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I think my list would include making new friends with: SexyRebecca Taylor Monroe SaraMQ Malika And visting again: Cleo EmilyJ But I'm sure these won't be the only encounters I have in 2013!

Frankly, while I believe that people should feel free to ask questions and say what's on their mind, I do feel a bit nervous whenever we venture into ways to deal with or protect against stereotypes. The one about companions being likely to rob clients or compromise their personal security if we know real names and other information is particularly difficult. Seeing a reputable, established companion increases the likelihood that everything will go smoothly. You won't need to worry that she'll rifle through your wallet or cell phone when you're in the bathroom or that she'll call your wife half an hour after your meeting ends. Honestly, if someone were to make a post on a couple of boards, saying that a lady had stolen something or had outed him to his partner or employer, she would be finished in this business! A good reputation and longevity in our profession require being trustworthy. One of the things you're paying for is complete confidentiality. Please also recognize that, while you may be concerned about having your identity and personal life compromised, most of us are concerned about our safety and security, too. I see clients in my home. I feel safest here, but it also means that my visitors have a great deal of information about me before we lay eyes on each other. I screen clients because of the real possibility that someone might hurt or rob me though I know that most have no interest in doing anything like that. In the end, it comes down to trust on both sides. I won't see you if, for any reason, I feel that I may not be safe enough with you. I don't want you to meet me if you're worried that I might do something to harm you, either.

Top 3 revisits: Emily J, Angie at EH and SexxyRebecca 3 I'd like to visit: Lulu4U, Alexxis and Pink at (wherever she is now)

The replies so far do a bang-up job of answering your question. I'll just reiterate that: - pursuing special interests is extremely common - you should briefly explain your interest during your initial inquiry; and - worst case, she'll say "no, sorry, I don't do that" but she won't judge. When describing your interest give enough information to let her know clearly what you're after, but not so much that you're writing amateur porn. ;) Something like: "Hi! My name is [name], I'm [gender] and [age]. I saw your ad on CERB and I'm considering making an appointment with you soon. I have a real fetish for X, and during our session I'd like to try doing Y and Z involving X. Is that possible? If so, an appointment lasting [duration] on [date] from #:00 to #:00 would work well for me. I hope we can meet, and I look forward to hearing back from you." If her answer is "yes" you can always provide some more detail about X, Y, and Z in a follow-up before finalizing the appointment. She may even have some suggestions to add, or questions of her own. Then you're off to the races. Good luck and have lots and lots of fun!

The best time to ask is before you book. I wouldn't worry about being judged. We've all been asked for many things some may consider odd - and sometimes we'll say yes, sometimes we'll say no. But even if I say no, I won't judge you. I'm sure I like things other people might not. To each their own. But the last thing anyone wants is for you to book, THEN say 'Oh I want such-and-such service'. Because then if she doesn't want to provide it, you may not want to cancel because you'll feel bad, etc etc, and then the session won't go well for anyone. The absolute worst time to ask is once the session has begun. Declining a clients request during a session makes me feel terrible, and like he's not going to leave the session happy. And all I want is for my clients to leave happy...so if there's something you need to be happy, let her know upfront, so no one leaves disappointed! Additional Comments: The best time to ask is before you book. I wouldn't worry about being judged. We've all been asked for many things some may consider odd - and sometimes we'll say yes, sometimes we'll say no. But the last thing anyone wants is for you to book, THEN say 'Oh I want such-and-such service'. Because then if she doesn't want to provide it, you may not want to cancel because you'll feel bad, etc etc, and then the session won't go well for anyone. The absolute worst time to ask is once the session has begun. Declining a clients request during a session makes me feel terrible, and like he's not going to leave the session happy. And all I want is for my clients to leave happy...so if there's something you need to be happy, let her know upfront, so no one leaves disappointed!

This might have to be my wish list for 2013, 14 and 15. Mainly an MA guy and JessicaMassage, Michaella Carress, Katrine Cannon top my wish list. Should I embark a little further I am very curious about Taylor Monroe, Emily J, SaraMQ, Megforfun, Nicolette Vaughn, Gabriella Laurence, Nathalie Lefebvre, Georgiana Sweet and Berlin. Long list, jeez. MA's I hope to revisit are Bethany, Didi and Pauline. SP/MA's I hope to revisit are Cat, Peachy and Cleo. It will clearly be most efficient to handle this wish list in duo's. :icon_razz:

