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If you ever encounter any sort of problems with anyone while working, anything ranging from sexual assault to theft, intimidation, abuse, harassment, threats, stalking or anything else, and want to talk directly to a female officer who will listen and help (if you want it), here is the name of an Ottawa officer who has been helpful to sex workers in the past: Sergeant Patricia Ferguson Sexual Assault Section Tel. 613-236-1222, ext. 5463 Or, to anonymously report to the police any kind of bad behaviour you've experienced: Bad Date Line Call 1-800-303-5407 - anonymously. http://www.ottawapolice.ca/en/ServingOttawa/SectionsAndUnits/saca/baddateline.aspx From Ottawa Police Services: Working in the sex trade can make you a vulnerable target, and predators count on the fact that you may not report crimes against you. We need your help to identify and track serial and predatory offenders. The anonymous reporting system is for individuals victimized while engaging in the sex trade. By calling the toll free number (1-800-303-5407), you will be prompted to leave a message regarding the details of your assault along with as much of an offender description as possible. Information gathered could be the missing link needed in identifying a serial predator. The anonymous and free Bad Date Line gives you an opportunity to report sexual and physical assault without revealing your identity. For more information about the Ottawa Bad Date Line, download their pamphlet (PDF, 206k). The Ottawa Police Service understands the desire of victims to remain anonymous and supports the Bad Date Line in an effort to identify potential serial offenders preying upon victims who they believe will not report the attack to police. The Bad Date Line does not subscribe to caller ID and no attempts will be made to identify callers. It is preferred that victims contact police directly to report an assault so that a proper investigation can be conducted and ensure a predator is removed from the street. Ottawa Police treat all victims fairly and equitably. If you wish to speak with an officer regarding an assault or receive more information regarding the investigation process, you may contact the Sexual Assault Unit directly at 613-236-1222, ext. 5944.

Dear client, I am excited to see you and spend time together. I am excited to get to know you a bit. I want to know you well enough to get into your head and give you an amazing, hot session. I appreciate it when you let me in a little and share some things about yourself and who you are. What I don't appreciate is when you drop a bunch of casual bigotry on me in the midst of socializing and getting to know each other. I don't expect you to have the exact same values as me. For our brief time together that's not important. What I do expect from you is a modicum of consideration, social awareness and self filtering. Just enough so that if you have opinions on black or brown people, or "the gays", or poor people, or any other group that you don't belong to, you have the sense to keep those opinions to yourself for an hour. I expect you to realize that these opinions might be offensive to others and that sharing them is jarring and rude. I expect you to realize that you don't actually know me, and that I or my loved ones might be part of those groups that you think so poorly of. I want to have fun with you when we're together. I don't want to get into an argument about racism or sexism or homophobia or anything. I certainly don't want to have to choose between ending our session early or getting intimate with someone who has just made me very uncomfortable. I'm sure you're a complex and multifaceted person and there are many wonderful, fascinating, enjoyable, positive things you could share about yourself. Stick to those, as I do when I talk about me, so that we can both enjoy each others' company. Thanks, Your service provider

Carrie, I am quoting you but my comment is not directed at you ;) We all draw the line somewhere, and as you stated, that line varies from person to person. To each their own. I am not going to debate the rights and wrongs of BBBJs (or DATY or kissing) and risk levels but I will say this: As an independent human being, I do not want nor need the government telling me what I can and cannot do in the privacy of a bedroom, as a companion with a patron or as a grown woman in her private life. Whether or not I receive money when sharing intimate time with someone is no one else's business but mine. I value my rights and freedom of choice. (I hope my post makes sense)

I would like to give a HUGE thanks to Gabriella Laurence. I am new here and she has gone above and beyond to help me get going on this site. There's a real sense of community here and I'm glad to be a part of it!!! xoxo Brooklyn Scott

I really hope this comes off the way I mean it and not abrasive. I can squirt, and get as many ladies I am sure am asked this question. Just because I can, doesn't mean I can do so on demand. I an not a machine or a circus clown. If you choose to spend an hour or so with me and this is something that important to you it really stresses me out to have you try and make this happen. Please think before you try to make this part of our date. Women are human beings and as such please don't force this . Perhaps a gentleman can last for hours or have several fantastic orgasms in a certain time frame. Great, but I bet no man would want to be pressured into doing so on demand. If I may borrow RG's line. K's rambling's.

