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To me I see my MA life as a expression on myself. I have always been a person much in touch with her sensuality. I enjoy getting to know my wonderful clients and sharing a truly intimate experience with them. I share a little bit of my soul with each and every one of them and love the feeling of truly pleasing someone. I made the conscious choice to become an MA, something I had wanted to experience for awhile before I took the leap into the world of Adult Entertainment. Maybe it was a life calling, or just a deep need to provide pleasure. Either way I am enjoying myself and I feel truly blessed to have found such a warm and welcoming place to share a part of myself. Thank you all! Kisses to you all XoXoXo

Points to you for doing the thankless devil's advocate job! :) As you'll see I disagree, but I don't hold your argument against you. I have to say, though, that I don't think you've at all demonstrated that ethics are relative. Instead, what you've shown is that people will do clearly unethical things for selfish reasons. On the subject of the SP trawling for clients on a dating site, it's clearly unethical; she's engaging with other people under a false premise. Worse, it's messing with at least some people where they're probably the most vulnerable. #1 cardinal rule of life: don't fuck with people's hearts. As an aside: on the subject of weapons, it's a different matter entirely. Weapons are tools, and even lethal weapons can have perfectly ethical uses. Manufacturing a gun is no less ethical than manufacturing a hammer. (This is a different issue from how the distribution of weapons is regulated, something for which I'm a determined advocate.) To elaborate on both cases at once: let's say that a meat factory is functioning up to health code, but sees that a competitor is achieving higher profits by cutting corners and rendering diseased cows along with healthy ones. This puts consumers at terrible risk. If the owner concludes "meh, might as well do it, everyone else is", that doesn't prove that ethics are relative. It proves that the owner is a miserable, greedy son of a bitch, and will do something objectively unethical in the pursuit of a buck. And that's how I would feel about anyone who trawls for paying clients on dating sites. Note: No Nazis had their reputations harmed in the production of this post.

Lee... calm down lad. Just a few pointers. 1. It's still cool here. Ass chaps might be best left in your suitcase until your first date. 2. The lady you propositioned at Tim Hortons is not going to lay charges. She does want you to respect the 50 metre restraining order, and she says you can keep her bra. 3. Parliament still doesn't have strippers. No need to get a front row seat in the gallery - no one is going to get naked. 4. You only need to extend your pinky while drinking tea, any beverage purchased at Starbucks and light beer. 5. Barbarella's said you can come back, but you aren't allowed to get on stage anymore and you have to keep your clothes on. 6. They don't make poutine with poo. That's gravy. 7. The maid that you traumatized at your hotel still doesn't offer a happy ending. She's just there to clean your room. Ohhhh.... and they said that you can't keep livestock anywhere on hotel property. 8. The red skinny jeans that you brought last time??? Yea, just don't pack them; they can be a Manitoba thing. 9. Just because it used to be called Bytown, doesn't mean that all the early settlers were sexually capricious. That's By with a "y", not with an "i". 10. Bring money for bail. Just sayin'.

{QUOTE] There is always online support LOL is how everything is made now days!!! hehehe I know what I am wearing but I am not telling!! LOL Yes Vitto Victoria I tried that..... Every time I google Manitoba country boy coming to Ottawa ..... and ... what to wear ? what to wear ? All I come up with is flippers ??? Go figure...

Oh Geez !!! That is getting close now OD ! What to wear ? What to wear ? I am flying in a day early so I can find a fashion coordinator in the Ottawa area. My first time so not sure how to act and must brush up on my Ottawa Cerb Social etiquette. I will practice holding my Bud Light with my thumb and one of my fingers and sipping on it with my pinky out.....I will make sure no holes in my pants and will practice sitting properly with my legs not so wide open.....and I shall practice the waltz and polka to the tune from Kim Mitchell.... I am a Wild Party !! Should be fun .................................................................

Personally I think its wrong...Either you are looking to benefit your business or your looking for a personal piece. You cant have both, but if you are a companion you don't need to be on a dating site with your SP Photos.

The two publications at this link are part of a 3-year research project by Chris Bruckert at U of Ottawa and Tuulia Law, and a community advisory committee composed of Maggie's, POWER, Stella and Stepping Stone. "Rethinking Management in the Adult and Sex Industry" "Beyond Pimps, Procurers and Parasites: Mapping Third Parties in Incall/Outcall Sex Industry" Both of these are comprehensive, valuable publications, providing excellent summaries of the current laws related to prostitution in Canada as well as great analysis of the management models prostitutes use, including agencies, pimps, secretaries, booking agents, drivers and web designers.

