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I've always found it strange that this is the one business where the "genuineness" of the encounter always seems to be questioned (I don't necessarily mean by CERB members, more in general). No one questions whether their nanny or day-care provider "really" cares about the children they look after, despite the fact that they are paid to do so. Like Cat, when clients come to see me, they meet "me," flaws and all. I give 100% and I do genuinely care about my clients because I personally think that sex is something that EVERYONE (rude/offensive notwithstanding) should be able to access, regardless of ability, size, race, age, gender, etc. In my mind, sex is a basic human right, and I see myself as providing a service that is much needed. I often feel like I am doing something good for someone else, giving them something that they sorely need (and I don't just mean orgasms) and that is what I love about my job.

@ Loopie, I sort of agree with what you're saying, but given that sex and everything surrounding it is a highly "hush hush" subject in a lot of social settings, it might make sense for someone to bring up a topic such as sex addiction in a setting like CERB where we all gather on the basis of sexual experiences/encounters amongst other things. It also seems plausible that people in this setting are experiencing similar things and thus can private message the OP with some ideas or support resources. And so while this topic may not make sense to be discussed on CERB for some, it sort of makes sense to me for the reasons I've stated above. Sky

I don't mean to be rude, but posting a thread asking for support in quitting sex on an escort message board seems a bit like having an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting in a bar. I have tried to understand this addiction because it gets a lot of press lately. And I will admit that I do not feel I understand it. Nobody has really provided me with a consistent or meaningful definition. So I can't really say I even understand what the problem is and what sex addicts feel they would need to do in order to cure themselves or treat themselves. But if you feel sex is ruining your life, I really don't think this is the place to get away from those temptations.

This is a great thread! Thanks for starting it. I don't know how to be anyone but me, so I don't try. That said, there are aspects of who I am that I don't express in all areas of my life. I think that most people would say the same thing about themselves. As I get older, I notice that I'm both much more confident and more protective of myself, too. What that means in practical terms is that I don't see anyone unless I think I'm going to enjoy being with them. Life is just too short for that. If I have the sense that I'm not what someone is looking for, I don't hesitate to say so and, as much as possible, to make some suggestions about others who may be more like what he wants. Going through meetings when I feel that the other person and I are basically incompatible is an emotionally and spiritually draining experience for me, not worth whatever I'm being paid for my time.

I believe that in life it's the experiences we have that feed our soul. Authentic interaction is what we crave as humans. We like to feel that those we interact with are there in mind, spirit and body in any given situation. It's why we chose to do business with certain companies over others with the same products. The people we interact with will either allow us to feel connected or we go elsewhere. If I feel I am simply another sale, I will not return; instead I continue to search until I find the place "I belong". I will drive extra miles for services I could receive around the corner when the provider makes me feel truly welcome and appreciated. In retrospect, I can see that it's the authenticity that keeps me coming back to every interaction I chose to participate in. I do not have a persona; my clients meet "me" at the door. I have never made up a "work" character; instead I've tapped parts of me that were not given the opportunity to present on a regular basis. Over the years I have integrated all of myself into my work on some level and I cannot entertain if the experience isn't authentic on both sides. I will turn down an appointment or show a guest to the door if I feel I cannot interact with them in a genuine way or vice versa. Guests with whom I have developed a more encompassing relationship with have often pointed out that there is no change in me whether I'm entertaining them or they are included in an aspect of my private life except my choice of attire. Developing a genuine, professional connection will take time with some providers. Repeat guests give a provider the opportunity to get to know them and feel comfortable letting their guard down. Trust is integral in this process; SPs are not trusting by nature usually. I feel strongly that if a woman has to create a contrasting alter ego in order to do this work, then it will eventually leave a negative impression on her in some way. Life is challenging enough without having to pretend to be somebody else daily for your livelihood. The key is initially finding a provider that presents the qualities that you resonate with and then allowing the time needed for the relationship to develop. cat

