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I am going to be diplomatic as possible but as a provider I can't help notice that these are private details you are writing about clients who have come to see you. Do you have their permission to post these details? For female SPs, it is frowned upon to divulge such details so I have to ask what your intent is? It is nice to see that you enjoy your job as I enjoy my job as well but if I were a lady of this site and wanted a massage, I would have to worry if discretion and trust could be held to the highest degree as I value my privacy in the role of being a customer. This would make me rethink things. It's all fine and dandy to write sexy tales regarding your job and others reaping the rewards by reading it but at the same rate, these things are what customers expect you to be discrete about and they are reading these things. As there are many ladies who are your target market here, this could be leaving a bad taste in their mouth. Privacy is paramount in these cases and as an SP, I honor it to all my clients. I don't say this out of disrespect Il Re, just as one provider to another considering we both advertise on the same site. Despite the gender difference, as providers we should both be held accountable to the same standards. I don't think clients would be too happy if I were writing about my trysts with them even just once. However, as a male it seems as though this is viewed in a positive light. Double standard perhaps? Just some food for thought.

I'm not trying to be a wet blanket here. I realize that it was a great experience and sharing it gives snippets of insight into your work but I am curious to know if you have your clients permission when you post these accounts on an escort site? This business is based on discretion and when someone hires you, I'm sure they assume you are going to be discreet about the encounter. As a woman who uses a personal male MA, I would be appalled to find our shared time together out there on the internet even if there were no details shared that could identify me personally. Clients review providers, not the other way around. Just thought I'd mention this as I'm part of the fetish community and I don't personally know a lifestyle Domme that would be thrilled with this as the motto is Safe, Sane and CONSENSUAL... cat

One thing which people don't realize is that stress and worry are states of mind which can become habits. Human beings have great brains geared toward learning and occasionally this backfires. Because we learn every moment of every day. Education does not have to occur in structured format's nor does it have to use language. Advertisers know this and as a result modern people tend to be a little over efficient in picking up "knowledge" which quickly becomes a habit. I have found meditation is an excellent habit to develop in order to counteract worry and stress. There is a cornucopia of resources and styles to choose from, however at their core is the discipline of stepping back from the situation or anxiety so it may be looked at dispassionately. This is not mindless disconnection or blind ignorance. Rather a deliberate shift in one's mental state so that you can become aware of the issues maintaining the anxiety from moment to moment. One of the key insights is that this does not have to be complicated or a long process. Indeed, if you have stopped to read this thread, you are already momentarily looking at the issues from another angle. Sometimes that's all it takes. Break the pattern.-Stop, Look and Listen to yourself. PatrickGC

I wanted to take a few moments to thank not only the gentlemen but the entire Cerb community for one of the best changes I've seen since my return to the hobby ( had been gone since 2008 )... During the pre-chatroom era ( circa 2005-2008 ) I was often chastised for being an SP who wasn't a size 0. I'm a size 12. You know who else was a size 12? Marilyn. I don't need to write out her last name, you know damn well who I am talking about. Over the last few months, I can see that the diversity of cerbites has increased greatly, which shows in cases like preferable women's sizes no longer being a biased, one-sided affair. Even if women my size are not your cup of tea, the respect shown concerning "to each their own" is staggeringly exceeding my expectations. Thank you cerbites for believing in "all women are beautiful in their own way" !!! An especially BIG thanks to the mods also, as this chastisement was allowed to take place on "the other board" which is the main reason for my switch to this one only :) I love your no tolerance for BS! ________________________________________________ FOOD FOR THOUGHT: 1. Marilyn Monroe's body measurements: Height: 5'5 Weight: 118-140 lbs Bust: 35-37 inches Waist: 22-23 inches Hips: 35-36 inches Bra size: 36D 2. Dove's "REAL BEAUTY" campaign: http://www.dove.ca/en/Social-Mission/About-the-Movement.aspx 3. Definition beau·ti·ful adj. a) Having qualities that delight the senses, especially the sense of sight. b) Excellent; wonderful. beauti·ful·ly adv. beauti·ful·ness n. Synonyms: beautiful, lovely, pretty, handsome, comely, fair All these adjectives apply to what excites aesthetic admiration. Beautiful is most comprehensive: a beautiful child; a beautiful painting; a beautiful mathematical proof. Lovely applies to what inspires emotion rather than intellectual appreciation: "They were lovely, your eyes" (George Seferis). What is pretty is beautiful in a delicate or graceful way: a pretty face; a pretty song; a pretty room. Handsome stresses poise and dignity of form and proportion: a very large, handsome paneled library. "She is very pretty, but not so extraordinarily handsome" (William Makepeace Thackeray). Comely suggests wholesome physical attractiveness: "Mrs. Hurd is a large woman with a big, comely, simple face" (Ernest Hemingway). Fair emphasizes freshness or purity: "In the highlands, in the country places,/Where the old plain men have rosy faces,/And the young fair maidens/Quiet eyes" (Robert Louis Stevenson). 4. Most importantly: BEAUTY LIES WITHIN THEY EYE OF THE BEHOLDER