Thought this was well worth sharing! Change Your Thinking It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking.. Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room. ... One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs. His bed was next to the room's only window. The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back. The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.. Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window. The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside. The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every colour and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance. As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene. One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by. Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words. Days, weeks and months passed. One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep. She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone. Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. It faced a blank wall. The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window. The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.' Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations. Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy. 'Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .' The origin of this letter is unknown, but please pass it on. Share it with friends and tag them so the cycle continues ... Do not keep this letter ... You could change a life too ...See More

Lee only had to pay for half his stay last time he was in Ottawa. The other half was either in the hospital burn unit or in jail for lewd behaviour. He tried to explain to the police that he spilled coffee on his lap and that he was humping the female snowman to ease the burn. (in Lee's defence, that snowman did look kinda cute... in an inanimate object kinda way.) back to wardrobe.... orange glasses.... I'll set you up with a pair.

16 days away!!!!!!!!! Woooohoooooooooo!

A $40 tip!!

Whenever I am out and about and I see babies or toddlers that are happy-playful-excited..gets me every time, even when I am in the worst of moods.

I would not. The wonderful thing about this business, for both parties, is the NSA thing. When one of the parties has feelings..especially from the start..things could get complicated and uncomfortable..just not worth it in my opinion.

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Hey....just insert "spend" in front of money and that's me ! I quit corporate, I run my own show now, make very good money and found a most enjoyable way to spend :) I used the word hobby for lack of a better term but it is really not to me. It is also not a "lifestyle" either. It is just a part of my everyday life. It makes me a much happier person, I have developed some very nice connections, friendships spent time with some wonderful ladies and along the lines some great sex !! Cheers to sex everyone !!! :chug: It's pretty cool when both the guys and gals "look forward" to seeing each other. I think.

If you met him outside of this and now he wants to pay for your time, if I were in your situation, I would say no and sever ties. Not worth the hassle esp since there are so many great clients out there who don't want anything more.

Many ladies like to actually talk to a new client before meeting them, even if it's just a short call to get the final directions to her incall or something like that. Not all, but a lot do. One other thing to think about with cellphones: if you don't have a separate phone for your CERB-related activities, be VERY careful about what numbers and email addresses you put in it, even temporarily. Many apps now (Google, FB, others) are hugely aggressive about pillaging all the data they can from your phone and linking it up with other stuff; your email address-book will end up in your phone contacts, and then Facebook will take it and recommend friends for you... Any data that you put into your phone can very rapidly end up all over the place and possibly visible to other people, depending on how tight your security settings in various places are, and this can happen with no interaction from you. Caveat fornicator...

When people I care about say something sweet and unexpected. Rainbows on my walls from my crystals Hugs and unlimited love from a child Logging into CERB and seeing some of the posts that are made Taking time to snuggle under the covers before sleep and be thankful for my day....and also think some naughty thoughts to have good dreams!

making people smile and laugh because when they happy i'm happy:icon_smile:

I have to say, being a BBW myself, that your approach in this post may be taken more negatively than you intended. It's wonderful that you are either searching for us confident sexy providers or trying to bring attention to us however using the term heaviest adds labels that aren't in keeping with the sexy women we truly are. Just my opinion, others may disagree. Good luck in any case.

Completely unethical. You go on sites like CERB to seek out professional companions. Likewise, you would go on a dating site to seek dates. To me a SP marketing herself on a dating site is practicing bait and switch advertising. And there is no reason for an SP to advertise on a dating site. Seeing escorts is legal, and escort recommendation boards like CERB are legal. So why a SP would advertise on a dating site where the guys are looking for dates, not escorts, escapes me RG

I have to agree 100% with Emily in this one...

The first sip of Coffee in the morning A warm Sunshiny day Making someone else smile The small pleasures of Life make me Smile all the time!!

A simple but kind, thoughtful and unexpected gesture :) And of course, spending time with my friends, family and pets!

