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As someone who suffers from PTSD, and did once almost end it all by my own hand...articles like this just break my heart. I know too many soldiers who have taken their own lives over the last decade, no soldier should ever have to suffer alone. http://blogs.ottawacitizen.com/2011/12/10/18-u-s-military-veterans-commit-suicide-every-day/

This is really sad. It seems to me that this also has to do with the way out society undermines traumatic events in people's lives and stigmatizes and neglects mental illness which results in people going untreated etc. additionally, as a culture, if we had the tools to support people going through things like this (I.e if we were taught in school what signs to look for and ways we can help instead of do more damage) then a lot less people would take their lives. My thoughts go out to the families and friends who have to live with the guilt and horror of losing someone to suicide. And also to the people who took their lives that were in so much pain that they made the choice to take their lives in order to rest in peace. Xoxo

Actually I no longer consider it to be a misfortune. The whole thing has made me a much stronger person and a much more caring and approachable officer. It also has helped me notice the signs of stress in soldiers quicker, so I can get them help right away and they won't have to go through what I did.

I'm not sure why you think this is a message that needs to be heard? Other than RG reminding you about not saying anything if you do not have something nice to say, you are showing a lack of discretion that is part of the interaction we have with the ladies. Whatever you say you may have heard in the privacy of their establishment should not be fodder for public gossip.

I will do no such thing...it is a private matter, and will remain so. Also, my choice of friend's is my business. End of rant!

This is an interesting thread. I think SPs and MPs are just like any other independent business woman. As such, they get to make the rules they run their businesses by. If the rules are clear and discussed at the time of booking or available online or communicated by email/ PM (you get the idea), then those are the rules. I may not like them, but as a client, I have a choice. We, as clients, get to vote with our feet and SPs/MPs get to define their working rules. It's the simple. My dentist and most of my doctors charge a steep cancellation fee. I am aware of it and when I book an apt, I am agreeing to their terms. If I cancel last minute or am a no-show (it's happened twice), the fee was raised. Once it was ultimately waived (because of the context) but that was unexpected and I did not ask - I just explained the situation and it happened. The other time, I paid, and after the initial human response of being ticked off, realized it was totally appropriate. These women don't owe us anything - they are running a business. It may often be in their best business interest to be flexible/forgiving, but not always. It's their call. Ok. That's my two cents.

You're obviously now just trying to cause trouble, attention seeking or stirring the pot twice? What is your point exactly? You got our attention on the first comment. Please keep your poor attitude for other places that thrive on possible slander and gossip. There's another site for that and it's not here.

It might be, if you weren't a serial canceler. And almost always last-minute. It gets tiring Jayrock. :(

How can you say it's a private matter if you keep posting about it publically?

Thanks to everyone who attended and those who contributed as benefactors Santa, Old Dog and the many helpers who include and not limited to Shortcake, Loneskater, Cat and Lonna Lux (for making sure the toys went to where they were supposed to be going), etc. I'm glad everyone had a good time.

I'm with you Roamingguy. And when I read posts like the one previous to yours, it makes me feel for the ladies and the contempt that sometimes is directed at them.

Well they can still laugh and call me a loser behind my back (said sarcastically, I don't for one second believe ladies laugh behind our backs), I'm going to keep tipping/gifting. And it's what happens face to face, privately in an encounter is what I tip/gift give for. And frankly, I think your full of it. An SP/MA appreciates being treated like a lady by a gentleman, it makes what is her livelihood, an enjoyable and respectful time. Why would she laugh at someone showing her respect The gift, a little token of appreciation. The tip, well it helps the lady pay the bills, put food on the table, offset expenses, or just buy something she wants I think you just wanted to put a rationalization (an unwanted rationalization) out here probably to justify that (I assume), you don't tip/gift give Do you really think your negative comments necessary? RG

I've overheard MPAs laughing at the guys who bring gifts. Sure they like them; what girl doesn't. They'll still laugh and call you a loser behind your back.

