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If you ever encounter any sort of problems with anyone while working, anything ranging from sexual assault to theft, intimidation, abuse, harassment, threats, stalking or anything else, and want to talk directly to a female officer who will listen and help (if you want it), here is the name of an Ottawa officer who has been helpful to sex workers in the past: Sergeant Patricia Ferguson Sexual Assault Section Tel. 613-236-1222, ext. 5463 Or, to anonymously report to the police any kind of bad behaviour you've experienced: Bad Date Line Call 1-800-303-5407 - anonymously. http://www.ottawapolice.ca/en/ServingOttawa/SectionsAndUnits/saca/baddateline.aspx From Ottawa Police Services: Working in the sex trade can make you a vulnerable target, and predators count on the fact that you may not report crimes against you. We need your help to identify and track serial and predatory offenders. The anonymous reporting system is for individuals victimized while engaging in the sex trade. By calling the toll free number (1-800-303-5407), you will be prompted to leave a message regarding the details of your assault along with as much of an offender description as possible. Information gathered could be the missing link needed in identifying a serial predator. The anonymous and free Bad Date Line gives you an opportunity to report sexual and physical assault without revealing your identity. For more information about the Ottawa Bad Date Line, download their pamphlet (PDF, 206k). The Ottawa Police Service understands the desire of victims to remain anonymous and supports the Bad Date Line in an effort to identify potential serial offenders preying upon victims who they believe will not report the attack to police. The Bad Date Line does not subscribe to caller ID and no attempts will be made to identify callers. It is preferred that victims contact police directly to report an assault so that a proper investigation can be conducted and ensure a predator is removed from the street. Ottawa Police treat all victims fairly and equitably. If you wish to speak with an officer regarding an assault or receive more information regarding the investigation process, you may contact the Sexual Assault Unit directly at 613-236-1222, ext. 5944.

Dear client, I am excited to see you and spend time together. I am excited to get to know you a bit. I want to know you well enough to get into your head and give you an amazing, hot session. I appreciate it when you let me in a little and share some things about yourself and who you are. What I don't appreciate is when you drop a bunch of casual bigotry on me in the midst of socializing and getting to know each other. I don't expect you to have the exact same values as me. For our brief time together that's not important. What I do expect from you is a modicum of consideration, social awareness and self filtering. Just enough so that if you have opinions on black or brown people, or "the gays", or poor people, or any other group that you don't belong to, you have the sense to keep those opinions to yourself for an hour. I expect you to realize that these opinions might be offensive to others and that sharing them is jarring and rude. I expect you to realize that you don't actually know me, and that I or my loved ones might be part of those groups that you think so poorly of. I want to have fun with you when we're together. I don't want to get into an argument about racism or sexism or homophobia or anything. I certainly don't want to have to choose between ending our session early or getting intimate with someone who has just made me very uncomfortable. I'm sure you're a complex and multifaceted person and there are many wonderful, fascinating, enjoyable, positive things you could share about yourself. Stick to those, as I do when I talk about me, so that we can both enjoy each others' company. Thanks, Your service provider

Carrie, I am quoting you but my comment is not directed at you ;) We all draw the line somewhere, and as you stated, that line varies from person to person. To each their own. I am not going to debate the rights and wrongs of BBBJs (or DATY or kissing) and risk levels but I will say this: As an independent human being, I do not want nor need the government telling me what I can and cannot do in the privacy of a bedroom, as a companion with a patron or as a grown woman in her private life. Whether or not I receive money when sharing intimate time with someone is no one else's business but mine. I value my rights and freedom of choice. (I hope my post makes sense)

I would like to give a HUGE thanks to Gabriella Laurence. I am new here and she has gone above and beyond to help me get going on this site. There's a real sense of community here and I'm glad to be a part of it!!! xoxo Brooklyn Scott

I really hope this comes off the way I mean it and not abrasive. I can squirt, and get as many ladies I am sure am asked this question. Just because I can, doesn't mean I can do so on demand. I an not a machine or a circus clown. If you choose to spend an hour or so with me and this is something that important to you it really stresses me out to have you try and make this happen. Please think before you try to make this part of our date. Women are human beings and as such please don't force this . Perhaps a gentleman can last for hours or have several fantastic orgasms in a certain time frame. Great, but I bet no man would want to be pressured into doing so on demand. If I may borrow RG's line. K's rambling's.

