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Yikes. Keeping an SP to yourself costs her business, which by that jump, could lead her out of the industry- so unless you're prepared to cover the cost of that lost business, maybe you shouldn't keep her to yourself less you never see her again. :-/ I don't get how they don't understand that... the better off business-wise your SP is, the more fun you're gonna have. :-/

I fear for the upcoming years. I mean, we live in a disposable society and that has leaked into the dating world now too. Its sad sight these days. Everyone... Male and female are out to fulfill thier own needs at no cost to them selves! " you mean You want me in fullfill duties of a woman while playing the man too??? Hard to be a woman when I am busy being the man too" Or.... " so you want me to do all the gargage, cars, snow and lawn. Plus pay all bills/ checks, then go grocery shopping too? " And Yes the porn world has made it even more difficult. " so now you want me in high heels after I worked all day and cleaned house and worked all day? Then u want sex 5 times a week too" Or " so I worked hard all week to helpbin house and my job...and is it too much to expect a wife with perfect hair and heels and act like a pornstar" We have lost our balence and expectaions have become too much to handle on both sides of the fence. Its funny, when I date, I will never sleep with you on first date! You might have a kiss. You need to develop real connection before you get in my bed. I am proud of this. And ppl think cause I am Sophia ...an escort....that I must be easy. Hell No! I am such a prude when it comes to dating! You got to earn the right to be with me. Lol.

I also believe guilt is a taught/learned behavior. Through generations we have been taught a long list of things we should feel guilty about and many of these things are judgements from others on how we should behave. I believe we have to honestly look at many of the things we feel guilty about and determine if it is programmed/learned or if it IS truly coming from within ourselves as a guiding point. So many people feel guilty when they "self care" yet this is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. Life is not black or white. There are so many nuances and intricacies to it and every situation is unique to the people involved. if we approach our lives with love and respect and in doing what's best for ourselves and those involved, I feel there will be a lot less guilt and a lot more love and happiness. In regard to the aspects pertaining to this industry, there is SO much judgement and guilt flung about from so many sources. If it adds to your life, makes you happy, fulfills a need and isn't hurting anyone, why feel guilty? If someone is guilty because of someone else's opinion or judgement, the true issue is why does someone else's opinion have the ability to steal power and make them feel that way. If it's because of a relationship, where does the guilt stem from and is it because we should or shouldn't do this or that (learned behavior) or are we ignoring something we are not open and honest about looking at. Having the thought of a Universal Standard is a learned concept. It implies everyone has to fit into the box and everyone is the same when that's very far from the truth. Each and every person is unique and what bothers one, doesn't bother another. If both have the same experience and society judges that experience as negative or bad and something you should feel guilty about, if one feels guilt and the other doesn't, what does that say? It says that it's a taught/learned behavior. I think we unnecessarily suffer a LOT due to learned behaviors and limiting beliefs.. including guilt!

There is nothing wrong with talking about location,personality and overall experience! Save the juicey stuff between you and her...I think that should be private as she may or may not share the same intimate experience with someone else and out of respect

I think the official policy here is that recos are works of fiction, as far as the law is concerned :) And I think that the reason there are fewer recos is that there are fewer people hanging out here generally. I'd actually noticed a significant uptick over the last six months or so, at least in Ottawa. And to get back to the original point of this thread: I think they're very much worthwhile. I use them myself when deciding who I might like to meet, and if I have a good time, I write them for others.

Had a chance to drop into the Mate this afternoon hoping to connect with Lana and lo and behold she was absent but Delicious was there. OMG, just the opposite of last week. She remembered me and I couldn't believe it when I spotted her and she spotted me. Not to sound like a broken record, but I find the woman totally intoxicating. Was a fabulous session. I feel like a kid when I'm around her and I'm a senior citizen, (at 65). Its ridiculous! Kind of a thunderstruck feeling. Awesome. Adora was there again and I got to enjoy her stage thing. She then sat with an older gent to chat and off they went to the CR. Nothing like "grey power"! Old farts rule!(lol)

It doesn't matter to me if she does or not, what matters is that she provides good service and is recommended. Lots of SPs don't have websites, am I going to completely ignore them, no. What a website does give me is more info about them and their rates, so saves me from having to ask certain questions and can go straight to other topics. Question - have you read a website and decided this person isn't the right fit for you?! ... Usually they say all the good things about themselves...