Cerb seams to be back to normal - Speed wise (Some new features have been added as I did a update to the software that runs cerb and it has some socialgroup features we did not have before) If anyone is getting any errors, seeing things missing or anything bad happening please PM me and let me know (Details please with links if possible) I am fixing the stuff as it is reported or found... lots of things were broken in the last 5 days that I have had to fix but it does look like we are back to at least 95% power / speed for page load times. (always room for improvement) Thank you all for baring with me I know the site has been very unstable for the last few days (So have I been! - Little sleep deprived)

To everyone here. Over the past weeks I've posted about my dad's cancer. I have received in many PM's, comments, posts etc words of sympathy and support. I just wanted to say thank you all for your support. It really is appreciated This board is much more than an escort board, it truly is a community Again to all of you out in CERBLand, your collective support is appreciated more than you know Thank you RG

Happy New Year to everyone! I know there is a thread some place regarding this issue (I was too lazy to look for it) Since it is a new year, I just like ensure that the line of communication between a SP/MA and a gentleman is followed to a tee,and without fail. My thoughts of Text A B C 's a) Initial contact between both parties through a text is to initiate time/place and confirming the appointment.Or it can be done through a phone call. b) After initial contact has been made, ONLY and IF only that "I" make contact with the provider,than it is fine for that provider to text back. Example ME - "Thanks for a great time it was a real pleasure meeting you" HER- "No thank-you, I had such an enjoyable time " c) On NO account should a provider right of the blue text me weeks later, or in fact months later.(Awkward to explain to my teenage daughter who picked up my phone because it was left on a table) :( I know the same is in reverse for the gentlemen, as I have initiate a text to ladies in the past, but there was never an issue from them. If there is an issue or was an issue, the provider would of certainly let me know. I have a few ladies that are in my contacts, and we have kept in touch, the issue above I have not contacted her by text over months ago. These ladies that I consider good friends we have kept in contact,without any issues from both sides. Perhaps emailing,or pm's would suffice if both parties have not spoken for a couple months. All I'm asking is for discretion and consideration. When I initiate a text, I might say "Okay to chat? " I might not hear back, or she may reply "Hi how are you? yes we can chat! " Or I might get 'later okay" For myself, it makes things simply for booking an appointment, and not waiting at times for schedules to be posted. Anyways, Happy 2013 AND carry on folks :)

Hey Lee. Since it appears as if our mutual male SP businesses have not taken off how about we go into the flower business together? I'll sell my glads at the end of the lane and you sell your canola and we can split the profits. :) Oops. Back on track. My second favorite flower is the simple but beautiful tulip.

Excellent post Pistol Pete and I agree in all respects. Another thing I thought I should mention.. Please don't text an SP out of the blue without the intention of booking an appt and wanting to get into long texts or sextexting. I've had people attempt to do this and puts the SP in an awkward position and I am the one who has to take the upper hand and shut it down. I'm not interested in doing that and if I were, I'd be working a 1-900 number. Thanks for your consideration.

Ummm... Wow! :-o I almost just came in my panties picturing you getting DP'd... Oh my! What a naughty image, you bad girl!! I love it! :) Lucky guys!! :icon_wink:

Just want to point out that this is a generalization, and not always the case ;)

I do not believe you are unreasonable, but as some people stated it's mainly girls that are on BP and as much as I will generalize here, most of them do not consider themselves escort, just looking to make money each month and don'T really care about being all inclusive or not charging extra. My rates are all inclusives...as I believe most ladies on Cerb also. I only charge extra for greek and do not hide it... On the other hand I do understand how MA may charge different rates for example: -Full clothing, you leave happy :xxx$ -topless, you leave happy:xwz$ full nude, you leave happy:qer$ On the other hand...if someone want something REALLY specific like a clothing request that I do not have or a special color pedicure with French tip...well despite the fact that I do not advertise it I would charge extra as it would cost me money myself and I don't think it's wrong to do so.

