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That's what I need to do for sure. Every day I'm all 'I'm gonna clean my house from top to bottom!' then think...where did the day go, lol For me, I realize that when I REALLY want to do something, I can. I quit smoking because I wanted to, and it was easy. I decided a year-and-a-half ago that I wanted to get a car, so I got my G1, took drivers ed, and got my G2 and a car all in less than a year. But I also said last year I was going to learn to speak French over the winter. I failed. I've also said I'm going to cut junk food out, and I don't. I know that I am the reason these things aren't happening. I could do them. But I don't feel like committing the time to learning/I like eating the occasional pack of pretzel M&Ms. If either thing becomes a real need, or a real problem, then I am certain I can take care of it. But for now as much as I may say I want to learn/stop eating junk...I'm kinda enjoying things as they are

How hard is it to quit smoking? You join the gym do you go? Trying to lose weight? Cutting back on something? Whatever it is it can be tough so I was thinking why not have a motivation thread for your goals. A place you can post accomplishment or milestone. Maybe give advice on ways to help motivate or achieve? And there no shame either in asking for advice? Its been 4 months since I decide I need to change my lifestyle. I was going down a dark path alone. I was very unhappy and physically losing my health because I just didn't care. I've been going to the gym regularly several time a week. I've changed my eating habits which is difficult at times. Cut fast food out of my life along with soda. At first I would crave these things but now I don't. I may not be on a huge diet but cutting out the worst things in my diet was helped wonders. As for being happy for sure I have my ups and down but I had an exquisite beautiful lady told me to think positive stuff, don't look at the negative and smile. It's helped quite a bit. I also learned take time for myself, helping others all the time is not alway good if you don't take time for yourself. I still have some ways to go but, it's vast improvement.

again this is not an exact science..., (thast the beauty of it! always different, and fun)there is many factors that will change depending onm each MPs, even the MAs... As mentiion in many other threads, general information helps, but one cannot make assumptions. If you are interested in a particulare lady (ies) communicate, and ask pertinent questions or a particular MP, also contact management and I am sure they will also answer questions as best as possible!

Peachy, the activities I offer, or am invited to partake in, generally run along the lines of lunch or dinner, going to the theatre, a private party, gallery opening, book or poetry reading. I charge social rates for these events. I am also willing to go to dungeons and to kinky events, assuming that the prospective client meets my screening requirements, and my fees are significantly higher then. In those cases, the dungeon or event hosts have insurance that covers participants and in some places we'd need to sign waivers, accepting that there's a risk of injury for which the management is not responsible. I have third party liability insurance for my home which should take care of anyone being injured if, say, there's a fire or someone trips on a carpet and falls down. I think that for most activities, you don't need to worry. You're just two people who are doing something together, like playing tennis or jogging. You're not assuming extraordinary responsibility for your client or representing yourself as someone who has particular expertise upon which the client can depend. If you're really worried about something, though, check with a lawyer.

go with the LEd battery candles.... some of them smell and feel like wax...and flicker real nice.....some even have remote controls...... they come in all sizes and styles.... and no mess.....

I pretty much only receive at my place, and never had to worry about anything. It should not be more difficult, nor more worrysome, than going to visit on an incall if you discuss it with a reputable lady. In these cases, nosy neignbors or not, it just looks like someone is visiting you.

One of the first think you may want to consider is your choice of words. Because an MP doesn't provide FS doesn't mean she isn't worth seeing. What will make your first time worth it is based on your expectations. What is it your looking for is what you have to figure out. Reading recommendation threads on SPs and MPs will help. Also look at the ads, profiles and websites(if available) of ladies that you might be interested in. Often services are described. One thing for sure, your choice of words and how you approach a lady is of the upmost importance. Its all about Respect!!!!

Its a great idea, there is more to companionship and an encounter than intimacy and sometimes people need ideas put in front of them. It is some excellent to add to what is already available and you will probably attract some new clients from it. Im not sure what type of social activities you are interested in offering, but unless it is some extreme sport or bull running I cant understand what you would be thinking about requiring insurance? If you and I go bungee jumping and I get hurt, are you responsible for my actions, not at all. Your responsible when your client leaves drunk after a few drinks and drives and causes an accident. How you worded the being active was great and I highly doubt anyone wishing to be active with you would have an issue with you not being a trainer as long as your upfront with it.

Hey there!! I'll be visiting your city and just wanted to introduce myself! I'm also just wondering if there's a lot of ebony lovers out there!;) Perhaps you can mention what you love most about us chocolate girls!