When it's available, I drink an unconscionable amount of egg nog. I know it's a hit or miss drink for most people, but every year when I see it back in the stores for the first time I do a happy little gig right in the isle.

I used to be a worry wart and used to get bad anxiety as a result of what I couldn't control but I've been through a lot of situations in my life where I've come out on top. Now, if I'm worried about something, I deal with the situation to the best of my ability and let the chips fall where they may. I no longer sweat the small stuff. Life is too short and there are always options and support available to whatever the problem is. Situations or problems only control you if you let them. You are the one who is really in control and you can let it make you or break you.. Sounds cliché but true.

Lots of orgasms. And yoga

I am a person that notices every detail on anyone, unfortunately, as it almost makes me obsessive. Any little thing out of place, weather it be a hair, thread, or a crooked picture, and it'll drive me nuts. But what will make me go yummy on a guy are character traits more than physical attributes, such as, sincerity, confidence, someone who can take control, and definitely kindness:) For physical attributes, well if I'm to be honest, a big cock is always nice:)

Meaghan's idiot neighbor really make me wonder about the male side of our species. What kind of selfish, top-down power based, world is this guy living in? My opinion on its is very prejudiced, but in various ways I have seen men doing incredibly judgmental 18th-century things when it comes to the stereotypes held by society and in this case that refers to sex workers. Indeed this is not limited to the mainstream. I have dealt with disabled men who have acted with equal disrespect to sex workers. Being disabled you'd think they would know better, but no, the same old attitudes emerge. In this case the disabled client had arranged a date with a worker which was very involved. A fantasy date requiring a costume and a fair bit of preparation. Because I'm fairly vocal in the disabled community the client had approached me earlier to arrange something and that's how I was involved. Anyway after the sex worker had spent a fair bit of money and is the appointed date approached the client got cold feet. But rather than articulating that, he just would not answer his phone when she tried to confirm things. This man had been disabled from birth with the same condition I have, Cerebral Palsy and he was sufficiently articulate and involved with disabled rights movements to the point where he understood about double standards and prejudice. When I finally spoke to him briefly on the phone he stated that he was no longer interested in pursuing the date. I asked him politely to call the worker back and tell her this if only to be courteous. This is not what he did, rather he enlisted a health-care attendant to call the worker back and threatened legal action. WTF!!! I was aghast and enraged. Still am to some point even though it's been many years since this happened. There was absolutely nothing her or I could do, even though the health-care attendant had broken every rule in the book regarding professional behavior etc. There are times when I really wonder about how to uproot these bizarre behaviors. Although I have seen this occur on both sides of the sexes, this really does seem to be to be more openly prevalent with the male side of our species. Yet in closing I have also seen people come together to achieve great goals. But where in our culture are these bizarre standards rooted and how do we fix them? There is simply no excuse for the idiot neighbor or client anymore. PatrickGC

A man who smells delicious. And is funny. Drool worthy. P.s. Wash your hands after peeing...... Yes i can tell if you did or not! :-)

Hi I thought I would start this thread on how you handle the common problem of Worrying and Stress in your live's. I'll start with one method that I have learnt. Most people worry about something that probably may never happen. Imagine the worst that can happen in your situation. Now can you accept the consequences of what would happen if this event should pass. If so, you do not have to worry any more, as you already you know that you could live with the worst that could happen. And the odd's of the worst that could happen, will not happen. So you now longer have to worry any more. I'm not sure if I explained that correctly. I hope you understand what I am trying get across. If that doesn't work. Have Sex, it'll take your mind off your worries for a while. :) Any other hints or tricks that you use to handle stress?

