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For some...this may be a bad day, but for me, It is a very happy day! Just found out my father is going to move here in Freddy:) He is retiring this year and needs to be close to his daughter, his friend:) This weekend going to a huge family gathering in honor of my uncle who also is retiring;) Looking forward to be re-united ith everyone again:)

Sophia, I wrote a thread regarding the time we pass with our family... Believe me, if I could have known what's happening with my family again, I would do the same as you are doing. Please, SweetHeart, enjoy yourself as much as you can because when our parents are gone, the time we spent with them stays in memory. Best of luck, XxXSabrinAXxX

Idiots, morons and self righteous jerks.

Had a cake with a candle at midnight, made my wish. Had an overnight date with a sweet gentlemen. Went shopping in the morning and pampered myself at a spa. Going for a fancy diner tonight with my best friend. Got b-day wishes from my family, friends and members of CERB. :)

Having a flight attendant that is an exact replica of Anderson Cooper - and he was really nice too. What a great way to spend a 5hr flight.

Happy birthday, love!! Have a great one! <3

Change is inevitable. Of late there have been a number of high profile people who have made decisions to either leave Cerb or to adapt their role within the community, and it has caused me to consider again why people do quit and make the decisions that they make. Most recently is WIT, whose leaving I know has left many of us feeling a sense of loss. Less then a week prior to WIT's decision, Spud 271 left. I had met Spud at socials in Ottawa and always enjoyed his humour when we were face to face but I also enjoyed his writing and his posts. Previous to them Pistol Pete chose to limit his participation in Cerb by declining to write threads or comment on threads and restricting himself mostly to reccos. Prior to that stevecurious left and when that happened his departure was for me the first time that when a member announced his leaving that I felt a sense of loss. Steve later reconsidered and has again become a valued member of this community. I am sure there are many others who have left for a whole variety of reasons. First let me say that I am not wishing to delve into the whys and wherefores that may or may not be reasons for which some of our notables have decided of late to leave CERB. I do not want to be speculating or have this thread be used to air speculation. It is a thread that I have had in mind for quite a while but from a purely personal perspective. I know of course of women that have left the board, but will restrict myself in this post to the male side of it, because of the mixed feelings that I have myself, about myself. The rationale for joining and then for leaving is no doubt unique for everyone. I have been a member of CERB since January of 2011. In that relatively short period of time I have seen people come and people go and of course I have seen many a reference to well respected members who were well established on CERB and left before I ever even heard of this board. I have learned many things from CERB, but in reality I have learned many things from the PEOPLE of CERB, as it is the people that make this community what it is. Some will think I am sure that my thinking is ass backwards, but when I think first of what I have learned I think of life lessons, not sexual encounters. I think of stereotypes and how they have been shattered, at least for me. I think of the law and what I have learned and about aspects of the law that I had never even considered previously. I think of the semantics of the business. I think of trans gendered people. I think of respect, both given and received. That list could go on and on and on. My world has changed in the last year and a half, much more than probably most of you can appreciate, and most times I think that it has changed for the better, because of the circumstance that I found myself in. Of course I think about the sex - about the beautiful women that I have met. I think about the very special experiences that I have had, and I have had many. I think about that special `relationship` that I have developed with some of you, both men and women. I think of friends that I have made, and I do consider them friends. And I think of quitting. I did quit once, about three months after I started here. That quit lasted for all of twenty four hours. As soon as I wrote it, as soon as I stated it publicly not in a thread but in one of the social groups, as soon as I clicked on submit, I knew that I had made a mistake. The mistake was that I did not have a plan in place of what it is that I would do to replace the void that Cerb had been filling for me. So, I reversed that decision, really fast, and have been here ever since. So why then do I continue to consider quitting? Reality is a huge issue. What is real? What is fantasy? What is role playing? What is make believe and what is illusion? You know what, that can become very confusing for a client. I am real. I honestly think that I act and write and behave in the Cerb world both online and in person as I do in the rest of my world. I am not used to interacting with people for whom that is not also true, but I know that I do here, very commonly, and for me that is the Catch 22, because that is probably a fundamental truth/requirement of the business, and oh yes indeed, I do know that this is a business. There are many threads on this aspect of Cerb already. I said above that I have broken out of my stereotypes, and that is largely true, however the one big one that I have NOT broken is the feeling that I must have something "wrong" with me for paying such large sums of money for social companionship, and for me it is the social companionship that I have cherished the most. What is most curious is that I don't feel that way at all about any other male member of CERB, only towards myself. It causes me to question myself, which I suppose is a good thing ultimately. I am old fashioned, and yup, probably old too. I am not going to take up the bar scene and be picking up women in that way. Reality check. It just isn't going to happen. I am not asking women out on 'dates' in the non-Cerb world for fear that that would be construed as a desire for or have the potential for a long term relationship. That's the old fashioned part of me. So I might leave CERB in a heartbeat if I had a solution to my dilemma but I do not have a solution, I don't see a solution and until I do then here I shall remain, as it has been an awesome experience and an awesome community for me to be a part of. Another fundamental reality is that for each of us there will be a time to leave that is the right time for us. Our reasons to be here are unique to each of us and when we decide to leave those reasons will also be our own. WIT and Spud and so many before them have their reasons and whatever the reasons are they are valid for them. I am just throwing this post out there in large part for myself as writing often helps me to clarify thoughts in my head. Perhaps some of it resonates with others and perhaps most of it is unique to me. It is just that at the moment as I see people choosing to leave Cerb it causes me to wonder about whether their thinking is in some ways in line with my own or rather whether it truly is a unique individual decision that each of us makes for our own unique and individual reasons. I am not quitting Cerb. At least not today.