To me, it is everything. It has been a calling for many years although I never listened to it with my heart until recently. I love to give pleasure and to add something to those who see me. For those who truly enjoy what they do, it is an art form. There are so many ways to approach pleasure, seduction, sex and the tease and each one of us adds our own personality to the mix which makes it truly unique and personal. Not only that but to personalize it for the wonderful person we are spending our time with. This is far from a hobby even though the term hobbyist is used. There are friendships and relationships created within the confines of the lifestyle and those are just as vibrant and necessary as any other relationship. Sure, there are those who want a little thrill or enjoyment every now and then but I'm sure they appreciate what they are given. It's wonderful that so many on both sides of the lifestyle have embraced it and made it into the wonderful thing it is today even if old stigmas are still attached. Thankfully we have many wonderful activists, big and small, doing their part to adjust the perception directed at the lifestyle.

Well to me, seeing professional companions is not a hobby. How can intimate interpersonal relations be categorized as a hobby? Stamp collecting is a hobby. This is a lifestyle. And for me this lifestyle of seeing professional companions has taken the place of conventional dating. The ladies who are professional companions are very special. Giving of themselves, as has been said in other threads, body, mind and soul. Even on first meeting, treated like a boyfriend. Yes it is a art form, one only a very special lady can do. It is also a lifestyle I am glad I discovered. It filled a void when I gave up dating. The truth about this lifestyle is far different from the stereotype. It isn't about anonymous sexual encounters. It is a mutually beneficial lifestyle with no strings, no complications, with respect for one another. And seeing professional companions is every bit as fulfilling, to me that is, as was dating A rambling RG

A note from a friend, a post on my page, an exchange of pm's with someone new, or reconnecting with someone I haven't heard from in a while. It's all about friendship.

If you were not her customer you may want to just skip this and move on to next thread. If this upsets or offends anyone I apologize. Out of respect I am asking you keep any comments of poor taste to yourself and simply ignore this post if it bothers you in any way. If the mods decide this isn't appropriate I understand and apologize. Ok, lots of guys have been asking about Jen and out of the blue she called me the other day. She is doing well and thanks everyone for asking. She asked me to pass on a message and to be honest I am not real comfortable doing this or even sure it's appropriate but as a good friend of hers, here goes ..... Some of you know that she suffered a tragedy a while back, shortly after she left work in Ottawa. She lost her youngest son and BF in a car accident due to a drunk driver. They were on the way to see Jen who was in the hospital, her older kids were hurt pretty badly but recovered nicely since. There is WAY more to this story than meets the eye and this is where I struggle to know how much or what to say. I had seen Jen a few times after the accident as a friend to support her and we talked a lot as she knew I had lost a son as well. But 5 months later I started a project for work that involves travel. Upon return her phone numbers no longer worked and I decided she wanted to be left alone so I did not pursue contacting her in any way. I'll just mention that her son predicted his own and his father's death (this was confirmed to me by Jen's daughter) and in a strange twist of fate contributed to the accident which took their life. All of these unusual events have caused Jen to find religion. She quit massage and is doing hair only in BC. This all sounds unusual I am sure but keep in mind I am relaying this for Jen. Before his death her son told Jen that he was going to go to heaven soon but warned Jen that she was going to hell with her customers. This is what has Jen concerned and why she has changed her life but feels VERY strongly that her former customers need to be warned of this. She feels she can't truly be at ease until this is said so here I am feeling very conflicted writing this. She misses her customers who were also friends and wants them to know. She also extends an invitation to call her if you like, I will pass on her phone number via PM if you can convince me you were a friend of hers who will not call to upset her. Keep in mind she lives on the west coast and this is long distance, so it will cost you to call her. And don't expect a quick call if you want her to elaborate :) Those of you who know me will know this is no hoax and I do not endorse or condone the sentiments or beliefs expressed by Jen. This is her request and as a good friend of hers I am putting myself out on a limb to help her, much as I have done through the years.

Hey, cum see this tall blonde, blue eyes...& oh so much fun ;) in the east Untill 9 pm tonight..Don't miss your chance 613-523-6199 or pm me xo

Congratulations to a person very positive person!

Courtney and Emily are two of the best the city has to offer!!!!

Congratulations, Tracie :)

Way to go pretty lady!

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For the event that SweetSami and I are hosting in May, we are requesting mature gents over 30 and no restriction on your size.

