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If party A says they don't want sex to happen, and they're clear about it, and it happens anyway, then it's sexual assault. Period. I don't care if party A was breathing fasts, flushed, rock-hard, or came in a giant mess of goo. Unwanted sex is an assault no matter what the orgasmic outcome. Party B doesn't get to decide when it's "really" an assault or not, second-guessing party A and using the state of his/her body against a statement of will. Among other things, the alternative leads to "well sure I hear "no", but if I just keep going she/he will realize she/he really wants it... it's perfectly obvious to me!" No thanks.

I am so shocked by something I've heard recently, I have to share this, and ensure that more people do not share the opinion I just heard voiced. I overheard a conversation between two women. One was saying she was being accused of giving oral sex to a man without his consent. The other woman said this was not possible. She said 'In order to suck someone's dick, he has to be aroused - so he CHOSE to be aroused, getting turned on is a choice'. I am so shocked I heard these words spoken, by a woman no less. Now - some people may get angry about what I'm about to say - BUT, in my lifetime, I have felt that certain men who said 'she attacked me', were simply making up an excuse to get out of what they did/ I do not think women are incapable of committing a sexual assault, but I do honestly thhink a percentage of these 'assaults' are false. Flame me if you will for that, but I've known more than a few cases where the man eventually admits he was just trying to not get caught cheating. BUT, what is making me so upset about this recent conversation is this: the flat-out refusal to admit that: 1) a woman could commit a sexual assault, and 2) that getting turned on is a CHOICE. If many people have their genitals touched, they will get hard/wet. Through no choice of their own. I do not decide for my pussy to get wet every time it does. This seems like such a disgusting idea, and a wet pussy or hard cock does NOT imply consent to a sexual act. Please tell me I'm not the only one who thinks this is disturbing and ludicrous.

I have no business responding to this thread (and apologize in advance) but I am immediately suspicious of this. My first thought is that "scary and intimidating" has turned into some sort of psychological warfare. I am very doubtful his wife would be emailing you as opposed to spending her energy on chasing him with a cast iron frying pan. It seems just another way for this sick narcissistic guy who in your very good judgement you chose not to see to get even (in his sick mind). Has it occurred to you that this email is likely from him and not his wife? Letters on a page in a virtual (as opposed to the real) world, they can't hurt you or even bother you unless you let them. If you respond at all to this, it should be to say "yes, please do call the police, I really want to talk to them also" as you have done nothing wrong.

Always remember that you are not engaging in an illegal activity. It may seem a bit intimidating to call the police, but if you have a threatening, harassing, or god forbid, violent client then it may be necessary. Don't not call because you're afraid of their reaction to what you do, or that you might get in trouble. You won't, because prostitution isn't illegal. I believe there are several ladies on CERB who have had to call the police, and generally they have found them helpful in resolving the situation. You have the same rights as everyone else to not be subjected to threats or harassment! Porthos

He initiated contact with you, you replied, and have since stopped replying to him. Although it is very easy for us all to say, 'don't worry', if you feel strongly about it, take it to the police. Harassment is harassment no mater what. You did nothing wrong, and you have the right to advertise your services. It's not your fault the guy has a conscience, but you never asked the guy to contact you, so you are not a 'homewrecker'. Keep any texts/emails and show them to authorities if necessary.

I like Touch because he always has something interesting to say and posts awesome sexy pictures in some of the social groups. I still like RG even though he skipped Touch for Lee ;) lol

I would have to say that Aliens is the most secretly feminist movie I have ever seen. Ripley is not only smart and tough, but maternal and kind. She is still feminine and sexy while being able to take charge in a crisis. I especially love that Ripley is able to be strong without the men being made to look weak and incompetent by contrast. The female child in the film is also a survivor, and there are a few other strong women mixed in there. Not to mention the main alien villain is the colony queen. :) But most of all I like it because I find that it's a very good film for it's genre even without bearing in mind how well women are portrayed in it.

Does he really think Toronto is the best place to get the kind of rates the Bunny Ranch claims to charge? I think part of his investigation might reveal that TO has amongst the lower rates for sps and so the clients will have a lower rate expectation, even in fancy surroundings. (not saying the rates are super low, just that if 250-300/hr is topping the higher rate now charged, then expectations of $2000 usually suggested on the show isn't very likely).