I think most of us feel more comfortable in our own space so in that sense I prefer hosting however, I do enjoy outcalls and understand that is more convenient for some gentlemen. I feel more at ease when is with someone I have met or have communicated for a while but I do not worry about safety as I would not meet someone I have concerns about for incall either. The only thing I would not feel comfortable with and I'm not saying is wrong just is not for me, is to visit someone at the place he shares with someone, particularly when that someone is a SO. I find is a bit disrespectful (and I'm talking on my side, I do not judge the other person views on it) and also there is a certain level of risk as even when the other person is not expected things happen and plans change and having the person show up while I'm there would change a nice date to a disaster one.

Ummmm..... if you two plan on cutting back on social networking then quit facebook or lavalife or Fat Bastards Review Board or something.... But keep posting here cause posts like the two above make my day and I am sure many other guys here too ;)

As a recent newbie myself, I totally agree with nobody123's comment.

I'd like to add a caveat to the answers Styler has received. There will be no bait and switch, theft, or any other shenanigans as long as you visit one of the well known and recommended massage providers or visit one of the licensed establishments in town. But if you choose a random encounter with an unknown from, say, BP or somesuch, then you are running some risk. Maybe not the same risk as a random unknown SP, but some risk nonetheless. It never hurts to do your homework. Having said that, don't be chicken. Dive in! Book yerself a massage today, durnit! It's a safe, fun, and perfectly legal activity that will leave you smiling and relaxed.

Maybe it's because I'm a newbie and don't understand all the rules here but your post seemed a little angry to me and I don't understand why. The guy was asking about a fantasy he had so I would think that kind of thing wouldn't be out of the norm here. You seem to imply it's a $$ thing which even if it is I don't see why that would bother you, I'm assuming that would be between the client and the lady. He wasn't asking anyone for a discount. Sorry if I'm talking out of line I'm just surprised at the reaction to a new member's fantasy.

To add another voice, there are those MP's like myself who provide both services depending on what you might be looking for. Best to research the ladies you're interested in as most have websites or reco's that could provide the answers you're looking for. If not, say hello and inquire. Both services have their own beauty and each should be explored as you're able. Good luck with finding the right SP for you!!

Being a hobbyist who almost exclusively opts for outcalls, I see no problem with it. As long as you stick to reputable and recommended ladies, you should have no issues. If you're a bit apprehensive, I'd suggest you book an upscale hotel room for your first appointment with them. That way, you can meet someone new on a neutral turf before inviting them to your residence. I did that for many years, with much success.

I have done outcalls in the past and will continue to do them just as long as I get proper verification. I also check in with someone before and after while I'm on an outcall. As long as you know the SP is reputable and discrete in her behaviour and how she dresses, you should be fine. When I first started out with an agency, I would get the driver to drop me off a few houses down so no one would see a car pulling up. I also dressed tastefully so I wouldn't draw any attention to myself.

Thats pretty much it generally speaking, but is always best to talk to the lady, ies that interest you to find out what the offer or not. Additional Comments: Agrium description of an MA service is absolutely correct, our focus as MAs is directed towards sensuality, tease and erotism... More than in the actual finish! Is about the entire experience!

In my experience an MP usually offers a happy ending via HJ(sometimes a Russian), however the focus of the service is far more directed at massage/sensual touching/teasing/etc. Its worth a call to ask if you are still unsure ;)

Ahem. I believe the issue here was about nasty business experienced by a client when he was dealing with a provider. Let it be said that I have NEVER had to share that experience in the world of paid companions... or mystery house guests who want to have sex with me if I leave a money laden envelope in plain sight... or magical princesses transported to my location from the sexy planet of Humpalottus.... the vast majority of women in this industry are far more diligent about the delicate matters of pooter maintenance than women in the vanilla world. That's a fact, Jack. That being said, ladies, if you wouldn't be willing to rub a finger inside and stick it under your nose and then in your mouth, the likelihood is that your cooch is a scary place. It's the same thing with foreskin... if you think you smell cheese, it's a BAD thing. Go to the shower, set the pulsating massage head to POWER WASH grab some soap and have at it... repeat until you would go down on yourself, you sexy soapy hygienic beast, you. As for the post coital shower... ummmm... if you are a client, knock yourself out. Take that shower. Scrub like a demon. Apply sparkles to your junk. You deserve it ... you are one handsome, satisfied and ultra clean dude. But... again if you are a client... ummmmm.... why do you care if she showers AFTER the fact and in your presence? She knows she has to maintain and frankly it's none of your business where or when it gets done! Your transaction or mystery visit or whatever the hell you want to call it is OVER. Jeebus. and now, a song... sung to the tune of Carolina in the Morning... me, me, me, me (that's just doing some vocal exercises... feel free to join) Nothing could be finer than to have a clean vagina for your session, Nothing could be sweeter than to have a cleaner wiener for your session, Yelling dirty stories Screamed through the door, And orgasmic glories Rattling the floor. Rolling with a girlie with a necklace made of pearly in the session, No longer you're a loner cuz she's playing with your boner in the session, If I had Aladdin's lamp for only a day, I'd make a wish and here's what I'd say: Nothing could be finer than to have a clean vagina for your session. I'm a freakin' musical genius....

