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I do go into chat once in awhile to have a good conversation with ladies and gents. It is a place I have been able to build an initial and respectful connection which has led to a future date. But I've also seen the downside of one bad apple dishing people, getting kicked, and coming back in. This does get tiring. I've also seen quite bold and disrespectful comments/questions in chat that some think are truly fair. Have had a few ladies tell me they stay away partly because they get 'pounced on' the moment they enter. As some have said they come in for a stimulating conversation and get blunt questions about service, requests for webcam, or simply disrespectful banter. For me its a CERB feature I will keep using but totally get why some are turned off. Reality is that these do go in cycles so with the rest of CERB, if we keep it respectful - it will grow in use. Posted via Mobile Device

READ!!!! Don't book an appt and THEN ask for donation requirements, restrictions etc... I would say that most ladies either post their info in their ads and if not they include links to their websites. Some of us utilize the "about me" tab to explain as much as we can. Don't be lazy...get your ducks in a row and everyone will have a much more satisfying time!

Let me be blunt. I don't wanna see your junk on cam. I don't want to be asked to appear on cam (if I am in the mood then it will be on but it will never be put on unless I make the decision). I will not engage in "jerk off" chat. The chat room, to me, is a place to get to know one another and to have fun, good old intellectual fun which seems to be dwindling! It's not a sexual surrogate; atleast not to me!!! So...chatting, as Malika stated, used to be fun but now seems to be like the old AOL sex chat room days. Been there; done that; moved on!

Well if I interpret your post correctly, and I like to think that I do, it seems that you posted on a recommendation thread for a certain SP. The way I understand this post is that you seem to be praising the recommendation itself and (possibly) the SP without ever having met her...am I at least semi accurate thus far? If my interpretation is correct then I can see where some of the members are coming from. Although you probably attempted to praise the writer of the reco. doing so can cause issues. Reco. threads should be left to recommendations and nothing but. A simple faux pas that can happen sometimes, the key is to not do it again now that you know. On that note I will take a minute to caution all Cerb members that we were all "newbies" at one point and undoubtedly we made mistakes early in our Cerb lives that we would not make today. Keep this in mind when we offer our "advice" to members with a recent sign up date and/or low post counts. Having our mistakes pointed out to us is hard enough on the ego let alone the embarrassment of having them pointed out in a public forum.

I think the main thing is that we can't apply the same brush to all sps. There are escorts (who excel at the longer dates, and being companions, plus the intimacy). For those 'elite' courtesan sps, their marketing reflects that. Their professional poses and photos are meant specifically to attract the type of client who is looking for someone who is putting in that extra effort (and investment) into their business. Other sps have to balance the work with school, family, even another job, so investing time and finances into that level is not profitable for them. Even taking an evening or weekend away from their other life is not possible. Even age or style of service is a factor. For sps like me, it doesn't actually make sense to have pro photos, websites etc. On the topic of words, words in advertising are extremely necessary. As mentioned, someone using 'elite', a client pursuing more information, discovers the rates are out of his range. Even before that, he has an understanding that the word would mean her rates would be out of his range. So the word, in the ad, is doing its job. It sends the signal to anyone that the sp's rates are going to be on the upper end. Just as 'upscale' refers to location of incall, means that the location is going to be very nice. A 5 star hotel type of nice, compared to a Travelodge motel type of OK. 'Classy', imo, is a signal that the sp is not going to tolerate graphic language, and does not provide anything close to PSE or high risk services. Also trying to avoid really rude callers. Sensual, the same sort of impression. Just as 'mature' is used to try to reduce the number of rude and younger callers. Words have the power to convey what the sp cannot show. And they are meant to leave a particular impression and tone. Words that do not work, imo, are "Hottest", "You won't be disappointed", "you'll leave wanting more" (which how that is supposed to be a good thing, I am not sure), "The Best", "#1 in the city", and variations on that theme. Some things cannot be shown, until you meet. These are things that are hard to live up to, and usually result in extreme disappointment.

Here's a sad commentary on today's world, and not at all a blonde joke :) http://video.ca.msn.com/watch/video/blonde-girl-explains-mph/1gl6odaa2?from=en-ca-hpquad

We're lobbying hard for a Monday or Friday to create the possibility of a nice long weekend!

Yes mistakes are easy to make and in more than one way. Indeed one wants to be certain that you are posting in the correct area, but as well, and this is the voice of experience, it is always worth a second read before hitting that submit button. It is also very true that the words that one selects, unless measured carefully, can sometimes be misinterpreted. Try to ensure that every reader will get what it is that you are trying to say. This place can be complex enough without making life difficult for yourself on top of everything else. Welcome to CERB.

