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This is a very sensitive subject but not one that should be pushed under the rug, as if it doesn't exist. Everyone has the right to choose who they have an encounter with SP and Hobbyist alike, our choice. I myself a Ebony(Black)/Native Companion was together and married to a white man for many years, we have 2 bi-racial sons. I have never dated a black male, may be because my family is so large and everyone is your cousin or distant cousin. I've always dated white men and that is just the race I'm use to or it may be because I started dated my ex-white husband when I was 15. I have no exact answer to why. I don't see many black males, 2 regulars as a matter of fact. Other races mainly Asian, bi-racial, Native and mainly White contact me. I see it as if someone doesn't want to meet me because of my ethnicity and stereotypes that is their loss and sad. They are missing out on a very nice sweet person but I don't let it bother me, I will admit it use to hurt my feelings and make me wonder what is wrong with me, why am I not good enough. Then I realized, I'm not the problem. For any one person that looks at me with those "racist" thoughts, their not in my books good enough to be even graced with my presence. There are many wonderful people who would and are delighted to spend quality time with me. To be blunt no matter the color on the outside of the SP, a kitty is a kitty and we all have unique personalities, looks, shapes, sizes, hair color and something special to offer. People are entitled to have their preferences but times have and are still changing, so may be it's time to think outside the box and try new things and types. I am open to seeing any race and legal age but it is all in the initial approach and contact, point blank. I have met a 20 year old that was more kind and respectful in person than a 40 year old. In terms of the SP not wanting to see black males, I think there are underlying issues that we will never know and that is her right and choice. SP's don't make these types of decisions for no reason, whether it was their upbringing, bad experience or whatever. She has made this choice for a reason but no two people are a like. IMHO I never base who I see because of a not so great and respectful encounter with Mr. A who is white and just crude and say well I'm not seeing Mr. B who is white because of Mr. A. Everyone is different and no two can and will be the exact same. Just my thoughts. All my Love, Lexy

Congratulations Nathalie! For your very much deserved ascent into Goddesshood. Nathalie is a wonderful companion and a very special woman. She is very down to earth and calm, with beautiful positive energy. Her recommendations speak for themselves. Nathalie's profile is here.

Just a quick reminder that we all might want to take a moment to observe the 68th anniversary of D-Day. In an age where the word freedom sometimes gets tossed around to describe wars of dubious moral distinction, the second World War was without a doubt a battle against Tyranny and Evil. We can never thank those who fought and died enough for their service or their sacrafice, but we can honour them by remembering.

On this day, 68 years ago my maternal grandfather was already on Sword beach with the Royal Marine Commandos. His 3 brothers, who were also commandos, were on both British beaches of Sword and Gold. My mother's entire family were involved in D-Day, there was never a question of putting your life on the line for King and country at that time. The liberation of the world for tyranny was far more important than anything at that time. My paternal grandfather was in the Royal Canadian Service Corps, and landed much later in the day on Juno Beach. He did his part, left my grandmother and 4 children back in Canada for the greater good. It is on days like today I hope we never forget the true meaning of D-Day. We as western powers must always stand up and do what's right, not what's easy. It is our responsibility to defend the world against tyranny, as our grandparents once did. Lest we forget. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6VCj_J9hdTM