I had one employee that I interviewed and hired a few years ago. She was actually brilliant at her job and I was please with my choice as an employee. However, over a little time she would innocently flirt with me and find reasons to have to come and talk to me about whatever projects she happened to be working on and being that she was 15 years younger than me I admit I found it cute and endearing. From time to time I definately would daydream about laying her up on my desk pulling up her skirt and going down on her then turning her around and ...... I digress. It was all "just daydreaming" until one day she came into my office and closed the door. I had no idea what she was up to until she turned and sat infront of me, she was crying. She opened up to me about her life and boyfriend and their problems and how he had cheated on her. She went on for a little while and I just listened but eventually she stopped reached over and touched my hand across the desk and said, "why couldn't he be like you". She just didn't say another word just stared at me and waited for my response. In my head alarm bells were ringing and I was like, "oh fuck, awkward moment". In my wisdom, I went off on a speech about youth and love and how she had so much more to experience and how there was surely a perfect person out there who whould cherish her in the way she deserved and maybe she could use the opportunity to make a fresh start in her life. I told her to look and wait for the silver lining. After I finished my talk I told her to go home for the rest of the day and just deflate. As soon as she left I picked up my phone and made a few calls and called in a couple of favours. The next day she mysterously got a call from a head hunter from one of my competitors who happen to need someone of just her skillset as a manager for one of their departments at a considerable pay and responsibility increase. That week she resigned and took the new job excited that such a great opportunity just found her just when she needed it. To this day she has no idea how it happened. My fantasy could have very easily become reality but that's not me to take advantage of any situation. I just need to find another fantasy now, a safer one. Chuck

Candle light is sexy, warm, inviting. Great to fool around in. But now some may want to think twice about it, I certainly am. After noticing a black sooty residue on my curtains, appliances, furniture I've come to realize burning candles may not be a good idea. I first noticed the soot around my baseboard heaters so I thought they were the cause, hired some professionals, long story short we have all come to the conclusion the cause is burning candles. So to those who burn them- I was burning them about every couple of days for an hour or so at a time, you may want to think twice. This soot is almost impossible to get out, especially from draperies . Just a little fyi.

had a big ol' bowl of fruit loops this morning mmmmmm

I can't speak to the cravings - it's an issue that still daunts me. In the grander scheme, my motivation is to wake up tomorrow morning. That will be the goal for me for the rest of my life... just to wake up tomorrow morning - everything else is gravy. Major health concerns will do that to you - they let you understand the best thing in life is life itself. Set goals if you wish - but don't forget to live - TODAY. I "died" for the briefest of moments 12 years ago. I had no vital signs. I was a young, healthy man with the world at my feet. My heart decided to just stop. Genetics had given me astronomically bad cholesterol levels to which I was completely oblivious. I was chastised by many physicians who claimed my life was a train wreck, accusing me of all kinds of physical debauchery - but the family physician actually sat me down and said, "this isn't your fault. Your body is betraying you." It was the day of my heart surgery that I said to myself, "if you get through this, you are going to cherish every day." I have. There are still things that I would like to do, things I want to do... but if I can't get to them, I will be satisfied with being happy. In reality, that is what should matter most to all of us. So set your goals. Battle hard to make them work. Do whatever you can to achieve them - but never forget the universal truth. All you have and all you are is what you are experiencing right now. The past is gone and the future may never be. Live, laugh and love and help others around you do the same.

