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I think it is not so much the age as it is the experience in the industry. The real young (teenagers) do not have as much experience as a SP who has been in the industry for a few years. I don't necessarily go for the SP's that are in their lower 20's rarely in their teens (I don't remember the last teen if at all). If they are in their lower 20's I prefer to see SP's that have been in the industry for a significant period of time. Those are girls that have seen all kinds of clients and are used to the variety. There is nothing worse than to see your SP cringe at first glance where you know they are thinking " I can't believe I have to have sex with this guy". That kind of look to me is the ultimate contraceptive. I suppose this has to do with the maturity of the SP. If the SP has a few years under their belt, I have a sense that they are comfortable in the industry. If they are comfortable in the industry, I feel they have the attitude that age, race, appearance etc. does not matter to them. They appear to embrace the job no matter who the client is because they have seen it before and they know what to expect. If my age does not appear to be an issue to the SP, then I expect that the session will go well regardless of their age. The chances of booking an SP that has a comfortable attitude are greater for SP's that are just a bit older and are comfortable in the industry.

Age is but a number! Younger, older or somewhere in between, each experience is unique and brings with it excitement, joy and pleasure. To limit oneself is sad but it is a choice to be made come what may.

No need to add the just kidding, The Littlest Hobo is awesome -- Lassie has nothing on that doggie! :) I've got the theme song stuck in my head just remembering! ...maybe tomorrow, I'll wanna settle down...

Just for Laughs and Just for Laughs Gags is one of the funniest shows on TV anywhere IMHO.

If you enjoy Dexter, you might try one of the books. I'm not usually into audiobooks, but my tomatoes are coming ripe and I figured I'd download something to keep my brain engaged during the coming hours of mindless tomato processing and canning. I went with "Double Dexter." I downloaded it from my library. It's a slightly different story than the TV series. Rita is still alive, and they have a baby girl named Lily. Deb also has a baby, apparently! So if you enjoy Dexter and want more, check out your local library. You may need to apply for a library card if you don't have one, but it's all free and they have excellent interfaces for most smart phones.

A one word answer for you... scam!

Well, for me, I won't see guys younger then 18 and guys no older then 100. These are hard and set rules, and I won't sway from them. Maturity is what matters to me. Age means nothing. (However, I still id guys if they appear under the age of 21 - just to make sure).

I genuinely feel that I have an obligation to share with people about the industry as I know it and have sat in Regents shoes on many occasions. I consider it a very personal PSA Coles Notes that I willingly hand out for free. What I have learned is that I don't need to change their POV, all I need to do is put a face on it that challenges their beliefs. Meeting sex workers that don't fit the stereotype makes people reconsider what they believe to be true about the sex trade. It makes them question what they think are facts. I never take an activist stance, I'm very easy going in my delivery; avoiding the hard line presentation so they have nothing to push back against. Having them repeat their mistaken views verbally simply entrains it deeper. Instead I bring a light hearted tone to the conversation, smiling when I deliver the truths of my story. I've worked in every aspect of this industry save SWing and would do so again in a heart beat. I don't glamourize it but I also bring to light the good that I see. When they start pointing into dark corners, I simply parallel the facts with other lines of work equally as perilous and that sheds a certain inarguable light on things. Remember, you don't need to "win" the war. You just need to show them there actually isn't a war going on, simply a life as we chose it. Changing a belief starts with one seed taking root and growing. Not as quickly as we might like, it may be buried deep and take a long time to break the surface which requires patience on our part with liberal amounts of sunshine and water. Most often, they will supply the sunshine; they will reflect back on the conversation time and time again, every time allowing your essence to influence their perceptions just a little more. All you have to do is water it. Just don't over or under water, both will kill the seed before it can take root and flourish... cat

I don't watch a lot of TV but have fond memories of The Littlest Hobo and The Forest Rangers. J/K Actually Republic of Doyle as mentioned is good but haven't watched all of them. I find the CDN Pickers awful because of those 2 guys. Something about them I don't like but I do like the American version. Go figure. SCTV was a classic and watch it when I see that it's on.

