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I don't think I've read a sadder public post by another paid companion. What you've written here, IslandIndependent, honestly breaks my heart. If this has been your experience in our industry, I can only say that it hasn't been mine, for the most part. I want better for you. I agree that there are plenty of men who pay for the opportunity to get right down to what they want without having to go through a lot of preliminaries. Long ago, I used to have a lot of these meetings. The transactions were simple and clear. Feeling like I was only something to pound was rare, for me, but it happened sometimes. After awhile, I realized that I'm not submissive enough to just lie there and take it, or simply to follow directions compliantly. I don't need romance, but feeling bored isn't good for me, either. I decided to change things. I took a good look at what I know about myself, what my strengths and limitations are, what interests me, how I most enjoy relating to other people, how I want to be seen and understood, what I most appreciate about men, what I enjoy in bed and out of it, what I know about my own body's workings and what I know about men's bodies, too. From all of that, I recognized that I could offer a very fine, complete and rewarding experience to anyone with whom I chose to spend my time. I was right about it and I've never looked back. I welcome clients who want to spend some time with not just any woman, but with me. They've usually gone to the effort of getting to know something about me, whether by reading my website or reading what I've written in other places before they contact me. They try to present themselves as people I might be interested in meeting. We take it from there. A few e-mail exchanges, one or two phone conversations, then we meet, having recognized that we each think we'll enjoy spending a few hours together. If this will be the only time we'll ever meet, it will at least be worthwhile. And yeah, sure, we'll have sex, too. I've found that, almost without exception, men who will take a bit of time before the meeting will be concerned about what I want, too. They want the encounter to be good for me. I want the same for them. If they had specific things they wanted to do or to try, they will have told me about that at some point and I will have said whether I'm interested in or comfortable with those things. If the mood and energy is right, they will probably happen. If it's not right, they won't, but there won't be any hard feelings, either, because we will have made the decision together. In the end, I don't feel used, degraded or ignored. I trust that my client will feel admired, appreciated and enjoyed. Time well spent! This longer dance of seductive engagement is not for everyone. But if it's what you want, you can be sure that there are plenty of good men who want it, too. They will treat you well and appreciate you. The last thing I want to say is that if you're feeling detached from what you're doing or what is being done to you; if you feel like you're not really there when that's where you are; if you don't believe you have choices and the right to say what you do and don't want to do; if you don't think that your preferences are important or would be respected.... please stop. Don't sacrifice your spirit for the sake of what your body can earn. The sex trade is not right for most women. If it feels like it's not right for you, listen to that voice. If you need help to leave, help is available: PM or e-mail me.

This post is just about my thoughts on a subject, it's just my opinion, I'm not saying it is right, I'm not saying it is wrong, it just my views. First a little bit about myself, I'm in my mid-twenties. I've been in short relationships, long relationships (longest 3 years), but for pretty much this past year, I've been single. Dated a few girls, but nothing really that I would consider a serious "relationship". Something I have noticed though is especially in August aka "Wedding Season" is that a lot of what used to be my core friends are all getting married or are in pretty serious relationships. I've noticed that myself and my other "single" friends have slowly been indirectly pushed out of our social circles. Now, it's not that our "couple friends" are assholes or anything like that, they are great awesome people, it's just that "couples" hang out with "couples". While single people are slowly pushed to the curb. Mind you, this is just my opinion, it may not be the case all the time. So what is a single person to do? They are suppose to get back into a relationship. Society programs us to find someone else whether it be the bar, dating websites, the grocery store, or whatever else. And too, even if you find someone, you will always have that dreaded shadow behind you of past relationships. The public seems to think that just because a past relationship ENDS it equals FAILURE. How is that even fair? How is that even correct? Singleness is treated like a disease, like it needs to be fixed. It's treated like a state that one surely needs to change as quickly as possible, and a change we should all strive for. If you are single, friends view you as miserable, something is wrong you, and that they need to make sure you are going to make it. Western society drives the thought into children at a young age thru the media & even sometimes in real life, that a person should always be striving for romance or sexual desire. Being single does not represent success and happiness. The stigma of singleness needs to be removed. The devaluation of it needs to come to a halt. For example, what if in Ottawa, happiness didn't equal getting married, moving away from downtown, and moving into a house in Kanata or Orleans, then starting a family. Another example would be what if little girls weren't driven by society to organize their life around a heterosexual relationship as the focal point, then put other things like friends, a career, living arrangements etc. around that relationship wherever it may fit. What really is wrong with living with roommates? What really is wrong with living members of the opposite sex without dating? What really is wrong with living alone? This not only allows us to experience different social living structures but also allows us to escape the linear line that Western culture tries to cultivate upon us. Life doesn't need to be centered around sex or a relationship. Happiness can be found in numerous other bits & bytes in your life. Just because single people don't centralize their life around sex or a relationship, does not mean they are deficient. There's nothing deficient about being single, and pursuing the kind of life you want. If we as a society just expand our idea on what lives are acceptable, whether you are a middle aged male, divorced, single young lady with career aspirations, gay, lesbian, poly, or even straight married people living in Kanata/Orleans, basically ALL kinds of people, I just think we would be a lot better served.

