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I just got accepted to York University's Master's program in Women, Feminist and Gender Studies for September 2013!!!! Highlight of the day? More like highlight of the year! I AM SO EXCITED I COULD BURST. When I called my parents to tell them, I was crying with joy. I kid you not. My mom was like, why are you crying and I was like, BECAUSE I'M SO HAPPY!

It's something I've never understood and I've learned that asking "Why do people ________?" questions is a waste of my time and energy. I leave answering the unanswerable for those who must have a better understanding than I about the workings of the human mind. The only thing I allow myself to get frustrated about is when I DROP THE BALL. It's the only thing I truly have control over. As for the homeless owning dogs, I feel very differently than Emily. The most balanced and stable dogs I've ever met belonged to the homeless. Dogs don't need fancy coats or fancy food. They are not status symbols or a child. They need a pack, they need to move, they need to know what their leader expects of them and they need to know their leader will provide. Hunger isn't a prevailing concern for dogs, instinctively they need to be hungry for most of the day. I've seen homeless people feed their dogs before they eat which is a level of committment that most pet owners don't have. They don't need a consistently warm environment, they are designed to live outside. They don't need a sterile environment, they have an admirable immunity built in. They don't need store bought toys unless they are bored which homeless dogs never are. Compared to the city dog owners I have met, I would give a dog to a homeless person before the typical pet owner, myself included... cat

Would you agree that we all have a responsibility to take care of ourselves, our children, our pets, our planet. I mean without it where would we live? Well then why do some feel it's not their resposibility to support themselves-educating themselves or working so they can be independent. You know those who think the welfare and unemployment systems were set up to provide them with a supplemental income or a break because they find it to hard to bust their asses working everyday like everyone else. Those who think they deserve it or are owed it. These systems were set up for those who through no fault of their own fall on dire straights/hard times and need a temporary helping hand until they get back on their feet. I mean why as a taxpayer should I pay to heat someones home, pay their rent, feed their children when they are as capable and have as many opportunities as I? THINK- If you are going to have unprotected sex and you have no education/no income, there is a possibility that you may become pregnant. This means you need the means to raise YOUR child or children. It shouldn't mean because you've been irresponsible others should have to pay a price. I'm not talking about mistakes, horrible situations like rape,ect. I'm talking about those who are simply and intentionally irresponsible.THINK-and when you milk the systems-working/supplementing your income with unemployment/welfare while making a decent living, thats stealing and it affects all of us and isn't fair to those who are truly in need. No one is owed a living! Why do some search for a free pet then when they get it think it isn't their responsibilty to spay and neuter it, allow it to roam freely and populate irresponsibilty. Adding to the already exploding pet population. In the USA alone more than 8 million strays come into shelters yearly. More then half of them are euthanized simply because there is no place for them-WHY? Owning a pet is not a right it's a privilge so when you get one take care of it! For it's life! Why do some feel it's their neighbours, teachers, everyone elses responsibilty but their own to rear and raise their children. Yes parenting is hard but it's your job! Help is available but the responsibilty lies with you to make sure your child is happy, healthy,well behaved, educated and provided with food and shelter. Why are some not bothering to recycle and compost. This I will never understand. It angers me even more when those with kids neglect doing this as they should have a more vested interest in the health of the planet. They have someone to leave it to! Yes life is busy but it only takes a minute to separate food waste, plastics, glass, papers. Come on!! Why do some who suck on cigarettes, eat bad food, drink excessivley-just live an unhealhty lifestyle think it's not their fault they became sick. In Canada we are lucky your hospital visit or doctor visit will not directly come out of your pocket but our system is strained so why not do our part to make sure we don't needlessly burden it. We all make mistakes from time to time and possibly may need help too. But to have the attitude that you don't care because you are or have been irresponsible I just don't understand. I mean WHY?