Here is a question for the SP's: Would it be okay to ask for a session of DATY, DATY & more DATY??? With some hugs and kisses thrown in?? What do you think?

A few months ago, I think in February-ish, I posted about the possibility of my Father moving here to Freddy, as he is retired this year and needs to be closer to is daughter for a few reasons. So I have been preparing for him to accept my offer to allow me to help him, look after him a bit. I always knew this was my role in my family. I may not be the most "normal" of my sibling's, but I am closest to to my parents. Like we are friends! I am ready I hope, as he will move here soon. Of course, I will be having a separate location for my clients to visit. I wanted to say thanks, to those who helped me in this decision a while back. There were post that were sensitive and encouraging. I gained confidence and strength from that thread. Thanks:)

She should tell him politely that she thinks there are other fish in the sea for both of them, and that she has no interest in seeing him or continuing to communicate with him further. Then ignore him. He'll eventually go away. Unless he is threatening her, I don't know why she should be afraid of him. I presume the OP is also a customer? If so, I wonder why she's bringing this to him? Looks like drama to me.

If I am only 2 out of 3 does that get me in your highlight of the day thread? :)

If I knew how to double quote...i would...lol...so, Bommer....Yes I can see how it would be a hard reality to look into the future and know that perhaps we ill need our son's or daughter's to look after us eventually. Something in me says...." this is the way it should be" But on the other hand...be grateful you have this option. So many who have worked hard to provide to the best they could, then just left in their elder years to fend for themselves. I have 2 sisters. One who could help if she as not so bitter about some family issues, and another who is not emotionally or physically able. So that leaves me. Thank fully I have been friends ith dad for a long time. So it feels like a normal or expected thing to do. after all I would never leave a buddy out in the cold either. I had to think long and hard before I took this responsibility on. I did not want to offer and then not fulfill either. If your daughter are able, and illing and you need to ask for help, I hope you never feel ashamed or bad for this. We all need somebody sometimes:) PORTHOS... Yes thank you for the reminder. I am a giver, and at times forget to think of my own well being in the process. I have taken care of dad in the past. We did fine. Now will even be better, as I am buying a house, and renovating it to include him. I am building an in law suite in the basement. Fully contained. But hen the time comes, I hope my sister will help with costs, and nursing. My father is a " healthy" man so far, but does smoke a pack or 2 a day, likes his beer....and hates veggies, lol.... I will cross that road when I come to it:) Thank you for you support and input fellas!

Discovered that most people are glad I'm back at work .... And like Lee's trespasser the fact that some aren't is also a highlight, cause they are pricks!! Porthos

That is very nice for you Sophia and very nice for him as well. It is rather curious as I read what you contributed and thought about it, that in fact you and I are sort of exact opposites in terms of the time line so I can see this from your Dads popint of view pretty clearly. For me I have a significant birthday looming, and when I was their age I considered my present age to be OLD! All of my children live a significant distance from me and I know that they do worry about me being alone probably as you do about your father. Your father and I are in the same situation as well I suppose that both he and I have children who are 'looking out" for us. As a father that is a really nice feeling to have. I know how fortunate I am to be in that situation so I am certain that he feels the same way about you if he has agreed to move closer to where you live. Good for both of you! PS. Not sure of his age or health, but depending, give him his space and independence and ensure that you have yours as well. :)

Being stuck for 5hrs on a flight surrounded by 8 screaming children and sitting next to someone who clearly should have been made to purchase 2 seats. I paid for my small seat please keep all of you on yours....harsh but the truth.....