Sounds like both sides of the story are out. A once "life happens" cancellation is one thing, but serial cancellations, not cool, not cool at all...shows at bare minimum a disrespect for the lady's time, she could be seeing a paying client instead of waiting around for someone who doesn't show up If you want to be treated with respect, you have to treat others with respect too RG

Keep it alive folks! I totally cried

https://www.americanchia.com/?rtag=chiaobama& Why wasn't I surprised RG

I noticed that I rarely start threads. I should say that I am so often overwhelmed by all the activity on this site it takes me many hours to go thru the pages and pages of new posts, and even if I only select a few to read, there is always so many interesting things to see and possibly comment on. Sometimes I am late to the party, tho, and the topic is closed lol. So my topic of the day is something I am going to copy from part of a sentence posted. Now, I think we have all seen a similar request, on many sites and thru many years, but it is how it was dealt with that concerns me most about this one. So typically, when an sp knows you might post a reco/review somewhere, and specifically says this, what is it you would do? After a short description of who, what and where, the end of the post is this And my question is based on the second part of that sentence, and the numerous replies to it, which was: Does anyone else get disturbed by the fact that the OP is going to provide details the sp specifically asked him not to, not that she said 'don't make it public', but that she said 'don't do it".? And as I mentioned, this is definitely not specific to cerb, as I have seen it happen quite a few times. There are some exceptions, where the OP says he isn't providing details, then a bunch of posts follow asking him to send pms with specifics, to which he comes back and says, even more firmly and a bit annoyed, that he isn't going to do that because she asked him not to.

If you are able to get an erection 'at home', then that covers that issue. If it is just in session, then there are a few options. The main one is stop thinking inside the box, and go only for hj and/or bj (but with a FS provider). This is someone that you are going to keep visiting a few times, you will be 'working your way towards" FS. If your first couple of visits are stress free of performance worries, as in if you aren't trying to do FS there is no need to worry about erection, you can relax and enjoy the process. Make sure who you choose is willing to provide GFE non-full service so that eventually she is going to be able to carry on when you are ready to try FS, plus you have all the GFE fun without the stress of performance in FS Also remind yourself that sps don't judge. It isn't that important to us how you cum as long as you do, so you don't need to be concerned about 'impressing' us with proficiency and/or stamina in FS. For myself I would rather that you were relaxed and cumming in a hj than stressed and anxioius and not cumming in FS attempts. i also find a lot of newcomers get more anxious when a condom is involved, i imagine it makes them think even more about what is about to happen. So going with hj only, no condom involved, eliminates that barrier to finishing as well. You don't even have to be fully erect to cum with hj, for example. Once you get comfortable with an sp, you will be able to start doing or trying FS. You may also want to choose an sp who does erotic massage to start sessions. When the mind and the body are relaxed, you are more likely to be ready for a more erotic encounter.

I happen to know Julia (JuliasUndies) has very good erotic writing skills Still "bothered" (in a good way) by them RG :-)

Bringing out the bad in JuliasUndies ;) Thank god we all know that "Julia's Undies" is a handle otherwise that statement would sound rather strange :p

LOL. You are more than welcome to it.

Would you talk dirty to me :-) RG

The emotions a dog can display in it's eyes,gets me everytime,they are amazing,nothing better than a dog!

I eat chia seeds every day. Amazing health benefits - and I am generally quite skeptical about such things....

thank to all for a great social. it was my first and definetily not my last. even do i was the shy one in the corner i got to talk to some nice gents and lovely ladies. will try to be more pro active at the next one.

Well...I have a few very different talents. Although somewhat tone def and two left feet at times, I am not certified nor have I ever considered a class but apparently have magic hands when it comes to massages. I enjoy doing characters from tv' show's and cartoon characters at times. Now who else can claim they can do the chipmunks, giggle like elmo and laugh like Scooby Doo? I also have the most amazing memory for names, dates, places and birthdays even of people I have only met once..yeah "weird talent" I guess.

I needed this thread. Was feeling traditional caroled out.

What does "Christmas spirit" have to do with the topic at hand Pete? Seems like a needless hijack. Kim

I find there's a difference between not being monogamous and cheating. The word "cheating" in itself implies deception. From what I've gathered from your previous posts your hubby knows what you do and is ok with it. And I assume he knows you enjoy it, only because I would hope he wouldn't be ok with you doing something you don't enjoy. So no, I wouldn't call it cheating. But at the same time I don't think I'd call it entirely monogamous either. If you're fooling around with other people, with or without the other person's knowledge and consent, for money or for free, then you're not being monogamous. Even if the "fooling around" is not full on sex, you're still being intimate with other people. So no, I wouldn't call it monogamous, but neither am I calling it wrong either......that's just my opinion of what monogamy is. I honestly don't think there's any right or wrong answer to "What is monogamy?" It all depends on a particular person's or couple's views and opinions.