I don't think I've ever been in a threesome WITHOUT a double BJ! But maybe that's just because I only do threesomes with girls who like to give oral as much as I do, :D

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I don't want this taken the wrong way. We are accountable for everything we do or don't do in life. Our actions alone leave us with the cards we deal ourselves. I find comfort in living this way. I by no means have a perfect life, but what I have realized over time is I have no hard feelings for anyone. Simply put if I am with someone who drives me crazy, that is because I choose to let them be in my life. I am not accountable for their actions, just how I deal with it. That doesn't mean I can deal with everything. Like anyone else out there, some things are very difficult to change or correct. But there is comfort in my mind to be able to understand I have control and when a decision has been made, good or bad, I accept it as my decsion and the result is mine only because of that decision. For everyone who can accept that, changes will come easier and the results will help you get to your own level of comfort.

I'm probably a borderline alcoholic, as I can't seem to go a week without wine, but I'm proud that I've cut back from 4-6 bottles a week to 1-2 bottles. I seem to appreciate the buzz more when it's less frequent. And yes, I drink for the buzz, I'm not going to beat around the bush, I love the feeling of slightly altered consciousness. It's a reminder that we can't trust our senses, that they're easily manipulated. As an added bonus, I don't embarrass myself on CERB quite as often. Wine and women, are they any better pleasures? :P

As Nicholette said if you kow you are dealing with a pofessional and discreet sp then having them visit is perfectly okay. I love doing outcalls but I am picky about where I will go and as long as you give me proper verification I'll have no issues with going to a home/hotel. A professional sp forgets where she was and with whom after the session is over. For me doing outcalls is less worrisome as my locations discretion isn't at risk.

Coffee, scrambled eggs, sausages, home fries, and brown toast at the Wellington St. Diner.

Had my car detailed, looks like new again:)

Use electric candle

Smiles are infectious So I want so send out a BIG smile to everyone in New Brunswick.

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Very wise decisions. :)

This post was brought to my attention cause in a way this could be considered advertising (but it also is a discussion if worded better!). TIP: When posting stuff like this it's best to avoid saying stuff like "I was thinking about adding" when you post this way it becomes self promotion (and you can not advertise outside the advertising area). It would be best to say "if a lady wanted to add services like personal training or yoga...." allowing the conversation without the personal advertising element. Now, with that said here is a interesting thing I was told about wavers in Ontario (Probably all of Canada) but apparently wavers can actually work against the person who is requesting the wavers be signed. The courts apparently see this as "You know this activity could cause body harm" and becomes a admittance making you guilty and liable if someone gets injured. The wavers apparently do not protect the person/company (but because we watch so much USA tv it does act as a deterrent cause in the USA the wavers actually do protect the person/company from much legal action as we just assume the laws are the same here). Also as far as I know you do not need to have any certification to be a yoga instructor or personal trainner but it would be smart to get some LIABILITY insurance (ANYONE TRAINING or ANYONE who allows public into home or work SHOULD DO THIS). It covers you if someone slips and falls or whatever the case may be.... and it's not that expensive! A few years ago I helped a friend set up a store and I think it was like 56.00 a month for 2 million liability insurance (or something crazy like that). Probably a really smart thing to look into - especially if you own any assets (house, car, etc... or plan to in the future). That's my 2cents... and please again when posting avoid self promotion / advertising outside the announcements area. thanks.

Did you know.... The female praying mantis bites off the males head during mating.... (Nothing says I love you like canibalism)

Thanks for doing the work to collect this stuff together, cyclo - much appreciated! I know that digging all this stuff up takes significant effort. One thing I do want to address, though, is the relative reliability of the science here. There's a huge problem with this kind of thing is that the relative risk of particular acts is almost impossible to establish. Many people who have acquired HIV probably can't tell you with any certainty who they got it from, never mind shed any light on what they may have been doing at the time, and discounting for the moment that most of us probably don't limit our sexual interactions to just one way of having fun. And that's before you have to account for the fact that people may indeed lie, or simply misremember things without any actual attempt at malice. Unfortunately, you can't actually do proper, scientific experiments on this stuff; you just can't take a thousand HIV+ guys, and have a thousand uninfected people give them one BBBJ each, and then see how many are infected in turn. And so we have to make the best of what we have available, and study the ferociously complex mess that is real life for real people and make the most sense of it that we can. And so, yes, there will always be a margin of error; frequently it'll be a very large margin for lots of different errors. What's as important as anything else is for studies to be honest about the assumptions they've made, about the flaws in their methodology, and the limitations of the available data sets.