Sexual assault against men is not taken seriously because of stupid macho attitudes. Many people seem to sincerely believe that no man under any circumstance would ever refuse sex with a woman. It's part of some stupid macho virility thing. People also seem to think all women and gays are weak, and that a straight man should be able to overpower any woman or a gay man. Aside from being homophobic, this attitude is also absurdly ignorant. A smaller physically weaker person can dominate a larger more muscular person with weapons, drugs, strength in numbers, or skill in attack. You can see the attitude all the time on tv shows and movies, our culture seems to think that men getting raped by other men is part of the justice process. A man commits a crime and goes to prison and getting raped by other men is considered part of his punishment and people joke about it.

Your wish is my command LOL But no more "Ys" please And I confess, I had to search for this one Ya Kid K-Do U C Me Standing RG

I was assuming it was not his wife but him - int hebeginning he seemed liek a very nice sincere man. But after his conscience disappeared and he started getting his fantasy thoughts that I ddint want to be a part of he took great offense to this and went overboard. I appreciate all your comments and advice. I am quite new to the business so I was unsure if because of my ''career choice'' I was still able to report such sick behavior thank you kindly :) Additional Comments: Thanks Angela. I didnt even bother to respond to any of the emails after they became threatening or the ''wifes'' email either. As my mother says ''dont add fuel to the fire'' Thanks for your advice !

I like Porthos because his name reminds me of the Three Musketeers and because he is a fellow Stompin' Tom fan! I also enjoy reading his posts.

I will join the ranks here. Not only in this situation, but any situation which could become volatile, always keep records of any threatening type of correspondence.

This is probably not an isolated incident. The wife obviously is hurt and for whatever reason wants to maintain her relationship with this guy. Hopefully if you keep your head down she will move on, but if she does keep harnessing you then obviously you have to act, and that is probably a call to the police. And as Angela says, keep a record of your communications regarding this issue. Good luck

when i was 14 years old my mother was institutionalized and my father hired a live in housekeeper. she was 50 plus years old i believe at the time and was a tyrant she ruled with an iron fist and my father let her. I was awoken from a sound sleep one night because i felt pressure on my chest and groin and when i was finaly alert enough to understand what was happening i realized she was on top of me and i was inside her. When she realized i was awake she told me to lie back and enjoy it-I was terrified and told her to get off that i did,nt want her to continue and i,d tell my father-she got off and told me my father would,nt believe me that she would deny it happened and i,d end up in severe trouble. I never felt safe at home after that, and after it happened a second time - I went to my father and he did,nt believe me, she denied everything said i was perverted and went thru her laundry and worse so i was ostracized i was shot down in front of my younger siblings i left home a few months later, both times i was hard even though i was terrified and no there was no pleasure in it.

Saw my first whales of the season this morning. I absolutely love Newfoundland!

Although Cleo's original post dealt with an "unwanted" BJ, remember, the definition of Sexual assault these days is pretty broad. It is not limited to full on penetrative rape, or oral. Grabbing someone's breasts, or buttocks, stealing a kiss, pulling down someone's pants as a joke can all be called sexual assault. And yes, both sexes can be equally as guilty in any of these cases. No means No, not just when a woman says it.

Nirvana - The Man who Sold the World

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Well I will make it my sworn duty to make sure all you wonderful hobbyists needs are fullfilled to the highest regard lol

Cleo you are right on. Of course a woman can sexualy assault a man. As for getting aroused, it is not a choice but your body responding to stimulation. If I said that during the rape of a woman that if she were to get wet and possibily even climax then that would mean that she consented and the rape didn't really happen then I would be labeled an idiot and rightly so. In this scenario, it would be a mistake to say that the woman enjoyed herself because of her body's reaction, when there is emotional trauma from being raped. Cleo, I agree with you 100%.