First and foremost, go see your doctor for a complete physical. It's exceedingly common at your age to have a drop in testosterone production with directly impacts performance. Hormonal imbalances affect every aspect of our physiology. Once you have eliminated any physical reasons for your particular challenge then you can start addressing it directly. cat

I think she took advantage of you, and certainly isn't anyone I'ld consider a friend. A cancellation fee is like $50, I am fine with that, but taking the entire amount is just wrong. Could you PM me her name? With ethics like that, she is an SP I'ld not want to give my business to.

Trying desperately to connect to the internet with your new laptop and failing miserably every. Fucking. Time! My pc is successfully connected to the wireless router (which apparently, despite being "wireless" requires a crapload of wires to be plugged into it). But can't for the life of me get a signal. Even my pc won't connect to the internet now, let alone my new "convenient" friggin' lap top! God! I thought technology is supposed to make life easier?? Posted via Mobile Device Additional Comments: When you've spent the last couple months watching an entire tv series on dvd (Quantum Leap to be exact), you're on the last disc....3/4 of the way through the final episode. This is it. The epic conclusion. Will Dr Sam Beckett leap home or not? And the f*?%ing dvd stops playing!!! And no player in the house can read it! It's brand freaking new!!! I just friggin' bought the last season! I've never played this disc before! And there's not a single scratch or smudge on it! Between this and my internet/router issues I'm reaaaaaally HATING technology today. This shit never happened with vhs cassetes! Posted via Mobile Device

Thanks to all that attended and all that supported the night but could not make it out... I do believe that a good time was had by all!!!! It was fantastic meeting all the new faces and reacquainting with all the friends that have been made over the history of these events... it's always a wonderful time to be in a place where you know you belong without any judgment. My special thanks goes out to Angela of Ottawa, without whom none of this could have been possible. Many have thanked me but my assistance was the proverbial tip of the iceberg; Angela was the true engine that drove the social machine. I am so proud to have seen the mountain of toys that we collected, the money and goods that we garnered for the family in Belleville and the spirit of giving that all of us shared last night and in the weeks leading up to the party. We truly are a group of people with heart. Finally... to the unsung assistants that help out at each of these events, my heartfelt thanks. You never get credit, but are always there lending a hand when we really need it. I am of course talking about Shortcake and Loneskater... two of the finest people you could ever meet, and two individuals that I am proud to count among my friends. Merry Christmas to each and every one of you... may the season bring you peace and joy!

Had to look up what BP was. The back page reminds me alot of the craigslist. A lot of the listing were promoted to the cowboy's diary, so I'd stay away from there. I know some of the girls here, some I've seen, also list there too. It is great for volume, but tread with alot more caution when hobbying there.

I have noticed in the past week here on this board, that some tempers have been flared and opinions have been presented. We had a thread closed by Mod, but left people wondering why those comments were made in the first place. Where is your Christmas spirit? We have another thread going on right now, I read it this morning, and YES I stayed out of it, why because that person is so DAM wrong and it is beyond me how some need to 'get their digs in' at other people for no apparent reason. Where is your Christmas spirit? I have been down that path, I have been suspended for 7 days from here,I have been later called out again past August. But, I kept my mouth shut,and seriously have answered nearly 60 pm's from good friends asking where I have been on this board. I think the answer lies within, I just need to stay away from the threads that are mean spirited or a witch hunt after someone, after all I learned my lesson. Well I have been here, and I just do not post a whole lot more on the board because there can be people here that just rub others the wrong way.Where is your Christmas spirit? Well for me, I have a new look on life after losing my mother past early summer, now have had buried both parents. I will post some comments on this board, I will continue to speak to those that are dear close friends. For those that need to get their digs in at others, step back take a deep breath,exhale and ask yourself...... Where is your Christmas spirit? Hope you all enjoy your 26 days before Christmas, peace to everyone, and most of all be nice and hey...make love not war :)

