privacy ever. You provide me your number and ask me not to call, I follow your instructions so how hard is it to show the same respect to mine. For an industry where discretion is key, I am just astounded as to why it is expected from me, but not returned by you.

What would you do if wonderful works of art were to jump off the wall, hug you, and then proceed to give you physical as well as visual pleasure? Until you meet Cleo then the question is purely theoretical. She is a lovely canvas framed with a shining aura, gilded with a terrifically naughty smile. I have been away from the hobby for quite some time - overworked, dealing with life and stressed by business and "the market". During the winter break I decided I am no good to anyone, including myself, if I do not take care of myself - relax, eat well, exercise, get a little pampering. This morning, I got a whole lotta pampering. Cleo is lovely. She is short but not too short. She has curves that I adore. She is sweet, talented, funny and articulate. As I was a stranger, we started slowly - she welcomed me, explained the process, and began with long, soft strokes. She discovered what I liked - deep, kneading around the shoulders and neck. As we were no longer strangers, the conversation opened up. Her smile is infectious - as in category 5 pandemic. She looks you in the eyes. She likes to know your response. I love her art. They tell a terrific story. I need more time at the gallery. So - I like her. She provides a good massage. She makes you feel welcome. She is attentive to your needs. Will I repeat? I think you can do the math. Treat her well. (Review 1 for 2012)

Well me, there's almost nothing I won't eat But a couple of meals 1. start with a caesar salad, then thick tbone steak, piping hot baked potato with butter/sour cream, and served with asparagus with butter and lemon juice finished off with a homemade lemon merangue pie 2. start with a greek salad, then pork souvlaki with lots of tzatziki , rice, followed by espresso and baklava 3. sometimes something simple, mom's homemade potato salad, cole slaw, along with cold cuts (german and hungarian salami, assorted cheeses) for sandwiches-usually on pumpernickel followed by a banana split I picked a bad time to go on a diet...I'm getting really hungry RG

There are other boards where negative reviews allowed, they aren't allowed here. CERB isn't like the other boards, nor does it want to be like the other boards. In this community both the ladies and gentlemen participate together equally, and the ladies are welcome, unlike other boards which seem to be more a boys club. On CERB, it's more a case of we are all opposite sides of the same coin, other boards, IMHO, at least from a few I've visited, it's more an us vs them mentality So IMHO, and probably lots of others here, the place for negative reviews is the other boards, and not on CERB RG

Getting ready to go visit my mother and family for a relaxing the weekend! Yah :icon_smile::icon_smile::icon_smile:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=IelPNwvLQcs First...he dance her like they were only one... and omg that ass!

Just registered for two Pole Dancing Workshop for this Sunday... Sexy Pole dance and floor work in heels and sexy chair dance and floor work... YAY for pole and grinding against a chair! I may need someone to practice after...;)

New Orleans LA Mardi Gras is in a couple of weeks! sit back and relax or join the party, your choice!

My last meal? Well thats a pretty difficult one for me. Not only am I a Foodie but a Culinary Historian as well. Its going to be a mish mash! Baked Brie with Apples and Pears BBQ Texas Broil with Candied Onions and Fennel Fluffy Rumbledethump Stir-fried Baby Shrimp and Bok Choy Russian Cream Cake with a dollop of Stella Luna gelato on the side. I suspect if I ate this meal, I would have an oral orgasm! teehee Additional Comments: Paula Deen turned me on to Red Velvet Cake. YUM!

But I did not tell her that Jabba sent me ;) LOL... it was because I have been wanting to see her for quite some time. It just happened that she was free when I called, and booked right away. Her gorgeous body can been seen here.... And here.... and here..... Maya, has a killer body and a fantastic personality, she likes to work out, her tight,toned body is certainly a tribute to that. Her body slides and her touch was a mind blowing experience that will bring me back to see her again. Yes she does know how to please a man.

Check out Sandals resort in Cuba. It is an adult only resort and has a great disco-tech. It is the ultimate place to safely unwind and explore you new found freedom:) I like adult only resorts, cause then I dont feel guilty when I am drinking at 10 am....lol.

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I love to watch cooking shows as well. When I was a teen all I would watch was the cooking channel. I rarely do now because there is a lot of those reality shows that I am not too fond of. Anyways my last meal would probably be a falafel pita with a red velvet cupcake for dessert.

At the risk of being labelled a "shill"......Sophia, you were one of my "few" and I'll be forever in your debt. We'd never met, I ran late, it was a cold and dreary night (lol), and you were so damned accommodating and sweet that I felt guilty. To me, an SP who is supposed to be GFE should have a pic of Sophia in her ad. I broke a rule or 2 (inadvertently) when trying to meet Sophia for the first time and she just pretended it didn't happen. She was my first SP and, thanks to her- not my last.