I have to agree. It was a legit question one that "elite" members have asked hundreds of times. Welcome to cerb gman don't let them get you down.

My flight is booked I am so excited :icon_biggrin: ...For those who are on the fence take the leap ...The last social was my first and being that I am from out of town I was pretty nervous ...I had nothing to worry about everyone made me feel sooo welcome .... CERB ROCKS :bigclap: Cant wait to see everyone again :) Vanessa Kelly

This is what I get for posting early without having a first cup of coffee LOL But I do stand by my sentiments At least I'm sure I gave you Gabriella and Emily a smile...I hope RG

I expect that if all of the SP's pooled their stories and anecdotes that there is a bestseller in the works for the person that puts it together. Sometimes we do find the misfortunes of others funny, and after a period of time, funny even to those who suffered the misfortune. An example of this is the thread started by Megan about Best Fail Moments at http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=28938 and there are some hilarious stories in there. Recently I had an experience where I thought that I would have to cancel a date with less than one days notice. IF it had happened, I doubt that it would have been accepted as valid, but honest, this is the truth. You see, I have a severe allergy to wasp stings, but not to bee stings. A wasp sting causes severe pain, severe swelling, severe itching and burning, and does not go away in a matter of hours - it is days or weeks. Bees, no similarity. Anyway, the day before this encounter, I was outside, wearing nothing but a pair of very loose fitting shorts and I got stung. I knew it was a bee or a wasp. That was easily determined because you KNOW when you get stung. But I was not just stung anywhere, oh no, the little bugger had flown up my shorts, and must not have liked what it saw, so it decided to let me have it right on my balls. And then, reactions kick in. I swatted it. Double pain. Oh shit! They say that just before you die your life flashes before your eyes. Well this experience may be a close second. Pain, and then, "Was it a wasp or was it a bee"? And then, "If it was a wasp, will they ever believe me when I cancel"? The shorts were dropped, and upon investigation, I found the bee. Thank the good Lord above! OK, so this has made me wonder when I hear of guys cancelling at the last minute, what were the best stories that you may have heard as an SP, especially if you KNOW they were speaking truth? Or maybe it is the ones that you'd never believe, like, "I got stung on the balls by a wasp." Anyone care to top the excuse that I did not have to use? Guys, you can file that one away for when you need it, but trust me, you don't want this to happen to you.