Thanks! Yes ...keeping my name. And when I can share my surprise will do asap. Thehehe....I appreciate everyones support and help on this matter!

Indeed! Here's a tip. I use Google Chrome all the time on my PC, when browsing. It's set up so that anytime when I right click on a pic. I can then left click on the bottom option (search Google with this image). Results show in 2-3 seconds. You can search the pics of an average BP ad in less than 2 minutes.

Lady Sophia has more reccos than anyone in the area. Take the guess work away and be guaranteed a fabulous time.

I think ill toft and see what shes like anyone seen her yet?

Personally, as a rule (and any rule has some exception of course), I don't meet providers without website. And not just because website gives me more information (what is really good thing and I appreciate Lady's efforts to give the answers to my possible questions). If provider doesn't have website, it is indication for me that she doesn't care much about her business, doesn't really care about her clients, doesn't want to make extra efforts. And I prefer to meet the girl who does. As I said, there are exception of course but I think it is true in general. That question about rate does not always mean that guy didn't read website. There is the other reason for this as well. From my personal experience, rate posted on website is not always the rate charged by provider when I book an appointment. When I ask about donation for booking in the morning for example, I get sometimes lower rate that posted on provider's website as "morning" rate or "special" rate. The other situation, when in respond to my rate request I get the question how did I find this sp. If I mention website, rate is exactly as posted there. But if I came from BP or TERB ad, rate can be 50 bucks less then posted on website. I don't want to say that this is common practice, not of course, but it happens.

I think one of the big differences between now and the past is the size of the field you have to play with. In the pre-Internet age, your social circle was limited. If you wanted to play games and move on then there was only a small number of people you could move on to... and if you made a habit of that, word would get around and your chances of deciding that you wanted to be serious about it this time would decline rapidly. Expanding your pool of potential partners was possible, but took time and effort. Nowadays, Tinder and other apps are full of as many hookups as you like (if you live in a reasonably-sized urban area, at least), and none of them are likely to know each other.

http://thunderbay.backpage.ca/FemaleEscorts/140hh-3-days-only-just-landed-super-sexy-petite-and-pretty-fun-and-playful-incalls/69446418 real, pics are real from this ad. aparently she has been here before last year but ive never seen and not sure what name she was under. Not rushed, saw for hh, 100% safe, no parking lot wait, good experience all around.

Hello Gents, From a curious mind who loves the subject, what do you consider a perfect time length for a B&G and for you, is it simply a cut to chase connection and everyone leaves smiling?

Hi hun, I am a pro sensual domme and offer both sensual nuru and play wrestling as one of my expertise! I have a few recommendation on my sensual and play wrestle services. Out and incall available You can PM or email me @ [email protected] -Aeris Blue :)

Recent news that marijuana will soon be legal in Canada: http://www.cbc.ca/news/politics/liberal-legal-marijuana-pot-1.4041902 A question asked after seeing this: "When will the Liberals revisit Bill C-36?" Answer: "When hobbyists and clients have the guts to advocate for it in public like pot smokers did!" This is true. For years marijuana smokers and advocates for the use of the drug have been fighting hard to legalize marijuana in Canada, all around the world for that matter. Over the course of many years on April 20th(4-20) marijuana smokers have been protesting by walking onto Parliament Hill and have been smoking the drug in plain view. Not only on Parliament Hill but at other Government buildings and at University and College campuses across the country. This event does not just take place in Canada, it occurs in numerous countries around the world. The fight for their cause began somewhere. Over time, masses joined in for the fight and eventually funds were raised. Their strength and unity became so strong that it could no longer be ignored. They sought out legal representation and those representing the cause fought hard to make marijuana legal in this country. The actions forced Canada to review their marijuana laws on more than one occasion. Alas, it seems the end is near for the legalization of marijuana in Canada. Although I no longer use this substance, I am happy for them. They never gave up! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- In regards to our struggle: Something is meant to be learned from this. Some of the steps they went through can be applied to the oldest known industry. So even though the sex industry still has a long road ahead, it can happen. Legalizing marijuana in Canada can show the sex industry that one thing is for sure, that anything is possible! What are we waiting for??? Happy day to you all!

