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It is totally possible! I am currently in poly relationship with my common-law partner of seven years. I have a secondary relationship that's been going on for the last three. Everyone knows about each other and both of them know what I do for a living. Here's the thing--it is unrealistic to assume that one person can fulfill all of your sexual and/or emotional needs. But that doesn't mean that there isn't enough love to go around if you are considering polyamory. A mother loves each of her children, no matter how many she has. You are only limited by time. The key is communication, communication, communication. And this means a couple of things: 1. Don't assume. 2. Tell your partner how you're feeling and why when things like insecurity or jealousy arise (because they will--no one is perfect). And be honest and to the point. Don't be vague or try to make your partner guess. Also, get yourself a copy of the Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt. ASAP. Good luck!

I don't think you can ever say one would be better than the other. The reality of the situation is that no one person is the same, as is no relationship. I can see how both could work as well as fail. Also, just because you were poly with a certain partner or two and were happy and all worked out, doesn't mean that in the future you'll be poly with another and be happy. I think all relationships are beautiful and wonderful if people are honest and there are real caring feelings being shared. That's the most important thing. I've experienced both, and nothing is better than being with the people you care for, regardless if others are involved or not. Whatever makes you happy and works at that moment. :icon_biggrin:

You know those moments when you wish you could have a mulligan on your life and go back to the start knowing what you know now? My kids would be the reason that I would never want to start absolutely fresh. If there was even the most remote chance that my kids would never have been born, or would have been different... it would be the end of me. I don't live for my kids, and my kids have quite an independent life a few hundred kilometers away, but when I see them, when I am near them, when I talk to them I always know that there is someone in the world that loves me unconditionally and that love is returned in the same way. I am so happy to be a father, but even happier to be daddy.

To all the Ladies and Gents on CERB: Mark your calendars for Thursday, December 8th as the date for the Christmas Social being hosted in Ottawa by yours truly and Old Dog. More info will be posted in November regarding ticket sales for the Gents and Agencies (cost and number of tickets we will be selling), venue, etc. Please note that this is NOT a Cerb sponsored party so please do not bother the Mod about this upcoming event. For discretion purposes, this event is only open ONLY to Cerb members, regardless of what part of the country you are from. Out-of-town members and touring ladies are most welcome. The dress code for this event will be business-casual or Christmas wear. No micro-minis or t-shirts or ripped jeans please. I will be taking care of both e-mail money transfer and cash payments. Tickets will be available the first week of November. At previous socials, we had some generous benefactors for door prizes, so if anyone is so inclined to contribute to this one, donations of gift cards of any denomination would be welcomed. Hope to see some old familiar faces and new ones of course at the next social. Remember Ladies - If you are an SP/MA member of CERB, there is no cost for you to attend. Agency owners may also attend (with paid ticket) and are welcome to bring along up to a maximum of 4 ladies this time (for free of course).

I respectfully disagree that it's impossible to find someone who can fulfill all the needs of a person, whether it be sexual, emotional, physical, etc. I think it is possible (how easy it is to find that person is a whole new bag of worms) to find that person, it just can take some time. I don't know if you any of you ever watch How I Met Your Mother (greatest show ever), I always wish I was more like Barney Stinson, but in reality I guess I'm more like Ted Mosby. I've been in numerous relationships, some of have ended well, some have ended not so well, but in all of them, I did feel she fulfilled those needs, and didn't feel the need to search for someone else. I'm a glass half full type of person, I suppose. I do believe in monogamous relationships, I do not think they are over-rated. I might be in the minority here, but it's just what works for me. At the same time though, what works for me, doesn't mean it works for everyone else. Although, I disagree with poly type relationships, it doesn't mean they are wrong. I still respect those people the same as anybody else is. The truth is, I don't think there is a right or wrong relationship. Both have an immense type of benefits and both can work. As long as all parties involved in the relationship are all on the same page, and there is honesty, that's all that matters. Honesty is the key policy and as long as that is there, then you'll always have a a working relationship, and that's what matters.

For a long time I thought I was monogamous, even if I am still young...I was raised that you are suppose to love only one person all your life...but then again why 70% of marriages end in divorce? I cannot be 100% fulfilled with one person... 1) I am truly bisexual, so I need both a man and woman around me. 2) I demand a lot of my partners and lovers. More then one person can actually take. I am passionate about life and others things that make it extremely hard for one only to handle 3) I am kinky. I know it may sound stupid to say that in open relationship thread, but a small percentage of the population is actually kinky the way that *I* consider it...so often I want a part of the person but not their love per say. Also with this lign of work, it is hard to find someone that can meet ALL of what I need and be okay with the fact that I am an escort. I use to be a serial monogamous dater, I would date someone for one month, be single one week, date again. I would settle for someone that would show interest in me...now I know better. I don't settle for less then what I truly want. At this present moment, I am not *dating* anyone in the way that most people would understand it. Though I do have 3 persons in my life that I care for, that we play, have sex, talk, cry together...but I am not in love with them. Actually when I think about it, I don't fall in love easily. But as long as all party are aware of the fact that you are poly, and agreed with it...life and embrace it. It took me a while to accept the fact that it is actually okay to be with more then one person! But now that I did accepted that...I feel way more happy about myself and my relationship/friendship. as Berlin said, every person that think that they may be poly should read The Ethical Slut, it's a really good book:)