I think it's really important to think of risk as existing on a spectrum, because really, every time we have contact with another human being, there is some risk of some infection. So rather than think of things as a risky or not risky binary, it makes more sense to look at things as more or less risky, recognizing that all things entail risk. Even if you use condoms, dental dams and gloves and avoid kissing entirely, there are still infections that can be transmitted through skin to skin contact, such as herpes, HPV, syphilis, chanceroid, molluscum, etc, plus infections that aren't considered STIs, like MRSA. Every action and choice we make in life has associated risks and benefits. Ideally, we can have enough accurate information to know the risks, and assess what the benefits are to each of us, so that whatever choice we make, it's an informed one where the benefits outweigh the risks for that particular individual.

I like mine, it depicts the type of guy I am, and it's one of my "several" favourite sex positions plus I've had since inception of avatars. It will remain with me until my time is up here.;)

I use one for my email and I find it is an advantage, I have that it may take up to 72hrs for a reply. That way when I have ME time or am travelling no one can get all cranky that i did not reply. Jessica is right I have mine set for 1 reply per hour to the same address, plus its like a receipt so the gentleman contacting myself knows I received the email.

Everyone has their own limits. Some people are unmoved by any amount of factual data. Statistical modelling is interesting but we are governed more by emotional response than logic. Flying on an airline is statistically safer than driving but we still drive.

Trish Ferguson is a very good, discrete, and kind police officer who truly cares about sex workers and does the best she can with the tools she has. She is a good person to reach out to if there are any problems... ..but yes, hopefully no one needs to call her. Thank you for posting this Em! Nat xox

Was just in last Monday for regular screening at the local SHC. I asked the nurse about the stories going around about "incurable" gonorrhea... yes it does require use of different drugs as the bug mutates, but currently in Canada, there are still drugs that do the job, for genital infections oral antibiotics are the norm, oral or anal infections are treated using injections. Some places where there is a problem, intravenous treatment is the standard practice. Also of interest is that syphilis is becoming more prevalent again.

I have no problem with escorts removing their phone number from ads. I actually prefer e-mails for first contact. Nothing worse than calling someone by phone and catching them off guard, or at a bad time, or not at their best. I have no problem with the lady saving my cellphone number to her cellphone. Just anticipate that I will do the same with her cellphone number. On a side note: Texting lingo and internet abbreviations are fine if you are contacting friends or associates - contacting a potential client or SP is not one of them. IMHO.

I find these kinds of threads about BBBJ really irritating. Not because conversation about shared intimacies and health matters shouldn't be had, but because of how talk about sucking dick quickly shifts into the 'politic of the ick' (a term coined by sexologist Carol Queen). I will speak for myself. I love making out, I love having my pussy licked, I love sucking cock, alot of the time BBBJs and CIM (oh yeah baby), and, yet I do not identify as a PSE at all. Not a meaningful term to me. I'm GFE all the way. I do not make clients wear a dental dam to give me oral, and I do not put saran on my face when playing tonsil hockey. There are plenty of service providers, including popular and highly reviewed SPs who do not do BBBJ (understandable, and a very personal decision), but the idea of being concerned over providers 'being compelled' to provide BBBJs, and then omitting the way we normalize and by and large broadly accept DFK and DATY as meaningful and commonly provided services inherent to the work, (providing GFE), is problematic. Assessing the risks, negotiating the fun to be had, and getting regular health checks including throat swabs is a must. Let's not turn all SPs into victims of risky clients, and let's focus on empowering workers to enjoy working conditions where they can refuse work they deem unsafe....not to mention increasing access to non-stigmatizing STI health screening, and ongoing education. Signed, Cum lover

I see you were in the MLL.... I LOVE when I get that message. I have found that only happens on occasion at Pearson, and that disconnecting from the internet, and rebooting the laptop does help (but not always) (if your on a mac delete the previous saved data valet internet connection and start from scratch works too). Heck they even consider a site called the frisky to be porn related and its far from it.