The clip on the back of your bra breaks ( it's an old bra and it's laundry day) and you to go change in your powder room wishing to trash the bra in the garbage. The door to the bathroom is open since no one else is in the house. All of a sudden you look in the mirror and see the reflection of your neighbor as he is knocking on the front door. He stands there looking through with a perfect view in the glass and sees you standing there topless!!!! He grins and walks away. Fuccccck!!!! I will never be able to go outside again!!

if someone say she isn't pretty...I am ripping that person off:D This is Chinook, my horse, my baby, my reason of living <3

You know you're old when you remeber getting any new computer toy involved fiddling with jumpers and dip switches:

One day I got up for work forgetting I had been fired the day before.

if I ever get crazy,I want to be going in a place like this! I will put that in my will

When you deposit a personal cheque and the bank puts a hold on it for a week.

it is the simple things that start a day off right ... waking up refreshed (admitted thanks to zopiclone) ... the sun shining ... working from home instead of the office ... having your 8 am review call with your boss go well ... having it be mid morning and there are still no fires that need to be put out - expanding the probability of being able to make an early exit for the cottage

Got up early, went to the bakery and bought a right out of the oven loaf of egg bread. Stopped at Timmies, came home and buttered practically half of the still warm loaf. Took everything outside and read a book form 2 1/2hrs! Awesome morning so far!

Actually received all my luggage when I arrived home (I feel like I won the lottery)

Noting my number of posts, let me say this about that. I love 69. Dance me to heaven that way any day indeed. With that out of the way, I will now move on into the boring 70s. Carry on with what you were doing...

Many of my family members are single, and another important person in my life growing up was as well, all thru her life. I have 4 cousins never been married, and no kids, and as far as I can tell 2 of them have had some LTRs but no one brought home for Xmas. My uncle has always been single. Might be gay, who knows, might just be asexual, who knows. He is over 60 now. At some point, people around you, friends, family, the coupled, etc will accept you for what you are, and if that's single now and forever, so be it. After all within 10 or 15 years, all those recently married will no doubt also be single, and regret their coupling and at the very least, within a couple of years of marriage, will be envying all their single friends. Besides, 3 years LTR at your age is about as long term a relationship as can be expected.

Lexy is the best lady on Cerb, I have seen her and she is the nicest sweetest lady you could ever meet, she is like a real friend, I promise you if you go see Lexy you will feel like you made a new friend, she is one of a kind , Highly Recommended.

Eurythmics-Missionary Man http://www.metacafe.com/watch/sy-25142343/eurythmics_missionary_man_official_music_video/ RG

Found this review on another site: I called up Fat Bastard BBM last night for an outcall to my house. One of the inglorious bastards showed up immediately. He proceeded to inspect my fridge, whereupon he procured a case of beer, which he consumed while waiting for a pizza that he ordered to arrive. Upon the pizza's arrival, he informed me that he did not have his wallet and insisted that I pay the driver. After consuming half the pizza, he unzipped his pants and passed out on the couch, snoring loudly. He is still there. He may no longer be breathing, but I am afraid to check. Nonetheless, I would repeat.

We sure did Mister C and thank you for TOFTT. I only have a hotlink to my website there now, which is my old link and not my new one. I don't advertise there anymore for personal reasons. Big Kisses, Lexy

take some pole dancing class! tell me they make you work out!:P well...I didn'T find the thread, what are your services? how much?:P:thedeed:

Honestly I have had encounters where it was just sex, just "wham bam thank you ma'am" because once I got there realized there was no genuine connection between me and this person. And trust me in each case I did not repeat. Many of us, myself included, are looking for more than just "wham bam thank you ma'am". No we're not looking for relationships or girlfriends....that's why we're here. But that doesn't mean we don't care about the woman getting pleasure out of being with us. At least in my case, I like to feel that I did everything possible to show her a good time. If we're not both enjoying ourselves, then the whole experience is ruined for me and I just leave feeling like, pardon the term, a pity fuck. No one likes to feel that way. A mutually pleasurable experience is much more satisfying in every way.

Classic!