This is exactly why I post my ad thread listing ALL of the available services (at no extra cost!)...mind you there are a few extras, which only lead up to a 275/hr total anyways. Every SP has a right to advertise/market herself as she wishes, whatever works for her. Keep in mind that agency girls do not keep all of their money, and are more inclined to charge extras. If you don't like the services vs the price, move on and find another! ;)

There's another benefit to asking service questions before booking. If the woman you're communicating with doesn't offer the service you're looking for, she may know someone who does and can provide you with a lead to follow up on. Provided you're communication has been respectful. That will shorten your search. Check out sp's web sites and reviews. That will give you a very good idea of who provides the service you're seeking or who may be game for it, if it's not specifically listed on their web site. You never know. You may find out that that your kinks aren't actually that unusual. We don't discuss our sexual desires often or with many people. As a result, it's easy for us to think that we're way out there. On the whole however, researchers have found that most people's "illicit desires", fantasies or kinks are pretty commonplace desires. Maybe you're vanilla after all lol. Service providers have a wider range of sexual activites that they've been able to explore and and are therefore comfortable with or in fact enjoy. The average person's sexual life remains more restricted by social conventions. Even something like Greek is a relatively easy service to find. Activities such as scat play, golden showers, pain, humiliation or domination will be services provided by very specialized sp's... but they are out there. Kinks may be difficult to discuss in social dating "When do I tell her I want to....? The first time we have sex... tenth time?" Lol You may have discussed your desires with a significant other and had them politely decline ("I'm just not game for that honey"), or they tried it for you and decided it's outside their comfort zone even for someone they love, or they may have passed judgement ("oooo... that's disgusting"). A polite inquiry to an sp will either evoke the first response, a referral to another sp, no response, or... "Ya, I love that..." or "I can do that, but that service costs extra and/or only if you follow these rules..." From your post, you seem considerate and tactful. As long as you do a little research, read a woman's website closely (that cannot be overemphasized) and the first words in your communication aren't "Hey baby, do you...", you should be able to find what you're looking for. Good luck, whatever flavour your kinks turn out to be!

Warning puns ahead... It's so hard to limit the list to just a few. And so, in no particular order my revisit list includes: Cleo, Emily J, Taylor Monroe, and SexxxyRebecca plus many more honourable mentions, if I cum across as greedy it's because like Lays potatoe chips its hard to stop eating after just one. For new adventures I'm looking at: Sara McQ, Vanessa Vale, Nicolette Vaughn, Meg for Fun and so many more... Now I just need to win Lotto Max and it'll all cum true.

There is a chance that I may stop hunting soon in the new year but if I stay in the hobby my three most favorites whom I plan to see repeatedly in 2013 are: Georgiana Sweet - I will never have enough kissing that ultra beautiful milky pale soft skin in which her very sexy feminine body is covered by. That beautiful complexion, lovely face, those beautiful blue eyes, her angelic soul, her soft black hair. She is the Snow White princess in more ways than one (you have to see the Mirror mirror movie to understand lol). Julie Wilde - That soft feminine face, absolutely incredibly sexy semi-natural kitty, those beautiful blue eyes, and soft feminine pale skin. Nathalie Lefebvre - That beautiful baby face, the angelic personality, the tall feminine body, the beautiful sexy semi natural kitty, the soft pale skin.

I don't know if I am the only one who feels this way but I welcome your comments. Many of you refer to an escort as GFE when she does cbj. On another Board for Ottawa(the one that rhymes with this one and originates from Toronto), GFE is bbbj For those of us who prefer bbbj is it possible that if it is cbj that you refer to it as safeGFE? Otherwise it is impossible to know. I realize it may be a YMMV thing but not usually. There are those SPs who do bbbj and those who don't.

There are definitely multiple choices in our city. As a 40's man, one lady that should be on your list is Soleil. She will make you feel "amazing and appreciated". I stopped counting how many times I've seen her. Just my two cents.

I love lilacs but hate that they are only around for a month at a time!

If you go to the "Your Groups" box, the groups that have new posts in them have their group name in bold type; the others are in regular type.

I received a pm from a very special lady to inform me that she is reopening her in-call spot. Hooray!!! Additional Comments: Just noticed I've hit 200 posts. Yay!!

That may be a MOD_SECURITY issue with the server, the website software and your browser not getting along. I will check the logs for this and see if I can find anything. If it happens again PM me the EXACT time it happened (EST) - Makes it easier to find the error in the server logs for that particular instance.

Has nothing to do with reputation. Police act on public complaints.

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They say that the problem with common sense is that it is not that common. I have often found this to be true.

Thanks for asking Cristy. This is a new one to me. Glad someone brought it up. :-)

But so you know Cristy, you've been thanked at least three times (oh wait, four times) today ;-) Just check your user control panel Thanks are underneath the panic button fyi And not a dumb question, a good question and thanks for bringing it up RG

Hey guys my favourite girl Lisa is working Indie these days (including tonight) and I just want to remind you all that once you've had the Lisa treatment nothing else will do! .

This Group is the Best Place to Be.