Responsibility both to self and to society is not a simple subject and certainly not one with a clear black and white to it. I believe in full personal responsibility for ones actions. That however is easy for me to do because of my circumstances. It can be argued that I worked to put myself in this position that allows me to assume full responsibility. It helped to have come from an upbringing where responsibility was taught, education was valued, moral beliefs were ingrained and personal values were instilled. Not everyone has had that opportunity. Does that give carte blanche for people to milk the system? No, but it does mean that many people do require and should have access to a system that will help them get back on their feet, train them as necessary, and yes, feed and clothe them when it is required. We have a social network in this country that is critical, valued and important. I would argue that it does not go far enough. I live in Canada's smallest province where the vast majority of people, outside of government employment, work in seasonal employment. Fishing, farming and tourism are the staples. There is no stable industry, there are no major manufacturers, there are few places where a sustainable wage is available. Fact of life for PEI. I played on many a ball team and hockey team with guys where I was the only person who knew with certainty that I would have a pay check and what the amount would be. The provinces solution is to create and fund short term minimum wage twenty week jobs for which the sole purpose is to get the employee enough weeks to qualify them for federal government EI. The EI kicks in, and when expired the province gives another twenty week work experience. The governments are creating the cycle rather than investing in meaningful solutions. I believe with all of my heart that most people want to work and when given opportunity will do so. My last year of work before retiring from the education system a full twenty percent of the families in my school had a parent that commuted to Alberta to work. Twenty percent, so it really irks me when I hear about Islanders and Maritimers in general seeking out the dole. I suspect that I am in the minority with these opinions however it is clear that what is happening now in this country is not a solution but merely a temporary band aid solution that will keep people from starving to death. We have a government that encourages free trade agreements with countries that do not pay workers a fair wage so that the multinationals can make obscene profits for the 1% and therefore not employ Canadians at a wage that will provide an income that allows one to support themselves and a family. EI and social assistance payments do NOT provide adequate funds for living at anything other than below the poverty line. Yes it is government money from you and I but it is not an extravagance or an expenditure that I begrudge. There but for the grace of God go I. My rant for the day!

Breaking news today... http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/ottawa/story/2013/02/06/ottawa-pamela-kosmack-homicide-suspect-arrest.html Ottawa police link serial predator to 2008 slaying Pamela Kosmack was found dead near a bike path close to Britannia Park on June 4, 2008. Ottawa police have a man in custody they believe is linked to the murders of two Ottawa women found dead in 2008 and 2011. The man was arrested at the Ottawa-Carleton Detention Centre on Wednesday in connection to the deaths of Pamela Kosmack, 39, and Leanne Lawson, 23. Kosmack was found beaten to death in June 2008 on a bike path near Lincoln Fields transit station. Police recently offered up to $50,000 for information that would help solve the three-year-old homicide of the woman who struggled with addictions. Lawson was found dead in a Lowertown parking lot in September 2011. Police told CBC News more than a year ago they believed a suspect who killed multiple sex workers may be linked to the unsolved homicide of Kosmack. Police first alerted Ottawa sex workers in December 2011 about a man who might be preying on the city's prostitutes. More to come