There used to be this travel show that was produced in Canada. I would watch it years before I immigrated here. That and Due South. A lot of the programs on Discovery are Canadian produced. And from my understanding, same with a lot of the shows on HG TV. But even though it's not TV, there are some absolutely amazing radio shows. Under the Influence, Vinyl Cafe, and the Debaters. Some of the finest examples of quality entertainment. And it's completely Canadian!

Being at home... <3 <3 <3

Actually CERB makes me happy because it made me realize there's nothing at all wrong with this hobby and the people in it. It's simply a lifestyle choice and anybody who wants to judge us for it can go to hell.

There is a really good Network Show called Rookie Blue. Not too sure if any of the cast is canadian but the show is shot in Toronto and currently in its 4th season.

My favorite is Canadian Pickers. Not only am I a big fan of antiques but the personalities of Scott and Sheldon (the pickers) is fit for TV. Somehow, I don't see myself doing TV... I don't feel charismatic in front of a camera.

There is nothing inherently wrong with either the sps or the clients who use bp, just as there is nothing guaranteed right about either the sps or the clients who only use cerb. Savvy folks on both sides of the equation will use both, the sps have to make a living, and the clients have to have either a varied selection, or at least the illusion of selection lol. What usually baffles me are the ones, on both sides, who seem to forget that there are many of us, on both sides, who do use both, along with many other advertising options. We can't all be wrong. For me, usually the better clients come from my bp ads, less likely to ask for discounts, or half hour sessions for that matter. I'd be an idiot not to use it, if that is the result i get from it. * wow, just noticed how old this thread is lol

I agree with the first part, but not entirely with the second. You're right, any age cutoff will be somewhat arbitrary. It's the same thing about, say, the voting age, the drinking age, the driving age, or when you become criminally liable as an adult. Do some people cross those milestones at different points in their lives? Absolutely. Sticking with those numbers rigidly guarantees you'll be wrong some of the time. On the other hand, the reason those numbers get chosen for voting, drinking, etc. is because there's an expectation that, most of the time, that age roughly corresponds to a certain readiness. This evidence can itself be completely objective, even if it means there are lots of people younger than X who really are ready for Y. It's not about certainty, it's about probability. And that's why my own number of 21 works for me. I'm pretty sure that if I ever started considering younger companions of 18 or 19, that in the vast majority of cases I'd decide not to proceed once I got to know her and got a sense of her maturity level.* On the other hand, I think there would be significantly fewer such cases after 21 and almost none after 25. Picking 21, widely considered the age of "okay, now you're a complete adult and totally responsible" for other purposes, means that's the point where I'm personally comfortable with the probabilities as I understand them. (* And furthermore, there might very well be times when I'd miss a cue, choose to proceed, but find out afterward that I was wrong, which would be absolutely devastating. It's just not worth the risk to me.) At the same time, I don't judge others for choosing a lower, legal number for themselves if they're comfortable with it. After 18, it's a strictly a personal decision.

While I don't totally disagree with most of the comments posted. I do not believe that maturity or age is a factor in all this. The most determining factor is, what is your criteria. Just like some will choose a brunette over a blond, or prefer an exotic looking partner, it's a matter of personal preferences. Age might or might not be a factor to some, or might be very important to others. Two immature individual in a relationship probably won't last long but you can't live their life for them. We all have to make choices eventually and learn from them for better or for worse. I know for me, it is a factor. I don't have an upper limit but I do have a minimum. My logic behind it might seem irrational to some. But it is one those things where someone else's opinion shouldn't matter. As long as both adults are consenting, it's not my place to interfere. If the opinion of others is important to you, I would recommend you re-evaluate what it is you're looking for.

This is a fine line. Just my opinion...but if the relationship as a whole is strained and is not working....and if you have done everything to correct it without success.....then why not just end it? I can't see how cheating fixes anything (and yes, seeing SP's behind your S/O's back is cheating). It just compounds an already bad situation. Now...if the emotional relationship itself is still healthy....if there is still love and caring and fulfilment there....and if the only thing missing is the physical aspect of the relationship (be it for medical reasons, psychological reasons, etc)....then I would say that yes, seeing SP's is totally acceptable....provided that your SO is aware of it and is comfortable with it. Lastly...if you're single....or if you're in an "open", honest and non-monogamous relationship. Then hey, why the hell not?! Dive in and have fun! :D Not trying to be judgmental to anyone's own situation. These are just my own views based on my comfort level. Dishonesty of any sort makes me feel guilty...whether its related to escorts or not. But at the end of the day, when it comes to sex between two consenting adults, the only one who can decide if you should feel guilty or not is you.

