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I passed all my courses, which means I finally get to graduate after putting it off for so long! Woohooo :)

Discretion on both sides needs to be respected. I think every lady I've seen on a regular basis knows my real name and where I work. They could reach me easily and with little effort. That is an element of trust, and was earned. Having said that, I've never been particularly interested in knowing the real identities of the women I see, although I do know some details about their real lives, which they have chosen to share. I would be very hesitant to give my name to someone I had never met before (although I have done it a few times, in part because of their presence and profile on this board made me feel I could trust them). As I said, that trust is earned through the development of an ongoing intimate business relationship. This is precisely why there are verification processes and references for initial meetings.

I guess it's that professionalism I am seeking. It's not easy to find...show up at an incall...messy bed, unclean/unfit bathroom. Smell of smoke...or too much scent... Overall I think that you do get what you pay for, so for me, someone advertising low rates means the service/environment/attitude will match.

Just from personal thoughts, I expect not everyone wants to be part of a community or to interact in certain ways. I'm sure there are those who enjoy doing their own thing in their own way without any rules or restrictions. There are certain expectations from being on a forum like this such as posting and interacting. Many question when someone has been here for awhile with no posts or still in moderation. All that can be done is to get LYLA out there and/or try to attract more people via word of mouth (IE: if you see a new provider or a new client). Forums like this are definitely a safer way to go and offer more support for everyone.

Yes, thank you Berlin! Historically, the medical profession has made an industry of producing expert knowledge based on ideas of sickliness and deviance and suffering, and sex workers, who have struggled for voice in having their experiences accounted for and counter narratives respected, have been a key group to be made subject to this paternalism. A reality that is very hard to change without destabilizing the basis of expert power accorded to medicine.

How did this thread go from divulging a real name to psychopaths and so on.... Perhaps sticking to the initial topic would be best

I prefer the woman i'm being intimate with calling me by my real name. So much better than them screaming out "You are the best I've ever had Johnybird!!!!" lol! ok maybe i'm exaggerating the actual quote and the enthusiasm behind it, but you get the just of what I'm saying ;) It's such a beautiful sunny day today -

Because doctors hold the same prejudices about s ex work as anyone else.

The diagnostic criteria for psychopathy and borderline personality disorder are NOWHERE near the same. Not at all. I don't know what articles you are reading, but for one, Wikipedia is not always the best source of information. Best, Someone who has studied psychology.

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LOL if you want a real name, get a girlfriend. Ladies choose to protect their name because we want to avoid stalkers, harassment and good-clients-gone-bad. I am sorry (not) that it ruins your fantasy. FANTASY being the keyword here. Some of us require the client's real name to avoid this exact same individuals mentioned above.

It's too bad more SP's in Halifax area don't use this site. It would be safer, as well as a better way for them to have an interaction with clients.

Oh Geez! I hadn't even noticed I was in the Nova Scotia thread LOL! I'm a long way from home :) .

I agree with you here that this site could be utilized more by sp's in the area. Albeit, not all sp's would want to be on here, due to the fact that we are a community that garners the well being of the client as well as that of the sp. Many of us advertise on other boards and/or sites also. I, for one, advertise on bp and on other sites, but find that many of the sp's on bp are not who they say they are. Just today I found two ads, connected to each other, that were using fake pics of playboy models and Bulgarian sp's. WTF! Be yourself! When you come to the location of a lady on Lyla, you will be greeted by a lovely lady. Her surroundings will have fresh amenities and will be a comfortable and relaxing place to spend your time. The pictures you view on her ads/profile will also be of her, not some random pic pulled from someone else's page or that of a well known celebrity (some people have no idea when it comes to this). The ladies of Lyla are professional, it reflects in our ads, our profiles, our websites and our demeanor. You will find this out when you contact us, we treat you with the utmost respect when you contact us the way we wish to be contacted. There is too much bs on other sites sometimes, but we advertise because it gets us out there. I have found Lyla to be a great community to belong to, lots of great advice, information and fine gentlemen and ladies. We take care of each other and look out for each other, a wonderful place to be. The saying is true 'you only get what you pay for'. If it looks too good to be true, it usually is. My favorite saying, if it looks cheap, it is cheap! Attitude goes a long way in this business. If I have a great attitude, gentlemen will appreciate that. If I offer substandard service, then I am doing myself, and the gentleman, a disservice.