:) take 1 for the team!! let us know..i'd like 2 c her but 2 busy working...:( Additional Comments: :) I'm booked with her thurs nite unless someone has seen her....

And if it's offered, that's up to the girl to decide and if she does and men like it... What's the problem?!

95% sure it's fake. Only pic 2 and 5 didn't have hit on pinterest, overseas or some other possible stolen pic area. But even pic 5 looks a little too "Glam" IMO. So 99% convinced it's fake.

There's no luck involved. It's a business. He takes out the wallet. The dancers stick around until the money is spent. Then the dancer moves on.

My Schedule for Wend May 3 to Sat May 6. Sorry about the short week. Please text or call 902.456.2898. Kylie Wend May 3 evening outcall only Thurs May 4 Incall 1pm to 12am in Halifax. Duos available with Charlotte Quinn Fri.....May 5 off Sat... May 5 evening outcall only When you meet me you will be amazed at my beauty, my fit body, my wonderful hour glass shape, my soft skin, my lovely eyes and my full luscious lips. I will astound you with my skills, my attitude and my always enticing look in the way I dress. I can role play, dress for your imagination and bring your wants to life. Hopefully I will see some amazing people who will love the company if am Elite lady who will brighten the day. Kylie Jane xo

Maybe THAT's the answer he's looking for... For some people, lack of humility is a turn off. In a strip club, anything that turns women off is clearly a handicap for the client. But then again, confidence is also often seen as a turn on, so...

The are many places to advertise other than Lyla, expanding your horizons is good for business!

I personally do not have a website (why I don't know) but I am well reviewed and have many recos to show for it and always happy to guide the gentlemen to them....Not having a website doesn't make you a bad provider I try to post details without being explicit in my ads and answer any questions when asked in a professional manner And I have been doing rather well thus far, to each their own Now that being said...I still don't know why I haven't gotten a website lolol

** Available this week and most mornings! Email me to book through daisydukes.me/contact ** I'm Daisy, an independent, 21 year old student in the Ottawa area. I quite adore all people, old, young, any and every ethnicity, and so this general adoration of people and their own personal qualities and talents helps me to provide sessions tailored to each clients unique needs. I am a friendly, well-read and affectionate young woman, currently in the midst of my university schooling. I strive for the best in all areas of my life and particularly so in matters of my private companionship. My description, rates, more photos & contact information can be found on my website daisydukes.me Recommendations (up to date) can be found here: https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=246768 See you soon!

Happy Birthday!! I hope your day was absolutely wonderful:icon_wink: Birthday Hugs! Lexy

i will be at NUDEN tomorrow , thursday & Saturday 12pm 6 pm

My need has led to new Come & Go options including 15, 20 and 30 min options. That means your greed can be fed (mine too *wink*) Also a reminder that as of June 16th, I will no longer be meeting new friends so it's a great time to say hello. Available Wednesday - Friday this week. See my website for full details. Also check out my blog and see what visuals arouse!

I just realized that today is my 11th year on Lyla. Holy crap, where did the time go? LOL There have been so many changes over the 11 years I've been on here. At the start, you couldn't even do recommendations. Though there is only a handful of us left from the beginning, I want to thank them for all their hard work over the years to get this thing going. If only the newer members could see what this site looked like at the beginning and how much it's changed from that time, you'd be amazed.

Happy birthday Mikeboy and may your year ahead be filled with hot anticipation, sexy experiences and many sweet dreams!

I found Essence at the Brassclub to be an amazingly, natural, enthusiastic and generous kisser. Can't wait to see her again for that talent and many more.

Jessy Celeste, no contest. Great woman and so sexy/sensual too!