It's utterly disgusting, look at the recent tweets from those idiot fans from Boston Bruins against PK Subban. One would think that racism was not this visual in today's society, then we have assholes from Boston and Donald Sterling. Needless to say these idiots probably didn't even know that Willie O'Ree broke into the NHL in the 70's with the Bruins, or in fact PK's younger brother was drafted by the Bruins. Theses types of behaviour are seriously unbelievable and from " dickheads" that have no understanding about what is correct and acceptable behaviour in today's society. Being a huge sport fan, I've lost a lot of respect for other fans/owners who think they can share their thoughts with society through media or other means.

Actually... I think this misses the core of the problem. Although people realize that something is offensive, they lack the self-awareness to understand that they fall into this category. How many times have you heard someone say, "I'm not racist, but..." or "I have friends who are gay"? It's so common that it's a parody of itself. To take the concrete example that springs most immediately to mind: look at Donald Sterling. Utterly racist, despite his ownership of a basketball team and having a mixed-race mistress. And yet... he doesn't consider himself racist. At all. You couldn't make it up... but there it is, played out in front of the world. This isn't a problem with clients, in particular. It's a problem with people, and with society. It's improving, but that's a slow process.

And not taking away from the original post, but ladies have a section/friends within the community to verify the possible gent for a session. The crudeness, if we really want to call it that, or crass, or whatever word anyone wants to use, whatever advertisement works, kudos to those that use their type advertisement. It never has struck me about more of it or less, it's always been around and to be perfectly honest, 99% of advertisements on here have my attention :) Carry on you sexy ladies of Cerb ;)

I don't care either way. The only thing I get from it is that the lady in question has had one too many "WHY HAVEN'T YOU REPLIED YET? I EMAILED YOU A WHOLE THREE MINUTES AGO!!!!" mails.

Another recommendation for Trish Ferguson, she is truly invaluable.

I don't have much of importance to add to the thread, but... When I look to meet with a lady, and this is only me, I'm not really looking for services, or how those services are performed. I'm just looking to meet her and enjoy our time in whatever way she's most comfortable. But, I understand not all are like me, and I guess that's where issues start to come up. And for what it's worth, I haven't had a covered BJ in probably 20 years, but had one last week and if felt just as good. So....

It's not the least bit silly though to draw lines as to what is the level of comfort to take where risk is concerned.. I draw the line at BBBJ.. but I enjoy daty.. so that's my level. Some choose BBBJ but no CIM. Some enjoy BBFS and this is where 95% of us I'd say draw the line at level of risk.. Some enjoy BB anal.. and that's where those who offer BBFS may draw the line.. BB anal is definitely riskier than BBFS.. Wherever your line is... your choice. At least for now anyway. In Australia.. BBBJ is illegal for providers to provide as part of the service in certain provinces. I believe Queensland? last I looked..

the repetitive texts and phone calls is what got to me. If you can't take the 2 minutes to read my website to find out more about me,what is going to make you think that i am going to spend 6 hours defining everything in my website to you just because you don't have the time to look at it! If your going to look at my site, great! But at the same time, take the time to see if I am compatible to you before you contact me. One person turned me down JUST because of my location, I was in a $600,000 condo in Dartmouth, but all he saw was Dartmouth and assumed it must be a run down area! Don't be turned off just because of a location, I happen to be in an area better than some high priced hotels in Halifax, but just across the bridge from it, basically, 'don't knock it till you've tried it'! It's what I offer inside my location that should count, not the area I chose to reside in.