She's using playboy models Devin Justine's pics. http://www.pbgals.com/cyber/devin-justine/ Her 'duo' pal, 'Summer' is using Bulgarian escort Amalia's pics http://topescortbabes.com/escort/Malia_30582?18plus=true Since I sincerely doubt Playboy models are working in Halifax, and Bulgarian escorts are holding current ads in Sofia,Bulgaria, I have seriously doubts these two are anything real. Completely fake pics again.

Tampa v mtl will be a good series, should go to game 7... With mtl winning ;) A few surprises for me, thought van city and st Louis would have advanced.

Seen her twice already. I can't remember the acronym( starts with a Y?), she/we rocked our world today for the hour again. Today we even skipped the first shower and got into the heavy, was the full hour till we did finally go into the bathroom. No it was not mechanical....service wise. She's a beauty, if you like tall and high end "suicide girl" like tattooed woman with confidence, and a body to play for. She is probably mid 20's and looks very similar to the photos in the ad. Head to toe she is scrumptious....sensual, soft and well manicured. Had to pass this along, I know it's her present profession she deserves the credit. http://winnipeg.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/new-beautiful-asian-girl-k-100-real-visiting-winnipeg/2290032

agreed with the other post. go see 1 MA 1st, then go get a duo once you've done that. best of luck :) fyi Annapurna, that would be me that posted the duo reco for Khloe & Skylar :)

Woke up this morning after 7 numbers being given to me in a dream specifically for lottomax which appeared on the ticket in the dream. The dream was so clear that i was able to remember them all in perfect order and wrote them down. Then I went and bought a ticket. :)

OMG WOW!!!! I just want to thank every single one on this thread that took the time out of their day to wish me a happy birthday yesterday!!! It really meant a lot to me seeing this today!!!!

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Finding out that someone you THOUGHT was a friend, is not a friend at all!! Finding out from others that they played the same game with others to just get ahead:( Even sucks more that I knew nothing about it, it was brought to my attention! wow, talk about rose colored glasses! hahaha Sucks to trust sometimes:( Additional Comments: Thanks everyone! So nice to have community isn't? I feel so much more loved and like a tight community knowing that we all support one another when things go wrong! So many of us here have supported one another for years, it is comforting to say the least! Things that DON'T suck...lol...xo

I'm going to be blunt and I'm sure quite a few of you will get your jockeys in a bunch, but it needs to be said. 1. No one cares who you are. The majority of you are not high-profile enough to matter. 2. The paranoia around us getting hacked or your info leaked because we lost our phone or some other ridiculous scenario you come up with to avoid taking responsibility for your own actions (eg. contacting s ex workers) is so entitled to me. Has an escort ever been hacked in the history of the internet? NOPE. 3. You can't have it both ways; you can't expect us to provide high level customer service like remembering little details about your life, interests, etc and not expect us to keep info. 4. If you think we're going to extort you or some other malicious action, you need to seriously re-evaluate how you think about s ex workers and your participation in this industry. 5. Your privacy, your personal life, your marriage--none of that trumps my safety. My life is on the line when I invite men into my space. It is not my responsibility to make sure that your wife doesn't find out, or your children or your boss or whoever. 6. It is in my best interests to keep your info private and secure, my reputation and business is on the line. All of which is to say, give us the info we ask for, or move along, but quit whining about it. *drops mic*

End April with a Laugh.... http://emilyrushton.com/blog/?p=1088

Well I can't recommend Lyla to the ladies I see...because the ladies I see are already on Lyla and it's because of they are here that I contacted them and had date(s) with them ;-) A very few times that I saw ladies off of other boards, well I couldn't suggest they join Lyla. They were just suspensions/bans in the making...in fact two are suspended from Lyla LOL This board is a community, not just an alternative to BP. And not trying to be elitist, but it's not for everyone RG

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Not sure what your point is with this post. As it mentioned they dated for months. Unless I'm misunderstanding and reading it wrong. Most who date know one another's real names.