Very simple answer, I will simply add "NO GLASSES TO BE WORN" like my other non negotiable rule... NO SOCKS ONCE NAKED! cat

As some who has had several anxiety attacks do to severe stress/worries I've learned a few simple things that helped me. Talk about it with someone. If you get to flustered with to many thought due to worrying trying writing it down. Make a list of different outcomes pro/con Try and take a break and get your mind thinking about something else. By doing something you really enjoy. Exercise is really good keeps the body from getting to tense and also send endorphin to the brain which help relieve stress. Go to bed start fresh the next day. Stop and get in touch of your body what are you feeling. Are you breathing regularly? Take deep breaths. These are some technique I've used and it help me.

Actually douche bag and sex offender Remember, any unwanted sexual contact is a sexual assault. Seeing a professional companion doesn't give a guy carte blanche approval to do any sexual activity he wants, the lady's boundaries must be respected RG

There are many reasons to do this and as long as the reasons are good for you and important to you, then they are good reasons and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. As was already said, attraction and beauty aren't just skin deep. Attitude, manners, sense of humor, enjoyment, openness, hygiene, a positive attitude etc. all play into making someone attractive to others. Don't sell yourself short based on what you think you see in the mirror. Most of us have a skewed perception of ourselves anyway. Most SP's will welcome you with open arms and treat you wonderfully as long as you follow their personal guidelines and the common ones of being respectful, clean and friendly. Nerves will be present but don't let that stop you from jumping on board and experiencing something wonderful. Browse ads and profiles and find someone who appeals to you then begin a conversation. Follow your intuition and enjoy!

Ashamed? No, I know what I do and don't feel that. I am recently open to some that live around me, not my family though However, a neighbor I think has figured out who I am online. Asking stupid questions like "you are 5'4" right"? Not a question someone would normally ask a friend. So, I'm thinking, great now I have an idiot who thinks he knows something about me. I've managed to deflect his questions as someone who is rambling while drunk. He pisses me off. When I am home, I am not Meaghan. I am me. I dress differently, act differently - I am me. I don't want people thinking they can spend time with my working self for free. I never see friends or aquantainces in this business. If they call me, I will tell them so. I would rather keep the friendship. However, if the friendship starts to intrude into my working self, I will sever the relationship. I still won't see them because they disrespected my boundaries. I am very blunt to those that overstep the boundaries. To the point of telling them I will deck them if they continue. This neighbor has not taken it a step further. However, if he has not figured it out yet, he will soon. He has shown me disrespect by asking the type of questions he has asked. His opinion of me does not matter to me. However, my guard is up on him. Ashamed? No, I am proud to be able to provide this service. Proud of the quality of the encounters I provide. Not everyone can do this. There are those that think they can, and quickly figure out they cannot. xoxo

When you are grocery shopping, at the gas station, in your kitchen... ALL of us have guilty pleasures. What are yours? For me.... 1. CANDY! All kinds. Licorice, gummy bears, fuzzy peaches, skittles, you name it, I love it. 2. Chocolate :) I can't get enough! I'm a huge fan of fine chocolates, but I am also a sucker for things like Snickers, Kit Kat and Reece's Peanut butter cups! 3. Caption Cruch cereal (what's with the c's? I'm sensing a theme here lol). Captain Crunch cereal is so damn nasty, but I love it. Definite guilty pleasure :) So... What are yours?? :) (I have more I will share as we go lol) Xoxo, Savannah

I know i'm one day ahead but i want to be sure she sees this thread before I leave for NY... To a very special lady! You are an amazing, warm hearted and generous friend! I'm so greatful our path crossed as you share your wealth of experience with me! You deserve the best for this special day...spoil yourself and let yourself be spoiled!!!xxxx Have the most wonderful birthday! :D Kisses Bianca xoxox

Your smile (or lack thereof!). A smile when you arrive always sets me at ease.

Confidence plays a big role when it comes to this sort of things. Whether you decide to go for a service like this, or just in general dating. To be honest, it was a factor with me. I didn't specifically go for finding a hot girl to be with, I went in to this because it was the most pressure free way to just have some fun. No stress about worrying if I'm good enough, doing the right thing. What eventually happened is that I've enjoyed each experience more than the previous one, I'm more confident, able to take charge, and most importantly, stop being so hard and critical of myself. If you do go through with it, be the kindest version of you possible. Be a gentleman. Just because money is exchanging hands does not lower the value of what you want the experience to be. As for the legal stuff, I was terrified in the beginning, so I can somewhat relate. But you're in a safe place here, and like you said, read, there is a lot on this forum.

