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Here is my take on a smile.....BTW..all the ladies here(CERB) have a beautiful smile :) "A Smile" It costs nothing, but creates much It enriches those who receive, Without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the memory of it lasts forever. None are so rich they can get along without it And none so poor but are richer for its benefits. It creates happiness in the home, Fosters good will in a business, And is the countersign of friends. It is rest to the weary, daylight to the discouraged, Sunshine to the sad, and nature's best antidote for trouble. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, For it is something that is no earthly good to anybody Till it is given away. If someone is too tired to give you a smile, Leave one of yours. For, nobody needs a smile so much As those who have none to give. Author: Anonymous

I'm not sure if it's changed my life, but since joining cerb nearly 2 yrs ago-I believe it'll be 2yrs in may I've become more open and affectionate towards men, much more confident about my abilities, myself, and my appearence. Less worried about what others think about me. I've learned how to bite my tongue and how to better phrase things while still being my forthright, blunt self. I've learned that being an sp doesn't make me less of a woman, as a matter of fact I think it's taught me to be more womanly. Since joining cerb I have become completely comfortable with knowing that being an sp is nothing to be ashamed of, that we deserve as much respect as any other professional, and anyone that tells me differently can kiss my :icon_biggrin:! thank you very much.

It's time for a break from the insanity and the sometimes cruel world that we live in, so take the time to watch a cat who loves to be vacuumed, will it answer why or who, no. Will it erase the horrific images, no but maybe for just a small stitch in time it might just put a smile on your face. Peace, love and hugs to everyone and anyone who feels they could use some right now.

In honour of her return to this country, I would like to nominate Malika Fantasy as CERB Goddess of the Day! I've missed her very blunt and witty posts over the past few weeks! Welcome back Malika!!

Hey everyone, I'm happy to announce that Sex Brains & Money is back for another season, and I just wanted to share the segments from the last episode. You can check out past guests and previous episodes on our official website, www.sexbrainsmoney.com! Segment 1: Opening the show at our new location Segment 2: Terri-Jean Bedford reading a passage from her new book, "Bondage Bungalow Fantasies" Segment 3: Terri-Jean discussing the upcoming Supreme Court hearings Segment 4: Closing out the show and a few more words on the SCC hearings on June 12 I always enjoy getting feedback, please feel free to let me know what you think! :)

Hiding ones face in pics shouldn't be considered a bad sign. Alot of girls need to protect their identity from others they don't want knowing about this business. We all know how long pictures and info can remain online after one decides to call it quits' date=' some don't want reminders popping up long after they they stop providing. Not showing face pics is one way of doing that. What ever a girl decides to show in pictures, following the particular sites rules, is definetly her choice and should be respected. Sorry to the op I don't have any info on the girls addressed.[/color']

You should never ask a Lady for "this service" only price, it is time related first, as is clearly stated, that's just common sense, you pay for a period of time with her. It is of course rude and disrespectful, she has indicated prices for different times not services, services are provided in the time alotted. I mean she is "giving" you her body for a period, that is a huge thing for her to be just doing. I am not sure giving is the right word, I didn't know what else to say which is why I put it in quotations. Be thankful that the ladies even see us, give them the consideration they deserve, and in the end, a tip always.

I have learnt that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. No matter how bad you have it, there is somebody worst off. To stop worrying about something. Imagine the worst that could happen in your situation. If you can live with the outcome, then you can stop worrying as the worst will probably not happen and if it did, you already know that you can accept it and live with it. I've learnt that the Cerb community is a very knowledgeable and caring bunch. There are a lot of fun regular people in Cerb Chat Each encounter with a Cerb woman seems to get better and better. Cerb women are a sexy, beautiful and caring. Most of my dates with Cerb women have exceeded my expectations. One Kind deed leads to another.

I've been paying more attention to the positive stories today...the tales of kindness and goodness that are often overlooked in disasters. I find the media pays too much attention to the blood, gore, smoke and fire, and when a suspect is found, they cover every detail of their life. This only encourages other attention-seeking madmen to create their own act of mayhem. I don't know if any of you are redditors (http://www.reddit.com), but when everything started unravelling yesterday, pages immediately sprung up from people offering everything they could - places to stay, meals, cell phones, frequent flyer miles, hotel stays...the list is endless, and impressive. As someone posted previously...look to the helpers. They're always there, and deserve more praise and attention.