Since the criminal code is currently still in effect for operating a bawdy house, what was the point of this woman announcing it? Perhaps she is confident in the fact that by exposing herself to the media that will set her in place as the top incall agency in town and also giving her business an advertising boost at the same time? That is a ballsy move if you ask me. Especially in a smaller city. There are no guarantees in what the final outcome will be be depending on if the Federal Government decides to challenge it or not. In regards to operating an escort agency, you would think one would want to remain off the radar from law enforcement. Maybe she wants to be the next Xaviera Hollander. LOL. The best way for her to conduct her business in this industry would be to provide good service with repeat customers and by remaining low key considering the bawdy house laws at this time.

Well....if you serve Bud Light and / or Bacardi white rum....have either dill pickle chips or cheezies for snacks this may very well work in with my summer vacation plans :) I know I know very demanding I am ... but those are my requirements at this point ! I do like BBQ chips too I suppose ;)

My orange tabby cat has been gone since Saturday. I would like to think he's getting some action since he left for 10 days before but not sure. :( He's not at animal shelter or in their death records either. Meg, have you seen him? LOL. Additional Comments: My cat's ears must have been burning because I was downstairs in my basement and heard meowing in the back yard. He just came home and jumped right into my arms. Looks like he got in a few fights with all the scratches and is dirty. My old cat doesn't look too happy right now. Ha!

I like Porthos because he posts great pics in the social group threads.

I like Notch because he started the fripple thread. Who doesn't like fripples?

Sophia I understand what you are saying, but, and I think it may be a bit gender oriented here, but for a guy there is some pressure to lose his virginity, especially in this case, at age 26 I don't disagree with setting the stage so to speak, a lunch date (or longer encounter with time to socialize over drinks) chatting getting to know one another. Hell, I do that now with encounters. But I can almost guarantee he'll remember very fondly the first lady he was intimate with, and took his virginity. I remember fondly my first time, that was 34 years ago And a little friendly advice James. Don't talk about it as the v-card and so on. Contact a lady here who you find attractive and interests you. Book an encounter with her. In the course of your pm's/emails let her know you are a virgin. But when you book and have your encounter, treat it as a date, as with any other lady. But most of all, treat her like a lady and be a gentleman. You'll both have a good time. Good luck RG

I can relate to what your going through Victoria. A few years back, actually Jan 2010 my cat, Max died on my lap. Got him from a shelter, and he adopted me. Had him for eleven year. Just like losing a family member. I thought out of respect for him, wasn't going to get another cat right away. Hard coming home, always heard him come to the door to greet me I still have a photograph of him tacked to a bulletin board over my desk...he isn't forgotten. It took me a year but I adopted a grey feral kitten (he doesn't crave going outdoors) who was saved from going back to the feral colony (Humane Society said at his age this was best). My thoughts and prayers are with you Victoria RG

I have been asked to see a few ppl who are virgins. I do have to admit that I have a bit of moral issues with it for me. I hesitate mainly cause, I myself had a very meaningless encounter as my first, and wish it was more special. I have suggested to the few who have contacted me, to have a lunch date first.( of couse as a gentlemen you should compensate at least half her time and pay for dinner:) ) Time to chat, flirt and feel at ease. It will allow you time, and me time to know if this is how you really want to go about it. You may consider this when seeking a lady's companionship. You dont want your first time to feel like a transaction, or out of desperation. You need it to be sensitive, romantic, and know that you are being treated kindly. Of course we have fantasy's of how it will be, but just be natural. Allow yourself time to open up, then perhaps explore your adventurous side?

Tony Toni Tone -It Never Rains (In Southern California)

I might be making a cum-back

Well ... I was at a lounge for drinks with a few friends the other day...and a waitress who's happy meal was short a few fries came up to me and asked .... "are those people who were sitting at that table beside you sitting there right now?" ..... so I look over and there is nobody sitting there so I replied .... "why yes sweetie they are still sitting there they are just invisible" .... true story and I got cut off :(

Having had the pleasure of meeting Peachy recently I would never have guessed she lacked anything. Being a great sp has everything to do with being fun, enthusiastic, engaging a great listener and someone who enjoys pleasing others. She has this in spades. I've always thought the aspiration to reach for something out of your reach was inspirational. My hope for P is that should she want to seek further education she does not let pinheads keep her down or disuade her. She has life experience that will seperate her from the rest and serve her well with all she comes in contact with.