There's of course no one blanket answer to the whole problem of people dependent upon assistance. Let's at least start by recognizing that there are many groups here: a) Yeah sure, those who are dependent on social assistance and wouldn't change even if they could. These are the folks that people talk about 'til their head bursts and who give the system a bad name. Then again -- capitalism, baby! Make the minimum investment for maximum possible return and screw everyone else and any sense of a larger duty to the society around you. Aren't these people doing exactly what our greed-based economy teaches them to do, and what we reward corporations for doing all the time? b) A set of people who are dependent and would like to escape, but don't know how and have no examples to follow; also, those who don't have the personal, internal intellectual or emotional resources to change. We need programs to reach out to these people and offer a path to better themselves. I personally think this accounts for a very large segment indeed. We who function in society forget how intimidating it is, and how insurmountable its minimum demands can seem when they've been outside your reach your entire life. c) The set of people who are capable of change, but whose circumstances prevent it. As an example: divorced single parents now struggling to care for kids they had in better times, and for whom jobs are unmanageable because they would cost more than they would bring in (daycare costs, transportation, a long series of things impossible to manage when you're isolated). There are people who manage to rise out of these circumstances despite the difficulties, and that's awesome. My own family worked hard to overcome humble beginnings. But let's not be too quick to judge those who are still struggling with the challenge. And when we're tempted to ask "gawd, how can they continue to live such tragic and unfulfilled lives?", maybe we should also ask: how do some people linger so long in sexless or loveless marriages? Financial self-neglect; emotional self-neglect. See, sometimes change is too terrifying, or the expected financial or social cost of change just seems too high. People get paralyzed in bad circumstances all the time. I try not to judge either case. As black and white as it looks from the outside, we just don't know all the circumstances. Who'll cast the first stone?

You need to book a duo with ladies who have a connection with one another and with you. Nothing worse than a third wheel in the room. Everyone seeks something different in a duo, and what was great for one person may not be the experience that you are looking for, for yourself. So do your research. Book a lady you already enjoy spending time with, ask her who she enjoys working with and go from there, when you book with 2 ladies that you have never met - you are asking for a disaster.

Cancer. Fuck cancer. I just found out my father-in-law has esophageal cancer. It's not good. Fuck fuck fuck. I like my in-laws more than I like my own family and this just fucking blows.

Thank you Fred. This is a discussion not an argument so all points of view are welcome. So we should be able to openly and in a friendly manner discuss without calling out posts or statements as ridiculous, wrong or misguided. I am speaking from experience and yes, about those who are supplementing their income. That is perfectly clear in the initial post. Wether or not you believe it is your choice. I am also very well aware of what one gets when on welfare and what they pay for their public housing. It is maddening especiaslly when some of these mothers move in there employed bf's and work a job under the table to support their 1,2,and 3 kids.Yes this to may be ridiculous in your mind but it happpens alot and often. Please inform us also how you know Emily's if statistics are wrong. I will also add I don't think Lee's statement was a blanket one he was speaking of those-remember-those- who take advantage of the systems. Welfare and unemployment-these are the systems that are spoken of in this thread. I don't remember anyone saying the whole system or all it's recipients. I mean we all can elaborate and include other systems, sectors and occupations. But that is not the point of this thread nor was it for me to judge. When I ask someone why it's is because I want to know or want an explanation-to understand. But if you see it as judging so be it. You are as we all are entitled to your opinion.

I am not spreading misfortune, but the sole reality of what I have noticed on a day to day basis when I am home. As well as from talking to the local government agency on how I can help work towards any small thing I can do to help work with this problem. It is easy to turn a blind eye when you dont live next to it. When you visit a place you are blinded by vacation mode and not reality, once it is part of day to day life you embrace it. The Teen pregnancy rates in NB jumped 40% since 2005, (the rest of the maritimes, excluding PEI is not far behind) local studies show majority of these girls have no where to go, so where do you think they are getting the means to live? Add this to the already high rate of people already on assistance, and this mess keeps getting bigger. 1 in 10 children in NB are living below the poverty line, those are the ones that deserve the assistance. Unless you live in the GTA or another LARGE city - you would be surprised of the lifestyle that others live off of it. I love where I live, just dont really enjoy some of the walks of life on my street (lots of people feel this way about their neighbours) I moved for a more peaceful way of life, as living in the GTA makes one crazy. I am a firm believer of turning lemons into lemonade and while I disagree with the ease that one can get Government money to live on, I wont let that bring me down. I am fortunate to live in one of the most historical and architecturally beautiful cities in canada, and I plan to fully make the most of it. I am all for bettering the community and fully plan to help in some way, no matter how small. If your parents are on welfare and raise you to know no different better, you more than likely will be on it as well.. If you have a child and see that you get more money for more babies as well as subsidized housing and free childcare you would probably take it too. At the end of the day, you can then afford to live a VERY extravagant lifestyle all on the government. If you have money for booze and expensive clothing while on government assistance, the guidelines into which one needs to qualify in order to get it, is too low.