Gents when in doubt about whether a picture in an ad is real, the best free tool available is TinEye Reverse Image search. http://www.tineye.com/ Just type the URL into the box, click the search box and voila - you either have the real deal or evidence of bait and switch. Bookmark it in your toolbar, it's a great way to save yourself some hard earned cash.

Hey there yes i went and seen her i was in the area and thought i should check it out . keep you money

There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship while you are working in this business. There are more ladies who are dating someone or married in this business than people realize. Like anything else what happens at work, stays at work and outside of the closed door you live your life as everyone else does. Having a partner who supports you and who understands you will only benefit you and your business in the long run. We have to fib as it is 90% of the time with our double life, so having someone who gets it makes it that much easier to feel normal at times. Most of the men we spend time with are married or have a girlfriend, so why shouldn't we have the same personal pleasure?

Well, it's been far too long since I posted here! So, someone I haven't given a tip o' the hat to yet... EmJ! So, what do you want to know that you don't know already? She's smart. She's funny. She's hot. But you can get all that from reading her posts and looking at her pics, so you don't need me to spell it out for you. And, of course, she's very religious... You can visit the temple if you like... but you probably won't see too much of it, because the High Priestess is terribly distracting... Anyway, we're very lucky to have her here on the board! Hopefully she'll stay with us for a long time to come.

This thread hits close to my heart. Thank you, Karina, for being so forthcoming and honest about your feelings. It has created a safe environment for people to post about their own experiences. Hopefully we can all learn from one another, and move forward with compassion, kindness, and love for ourselves. Perhaps this isn't the appropriate place or time to discuss my experiences, but this story might illuminate the complexities of loving people, regardless of whether the relationship is bounded by the particular circumstances of the SP/client relationship. I hope this helps, Karina, and I hope others who are reading are compassionate and understanding. In May 2011, a client and I fell in love. Was it wrong? Definitely not. Was it complicated? Very. We had so much in common and he inspired me. He encouraged me to apply to law school, write poetry, start a blog, and share my thoughts with the world. At one point he bought me a beautiful leather bound journal and said I inspired him as well. We wrote e-mails to each other endlessly, and saw each other approximately every two weeks. He was writing a novel, and I was reading it and providing him feedback on it. The novel's love story turned out to be representative of the love he and I shared. As he learned more about my life, he would integrate those moments into the narrative. It was beautiful to see our love story unfold both on paper, via e-mail, and in real life. The problem: he was single but contemplating getting back together with his ex and I was in a relationship with a woman I married several months later. While on a trip to Chicago, he and I decided to part ways. After a morning of blissful relaxation, lovemaking, kissing, and caressing, we went out for lunch. I looked at him and said I felt very confused and conflicted. I told him I loved him, but that it was complicated. I asked him what we were doing, and whether we wanted to move forward with a 'relationship'. With hindsight, I recognize that we were already in a relationship, simply a relationship of a different nature. Neither of us had satisfying answers. My relationship with this client was bounded by the financial exchange, but I knew I would lose my relationship with my partner if I continued to see him. We walked to Millenium Park and sat on a bench, and watched people walk by. We held hands, and we both cried and mourned the end of our relationship. While he and I were negotiating my departure from Chicago (and the relationship) we had doubts. He said "even how we have discussed this, with so much love, compassion, and understanding, makes me wonder whether we are making a mistake Nathalie" I shook my head, I wasn't sure. I went home to my partner, told her what happened, and that was the beginning of the end of my relationship with her. We separated in the summer of 2012. At the time, I made the decision that made sense for me. I have no regrets. However, Karina, I would ask that you not romanticize relationships that aren't bounded by a financial exchange. Money does not necessarily corrupt authentic love and intimacy, rather, it's our discomfort with the idea of mixing both that causes tension. I think it's important to keep in mind that most relationships have unnegotiated financial dynamics (for example, many marriages and long-term relationships) which can cause much more tension than the honest and open communication that's possible with clients in this industry. If it feels right to you, then tell him, whilst simultaneously keeping in mind all the questions, comments, and concerns raised by Samantha Evans as well as others. None of us are walking in your shoes (or his). Wanting to keep love, intimacy, and care in one world, and money in another is what most people do, but we should all have a better understanding of what really happens in this industry... it is so much more complicated than that, isn't it?