I've never personally been a Dr. Phil fan for the reason the previous posters have mentioned he is far too condescending to his guests. He simply goes for the easy TV ratings. I'd also be curious to know what percentage of his guests need real therapy after being on his show (from what I've seen it's usually an hour of him talking down to his guests - but maybe I haven't seen enough of his shows. By the way has anyone ever checked this man's papers to see if he is a real medical doctor? Posted via Mobile Device

Dr. Phil is a moron, granted... but this woman actively sought out his advice on how to not be an escort as she didn't like the work... just the "gifts." You don't go on Dr. Phil and cry about your life because you're proud of what you do and full of self esteem.

Yeah that sucks Cheektocheek especially after you warned her not to do it. Not all SPs are like this. Bad business move on her end.

I had the pleasure of meeting Josie this past week while in Vancouver and it was one of the finest encounters i,ve experienced. Her website was accurate as was her pics although i felt she was better looking in person. Her incall in Yalestown was easy to get to and well appointed she greeted me at the door with a warm kiss and hug we chatted for a while before she undressed me and led me to the shower where we got to know each other more intimately. Josie is extremely energetic and very very vocal she was not afraid to "point me" in the right direction when needed and taught this old dog a few new tricks,something i thought was impossible ! She has a way of putting you at ease and making you so comfortable that the encounter feels like it wasn,t our first time together, she is not a clock watcher and seconds are definetly on the menu !My only regret is that she,s a 4 hour plane ride away but i will return, thats a promise i intend to keep.

Or your S.O. makes a distinction between working Sugar and personal Sugar and personal Sugar is all his/hers.

c2c, there is absolutely no reason you should have to go to the trouble and expense of a 2nd phone due to someone's inability to be professional. I posted this caution on another thread, basically texting is EXACTLY the same as making a phone call EXCEPT anyone can read the other side of the conversation. AT least if someone calls you up out of the blue in an inconvenient time, you can say wrong number and hang up, or not now I'm busy, I'll call you. A text that uses terms like "incall" and no doubt "hun' or "baby" is unexplainable. There is nothing discrete about texting, yet time after time I see the same rationalization that it is. But more and more I am seeing exactly this kind of complaint from clients because of that presumption. Sps who wouldn't dream of calling a client out of the blue will send texts at inappropriate times. So all you need to do is ask yourself, if you wouldn't phone that client with that information at that time, then you should NOT be sending a text either.

Okay bear with me here, things are gonna get convoluted! CW McCall reminds me of the author Chris Moore because one of his books had a character named Slick McCall. Chris Moore's books make me happy with their outlandish plots and absurd humor. An independent film company, Troma, also makes me happy with the absurd humor and outlandish plots found in their low budget movies. The president of Troma entertainment is Lloyd Kaufman, who along with running Troma and directing films, also directs music vidoes. Which leads us to the following Kaufman directed video: Entombed - Seeing Red

Linda Evans has my vote Las Vegas Vanessa Marcil Molly Sims Nikki Cox

some people dream big....

Allergies.......:vatefaire:...evil little things.

A somewhat difficult question to answer, actually. Whenever I'm with an attractive woman, I'm honestly interested in things going as far as possible. Maybe that's just me or my nature, or maybe it's just a guy thing. But, even knowing the rules/limits, it's hard not to think "damn I wish we could take this further." I won't say that it ever gets in the way of or intrudes on the enjoyment of what is going on, though. For me, part of the biggest preoccupation is that in sex I am at least equally and probably more interested in giving pleasure, and this is difficult in an MA scenario. I live the heat, wetness, smells and sounds of a woman enjoying herself and getting off. This is something that occupies my thoughts during an MA session because rules generally get in the way of realizing it.

This alone should have been enough for her not to text you, period. Very tacky and unprofessional on her part, I would say. I am so sorry to hear this happened to you, Cheek.