I believe it's a mistake to conflate socialism and communism. We enjoy many forms of socialism in this country. "Any society, any nation, is judged on the basis of how it treats its weakest members ; the last, the least, the littlest." -Cardinal Roger Mahony Broken states like Somalia are examples of places where power and money rule and all are left to their own devices. We are a rich society. I don't begrudge anyone the basics of life. Providing essentials to prevent those less fortunate from starving or dying of easily curable diseases doesn't disincent the majority of people from working hard. It's just basic human decency to want to take care of those in need. I have pity for the homeless and sick. I don't want to see anyone suffer. I recognize that some 'take advantage' of my good will but it's a price I'm willing to pay to live in a society where all have a chance. If you're successful in our society it's because you took advantage of many forms of public infrastructure like roads, schools, hospitals, water and electricity. As Obama said, "You didn't build this." So why would you then turn and begrudge others the same advantages that you had? Seems selfish.

Sure... Recycling is not only good for the environment but it is economical both personally and for your municipality and oh so easy to do. As for pets...if you can't afford to treat them as well as you treat yourself then you shouldn't have one. As for kids, unless you are financially and mentally stable enough to commit for a life time then buy a doll. Yeah, in a mood lol.

I have no ideas what to wear for the social tomorrow >.<

Rouladin, red cabbage and spatzel

Great post...and topic.... I agree wholeheartedly with what you have to say. i relocated almost 2 years ago to a city where 65% of people are on social assistance and they live for cheque day. There is a newspaper full of decent jobs (I know as I have looked). I dont understand it no matter how I try to process the train of thought that these people have. One of the main reasons this is such a trend, is that they are 2nd or 3rd generation social assistance receivers. They figure if they were raised ok on it, why not keep it up. Plus they see $$$ when they find out they get more money a month for each child they have. Goverment assistance is there for a short term fix, not as a lifestyle. It REALLY sickens me. In my building I am the ONLY person not on assistance, yet some of the other tenants live a more extravagant lifestyle than I do.....How is that possible? I was in the bank at home last week, I was the ONLY person in line not cashing a government cheque. I was raised to always want better for myself and my family, and I just could not subject myself to ever take a handout from the government day in and day out for the remainder of my life. After seeing how the other half lives for the last almost 2 years it sickens me. The fact that people are content with just getting by and not wanting better for themselves is a big part of the downward spiral. Better yet, how about the homeless people with pets? WTF you cant care for yourself so you decide to make an animals life miserable too?

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I just wish it was easier to weed out the cheats and users without painting the legitimately needy with the same brush.