Ahhh. I for one like reading your posts Christy. I agree with what you are saying fully, when people have different opinions on a subject they do tend to get a little heated about it and email, PMs and posts especially because of the wider audience are more likely to be taken the wrong way by "someone" that reads it. Making a post is a little like public speaking to a large audience and if there are one or two hecklers and the rest of the audience is involved and interested in what you have to say, then let's just ignore them. But I don't let it bother me ever... I guess it really does bother me that Christy wouldn't feel free to pipe up and give her honest opinion when she has something to say because people might take it the wrong way. Both SPs and their clients look at each others posts to try to get a feel for the other person and I always get a good vibe from what you have to say dear! Just wanted you (and everyone else) to know that :)

About 2 years ago I use to go on the chat on a regular basic , especially during the evening...and it was fun. You pretty much had the same crowd all the time, chatting was fun...but now...more and more people asking you questions about your service (which is fine at some point), but you have way more rude people than before. It's starting to actually be a hassle to go in the chat

Officially spring today! :d:d:d:d

I do tend to agree with you that spring is an aphrodisiac. There is something about spring that awakens the senses, changes the way we feel and brings out our mating instincts. As people begin to strip off layers of clothing, our "spring fever" begins to take us over. I love spring, it makes me feel alive again, plus it does mean that women will no longer be all bundled up anymore...I am good with that! ;)

I adore Gabriella because I have recently discovered that she is a caring, generous, understanding, thoughtful, considerate and all-around amazing woman.

I like MisterT because we both have an appreciation for wine, porto and cigars plus he makes awesome cookies :)

I like Gena, as she is a blast to chat with and has similar tastes in music that i do.

It's true, used to be more popular. Seems more so with those in Ottawa and a few other major cities. I don't think I've ever seen a "real" conversation in there. To be honest I avoid chat these days... if there are any ladies around they will ask what you are up to and if there is any interest in meeting and I so hate to have to say no, I'm a 1,000 miles away. Came in super handy once! Once I was in Ottawa starting to preparing to see two wonderful ladies the next day (a guy has to go there once at least, not Ottawa but two ladies at once) and I almost cut myself shaving so I took a break from it and logged into CERB for a few minutes. No new messages to review so I went in the chat room. An SP started chatting with me almost right away (I'm not the sort to initiate a private chat for any reason) and she asked if there was anything she could do for me. Not wanting to waste her time, I very quickly told her that I was already taken and just taking a break from careful preparations (not just personal grooming but also preparing my hotel suite) for the next day. She continued to chat with me (her choice) and it was discovered that she was a former hairdresser, located 2 minutes from my hotel and in the absence of anything else to do right then and now she offered to help at a very progressive fee, an offer that was hard to refuse so I didn't. The power of CERB allowed me to check her reputation and reviews very quickly and easily and realize that she was very reputable and outstanding so I accepted her offer. Poof! She was there in less than 5 minutes, took care of everything, truly wonderful service and having taken care of everything, after a short discussion about how nice a service it was she was gone, mission accomplished. A few weeks later I went back to her web site (like who was that masked lady in the super-woman cape?) only to discover that she now plainly offers a "personal grooming service to help in preparation for that hot date" and of course that wasn't there at the time I met her so it certainly made me smile. Point is chat seems (to me) to be more those that are in a big city and would like to see a lady within the next few minutes... hope I'm wrong about that but that has been my experience with it. I don't think that was the idea behind it but it seems to be what it has become. I just don't go there as I hate to have to say "no thanks, sorry" and I think this is pretty much the reason you find so few there, unless they are in Ottawa and want to say "sure, come on over" to the first lady that comes along in which case it seems fast and easy. And I agree with you Phaedrus, pretty quiet around here lately which seems a bit odd, as more and more people discover this wonderful place I was expecting at some point it to become less wonderful (e.g. too noisy). Could happen yet someday.

Sitting outside, enjoying a drink and a cigar, a couple of months before I was expecting to be able to do so. Hello, Spring!

I recommend you don't tell a lady you picked her because of her big butt!