Okay Soooooo I am sure you have heard of the Ispos or Angus Reid poll right ? Well today I did a random LeeRichards poll by text. Why text you ask ? 1 I have no idea ? 2 You can't hang up on me 3 You can't yell at me 4 You can't tell me to fuck off without at least typing "f u c k o f f " hehe Soooooo let me have a look see here ! ..... hmmmm ....... The one ? reply was that ........she ................wears a bra !!!!! Cause her nipples are always happy to see me :D I love nipples :) ooooza boooza Okay the poll is closed now. ps.....BUT feel free to text me your bra or bra'less, covered up or weeeeeee I am freeeee type of opinions anytime. My phone is on 24/7 !!

Yummy pogos. Haven't had those in ages. Got to eat some rusty romaine salad (at least they had cranberries and walnuts in the salad) and vegetable soup (though they advertised mushroom soup on the cafeteria menu, and I so wanted/love mushroom soup).

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I LOVE BOOBS !! YES YES I DO !!!!! BOOBS BOOBS BOOBS :) Wait minute .....this a post about bra's oops a ding dong daisy.... nevermind sorry bout that Well personally I never wear one. My boobs are just the right size and don't need support. So far all the fatty foods, bacon and beer in the most part goes straight to my hips and ass and belly but I suppose someday when it runs out of room there it may migrate up to my boobs . Therefore I best pay attention here. I wouldn't want saggy man boobs now would I ;) Anyways that was just plain silly but I am bored so my fingers just went to town on the keyboard there. Sigh !!

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I wonder gents, what's the most important quality (in your opinion) in an SP? What makes you decide if you want to see her again? Just curious. :)

Kissing is the best part of the encounter. Can't see having fun if there is no kissing :( I've been lucky and have always had kissing. Lately I've requested necking sessions and have been rewarded with a lot of kissing :)

I would go by Colonnade first.

The ladies are discrete and your privacy is respected. That said, as Vitto points out the ladies have family and friends who know nothing about this aspect of their life. Long story short, you have nothing to worry about from the ladies, as intimate as the nature of this lifestyle is, the ladies are professional companions and as such only express personal interest in you during an encounter, but won't do so in public outside of an encounter. Remember though, the ladies expect the same discretion from you. If you see a lady out in public outside of this lifestyle, don't say hi, or acknowledge her in any way. Maybe later a discrete private email saying hi is ok. But in public, outside of this lifestyle you don't know any of the ladies you see, and the ladies don't know you. This is a very secret lifestyle, and it's the only way to protect your privacy and the lady's privacy All that said, have fun RG

8 year old Marin Richard losing his life in the Boston bombing yesterday. So sad...

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For me, attractiveness, sweetness and composure. Playful is great too! I think it is a talent to make the hobbyist feel at ease.

Agree with the amount of information in Cerb - one thing I would think when going to a MP is to feel comfortable with the place/environment, cleanliness and attitude of the MP. Turn offs on experience with a robot MP vs someone who likes what they are doing makes a world of difference on the experience.