That's where you come in. You have to understand the difference between a professional encounter and an encounter with someone with whom you have built a bond. It's easy to develop an emotional attachment to people with whom you have exposed yourself physically. It's absolutely okay to like them, hell, even love them BUT you have to go in with the proviso that this is a professional situation. If needs be, think of it this way. When you go into a tremendously frightening movie, you give yourself the affirmation "this is only a movie, it's not real." It's mental trickery, but it works. An encounter is much the same thing. You enjoy the benefits of a physical relationship with someone you enjoy, but at the end of the session you part as a customer and she as a provider. It was a transaction. Hope this helps!

Ohhhhh... there are a few.... PC Chocolate and Peanut Butter Chunk Ice cream PC Pumpkin Pie Ice Cream (with pieces of crust!!!) Egg Nog - whoever invented that stuff needs to be sainted, knighted, and have statues erected Samosas - oh good lord... yummy pockets of spiced heaven Count Chocula Reeses Peanut Butter Cups Semi Sweet Dark Chocolate - yup. I am the one responsible for you not having them for holiday baking when you go looking - I'll eat those little buggers right out the Baker's package... Pringles... bring em on.....

For me I like ALL of my senses to be engaged!! The look of a well dressed man... Shirt and tie, Suit, or even a nice shirt with Jeans... as long as it is well fitting! A Big Smile and sparkling eyes... Hell YES!! And please smell good!! Fresh from a shower with antiperspirant. Clean hands and nails ( but I think that has been talked about... lol) Personality goes A LONG WAY with me!! I love sweet men.... men that know to treat a lady like a lady! Respect is also a biggie with me!! Also, FRESH BREATH!! I do not smoke and do not wish to kiss an ashtray... there is mouthwash in my room.... feel free to help yourself! Also I leave a package of mints in the room.... if you feel like you may need a bit of help in the breath department help yourself! :) Ok, enough with my long rant... hehe Kisses xox

I am a junk food worshipper, but I don't feel guilty about it:) My indulgences usually include all types of candy, cakes, fried and greasy foods, I'm surprised I don't get sick, this morning I had 3 ohenry bars and a peanutbutter and banana sandwhich:) sugar is my friend and enemy.

To be brutally honest, I am so over looks. In my books, you can be an unattractive man BUT if you show up clean and smelling nice...That is what I notice right away and I am now really turned on and ready to go!!!!!!!! And yes, hand grooming is very important too since I love the touch of a mans hands all over my body, when they are clean.

I'm a sucker for a smiley guy... and dimples are a huge bonus! A good sense of humor is the icing on the cake esp if it's flirty.:lovers:

My first visit with a provider was much like that described by empty83. I was quite nervous. My wife, a very wonderful, and beautiful person, was suffering in the throes of menopause at the time, and not very available. I didn't want to have an affair because I love her very much, and sex with her, when she is available, is great. However, I was in need, and turned to a provider. It was, without a doubt, one of the best sexual and intimate experiences I have ever had. She was the perfect therapist for the condition I was suffering at the time, and I wasn't ashamed at all, just thankful.

Peanut Butter! I just love it! I can (and often do) eat it with a spoon right out of the jar! Add some of my mom's home made jam (strawberry) or jelly (grape) and put it between two pieces of white bread and its like I'm 6 years old all over again!

Halifax is recently being bombarded with an abundance of hot service providers from abroad. I, however, am far from complaining. My wallet is though :s ..... Halifax seems to finally be getting on the map. If there's a client base they will come. And Come they are. Roksi, Destiny (bday language) and Jenifer, Amanda (Mgf). It would be great if Garden of Eden would send Logan, Athena, or Brook. And thank you cerb for allowing us all to communicate in a safe and discrete manner. It will be great when we can get a Halifax based agency that compares to Garden of Eden, Mgf and Body language.

One of the golden rules of navigation: if you don't care where you are, you ain't lost :)

So I saw this ad today on BP (yes I know...haha) that made me curious and decided to make contact. I asked for some general info and rate for an hour and the lady replied. Everything sounded good and even rate sounded ok, however it was high (actually higher than I ever paid). I replied to her ok sounds good but since rate is higher than accustomed to, can I ask if you have any more info or rec's/reviews posted online. She replied that this is the going rate in the city she is from so I replied rate is not a problem, but before I paid it, I would like to know if there are any reviews/info I could read first. I assume now she took offence to this and replied..."OK I guess you don't need to see me then" I replied back that I am not trying to offend her and in no way negotiating price, but just wondered if there was any more info. My question is.......Was I wrong to ask this of an SP? I am a cautious guy and don't like to use the above site solely. I do my research when the info is available, as most do I expect. I don't feel I am in the wrong here for asking if there was more info. Actually, I would think that a reputable SP would be more than willing to provide links if such info exists. Needless to say....I did not book!

