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Sometimes people behave impulsively. That's understandable, but when it comes to relations between paid companions and clients, surprises may not be interpreted in the ways that they were intended. After a lovely long walk with my dog I came home in the late afternoon today to find a box containing 18 exquisite long-stem roses on my doorstep. There was was a generic Valentine from the florist; the note said, "Thinking of you," but there was no signature and I don't recognize the handwriting. The florist's seal was on the box, so I called them. They didn't deliver anything to my house today. Whoever bought the roses must have gone into the florist in person and then delivered them to my house himself. Since it's Valentine's Day, they've been swamped with customers and have no idea who might have purchased the roses. I've had a quiet day to myself: I didn't see anyone today. I never encourage people to drop by unexpectedly. But someone has presumed to come to my place, uninvited, and left this ostentatious, expensive, anonymous gift. While it may be that the fellow thought he was doing something thoughtful and kind, my experience of it is very different. I feel unnerved. My boundaries have been violated, and my privacy has been breached by someone who didn't have the courtesy to identify himself. I wouldn't have been happy if I'd answered the door this afternoon. I would have told him off in no uncertain terms and I would probably have refused to see him again. I'm assuming that this may have been someone who has only visited me once or twice. I'm sure that none of my longer-term, regular clients would do this, just as I never call any of them without having been explicitly asked to do so. Discretion and confidentiality are essential to everyone. However, unless the person who delivered the flowers confesses, I will probably never know where they came from. That is deeply unsettling to me. I had a difficult time with a stalker last year. The police were very helpful and I know they got the message across to him loud and clear when they visited his home. He consented to a no-contact order and knows that if he were to breach it he would be arrested. I don't think he sent the flowers: he has too much to lose to risk doing something like this. Gentlemen, please take time to think things through very carefully before doing anything surprising or unexpected. In particular, never arrive at a companion's place uninvited and never send anonymous gifts or messages. What might seem to be a romantic gesture to you can easily seem much more ominous to us, unfortunately.

Samantha, I'm sorry this has happened to you. Like others said, hopefully it was just a client who didn't think things through and they will come forward. If it it the stalker you mentioned, I'm sure the police will be able to track him in sending these flowers. And I don't this is an over reaction on your part. Stalkers do not give up and in this business you constantly have to be vigilent about this as stalkers come in all different types of personalities. And speaking of surprises, I think this should be mentioned as well... SPs do not like to be surprised especially on their own turf. Do not show up unannounced! I had someone try and come and see me unannounced one time and I had never met him. It turns out he had been there to see another SP previously. I wasn't even there and I don't see clients where I live. My gf ( it was her place) was taken aback and told him wrong address. If it were me and I had answered the door, I would have threatened to call the police if he didn't leave. I personally offer you discretion and respect and if you can't offer me the same, then there are going to be problems. If you want to do something thoughtful as wanting to bring by a gift, call first. Most hobbyists will not go near an SP's place unless they have an appt but there are some odd people out there. I've seen a few in my time and they look like any other guy but right away you can tell that they have some weird tendancies. Some of them creeped me right out over the years. Anyone who stalks women think they are above the law and when it comes to SPs, most of their stalkers seem to think, she will be afraid to call the police. Not true at all. So think again... Samantha, I am really hoping for your sake it wasn't the person you had problems with but part of me seems to think it is. I think any other client who respects you and your privacy would have given you a heads up and asked for permission to stop by. Please stay safe!