Once upon a very long time ago, I knew this little redheaded girl. She had long curly red hair and creamy skin. A smattering of freckles across her button nose. Her blue eyes bristled with intelligence behind sober spectacles. She was bright, she was funny. She could dress up girly girl but I knew better. She was a tomboy of the first class, and she could out shoot me, out fish me, spin a lug wrench faster than me. We played the same video games, we liked the same movies, we read the same books. We had a lot in common. I would write about her, gentle words I could never say in person to her. She would laugh with a snort if I tried, make fun of me. But somehow she always knew what and when I wrote without my even mentioning it. I liked Red a lot. And she liked me back. But we drifted apart, and I don't know why. We went from being good friends, to just friends, to acquaintances. And one day long ago, I realized it had been a very long time since I'd heard from her. If there has been one thing that this hobby has taught me since, it's that life is full of the moments that memories are made of. And that I should savor them, keep them close to my heart. Be glad I had these moments, and not pine that they have passed by. But I still can't help but think of Red sometimes and wonder what might have been. Wonder where she is. Wonder what she's up to now. .................................................................................................... Years passed. I grew older, if not actually up. And I got on just fine, thank you. That is, I thought I was just fine, until the door swung open one fateful day. Before me stood a little redheaded girl. She had long curly red hair and creamy skin. A smattering of freckles across her button nose. Her blue eyes bristled with intelligence behind sober spectacles. I felt a moment of deja vu, as if I had been teleported back years earlier. I blinked and the feeling that I was there with Red again passed, leaving this stranger standing before me, puzzled by the frozen smile on my face. She did resemble her a little. But as they say, the proof of the pudding is in the tasting. I reached for her, looked into her clear cornflower blue eyes. Our lips touched and our mouths opened slowly, our tongues tripping the light fantastic. I was lost from the first kiss. The years fell away and we started to strip where we stood, frantically pulling at our clothing between kisses. I half kissed, half dragged her to the nearby bed and I pushed her onto it, falling together with her. A momentary pause for the necessary, and we were madly thrusting together, ragged breaths and sighs. Deep groans from me, higher pitched squeals from her. Her hair was flouncing wildly, her face contorted into anguish of the most enjoyable time. She must have seen the same on my face. In a few minutes, it was over. I opened my eyes to see her smiling back at me, dewy perspiration on her brow. I finally spoke. "I'm Birdboy. It's nice to meet you." We laughed at the sudden formality, and that was what truly broke the ice for us. I came back, to my new redheaded friend, a few times over the next few months. We came to get to know each other after a fashion. And I saw that after the surface, the superficial, had been forgotten and she no longer reminded me of Red, she showed flashes of my long lost friend. They had the same quick temper, blowing hot and passing as quickly as a summer storm. They had the same lust and passion for life. They even had a few of the same interests. She came to remind me more and more of Red until I realized it was Carine I now thought of, not Red. The foolish and superficial out there think that this hobby is just about sex. Sure, that is there. And there is companionship, a momentary respite from a lonely existence. But sometimes there's more. Sometimes what you get are not just services, not just anonymous arms holding you briefly. Sometimes what those dollars buy you is a chance to again be that young man I once was, full of hope and innocence. A chance to relive the past, only better. And sometimes, just sometimes, those dreams and fantasies can come true the second time around.

I think that is a bit harsh but again thats your opinion,I personally think she is very attractive and although I am not into women think she has the beauty to do a playboy pictorial.She has been through alot be it because of her own doing,bad chilhood or for what ever reason she is a damaged soul and needs support more than criticism,I personally wish her the best and hope her life becomes easier for her,just my opinion,Cristy

Having no reviews does not necessary mean a bad sign. There are lots of reputable, good SPs who never or rarely get written up. I place the blame on guys who are unwilling to do write-ups. No news can also be good news.

I would say its pretty much true for alot of clients.. They just dont like to share... She has alot of regulars, so for sure theres no issue with her AT ALL. That said, a general comment is members need to get more involved and review on a regular basis, its good for Cerb, and its good for the industry. Its also very good for the morale for all of the ladies. I am sure very few ladies don't appreciate a kind word. This line of work is very emotionally Taxing and sometimes a reco can really give someone a lift. Its a win-win situation... You help out your fellow Cerbites, and you encourage a lady you had a great time with.

I love Heather Carolin. She's not, however, my favorite redhead. My favorite redhead did have an uncanny resemblance to Heather, pictured here. The eyes, the wry smile, the knowing look. This pic could well be of her. I met her in my youth, when I was living in Europe. A musician; our first date was at a concert where she was performing, and I knew right away as I watched her, my eyes riveted on her spinner frame and her every movement, that I was lost. After the concert, I had arranged a party at my flat to celebrate her performance, and she stayed when the other guests left, 'to help me clean up' (she said). I remember vividly the thrill of our first embrace, as I approached her from behind and held her tight, and felt her responding. She turned, and gave me that smile. Then the sparkling eyes, the eyes gleaming as she pleasured me for the first time, a sight I'll never forget. Then my first taste of her, and our rocketing sex. I couldn't keep her long; she had other places to go and things to do. But she's remained an enchanting and a haunting memory all through the years. We met again recently, and the feelings flowed back, as powerfully as on that first embrace. And then she was gone. Next life, if there is such a thing, I get her.