Definitely have to have some kissing. ...it feels forced or fake even without it...just my opinion but I think honesty and openness to be the most important factors when I'm meeting with a hobbyist Idk how else I'd begin lol. It's definitely awkward when it isn't present. ...just my two cents worth

Hello tas510: As a fellow disabled member and a longtime advocate of sexual rights I know all too well some of the difficulties you face. The people here have really hit the nail on the head as far as advice. One aspect which hasn't been mentioned thus far, and it can be a sticky one for some people because it in itself can carry a stigma of its own, is the consideration of a potential client on a fixed income, which includes myself. What follows, is my methodology to insure that all needs are met both in regards to myself and the service provider. If none of this is applicable to your situation please do feel free to ignore it. I actually keep a separate account exclusively for service provider dates. [For some reason, overtime this has become known as my "Secret Squirrel Account" :) I can hear the psychoanalysis having a field day with regards to that title.] Having the money separate really does take the pressure off on so many levels. You probably have some idea of what a, if there is such a thing, "typical" date costs after looking around CERB. Aim for that; it may take some time, but you know it will happen. Each letter of introduction send out to it perspective service provider is personalized. I spent a fair bit of time reading the individual's web site and forum messages to anticipate any concerns they may have. This helps encourage dialogue. When it comes to disability, some service providers can be rather shy about asking questions directly. It is a human trait we all share. Encourage people to ask questions in her own words. Provide links to articles related to your particular condition so they can look infomation up on their own, if they want to. Be clear about what you expect and want. [i avoid acronyms to encourage openness and clarity. The huge arraying of these short hands also drive my voice dictation software crazy.] If you are unsure about how to accomplish something, say that too. Sex workers are incredibly creative people who love to explore. I explicitly state in each letter that I am on a fixed income. But beyond that though, I do not make it an issue or haggle about the price. Simply stating that I may not be the most frequent client is sufficient. It keeps things honest and clear. Removing another potential stumbling block to communication. Unless they prefer phone calls as the initial communication. I only contact them directly after a successful dialogue via e-mail has been established.. Finally, do not expect a reply immediately. Some people have a large amount of e-mail to go through. Do not be disheartened if there is no reply. But do keep on looking. One last thing. If you're inclined to be apolitical in this regard. A number of years ago a grass-roots group, here in Vancouver B.C. was formed by disabled persons and health professionals to explore and expand the issue of sexuality for the disabled. The "Equitable Access to Sexual Expression" group. (EASE) Things are starting to rock and roll. They are beginning to open up dialogues all over the place, on many fronts. I encourage you and all interested members to check them out! Here is their face book page. A web site is in the works. Take care, PatrickGC

Bombs are something that really sucks. Prayers please for Boston, Mass..

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I have dated three women who worked in this business. Only one of those three situations caused problems. Two things I saw that attributed to that was: She could not keep her working experiences to herself, always talking about what she did to this guy or that guy or what they did to her and the stuff she really liked. That caused jealousy on my part. Especially if she did stuff that we weren't doing regularly in our own relationship. Second, she always used me as an excuse to not work, because she said she didn't want to hurt my feelings for not being with me enough. At the same time when we were together she took calls and di last minute dates. The other two relationships were great!, Why? Because the work was kept discreet, no discussions. Our time together was pre-determined so there were no interuptions from phone calls, or last minute appointments. Our time together was our time. I never imposed on their working days either. Keeping those two simple things in mind, a relationship while working was do-able.

I just found this place, and just wanted to say that I really appreciate the good information here. I'll be visiting Ottawa on business next month and it will make finding suitable entertainment much easier :)

There is an entire section of the forums dedicated to legal issues. I'm too lazy to look it up, but I bet there is some extensive discussion of massage activities. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=279 (hope the link works) Short version is: There are dozens of fully, 100% legal massage "body rub" establishments in Ottawa, (and other major Canadian cities like Toronto, etc). In said establishments, you can receive a massage and what is euphemistacally called "full release" but more happily euphemised as a "happy ending". In short, if I can be crude for a moment here, you can get your rocks off. As long as it is in a licensed establishment and there is NO penetrative sex (anal, oral, vaginal), then you're good to go and can brag on your Facebook page to your vicar, gramma, and local constable if you want with no fear of repercussions. errr... LEGAL repercussions. My gramma, at least, can give one hella disapproving scowl and I'd hate to be the cause of one of them. If you go to see a private MA or an unlicenced parlour, the legal aspect gets a bit trickier, but you're still pretty safe. As long as no one is communicating publicly for the purposes of soliciting blah blah blah snooze - did I mention the legal section of the forums? - yer awright. Basically, the police haven't been actively pursuing even the "grey areas" around the sex industry for some time now, as long as there is no coercion, trafficking, or other illegal activity hand in hand with it. (again, don't take my word for it - read the legal forums on CERB and get up to speed) Did I say "short version"? Sheesh! That's one longwinded short version!