Well I'll give my opinion, and I'm speaking for myself only. The most rewarding and memorable encounters I've had are those where time was spent getting to know one another. I like, at a minimum, a two hour encounter, and it's certainly not because I'm a marathoner sexually. The most unenjoyable (yes unenjoyable) encounter was a lady who came to my room, first words she uttered, "gotta pay the bills hun, gotta pay the bills" I'm not dumb, I know the lady is there receiving compensation for her time. But making a connection, clicking, chemistry or whatever you wish to call it, before any sexual activity, well lets say I'm just not a fan of impersonal sex. That initial connection, at least in my experience, happens before going to the bedroom. It takes place in initial emails/pm's etc, then in conversation over drinks. Then it carries on to the bedroom, where I'm with a lady I got to know, and she got to know me. And some of the ladies I've met, well we've made connections, in some cases friendships, beyond a simple SP/Client relationship, which makes repeat encounters all the more enjoyable So long winded rambling short, if there wasn't that connection, genuineness, clicking etc etc etc in my encounters, I would stop participating in this lifestyle. Part of the enjoyment of the encounter for me is meeting and getting to know new ladies or having repeat encounters with ladies I've seen. Hope that makes sense RG

Great post! I have another one: NRKB - Negotiating Rates gets you Kicked in the Balls Maybe a bit too aggressive to put on the menu but maybe some more people might get the hint!

I love love love dogs...and all dogs are puppies to me just like our children will always be our babies... Lets make this the official puppy thread. ...this is what i'd like under my tree.

Reaching this milestone, and have thought it through and through for quite sometime now, this post will be my last in the general discussion area,recommendation area and other areas as well. I will keep my profile active, and continue to chat through pm's or profile pages, by saying hello to those good friends, and of course checking out the ladies schedules and announcements and social groups. ;) I'm sorry but I just don't have anything more to say or add into the those sections of the board. My reasoning for staying out of posting here,is that the content on the board has lost some of it's "reality" in why we we all chose to become a member here on CERB. That being a community of people striving to have the same result, good fun,sex of course,how to stay and play safe and play along nicely with each other. The latter certainly has not been happened enough lately in my view, I had read MOD's note to those Elite Members and Sp members in that section.I hope that it is okay to quote MOD here in the general area where some other members can see what was said...I think it is important to all general members as well. The site is suppose to be... 1) a positive side of the industry 2) A fun place 3) A community 4) A place to get friendly advise 5) A place where the ladies can come and not worry about being slandered 6) A place for the "Good clients" to feel at home When I first started here, the wealth of information provided by members was such a huge importance for men and ladies to ensure quality time together and it was always very positive back then and great fun... but not so much lately. Those members that have provided that information of safety/quality time/advise/ health issues etc etc are and can be the key to continued success of this board. So stay positive folks. It has been a fun place, until recent past months,that is my own personal view on the matter Just far too much hostility lately, and I rather not participate in those discussions, and yes I have been guilty myself of doing so, but realizing it is only counterproductive. However I would like to say, I really have not found it lately a place for "good clients" to feel at home at least that is my feeling. I always consider myself a good client with ladies I have met and I of course look forward in meeting new ladies as well in the future. We all see the hostile quotes left in the rep points handed out, we all see the hostile thread comments and even lately comments left on other profile pages. We all have our own interpretation, but that is what happens when you have a diverse community, I guess. I'm sure some will be happy that I will be staying away from posting, and I think some others may not (48 threads started of rec's...lol.. I did give back to community in a way :) ). So thank-you all, it is not good bye, just tuning out, may you all enjoy the Holiday Season, and have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

Sometimes my posts are too serious, so I thought I'd post this silly idea I had. I've seen situations (terrorists, hostages, etc.) where a photo or video is released to the public, and an accurate sports score or recent newspaper is announced/shown to prove that the photo/video is recent. What if SP's and MA's posed with today's newspaper to prove their photos are current? Is there some sort of prize I could claim for this silly idea? Megan :)

Check it yo! http://www.ranker.com/list/the-13-smartest-porn-stars-of-all-time/greg My girl Annie Sprinkle is numero deux!

