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I don't think this is the best way to go about looking for your "entertainment". I don't mean any offence when i say this, But this is what i call lazy hobbying. I understand not everyone has the time to search through the recomendations and postings everyday. You're asking for the ladies to basically "apply" to be your entertainment. I think you would find better luck perusing the reco's and private messaging specific SP's that catch your interest. It sounds like you're looking for a pse experience so start with that tag. Again i don't mean offence i just think with a little bit of effort you'll find exactly what you're looking for. DoM

Once, a long time ago, I used to be the kind of pooner for whom quantity had a quality all its own. I flitted from lady to lady like a butterfly to all the flowers... a rather apt simile. I wanted to sample every flavor in the candy store, say that I could speak with first-hand knowledge of every reputable working lady in my small city. And you know what? It was an empty goal. It was unsatisfying. It was mechanical. It was collecting notch after notch on my bedpost (another unfortunate metaphor) without any joy or satisfaction. To make a long story short, I now poon much less than I once did. But now I try to make every time count. I want every time to be special. So I became a very different kind of hobbyist. I pore over the reviews and posts of prospective ladies and try and gauge compatibility on more than an physical level first. It's almost like real-life dating. I do this because all that previous experience taught me that even great sex with a complete stranger was empty. What gives my current outings much more meaning is when there was that connection. The authentic friendship (albeit with boundaries) that grows organically from repeating with the same lady time after time. Yes, perhaps this means that I've fallen more than was wise. Perhaps it's even been many times. This certainly sounds like it contradicts my 'Advice', doesn't it? But what has made the difference for me is that I can sense now when danger lurks. Not because I care, because that happens rather frequently. But rather when I care too much and want to overflow those boundaries. It's time for me to back off then, mourn the loss. Then move on. Sure, when this happens I could go back to the kind of pooner I was. But if I did, I would lose out on the kinds of experiences I treasure and value. And it's worth the risk.

Barb's is my local hangout, and I haven't been to any other club in ages, probably a couple of years. I know lots of the dancers and staff at Barb's, and I like the welcome feeling. There's almost always someone I know who's working when I drop in, and when there's not there'll be someone new and interesting to meet. It never fails. The women are among the most attractive I've met, and there's nothing like dancers' bodies. All that exercise works wonders! Think Jessie, Ariel, Jennie, Maude.... Barb's has some of the hottest girls, which is why I started going there in the first place LOL, and it keeps me coming back.... The other thing is the convenience of the location (for me), not having to drive, and able to drink without worrying about limits :) There are limits in the CR, of course, but I've had some great times with amazing women. There was some discussion a while ago on here about Barb's having to close in the next couple of years, so seize the day, gather ye rosebuds, and all those other expressions of encouragement :) I note too that the Barb's thread on here is the single most viewed thread on the board, so there's clearly lots on interest. I do intend to check out Pigale and Taboo again, though, some time.