Q: Why do men's clothes have buttons on the right while women's clothes have buttons on the left? A: When buttons were invented, they were very expensive and worn primarily by the rich. Since most people are right-handed, it is easier to push buttons on the right through holes on the left. Because wealthy women were dressed by maids, dressmakers put the buttons on the maid's right! And that's where women's buttons have remained since. Q: Why do ships and aircraft use 'mayday' as their call for help? A: This comes from the French word m'aidez -meaning 'help me' -- and is pronounced, approximately, 'mayday.' Q: Why are zero scores in tennis called 'love'? A: In France, where tennis became popular, the round zero on the scoreboard looked like an egg and was called 'l'oeuf,' which is French for 'the egg.' When tennis was introduced in the US , Americans (mis)pronounced it 'love.' Q. Why do X's at the end of a letter signify kisses? A: In the Middle Ages, when many people were unable to read or write, documents were often signed using an X. Kissing the X represented an oath to fulfill obligations specified in the document. The X and the kiss eventually became synonymous. Q: Why is shifting responsibility to someone else called 'passing the buck'? A: In card games, it was once customary to pass an item, called a buck, from player to player to indicate whose turn it was to deal. If a player did not wish to assume the responsibility of dealing, he would 'pass the buck' to the next player. Q: Why do people clink their glasses before drinking a toast? A: It used to be common for someone to try to kill an enemy by offering him a poisoned drink. To prove to a guest that a drink was safe, it became customary for a guest to pour a small amount of his drink into the glass of the host. Both men would drink it simultaneously. When a guest trusted his host, he would only touch or clink the host's glass with his own. Q: Why are people in the public eye said to be 'in the limelight'? A: Invented in 1825, limelight was used in lighthouses and theatres by burning a cylinder of lime which produced a brilliant light. In the theatre, a performer 'in the limelight' was the center of attention. Q: Why is someone who is feeling great 'on cloud nine'? A: Types of clouds are numbered according to the altitudes they attain, with nine being the highest cloud. If someone is said to be on cloud nine, that person is floating well above worldly cares. Q: In golf, where did the term 'Caddie' come from? A: When Mary Queen of Scots went to France as a young girl, Louis, King of France, learned that she loved the Scots game 'golf.' He had the first course outside of Scotland built for her enjoyment. To make sure she was properly chaperoned (and guarded) while she played, Louis hired cadets from a military school to accompany her. Mary liked this a lot and when returned to Scotland (not a very good idea in the long run), she took the practice with her. In French, the word cadet is pronounced 'ca-day' and the Scots changed it into caddie. Q: Why are many coin banks shaped like pigs? A: Long ago, dishes and cookware in Europe were made of a dense orange clay called 'pygg'. When people saved coins in jars made of this clay, the jars became known as 'pygg banks.' When an English potter misunderstood the word, he made a container that resembled a pig. And it caught on. So there you are! Now you know!