Tuesday Katrine 10-4 aka "Katrine Cannon" Tiffany 10-7 aka "TiffanyXXXOOO" Kennidi 10-4 aka "Kennidikummings" Hannah 3:30-11 aka "Hannahxo" Jenna 5-11 aka "Jenna69" Kelly 6:30-11 aka "Kelly2010" www.angelstouchmassage.ca WEBSITE with PICS & Schedule :smile: 3 rooms, 3 sexy ladies on per shift! Private Dance shows available upon request! Click here to see NEW pics of room: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=3340 New Sexy Pics of our Hotties http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=52117 Full Body Relaxation Massage Single Massage: --------30 minutes $50. --------45 minutes $60. --------60 minutes $80. Couples Massage: 1 Attendant --------30 minute $60. --------45 minute $70. --------60 minute $90. Duo/Couples Massage:2 Attendants --------30 minute regular $100. on special for $80. --------45 minute regular $120. on special for $100. --------60 minute regular $160. on special for $130. ------HST included in prices. Longer Sessions available and @ Discretion of MA ------ Tips Accepted------ ATM on site------Spacious Rooms with Private Showers------ NEW LOCATION: 65 Bentley 613-274-7073 Katrine Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=K&t=23997 Kennidi Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...?ltr=K&t=62190 Hannah Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=125137 Tiffany Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=111731

Tuesday Taylor 9-9 aka "Taylor_xo" Salina 9-9 NEW Summer 9-4 aka "SUMMER LOVE" Mandy 9-4 aka "Candy Mandy" Talia 3:30-9 NEW aka "Talia" Cherry 4-9 NEW NEW MA gems Cherry & Zoey not too be missed!!! Cherry http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=7045 Sierra http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=7054 New Sexy Pics http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=22187 Come for a 4 hand massage in our getaway room....an experience you will never forget Ottawa's Best Room! ------HST included in ALL PRICES------ Regular Room spacious and in room shower Single Massage: --------30 minutes $55. --------45 minutes on special for $65. --------60 minutes $80. --------90 minutes $120. Session time @ Discretion of MA :wink: Duo Massage: --------30 minute on special for $80. --------45 minute on special for $100. --------60 minute on special for $130. Getaway Room Fee: Room Features a hot tub,6 ft custom shower and fireplace for your enjoyment Single Massage: --------30 minutes $70. --------45 minutes $85. --------60 minutes $100. --------90 minutes $150. Session time @ Discretion of MA :wink: Duo Massage/Couples Massage: --------2 Attendant --------30 minute $100. --------45 minute $120. --------60 minute $150. Couples Massage: ------1 Attendant --------30 minute $70. --------45 minute $85. --------60 minute $100. ------HST included-------- Longer Session times available and at the Discretion of MA :wink: Mandy Recommendation http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=120757 Summers Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=S&t=45598 Talia Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=T&t=127882

:icon_smile: Someone smiling at me really works for.

We launched our new website last night... many tweeks to work out so feedback greatly appreciated. http://www.clubcmj.com http://www.clubmadellynjae.com Tuesday April 23rd Mandy 9-2 Kelly 10-5 Holly 12-7 Molly 1-7 Destiny 5-10 Lilith 4-10 Wednesday April 24th Geri 10-4 Chloe 10-4 Amy 10-10 Mandy 11-10 Justine 11-7 Cassie 4-10 Thursday April 25th Kelly 10-5 Rosslyn 10-4 Destiny 11-7 Justine 11-7 Mandy 4-10 Chloe 4-10 Alexxis 5-10 Friday April 26th Mandy 9-2 Kelly 10-5 Jessie 10-4 Destiny 11-7 Justine 11-7 Alexxis 4-10 Cassie 4-10 Saturday April 27th Destiny 10-4 Molly 10-4 Justine 11-7 Rosslyn 4-10 Jessie 4-10 Sunday April 28th Lilith 10-4 Cassie 10-10 Lola 11-7 (retiring April 29th) Molly 4-10

Mere words can can be replicated but a sensual experience with me is one of a kind. Come see me today at CMJ west from 10-5 and I'll show you pleasure beyond anything you have imagined. The mix of a charming personality with a beautiful face and body will have you relaxed in moments. I am a pleaser at heart and nothing would make me happier than to make you feel good today. Call 613-523-6199 or PM Kelly Xoxoxo

As many know May is one of my ATF and I've seen her many times. I won't go into details but she is a fun loving sexy babe who really turns my crank. She will be here until saturday night and has lots of fans so wanted to be sure everyone was aware she is here with ALLD in the west end.