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I feel the need to start this thread, due to the lack of respect and attention to following simple instructions lately. Ive worded this in reference to no one, just a generalization to a few things. You contact me, we go through screening and agree on the date and time. You are told you will be contacted a few days prior with details to confirm. 3 days prior you are emailed with detailed instructions with a number and a date and time frame to call and confirm on. Scenarios as follows: Scenario A) You don't call within time frame - Encounter is cancelled and time is available Scenario B) You email letting me know you cant call within that time and we agree on another time in which you don't call - Same result as above - encounter cancelled. Scenario C) You call and confirm and encounter goes ahead as planned Scenario D) You email the morning of to ask if we are still on, yet I never heard from you - What do you think the answer to this question is? Scenario E) You leave a voice mail with we emailed and Im calling no name, number or anything else in the message - Chances are the encounter will be cancelled as its very rude to call a number back and say Who's this? And Ive asked you to call me, for discretion I would rather not return the call unless I have been given the ok to do so. We have a system in place that works for our own personal business, if you dont wish to follow instructions, dont waste our time. I value your time and respect your wishes on privacy, discretion and everything else. If you value mine, why does one feel its okay to not follow the simple instructions that I have given. I can be flexible with my confirmation policy when you let me know in advance. I ask you to call as that is how I confirm my dates, I wont email or text you any details so you have to call (my confirmation email is very clear on this), at this point if you don't like this policy it is your time to say that you are declining our date, I wont get mad as I would prefer your honesty over wasting my time and that of someone else who would have enjoyed the visit, but due to the games someone else has played they were unable to visit. When I ask you to call when your parking - I MEAN it, dont call from the lobby if I have asked you not too(considering discretion is SO important, why does the fact that your calling from in front of the hotel staff and repeating the suite number aloud not strike you as indiscreet?) Just because im not a revolving door, does not mean I want attention drawn to myself at any time. I enjoy the places I stay and wish to keep it that way. I also enjoy the company that I keep and NEVER want to jeopardize anyones privacy ever. You provide me your number and ask me not to call, I follow your instructions so how hard is it to show the same respect to mine. For an industry where discretion is key, I am just astounded as to why it is expected from me, but not returned by you.

Reflecting on some disturbing recent incidents, I've been thinking how important it is for sp's ALWAYS to send a PM confirmation to verify before accepting a claim from someone saying I'm 'so and so'. The person may not be who he claims to be. And it's not only the reputation of impersonated members that's at stake. It shouldn't be necessary to say this, but maybe it is. Please check before accepting a phone or text request. A simple precaution, but an important one.

Just as a note. I prefer to setup time on Cerb and follow up with a text. Calling is not easy as there is usually someone around to listen in. IF you know the person , texting to setup appointment is preferable for me. A text is silent, a voice is not.

One underlying code of conduct in this lifestyle is discretion. Don't draw unwanted or un-welcomed attention to a lady, and likewise, a lady is not to draw attention to her clients. Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot, and a lady dropped off a present at a client's home or place of work. Do you think a guy would welcome it, or would he post on all the boards possible about this extreme lack of discretion Whether it is a guy seeing a lady at her incall, or a lady seeing a guy at his place, be it hotel or home, encounters and contact are done at at a set time/date/place. If you see each other outside that time/date/place, you just act like total strangers. As for the flowers, not signing the card, well if it was truly innocent, wouldn't you sign your name...keeping it anonymous makes it not just in-discrete and a violation of Samantha's privacy, it leads me to believe something is wrong. A innocent gesture you wouldn't do anonymously. And frankly, unless both parties are aware of the gift giving and agree to it, the only correct time to give a gift is when you are having an encounter. Surprise gifts outside of an encounter are completely inappropriate. As for taking a deep breath, well I too have been stalked by an ex-g/f. And a stalker's behaviour appears innocent to the naked eye, but has sinister ulterior motives, nothing worse than someone obsessed with you. It isn't fun, and nothing to take lightly. Samantha has every right to be concerned, and she shouldn't minimize this I hope all it is is a misguided client, who needs to take the course How To See Escorts 101 along with How To Treat A Lady 101. Behaviour is creepy to me RG

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Sorry to hear about this; like others I hope it's just a misguided client and not the stalker you had so much trouble with. I wonder if the guy who left the flowers mistakenly thought that "anonymous" equalled "discreet"; that you'd be happier that the card was unsigned rather than one reading "From querty1234@somewhere" or "From Jim at 123-4567". Of course, that would only work from his perspective; he knows he's harmless and well-meaning. But for you the gift could be from *anyone*, so you don't know what meaning you should attribute to it. No matter how this turns out, you chose the perfect thread title. The most important lesson here is that the client/SP relationship does NOT have room for surprises, in either direction.