Well I'll spin it back...one more time, it would be a 24 hour encounter with all the Ottawa ladies I've met All the Ottawa ladies I've had the pleasure of meeting are ladies I'd like to meet again, and if only allowed one more time, it would be an encounter with all of them How's that for diplomatically dodging a minefield, and telling the truth at the same time RG

I love animals of all kinds, but dogs are the ones that steal my heart, every time. We have a standard poodle at the moment because my son has allergies. She's a lot of fun--so smart, very funny, gentle, patient. I need to go and give her a hug right now! So, while I'm doing that, please enjoy this great video, .

Dear ones, I'm shocked. I've been away from the boards for a bit, recently, while taking care of some personal stuff and then madly getting ready for Christmas. Only now am I getting things back to a normal pace. I finally logged in this morning to find many private messages about this. Your care and respect mean more to me than I can say. Cerb has been, and continues to be, a wonderful place for me. I'm very pleased to know that my contribution has made a difference to folks here. I've learned so very much from the many members of this board and our fascinating, funny and energetic discussions. Thank you, everyone, for making this the unique place that it is! Samantha

This is pure speculation on my part but I think it has to do with 'adult' content. Likely someone complained about it. You may have to move to another website provider.

Lately i have been pondering why i'm so shy and fear rejection from woman. when i was young i used to write and act out plays with my friends in front of my classmate and even the school. all of a sudden i had trouble speaking in front of groups and to girls one on one. i believe i found two reasons why. i was always heavier than kids my age and in high school i got teased and laughed at for being overweight daily from kids i didn't even know(this had never happened before), i believed for the first time in my life i was different from everybody cause i was FAt. i started beliving i was less than nothing cause i was fat wich made me unpopular in school. all my friends( the little i had) and i was part of the rejects. so i started always staying in corners trying not to be seen. and secondly this has to do with my fear of rejection. There was this girl who was popular but also a friend of mine, i was her confident, she told me everything. she always talked to me about her boyfriends and telling how bad they treated her. after a will she started telling me that she needed somebody like me. she told me that more than once so i took it has a sign. so i decieded to ask her out, a planned a perfect date, Bryan Adams was coming for a concert in Ottawa and i knew she loved him. so i saved my money, bought two front row tickets and on the last day of school took my couraged in hands and ask her out. she shot me down saying she didn't like bryan adams and walked away. she never talk to me again. this was the worst summer of my life. so for alot of years after that i never ask anybody out, and to this day i still have confidence issues wich holds me back. it's funny that you never associate things until alot later in life!! you don't make the connections to the event or you don't won't to say it's because of this event. i was taking stock of my life so far and wanted to make changes, taking my two biggest personnal handicaps and trying to change for the better. hopefully realising where it started will help me get over them. i just needed to say it to someone as to not keep it bottled up inside. so who better than my friends of cerb who don't judge. just writing it down and knowing it will be seen by others seems appropriate. if this helps somebody in the same situation all the better. feel free to post your own story if you like, it did me good just writing it, mabe it will for you too.

White wine and peanut butter toast really doesn't go well together.

I love this Emma !! Big heart :) My Dad did this for years Xmas eve as Santa delivering gifts to the needy in a small community ...I went along as well many years. Donated some of my money from cutting grass....and even dressed as an elf. ( don't laugh ) Then my brother and I took over, brother as Santa... a bigger and jovial fella ... HoHoHo ;) Now my nephew took over. An awesome tradition that brings many smiles and tears of joy !!!!!

What I like about Cerb is that it is a sort of gateway that can lead you to physical and emotional intimacy with like minded people or lead you to discovering new kinds of pleasure you may have been only curious about before or that you didn't know you'd enjoy! We are all sexual beings (well most of us anyways!) and it is great to have a place to be open about sex in ways we just can't be elsewhere, to discuss issues of all kinds, crack some jokes, give and receive advice on various things (thanks everyone for the advice I've received!) and help each other out. Sites like this help break down the stereotypes one may have about the hobby, about service providers and about clients and most importantly, Cerb also provides tools and community support to help the providers and clients have safe encounters!