Resisting the urge to buy some pin up dresses. I don't have the extra money for it right now. This is the reason why I need a sugar daddy just for dresses:P

Sure wish I was there to join you! Have fun.

I spent my yesterday on a boat, and also off the boat, swimming in a beautiful lake. I acquired some more magnificent burn lines while lying in the sun with my French political philosophy. Good people, good beer, and the spaciousness of nature made for a wonderful afternoon. At sunset we went out again. I floated on my back in the water and all I could see was the sky -empty except for the moon- which was a delicate shade of blue paling in the fading light, and the water, which reflected the trees onto the surface around me. I stayed that way for a good long time.

Yes I appreciate that, thank you. Also, however, the purpose of a board like this is to share information. So, I asked if anybody was comfortable with a PM sharing that information. Two ways to skin the cat, really.

More seriously than my last reply, going to the police is your best option. There is nothing illegal about being an escort, and the police understand that escorts can find themselves in vulnerable situations. They are far more interested in keeping wackos from committing violent crimes than persecuting escorts. There are lots of ladies on this board who have relied on the police to deal with harassing behaviour, and generally have found the police to be helpful. The fact that they are escorts has been irrelevant.

I would agree with the foregoing replies about harassment and the police. The one thing I would suggest is that she saves all the emails she has received and maintain some sort of a log concerning his activities. When she does come to the conclusion that the police are the best option she will have the evidence that the cops can use to put the pressure on this guy. The other reason the police are a good bet is that they may already have some history on the guy and this may be the extra complaint that helps them get him. It's quite possible that he's hit on more than just you, so you are doing a good turn for any other of his victims.

if i were to try someone new i think i would go for the 30 minutes . as you say to see if we click or not. i have only been doing the hour and , thankfully only a couple times i have not clicked and those times were not good.i couldnt wait to get out. now the others i could have talked with all day. wish i could afford to see them all more often.

Can I ask you something? Are you doing research or writing a book? Just curious.;)

Here's one another lady told me from a guy who contacted her from another site." Umm, I just need 5 minutes of your time, how's $40? What next? Pay by the minute? LOL. The problem with that other site is there are certain things you are not allowed to state in your ad mainly rates except for hourly rates.. So there are a lot of tire kickers ( you will find 1 or 2 out of 10 guys who become gem clients) or those who attempt to make up different types of sessions according to what THEY want ( i.e. the 5 minute $40-50 session) and one girl will do it and these guys assume that because one did it, that she now has set the bar for the entire SP industry and we will all succumb to it. And then there was a text going around from a U.S. area code that a lot of ladies received from a guy who wanted a bj before payday and that he would give them the money in a few days. Seriously, this industry is getting stranger by the minute aside from the 15 minute appts. If more ladies stuck to their guns and charged their rates by time instead of an "act" none of these shennanigans would be happening. We are escorts and throughout the years we have been known to charge for our time. Both parties know what is going to happen without having to explicitly state it. Now if you don't do this or that, you're tossed to the side because you don't offer all the PSE activities and if you can't stand on your head, well damnit, you're SOL and you won't last according to these guys who think they can have it all including a second round in 15 minutes. It's actually quite amusing. I'll stick to my minimum of a half hour thank-you very much. I'm not a drive thru express lane. ;)

Just sometimes its better to go with ladies with lots of experience is this department. Ouch, poor man . I am sure he was horrified beyond belief.

The salesguy told me they weren't good sellers or words to that effect. I didn't ask for, and he didn't offer, an opinion why that is.

Mine was the same as Lee's... except for all the nature stuff. Instead of a moose substitute "redhead" - deer should be replaced by "brunettes" - ducks replaced by "blondes" - the birds should be replaced by "hot chicks" and the trespasser should be replaced by "younger fit guy that was taking too much attention away." That's life outside in downtown Ottawa on a warm summer's day....