I think it's really important to think of risk as existing on a spectrum, because really, every time we have contact with another human being, there is some risk of some infection. So rather than think of things as a risky or not risky binary, it makes more sense to look at things as more or less risky, recognizing that all things entail risk. Even if you use condoms, dental dams and gloves and avoid kissing entirely, there are still infections that can be transmitted through skin to skin contact, such as herpes, HPV, syphilis, chanceroid, molluscum, etc, plus infections that aren't considered STIs, like MRSA. Every action and choice we make in life has associated risks and benefits. Ideally, we can have enough accurate information to know the risks, and assess what the benefits are to each of us, so that whatever choice we make, it's an informed one where the benefits outweigh the risks for that particular individual.

I like mine, it depicts the type of guy I am, and it's one of my "several" favourite sex positions plus I've had since inception of avatars. It will remain with me until my time is up here.;)

I use one for my email and I find it is an advantage, I have that it may take up to 72hrs for a reply. That way when I have ME time or am travelling no one can get all cranky that i did not reply. Jessica is right I have mine set for 1 reply per hour to the same address, plus its like a receipt so the gentleman contacting myself knows I received the email.

Everyone has their own limits. Some people are unmoved by any amount of factual data. Statistical modelling is interesting but we are governed more by emotional response than logic. Flying on an airline is statistically safer than driving but we still drive.

Trish Ferguson is a very good, discrete, and kind police officer who truly cares about sex workers and does the best she can with the tools she has. She is a good person to reach out to if there are any problems... ..but yes, hopefully no one needs to call her. Thank you for posting this Em! Nat xox

Was just in last Monday for regular screening at the local SHC. I asked the nurse about the stories going around about "incurable" gonorrhea... yes it does require use of different drugs as the bug mutates, but currently in Canada, there are still drugs that do the job, for genital infections oral antibiotics are the norm, oral or anal infections are treated using injections. Some places where there is a problem, intravenous treatment is the standard practice. Also of interest is that syphilis is becoming more prevalent again.

I have no problem with escorts removing their phone number from ads. I actually prefer e-mails for first contact. Nothing worse than calling someone by phone and catching them off guard, or at a bad time, or not at their best. I have no problem with the lady saving my cellphone number to her cellphone. Just anticipate that I will do the same with her cellphone number. On a side note: Texting lingo and internet abbreviations are fine if you are contacting friends or associates - contacting a potential client or SP is not one of them. IMHO.

I find these kinds of threads about BBBJ really irritating. Not because conversation about shared intimacies and health matters shouldn't be had, but because of how talk about sucking dick quickly shifts into the 'politic of the ick' (a term coined by sexologist Carol Queen). I will speak for myself. I love making out, I love having my pussy licked, I love sucking cock, alot of the time BBBJs and CIM (oh yeah baby), and, yet I do not identify as a PSE at all. Not a meaningful term to me. I'm GFE all the way. I do not make clients wear a dental dam to give me oral, and I do not put saran on my face when playing tonsil hockey. There are plenty of service providers, including popular and highly reviewed SPs who do not do BBBJ (understandable, and a very personal decision), but the idea of being concerned over providers 'being compelled' to provide BBBJs, and then omitting the way we normalize and by and large broadly accept DFK and DATY as meaningful and commonly provided services inherent to the work, (providing GFE), is problematic. Assessing the risks, negotiating the fun to be had, and getting regular health checks including throat swabs is a must. Let's not turn all SPs into victims of risky clients, and let's focus on empowering workers to enjoy working conditions where they can refuse work they deem unsafe....not to mention increasing access to non-stigmatizing STI health screening, and ongoing education. Signed, Cum lover

I see you were in the MLL.... I LOVE when I get that message. I have found that only happens on occasion at Pearson, and that disconnecting from the internet, and rebooting the laptop does help (but not always) (if your on a mac delete the previous saved data valet internet connection and start from scratch works too). Heck they even consider a site called the frisky to be porn related and its far from it.