Whoa, that's a lot of assumptions there. This isn't going to be a one-size-fits-all answer, as sure, some 19 year olds may lack the maturity to make such a decision, but there are also plenty of folks in their 20s, 30s, 40s, etc who may just as equally be unable or unprepared to enter into sex work. That is not our call to make, or our judgement to pass, so long as the person in question is of legal age and legally able to consent. Coersion can also happen at any age.

I am in no way passing judgement on the next person because I do believe we all have that right to live and do as we please...No one can make our decisions for us and in no way are we better than the next because we choose to do something that another person doesn't BUT in my opinion and this is for myself only I choose not to interact with gentlemen 18-25 I prefer the older gentlemen for their passion and the respect they give me as an sp provider...yes I am have seen younger than 30 and.a few were very mature and the time we spent was enjoyable...but me being a mature lady I prefer the same...we have a better connection and so much more to talk about...the sex is great either way but the older gentlemen have much more life experience xo Please No disrespect towards the younger gents just my opinion

Since you asked I'll chime in:)I feel if you are a man or woman over 20 you shouldn't be bothering with Teens, sp's or not. 18-19 is a teenager and still a child, imo. I don't care how mature they are. I had this conversation with a gent not long ago who was 60 or so and he asked what I thought of a man his age looking at an 18yr old and I said well that would make you a perv, that's my opinion! Its just not right in my mind for anyone of such a mature age to want to mingle with someone so young. Why? for many reasons, but I think I would ask the man or woman why they'd want to be with someone so young and I won't accept the excuse of youth is beauty because physically many men and women are beautiful right up into their senior years. Perhaps its a lack of maturity on the older persons side, or as I said before just a perversion I don't know but in my mind its not acceptable or right. Its different if a 60+ man goes after a 30+ woman or vice versa the maturity and life experience is there on both sides . Just how I see it.

Am I happy? Such a simple question. Hard to answer if I'm being honest with myself. It's just that for me happiness is not a state of mind, or even an outlook on life. Happiness is not a glass half full or a filter through which I view the world. For me happiness is a series of moments in a stream of reality. I'm not trying to say that sometimes I'm happy while other times I'm not. But rather I have periods of happy and periods of darkness and shadow. Happy can surprise me. Occasionally I catch myself in a moment of introspection and find happiness in the mundane. A nice sunny morning when nothing hurts or cuddling with my wife of 30 years make me happy. Meeting new friends and feeling good make me happy. But am I happy? At the moment, not so much. I have to get up for work in less than five hours, my neck is stiff and sore like it usually is and I have to pee, which I will do two or three more times before the alarm drags me from the bed in the dark of the morning. I can honestly say that I strive to be happy. I take pleasure from the little things. A good sneeze, a good shit, a good sleep are all sources of happiness. Sex makes me happy. Good sex even more. Great sex can leave me happy for days. Lately, I've been very happy. Sure there are things that bring me down: the aforementioned ache in my neck, insecurities, stress, a bad taco. But I try not to take these things personally. I try to leave the dark stuff on the side of the road and focus on those surprising things that bring light and happiness into my day. In general I have more happy moments than not. And I'll continue to strive to keep it that way.

I ve had bad and good moments in life... One thing I did learn is that the more I tried to fill up the glass the worse it was because you never get content with what you achieve... Maybe try to stop thinking so much how to get the glass full.. And just take one day at a time.. Pay less attention to the negative events and embrace the positive ones and make the best out of them! The glass will be filled!!! A few ywars ago I went through a really hard time... Even spent time at the hospital for depression... I think it was the best time for me.. Away from everything and everyone... Had time to think about just myself... Now I feel great, I am happy, may not have a" perfect" life..n but really, who does?? Or what is Perfect?? We all face problems, desicions, sadness, joy... We have to learn to accept with the good and the bad... And remember it can always be worse! Yes your mood reflects with the people around you.. I am a believer of that, it even reflects in things that can happen to you during the day... Think positive. And positive things will happen... Smile even when you don't feel like it.. Smile at everyone even if you don't know them... When you least expected you will feel always like a million bucks! And people around you will feel it.., specially your family and loved ones!