Exactly my point. Kissing, digits, and daty do not involve my interaction with semen, so the risk of catching an std from those three are minimal to none, there has never been a reported case of women catching HIV from DATY, ever. There are, however, reported cases of women, and photos if anyone cares to google, of women with std's from bbbj. This is proven medical fact. The disease is in the semen. No semen, no HIV. Very simple. My point was this, very simply, if you will put an unprotected member into one hole in your body, why is it any different in another? Your body is all connected, one unit. You mouth and your cookie aren't separate, the all belong to one organism, you. That's like saying, "oh ill inject heroin into my arm, but not into my foot." It's all connected, so I'm just trying to understand the reasoning/logic behind this thought process, of why one orifice is "safe" but another is not. I used to get mad about girls who did bbbj when i first started, I used to blame them when clients would call me, book an appointment, we're all set to go, and then they ask " oh btw, you do do bbbj right?" My response, as many can attest to, is always "as my health and safety, as well as the health and safety of my clients is my #1 priority, I do not engage in any unprotected services." and some would cancel on me. I do not hide that I'm a safe gfe, it's on my website in black and white. Some really respect me because of this. I had more than a few they tell me they're terrified of bringing something home, and I'm one of the few they can truly relax with, my business practices put their mind at ease. Some don't care either way. Others cancel on me. Why do I say all this? Because my perception has changed over the last my few years in my time in this industry. I realized getting mad at the ladies who do BBBJ is irrelevant, it will not change the fact that ladies will still offer it, and men will still ask for it. If you want to take risks like that, that your perogative. Just as I no longer get upset at the ladies who BBFS. There was at time when bbbj was taboo, someone told me they got in trouble working for an agency for a letting a guy cum on her chest. Now, fast forward 10 years, BBBJ is now the norm. In the U.S. SAFE GFE is norm, as well as Australia. Why did it change here? Because the ladies offer it, quite simply. If ladies didn't offer it, then no one could buy it. I remember one lady said "Back in the 90's, no guys had problem cumming with a condom on." Somewhere along the line, someone started offering, more guys asked for it, more ladies offered it. Us safe gfe's are few and far between, I am one of the last of a dying breed. So I wonder, why should BBFS be any different? Now, someone offers it, so now it's being purchased.I don't understand how can you get upset at guys for asking for BBFS when BBBJ's are the norm. It's just a natural progression. I think the logic is "if she does it unprotected in one orifice, she might let me in another." Dangerous logic, but logic none the less. For the sp, the risk factors for both are pretty high, you are the receiver of ejaculatory fluids, no matter which orrifice you get it in.The roads may be different, but they all lead to the same place. Being angry is pointless. I'm not knocking anyone's business practice, like i stated it's your body your choice. I honestly don't care what another lady does, its her life she can with it as she pleases. My point is, you can't get mad at guys asking for BBFS or ladies providing it anymore than us SAFE GFE's can get mad at ladies for providing BBBJ's. If we want to change guys asking for BBFS, the only way to do so is to stop the ladies that offer it, much like the only way to stop people from asking for bBBJ's is to stop offering them.Good luck with that. The ladies in countries like Cambodia do BBFS, so people ask for it and it's rampant. However, in countries like australia where SAFE GFE is the norm, unprotected services are frowned upon, and the ladies that do offer it (much like the ladies who offer BBFS here) are shunned. Whats the difference? The ladies in Cambodia are willing to do BBFS, the ladies in Australia are not. So really at the end of the day, what is asked of us by our client base is a direct reflection of what we are willing to offer. So we cannot get mad a them, the guys asking or the sp's that provide. We as sp's are the ones to blame.

Well her reasons could be simple prejudice or something completely different, but what ever they are I respect her right to have them. In particular because this is posted under FS providers, I think it is every woman's choice to see or not see anyone they choose (clients also). Perhaps it isn't at all what it one might think, maybe she had an "African-American" boyfriend who treated her badly and she doesn't need to be reminded of this. Some more mature SPs won't see younger men? Hem, should we complain to the human rights commission based on age discrimination? In an intimate setting, racial prejudice is acceptable to me; (heavens, did I just say that, yes, I did and only because I am both stupid and fearless) but in fact it is the only circumstance under which I will tolerate or stand for it even if I don't agree with it. I think she has the right to discriminate on any bases she chooses (in this case only), most of which would be completely unacceptable under any other circumstance. I also think it is possible to not be prejudice but not believe in or be comfortable with inter-racial couples (when one of them is you).