I don't mind initial contact via text, and even a few questions back and forth, but if it goes on much longer than 5 or 6 texts, I do ask the person to call me because otherwise I could find myself texting all day. If I don't get to the phone and see a text that was sent more than half an hour ago, I will not respond unless I recognize the number and know it's safe to text back. By then, you could be in the car with your SO, daughter, etc. However, if you want to book an appointment, you must call me to do so, as I do not book by text and never give my exact address out ahead of time. I don't know if it's some teenager or jealous spouse who has gotten a hold of a client's phone. Since I don't require references and go mainly with my gut feeling, this is a minimal part of my screening requirements - that is to say I must hear the caller's voice. Like I said, once we have met and you want to rebook, texting only is fine, but I also do not expect the client to just show up at my door either. They must go to the visitor parking and call from there. I would NEVER text a client out of the blue for whatever reason, even if we have a good connection. It's tacky and not very discrete. However, that being said, I do have a few male cerb members who I am friends with who I text with to say hi, but I have their explicit permission to do so because I know they are single/unattached etc. and they know they can do the same with me. Pete, I agree. There is nothing so urgent that cannot be said in a quick pm or email, especially if it's after-the-fact. You are not being unreasonable at all, asking that you not be contacted out the blue. It's just good manners not to do so. The ladies who do that perpetuate the stereotype that some of us are desperate with no manners which is unfortunate.

I agree PP, never should a sp contact a client/hobbyist unless and only if she is invited to . We-sp's on the other hand advertise our numbers-emails so we expect to be called or messaged at our advertised times and by anyone reading our ads-respectfully so I might add-meaning no foul language, crass pics, ect. This I would think is just common sense and proper etiquette

MP establishments only post the door fee. The rest is to be discussed with your chosen MA. The attendant makes her wage from the choices, after the required door fee. There are places like CMJ for example, that have an all inclusive rate if you don't want to discuss the options by messaging back and forth. This is standard advertising.

That is why personally I simply move on when I see an ad that continues to have add on's in pricing or are typed like.... "HeLLo --u-- CAN --d>i^N>e IN my W`E`t s@e%x&Y hole" :) ^5 this is why hobbiest can skip these type ad's or not happy with additional pricing simply move onwards. After all in the Ottawa/Gatineau area there is many women to choose from. :)

The great thing about e-mail is that it offers a pretty neutral territory way to raise these issues. I would not call someone up, ask if they are available this afternoon, and the go on and ask for service that might not be typical. e-mail the woman you're interested in. Tell her you're interested in meeting her, would like to discuss possible times in the future, and that you have some particular interests. Then the discussion can proceed. Sometimes ladies like to know a customer a bit before being willing to explore some types of fetishes. It really just depends on what it is and how unusual it might be. But don't worry ... as I've said in another thread, they won't be shocked. Porthos

First up - welcome to the board! I can't imagine you'll get SPs thinking you're a complete freak. I'm sure most of them have heard pretty much everything already, so unless your tastes are really Way Out There you're probably not going to be the first person she's had asking for whatever it is. The most negative reaction you're going to get is probably something along the lines of, "Sorry, I don't offer that service." Do what research you can. Have a look at the ads in your locality and see if anyone's advertizing what you're after, or possibly advertizing similar things. If you feel brave, you could put a post in your city's SP discussion section saying what you're after, and inviting ladies that provide this to contact you. You may get lucky. You could also hop over to the search page and see if anyone's asked about your preferences in the past - it's quite possible that they have. As for when to discuss it with a SP... I'd have thought that early on is probably best. Assuming that you're polite about it, just be up front about what you're looking for so that if she doesn't offer it, she can just say so and neither you nor she wastes any further time. One thing you should NOT do is to book a meeting without mentioning what you want, and then spring it on her the day before (or worse, when you actually get there) - you'll probably piss her off and if you cancel at the last second you'll really piss her off. Finally, remember that we're generally a friendly and non-judgmental bunch here; provided whatever's happening involves only consenting adults, nobody will think any the less of you for it. Hope that helps. And good luck!

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The "All groups" page seems to be what you want. On the main groups page, it has a link at the bottom-right of the "random group" that pops up. What I really don't like at the moment is that groups now have an icon, and if a group doesn't have an icon then that space will be taken up by some of the text of the group description, which makes the pages messy as hell and means the group names don't stand out. But this can be solved by having group owners add icons to the groups they own... Also: groups can now be put into categories, but there aren't any categories yet and I didn't see a link to add them, so presumably this is something Mod would have to do. Mod, any chance of doing that when you have a sec? It'd presumably make navigating the groups easier...