The justice minister says that prostitutes are vulnerable and have no options. If I had not known what the topic was, I would have thought that he was describing retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers. Have you seen those people at work? The typical business will have a manager who makes the workers do stressful work at an unrealistic speed for several hours. The workers are forced to use scripted language over and over, "Welcome to...", " Would you also like...", "The total comes to...". I think that the work conditions of retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers is inhumane and undignified. In Ontario, retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers earn $10.25 per hour and they get paid for 37.5 hours a week once break times are deducted. That means that retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers earn $384 a week before tax. I think that the police need to prosecute the customer; not the retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers. We need to punish the people who enjoy merchandise and food in exchange for minimum wage. http://www.torontosun.com/2014/04/30/court-will-reject-nordic-model http://news.nationalpost.com/2014/04/27/harper-governments-new-prostitution-laws-will-likely-target-pimps-customers-and-sex-trade-traffickers/

Genetically modified foods, increased use of herbicides and pesticides, superbugs etc. Can't we all just have fun anymore?

I recall that one nice SP lady addressed us fans of this activity as "you cunning linguists..."

I think its totally fair and makes complete sense to consider BBBJ along with other services (Greek, DATY, kissing...) part of a spectrum of services SPs have every right to refuse to provide for any reason as a legitimate claim on their rights to optimal health & safety. And, yes, while this thread is about gonorrhea, it's also become about issues of risk relative to BBBJ and other services as well. The NZ model represents the most ideal model in practice which we can draw and build on here in Canada. But, it does not mean a copy and paste approach is warranted. The idea that we will see success by outright banning sexual practices such BBBJ is nonsense. Again, creating markets, and expanding the rights of providers, including those who work for agencies to refuse ANY services they feel uncomfortable (or any client they feel uncomfortable seeing) with is alot more realistic. Aggressive educational campaigns and access to services that promote personal responsibility for ones's sexual health, including clients doing so will be another important piece. Along with increasing access to STI testing....hassle free clinics etc, and better educated and more receptive GPs. To go with this, mandatory health testing will also be a huge mistake despite many people saying it's a great idea, as it will create illegality where it did not exist before....where those disenfranchised from the formal registered system will be on society's shit list....and where all of the blame and medical control will be placed on the bodies of sex workers, instead of on clients and the general population. So, what's the connection between the mandatory testing and regulatory measures against BBBJ? What are we going to do?: Start fining workers who provide BBBJs to their clients?....How do we go about determining their 'risk levels'? Do we start tracking all SPs sexual partners in private to see whose bare cock they are sucking, maybe who they have screwed bareback on their own time and then use that as a reason to say, hey, no kissing and no daty with your clients....cuz you COULD have gonorrhea and/or you COULD give your client herpes. Banning BBBJs is going to create a specter of illegality and stigma. Bad idea! Sex work is not and has never been a level playing field. And standardizing sex acts like McDonald's happy meals is not going to resolve that.

Hmm, I'm not sure I like what you've said here. Advertisements ARE personal expression. Each woman in this industry is unique and our ads provide a first impression into that particular SWers style, as the type of clients they wish to see. If one woman's style of advertising is to be what some may call "crass" (who the hell came up with the rule book on what crass looks like anyway? It seems to be individual perception!) -- what if that IS her being who they are, writing what they feel, saying what they think, being themselves and not needing to fit in a mold? Fairly presumptuous to think otherwise. I am in desperate need of new ads as I'm bored with mine, however the last thing I will do is read through and judge others ads. To each their own!!!

Well I thought about an avatar change and was close to changing it but this guy started yelling at me Saying if I changed my avatar he would bring his brothers, one with a baseball bat and the other who has delusions of being a soldier and the third who thinks he's an assassin Soooo, after weighing my choices, after being yelled at, and running the risk of being shot by an assassin, or ambushed by a soldier, or my knees being the baseball in a ball game, if I upgraded my avatar, I decided to let sleeping dogs lie and keep my avatar the same So that's why this client doesn't upgrade his avatar LOL RG :-)

We all know its going to end whether it's a hour long session or an extended overnight stay, for me reality comes back when you get dressed after your shower, I would have to say my favorite ending was when I came out of the bathroom in a recent situation where the sexy lady was sitting on a chair with nothing on but her pearl necklace she came over to me and gave me a very nice kiss with a hug and said I enjoyed your company very much, I hope I have the pleasure of seeing you again. I walked out the door with the memory of her walking over to me with nothing on but the necklace and for sure I will be looking forward to seeing her again, she was so hot I still have that memory.