There's a lot of very good advice here, Karina. While telling this gentleman your feelings could be good, pay attention to the wise advice you've received from Old Dog and Cat. Take some time to think about you, too. [--][--]How are you feeling, in your own life, right now? [--][--]What kinds of stresses and concerns are you dealing with in your life? [--][--]Ours is one of the loneliest professions in the world. We spend time with many people but few ever know us well. We need to maintain good boundaries for the sake of our clients and for ourselves. Most of the time, our friends and family don't know how we're making a living or, if they do, they don't approve. It can be difficult to integrate both parts of our lives--professional and personal. Who knows you well and knows about the reality of your life and work? What kind of care and support do you receive from them? [--][--]When was the last time you had a great evening with friends or family? [--][--]When was the last time you took a vacation by yourself or with a friend or family member? [--][--]Most of the women in our line of work are kind, nurturing, compassionate, highly intuitive givers who get a lot of satisfaction out of caring for other people. One thing many of us struggle with, in our personal lives, is feeling that others care for us. If you get sick, who makes soup, brings you some tea, a movie or a stack of books? Who remembers your birthday without being reminded? Who calls you just to say hello, not to get you to do something for them? [--][--]How many clients are you seeing, on average, each week? [--][--]Do you take last-minute meetings or do you know a day or two ahead of time who you'll be seeing? [--][--]Do you see more clients than you'd like to because you need the money? Or are you working hard to advertise and communicate with potential clients but not actually entertaining as many or as often as you think would be ideal? [--][--]Our clients come to us for sex. Sure, other things are part of the encounter--talking, sharing a meal, exploring one another's thoughts and ideals. Those things are often part of what makes sex work really well for us women. Only you can know whether you've really enjoyed the sexual intimacy in your work. Be honest: how has it been for you, especially in the last couple of months? Even when our bodies respond, becoming aroused, having orgasms, we might feel that something is missing, or that our responses are almost automatic. Other than with this particular client, when have you felt lust, deep desire, yearning and exaltation for someone? [--][--]When you entered our profession, what were your long-term plans? Maybe you thought you'd work for a year or two. Perhaps you were needing to earn some money, quickly, and then realized that you might be able to pay for your education, put some money away for the future, buy a house or do some other significant thing. What goals did you have? [--][--]Every paid companion should have a retirement plan, whether that's based in putting away a certain amount of money, reaching a particular age, or being in a position to pay for something important for her future. What was your plan, originally? Has it changed, and if so, how and why? [--][--]With many important things in our lives, the reasons we start doing something are often different from, and less important than, the reasons we continue. How might this be true for you, as a paid companion? [--][--]Have you had a boyfriend or partner while also working as a paid companion--even one who may not have known about your work? If you did, what was it like for you to work and have that intimate relationship? Did you feel that the two things gave you energy? Did you feel that one got in the way of the other sometimes? If your boyfriend or partner knew about your work, how did he handle it? Did you believe what he said? Did his behaviour match his words? Some time ago, I had a client who was perfect. He never hit a false note, never did even the tiniest little thing wrong or at the wrong time. Over a couple of months, I saw him three or four times a week, for two or three hours at a time. The erotic pendulum swung very wide and never wobbled at any point in its arc from tenderly gentle to wildly kinky. I have never, in all my adult life, known anyone who always knew exactly how to touch me, where to touch and when to do it. It felt like he could look deep inside me and find things that I wasn't really sure were there. It was exhilarating. It was madness of the most delightful kind. He paid me a small fortune, though after the first couple of meetings I hardly noticed. It couldn't have continued the way it was, though. Heated romance like that always burns out eventually, and I knew it. When I realized that our interaction was basically taking over my life, not in terms of the amount of time we were spending together, but in the amount of time I was spending with him in my mind, when he was gone, and when I recognized that he may have been the best sexual partner I'd ever had but he really didn't know anything about me (and that maybe that's why it worked so well), and that my own emotions were driving me very strongly, I stopped seeing him. For weeks, I felt bereft. I felt empty. I felt dull. But after awhile, I started to feel myself again. A year or so later, he asked to see me again and I agreed. Having had some time to ponder, I was curious about what had happened. It was as good, or better, than it ever had been. And so I ended it permanently. Others might have made a different choice. But for me, this was more like an addiction than the kind of love I want to feel and to give. Everyone wants to be loved. No one ever feels loved enough. We all feel insecure about the love we feel, whether we're showing it adequately, whether it matters to the ones we love. I think this is part of being human. I also think that, if there's a grand purpose for our lives, it is to learn to love others, even when loving doesn't bring us what we most deeply need for ourselves. Love and be careful.

Dude, seriously...just fucking do it. Who can you trust? Everyone. All the ladies who advertise here and have review threads are absolutely trustworthy as far as your needs are concerned. You're not giving them your bank account or SIN number or first born child for fucks sake. Shave your nuts, wash your ass, head to the ATM and have at it. Don't be a pussy.