Masturbate and eat cheezies......which explains the orange penis......at least I hope it does...........

I've turned someone down when they've mentioned reviews before. Mainly because a review reader might be a review writer and I didn't have any interest in meeting up with one of those. I have found that reviewers aren't big on repeating, and I don't really want to spend my time with someone unless there is a chance of repetition at some point. I think that if she had a website and if she had reviews she would have included links to those or copies of those on her site. If not, then it might be she doesn't want them and doesn't need them and doesn't want to see anyone from review sites? You have to keep in mind that review sites are not like cerb. And many many sps have been badly burned by the fake trash and bash reviewers, and they are likely to have a knee jerk negative reaction when someone even says the word 'review'. She might be DNR due to harrassment or other reasons as well. What you could have done is just google searched her name and number and see what came up that way if there were no links on her site, rather than ask about it.

I try hard to always be positive but when something happens that does get me stressed or feeling worried I get relieve by eating, eating junk food usually, the more the better. Food is good for a lot of things, lol.

I know just what you mean. Though I have to admit in some situations if I imagine the worst possible scenario I don't actually find it comforting, or have trouble thinking how I'd accept it! But yes, for most situations your strategy works. For myself, I find reading is my refuge. I always have a book on my bedside table, and find that even a few pages of an engaging story will distract me from any worries and settle my brain, preparing me for a good night's sleep. Good literature can be a balm.

Let the SP know ahead of time that you're a first timer. Good SPs will do what it takes to make you feel comfortable within minutes. Don't be afraid to communicate with her about what it is you are looking for. If it makes you feel any better, let her know ahead of time by phone or email. Sometimes just talking on the phone to book the appt can make you less nervous and give you an idea of what the SP is like. Good luck and conquer your fear. Sometimes the little trivial things we make a big deal out of really aren't that big of a deal once you have dealt with them you begin to wonder why you didn't do it sooner. And don't forget to have fun! Life is too short to worry about our own perceived shortcomings. Sometimes we are our own worst critics.

I think the greatest show of appreciation would be to see her (or see her again) :)

I'm currently reading 'The 100-Year-Old-Man Who Climbed Out the Window and Disappeared', a comedy novel originally written in Swedish by Jonas Jonasson. So far it's absolutely adorable, very enjoyable book.

She may be new and inexperienced or she has something to hide. Admittedly, it is an SP's pet peeve when she feels like she has to justify her rate over the phone to a stranger but an experienced, reputable SP will be glad to direct you to a site where there are reviews/recos if she is sure of herself and her business skills. When I was advertising on that site once in a while, I would actually try and bring some of these guys over to Cerb or get them to join because all of my info and pictures are here. I had my doubts but many of them didn't seem to know what I was talking about ( I'm sure many knew about Cerb and already members but it seemed like others didn't want to take the time to register to look at album profiles and what not). I took the extra step to give them some sort of reassurance that I wasn't a fly by night but those who booked in the end said it was the genuine conversation I had with them over the phone and that I took an extra few minutes without being pushy. Go with your gut and you did the right thing by asking for additional info. It's your hard earned money and you have the right to spend it wisely. :)