I like Lee Richards because he always knows what to say to make you smile. :)

This topic always bothers me as photos are a personal choice.This is my second time in this business and what I have learned is like any other successful business a person may run, the old saying "you have to spend money, to make money" is very true. Yes all my photos are professional, yes they are all shot to make me look my best, and yes they are 100% me. They were worth every penny I spent and I will only use photos that are shot by a professional. The whole object of professional or glamour shots is to find a photographer that will keep you - you. (hence the reason I have flown on 2 occasional across the country for photos) I look natural and real in my photos, and I feel better than any cell phone photo would. I want potential clients to see that I invest in myself (website, photos, blog, well maintained (ie: hair, nails,etc) I treat being Emily as if it were any other job that I may have, as in I give 110%. Why should I expect a client to invest in my if I have not invested in myself? The only comment I keep getting about my photos is that I look better in person(this is from men and women), so on that note i will always and only have professional photos done. (look at Victoria Jolie, Emma Alexandra, Keissy Hennessey, Gabriella Laurence, Charlotte Sinclair, Amelia Middleton and Dorinda Bloom) Those are several examples of real tasteful professional photos and all the above women look as good in person as in their photos) At the end of the day professional photos have a bad rep, one that I hope ladies like myself and others who invest in professional photos will help change.

I tend to take a lot of that with a grain of salt. I look for a correspondence between the descriptors and what I read in recos. The only thing is not to overdo. Make sure you feel that the descriptors capture who you feel you are. Also, make sure there is a correspondence between the terms used and the advert overall. Sometimes you see adverts (not usually on CERB) that use terms like "elite" and "classy" and say that you could take the lady to a business function or elite dinner function, yet the ad is full of grammar and spelling mistakes. I'm not a grammar nazi, but it always makes me think, "nope ... I don't think those words mean what you think they do". The ad is how you've chosen to present yourself, so it can be very important how it's done. Porthos

I have found that if the advertisement says she is everything to everyone, I'm less inclined to believe it or take it at face value. If it's all over the place there is no sense of "focus". Of course it's hard to beat a good review (and CERB is a review board first). Who can say they are "the best"? There is always somebody better, but when a review says they are "the best" then I have to accept that they are "the best" the reviewer has encountered. But if the ad uses way too many complementary words, it's either not true or she probably isn't really great at many of them (a true chameleon being the exception), I guess that would be over selling. Of course always use the words "utmost discretion guaranteed" and mean it. I like ads that appear to be honest, tasteful and point to reviews that speak for themselves. They only need to contain the basic information with a "hint" of any thing she might specialize in or be particularly good at. I guess I really view ads as a notice of availability and don't really try to interpret them too much anyways (unless they are way over the top, too good to be true), it's the reviews matched with the availability that the ad conveys that count. Truth in advertising is definitely the way to go. You'll attract the right sort of clients for you and they will give good reviews as their expectations are fully met. My tastes are probably different than many, I'm more interested in the person and how easily I can get to know them on a "professional" level. Others are likely way more interested in services but I can only get interested in that if I like the SP as a person first.

I am back from Toronto....I sign a lease when I was there...a totally awesome new one bedroom apartment :D 3 weeks! also this is my new kitchen. (you can't see but there is a dishwasher)

probably thinking of her soulmate...

I do not usually write comments however being a resident of Moncton, I feel compelled to add a comment. I understand perfectly that if a touring lady has many no-shows in a particular city, she won't be coming back. I absolutely concur with Wrinkledintime that a person can only control his own personal behavior. I do not see many ladies, however when I commit myself I always attend the appointment. If because of unforseen circumstances I would have to cancel, especially a same day cancellation, I would still pay the agreed upon donation to the lady. The lady has reserved time for me and has probably refused potential clients to accommodate me. The least I could do is to compensate her for the lost time. This way, my reputation will still be intact and the lady would be feeling comfortable accepting to see me again in the future.

I have to say that whenever someone contacts me about my ad to ask for "more info" (usually all answered on my site) or to ask questions which have already been answered on my site or ad, it is a HUGEEEEE turn off! I try to remain positive as much as I can but it really irks me. Thank you to those who don't do this though, it makes me really happy and it automatically makes me feel that more comfortable with you if we're meeting for the first time! xo Sky

They are offered for one reason , and that reason is money.... There are a lot of men who come to an end very quickly, and cannot go another round, I believe these are catered to these type of men.... I myself, do not offer these 15 min dates, because: 1)Too rushed, makes me uncomfortable and kinda sorta attracts clients that are cheap, sorry to offend, but thats how I feel-Plus, I am positive, there are many guys who try and take advantage, who go over the 15 mins....Would not like to deal with that.. 2) The wonderful regular clients that I have would be very turned off if I was offering these kind of sessions-I would hate to deter any clients that would actually want to spend quality time with me, due to them being turned off by my 15 min specials