Why are there so many accounts that still have the question mark as their avatar? Seems lazy not to change it, especially when it takes about 5 minutes to Google any image you want; change it's size; and post it as your cerb avatar. Plus, the Ladies must be sick of seeing all these repetitive "?" and I'm sure they would enjoy your creativity in the new avatar that you choose. You can have your favorite game icon or humorous image. Just as long as you change it from the bland default one. It would also add a sense of style to CERB as a whole to have various avatars, instead of "?". I would like to hear from the Ladies and maybe they can encourage the Gents to change their profile photo, too. Just a thought.

Congrats spud! Long time you've been here, hopefully many more... Cheers

This is how the law in NZ is set up. Fined for non compliance https://www.healthed.govt.nz/resource/health-and-safety-information-sex-workers https://www.healthed.govt.nz/resource/health-and-safety-information-sex-workers pg 22 It applies to all sex workers, whether indy or employed at a brothel. I think it is very specific, and certainly didn't take a lot of time and effort to come up with the idea. Stds are a workplace hazard, safer sex practises involve use of barriers for oral, vaginal, and anal sex, therefore, the PRA laws make it a condition of doing commercial sex work that barriers be used at all times. Commercial is the key word there, this is workplace safety issues, nothing else. It is not a personal decision, and educating is the key as shown in the info, signs are supposed to be put up on the walls etc lol. We don't have other commercial industries where the workers get to decide for themselves what level of risk they are OK with, when it comes to public health and safety. they can't randomly pick and choose what laws, in the case of NZ as comparison. In the comparison of driving, this would be yes someone can choose to drive without wearing a seatbelt, but it is against the law. You can get away with it a lot of the time, but eventually and at some point, chances are you will either get caught (and fined) or you will get in an accident and badly hurt or dead. The frequency of doing it increases your risk.

Congrats, Spud! That's a loooong time!

I would *love* to hack their twitter feed while this was going on. I think that would be a lot of fun. It could also deliver a useful lesson or two about what justice is and what it isn't, direct to the people who most need that lesson.

I use the times of dressing to admire the person I'm with in ways I may not have had before that time. The bending to retrieve a sock, showing me the curve of a buttock, the lifting to put a sweater over his head revealing the lines of his sides, chest and back. The smile as his heads pops back into sight which then leads to the urge to kiss. The last few touches of bare skin before they are covered and disappear from sight. Bittersweet but beautiful.

Gentlemen do you know what we are talking about or what sizes our cup sizes really represents, or when we describe our beautiful boobs would you prefer us to simply say small, petite, medium, large or very large. What wording would you suggest, or does stating our cup size draw a clear enough picture? Here's a bit of an explanation on sizing- http://lingerie.about.com/od/FitGuide/a/What-Bra-Sizes-Mean.htm

tell me more about your bad day, I'm listening!

New to the site too. It's great!

I can recall a few times getting on the subway where we were pushed together closely. Not a kleenex in sight, and I am asthmatic. Being around people can be dangerous! Dr T also mentioned that risk increases with exposure. The probability that BBBJ is a problem is greater with frequent flyers. Problem is, it just takes one. I have a suggestion that probably occurred to many of you. Asthmatics have no choice but to take risks, they are all around us. It really burns my posterior that even simple kissing is verboten! Keeping and staying healthy will reduce the possibility of infection. Eat and sleep well, and love yourself!

Or when her head is tilted back... her mouth is open and you can see that she is trying to say something... her lips move... but no words are formed.... her breath as she inhales and exhales almost speak... but ultimately all she does is turn and bite the inside of her arm as she loudly moans...