None of us can tell you what the best gift possible is for someone else but perhaps you might want to consider what you would like your gift to mean and why you are giving it. I find that most gifts I receive can fit into 3 categories - Make our time better, Spoil me, and Make my life easier. Gifts that make our time better are often things like lingerie, adult toys, wine, food, or show/event tickets for the two of us. Gifts meant to spoil me are generally luxury items that I may or may not buy for myself; massages, spa days, designer clothes, shoes or handbags, wine club memberships, jewelry, tickets that are meant to be used on my own (or with a friend), etc. Gifts that make my life easier are often things that I plan on buying myself but for whatever reason are on the 'hold' list or payment of services I use or will allow me to free up my time; furniture, gift certificates for practical services eg. an airline or shoppers drug mart, a cleaning lady for a few days, tuition, etc. Each of these gifts are different and most ladies will appreciate whatever you provide, the difference is how it's used and what your goal is. In my own experience when I am given a gift that we can share during our date it adds a level of excitement or fun and both the item and the thought are generally appreciated but overall if you are trying to express gratitude for a more personal relationship it might not be the most appropriate. There are only so many toys one lady can have and depending on what the toy is it may be fluid bonded to you so she'll just be storing it until your next date or if it's lingerie that is specific to your taste or fetish then it too will just be stored until next time she meets you. Now in the 'spoil me' category there is a good deal of crossover and these items can be both practical or something that can be for your dates as well. Some expensive lingerie might be something she enjoys but doesn't generally buy for herself, if you are hoping to see her in it then it falls into the first category as well however if you knew that she had a photoshoot coming up and wanted something special for it (and you know her taste) then buying it for her is also very practical as she will save money and expense. The same thing can be said for manicures, pedicures, etc. as most women in this industry use them regularly and they can be a big expense but a lot of clients find her painted toes or well groomed hands a bonus as well. Overall I find gifts that spoil me to be fun and it's even better if they have a personal touch such as mentioning to me that you picked it because you remember my saying I enjoyed xyz. Gifts that make my life easier are often some of the best gifts but you really need to know somebody to know what is useful to her. If she is in school you might be able to pay for a class for her or some of her books, if she travels a lot then gift certificates for Porter might come in handy, or if she mentioned to you in conversation that she needed a new bookcase/lamp/bedding set... etc. then a gift certificate to a store where she can pick that out may not seem like the most romantic gift but in general it will be appreciated. The gift becomes personal and special just by the fact that you are trying to help her free up her own time or money so she has one less thing on her plate, it's perfectly acceptable to explain that as well and often appreciated; mention when she opens the gift or include a note that says something like "I was thinking about when you said you needed... and I thought this would help you with that goal." or say that you didn't want her to worry about whatever problem and therefore you picked your gift to make her life a little easier as she has done for you. Overall I'd say look at what you think she'll enjoy and what your goal is, it doesn't have to be expensive but it'll be personal to her and the thought and intentions behind it will go a long way to putting a smile on her face as well.

Always listen to older people, they know stuff.

I wear a poppy. In fact, I go through about a dozen every year. Getting in and out of vehicles and seat belts cause me to lose them and I always buy more and I always thank the seller. For some time we worked a shuttle that involved the military. I don't know how it started but there was a tradition that when someone shipped out, they would stick one of those velcro-backed Canada flags to the fabric on the ceiling of the van. When they came back, they collected their flag. I have two of those flags that were not collected. They mean a lot to me. I know what they cost. "Theirs is not to reason why, theirs is to do ... "

I fully agree that politics should be left out of this occassion. Again, I support the troops, even if I don't support the mission they are sent on. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to stand in the path of a credible threat to your life for the sake of someone else, whether you are doing it for reasons you believe in or not. I commend every single one of them for having that courage, because I'm the sort of questioning, doubting person that couldn't. My grandmother lived in occupied Holland as well, and I have heard so many incredible stories of their life in wartime. My grandfather met her after the liberation of Holland. He was a cook in the airforce. He's been gone now for several years, but every year on Remembrance Day I listen to "Brothers in Arms" from Dire Straits and close my eyes and think of the stories I've been told. It's a quiet moment for me, no matter where I am. Da1Root, I was merely suggesting that the sentiment and bravado behind that slogan is very American in the same way that "these colours don't run" is exceptionally American. What I am proudest about in our military history in Canada is that we have always gone to war to help bring peace and to liberate people, as ridiculous as fighting for peace sounds. It's not aggressive bravado that I am proud of, it's humanity backed by a willingness to sacrifice. I think that's the greatest legacy the men and women of our armed forces live and grant us, and it includes the right to disagree. I think the greatest tribute and respect I can show is questioning why they are being sent into harm's way, in order to try and ensure that their sacrifice is meaningful and valid rather than wasted. That's the greatest support we can all show the troops, since we're not standing there on the field of battle with them.

A little thank you to the Canadian Forces. I have been very fortunate to have had many under my command over the years in Afganistan and Kosovo. They were always extremely professional, loyal and courageous. I don't think most Canadians realize what high regard Canadian soldiers, sailors and airmen are held in by your NATO allies. Be proud of your forces present and past, they are your history and history shows how great they are and were. Give them the support they need and remember to thank a veteran, you have no idea how much it means to us when that happens. :D