It's utterly disgusting, look at the recent tweets from those idiot fans from Boston Bruins against PK Subban. One would think that racism was not this visual in today's society, then we have assholes from Boston and Donald Sterling. Needless to say these idiots probably didn't even know that Willie O'Ree broke into the NHL in the 70's with the Bruins, or in fact PK's younger brother was drafted by the Bruins. Theses types of behaviour are seriously unbelievable and from " dickheads" that have no understanding about what is correct and acceptable behaviour in today's society. Being a huge sport fan, I've lost a lot of respect for other fans/owners who think they can share their thoughts with society through media or other means.

Actually... I think this misses the core of the problem. Although people realize that something is offensive, they lack the self-awareness to understand that they fall into this category. How many times have you heard someone say, "I'm not racist, but..." or "I have friends who are gay"? It's so common that it's a parody of itself. To take the concrete example that springs most immediately to mind: look at Donald Sterling. Utterly racist, despite his ownership of a basketball team and having a mixed-race mistress. And yet... he doesn't consider himself racist. At all. You couldn't make it up... but there it is, played out in front of the world. This isn't a problem with clients, in particular. It's a problem with people, and with society. It's improving, but that's a slow process.

And not taking away from the original post, but ladies have a section/friends within the community to verify the possible gent for a session. The crudeness, if we really want to call it that, or crass, or whatever word anyone wants to use, whatever advertisement works, kudos to those that use their type advertisement. It never has struck me about more of it or less, it's always been around and to be perfectly honest, 99% of advertisements on here have my attention :) Carry on you sexy ladies of Cerb ;)

I don't care either way. The only thing I get from it is that the lady in question has had one too many "WHY HAVEN'T YOU REPLIED YET? I EMAILED YOU A WHOLE THREE MINUTES AGO!!!!" mails.

Another recommendation for Trish Ferguson, she is truly invaluable.

I don't have much of importance to add to the thread, but... When I look to meet with a lady, and this is only me, I'm not really looking for services, or how those services are performed. I'm just looking to meet her and enjoy our time in whatever way she's most comfortable. But, I understand not all are like me, and I guess that's where issues start to come up. And for what it's worth, I haven't had a covered BJ in probably 20 years, but had one last week and if felt just as good. So....

It's not the least bit silly though to draw lines as to what is the level of comfort to take where risk is concerned.. I draw the line at BBBJ.. but I enjoy daty.. so that's my level. Some choose BBBJ but no CIM. Some enjoy BBFS and this is where 95% of us I'd say draw the line at level of risk.. Some enjoy BB anal.. and that's where those who offer BBFS may draw the line.. BB anal is definitely riskier than BBFS.. Wherever your line is... your choice. At least for now anyway. In Australia.. BBBJ is illegal for providers to provide as part of the service in certain provinces. I believe Queensland? last I looked..

the repetitive texts and phone calls is what got to me. If you can't take the 2 minutes to read my website to find out more about me,what is going to make you think that i am going to spend 6 hours defining everything in my website to you just because you don't have the time to look at it! If your going to look at my site, great! But at the same time, take the time to see if I am compatible to you before you contact me. One person turned me down JUST because of my location, I was in a $600,000 condo in Dartmouth, but all he saw was Dartmouth and assumed it must be a run down area! Don't be turned off just because of a location, I happen to be in an area better than some high priced hotels in Halifax, but just across the bridge from it, basically, 'don't knock it till you've tried it'! It's what I offer inside my location that should count, not the area I chose to reside in.