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I am picking this up from where Taloon felt that he had to leave off and I hope that this will work out for all. On June 22nd in downtown Halifax there will be a meet and greet or informal social. It will be held in a public location where we will be able to grab a bite to eat or have a drink. For this first ever gathering lets keep it simple and straightforward. I do hope that there will be a roughly equal mix of both men and women. I do not want to put any restrictions on this other than the obvious. Although this is not in any way a Cerb sponsored get together, please keep the following points in mind. * I would like to restrict it to Cerb members who are in good standing on the board. *We all know the underlying purpose of Cerb, however, as this will be in a public location I ask that there be no solicitation in any way by anyone, male or female. I would like us to be seen by the innocent bystander as simply a group of friends getting together for a few hours at a nice place at the end of the workweek. * No dress code stipulated other than that which suits the surroundings and suits the way that we wish to appear as a group of friends or co-workers. I am going to say 6 PM as a start time, and it can go as long or as short as anyone wishes to stay. For those who wish to attend you can notify me by PM. A day or two prior to the gathering I shall let you know the location. Any other tiny details can be worked out, but if you are able to stop in and meet some new or old friends in this context, then please let me know.

Have you considered some of the social dating sites? I can't speak from personal experience but I know a friend of mine was taking a nice lady on a dinner date almost every day of the week. Some of them were the addicted to sex types also :) Ultimately, after having met many nice ladies (and the occasional one with baggage), I lost track of how many but there didn't seem to be any shortage, he did end up marrying one of them and they have been living happily ever after. As far as engaging SPs in non-sexual social dates, I do it often. Most offer a "social" rate that is different (less) than their regular rate and I think this only fair as they need not charge the same level of danger pay for having a pleasant lunch or dinner date in a public restaurant as they do for meeting a complete stranger behind closed doors, but some do and that's fine also. Of course we both know they are promoting themselves (in the case of a lower social rate) by being social and looking for opportunities to offer their more customary services at the normal rate and nothing wrong with that. In fact I see everything right about it, because if I do ask the lady for a more private encounter then we both already know each other and there is a level of comfort and rapport already established so it always results in a better, more positive experience. But my purposes are quite different than yours. I want to avoid booking an awkward, lengthy encounter with a lady that I am for the most part incompatible with (and don't yet know it). Even more important, I want the lady to know who she will be spending this time with and ensure that she is comfortable with me. That crazy blind date nonsense and any nervousness associated with it of who is going to be opening the door (in-call) or who will be knocking on your door (out-call) is completely avoided in this manner and that is important to me. I should note that I don't do this looking for a lady I will never see again, I am always seeking one I will want to see again and again and develop a genuine "professional" NSA friendship. So can SPs be of help to you? I think so, if you find it affordable it is a date with a very pretty lady available on request and at your convenience and NSA too. Most ladies are far more special, kind, understanding, compassionate, intelligent than those you would meet anywhere else -- I guess if your ultimate goal is romance then there is a danger you will never find a regular gal that can measure up to the extra special ones you'll find here :) And if you find her irresistible after meeting her socially, then she won't have a headache when you see her privately (or if she does she will reschedule) :) And porthos makes an excellent point, it is a fantasy so she does have to understand what you want. I favor reality and never encourage a lady to laugh at my jokes if they aren't funny, but sure they so classy and more accommodating than reality. Additional comments: One thing I forgot to mention. All my life I couldn't make romance happen and find a new girlfriend when I wanted to but every time I gave up and stopped trying they quickly came out of no where and found me, odd but true.

One thing I would suggest, though, is that practice is always just that: practice. Make sure your paid companion knows what you are looking for. Otherwise you are in danger of her trying to fulfill your fantasy ... That your jokes, small talk, flirtations, are dead on the money, and she may therefore act like they are! RG's point, though, that SPs are real people is well taken. Some, you may find no trouble carrying on a sparkling conversation, whereas others you might find it difficult to find anything to talk about. In this respect, it could be very much like a real date. My advice, join a recreational sports league, a running club, an environmental group, take a general interest night class. Whatever it is that is of interest. Start going to Church. Get a dog and go to the dog park!! Even if you hone your skills with a SP, at some point you still need to meet women. And I shutter to even suggest it, but I actually do know several people that have found their life mate through online dating sites like e-harmony. Porthos

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i hope it is just not me, but someone would have to be out of their mind not to use a condom these days. if i went to see someone and they said , oh dont worry about it, i would be out the door and i wouoldnt care about the $$$. life is short enough. i enjoy sex as much as the next person but i also want to be around doing it for a while longer.