This thread is probably going to sound like unorganized convoluted ramblings, if so sorry for that. We have had some notable members depart CERB for personal reasons and there have been threads come out as a result. First off, this isn't a bash at those threads. It is understandable that people reflect when there is a loss in the community. Yes, a loss in the community. But I decided to start a thread, hopefully positive. First, there are many escort boards, but how many have this sense of community. That the loss of some members is felt by all. It isn't just a case of leaving a board. But something should be kept in context, those members did leave of their own decision. And they can return any time they chose too. They also have respect and thought highly of the CERB community, because they chose to announce their departure, instead of just quietly closing their accounts. One more thing to remember, yes, some notables did depart. But personal life circumstances change (for everyone) and maybe they felt they had been here too long, who knows. But remember, not just those who left, and yes will be missed. Remember the many members still here still contributing to this community But while there has been reflections on the loss of members, maybe attributing it to other factors, we should keep in mind what a positive environment CERB is. I have been on some other _ERB and other escort boards, and left. Maybe CERB isn't perfect (hope Mod doesn't suspend for saying that LOL) but compared to the others, it is pretty close. It allows a forum for discussion while trying to keep a positive atmosphere. It is this positive atmosphere that allows the ladies and gentlemen to interact here equally. And the ladies feel safe here. CERB, it is more a case of we are all opposite sides of the same coin. My impression of the other boards, from my experience, it was more a hobbiest versus SP atmosphere, more a boys club. So yes, it is natural to reflect on the loss of some notable members. But that reflection also reinforces what a great community CERB is. That members are more than just profiles on a board, that their contributions are valued and what make CERB more than just a escort site, it makes it a community. And the losses while still felt, don't or shouldn't, for one second, diminish the sense of community here. I'm sure our departed ex-members would want the CERB community to continue on as it has been going Some ramblings

Whenever I read a thread such as this or one of those "who gives the best oral, etc." I often sigh and shake my head. For me I keep coming back to what I have said over and over again. Guys, put yourself in the ladies shoes for a moment and look at in reverse. How would you, the guy, feel if every SP you met wanted to have a relationship with you? Pretty good at first I am sure but after awhile you wouldn't be hobbying anymore...you would have a girlfriend or wife, which is probably what you're trying to escape from when you are meeting an SP. Don't complicate things by greying the lines between SP/hobbyist as it will inevitably cause issues down the road. Keep in mind how you would feel if roles were reversed.

I'm not emtionally attached to Cerb, for me it is what it is. I enjoy a varied view and find utility in all forums the other erb, twitter etc that are available. Peace MG

And I completely understand where you are coming from Aubrey. As long as everyone keeps this lifestyle in context, and understands it is paid companionship, you can like the ladies you see and the ladies can like the gentlemen they see. But everyone needs to completely understand this lifestyle, the appropriate boundaries, and not confuse the intimacy with love. But it is hard to articulate, isn't it. RG

Although I would highly recommend either, if you refer to mature as in age I wouldn't exactly refer to either as mature. Mature in character, knowledge, worldliness - yes. Great ladies - both of them.

I have never considered and wouldn't as I like some "get to know you time". Suggest you just make it explicit in your ad (especialy on BP), that you don't do quickie appointments - and set a minimum of $45 min or 1 hr, and that should both make guys aware and weed out those just looking for a quick bang.

I was driving my truck on a prairie dirt trail where I work and stopped at a clearing off of a dead end. To the north was a bright yellow canola field in bloom....to the west was a bright blue flax field in bloom...to the south was a golden brown winter wheat field that a combine was just pulling into to harvest their first crop of the season. A lake is close by as well with the sun beaming off of the water. I sat there for a long period of time and enjoyed and pondered life. I saw a moose, 36 deer before I quit counting, many ducks, some Canada geese and literally hundreds of other birds and waterfowl, a coyote....didn't have my gun unfortunately, some rabbits, and a trespasser that I had to ask to leave lol. That I suppose was a highlight too cause I can't stand the arrogant prick. Anywhooo....one of those moments where you love being a country bumkinses !!! WAIT !!! Not done yet ;) haha After some pretty awesome inspiration as of late and some soul searching I have decided this morning that NOW is the time to finally pursue my lifelong dreams ! Professionally and personally. Like a lightning bolt that snapped me out of a freaking coma I can see again !!! That is my biggest highlight of the day.

Couple thoughts.. Just me alone I do know a couple Cerb fellas that sex is not even a part of the equation...it is the companionship and it is real. For me personally this has never been a fantasy.... I used to have fantasies about one of my teachers :) This lifestyle however is my real life. I do what I do eyes wide open, loving every minute of it and it is real. I do agree there are guidlines and work within them. Be respectful and respect those guidelines and then whatever happens .....happens. I tend to use the "I" when voicing my opinion on a topic like this instead of "we" because we are all soo soo sooo different. SP's and hobbists alike.

I totally agree with Emily. To some price means nothing at all. The majority of guests I entertain do not care if my donation is $100 or $1000, in fact that is usually one of the last questions I am asked just so the right amount is on hand. I say this very respectfully as a matter of point.