The justice minister says that prostitutes are vulnerable and have no options. If I had not known what the topic was, I would have thought that he was describing retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers. Have you seen those people at work? The typical business will have a manager who makes the workers do stressful work at an unrealistic speed for several hours. The workers are forced to use scripted language over and over, "Welcome to...", " Would you also like...", "The total comes to...". I think that the work conditions of retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers is inhumane and undignified. In Ontario, retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers earn $10.25 per hour and they get paid for 37.5 hours a week once break times are deducted. That means that retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers earn $384 a week before tax. I think that the police need to prosecute the customer; not the retail sales clerks and fast food industry workers. We need to punish the people who enjoy merchandise and food in exchange for minimum wage. http://www.torontosun.com/2014/04/30/court-will-reject-nordic-model http://news.nationalpost.com/2014/04/27/harper-governments-new-prostitution-laws-will-likely-target-pimps-customers-and-sex-trade-traffickers/

Genetically modified foods, increased use of herbicides and pesticides, superbugs etc. Can't we all just have fun anymore?

I have personally seen and can attest the hottest are: Katherine and Lexy Grace! C'mon guys, back me up!

I recall that one nice SP lady addressed us fans of this activity as "you cunning linguists..."

I think its totally fair and makes complete sense to consider BBBJ along with other services (Greek, DATY, kissing...) part of a spectrum of services SPs have every right to refuse to provide for any reason as a legitimate claim on their rights to optimal health & safety. And, yes, while this thread is about gonorrhea, it's also become about issues of risk relative to BBBJ and other services as well. The NZ model represents the most ideal model in practice which we can draw and build on here in Canada. But, it does not mean a copy and paste approach is warranted. The idea that we will see success by outright banning sexual practices such BBBJ is nonsense. Again, creating markets, and expanding the rights of providers, including those who work for agencies to refuse ANY services they feel uncomfortable (or any client they feel uncomfortable seeing) with is alot more realistic. Aggressive educational campaigns and access to services that promote personal responsibility for ones's sexual health, including clients doing so will be another important piece. Along with increasing access to STI testing....hassle free clinics etc, and better educated and more receptive GPs. To go with this, mandatory health testing will also be a huge mistake despite many people saying it's a great idea, as it will create illegality where it did not exist before....where those disenfranchised from the formal registered system will be on society's shit list....and where all of the blame and medical control will be placed on the bodies of sex workers, instead of on clients and the general population. So, what's the connection between the mandatory testing and regulatory measures against BBBJ? What are we going to do?: Start fining workers who provide BBBJs to their clients?....How do we go about determining their 'risk levels'? Do we start tracking all SPs sexual partners in private to see whose bare cock they are sucking, maybe who they have screwed bareback on their own time and then use that as a reason to say, hey, no kissing and no daty with your clients....cuz you COULD have gonorrhea and/or you COULD give your client herpes. Banning BBBJs is going to create a specter of illegality and stigma. Bad idea! Sex work is not and has never been a level playing field. And standardizing sex acts like McDonald's happy meals is not going to resolve that.

Hmm, I'm not sure I like what you've said here. Advertisements ARE personal expression. Each woman in this industry is unique and our ads provide a first impression into that particular SWers style, as the type of clients they wish to see. If one woman's style of advertising is to be what some may call "crass" (who the hell came up with the rule book on what crass looks like anyway? It seems to be individual perception!) -- what if that IS her being who they are, writing what they feel, saying what they think, being themselves and not needing to fit in a mold? Fairly presumptuous to think otherwise. I am in desperate need of new ads as I'm bored with mine, however the last thing I will do is read through and judge others ads. To each their own!!!

Well I thought about an avatar change and was close to changing it but this guy started yelling at me Saying if I changed my avatar he would bring his brothers, one with a baseball bat and the other who has delusions of being a soldier and the third who thinks he's an assassin Soooo, after weighing my choices, after being yelled at, and running the risk of being shot by an assassin, or ambushed by a soldier, or my knees being the baseball in a ball game, if I upgraded my avatar, I decided to let sleeping dogs lie and keep my avatar the same So that's why this client doesn't upgrade his avatar LOL RG :-)

We all know its going to end whether it's a hour long session or an extended overnight stay, for me reality comes back when you get dressed after your shower, I would have to say my favorite ending was when I came out of the bathroom in a recent situation where the sexy lady was sitting on a chair with nothing on but her pearl necklace she came over to me and gave me a very nice kiss with a hug and said I enjoyed your company very much, I hope I have the pleasure of seeing you again. I walked out the door with the memory of her walking over to me with nothing on but the necklace and for sure I will be looking forward to seeing her again, she was so hot I still have that memory.