So you've fallen hard for a lady in the business. I know where you are, brother. I really do. I've been there too. You're in good company. This has happened to many of us in the hobby, and as much as we like to kid ourselves otherwise, it happens to the ladies too. It's hard to know which is the more powerful desire, the need for sex or the need for love. And it's hard in this hobby sometimes because one feels so much like the other. Falling hard is sneaky because it tends to happen when we lack something in our lives, but it can catch us unaware at the best of times. I'm not likely to tell you something you don't already know or haven't thought about. But since you asked, here are my thoughts in the matter. The ladies work hard to give us what we want. And we work hard to find the ones who are good at giving us what we're looking for. And it is the really good ones that pose the greatest risk, because they give so much of themselves to make you happy. Perhaps she might even have liked you a little more than the next guy. But your time runs out, you leave starry-eyed and wobbly-legged, you leave daydreaming about her. And she might be already on to her next client, who she's already trying to make as happy as you. The good ones do. And that is why you chose her in the first place..... hmmm? I used to think that it was all an act. But I came to realize that that was really selling the ladies short. Because for the good ones, it isn't an act. They really do love what they do and they do enjoy your company. But there must be boundaries to that caring. There just has to be. Otherwise, she wouldn't be able to be good at what she does for the next guy. She has to let it go. And that is what we have to do as well. And at the end of the day, most of us hardly know the lady who's given us so much pleasure. She could be anyone behind those eyes. Anyone. Good, bad, evil, divine. Think about that for a moment. You don't know her, you don't know her baggage. And she will have some, brother, as I know you will have your own. She likely doesn't know you at all either. She would be right to be wary. I'm not saying that it might not work out for the two of you. But the chances are so slim, and the impediments in your way are so large, that lasting happiness is so unlikely. It's truly a shot in the dark, as remote as a lottery win. You asked me for my advice, brother. And mine to you is to have some variety. Keep reading the ads and reviews. Find other ladies who everyone's raving over. Go see them, give them a shot at knocking your socks off. And undoubtedly some of them will. And doing that will give you perspective in this terrible and wonderful hobby of ours. For it's most healthy for you to love the experiences, but not the ladies. I can speak from experience that I know how hard it is to follow this advice, but look in your heart and see if it doesn't ring straight and true. Good luck, brother.

Great thread! Thanks for your thoughts, everyone.

Gift cards can be the way to go. Look at the lady's website, she may have favourite stores she shops at. A gift card to one of those stores. RG

Happy birthday to Cerbs biggest Clint fan.

I like Angela because she has good intentions towards others and a warm heart.

I like Castle because he's a kindred spirit - an Alice Cooper fan like me!

Thanks RG - my hat is off to all the SAR techs that work year round saving the life of others while putting their own at risk. A trade that is full of amazing men and women!

I was the remote controll for my older sisters, lmao

Mama said knock you out - was an AWESOME song (then again I liked LL in my teen years) - songs about boxing... there's the easy Rocky reference but I thought of a bit more of an obscure one first...

Feeling like you've maybe healed a wound you never should have created in the first place.

Sophia Varoushka, looking hot and fit

I'm thinking that's probably an indication that she's retired. She has no ads up anywhere and if her contact info no longer works...well....too bad too. She was a blast!

Well then Thank Goodness for them. That's what makes them even the more so courageous, daring, HEROIC and hard-as-nails! They went so we didn't have to so we can be free. Let's leave politics behind us for this thread shall we?

Really? If you don't stand behind our troops feel free to stand in front of them! That'll be my only and last comment to any type of negative comments.

We will remember them past and present......

I saw Dakota with Explore-Her a few weeks ago. I believe she may have gone to Toronto for a while to go back into dancing. Don't worry gents. she would be returning. Booking was done without a problem. She was wearing sexy lingerie under the hotel robe while standing behind the door. I could tell from the fit of the robe that her booty would be an amazing sight to see. Her age, picture and measurements are accurate on the EH website. I stayed for the usual hour and we had 2 SOG. She was very accommodating to my request. I was also dressed nice and showered/shaved for our date. We started out with LFK which quickly turned to DFK, then I experienced her sloppy BBBJ which was amazing. I returned the favor by giving some DATY. DATY was real nice since her booty is a handful. (If you guys are looking for a girl with a nice backside, I would definitely recommend her.) I stood up and she started BBBJ when I started to CIM. She moved back and I could tell she was not up to it so I laid my juice on her lovely C cups. I cleaned up and we talked for a bit. The sight of her booty and her BBBJ technique got me up again soon. On goes the hat and I find myself experiencing multiple positions with her. Cowgirl, reverse CG as she faced the mirror, doggy was amazing (again because of her assets) and a very long Mish was enjoyed by the both of us. At last in Mish, she was moaning and said to me "baby, you made me cum. baby, you made me cum." I could tell she was wet and her V was pulsating. That was enough for me to hear and experience as I filled the hat with my juice the second time. We must have been going at it for atleast 30-45 mins. Wow, what an experience. Face - 8 (could be higher but I am also comparing her to some of the MTL talent I have experienced) Body - 9 (for the booty, and she is short and in good shape) experience - 8 (no CIM) service - very pleasant to be with. very nice girl who knows how to treat you well. Recommend - Yes PM me if you have questions. Hunk