Where or how someone advertises is really up to them, wether or not I think it is ethical is pointless as it's not going to stop them . Many will question the ethics in hobbing and providing, that won't stop me. To each their own. I would say if somone is trying to snag clients there and you get that sense while you or someone else is searching ads ask upfront then you'll know and be able to choose to go forward or to cease communication.

So this is my virgin post here as I am normally on Terb but felt compelled to share a brief update here. I had the good fortune to meet who I think is Ottawa's best, Claire Heavens. I managed to see this beauty first on Friday nite for a 1 hour session of pure bliss. She is one of the most beautiful women I have ever met. Facially to me she is just gorgeous, her body is petite and sexy as all hell. Talking to her was like talking to a life long friend that just happens to be a sensuous bombshell. As soon as I experienced her the first time I knew I had to maximize my trip to Ottawa and book again on saturday. She is one reason why I would quit my job and relocate to Ottawa! What a gem. There are plenty of reviews of Claire here so no need for play by play. She makes up for all of Ottawa's flaws (like the senators). Thank you Claire. C u soon. The FB, xoxo

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/clay-nikiforuk/sexism-at-us-border_b_3112638.html What do you do when you're detained by powerful officials, everything you say is presumed deceptive, arbitrary "evidence" is held against you, and you're treated like a moral deviant? And what if its 2013, you're a woman, and the "evidence" is that you possess condoms? It happened three times in two weeks -- being detained by U.S. border officials on my way to or through the States. First I was held by Vermont border guards for two hours in the middle of the night on my way to visit Nashville. They searched my bags at least five times. I could not help but notice how often my lingerie and "sexy underwear" were mentioned, how often the condoms they found were looked upon scathingly, and how most of the four male officers' questions pertained to both. I was baffled as to why this was any of their business and unsure of what their objective was, other than fondling lady's undergarments. In the end, having nothing to go on, they gave me a limited stay visa of two weeks and let me go -- at 3 a.m. in the middle of nowhere. I missed my bus and my plane, had to pay for a $90 taxi to the nearest airport and then book a new flight the next morning. The next time it happened was two weeks later in Montreal's airport. After scanning my passport, without being asked a single question, I was immediately led to a back waiting room. When I was summoned into an office, the officer cut to the chase: "How much is he paying you to go on this trip?" He was referring to the man I was travelling with. Confused, I just stared back at him for a few beats. "N-nothing?" The next question was whether this man was married or not. The answer, unfortunately for me, was yes. He asked whether I was planning on sharing a hotel bed with this man. I'm not one to sugar coat things and decided that now would not be a particularly good time to be found lying. Again, I answered yes. Righteous, the officer demanded what exactly I was doing in a bed with a married man. "That's actually none of your business." I had kicked the hornet's nest. Inflamed, he raised his voice at me that it was his business and that adultery was a crime in America -- a crime that he could deny me entry for. He made me tell him my partner's name and date of birth and threatened to detain him, too. I pointed out that we would be in Miami for a total of 40 minutes to catch our next flight to Aruba; hardly enough time to run to our gate, let alone commit adultery. The next thing I knew he was searching my bags, pulling out condoms and waving them in my face. "I could have you charged with being a working girl! The proof is right here!" All I could do is shake my head. This can't be real. "This is absurd," I murmured. But he was on a roll. "You want me to call his wife? I'll tell her!" I raised an eyebrow at him. "She knows." He stormed off again, leaving me shaking. When he finally emerged from an office, he held my passport and tickets in hand. He told me he was letting me go "this time" because I had told the truth. But that I was an educated woman and should change my life to reflect that. I blinked at him. "What?" He looked at me meaningfully and repeated himself. I nodded, eyes downcast as if I was taking his moralizing into serious consideration, and took my documents. I was afraid that he would change his mind otherwise. Later, after a very short Internet search, I found that adultery isn't illegal in Florida, and even if I had been paid for the trip, mixing sexual and non-sexual activities constitutes a relationship and therefore makes any money exchanged a very legal gift under the law. Travelling together to Aruba to get away from cold Montreal, I would think, signals a non-sexual activity. A few days in the sun later, it was time to face the same routine but in the Aruban airport. Again, I would be spending all of an hour in Miami's international airport and then carrying on to my home in Montreal. This time I had left the condoms behind. But it was too late -- there was a detailed profile of me, in which my nefarious condom-carrying behaviour was noted. Again, I was told to sit and wait for further questioning. I watched as my entire flight's passengers whizzed through customs in front of me. I was shaking. By the time someone got around to questioning me, I was told my flight was leaving. I was detained, yelled at, patted down, fingerprinted, interrogated, searched, moved from room to room and person to person without food, water or being told what was going on for what seemed like forever. Just as I thought they were tiring of me and going to refuse me entry but at least let me back into Aruba, a 'Bad Cop' type took me to a distant, isolated office and yelled at me that I was full of shit. He had found information online that in the last couple of years I had been modelling and acting. This, he concluded, was special code for sex work, and I was never going to enter the U.S.A. ever again. I tried not to laugh and cry at the same time. I told him I'm currently writing a book on the sociology of sexual assault. "Are you looking to be sexually assaulted?" I blinked at him. I couldn't breathe. "Was that meant to be funny?" "No, it wasn't." "Ah, no. I'm definitely not." "Well, it sure seems like you are." "...How so?" He wouldn't elaborate. I was with the U.S. officials for six hours. After two more hours put through the wringer with Aruban immigration, I was finally let go back into Aruba. I was told that if I even so much as approached the U.S. border again without a waiver I would be banned from the country for five years. My partner and I, both shaken, had to book a new flight to Canada that didn't pass through the U.S. (approximately $900) and a hotel for an extra two days until that flight. For me, carrying my own condoms (in purses, wallets, camera bags; everywhere) is a routine act towards safer sex. For someone else with the power to not only deny passage but judge, moralize and intimidate, it has become enough evidence to put a woman through hell. My story has brought a number of women out of the woodwork stating that they have had similar experiences. Whether border guards are copying police in New York and their condoms-as-evidence-of-prostitution model, or are simply so stuck in their gender stereotyping that a woman with condoms can't be a good person ("We've been told that there's nothing good about you," said one Aruban official), I'm also not sure. I do know I won't be travelling for some time, until my name is cleared. Or until the puritanical, power-tripping, slut-shaming witch hunt is over. I won't hold my breath for either.