Well, you've got the link for the next social already. One other thing: Quite a few ladies have a social rate for this kind of thing (although it may be more aimed at going out than staying in), and if someone you'd like to see doesn't have a published social rate, you can always ask her if she does. If you're looking to hang out off the clock... if she asks to hang out with you, then that's great, and you'll probably have an awesome time. But if you ask her, then bear in mind that in her eyes you've probably just become yet another cheap-ass guy looking for free stuff, and she's probably got enough of those already. Once you get to know someone well it may be different, and close relationships do arise between SPs and clients... but if you try and force it then it almost certainly won't happen. I hate to be a downer on this, but it's probably wise to set your expectations realistically.

Further to Emily's post.... I hate a scripted encounter no matter the time frame! Lets just have fun and whatever happens within the allotted time frame is all good!

This is where I disagree, when a man books a GFE encounter he is booking the entire package (conversation, cuddles, intimacy and much more) No where did I say SOG was limited to one, however more than once in an hour is highly unlikely if someone wants a GFE experience that is unrushed. Telling someone MSOG's possible time permitting is not selling an act, its being honest that is just may not happen in the short time booked. No where does that statement say its not available, however like YMMV it is stating that it may or may not happen. And yes I do sell time, not a service and what happens during our agreed paid time commitment will happen as the date takes its course (its not a build your own menu for this amount of $$$$, its for time and companionship)

So, a bit of a heavy topic. I'm in an ongoing conflict/dialogue with an acquaintance who's very anti-sex work. (Though I'm about ready to throw my hands up in disgust.) I recently asserted that it's easy to be an ethical consumer of the sex industry if you actually care about being an ethical consumer, and that the more direct interaction you have with a worker, the easier it is to make sure that they're doing the work consensually and by choice. (So making a solid ethical choice when seeing a service provider is easier than doing so when watching porn on the internet, for example.) She asked me how one could know. It seems pretty obvious to me, but I'd rather not just give a flippant response based exclusively on my own perceptions and experiences, which are obviously limited - I work as a SP, I have many friends who are current and former workers in various parts of the sex industry and I've worked in social services where I had clients who were SPs, but I don't have any experience as a male hobbyist hiring a SP, and I do know that when I am a client at say, a strip club, my interactions with the women working there are really different than the interactions men have. So, if you were giving advice to someone who had never seen a SP before and was really concerned about the risk of seeing someone who had been trafficked or who was being coerced* into the work, what would you tell them? I'm interested in responses from both SPs and hobbyists. Things I would recommend: See someone who**: - works independently & has their own website - participates in online communities for hobbyists and/or SPs - is involved in sex worker rights activism/blogs or talks about their experiences and their work publicly - screens their clients Get to know them a bit, either through their interactions online or by booking some social time where you plan to just talk. * When I talk about coercion, I mean through violence, emotional manipulation or abuse. One of the popular arguments against sex work is that there is no free choice when there are economic pressures that might influence a person's choice to do this type of work. Ultimately though, that adds up to an argument against capitalism and all work being coercive, and doesn't logically or meaningfully single out sex work, without doing a bunch of mental gymnastics. ** Obviously not meeting these criteria doesn't mean anything and many SPs who choose this work don't meet these criteria. Additionally, this is really complicated too, because these sorts of screening criteria could further marginalize already marginalized workers, by steering good potential clients away from them and towards workers who are already more privileged. But at the same time, those who are making the argument that it's impossible to do this type of work consensually or that it's impossible to be an ethical consumer are already seeking to force us all out of this line of work anyway, which, imo, does far more to marginalize already under-privileged workers.

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If you haven't already, you should visit her website, The Naked Anthropologist. She has done a lot of research in this field and publications on the issue. She is well respected in the community. www.policeprostitutionandpolitics.com also has lots of information about the true facts about trafficking. It's run by Norma Jean Almodovar, a former sex worker, long time sex workers activist and author.