Xavier Rudd - Didjeridoo Jamming

A fisking seems to be in order: That may be true for some guys, but not for all. And certainly not for the smart ones, I think. It seems to me that a lady who's having fun herself is more likely to want to make sure that I'm also having a good time, if only to make sure I come back in the future. Yes, there are some things you can expect from a boyfriend that you can't expect from a client. But I've read quite a few recos here that described situations that sounded quite romantic to me (although to put that in context, I'm crap at romantic stuff, so my judgement of this probably isn't worth much). And trust me, we *like* it if we manage to reduce the lady we're with to a quivering pile of orgasmic awesomeness, if only because it strokes our egos and makes us feel like newly-incarnated sex gods. We don't always manage it, alas, but... No. Absolutely not. Everyone has limits, however tightly or liberally they may choose to draw them, and there is absolutely no requirement for anyone to go beyond those limits just because an envelope with cash in it may have been placed somewhere earlier. It is not up to you to do what anyone wants you to do if you're not happy doing it, or if you just don't feel like it right now, or for any other reason. Or for no reason at all, if that's what you decide. Well, you probably can't stop him. And I suspect that you probably shouldn't, either. After all, if he wants to treat you like a piece of meat, why on earth would you want him around for a second longer? Because he wants to have a good time too. And because, believe it or not, some of us are actually just nice people. No, you're a person I'd like to have the privilege of meeting, and I'd hope we would have fun together, and that you'd enjoy it as much as I would. Note the important word there: WE. I obviously can't speak for anyone else on this, but I think (and hope) that most of the guys here would agree with me on this. This may be true of some. It isn't true of all. There are as many reasons for seeing SPs as there are people who go to see them. And FWIW, hanging around in bars hoping to get lucky and getting increasingly desperate as closing-time approaches is a really sucky way to spend an evening. On a lighter note... So when did "How To Have Sex With Escorts" become "How To Make Coffee"? Does supplying good coffee to your chosen SP get you better sex, or something? :)

That is one of the great things about this place......learn......enjoy.....forgive.....forget..... And..... SEX.............. Posted via Mobile Device

Ok seriously men are paying to have sex with you its not about us they just want to get off, if you are looking for romance and for you to be pleased then maybe you need to get a boyfriend. If a man is paying for an hr or whatever its up to him what he wants to do and its your job to let him do what he wants and for you to do what he wants to do and if he just wants to fuck and leave well he paid for it. I really dont get why he should worry about what you want because to most men you are just something they use to obtain a goal. And i know some men will pay so they can get right down to what they want otherwise they wouldnt come to an escort they would do their wives,gf's or go to a bar and pick up. Posted via Mobile Device

Walking, I love catching sight of a hot, fit body in the distance, and watching the details fill in as she approaches.

Communication and a respectful environment are the keys to an mind blowing out of body experience. The is no proper way to spend time with someone or an order that needs to be followed (with the exception of the shower). You would be very surprised as to how people want to spend their time with someone when communication flows.

I was raised a Roman Catholic. Went to Cathecism (Sunday school), had my First Communion and all that other stuff. I even went to an all-girls' Catholic school. But when I was 14 years old, I came to a revelation. Catholicism was bullshit. I disagreed with so many of the beliefs, I told my mom I wanted to go to a public school for high school because I was renouncing my faith as a Catholic. This of course broke my poor mother's heart. However, I showed her over the years that although I didn't feel the need to attend mass or confession, I could still live my life and make both her and God proud of me. I personally do not believe in RELIGION. It's unnecessary and has been the cause of far too many wars. But I do believe in God, have a wonderful relationship with him, and consciously try everyday to become a better person. I do what I can to make a difference in other peoples' lives, I follow the Ten Commandments (ok, except maybe that adultery one, but whatever) and I give to charity. I believe in KARMA (what goes around, comes around) and God. And so far in my life, I've found if you give to God, God gives back. Not in any way trying to be preachy or pious. Just letting you all know what works for me. :)

Well Cath. I have to reply to this. :) and I am LMAO. I hit a moose on the day of a visit with an SP as i work remotely and around moose every day. I was able to keep the truck mobile to make it to my date. I can see however if I had to cancel how this would have sounded and it was sure crossing my mind. Telling an SP from the big city that I hit a moose on my way to see her. Forgot about that one.

I personally love the sexy, sluty office worker look;) Hair in bun, glasses, office skirt just a bit shorter than it should be, stockings, and a button up blouse...with one too many buttons undone, hehehe

Agreed. I'd be all over her like a hungry grizzly bear on a spawning salmon. Posted via Mobile Device