Good on you for walking away.:bigclap: Too often guys will accept this kind of thing and all it does is positively reinforce the SP's bad behaviour. Maybe while they sat there for a few minutes after you left, thinking of that rock they were going to buy with the money you paid them, they leaarned a little lesson. Cheers PS: One question to clarify. Was this also a B&S (Chloe is also Natasha) or was there actually a Natasha as shown in the BP ad? (I'm a little slow this morning. LOL!)

As an introvert I absolutely loved this article as to be honest I could totally relate to it and the situations it presented. I've always been more for smaller more intimate gatherings as I've never been one for small talk really but absolutely love getting into a deep conversation about a topic I'm passionate about. I do enjoy talking about my thoughts and feelings. And in those smaller gatherings it's just easier to to get into a deep meaningful conversation. And I can totally relate to needing time to myself to recharge after going to a large gathering. To be honest I value my time to myself as much as I value time with my family and friends. It's not that I don't enjoy spending time with them I just enjoy having that time to myself to reflect or just recharge my batteries. Alone time also gives me a chance to let the idiot out in me and do stuff like rock out to my music full blast or watch some really bad movies that I may not get to watch otherwise, lol.

Besides all the informative and exciting threads on the main board, there are over 100 social groups on cerb, covering everything from regional discussions (BC, Montreal, Toronto, etc.), to travel, to strip clubs, to favourite sex practices, breasts and bums, to dogs and cats :), and of course redheads! If you're new to cerb or are unfamiliar with the groups, just click on the Social Groups button under the banners at the top of the page, and it will take you to the group area, where you can explore, find people who share your special passions, and have discussions on a huge variety of topics. I spend a lot of my time on cerb in the group area, and the reason for posting this thread, besides a general reminder to people about the groups, is to say a warm thank you to all the members and participants in the social groups I interact with. It's a big part of my positive experience here on cerb, and I owe a lot to all those who post and who correspond with me about our common interests. Fun, information, great pics (really, really great pics :)), and interesting links abound. So thank you to you all, in RHAG, in AW, in IRE, and all the other groups.

Can't believe it, am running out of appendages to count the number of attendees - 20 so far, after 10 fingers 10 toes and a short johnson, how am I going to be able to count..... How about an uposide down Canada flag on a lapel to quietly identify folks???? - readily available everywhere Can't wait to smile and greet G11

Silverado doesn't have sweet sixteen titties. He is barely sporting those of a 10 year old boy.

My CERB Goddess Of The Day today is a lady I have only met through posts and pm's. She has a interest in ropes and suspending, colours her hair, and is a upbeat positive contributor to CERB. And that is Malika Here is her profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=50296 A photo (told you she likes ropes and suspending) OK a second pic But don't be mislead, Malika really is a innocent woman at heart RG

I offer BBBJ and in 15 years have never caught anything. I rinse with full strength listerine after every blow job and do not allow CIM. Perhaps I am taking a risk, but since BBBJ is at my discretion, if anything looks or smells funky down there, I don't chance it. Also, there are gents who prefer CBJ, and I always ask first which they prefer. I never assume all guys want BBBJ, because many don't. The one thing I do not permit is digits because you can contract low grade (fungal etc.) infections from dirty hands and not everyone washes their hands properly. I know one lady who insists her clients use latex gloves if they want to finger her and I understand her logic totally. No offense to any ladies who only offer CBJ or those any who have posted on this thread, but I have had my fair share of judgment being passed on me by other ladies because I do offer BBBJ and I think it's a bit hypocritical. I believe if you're going to call yourself totally safe, then you would also not allow kissing, digits or DATY without a dental dam and I do know ladies who only offer CBJ who do allow some or all of those things. I believe we need to respect each others limits with judgment or or criticism. Just as many cannot understand why I offer BBBJ, I have cannot fathom anyone offerring BBFS, but there are those who do and I do not believe they are comparable.