@CH I doubt any professional lady would go visit another gentleman or host anyone without showering first. I do agree with Luxe, I would never shower anywhere other than my place. As much as I had checked references and feel safe I wouldn't feel comfortable with that. As far as germs come, I shower as soon as I get home and I do know there are no germs in my shower, meaning I am certain that is clean and I have no way to know that at someone else's. And also as Luxe pointed out we have our own products and clean clothes to wear, unless the lady who showers at someone else's place brings clean clothes then what's the point of the shower?

This might not be the norm, but nothing is hotter to me than a woman who is a great kisser. I find the act itself to be the most erotic part of any encounter. The way it comes about should, in my opinion, be initiated by the sp. If you put yourself in their position for a moment, it only makes sense for that type of intimacy to be their choice. I also think that you are taking a risk by just diving in without being provoked to do so. Any advance you make that is not well received would surely destroy any mood that may have been present. The power is, and always will be in your hands ladies. Peace all. xo.

Karina, having met you during your last visit to Ottawa my first reaction to your post is that the person you are referring to is one lucky fellow! In a very short time I felt your kindness and passion for life. Having spent "off the clock" social time with a few SP's and several dancers over the years I've found that many times people are different outside the bedroom. In a hotel room, without a personal relationship, there is the fantasy component for which the chemistry doesn't always translate to a personal relationship. I'd strongly recommned, if you havn't already, spend some time "off the clock" time with him in a personal social setting; perhaps dinner, hockey game, going for a walk, anything mutually enjoyable. Its not as unusual as some think for an SP and client to do something casual, especially out of town SPs. Goodness, last year I took a visiting SP to the grocery store since she had just arrived in town, was staying in a suite and needed to do groceries lol. I really feel the key is to get to know the guy in a real social setting. You may find a different person, or perhaps your initial feelings will be confirmed. I think then, after spending time together, through conversation you'll be able to tell if his feelings are mutual and if his personal circumstances are such that he is even able to pursue a relationship. I will say thou, I'm not an expert on this, but wanted to at least give you my thoughts. JacK PS: Feel free to fall for me anytime!

I just wanted to take the time to chime into this thread.....the hot tub getaway room is an amazing experience....there was a lot of thought and time put into this room....it features a hot tub,wall to wall mirrors,overized custom shower,inroom sink and fireplace for your enjoyment....please note that we are very particular on cleanliness....the hot tub is checked daily and the appropriate chemicals are added....the hot tub has built in lighting to set a relaxing ambiance....our hot tub is also very therapeutic...it features massage jets that losing up your muscles to promote the best massage experience .....we also do regular water changes....and we do have 2 rules in this room....number 1 everyone to please shower before entering the tub and number 2 no funny business in the tub....we want to keep the tub clean and ask everyone to respect the rules in order to ensure a clean hot tub...our spa is also inspected by the City of Ottawa Health Department on a yearly basics to ensure health and safety for the public.

I have built my business on the "slow down and savour" model. I realized when I returned to Canada that in my career, my favorite times and most memorable moments were those that I spent "time" with a guest. I remember those special men that took the time to get to know me and allow me to know them as people, not just a romp. Today I dedicate my energy to those men that know they want more than just a play partner, they want a NSA relationship that is beneficial to both of us on more than just a physical/financial level. They need to want the connection that comes from knowing and genuinely liking someone. I want to look forward to my guests, to count down the sleeps till I see them and savour the experience from the moment they walk thru the door until they depart with kisses and and our next visit is scheduled. I refuse to waste a minute with someone I can't connect with even tho this is my work. I don't want to be rushed or feel like I'm counting the minutes till he leaves. Life is too short to be taken for granted and our time is too precious to waste. So ciego5757, yes you can take your time. You just need to choose partners that see the world the same way... cat

Try contacting Katherine....

When I was just an INDY, I did not get bothered by the question, " where are you from", BUT now..... I have my ladies that I represent and have much more responsibility in protecting their personal information. I do not like this question" where is she from" because just like the hobbyist, they want to protect their identity and personal information. I will not give where they were born and raised. More than likely you get the answer...You will have to ask her yourself... ALSO!!! Do not ask a lady who is represented by agency " how much does the agency give you" First of all...I do not GIVE them a certain amount....THEY PAY me a certain amount for my work involved....and to be ask such question is simply no ones business, only the lady and I. That is like asking your colleague in the office how much they make on their paycheck. I work for them...not the other way around...

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