I'm not over-reacting, Ostirch. I'm as protective of my privacy as I'm sure you are of yours. I make a point not to draw unnecessary attention to myself not only for my sake but also to maintain the confidentiality and discretion I offer to my guests. I reported the delivery to the VPD this evening. They will talk to the florist in the event that my stalker was the guy who bought the flowers. If so, I am happy to cooperate with them to prosecute him. Honestly, I hope it won't come to that. But stalkers are notorious for trying to get around the rules. The way they see it, laws and community standards don't apply to them in the way they apply to others. Unfortunately, it's just not possible to be sure that someone won't do something dangerous if they've become fixated on someone else. Having decided that regular boundaries aren't worth their attention, they may become a real threat. I want to emphasize how rare it is for independent paid companions such as myself to have serious problems with our guests. By far, the vast majority of the gentlemen who visit us are kind, thoughtful, pleasant men who have no interest in creating problems for anyone. Most of the troublesome ones don't pass our screening requirements. Those who plan to be abusive are very reluctant to pay our fees, even if they expect to retrieve the funds from us, perhaps because they recognize that we will not keep confidentiality agreements if we have been harmed in any way. I'm happy to say that I've had no conflict with any of my visitors in a very long time. I hope that this was an impulsive gift from a misguided client. If so, we'll talk about it and, depending on how that conversation goes, I may or may not see him again. I do recognize that good men hope women will be pleased to receive flowers. This was a handsome gift. I would feel much more at ease if the fellow had signed the card. Ultimately, my safety and peace of mind are more important than anything else. I'm sure that the gentlemen I entertain appreciate this.

I agree with Cleo. You look like your pics and you have some great ones. I find you lovely, so please don't let this get you down. I will try to paste one of my favs of you. Yes! This is gorgeous.

Gee, all my RVs have been coordinated by email and then by text (SMS) when closer to the appointed time. I have found that email works well if you are willing to say more about yourself, put a little thought into your message and mention what you would like to do or expect during the meeting. I only had to use the phone once to confirm while in Toronto.

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Offer 1 time discounts for new clients. It will let someone take a chance with you, and it allows you to expand your client base. Peachy/Val did this. One time with her, and I became a regular at her regular rates . Also try the coffee card approach. One free with every 10 paid (or a variation) These will increase your business.

I've only partaken in massages, but I'm still incredibly nervous. I've always been a shy person and when you consider it's not just face-to-face contact, but face-to-face intimate contact with a beatiful and naked woman I'm absolutely terrified. However, I'm still young enough that my brain has no control over my loins, so once I get on the massage table/bed I know i'm in good hands, I relax, and everything goes well. I can't imagine the additional stress of seeing an SP where it's an even more dynamic session..

That shyness, or erotic apprehension, can be a lovely thing, for me. It's a reminder that we're real people who honestly don't know each other well, have no idea what to expect, hope to enjoy one another, are aware of the things that may go wrong or at least not happen exactly as anticipated, and who know that pleasure and delight are too often fleeting, ephemeral things. It's my experience that the gentlemen who are not at all hesitant or who seem to feel completely in control from first contact are rarely ideal clients for me. Encounters with such men are more likely to be a disappointment in some way. I imagine that they're overly invested in a fantasy about themselves or me and may not be able to shift from that to the reality of two real people who may not perform according to plan. The ones who are a bit shy and cautious tend to be terrific because they're not taking themselves or me for granted. While the whole engagement sometimes has strong fantasy elements, I feel that we're both real people having a real encounter.

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She had such a talent but her meteoric rise to fame was equaled by her meteoric fall from grace. It saddens me that her legacy will be tainted by the last two decades spent undermining her incredible voice by a series of very poor personal choices. A friend wrote this on his FB wall.... and I think that it really defines how I feel: "Too bad about Whitney Houston; even worse that most people reminiscing about her probably didn't give a shit about her health/state a day, a week, or even a year ago before she passed."

The ladies that I have met have all insisted that initial communication is by e-mail. All have agreed to texting on the day of an encounter. Granted that I tend to only see a small number traveling and independent ladies who visit Ottawa at a frequency that generally meet my wants and desires. I am sure that we all have particular requirements, it is not unreasonable to simply re-focus onto someone who will meet them. Check out the posts in advertisement section of the board, the links to websites and do your homework. Ladies that meet your posted requirements are posting on CERB. If you are forthright and polite in your e-mails, you should not have any hassles with the ladies.

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There are duo combinations in Halifax for sure. I know that Katherine and Penelope are available and both are in NS pretty well full time. When Emma Alexandra and Gabriella are in town together they are a great duo combination and as well when Emily Rushton and Keissy Hennessey are in town they also work together. Check the recco sections under any of their names and you will find further information. Good luck.

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