Air conditioning !! Yup Air conditioning that works :) Yesterday 29 outside 40 inside my office Today 31 outside 19 inside ! brrrrrrr lol fripples here and lovin it ;)

Realizing and being oh so grateful that there are some very solid Maritimer cerb members who have been going above the call of duty to make sure my trip down east to Halifax will be worry-free. You know who you are!

Spending time with the amazing and incomparable Gabriella Laurence! It may be a highlight of my life!!! Porthos

my highlight for today is reading an announcement about myself that starts with this sentence ... After 22 years, XXXX XXXX will retire from XXXX at the end of 2012. ... I have this strange mixed feeling of excitement and dread

Well... we've had various people talking about what they would or wouldn't do when the excrement impacted the impeller, but... really... I don't think any of us *know* unless it's happened. Sure, I could tell you what I'd like to think I'd do - but I consider that worthless. I've never been in that sort of a situation, fortunately, so I really can't say for certain what I'd *really* do, irrespective of what I'd like to think. I'll be very happy if I never find out. Also: Off-topic: this is true, but one could probably say the same of accountants.

Fripples and abs! NJ should like this pic...and many others will, too....

A lady's boundaries are a lady's boundaries, and should be respected. Why she doesn't wish to see African Canadians, I don't know. But if forced to see a client she doesn't wish to see, for an intimate encounter, my guess, it will be a terrible encounter for both the gentleman and her. And really, if she has to have the encounter, it will be more like forcing her to see someone, less like a consensual act. Perhaps quietly you two can discus her reasons, but if she insists on her boundary, respect it. A rambling for what it's worth RG

The service an sp provides is a special & unique type of service :) So I think that personal preferences regarding clientel is perfectly aceptable. As an sp you want to spend time with men who you are comfortable with, and as a client-would you not prefer to spend your money & time with a lady who actually wants to spend time with you, rather than one who does not? The difference between the two, in regards to levels of service would be extremely opposite. Now..... if a restaurant or any other type of service providing business, indicated they choose not to serve African Americans or any other race...That would be wrong.

I do believe it is always best to survey the situation around you BEFORE you poop ;) heh heh

I've recognized a few hobbyists on cerb that I know in my regular life but frankly I really don't care. Whatever they do is their private business as is mine. So what if I know their secret? They know mine as well. I'm not going to saything. Discretion is important and I know how to keep my mouth shut.

Thank you for the thread Sophia. All us gentlemen appreciate the sentiments and being acknowledged, even though we certainly didn't expect it. A very pleasant surprise. Likewise, I'd like to acknowledge all the ladies, and yes ladies (well Goddesses) on CERB. If it wasn't for them, we wouldn't even be here Finally a thank you to Mod, Council and CERB. If not for them and this board, this would just be another dime a dozen escort site. Not a community where threads like this, CERB Goddess of the Day, and other positive threads acknowledging all of us in a positive way. This is clearly a community of ladies and gentlemen A rambling RG

the only time i get stressed is when i think of meeting you Meg for the first time !!!!! (incredible beauty does that to me )

Remember though, in this day and age with even more ladies getting into the business than ever before, not all older SPs are necessarily more experienced than some of the younger ones. I know SPs in the their late 20's/earlier 30's who have more experience than some ladies 40+ who have only recently gotten into the business. I think Roaming Guy pretty well hit the nail on the head, that it's not so much about age, as the attitude. As a mature provider who has been around for the past 15 years, I can say that when I started (part-time), it was agency driven and outcall only. It was a completely different mentality then. GFE was not even heard of and I was only permitted to provided FS with CBJ (no kissing an no daty were allowed). Over the years, the shift being able to work indy, provide incalls, offer one'es own brand of service and of course the Internet revolution, has changed things considerably. It seems now days, anyone with a picture, Internet connection and a cell phone can call themselves a Service Provider. This has provided a tremendous pool of ladies to choose from, not all of them necessarily providing good service. It really is "buyer beware" out there. The good news is though that regardless of age and description you are seeking, you need to do you research. There are many amazing ladies out there, and boards such as CERB and sites like escorts-canada are not fool proof guarantees, but a good place to start in finding someone with a good reputation who offers the type of service you are looking for, regardless of their age.