On an added note, I am proud to say that it's the perfect mixture of my innocent sounding voice and my dirty mouth that makes it such a great combination. ;)

Everything is always YMMV. People won't stop repeating it. But eh unless your spunk taste really bad, I normally have no problems swallowing...giving that the person isn't face fucking me and do surprise solo bukkake in my mouth, I'm fine with it...I just like to know that the person is about to cum:) and as for STI...I don't think that there is a big difference bewteen CIM and CIMSW...thought I don't have actual fact. I just know that I get tested each 3 months and never had anything due to it. But again I am maybe not as prudish as some

I was just about to suggest perhaps you would do the honor of helping us to organise and come for a visit!! We would be so lucky to have you!

Hello everyone... This thread was recently brought to my attention, so I thought I might contribute... just to put any potential fears at ease. I'm the SP who works for FRANK... and though I probably won't attend the social... whether or not I do, I would never "out" anyone who works in the sex industry or who patronizes us SPs. I have been working in Halifax as a ProDomme and all-around Fetish Femme for approximately 5 years, and I would never risk my reputation for honesty and discretion by exploiting my position as an SP to further my career as a writer/reporter. Au contraire... I have no intention to cover this event, and I would never even mention anyone anonymously as a "source" without their express permission, let alone use their name in an article (for FRANK or any other publication). So... please do not worry about me, or base your decision to attend or not attend this social, on the fact that I write for a local publication. Although I am public about what I do, and who I am, I also strive offer the most discretion I can for my clients, potential clients, and SP peers. All the best, and as always... happy kink! Cheers, Miss Jaded

Wow, talk about the word spreading like wild fire. I know this your Halifax party and I have no hand in organizing it or having anything really to say about it, except that this needs to be addressed sooner than later. I have already have a few ladies who have pm'd me concerned about some of the guys who are under the impression that a social means they can expect things like "lap dances" and the girls performing in other ways, etc. You need to be very clear that at least as far as the Ottawa socials were concerned, it was just that "a social" - a place to meet and greet without any hanky panky, groping or inappropriate gestures or language being toelrated. So for those of you who think your $20 is the key to the Champagne room, you might want to rethink your expectations. Private parties where ladies offer services is another type of party format that is generally not organized at a public location. I will look to the organizers Penelope and Taloon to back me on this point, that this is a public social where folks are expected to behave accordingly? Carry on...

Never, EVER, give in to any type of pressure. Be who you are cause you are amazing and no photos could ever capture your true nature. You have created an amazing example of branding and unless you want to switch things up cause you feel the need, you don't have to bow to the pressure. Those who find fault are not those you wish to spend time with!

I think you should only post what you're comfortable with. Your picture is very nice. If you wouldn't feel compromised by posting pictures that show more of you then I'm sure everyone would be more than happy to see them. ;) But if you feel like it spoils the mystery then don't do it. I don't post nude photos because I want to leave something for only my clients to see (although my pictures still show quite a bit). It's really just a personal choice. I love looking at pictures of beautiful women whether they're nude, fully clothed or somewhere in between.

So, I finally made it... For those who know me, you already knew that I was trainning very hard in sports (Tae Kwon Do). So, I showed up, couple of weeks ago in a very particular gym near where I work. To enter this gym, you have to be in very good shape. Really... And I got refused. How frustrating! Frustration, I believe, is the only bad part of life. And I don't know about you, but for me, I have huge issues dealing with it. IF I let it happen to often, it can wreck my whole day, or week... So, I trainned very hard for the last ... days. My body was hurting so bad, I could hardly use a pen! But I made it! I'm now registered in an official MMA gym, training with Guillaume Vigneault, Dany Caron, and even John Makdessi, on my way to the StrikeForce! During that period of time that felt like eternity, I've come to realize that whatever the objective is, or even a dream that seems inachevable, just the satisfaction of trying to reach it, just to feel that you are doing something to make it happen worth all the frustration you've been thru... Anyways, those are my words for today: Nomatter how stupid you may think your dream is, go thru all the frustration you have to to make it happen... XxXSabrinAXxX