I'm naked in my hot tub staring at the stars and getting very horny so I decided to look for masturbation material and on my phone and stumbled upon this thread! Mmmmmmmmm jets :smileysmontrefesse:

Absolutely agree - as you say, this business is fading fast, and there's no better way to alienate the few remaining patrons than to annoy with pretensions of modesty. Just cut to the chase and wear a burka then! After a few years of abstaining, I recently visited Taboo and Pigale, then Playmate (all decent at one time), and was appalled by the lacklustre and downright indifferent stage shows. The room adventures were equally lame. May have been the night, but it was depressing for an avid fan of this sort of thing. Will now be seeking a MA or SP that can slake my lust for voyeuristic fun and frolic. If anyone can recommend such a gal, I'd be most grateful!

Lilith is a great kisser. I saw her a few weeks ago and she has lips like velvet.

Jocelyn Ardenne is a very long time and respected member of this board. You will be 100 percent happy with her.

I would add ExclusiveMia..

Lose Control by Hedley. It's a no pants dance party!

Does she have a sister?

I have had clients I see every week for multiple hours during the years. They were/are my best clients and I will always bend my schedule to accommodate theirs. They are the President(s) of my VIP club. A lot of my time is spent catering to them. In these cases, there is no contract but a promise of them expressing that they want to meet every week and this isn't something they say and not do. They actually follow through. So you begin to take them seriously as you can trust their word. In this situation, they get more time with me instead of a rate reduction because they will be visiting every week. Without going into private details, I am more generous with my time as not all time is spent in the bedroom but the rate itself is NEVER lowered. With other gentleman who visit every week, there has been an agreed upon rate and some don't have qualms discusssing it. Other gentlemen I haven't discussed rates and it is nothing below that I was receiving the first time we met for a couple of hours.. I have been taken on trips for the weekend ( with a special weekend rate) with second row seats to a favorite performer, spa days, given very expensive gifts so I am very generous with my time. Many times I cook lunch or dinner for them, buy them gifts for their birthday.. I will do a healing meditation, long massage or listen to anything they would like to talk about or what is on their mind at any particular time. This could be viewed as a Mistress type relationship but not quite. I appreciate them and they appreciate me. There is a very hightrust level that has been established in terms of being a confidante to them..They are very kind and generous and I'm the same with them. I believe they have come into my life for a reason and I've appeared in their life to help them. When the chemistry and connection is great, these arrangements tend to just fall into place. This is a rarity but it can happen. I could not do this with all clients as the chemistry really has to be there. The chemistry is different when you spend an hour with someone as opposed to hours or days although they are both there. We become friends, text here and there throughout the week and tend have a lot in common. I could spend hours and hours with them and it always goes by way too fast. Some of them I have a friendship on a soul level and care for them deeply but they know the boundaries. I am there to help them with what they are missing with their existing partner or their life in general. Nothing happens outside the SP-client relationship and it works for both of us.

Possibly. I'm a bit more optimistic. I do agree that most clients and many workers aren't going to do anything to draw attention to themselves until stigma has been addressed. However, there's a growing number of mainstream public health and human rights organizations that are taking a rights and evidence based stance on sex work. They have both resources and credibility to push decriminalization forward. As we've seen, globally there is little appetite for openly taking a morality-based stance on sex work, and most organizations and governments would prefer to cast us all as victims of trafficking and exploitation (still a morality based stance, but one in denial of itself.) While this is still bad for clients and sex workers alike, it does make it a bit harder to justify legislation that is designed to harm us. The desire to ostensibly save us from harm provides a point where we can apply pressure toward better laws (much harder to do if we are all just cast as immoral, social deviants.) In addition, while sex work is stigmatized the world over, there have been some significant successes, most notably New Zealand's 2003 Prostitution Reform Act, which decriminalized sex work and was developed in consultation with sex workers. While not perfect, it's pretty damned good, and was accomplished without a large movement of clients applying pressure. It's going to take some time, C-36/PCEPA in the wake of Bedford was a pretty big blow, but I think we'll get there.