Another article, in french (through Google Translate), written by Phillipe Mercure from La Presse. The author highlighted some new additions to the DSM-5 (bottom of the page). A manifesto. Petitions. Calls for a boycott. The new DSM, the bible of psychiatry to be adopted officially today, raises an outcry. The case against him: casting the net too wide and into mental illness normal behavior. Psychiatrists are they manipulated by the pharmaceutical industry to sell pills? "Everyone I know who has a little fun is bipolar or has attention deficit," said Jean Leloup during a recent visit to the show Tout le monde en parle. The singer would then expose the tendency of psychiatrists to increase diagnosis, an issue so explosive relaunched today as the American Psychiatric Association in San Francisco officially unveils its new bible. Known as code DSM-5, the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, however, has not a title to ignite the crowd. But the document, which could be accessed by a handful of observers last weekend and that some of the content has long been known, causes an unusual controversy in the scientific community. Crises to childish "crisis", problematic grief, binge eating or scratching excessively, the new manual lists 297 officials mental illnesses, including several new ones. It's too much in the eyes of many critics, who believe that science goes too far in stating problems of normal behavior. Allen Frances, a psychiatrist at Duke University, oversaw the fourth edition of the DSM, published in 1994. He has publicly stated that the publication of the fifth version of the manual represented "a sad day for psychiatry." The pharmaceutical lobby In a book entitled Saving normality and on the topic, Mr. Frances denounces what he calls the "medicalization of everyday life." According to him, the scientists who write the DSM-5 are influenced by the pharmaceutical industry, which seeks to increase the mental health diagnoses to sell drugs supposed to solve. Jean-Francois Pelletier, a professor and researcher at the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Montreal, also believes there is a danger to multiply diagnostics. "Having an accurate diagnosis, with sometimes too specialized of a terminology, can make people stigmatize themselves and lead them to self-branding," said the specialist. According to him, that psychiatrists use the DSM-5 will be just as important as its content. "The way to report a diagnosis to a patient, the tone, the explanations are extremely important," he says. In the United States, the National Institute of Mental Health has also stated its intention to distance himself from the DSM. "Patients with mental disorders deserve better," wrote the organization, which has however been tempered his remarks. In a statement, she said that the DSM is "the best information currently available for the clinical diagnosis of mental disorders." Notably used by insurers to determine which treatments will be reimbursed, the DSM influences the practice of psychiatrists worldwide. Those who defend the claim that the DSM is not a catalog that the general public should peel to find problems, but a tool for experts to help them identify a set of symptoms in their patients. Many psychiatrists also argue that the introduction of new disorders in the DSM-5 will make less severe diagnoses in their patients. DSM-5: some new controversies > The disorder of deregulation, aka explosive mood This disorder targets children over age 6 who throw more than three big tantrums per week for one year. Critics fear that the introduction of this new disorder will medicalize mundane childish crises, while supporters say it will decrease diagnoses of bipolar disorder. > Binge eating It is defined by recurrent episodes of absorbing a disproportionate amount of food on one occasion. These episodes are accompanied by feelings of loss of control, disgust and guilt, and must occur once a week for more than three months. > Hoarding It is the accumulation of objects in a compulsive and excessive. Of worthless objects crammed point talking to harm the quality of a person's life and safety of the place. This disorder became known from 2010 through TLC, who devoted a television series called Hoarding: Burried Alive. > The dermatillomanie (edit - google trnslate didnt catch this one) The people who suffer are called in English the skinpickers. This disorder is characterized by compulsive self-harm, by scratching and uncontrolled triturage skin and pimples. It is associated with feelings of anxiety and guilt. > Mourning Until now, there are no diagnosed major depressive episode in someone who lived in mourning for less than two months. The DSM-5 will remove this exception, so that recent bereavement may also be reported depressive. > Rejected Disorders The hyper, addiction to sex or the addiction to the Internet have been rejected, as a condition called "paraphilic coercive." According to Dr. Allen Frances, the inclusion of the latter in the DSM-5 would have made rape mental disorder, not a crime. However, the term appears in the Appendix, what denounces the psychiatrist.

I don't think you were wrong however, her not having recommendations and probably not being a member of a review board doesn't mean she is not a good provider. Maybe she hasn't heard of them or there are none where she is from. I agree with you, she was deffensive which was probably what caused you to decide not to see her but had she reacted different or if ever in a similar situation I would suggest to communicate a bit with the lady in order to get an impression on her and decide to book or not, not all ladies are active on boards same way us providers know not all gentlemen have a reference or are members in review boards.

As you said, any reputable SP's would direct you to reco's or input if there is any to be had. There are many threads on the business side where SP's discuss the importance of both client and SP making a good match which involves research. Personally it sounds like she thought you were questioning her rate not just making a statement about it. It was definitely a defensive reaction. I would assume perhaps a new SP and not one accustomed to the business. All the ladies I have read about here would (and do) provide links to their reco's and feedback consistently and some even have it on websites. They understand that sometimes to make a decision especially where money is concerned, you need to do your homework. My only suggestion would be if you run into this again, don't mention anything about the rate, instead ask for links to reco's or other information. Sometimes what you think and don't say works better to get you what you want with less hassle.

A lot of the MA/SP mentions in thread like this that they don't care what you look like, as long as you have good hygiene, are nice and act like a gentleman. As for your reasons, I'd say they are pretty good. I saw my first SP cause I also had problems with dating (only managed to get kissed once, after 3 months!) It definitively made me more confident and better with myself. And I got to see what I've been missing for so long. Don't hesitate to tell the lady you'll be contacting that you're shy and it's your first time with an SP. Most of them are very good at making you comfortable. For the legal stuff, lots of great info on this site!