The other poster was right. Trying with one MA is a good way to start. That said, I wouuld recommend Maya and Kelly at Angel's as well as Julia and Khloe at Vibe. I haven't met Skylar at Vibe yet, but a poster mentioned her and Khloe as a duo.

The port city of St. John's is also a great place to visit... hint... hint... lol Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

So so true, I love it that every time I see the same person my date is different. I can't talk for the lady, but the more we get to know each other & the more comfortable we are with each other it just seems like the dates take on a whole new energy and excitement. There is almost a 180 degree difference between the first date and the 3rd or 4th date I've had with the same lady and I love it! :)

I agree with you, sex workers should be added to the list of health professionals, they sure have helped me in more ways than one. I'm happier & definitely feel better, made going through the rough patches a lot easier :) I don't know why the government doesn't just make it legal and regulate it like any other business, This world would be a much happier place. I still don't understand why sex is so evil. Why is it ok for me to watch someone graphically get shot in the head or see a graphic dismembered or burnt body on primetime tv, but god forbid if there's a "wardrobe malfunction" (I hate that word) and you catch a glimpse of an exposed breast with a covered nipple, or even worse, see someone walking around in their birthday suit. Doesn't make sense.

Welcome Lady Faith... I hope you find Lyla as much fun and useful as the rest of us it really is a great resource. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Hello everyone, I actually feel quite nervous posting this. Which I must confess seems rather strange. This is Porthos, returning back to this wonderful community after nearly a year away. Yes, it is true, you never can really leave. It feels wonderful returning, and while I may not be as active as I once was, I'm looking forward to sharing in the fellowship and friendship of lyla (I'm going to have some trouble getting used to the new name). I've spent the last few days lurking. Glad to see many familiar faces. Surprised and saddened to seem some that are missing. Reading Tom's (theliquor's) final thread left me with tears in my eyes, and I regret not being here during his final postings. Anyway, enough rambling. As you can see, I've retired Porthos. I decided that perhaps a different musketeer was in order. So Athos it is. for those who know their Alexandra Dumas, they can speculate as to the reasons for the change. Cheers everyone, it is good to be back. I'm looking forward to reconnecting with my many friends here, and making many new friends. Athos

Its days away from May and its snowing... seriously enough....

Welcome to Lyla! It's a friendly place and there's a heap of information and fun threads. You'll feel quite at home here, I'm sure! :)

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Still on boil water advisory. Said it would be lifted by Wednesday...now it looks like it won't be the weekend before the boil water advisory lifted The joys of living in smalltown Ontario RG

Amelia is a good friend of mine, has gorgeous pictures and contributed to the Lyla community for quite some time, your time with her, will be one you will Not forget, she is gorgeous inside and out!

she still has Classifieds on the page for Ottawa, so perhaps it was just some other rules infringement. I think the MOD would remove her references completely if there was anything alarming

Oh Berlin, this is why I admire you so much! Callin' it as it is. I'm 100% with Berlin on this. Sorry guys, but she's bang-on: you just aren't important enough to be a target for any extortion or hacking. We don't give a crap about your profile or status in society, we give a damn about our own safety and how you conduct yourself while you are with us. You can be a cash-strapped student who saved up for two months to visit us, or a wealthy executive and you'll get the exact same treatment and will be held accountable to meet the same guidelines and expectations each of us lays out for our clients to abide by. It's not about you. Truly, we don't care enough one way or the other about you beyond ascertaining if you will be a gentlemen during our time together. It's about us making sure we feel safe and whatever precautions we put in place to create that feeling of safety.