I don't watch tv anymore. But as a kid, my sisters and I really dug this show called 'Catwalk' about a C&C Music Factory type dance group trying to make it big in Toronto. It was totally awesome cheese.

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I love to see re-runs of Kids in the Hall and Four on the Floor: The Frantics. Fun tv. Also Due South was amazing!!!

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Haha. I know eh? Teenagers.. Sigh... Additional Comments: I will be sending good psychic vibes your way!

Congrats HFXMAN. If there is ever a Halifax meet up, I'll buy you a Guinness (or any other beer of your choice)

I believe they are cousins. Daniella is the more attractive of the two and is the slimmer and less pushy of the duo. The other girl went by the name of Rosanna or something like that and @ 61 if you went in and she saw you she could be quite possessive and always hinting at fun if you went for a dance.

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I don't believe in being happy. I believe in being content. At this point, there are a few important areas of my life where I am very content yet at the same rate, there are some areas that need improvement. I also try to stop the negativity in my head whether it's about myself, those around me or a certain situation. I often find myself running away from drama now than being involved or around it. I have made leaps and bounds by removing people from my life who have caused stress and drama. This has helped a great deal. I have also become a lot more selfish in a way that I take better care of myself than I did before. In the past, this caused me a lot of stress, resentment and anxiety. I used to put everyone else before me and while I am still there for others that I care about, I realized I have to be able to take care of myself before I can help them. I just try to live my life day by day and looking at life as something to be cherished and enjoyed. I had one of my long time regulars tell me last week ( he's not a cerb member) that he was diagnosed with bowel cancer. When I heard that, it made me really sad and I find him in my thoughts more than ever now. There may be a chance we will never cross paths again. :( I gave him a big hug and kiss and told him not to give up and to fight it all the way. When he left, it really got me thinking about some of the trivial things I make a big deal out of and it has really opened my eyes. I realize as I get older that I am thankful for what I have rather than complaining about what I don't have. You only have one life so make good use of it and enjoy it to the fullest!

I just had to jump in and say how much I'm loving all the love of all you wonderful gentlemen...makes a girl long for the fjords with no whamentations of the women...(and if you don't understand that, you have some research to do) Cato, you rock!

I can say, I was once very happy and nothing brought me down. Life was great, my dreams were coming true. I had everything to look forward too. Even when things would go wrong I always saw the glass half full. I use to find the silver lining in everything and if I couldn't I was fine with that, nothing really bothered me much. That all came crashing down one day. My dreams where shattering I lost everything I ever wanted. The only thing I had left was the one I loved but I was loosing her as well. I began to be depressed but I didn't let it bother me much I needed to stay strong like I always had. Until one day it was too much I suffered a mental breakdown that's changed me ever since. I'll never forget the pain and pressure in my head from that day. I had never to my recollection had ever cried so hard or loud in my life. Since that day I can no longer control my emotions. Being happy is all I wish for now, but whenever I'm not sad or depressed I fell nothing a big emptiness like happy is an emotion or state that doesn't exist. Perhaps is the anti depressant preventing me or maybe that day when I broke down something did break in my head I don't know. I can say even thought depression has brought me down for a long time it's a battle I fight in hope someday I find happiness like I once had. I use to be ashamed of being depressed and suicidal to the point I spoke to no one about it. I thought I was alone and that I was crazy. Until I decided it was time for me to seek help. I would not be here today had I not, I urge anyone who feel the way I did to do the same. Talking about it has made it a lot easier. Even though I've yet to achieve happiness once again I prefer the numbness then the uncontrollable suicidal thought and the mental pain its brought. I still have my days were they come back and I still have no control over my emotions I am no longer ashamed of it. With plenty of therapy I can say I cannot control it but I can live with it unlike before.