Thanks for that post!!! I would have to say, the best part of being in this service is when you encounter an individual that is feel blue, or suffering from low esteem, weather is it cause from body image or from years of spousal abuse( yes men get abused as well!) then they leave feeling good about themselves! Chin up and feeling like a strong man! This is when I feel most satisfied in my career, and it helps to re-iterate my feelings that this is a form of touch therapy is something that us humans need! Thanks for opening this discussion, as I feel that the men in our socity are overlooked in the issues of self esteam, eating disorders, and abuse:(

I know this one!!!! A vagina. Top that!!!!

Having my pup finally be comfortable enough to go in her crate on her own and have a nap!

There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship while you are working in this business. There are more ladies who are dating someone or married in this business than people realize. Like anything else what happens at work, stays at work and outside of the closed door you live your life as everyone else does. Having a partner who supports you and who understands you will only benefit you and your business in the long run. We have to fib as it is 90% of the time with our double life, so having someone who gets it makes it that much easier to feel normal at times. Most of the men we spend time with are married or have a girlfriend, so why shouldn't we have the same personal pleasure?

That's the sort of reply I sometimes give callers, lol. Basically, it isn't up to them to decide what they want to pay, it is up to them to decide if they are willing to pay my rates (or any other sp they contact). It isn't part of my job to listen to their complaints about the rate, and can I do whatever for less. I have a variety of options, non-fs is different than fs, there is a hh, a 45 and an hour. If you can't afford the hour, well it isn't my job to provide the hour for the hh rate for that reason alone. Or because you can go see someone else for that. Go ahead, but remember you called me for a reason. It also isn't my fault that you might have to drive for half an hour to come and see me and need to know if I'm "worth it". Ask the guys who take a ferry to come see me, or drive for 1.5 hours that question, yet they don't expect a discount for their trouble. They simply choose the option that works for their budget, out of the 6 or 7 different rate, service and time combinations that are being offered. The rate negotiator fails to understand that we are not competing with other sps for his $, he is competing with other clients and potential clients for our time. And he is falling short. Why spend time with someone who wants to get a discount, when you can remain free to see someone who will pay the rate you charge.