Well I'll reflect on a couple occurrences that took place in my young impressionable life, oh ok, not so impressionable but compared to now, young LOL I was looking to rent a co-op townhouse. This co-op was under construction, with both apartments and townhouses. I had priced rents at different apartments and figured the rent shouldn't be so bad. First you had to attend a meeting, where the rules were outlined. So I went to this long three+ hour meeting. At the end of it, the ball dropped. The co-ops were rentals, but also geared to those on social assistance. What that meant, first, I couldn't get into a townhouse, need to have at least one kid. So my selection of rentals was reduced to a very small one bedroom apartment, of which there were very few. Second, they worked the rents so those on social assistance got a very reduced rent, something like $250.00 month for a townhouse, but me, since I worked for a living, would have to pay way above market value in rent, something like $800.00 a month for a shoebox size apartment. The rationale in their thinking is those living at the co-op who have jobs would subsidize those on welfare (and have little choice in the apartment they could rent). I decided to get a bigger apartment with market rents and screw the co-op idea...and my rent was $500 month. Oh, and I drove by the co-op about a year after I thought of going in, the area became run down (no one took any pride in where they lived) and there was at least one and in more cases two to three cars in the driveway Second case. For a short period of time I was dating this woman. She was a single mother, on welfare living in subsidized housing. After a few dates she started broaching a few ideas. First, she asked if she and her daughter could be included on my medical/dental insurance. No big issues there, if the dating developed into a relationship, of course I would include them. But she also wanted me to move in with her at her subsidized housing. She would still only pay the subsidized rent (based on her being a single mother), and then wanted me to split the rent 50-50. Well if I moved in, she is no longer a single mother, and she wouldn't be entitled to subsidized housing. Anyhow, if your wondering how there can be two, three cars in a driveway, maybe Cadillac Escalades, maybe someone on welfare latched on to someone working for a living. They both live in subsidized housing together, paying for the working guy a very reduced rent compared to market prices. Me, when the idea was broached, just seemed unethical and illegal, not to mention I had my place. And to boot, she had kind of a big mouth, she'd brag to her friends how she was scamming the system. Now there are those who need welfare legitimately, but there are others who could start looking through the want ads, and work. It may not be a glamorous Bay Street job, but earning your pay instead of getting spoon fed a cheque every couple weeks builds pride and character My 2 cents RG

Well we can go back and forth, I believe you and a couple of others are pointing to people who are illegally receiving welfare benefits. I'm sure there are equally or maybe even more people scamming the EI system as well. For me, that is the answer to your "why". There are criminals and scumbags who steal and take advantage of governments and individuals. Also, please see Jhena's response for more answers to your questions, it was a great post. As far as Emily's statistics I asked a question. Where did she get the statistic that 65% of the city/community she lives in are on welfare. I just found this article, although almost 4 years old I think it might be an interesting read for folks. Two things stick out, there are SOME people living on less that $300 per month. At the bottom of the article it mentions the number of people on social assistance, province wide mind you but it gives you and idea of the amount of people who collect welfare. http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/new-brunswick/story/2009/11/13/nb-poverty-reduction-plan.html

Tonight will be mac & cheese again, but I'd better run and make some fresh breadcrumbs! In worse news, the St-Albert Cheese Factory burned down over the weekend. It may take the better part of a year to get them back up and running. Huge local employer! I heard something about their having a factory in Québec too, so hopefully we can continue to enjoy their cheese. But man. Too many fires out here.

Great post Renegade and despite what I wrote earlier, which I stand by, I will not dispute much of what you have written here. Socialism has not worked as you have well pointed out with excellent examples and the reason that it did not work you have very accurately stated I believe. The one area that I do feel that I cannot agree with is your view of the 1 or the 3 or the 5%ers. I am not thinking of the Mom and Pop store owners or the small locally owned independent store owners but rather the multinationals who are I believe exploiting others in undeveloped countries not only at the expense of those people but also at the expense of eliminating valid Canadian employment opportunities. I do not presume to know a solution and I wish that I did, but the fact is that there are many people in very unfortunate situations and not always because they choose to be there. This is where our social network should be focused and go farther than it does at present. I believe that the majority of people want to work and will work hard when given an opportunity.