Seems I am in the minority (at least as far as the posts go) but I am very unhappy. However, having said that, I have reached a point in my life where lately I have been re-examining everything I have done up to this point. It's funny that this thread has popped up when it did, because I was actually toying with the idea of posting on here asking for advice, mainly because there seems to be a lot of people on here willing to help people out on a variety of subjects. I just hadn't made up my mind to do it yet. Lately I have actually been doing a lot of soul searching, crying, self-analysis, more crying, reflecting, reminiscing, and just generally trying to figure out what went wrong to get me to where I am now. I've come to realize that what went wrong was simply me. More specifically the choices I have made, most of which have not been good ones. I have done things that I thought would make me happier, when in fact they just made things worse. I realize that I am often too impulsive when it comes to making decisions, and tend to jump too quickly before getting all the facts. I also am too trusting though and have made decisions based on promises, only to have the person making them not live up to their end of the agreement, causing me stress and worry, and further adding to the unhappiness. (like my present situation) I also found that as things got worse, so has my self esteem. I cannot motivate myself to do anything to better my health for example, because (and this is something I've only just realized, and may sound overly melodramatic) somewhere along the line I think I've subconsciously decided I no longer want to live. I also seemingly have no purpose in life, at least in my mind. Not that I am actively going to go out and kill myself, but I seem to deliberately do things that will put me at great risk for heart attacks, strokes, etc. I am considered morbidly obese, and do nothing to lose weight, even though I keep telling myself I will. I have been diagnosed as a borderline diabetic, and am supposed to watch my diet, exercise and monitor my blood sugar, yet I do none of these. I started to when I was first told, but it lasted maybe a month. I even went out and bought a mountain bike, which I ride occasionally, but nowhere near regularly. I completely lack discipline in my personal life, yet in my professional life I am completely the opposite. Haven't figured out why that is yet though. Add to this the fact that I have struggled with depression for years without knowing what it was, and looking back I can see how my depression has influenced a lot of my decisions. I did have a prescription for an anti-depressant that actually worked for me, after a lot of trial and error, but since my doctor moved away I can't seem to find one that will renew my prescription. Seems a lot of the newer doctors don't seem to believe in them, or are overly cautious about prescribing them. Also add in that I am shy and reserved by nature, so don't connect with a lot of people. Funny thing is I talk to hundreds of people in a day for my work, and get along fine, but when it comes to my personal life forget it. This is actually how I found CERB. I know I need human contact, and started thinking that if I found an SP or two it might help me out in that way. So now that I've posted all this negative stuff, I will end this on a positive note; now that I am coming to understand that my life is exactly the way I made it, I'm pretty sure that going forward I will now look at things in a different light. Hopefully it will translate into better decisions, as well as a renewed way of looking at myself and how I feel about myself. I know it is going to take a lot of hard work, but I think the biggest thing is just getting out of some bad thought patterns, which now that I see them I can hopefully change them. p.s. sorry for the negative rambling. I didn't post this to get anyone's sympathy or anything, in fact still not sure I should be posting this at all, but since MBR asked.....)

It will depend on what stage in your life in conjunction with the level of frustration you are at... As I will not / can not force my SO to do something she does not want to do, nor have any desire... (is this normal for all married women..?? that's another story all together) I have learned to accept that... plain and simple. I can tell you after well over a decade of no intimacy, the question sort-of answers itself.... watching porn and self pleasure can only take you so far... The comfort of kissing and being kissed in return, to desire a woman and being desired in return.. need I go on..? I had seen myself being a grumpy bear for a long time, then realized that *I* am responsible for my own happiness... and not to depend on others... So what am I going to do about it...? Divorce is not an option... because I have *strong* commitment to the family/house environment for my children - they need there father. also the thought of starting over from zero again REALLY doesn't appeal to me...I have worked very to get where I am at, and I'm not giving up on it... Therefore I lead a double life, and I am a happier man and can function on a daily basis. You will find your own reasons of justification... I will stop here.. Thanks for listening..

I am closer to Barrhaven than many are, but I'm not sure of any girls working /in/ Barrhaven right now!

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I only really use cerb now that I found it but when I fist started to be honest it was a little complicating different places for different ads. The other thing to consider is not everyone is a cerb member where bp you don't need. I also think some people are intimidated by creating a profile on cerb, I know I was at first before I knew it was such a good community. Also I think bp is in the top google search for sp in ottawa.

Getting my "Nominate Post" icon back :-) RG