very much the same sentiment here. And laos what birdboy said in the latter, that is give other ladies a try after doing your research, you will see its more about the lustful experiences that anything else really. Unless otherwise.... like sharing life stories and what not then probably a mutual feeling of each other.

There is always the possibility of falling in love with an sp, or ma, but very rarely does it work or last. One of the problems i have found in my years of hobbying, is that many times, even though the sp or ma and i would of gotten along amazingly, it will almost always be in the back of their minds, is how you both met. I know some people, as i have also had relationships with some ladies, that later on in the relationship, if you get into an argument, the "how" you met sometimes gets into play. It's a very difficult line to cross. It can happen, but it is rare.

There was a comment that a lady made elsewhere, on reading my post. It was that you can love someone (in the context of a session) without *being* in love with that person. The more I thought about it, the more it made sense. I have been truly loved at times in this hobby. I knew it. I felt it. But I knew that love evaporated the moment I walked out that door. I knew she wasn't in love with me. There is a popular belief that the Inuit have many more words for snow than English has, to capture all the nuances of the many forms that mere frozen water can have. And like the Inuit, I think that this business could use more ways to describe love, in its many forms.

This is a a tough topic. Like Capialman mentions though, boundaries. This is a word that goes out to the water for a few. I have regular clients I really like, a few I'm fond of. However, when too many boundaries are crossed I do encourage that person to move on. I'm pretty open about who I am and don't mind personable, within our personal boundaries as we are all different. There's so many great Ladies and Gents on board here. What we provide and share should be explored and not held too dearly. If it's no longer fun and if it becomes too emotional, it's no longer sexy.

What other call love I tend to call it lust:P I tend to fall more easily in love then in lust...giving my particular lifestyle (bdsm), when I fall in love, I tend to want less of it and more the "vanilla" stuff, but when I am in lust, I want the passion and bdsm... There is nothing wrong about being in love with an escort IMO,if you are TRULY okay with the person doing what she does...most people say that they are, but when they are in a steady relationship...eh. it doesn't seem to always be the case and from what I know and can hear ,the ex-client would rather that then SP stop working love, like, lust, as long as people are happy...who care?

The question of what is love has been debated since the beginning of mankind! It's different for everyone. I KNOW that what I experience as love other people may never get the chance to experience. What others call love maybe I call lust? Everyone is different and has different experiences. You can't judge others or what they feel. Take the social misfit who never engages other people except maybe one day he hires an escort. That might be the closest thing to love he'll ever experience. So be it...let him call it love, where we might call it lust. My comment here is this, what is wrong with developing feelings for a client or escort? What's wrong with it? Because it interferes with your business? Know the boundaries and stick to them. If you can't do that, then you shouldn't be an escort or shouldn't be a client! Feelings are good, that's why we're here. Life is about relationships...it's not about who has the most money when yo die, it's about who had the best of times during their life. I look at someone like my Dad that basically had one girl his entire life, married her, she died (my Mom) and now has a new girlfriend but that's about it. He's shy, introverted and awkward around people. Hell will freeze over before I live my life like that. I want more, I want it all. I want relationships, feelings, love, lust, sex, perversion. I want experiences...fill me up until I'm overflowing then when I die it's over. I win. That's what I want.....all of it. You should want that too. Don't be afraid of love, embrace it everywhere you can! imho ymmv :)

I know man... it hurts. Sometimes I walk down the street and I get those looks, you know the ones I am talking about. Eyes go right to the package... and they stare... and in their minds they are thinkin', "Dance white boy, dance." And I am ashamed to say... I do it. I dance. I dance like no one is watching. I thrust my pelvis backwards and forwards, to and fro, up and down... and they can't see the invisible tears I am shedding. I need a tissue....