The trend these day,s successfully pushed and politicized particularly by obama and the left to Vilify and Target the so-called 1% 3% or even top 5% of earners is championed mostly by the vast majority of wage earners who receive a regular cheque paid vacation time and usually a pension to boot. Those that have never worked on commissions or "donations" as the vast majority of sp,s do here. They take little or no risk and most have never owned a business or hired employees or put their life savings on the table,Yet feel a moral duty to assume those who have somehow achieved success don,t do or pay their fair share in society and that is patently untrue. There will always be a portion of society that requires assistance for one reason or another and we should do our best to help them improve their situation, but there is a growing segment of our population that want more than they deserve or earn and Greece is a prime example of that. The theory of Socialism at its root is a wonderful theory. The idea that everyone in a society thrives, and that poverty becomes a thing of the past through collective hard work and compassion. What is wrong with this idea that so many "progressive" thinkers have adopted as their life's ambition...simple, it does not work. The reason that the theory of Socialism does not work is complex, but it can be made simple for the purpose of this conversation, in short, it is a theory. The problem with a theory, or a concept, or an idea for that matter, is that they all look great on paper, in lab conditions, but when you try to enact them in the real world, the ugly truth about most theories begins to show. For Socialism to work, every member of a society must pull their own weight. Take a look around, does that seem possible to you, as an intelligent life form? The truth is that Socialists are idealistic, and if they truly believe that Socialism will work in a real society, they are also naive. It has been proven that water will follow the path of least resistance, and in many ways, humans are like water. If you constantly give a person sustenance without requiring them to work for that sustenance, they will never work. The old adage, give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, teach him to fish, he will eat for a lifetime is very pertinent to this discussion. If the government constantly gives men fish, why would they buy their own pole and bait a hook? The answer, they will not. Socialism will never work for the same reason that capitalism makes some people rich. In a capitalist market, those who work the hardest gain the most spoils. Removing the incentive for these hard workers to work, by redistributing their spoils, does nothing more than create mass poverty, it does not eliminate poverty. Look around, has socialism ever been successful? Were the bread lines of the Soviet Union a picture of success? One of the best examples i,ve ever read about was a Professor at a prominent U.S college that had never failed a student in his class and to show his students how social policy can effect outcomes he decided to have his students write three exams over three weeks and he would average their scores, after the first exam the exceptional students studied hard and everyone averaged a B grade, during the next exam the hard working students admitted after that they studied less because they knew the grades were going to be averaged and everyone passed with a c grade. For the third exam the average grade was an f- This life is a survival of the fittest, it is human nature, and as long as humans are involved in the equation, Socialism will never work, no matter how wonderful equality for all seems.

I know it's non of my business antlerman but knowing what we all know about you the question would be how many times a day do you use that thing? hahaha

Somewhat unrelated question for OP. Please feel free to tell me, "None of your business" if it's too personal. Your preference for a shorter woman. Is this just a general preference or are you also fairly short? The reason I ask is because I'm fairly tall (6'2") so almost all women I meet are quite a bit smaller than I. That's fine but I kind of dig the whole 'amazon' thing too. Taylor Monroe was my first and one of the things I like about her is that she's quite tall (around 5'10" I think)....it puts a whole different perspective on things...everything just fits together differently if that makes sense. I sometimes think the coolest thing ever would be to find a really tall lady - my height or even taller. Just to see what it's like to be on the other side if you know what I mean. Let her throw me around a bit...a woman that I have to climb. :-D I think that if you're not super tall, you might have a really fun time with some of the taller ladies here...have you ever considered giving that a go? Any other short guys who love the tall ladies?

I bought mine about 4 years ago at the Classixxx on Bank Street and paid over $100 for it, but not once have I ever regret a single dollar of that purchase. The Fleshlight is simply the best orgasm that you can give yourself alone, especially if you take the time to use as directed (and then get a little creative!). Also, I hear the Tenga Egg (a similar manual aid) is very good competition in self stimulation.

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Planning to fly and when I went to bed the forecast was totally clear everywhere for both going and returning. This morning I see snow and wind for my departure tomorrow and a major storm forecast upon returning. I have a three hour drive to and from the airport so I am not happy!

Its sometimes the little things (this could very well be in the First World Problems thread too by the way) that go awry, in a way. I think i fouled up a recipe while baking yesterday - I forgot to add an ingredient. Will have to taste-test the result today and if not up to par to my standards, i'll have to start it over again. Luckily, it's not a complicated recipe.