My personal view is that our personalities we are born with, although they get shaped quite a bit through experiences. Personally, I have always been shy, mostly lacking some personal confidence and also protecting myself, since I like to be 110% certain before I say to much, which results in often not saying much. I find it interesting that those that participate the most, often speak before they think, and sometimes what comes out, jeez, what were they thinking. Of yea, I said they speak and then think. But they are the most entertaining people in the world and I am jealous of them, but really hard to change your core personality. I am not really sure what shaped me in this why, I think very little, mostly what shaped me was probably how I managed myself personally. My dad was a very addictive type of person, loved to socialize, drink and then gamble. I just wanted to be more prudent, the problem being sometimes we become the anti of our parents. I now am trying to convince myself that life is short and enjoy it while you can. I am still working on that one, and need to loosen up a bit.....but that is a personality change.....hard work. And with all the worldly bad news, hard to not be prudent, when that is you.. The other thing I found was having couple friends, tends to end pretty quick when the couple is no longer a couple.... And the women tend to drive the social agenda, which is great, but I think ends up leaving the guys outside the couple friends. So, life begins again, and I am very content, but one should never be fully satisfied... have fun my friends and enjoy.

Somthing I don't think has been said...I like CERB because dispite hiccups, we want this board, nay community to continue...we think it's worth fighting for...this thread is case in point RG

The nice, sweet, friendly & respectful hobbyists :)

In this site, we can feel a since of belonging. A source of strength when we need it. I feel as though this is a huge family, from one coast to the other. As an SP, and before I came to CERB, I felt very alone. It is not just anyone whom I could be honest with what I do. Always having to live that "double" life. freinships were hard to come by as I would have to worry about " what if they find out?" But now I have all of you, and know that when I need support and advice or just something simple like cheering me up when I feel sad or alone. I am so greatful to be here!! In the morning, CERB is the first thing I look at, even before my first coffee! It gives me so much more than just a source to make a living, but true friendships and guidence.

Plum pudding with rum sauce! I mean a good quality plum pudding, preferably home made (though that's time consuming, and I don't know how myself LOL). Or, easier, from a good bakery. Great way to finish a meal at Christmastime.

Thank you all for your 'get well' wishes. They have lifted my spirits. I'm back from a follow up visit at the hospital. Stitches will be removed in about a week, collar bone to remain in a brace, and the doctors continue to monitor a blood clot from my head injury. Some could be angry and bitter from this type of accident...I choose to be grateful. - Grateful that no one was with me in the passenger seat, police say no one would have survived the accident from that position. - Grateful for the airbags in my vehicle that limited the injuries. - Grateful for the donors who gave the 3 units of blood I needed at the hospital. - Grateful for family, friends, and my CERB family for thier kindness and support. We all have an ability to impact drinking and driving. This is not just a problem at Christmas time, but year round. I ask all of you to make proper choices in this area. I am proof that your choices do not impact you alone. I am grateful, I am lucky...this time. Thank you all for your caring thoughts. E.

Ginger Snaps (cookies)

Although not a specific "menu" item, my memorable encounters include this K C C kissing , cuddling, conversation RG :-)

My "Little" Guy is 1 Year Old!

Sex every single day. Music.

This whole topic just blows my mind. I don't understand any of it. I guess I'd have to be there to get it? Why does it matter how many times? And, is my junk gonna become junk when I'm 50? And should I contain the SP to just one orgasm per 30 minutes? You better not have a multiple or I want some money back! lol I guess in having MSOG, if you disrupt the natural flow and the experience is abrupt and fragmented, that wouldn't be fun.

Movember is a fun month..all the gents look like 70's porn stars....especially the gents with a hairy chest...it's so fun!

tongue firmly in cheek... why the over 35 crowd gets the girl.... 1. Multiple shots on goal means a three day booking 2. We are extraordinarily grateful that someone will even stay in the same room as us when we are naked. 3. Nap time is on the clock. 4. Cuddle time may just be the best we can do. 5. Less likely to stalk, we barely even remember where we live. 6. While we remember to bring the envelope, we might not remember why we came. 7. We can help with history assignments in post secondary courses. We were there when it all happened. 8. Arthritis prevents us from being too grabby.