Absolutly, if I have permission to call a clinet I do so at the exact minute I was instructed to do you. If I am five minutes late I lose. I would way rather miss talking than put my client in a position of feeling insecure and even worse having to explain to his S O. This is just bad for everyone involved. This is why we can PM each other. Yes sometimes we can miss a date but how important is this when we think of the consequence our client may have to face. We are here to make our clients life just a little nicer, never to hurt or make then have to answer questions that didn't need to be asked in the first place.

I love babies, children, tweens and teens. I am a machine when it comes to having a baby (last labour, 13 mins start to completion) and if I could stay permanently pregnant I would have. I also understand the lack of maternal drive and I think people should be encouraged to make a choice for themselves and not what society thinks we all should do. I have friends who are not maternal at all and should have never had children. I know people who only ever wanted to be mothers, be disastrous mothers! I have also seen women who seemed to lack maternal instinct become amazing mothers so I don't think anyone can say one way or the other whether they would be a good parent until they actually become one. I have cared long term for little ones who's mothers just couldn't do it and I have seen the long term results. It makes for a difficult life for both parents and children. It's quite a crap shoot. Deciding not to have a child is a responsible act. Anyone can have a child but you need a license to fish. Go figure. I am a huge supporter of adoption, especially "older child" adoptions. I think that there are so many options that a person can exercise later if they choose not to have their own that chosing not to have children isn't that big a deal. If you get to that certain age where it is "sh*t or get off the pot" and you decide not to, then you have made a good decision for you. If you change your mind, there is always a child out there waiting for good home. My momma always said that there isn't a problem in the world that can't be fixed with a baby and a rocking chair and she was right. I wouldn't trade those long days, even longer nights, diaper changes, snotty noses or stiches for anything in this world. That said, I'm glad that part is over and my little ones are all now big ones. Soooo much easier. Now I'm just waiting for granbabies! cat

I'm going to try really hard to keep this within if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all. As a woman she has the choice to do whatever she wants. If that involves escorting that means she still has free will and choice. Just because somebody sells their body for sex doesn't mean that they are available for anyone with cash or involved in some sort of sexual slavery. For a lot of women on CERB its not all about money. That's what makes them top notch escorts. I find your statement really disturbing. Posted via Mobile Device

I like babies, not as much as the women that I work with who will drop everything to go hold, couchie coo and oogle over any new baby that comes into our work area.( lots do). I'm O.K. with that too, because what follows is little children. Little children are a blessing to the world. They are cuite , honesty and refeshing. Most can wipe their own bums , but if they can't and you are get pressed into service , consider it training. After that comes childhood and if you do this correctly it helps to keep you young. Then the teenage years and you just have to remember, they are individual that you don't control you just help to guide into adulthood. If you did all of that in a more or less descent manner you can be proud of the outcome and they just might bless you with a grandchild; and that is even more fun and less work and comes at a time when you could use more fun and less work. I'm waiting for my second one , but that is something I don't controle: AND that is the point of children. They are put on this earth to show you that you are not the center of the universe. Remember they don't have to be your own children though. Save some love for all the children of the world

You can NOW hide your profile. This feature is in your UserCP area now. I have turned back on the RECENT VISITORS system and if you don't want certain people to see it just block everyone from your profile and only let select few view your profile.

I'm really glad I don't have Dr. Phil as my therapist. Yikes. I had less self-esteem when I working for wages that progressively got lower and lower as the years have gone by, working as an admin. assistant for employment agencies that gouged the federal government by billing almost twice they pay me (talk about pimps). Over the years, I have had to work with some people who treated me like crap, never showed me or other any appreciation, stuck me with demeaning tasks and blamed me when things went wrong. I was also let go once because I refused to do a task that could have jeopardized my security clearance. Since I had no union protection and the agency didn't care, I had no recourse in that situation. Oh, but I'm supposed to be proud of that because it's better than escorting. According to who? Dr. Phil of the bible belt? Since I have gone from part-time escorting to full-time escorting, I can work part-time hours for full-time pay and not have to put up with all that bullshit. I'd like to see Dr. Phil give up his standard of living to live in public housing, go on assistance or have to rely on food banks or charities to get by. This lady needs to look at why she is burning out. She mentioned her clients treat her good. Not knowing her full story or the details behind it, I would hesitate to comment on what she needs to do, but it sound like time management issue may play into this. I believe I have more self-esteem now that I did when I was doing office work and being unrewarded and unappreciated for my efforts.

I figure with the water polo team you get 12 shots, but they have a goalie... so I am going with a synchro 9!!! Audrey Hepburn... Katherine Hepburn.... Or Former Ontario Premier Mitch Hepburn (ohhh so timely!!!)?

How could I forget? La Columbiana (Angie Cepeda) in Vargas Llosa's "Pantaleón y las visitadoras"

Pm namssa, he is the authority....or pm me. I'd rather not post my haunts publicly