The only thing close to magic is Cardio, Cardio, Cardio. I have gone through a variety of them this past year and had my most fun with the upright bike. I just mount on it with my music on and keep going for an hour at an high intensity 3 to 4 days a week. But like someone said earlier, everyone is different. Try out various forms of cardio exercises or equipments and if rusty, that is fine as your endurance builds if you keep up with it. this helps keep a steadily high metabolism to burn off fat as long as your keep your carb intake low. I started off with just lasting 5 mins on the bike at the beginning of the last year but now im steady at 50 to 75 mins every other day. The food part is quite important too. Just try to avoid raw sugars and carbs and go with more fibrous stuff like brown rice, unsalted nuts, oats. As well high protein foods like salmon and chicken breast.

WOW! Pedestal? Meet Cinderella! You really shouldn't base your opinion on the provider's donation requirement but on your interaction(ie emails etc) with her and perhaps maybe her recos as well as her interactions on the board. This ain't Hollywood baby lol but I am sure that should you feel more comfortable with a higher donation, no one will object to a generous gift!

I have met Karena who has recently joined them but I still believe she is an independent as well. I enjoyed Karena but she is a curvy gal but in very nice proportion. I have talked to the other girls but have not met them as they are usually based out of Truro

This is a great point, and thank you for making it! :) I am not going to actually make a list, but I do want to say that there are very many interesting lads around here that I feel very fortunate to have met and many more whom I really hope to get the opportunity to meet in the new year! Thank you to all the CERB gentlemen for being interesting and funny and especially for making me feel welcome here at CERB! :) It has become kind of a safe and cozy second home to me. I feel free to be myself, and for that I am forever greatful! :biggrin: Thank you! I love you guys! :bowdown:

I'm hoping Miabella makes a return in 2013. Definitely one of my all time favorites.

Hey, I think you stole my list. Add Meg and you pretty much have my list. I don't think I can even go to Ottawa, it will bankrupt me. Porthos

Since I've been on CERB I have been enjoying learning about these lovely women. I find these ladies most intriguing: Julie Wilde (what can I say -- I have a thing for nymphs!) Georgina Sweet (what a beautiful woman!) Cleo Catra (especially after watching her interview -- very intriguing indeed!) Nathalie Lefebvre (wonderful body and apparently a great conversationalist!) Peachy (love her derrierre!) Gegefatale (voluptuous figure which I find my mind straying back to again and again!) There are many other wonderful ladies as well, but these first come to mind. ;-)

Yes, exactly right - so many ladies, so little time ! For 2013, I intend to continue to see some of my regulars whom I've come to love and adore. I also wish to see a few new ladies whom I admire from reading their posts, their recommendations and their profile pages and photos. These are in no particular order - Georgiana Sweet, Cleo Catra, Nathalie Lefebvre, Julie Wilde, Candyce, Gina, Brooke(PK), etc., etc., and some MAs such as Michaelle's Caress, Luscious Lilly, and so on. These are ladies just came to my mind now. The list will certainly change as time goes by.

I think YNOT.COM published this. A great article, by the way! It offers a lot of insight into the mind of an independent escort.

I think it's been discussed before, and very recently. bp is like any other ad site. You can't automatically assume all ads are fake, or that all rates are cheap. Any savvy business minded sp is going to use any and all advertising sites that work, and bp is known by far more people and covers far more territory (and countries) than many other sites. It is a paid site, not free, so keep in mind also that the person choosing to advertise there has spent money to do it. Even so, you don't assume the advertising site itself is vetting or checking the sps for your safety, or even being a good match. If rates are the issue, believe me there are sps advertising on this site who have rates in all ranges as well. We don't assume that the lower rate advertisers here are scammers, but we assume that and worse about bp advertisers. Even when many of the advertisers here (or similar sites) use bp to advertise on a regular basis, we are still all lumped together by both clients and sps who are too good for it I guess. And yet everyone seems to know what quality of advertiser is on it, and how risky it must be to use it, even tho no one actually uses it? But check this out: two years (or so ago), all of these kinds of comments and threads discussed CL (erotic services ads). At that time, bp was never mentioned as such a lowbrow advertising site. You'd think if it was a bad site for ads, that it would have always been a bad site for ads. But it wasn't, it's only since there's been no CL that all the advertisers are bad? Doesn't make sense to me.