You could put it that way. Google Apps for Business has been ISO 27001 certified. Even the spooks can use it (with two factor authentication, I imagine). They will give you a 1 month free trial and your own "test" address so you can simply forward your email to it without adjusting the MX (Mail eXchanger) records in the DNS for your domain. Aside from email (with really great spam filtering) and seemingly unlimited storage with the power of Google search against your email, there is just way so much more to it than email. While Google Docs isn't Microsoft Office, most people don't use 1/10 the features in office and the word processor, spreadsheet, presentation and drawing tools are not at all bad when you consider they can be used from anywhere and all you need is a web browser.

Kayla / Shedevil has some nice tats.

I wish other people would recognize the serious and intense security short comings of POP3 email. Access your email just once (maybe outlook or something similar polls for new mail in the background) just once using a WiFi hot spot and the jig is up. Yes, Google is as good as it gets at this. It's different when you pay for Google Apps for Business... you even get to replace Google's logo with your own, all the ads go away and they stop harvesting your interests or reading your email. I do understand your concerns but 4 million businesses can't be wrong? http://www.google.com/apps/intl/en/customers/ including many state and municipal governments. You get a super slick web interface that is always SSL, a five nines 99.999% uptime guarantee, two-factor authentication (no more key stroke loggers stealing your password), 25GB of storage, sub-second search though all of it (enough to hold a life time of email) and countless other features. To me it is worth far more than the $50/year it costs. And you get a lot more than just great email. Google Docs, Google drive, the best integration with smart phones I have ever seen with automatic calendar and contacts sync. Your concerns about "free" Gmail are warranted but when you pay they must respect the terms of the contract :)

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There's another thing that all you studs should consider. Not all of the encounters an SP has in the course of her day are satisfying for her. She has a job to do and most of the ladies here do it well. Not all clients are interested in making sure the lady is well satisfied and I'm sure there are times when the lady is not all that turned on by the client. A BF, significant other or just a FWB is probably what most SPs have to rock their world in the sack....

I think I solved the latest tap-a-talk issue. The push notifications for PM's were locking up causing some people to get MANY copies of the same PM and some people to not be able to send PM's to users (they would get a MySQL error cause it would timeout because of the lock) I THINK (and I stress "THINK") I fixed this so I have turned tap-a-talk back on. If anyone gets multiple PM's or gets an error when sending a PM please let me know.

Are we seriously on this topic again? Ladies and gentlemen, CLEAN YOURSELVES!!! If you have an appointment, whether hobbiest, sp or ma, clean yourselves properly please so we don't have to keep bringing this bloody well up!!!

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Fleshlight! did someone say fleshlight? lol I love them...i actually own one..a client gave it to me...why ? you may ask...because I think there hot...love watching...damn!

I have also read a lot about this tool on a sex therapy/education website that I frequent, http://dodsonandross.com. She recommends this to men regularly for stamina, as mentioned, but also for men who have desensitized their penis over the years with too much porn/masturbation and have trouble reaching orgasm with partner sex. It's a good way to practice and retrain your penis to get pleasure from something other than manual self stimulation. :)

You have a very low and jaundiced view of women my friend. A woman's worth is not measured by how much she can make on her back. She is a human being with hopes, dreams and aspirations and not just a piece of meat to be weighed and judged singularly by her sexuality and her physical attractiveness or lack of same.

My highlight of the day is on its way... I'm having dinner with Tgirl-Kay, her partner, and another close friend of mine. I'm making a chicken roast with root vegetables, gravy galore, rice, cranberry sauce and I made a maple-syrup based sugar pie for dessert. --oh so good-- Jealous? You should be!

Exactly, I think pussy farts are awesome.

This is the most WTF thing I've read for quite a long time...

I've heard great things about the fleshlight, and they can be really fun to use together! I especially like the variety of inserts, like this one, for the sci-fi fans: http://www.fleshlight.com/alien/

Although she is not a spinner it would be hard to top Kayla aka Shedevil especially with her being a vegan if you understand what that means.