I haven't had many encounters, but the ones I have had have been superb- simply awesome. One of the reasons I say awesome is because I am in awe of these ladies. They have to overcome fear with every new encounter because they have no idea who or what they are about to meet. I know I'm a nice guy, I know I'm respectful, I know I'm harmless.......they don't. Maybe they see my interactions on here, perhaps my polite emails and text messages impress.....I dunno how they do it......I would crap my drawers if the positions were reversed. It may be the oldest profession in the world, but the world has changed. To me, these women on here are goddesses and I worship their bravery and trusting souls. It's a privilege getting to know them and one of the best parts of any encounter is the interaction leading up to anything that may happen...especially the first minutes of the actual face-face. Not following their instructions or directions is something that would never occur to me. I honestly feel like they're doing ME a favor- not the other way around.

Holy crap, Lee....you're a man after my own heart! I do love a bbq.....all year round. I just loaded up two deep freezers with beef....LOTS of beef......over 1000 pounds of patties, steaks, roasts......and whatever else you get, lol. So what does my SO do last night? Ordered pizza, of course. Gawd......gimme steak....liver and onions, burgers......but not pizza. I like a nice big steak- medium well done-, with a few trimmings, but not many. Oh, yeah......and beer. Cristy, as far as man vs. food.......30 years ago I could eat like that, but now, I could put on 20 pounds just from watching that show! Great food on there, but have you seen the difference in his physique since he started the show? LOL I think he's chunked up a bit, but I may be wrong.

Google also has a reverse image search now, similar to tineye, so it might be worth checking there as well http://www.google.com/insidesearch/searchbyimage.html

A meal entirely cooked on the BBQ and sipping on a cold beer while cooking it and a fine wine while eating it. A medium rare ribeye steak cooked on the cue, smothered with sauteed mushrooms and shrimp, baked potato with all the fixins, bacon wrapped scallops and corn on the cob.

Thanks Kim. I saw that in their FAQs and understand what they're saying but what doesn't really make sense to me is that I also tried searching for pictures I used about 3-4 years ago and nothing came up for those too. Additional comments: I even thought about creating an account and uploading my pictures thinking they would become part of the search index and unfortunately, that doesn't work. "Images uploaded to TinEye are not added to the search index, nor are they made accessible to other users. Copyright for all images submitted to TinEye remains with the original owner/author."

But then there are those philosophies like tantra and zen which recommend against ejaculation, believing to be a life force leaving your body. Every little ejaculation is an amount of time off your final clock, so to speak. So they teach those things like tantric massage which takes you to orgasm without release.

you can have links to your recos and reviews on your website...that way people know they are legit. I have them from another website already but will put the links from cerb on there as well.

Sorry, I can only meet you half way on this one. I prefer to keep quiet if I did not enjoy myself. That way no one gets disappointed by what I have written. Since this board by design already filters out critical commentary on services, why undermine that goodwill by misrepresenting a negative experience as a positive one?

I am continually amazed at how in one breath somone will ask me to be discrete, but later refuses to provide me with the same. Remember that we are above all business owners, as well as real people. Give me the same respect anyone else deserves. I might be a whore, but you're the one that wants to play. Be nice.

Rocket science ???? Nope. Basic instructions 101 Great thread and awesome comments. Two things that really bother me in this world is... a:) inability to willingly follow very basic rules and b:) extreme arrogance. And I think both come in to play many times here. A couple I will comment on Quoting Em: "When I ask you to call when your parking - I MEAN it, dont call from the lobby if I have asked you not too(considering discretion is SO important, why does the fact that your calling from in front of the hotel staff and repeating the suite number aloud not strike you as indiscreet?) Just because im not a revolving door, does not mean I want attention drawn to myself at any time. I enjoy the places I stay and wish to keep it that way. I also enjoy the company that I keep and NEVER want to jeopardize anyones privacy ever." To me this is a huge discretion issue, a danger issue and total common sense...it can seriously jeopardize the safety as well as personal wellbeing of Emily ....as well as the gentlemen that may visit with her in the future at this hotel. I may not be the sharpest tack in the box perhaps...but that is a pretty simple instruction to follow I am thinking and a very very important one :icon_rolleyes: Quoting Samantha: "Some of the disrespectful ones object to being screened and, rather than saying so politely, insult me by pointing out that I'm just a whore, that I must be planning to set them up somehow or that I'm desperate. These guys are no loss to me!" This I love Samantha !!! The fella can go :aol_poundit: "insult me by pointing out that I'm just a whore" Ahhhhhh yes....the guy that thinks because he has his wallet out and is paying then he is better than you.... that attitude spells SCUM....and once again he can go :aol_poundit: or get one of these perhaps:aol_fakepussy:

Good thread Emily. Thanks for starting it! I think I'm pretty easy to get along with as long as I'm comfortable and feel safe. I have clear standards and requirements that I believe are more than reasonable. I have many clients who have never objected to my screening methods and I'm as busy as I want to be. To me, this means that the things I ask for fit within reasonable parameters. Some men are very reluctant to divulge information that may make them traceable in some way. They're entitled to their views. I don't think that anyone should do things they're not comfortable doing, whether they're a paid companion or a client. I reckon that if my screening requirements are too difficult for someone, he'll find another companion who may be more comfortable with him. What I know for sure is that no one is entitled to see me unless I choose to have the meeting. I turn down almost 75% of those who contact me whether because they want things I don't provide, seem to be time-wasters rather than serious clients, refuse to follow my screening or are disrespectful in some way. Some of the disrespectful ones object to being screened and, rather than saying so politely, insult me by pointing out that I'm just a whore, that I must be planning to set them up somehow or that I'm desperate. These guys are no loss to me! The ones who want to argue about or ignore following basic instructions, whether about screening or directions to my place, too often will inappropriately attempt to control other aspects of our encounter if we meet. I'm not interested in having power struggles with clients.

I receive at least one email a day explaining why they can't follow my rules and would I see them anyway. I find this very frustrating,as all my expectations are clearly posted on my web page ,along with "no exceptions are made" ,clearly stated.As said ,we all have our different procedures to follow,when booking an appointment.They differ just as our ways of play differ.We post these because it is what makes us feel secure,protected and comfortable when excepting a booking.I have heard time and time again gentlemen saying they have been "blackmailed",or heard stories of someone using personal information in a fallicious way so they don't want to give any out.I wish some men would realize that when they deal with a "professional" sp this should never happen and discretion is a two way street,we provide it but also expect it.To be blunt, if you want to know where I am ,I should be able to know who you are!!

Simple following instructions, common sense, and discretion. Don't do anything that will cause anyone's eyebrows to be raised, especially front desk, well any hotel staff for that matter And when in the hotel, blend in, like you belong there, not like your lost trying to find your way around RG

I was going to try to stay away from this thread but over the last 24 hours I seem to keep coming back to it, reading what others have said and empathizing with those who have shared their stories. What has ultimately brought me back here is the wisdom of Spud when he added his thought that writing and sharing is therapeutic, and truer words may never have been spoken. Since joining CERB I have made references to my personal story, but never did speak about the one thing that was perhaps the most difficult for me to 'do'. My wife, purely by chance discovered that she had a massive brain aneurysm. The doctors were amazed that it had not burst previously and she and I considered ourselves very lucky that it had been discovered, because there is in fact a 'fix' for it. The fix is a relatively new procedure, and we knowingly went into it being aware of the risks which were quite high with death and a debilitating stroke being the primary ones. It involved placing platinum wire coils the width of a human hair into the aneurysm in order to fill it and strengthen the walls of the blood vessel, and this is all done remotely without invasive surgery by feeding the wire through the blood vessels from the groin and all the way up into the brain. We even joked about the end result - that she and I would be the bionic superhero duo, her with her platinum brain and me with my extra little bit of titanium that lets me walk. The surgery did not go well. The three hour surgery stretched into seven hours before the surgeons came out to see me. I knew long before then that we were in trouble. The artery had ruptured above the aneurysm, in effect causing a massive stroke. By the end of an additional five hours in surgery three neurosurgeons were working on her. In that interim period occurred the first of several things that I had to do that were the most difficult things I have ever had to do. That was to call two of my daughters who were in Ontario and BC respectively, to explain what was happening, and saying yes, you better come home, now. Technically she survived the surgery and the surgeon tried to be positive with me that there was still a chance that with time and rehabilitation the woman that I knew might survive, but that she would be a very different woman from the one that went into surgery. This brought a situation whereby for the second time in hours I had to do what was one of the most difficult things that I ever had to do. That was to respect her wishes and tell the surgeons that her wish and mine would be to not prolong her life if it was being maintained solely by use of extreme measures. I still do not know if the staff protected my mental health by telling me that as the next hours progressed she deteriorated more to the point that they declared her brain dead or did they respect our wishes and allow it to happen? The saving grace to this story, which I have written about previously, is that five people received organ donations and we have been in contact with several of them and they are doing well. Two other people who had been blind can now see. Life can change in the blink of an eye and what may be my biggest and the hardest thing to ever do in my life is yet unaccomplished - to be able to accept, and live a useful life from here on out. That is a work in progress.

Losing a baby and watching 2 family members die right in front of you and having to bury them.