I love me some "B.I.G" women!!! Screw all the people who are haters and embrace the fact that you are beautiful. :)

Oreos, Dad's cookies, New York cheese cake, mom's apple pie and ice cream and/or cheese Kentucky fried chicken Apple Crisp My pants just popped a button thinking of these, thanks for the thread.

My first thought... Hummm, why is common sense called common sense when it is not so common? lol Now, let me go set up an appointment with my gynecologist and when I see him, I'll try to play doctor with him and see how far I can take it...

Marilyn at Rainbow's End by Darwin Porter. Not only does this book discuss Marilyn, but there are also many other stories on other celebs from back in the day...btw this book details how Marilyn was murdered and the giant cover up!

Absolutely not ashamed!! Love what I do and the person it has helped me become (which is awesome btw ;) ), and the ability to make other people happy too :) ! It isn't necessarily something I am completely open about with everyone I know, as a lot of folks don't/wouldn't agree or don't/wouldn't understand, but the people and friends closest to me know, understand and support it. And even if someone did happen to find out and have the kahunas say something to me, we'll I'd have a nice little earful for them :D

I've only seen squirting twice in person. Once was with a couple where she was on top i 69 position and he was doing her above my nose. (This was my first time witnessig and her first time squirting). When he pulled out after ramming her for a while she covered my face and they both came to lick it up as we all laughed. The 2nd was Naughty Nicki in a duo! She used her dildo while I put my tits in her mouth and I was able to view the squirting close up but not as close up as the previous circumstance. Both were hot!