I just got home from a great afternoon and evening with friends. The guitar was out, steak and lobster were on the menu, the beer was good and we went swimming at their beach. T'was the closest to skinny dipping I have done in a long time. :)

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hmmm might have to make a trip down :)

Got my 5km walk time down from 52 minutes to 47 minutes today! Now, should I add 1km tomorrow or just try to beat my time??? Plus, down another 2lbs and my energy level has risen by leaps and bounds!

Let's say 'hypothetically' that kendra is back at nevada. If this is the case she would not be permitted to see clients outside of nevadas as this is viewed as taking cash out of eric's pocket. This is likely also why she tries to keep a low profile and doesnt advertise with pics. Perhaps it should be assumed that she requests a low profile for valid reasons. It's unlikely that a new kendra would be answering cherry's # and saying she is the old kendra, as many of you that have seen her before would get there and see that she wasn't. Posted via Mobile Device

A slightly different (to me) feeling at Barb's this afternoon (7/27). Different servers. Different shooter girl (although I have a vague memory of seeing her last year around Christmas time - a friend of Jenny's if I recall correctly). There also seemed to be quite a number of unfamiliar dancers, although I haven't been in since late May. Some I recognized - Mia (back from the 'Mate), Serena and a few others. Ariel was looking great and I noticed a tall ebony dancer (Mona, I think) who was very eye-catching. Departed a bit early as Jenny was not in attendance. Perhaps she's off on vacation again - any info re Jenny sightings or her schedule is always of interest.

From my own perspective and that is what I exactly have done. I continue to keep in touch with those, that share a common ground and are good friends. I really don't have a lot to respond to other issues anymore as those issues have been discussed very thoroughly in the past and have become repetitive over my time. Things have been more calm in the past in my opinion only. I think a good portion of people are doing just that, scaling down. I simply rather not get into long discussions that could flame up, it is not worth it in my books and I rather say hello to the ladies, enjoy their albums and get to know them on a personal basis,...... after all that is why I'm here. ;) If people decide to pull the plug, that is their own decision and I support that move,I decided just to stay out of any discussions and give back in some regard to the community> with recommendations. I did say back in 2011 I was not going to post anymore, but fellow friends that enjoyed my input into women that I had the pleasure with wanted me to stick around, guess I was easily influenced ;) Again from my own point of view, I just scaled back and stay clear of any touchy subjects, as I'm here to meet friends create friendship not hardship, that has never been my personality. There was issues a while back, but it seems that (and hopefully) it has disappeared from here. That said, I enjoy chatting to those ladies from past, and now present AND really want to get to know them on a more personal level:) I think keeping a low profile is for the better, well in my case anyways.

I usually ask for a reference from another independent courtesan in the industry before confirming an appointment. I do this for safety reasons, but also because I trust the women here to look out for me and advocate on my behalf if necessary. Every-time I have asked for a reference, I have received prompt and lovely e-mails, PMs, and messages from the courtesan(s) in question and I've been delighted to hear my perspective client is a respectable gentlemen. Not all references are as beautiful, but that is what screening is all about. I'm very reluctant (in fact, I refuse) to accept references from agencies. More often then not, they don't have the necessary information I need to properly screen my potential patrons. I'm also reluctant because I don't know the woman personally, and often it isn't the provider in question that I will speak to but rather the agency owner/manager. I know not all agencies are like this, but if a service provider asks for a reference from an independent provider, there are usually very good reasons for this. Please respect our wishes and don't provide us with a reference from an agency. I'm not speaking on behalf of all independent ladies on CERB, but I know a lot of us feel similarly. Lately a lot of my perspective clients have offered agencies as references. There are other things we can do to screen and you simply need to ask. This is advice I would like to give to all the newbies out there :) the more experienced gents should know better ;) Fondly, Nat

Getting up early this morning, like always, checking my emails (because my boat is now at the marina up for sale and can't go fishing :-( ) and what email greets me...my on-line bill for cable...sucks getting a bill first thing in the morning But went to my on-line banking and it's paid, well till next time at least RG

I just try to ensure the conversation is respectful and genuine. I really enjoy the conversations I have with the fabulous women I see. They are bright, engaging and intelligent women, and generally we have no trouble carrying on a conversation. Think of it like a first date with someone you like and want to impress. You wouldn't pry on a first date, and stay away from more sensitive personal issues. On later dates, sometimes these things get discussed, but they should be at the lady's initiative.

I love wearing stocking of all kinds, I love the ones with the seam up the back, so classy and sexy. At this time of year though I always check with my gentleman friend if he is ok with the bare leg look. Even for a short time stockings are a killer in the heat. Its fun to show of our pretty bare legs as well. :biggrin:

Mmmm black stockings and fishnets always make me feel so sexy ... Love them! Such a nice touch :)