Given that there are ongoing sweeps and stings in many Canadian cities, non-enforcement is not a reality. This includes recent stings in Winnipeg airport hotels and body rub parlour raids in Toronto. The city of Montreal is looking to start cracking down on erotic massage parlours as well. While indoor workers may not be a law enforcement priority, it's naive to think that law enforcement is taking a harm reduction or hands off approach to indoor sex work. That's inaccurate. Most of these groups are members of the Canadian Alliance for Sex Work Law Reform which is working for broad decriminalization, and work with a diversity of sex workers, which may include but are not limited to street-based workers. And while you may see street-based sex work as a public nuisance and significantly different from indoor sex work, the sex workers' rights movement does not. Zones of tolerance and other legislation that pushes sex workers into areas that are more dangerous to work (such as industrial areas), or where they are removed from where the clients are will always fail. These types of laws continue to criminalize sex workers and to my knowledge are never created in consultation with the sex workers who will be impacted by them. Street-based sex work cannot be excluded from the discourse or movement for sex workers rights. All sex work occurs on a continuum, and if we want to make things better for sex workers and their clients, we need solutions that do so for all sex workers and their clients. Addressing legal barriers to working indoors will help address the "nuisance" of street-based work. Beyond that, a more holistic push to address the social factors that drive people to "survival" work will have further positive impact on street-based sex work - so addressing poverty, an insufficient social safety net, housing insecurity, lack of affordable education, economic factors that push people to leave their home communities for bigger cities where they lack a support system, employment discrimination against trans people, etc. Clients don't have to support the organizations and work that already exists, but it would be prudent to do so. Sex workers have been organizing for decades, and have created a vibrant and robust global movement. I have yet to see any meaningful movement toward clients organizing for decriminalization. While you may view the work of sex workers rights organizations to be a failure, there have been many successes in an uphill battle against stigma and moralizing. If clients don't want to support sex worker orgs, how are they going to show up and advocate for decriminalization? How will they participate in applying the public pressure that definitely is necessary to create change?

Additional Comments: Additional Comments: Also like these as they lead up to what will be found.

Sex workers are already extremely active in lobbying and advocating for decriminalization. If you're a client who cares about decrim, consider donating to your local sex worker organization, that is already doing this work. These groups do amazing, important work, usually with next to no money. Unsurprisingly, grants and government funding are thin on the ground. https://www.butterflysw.org/ http://maggiestoronto.ca/ http://chezstella.org/en/ http://www.pivotlegal.org/ http://www.pace-society.org/ https://sunshinehousewpg.org/ http://www.shiftcalgary.org/ http://steppingstonens.ca/ And many others.

As a transgender provider, I've been constantly surprised by how accepting men tend to be. I was so worried about them knowing when I first started, but now I'm quite open about it. Being a sex worker has really given me confidence and self-esteem, and I'm really happy with the decision I made to do it. I've read a lot about how transgender women tend to end up as sex workers because they have less employment options due to discrimination. Has anyone found themselves in that situation? I'm curious to know.

I'm being inundated by a flood of private messages and texts from ladies all trying to coax me out to their club tomorrow. I guess they all got the call today to use their social media to get asses in seats. Don't get me wrong, I love the attention and the effort to advertise (an activity I've been trying to promote). It's just that I don't have the time or the money right now AND it hurts me to respond by computer or phone message because I ruined my hands chipping all the ice out of my driveway yesterday preparing for all of this snow we're getting. #ouch

At a juncture in my life realized the time had come to be "open to new" experiences. Made that my CERB name and approach. The resulting community relationships were accepting and enriching emotionally and sensually.

I chose my name because it was very unique.... In life there is always that group of people who have nothing else better to do, then gossip & spread rumour's. everyone has it happen to them at some point. Although when your mix raced or multicultural, beautiful and get most peoples attention soon as you walk into a room. well then out of either jealousy or envy it starts and its so hard to break the cycle. Not to mention being a big city girl/woman moving to a small country village, its all the more intense! & well that is my story since a young age. so I figured why not go by rumor. now here I am hehe