I had the pleasure of seeing jewel the other night and I had a very good time.I meet her at the hotel she is staying at not the best place but aint the worst ethier.She has a nice tight body and a cute face and pics are accurate on her site.We started with some cbj and then her on top and then me on top and let me tell you guys this women is tight and wet, it was awesome.We went for round 2 which started with some more cbj action and some digits and she loved it.She got on top again and then we finshed with some doggy style and boy does she have a nice ass.Well if your ever in kinston and want to have a good time call up this little philly because you wont regret it at all.

Am I the only one who feels that the general level of dialogue in the forums has degenerated over the last year or so? I mean, I know we're all adults here, and all here to discuss very adult things, but it seems as though there has been a slide towards coarser and more vulgar language, to the point of it being almost offensive. I'm definitely not some kind od shrinking violet, and I have no problem with a certain degree of vulgarity. My favorite authors are some of the most disgusting writers, in a strangely eloquent way (Warren Ellis). But frequently reading customers referring to dancers and SPs as "pussy," and reading more and more ads titled along the lines of "cum let me stroke your fat cock until you soak my tits and pussy like a cum canvas" make me wonder if this is really how we would want the industry represented to outsiders. Just a thought.

Oh of course.. I'm not saying I advocate gov't influence.. I'm just stating that it's possible. Same as my feelings in the rates thread.. I want always to be my own boss.. I think if it ever came down to the gov't telling me what I can and can't do with my body.. I'd move to live where I once again had freedom.

Congrats spud! Long time you've been here, hopefully many more... Cheers

For me, without foreplay there really is no point in the main event. And indeed, foreplay can last as long as you want it to, while the main event is called a climax for a reason. The better the foreplay, the more enjoyable the climax.

Im looking forward to seeing old friends, and meeting new ones! Ask about my "saturday special" Open & friendly wanna have some fun and spoil you sexy Wanna have a chat first gimme a call or shoot me a txt 613-265-2505 Available Saturday May 3rd 9am-5pm Paradise Spa&Tanning I look forward to seeing you<3

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Changes are good but not a necessity. I think it's important to keep updated photos and clear and concise information. But ask yourself are you as busy as you want to be? Do clients that view your site compliment it? Do they find it easy to navigate and the information thorough? If so then no need to change if not then make some:)

It's easy to navigate and that's very important, at least to me. I like it the way it is. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. right? :)

Gentlemen do you know what we are talking about or what sizes our cup sizes really represents, or when we describe our beautiful boobs would you prefer us to simply say small, petite, medium, large or very large. What wording would you suggest, or does stating our cup size draw a clear enough picture? Here's a bit of an explanation on sizing- http://lingerie.about.com/od/FitGuide/a/What-Bra-Sizes-Mean.htm

I actually prefer to get to know an SP or Ma by PM or mail first and even then perhaps as said before, do the complete booking that way. Sometimes it's a bit of a chase or a little hit and miss, but well worth it in the end.

Always, Always, I use the lady's preferred method of contact. But I must say I prefer using email, because first off I do plan encounters months ahead, and the ladies I see require screening/verification including a reference. Sending an email allows for me to provide all the required information Second, I live in smalltown, Ontario and besides planning encounters months ahead, no matter where I see a lady it's a long distance call, on a cell phone. Now if the lady I email wants to talk to me I will phone her...I pick a time to call where the call will be discrete for the both of us. But using emails is fine by me, as long as there is a final way to contact the lady to let her know my hotel room number (I like outcalls), be it by text, phone, email, whatever. A rambling RG

I actually like initial contact to be made by email preferably after being able to look at a lady's online (i.e. CERB, her own website) profile.