I agree totally, especially about the incall location. I accepted an appointment at an SP's incall location once and I tend to avoid doing that overall. Aside from the problems people have reported, like getting robbed when they show up, it also puts the SP on that legally shaky ground of being accused of opperating a bawdy house. I prefer to host even if I pay a higher premium. It not only protects me, but it protects the SP too and as a responsible hobbiest, I feel it's the least I can do for the ladies I see.

For all of us who play and work in this field it's always best to stay on top of the laws, to know what is legal and illegal. The laws are easily explained when googled. I believe however if the police have anyone targeted they will get them, using whatever methods are available to them. But a sting is expensive and a big undertaking so they must have received alot of complaints to have warranted this latest one. Were the pictures the cop or just anyone, not sure. However I have heard of actual female officers interviewing at a service and then being hired. Then service then got busted, so as I said they can and will use whatever means to get who they set as their target, within the law. But I wouldn't become paranoid over this. As a hobbyist I think the only things to be concerned about would be dealing with someone underage, someone buying/selling drugs, someone who operates a visible very busy incall-avoid them and you should play without worry.

I think threads like this are more important than we even realize as self acceptance is first and formost in becoming a well rounded human being, hence living a healthy productive life. So if you are a parent teach your children messages like this, confidence, acceptance of themselves and others, to love because anything that is loved unconditionally will emit beauty. Share these lessons, messages and thoughts as they can never be told and seen to often. I too am a beliver in the power of the media to convolute the minds of the weak, not unlike a bully who demeans a vulnerable victim and causes them to think they are unfit as they are and need to conform to something "ideal". There is nothing more beautiful than a confident person, it truly is a persons best asset.

For those hungry to learn even more... If you take a look on the User CP page...you need to scroll down all the way to the bottom, it will show you who's given you recent points, either by commenting on / approving of one of your posts, or by awarding you a nomination. FR

On the left-hand side of the home page, there is a 'top stat' section. If you expand it to see more of them, you can obtain a list of top thread starter, top reputation, etc. You currently are 58th on the list and from my understanding of Lyla are giving 22 rep points at a time. 58 aubreyxxx 219 19048 22 Best, toine

My participation in CERB has ebbed and flowed since joining early last year for a few reasons. But all-in-all, CERB is a comfort zone for me, a place where I can let the hair down and simply enjoy the many fine folks and personalities on the site. I've met several ladies and can honestly say the CERB ladies are simply wonderfully warm, honest and really do care. I check in on the site almost daily, sometimes lurking sometimes posting but mostly to enjoy. Thank you one and all.

How has Cerb changed my life? That is an interesting question and in fact one a question that I ponder over on a very regular basis. I really cannot say that it has changed my life, however it has become an important part of my life over the past couple of years. I will be very shortly leaving Cerb behind, for a while, and at that point I may better be able to answer the question. What Cerb has brought me is a way of meeting women that is totally opposite to what one comes across in everyday life. Here when I meet a woman a sexual encounter is virtually guaranteed and the social/personal aspect is something that perhaps may develop. In my other world when one meets a woman one knows that a social/personal encounter is virtually guaranteed and that a sexual aspect is something that may develop. Two polar opposites. It is a lot easier in the Cerb world because I am so much more confident with my social skills than with my seduction skills!!! Has it changed my life? I think the answer has to be a yes because anything to which I have devoted as much time to as this has to have an affect on my life. It has a filled a void and whether that void will be filled outside of Cerb is yet to be determined, but truthfully, I think not. I know that I have met women that have accepted me exactly for who I am. I believe that for the most part the interactions have been honest and without judgement and I ever so much appreciate being a part of a world that does not require the games that are normally played in traditional relationships. It is very refreshing. Some of the women that I have met have helped me in more ways than probably some of them realize. Two years ago being a part of this world would have been the furthest thing from my mind and it was a world that I truly did not even know existed. What I thought that I knew about this lifestyle was shattered with the first woman that I met and I am still learning a great deal about this world and about myself as I navigate my way. The story is not yet done.

i pay my accountant by the hour - i pay my lawyer by the hour -i pay my house cleaner by the hour- all professionals -why would your services be any different- except more enjoyable