Hello and welcome to Cerb:D I hope that you will have a good time here. As for your question...to be true the only safe sexual activity is self-masturbation...but that is kind of boring after a while:P As for both kissing and daty, both activities are low-risk, not risk free...but low risk. For some ladies, kissing is a really intimate act and should only be done with someone that their truly love, therefore they don't offer it. And some don't offer it, because it isn't safe at a 100% As for daty...some hate to receive it. But if you really want to be safe, try to seek a lady that offer cover daty, which is taking a dental dam (do I have it right?) or cutting a condom and using it as a barrier to protect both party. Or you can ask the lady that you have some interest in, if she is willing to use one:)

I both agree and disagree, asking on initial contact can often make someone very uncomfortable and can be very offensive but it is often how you ask as well. I have had people ask me in an opening email by saying "Are you clean?" "How do I know you don't have a disease?" to which I usually respond with a link for the mens health clinic so they can get themselves tested (though I do giggle when the odd person replies "wait you're a man?"). I've also had others approach the subject by saying "I'm very new to this, I've never seen a lady and have several concerns do you mind if I ask you a few questions?" They will then ask about booking procedures, incall vs. outcall, health information (both testing for themselves - where, is it needed, etc. and for myself) and basic etiquette. In that context I do not mind at all and in fact appreciate that they are taking the time not only to inform themselves but to ask the questions they need to feel comfortable. I also had one very wonderful date that have made it clear that the only concern he had was the STI risks but it was how he asked it that mattered, rather than accusing me he approached it much like he would asking anyone for relationship advice. It was something like this, 'I have often thought about seeing a lady but have always been nervous, I am in a committed relationship and I do not wish to lose that. I know that I can get away for a few hours and see a lady but I've always had this nagging fear that if I see someone (not you specifically) I am opening up our relationship to the risk of disease. I can't really ask my Dr. about this but what types of activities are 'safe' and what are not?" Again I was not offended at all and I doubt many ladies would be, he was not accusing me of having a disease rather expressing a real concern that he would have seeing anyone outside of his relationship. I was happy to answer his question and provide him with whatever information I could, which also included how to get safe anonymous testing. I have also had the conversation with people I have visited over a number of times, it often just comes up and I think just like in any relationship it's good to have a conversation about it. We are all taking some level of risk and just by starting that conversation you are opening up the lines of communication. I want my dates to feel comfortable talking to me about their sexual health, it's important that they have someone to go to should they have a concern and if it may involve me or they have a concern about me I'd prefer they came to me. I understand they do not always have someone at home they can speak to so I think keeping that line of communication open is as valuable to my client as it is to myself. Now as to the fact that you never really have proof, it's true you don't but it's important that you trust your instincts as well. When someone contacts me I look at both what they say and how they say it and go from there. If I get the feeling that someone is being open, honest and is interested in a conversation then I am generally comfortable with their answer as well. In this specific situation having gone through the testing procedure I would ask open questions and start a dialogue, again you can never be too sure but at least I would know if they were knowledgeable and that in itself would provide me with some level of comfort. I have always preferred to deal with those that know their risks and make informed decisions rather than those that move forward blindly.

Well...for serious advice......look through the escorte listings...you will find them listed at the bottom of the web page. You can also look into the picture albums here to see other pictures. Then once you have selected and norrowed it down you can always do a search here on the forum and see what people think of the ladies. You could always list some of the attributes you would like....like hair color...body type.....age..... As for "safe as possible sex"...well...the only thing you might find uncovered is a blow job...other than that...all sex is covered.......if you are looking at anything safer.......I might recomend jerking off with a Men's magazine in the washroom...with a rubber glove on.....hahahaha... But do some reading and looking around....we would be glad to help once you have narrowed your choice down... good luck