I for one dislike talking on the phone except for a couple exceptions. In previous careers I was always attached to a phone or a radio or something that made me entirely dislike them. I also have had past issues with cell phone radiation and try to keep it away from my body, especially my head, as much as possible. This for me is the bigger issue. I only have a cell phone for texting, emails and other features I use regularly. I do not put my number in any advertising or on any website and actually removed a website that did and couldn't promise me control over it. I do provide my number to those I have seen and they can use it or not as they see fit. I try to be as accommodating as possible and will use the phone if someone has a reason for it. Mind you, the conversations are very brief.

I have never and will never advertise my phone number. If a client cannot take the time to email me first, and display some patience, then I am not the companion for them. I always share that initial contact is via email, at which time further points of communication will be established. That's just what works for me and everyone really needs to fine what works them!!!! :)

I don't see it as hypocritical (or that that is a fair assessment of risk level, to promote doing bbbjs, for example, i am not isolating your comment, just that it is often used as an attack on sps who say cbj only, but allow kissing and daty) because the risk LEVEL is not at all the same. There is still risk, but you compare two low risk activity with one high risk activity, and it isn't comparable. I also note the talking to the doctor, but my advice is to talk to the experts at an std clinic. Drs. are great at general info, but they are not experts in everything. They will either greatly exagerate or underestimate your personal risk activity. The std clinic professionals are the only ones, when i went in for testing at my regular clinic and std clinic, to ask me about throat swab or how i did oral sex, and pointed out that if bbbjs are done, then they go for the throat (so to speak). I don't think we can underestimate the risk to the sp, not necessarily the client, in a bbbj. She is the recipient, not he. I do think it is a moderate risk for clients, tho, not high risk but not no risk or low risk either. On the topic, tho, i doubt if it will change how many sps give or do not give bbbjs. I think the ones that do not now are mainly the ones who don't do it because they won't accept the risks, and the ones who do it the vast majority don't know the risks, they are allowing someone else to tell them, whether they are foreign workers or just younger workers, they aren't finding out for themselves the std facts. What is the most common thing available at an agency? bbbj. Is this service a condition of employment? Is it a condition of getting bookings or recommendations when sp is new to the agency? Some agencies have been reported that some services are mandatory, including high risk services. The only thing that this report will help is if the industry was regulated by Occupation Health and Safety lol I wouldn't call this an 'end' to bbbjs, but a 'return' to how things used to be. bbbjs are only common now that everyone thinks that there is a cure for HIV and/or that it isn't transmitted that way. as the OP points out, HIV is not the issue when it comes to oral sex, everything else is, and those things, untreated are evey bit as life or health threatening as HIV.

I can live with CFS and CBJ. I have never had a BBBJ so I don't know what I am missing there. But I could not go without daty. Even the concept of protected daty seems like - whats the point. To give up kissing - not going to happen. Practice good hygiene several times a day, and talk openly with your doctor on a regular basis. Stay educated, play safe, choose SPs and other sexual partners wisely, and decide what risks are acceptable for yourself. IMO. Final word - respect the other persons boundaries and limitations. Do not question their choices or push them where they do not want to go.

It was very easy to change my avatar picture, 30 seconds to search google, and ten seconds to upload it. I don't see the point of not having your own avatar, it makes it easier to spot people's posts, it distinguishes you and sets you apart from other people. Who wants to be a boring question mark, when you can be anything else? you could be a celebrity, a car, a beach, a drink, favorite tv/movie/game character, anything.

It's silly, but sometimes when I'm reading about the business and the experiences of hobbiests, this song keeps popping into my head. Never thought I'd be quoting Julio Iglesias and Willie Nelson. I'm starting to live up to my username now....crap. :p

I remember a very fine session with a wonderful mature lady. We sat on the couch afterwards. I was clothed. She was naked. We talked of lazy silly things that don't really matter much. Family, travels, things that humans do. We shared some chuckles. I took and stroked her hand, arm, face and thighs. I looked her in the eyes. I made a friend just then. It was delightful, relaxing and just plain loving. A subtle thing to share with another. A friendship can be fragile indeed. A valuable experience that I will take with me.