Absolutely. I'm not concerned about anyone deliberately disclosing contact information or anything like that; I'm more concerned about what happens when a lady loses her phone, or puts the Facebook app on her work phone (you *do* all know what happens when you do that, don't you?), or a third party gets in and goes on a fishing expedition. Call me paranoid if you like... but that's why Phaedrus has his own email and phone number. Also: I'd love to assume that anyone we give any contact details to will be professional, responsible and discreet and delete them when they're done with, but... unfortunately this world contains quite a lot of people who are unprofessional, irresponsible and indiscreet. Some of them are involved in this industry, on both sides. Reminders don't hurt :)

I have a real name for those who needs a reality check. Bradley Barton. Bradley Barton was recently found NOT guilty of killing an prostitute by letting her vaginally bleeding to death after, and I quote "rough sex". Bradley Barton is a free man. Hell, as far as I know he could be here posting on this very thread! This world is full of Bradley Barton. He is not an exception. Now before I hear someone wining that not all men are the same, let me tell you something: If "losing" the business of a hundreds clients gives us the chance to avoid only ONE Bradley Barton, we win big time. There is no lost here. Two-way street my ass. Boner vs Murder.... Read the full article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2015/03/30/cindy-gladue-protests-bradley-barton-not-guilty_n_6966806.html

Had my staples removed yesterday morning. CLSC nurse said a portion of the incision margins didn't look just right so she used steri-strips to help until it got better. About six in the evening I felt way too much liquid in my lap. On inspection, found a small tear in my incision had opened and was acting as a drain. Not a doctor, but pretty sure this isn't good. On the advice of Info-Sante, went to the ER. Doc on call was impressed with the McGyver-esque arrangement I'd assembled to keep my insides in. Declared it to be okay enough to get me through the night and said to see my doc in the morning. Just got back from seeing him. All is okay. Keep the site dry. Pick up nothing heavier that 5 (five) pounds. Have a nice life. Which I will do. But I gotta say there was a moment in there that scared the bejeebers out of me!!

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Yeah, that 20 is not a 'tip', it is a sign you need to be more in control of your clients & sessions, to the point of actually telling them 'all good things must come to an end' at the half hour mark. Don't worry about being called a clockwatcher or getting a complaint, this is a guy who knew exactly what he was doing, and pushed to see what he could get away with. I had a friend who actually would stop and collect the extra $$ for extra time when a client seemed to need more or was at that point of going over, because she knew that there was a good chance he would not either have it, or pretend he didn't or 'forget' that he owed more for going over time. regarding a real tip, then repeat biz, being on time, not double booking, not going overtime unpaid, these things help get repeat biz. if you allow one to make you go overtime, and you are not being compensated for it, you get a sour feeling which can affect other client experiences with you. If you allow someone to make you go overtime when you have already set up another appt for a certain time, and this overtime guy didn't compensate you, you may also miss that 2nd appt and the 2nd guy thinks you are flakey. You get a poor reputation in his eyes as well, he doesn't repeat because he couldn't rely on you to be on time for prearranged appts. Those loser guys who make you go overtime then don't compensate do a lot of damage, being called a clockwatcher for allowing a guy to only stay the time paid for is just something to ignore. If someone asks when first contacting you and they use that term, just decline the appt. Anyone who mentions it or asks about it, to me, is a clockwatcher, who watches the clock in order to try to stay longer than the paid amount of time. All new sps get the predators. It would be better to not use any words in any of your ads that indicate you are new to the biz or young, because that is when they come out of the woodwork lol

I am not sure there is a definitive answer on this it is very subjective I think. For me personally I can't say I always tip but have on occasion... I will more regularly bring a small gift perhaps wine or lingerie or even some flowers especially if I happen to know what the lady likes but to be honest It's not something I do all the time. If the lady is someone who I have seen more regularly I have been known to be generous on a more regular basis but to be honest never really thought of it as tipping... more just something I like to do. I don't think ladies expect tips or gifts but I have never seen one disappointed by one.... and let's face it the lady's we meet go to great lengths to make us happy too. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Tips are like the business itself, unpredictable. Getting them or not isn't necessarily an indicator of anything, nor is their amount. That can vary greatly. None of us ever expect them but certainly appreciate them. When I'm given a tip it causes me to believe I've surpassed his expectations, I hope:) If a gentleman overstayed his welcome by a 1/2 hr then he should have offered you a half hour fee, if you have one, but that's just my opinion, but both should be aware and are responsible for keeping track of the allotted time.