I for one dislike talking on the phone except for a couple exceptions. In previous careers I was always attached to a phone or a radio or something that made me entirely dislike them. I also have had past issues with cell phone radiation and try to keep it away from my body, especially my head, as much as possible. This for me is the bigger issue. I only have a cell phone for texting, emails and other features I use regularly. I do not put my number in any advertising or on any website and actually removed a website that did and couldn't promise me control over it. I do provide my number to those I have seen and they can use it or not as they see fit. I try to be as accommodating as possible and will use the phone if someone has a reason for it. Mind you, the conversations are very brief.

There appears to be some confusion in this thread about drug resistant bacteria. MRSA or VRSA bacteria are not transmitted through sex. Generally they are found in hospitals and nursing homes. MRSA has a variant which can be transmitted by skin-to-skin contact. Drug resistant bacteria are a problem that goes far beyond BBBJs. I don't think we can imagine the magnitude of this problem just yet. Some scientists predict that in our lifetime organ transplants will no longer be possible. Most common surgery will be impossible. Serious trauma may become fatal due to infections that cannot be treated. Our lives are going to change drastically for the worse because of this.

I never thought I would want to lick a flower. :) But flower is not bad.

Hmmmm for me all of my best sessions with service providers gave started with mental foreplay long before we meet.... those amazing exchanged texts that say nothing but also say everything.... that sexy picture sent preceeding the meeting.... the few words shared over the phone as we finalize the details of the encounter...the tweets or pms that explore our thoughts... our wishes.... our passion.... yea the foreplay fir me starts early Just my opinion

Actually wasn't sure whether to post this Ottawa Police press release in the news section or joke section. Look who was arrested for exposing himself. RG http://ottawapolice.ca/en/mediaroom/newsreleases/14-04-29/8f13e582-b9aa-4d70-b7b9-d9d054d5e659.aspx

That's why I purchased my 13" MacBook Pro in 2009 & I haven't used my Windows PC since then. My stupid company/job still uses Windows, mostly XP & Vista. Mac OS X is far superior and a lot more intelligent and user friendly than Windows & more fun than Unix/Linux, IMHO. No rebooting every day, no virus/trojans/worms, etc. and a lot easier to be more productive and effective. Sorry Window lovers. I just love my Mac! But to each their own. I'll get down from my soap box. lol

Getting a call at 10 AM this morning to remind me that I have an appointment at 11 AM today. WTF (Good thing I keep notes -- we did not have an appointment). Professional saying that they will do something for me but they do not follow through. OR they only do half of what they said they would do. Professional who does not acknowledge my priorities. Like getting a drug plan for my medication. There goes another month without medication. Professional agreeing to meet with me once a week in my home or neighborhood. Then they turn around and say that they only have time for me once or twice a month at their office -- IF they can fit me in. Professional supposed to be finding ways to help me save money. But they suggest ideas that involve spending money I do not have. Professional telling me that I can get by on $40 a month for food and groceries. -- "Others do it and so can you". I take the time to share deep personal stuff with them and they do not remember anything I told them. Fighting the urge to call the above mentioned person's supervisor and request a new support worker.

someone asks you what was the title of the famous song sung by "Village People", you answer "YMMV".... Here is the right answer -

All browsers have their merits, and they disadvantages. One thing to keep in mind when looking at the alternatives to Internet Explorer, is what is the makers intention in producing it. No one does something for free, and if they do, what is their motivation to keeping it up-to-date. There is a very good chance that it is a non-Microsoft add-in that is the source of your grief. The buggy Adobe flash player is a frequent culprit -- it needs to be updated at least weekly. Add in "search bars" are another source of irritation, be they Ask, Google, etc. Most of this stuff can be disabled with the "Manage add-ons" function - click the gear icon on the upper-right (tools) and select "Manage add-ons" -- you can now disable any suspect toolbar/extension, search providers, etc. To try and find the one misbehaving the most, disable them all and then re-enable the ones you need or want. If you have Windows 7 or 8 on your computer, upgrade to Internet Explorer 11 -- it is currently the fastest and most secure browser there is.