If you're interested in an ongoing, contractual or retainer-type relationship, I think you've come to the right place. What you can expect from the arrangement will, frankly, depend on what you can afford to pay. Most of us are doing what we do in order to make a living. Some work part-time because their other line of work doesn't bring in enough income. It's rare to find someone who is really only working to pay for occasional luxuries. Please recognize that sexual monogamy is likely to be very expensive. Asking the woman to give up having an intimate, emotionally-engaged relationship with someone else is a big demand to make on a woman in her 20s. Since you're only wanting something that might last a year or two, presumably because you either don't want a permanent relationship or because you already have one and just want to supplement your needs and interests, the woman you find would still be giving up a disproportionate amount of time and opportunity in her own life. However, this might be acceptable to someone who's in grad school, for example, and determined to focus mostly on her studies or writing her dissertation. If you're imagining that someone who isn't already a paid companion is more likely to be infection-free, please do your homework. The notion that prostitutes who don't work on the streets are a source of disease is not only a blatant stereotype, it's simply false. You are far more likely to contract an infection from a sweet college girl who's only had a couple of boyfriends or from a lovely lady you've met in a bar or on a dating site than you would from one of us. That's because we know that every man, regardless of age, ethnicity or financial profile, whether he's a client or a genuine boyfriend, is a potential source of infection. We take steps to safeguard our health accordingly. In the end, the only person's health care anyone is responsible for is their own. Consider carefully exactly what kind of financial investment you're able to make. Can you, for example, pay for someone's rent? Or are you thinking more along the lines of her university tuition, per term (which would usually be somewhat less than rent)? Are you able to cover all of her living expenses, which would be about two to two and a half times her monthly rent? Or are you simply wanting to be sure that you have first-call on her time for a couple of hours every Tuesday but want to get a discount on her hourly rate? Any of these arrangements could work out well. Just make sure each of you is very clear about what to expect. How do you plan to pay your sugar baby? Cash is king, but you may prefer to arrange for regular electronic bank transfers. Some people provide reloadable credit cards. Arranging for an auto lease is not uncommon. Whatever plan you come up with, how do you expect to safeguard things on your side? Do you have a completely private bank account, for example, with no risk of anyone else knowing about your deposits and withdrawals? What I'm trying to say is: if you have a wife or partner, how will you ensure that she doesn't find out what you're doing? I ask because I'm dedicated to ensuring that women in this industry are safe; I can't encourage you to put someone's security at risk because you overlooked the possibility of being discovered by your intimate partner, employer or secretary. Think about the kind of woman you want to be with. I understand that you're interested in someone who's young and beautiful. That's not a problem. But surely you want someone you can actually enjoy, as a person. Someone with whom you may have interests in common. Someone for whom you can actually care, and who will also develop real affection and regard for you would be ideal because you both need a significant level of trust if this arrangement is going to work out well. However, if you want a situation in which there will be little to no emotional involvement, you may be better off with a roster of companions, seeing one on the first Wednesday of the month, another on the second Wednesday, and so on. Do know that we can become quite fond of monthly regulars, though. I have a couple of those whom I've seen for several years and for whom I care a great deal. Please also consider how long you want the arrangement to last and how either of you will end it. You might enter into something that's intended to last for six months, an academic year or a full calendar year, for example. Or you might want to keep things more open and simply guarantee that you will give at least one or two months' notice before ending your financial commitment so that your companion has a reasonable opportunity to make other arrangements. I hope you will be more relaxed about what you would require of her if or when she decides that the arrangement needs to change or come to an end. I think I can safely say that the great majority of women on this board are interested in quality engagements with kind, respectful and caring men who value us as individuals. The number of paid companions who genuinely want to see 10-15 or more clients per week is miniscule. We all value returning clients and those of us who have a number of ongoing, regular clients consider ourselves to be blessed. Sugar daddy arrangements and Mistress-type relationships can work very well if they're undertaken thoughtfully. I hope you find what you're looking for.