Recently, I've been put in a very uncomfortable situation due to someone not following instructions. I had asked a gentleman to send me a quick text message to confirm his number because I knew I was going to be busy dealing with personal things that day and would be in the presence of family members. Well, instead of doing that, he decided to call me a few times. Obviously, I didn't answer his calls. Later that day, I checked my emails and he apologised for calling me but said that he didn't like to send or receive text messages and much preferred to hear my voice instead. Let's just say I wasn't my happy self when I read that. I kindly told him and explained that discretion was of the utmost importance for everyone when involved in this lifestyle only to get told that "we all play a dangerous game when we decide to play"... It's only 'dangerous' and risky if the need for discretion is not understood and the guidelines/instructions are not respected by everyone involved.

I just want to say thank you to everyone who has nominated my post, given rep points or just taken the time to read my post. I have found this entire experience very therapeutic. I feel much better than I did a few days ago, putting it all down on "paper" for the world to see was probably the best decision for me to make. Thank you, Spud271

Wow, seeing all of these heart wrenching posts hits very close to home. I can't believe i'm about to dredge this up... Sorry folks, it's going to be a long post. When I was 19 my mother was diagnosed with cancer. It was frightening but not intensely so. She was always so upbeat and certain that it was just a "speed bump" she had to roll over, and that attitude kind of rubbed off on me I guess. I realize now that she kept quite a few hard truths about her battle from me, otherwise I never would have left the province at age 21 for almost a year. She was so damned proud to see me branching out into a new, and life changing experience and she wasn't going to burden me with her own struggle. Towards the end of my time away from home she called to tell me there was nothing else the doctors could do, and yet she insisted that I needed to stay and see my journey to a close. Good lord! even in her darkest hour, she was looking out for my sorry behind! I agreed and waited impatiently for the day I could finally get on a plane and see my family again. The day finally came and I boarded what was quite possibly the longest flight in recorded history, all the while consumed with the thought of embracing my parents at the Winnipeg terminal. Quite possibly the worst sight of my life was rushing off the plane to find my father, standing alone and looking uncomfortable. He told me: It's bad kid, let's get home". My heart died a little at that moment. My mother had collapsed the day before. In less than a year, she had gone from a healthy, upbeat woman with some "bothersome temporary illness" to a near skeleton who could no longer walk or even sit upright without assistance. As I was the youngest, and biggest member of the family it was only natural that I should be the one who assisted with getting mom around the house... I can't describe the feeling of having to carry the emaciated, chemotherapy battered shell of ones own mother from room to room in the home that she paid for and raised you in. My aunt and I were moving her into a more comfortable position in bed one night. She died in our arms. I will never wish that on any living soul. Fuck me. I need beer. Good night.

Recommendations are lovely things, but not essential for a companion's success in this industry. The great majority of clients either don't know about review or recommendation boards or they know about them but don't post on them for all kinds of reasons. The character of reviews on some of the boards is so mean-spirited and destructive that I'm not sure it's to any woman's advantage to be reviewed on them. Indeed, there have been more than a few notorious campaigns on some of the review boards where a cadre of members have chosen to target some of the best-reviewed ladies, posting so many unfavourable reviews that the companions were eventually driven out of the business or forced to re-invent themselves and start over after taking an enormous financial hit. At the same time, positive reviews are too often dismissed as shill unless posted by long-standing members who have written a great deal on the site. Paid companions who are over 40 or who are larger can do very well in our industry, but usually won't be reviewed anywhere nearly as often as young women. This is not because there's anything wrong with them, but because clients seem more interested in keeping their liaisons with them private for a host of personal reasons. While recommendations and reviews can help identify a potentially suitable companion, there are many ways to find us. Some paid companions don't purchase a lot of online advertising, usually because we have a network or client base that's large enough to keep us busy. Even so, Google is a great resource since most companions' websites are optimized for search engines. Everyone is different, of course. What one man enjoys won't interest another, or the way that a companion expresses herself may be more engaging for some men than for others. The best thing is to take a bit of time, exchange some e-mail and perhaps a phone conversation or two. With a bit of thought and care, you should be able to find a companion who can provide you with the kind of experience you want to have.

The thing about recos is that you don't have to write a story....a few words can go along way. All you have to say is something like: I highly recommend this lady. Yes it's that easy.

With all due respect, why would you publicly reveal a lady's incall location (good or bad)?? What about *discretion* for her and the gentlemen who decide to spend time with her? Generally, those details are only shared on a need to know basis.

Sorry to see you go, but it is not surprising. I slowed my posting almost a year ago for much of the same reason. I went from having a nomination as being a valuable member to being a basic lurker. So sad it has come to this.

I must ad that it's not solely the ladies creating this atmosphere. Just for the record.