Common adult industry sex terms, abbreviations, codes, codewords, terminology, acronyms, lingo, and glossary. What does this mean, what is the definition of, as defined in the dictionary, and what do the letters stand for: AAMP = Apartment Asian Massage Parlor. Based in a residential apartment instead of a commercial storefront. ABC = american born chinese ABJ = american born japanese Agency = a company that manages calls, bookings, and advertising for a group of escorts. AMP = Asian Massage Parlor analingus = licking anus Asian = analingus Asian Cowgirl = girl on top, squatting ASP = Adult Service Provider, or alt.sex.prostitution newsgroup ATF = all time favorite ATM = ass to mouth = penis, toy, finger goes from ass to mouth. attempts = trying to orgasm Aunt Flo = menstruation, period B&S = bait and switch = person who shows up is a different one than advertised babyback = petite, young, attractive Asian balloons = breast implants BB = bareback = without condom BJ = blowjob = oral sex = fellatio BBBJ = bare back blow job = BJ without condom BBBJTC = bare back blow job to completion (in mouth) BBBJTCIM = bare back blow job to completion in mouth BBBJTCNQNS = bare back blow job to completion, no quit, no spit BBBJTCWS = bare back blow job to completion with swallow BBBJWF = bare back blow job with facial BBFS = bare back sex BBW = big beautiful woman BCD = behind closed doors BDSM = bondage, discipline, sado-masochism. BF = boy friend BFE = boy friend experience birdwatching = BBBJTCWS BLS = ball licking and sucking Blue Jay = blow job blue pill = Viagra BSB = bus stop babe butter face = everything looks good, but her face BTW = by the way cash and dash = ROB who takes your money and runs CBJ = covered blow job = BJ with condom CC Rider = full service provider costing $200 or less CD = cross dresser CDS = covered doggy style CFS = covered full service = Sex with condom CG = cowgirl = girl on top facing you CH = Crazy Horse, SF Strip Club CIM = cum in mouth CL = craigslist.org CMD = carpet matches drapes, typically a natural blonde CMT = Certified Massage Therapist. A professional masseuse. Cowgirl = CG = girl on top facing you cover = condom cruising = driving around, looking for streetwalkers cups of coffee = releases = orgasms DATO = dining at the o = analingus DATY = dining at the y = cunnilingus DDP = double digit penetration, kitty and anus Dodge = streetwalker stroll: Mission Blvd, between A St and 14th St, in Hayward, CA Doggie = man behind girl, girl on hands and knees donation = payment Doubles = A threesome with two girls and you DDE = doesn't do extras (PS only) DDG = drop dead gorgeous DFK = deep french kissing, open mouth with tongue DIY = do it yourself (masturbation) DP = double penetration, two guys on one girl DT = deep throat, entire length of penis taken in mouth ECR = el camino real EOM = end of message. No text in message body. escort = a temporary companion for hire facial = cumming on partner's face FBSM = full body sensual massage fire and ice = a blowjob switching between hot tea and ice FIV = finger in vagina FKK = Frei K?rper Kultur. German brothel / nudist club. FOB = fresh off the boat. Asian immigrant recently arrived in the US. FOV = finger outside vagina French = BJ French Kiss = Kissing with tongue insertion FS = full service = BJ + Sex Get Brain = blow job Get Comfortable = get completely naked GFE = girlfriend experience. Typically BBBJ, CFS, DFK, DATY, and MSOG GG = Golden Gypsy. defunct, famous Berkeley massage parlor GND = girl next door Greek = anal sex, back door GS = golden shower = urination play GSM = g-spot massage happy ending = A handjob (usually) or blowjob after your massage hardwood floors = clean shaven kitty Hat = condom HDH = high dollar hottie HJ = hand job = a manual / hand release HH = half hour HM = high mileage HME = honeymoon experience, lapdog heaven HWP = height and weight proportionate hooker = prostitute IMHO = in my humble opinion interpreter = condom Italian = penis rubbing between butt cheeks ISO = in search of kitty = vagina Lapdog = person who worships providers to excess. LDL = low dollar looker (opposite of HDH) LE = ellie = law enforcement LK = light kissing, closed mouth LOS = land of smiles = Thailand mamasan = female manager of a massage parlor MBOT = Mitchell Brothers O'Farrell Theatre, SF Strip Club MBR = multiple bell ringing = MSOG MILF = mom I'd like to f-ck Mish = missionary position, or the SF Mission District Missionary = man on top, girl on back mohawk = thin rectangular strip of pubic hair MP = massage parlor MP = multiple pops = multiple releases MSC = Market Street Cinema, SF Strip Club MSOG = multiple shots on goal = multiple releases NCT = New Century Theatre, SF Strip Club non-pro = not a professional provider NP = no problem NSA = no strings attached OWO = oral without condom OWOTC = oral without condom to completion papasan = male manager of a massage parlor party hat = condom PIV = penis in vagina PL = Pathetic Loser PO = phone operator (for making appointments) PS = private show (Dance) PSE = Porn Star Experience PV = private viewing (Dance) RA = relaxation assistant raincoat = condom RB = myredbook.com rimming = analingus RMP = Russian Massage Parlor ROB = Rip Off Bitch Reverse cowgirl = RCG = girl on top facing away Reverse massage = you massage her Roman shower = vomit play RPG = role playing games Russian = penis rubbing between breasts = Pearl Necklace = titty fuck SC = Strip Club self-service = you masturbate SF = San Francisco shill = an insider posing as a satisfied customer SO = significant other SOG = shot on goal = one release SOMF = sat on my face south of the border = gential region southern france = BBBJ SP = Service Provider SPA = streetwalker stroll: San Pablo Avenue in Oakland, CA spanish = ATM = ass to mouth spinner = very petite, thin girl STD = sexually transmitted disease stroll = path frequented by street walkers SW = street walker TAMP = Therapeutic Asian Massage Parlor teabag = man squats and dips balls in partner's mouth TG = transgender TGTBT = too good to be true Tina = crystal meth TJ = Tijuana TL = Tenderloin district, San Francisco. between Van Ness Ave, Post St, Taylor St, and Golden Gate Ave TLD = topless lap dance tossing salad = analingus Troll = rude and hideous PL Trolling = Posting thinly disguised ads in a discussion forum TOFTT = Take one for the team. In reference to a new, non-reviewed provider. TS = transexual TUMA = tongue up my ass TV = transvestite UTF = Untranslated French = BBBJ UTR = under the radar WTF = What the fuck? (I'm rather surprised by this) XOXO = Kisses & Hugs YMMV = Your mileage may vary. Your service level could be different than reported by others. Applies to everyone, some more so than others. 1/2 and 1/2 = half and half = oral sex + full service 411 = seeking information 420 = 4:20 = marijuana 69 = two people giving each other oral sex at the same time $ = $100 $$ = $200 $$$ = $300 $$$.5 = $350 (get it?) incall = You go to her place, or a place she designates. outcall = She comes to your place, home, hotel room. two call system = For incall locations. Your first call is to set up the time and get the general directions on where to park. Your second call is made when you arrive to get the specific address / room number.