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I must say, I'm slightly bemused by this whole thread :) First up, a general principle: a SP's relationship status is none of my damn business. None whatsoever. I've had one or two ladies have mentioned it to me at times, but it has always come from them; it's not a question I'd ever dream of asking. Secondly, as regards things that SPs may or may not do based on their current relationship status: I simply don't care. I judge SPs based purely on how much of a good time I had while I was with them, and although the specific things that we did or didn't do may be part of that judgement, they're by no means the full story. And if something I care about didn't happen, it doesn't matter whether it's because the SP doesn't ever offer it, or just doesn't do so right now because it's reserved for her relationship with someone else, or just didn't choose to do it with me. Her reasons, whether I consider them good or bad, and whether they be temporary or permanent or spur-of-the-moment, are once again none of my damn business.

I always offer a BFE.....regardless of my relationship status :) Peace MG

I am in a personal relationship and I assure you my service is not the least bit affected. Kissing? You will be kissed and loved from the moment you walk in my door until you leave. This is our special time together and if I were not prepared to give you my 100 percent I would not have my name offered to be of service and be your companion. A lot of the gentlemen I see are married and I do not feel in the least our time is affected by thier personal relationship. Why would this be true for a lady?

As tough as this is sometimes to be said and to be heard, this is the reality of what we do. For example, I do a lot of massage and happy ending, as do all mpas I believe. So are we not also providing a loving and sexy touch to someone, but are we also during this massage and hj expecting to be aroused and intimate at the same time? It doesn't make sense to me that sps expect to be aroused, or expect that the encounters are not primarily about the client's needs. An sp who forgets who is the client and who is the provider might end up very confused when that client, who always had a great time with her, stops calling one day. It's about customer service, a good attitude, etc. It is not about which clients give me orgasms, if it were then I would be in the wrong line of work. And I think this gets missed a LOT. This is sex work, we are sex workers. We are not girlfriends or FWBs or anything else. Men (and women) come to see me to avoid judgment and expectations. They come because they do not want to have to impress anyone, or at least some of them do. What of the minority of men who do have PE and ED? Are they going to be disappointed because they know and understand that it is unlikely that I will get to that required level of arousal to make it 'real"? I hope not, because primarily I am there for their needs, and to provide solutions for their reality. Not for my reality. If something happens, cool, but if not, well, then if I have an SO that is where I plan to get my selfish needs on. But when someone pays me real money, hard earned money, or saved up for a special treat, then why shouldn't the focus be on him? We provide a fantasy service, just because it is sexual in nature doesn't make it love and romance. You can't rent or buy love and romance, but you can rent sexual services in a fantasy setting. I do not understand why an sp would assume she has to have a connection, be aroused or even have orgasms to be fully involved, and therefore cannot provide while in a relationship. A professional companion understands the difference, but we do see a number of talented amatuers put up a sign and collect a fee, without this basic understanding. The clients know the difference between sex and love. So as sps/mps it is even more important that we understand the difference as well.

That's an easy one but takes a small white lie, no big deal. So I rent a room and ask for early check-in (before 1 PM) then at 6 PM when I don't plan to come back again in the morning after 4 AM to check out, I just go to the front desk and say "Change of plans, headed for the airport, checking out now". Note that I realize I didn't say "I'm headed for the airport" but that is semantics, still a small white lie. They never argue (like what's the point? You're going to be 3,000 miles away by the time 4 AM rolls around) :) Also note that I'm not asking if it is ok to check out now (which is suspicious), I offer no alternative, I'm leaving and I'm looking at my watch (perhaps to see if I can make the flight). In fact they usually check you out quickly, ignoring all other activity (like ringing phones) so you won't miss your flight and often offer to summon a taxi but hey, no thanks, I have a rental car and my luggage is already in it, thanks anyway. Have a nice flight sir! Thanks, we'll see you again, bye for now.

Today I got my new leather sectional couch set!! Ohhh so soft and comfy, gonna be hard to get me off this couch now! lol..hard work pays off sometimes:)

If my being involved in personal sexual relationships impacts my services, then I would say that it has a positive impact- aside from the hit that my availability can take, as Cat mentioned, I find that I learn a lot from my lovers- both about what I like, and about how to please them. Besides, having a really good lover turns me on. A lot. I go about my days bursting at the seams with sexual energy. For me, it's not a finite resource- if anything, the more I share, the more I gain.

I suppose I have a bizarre take on this but I think it does add insight to the subject matter in an odd way. When I am spending time with a lady in this setting, sex isn't the real reason, never the only reason and may not (sometimes has not) even occurred. I like the clarity of being able to be myself, it's liberating. Even with a spouse, are they in the mood? Are you imposing? It's expected here and SPs are shocked when our session is over and this hasn't happened. Sometimes I otherwise wouldn't but the SP thinks I am so cute and cuddly she seduces me, what fun! I find personal relationships, even with a spouse, can be a mixture of confusing signals. It's so liberating to spend time with a beautiful, intelligent, wonderful lady and not have to worry about anything as the boundaries or even lack of some boundaries (for those moments or rather hours in time) are so well defined with a "professional" companion. This is in contrast to a personal relationship which is completely different. It might only last 4 or 5 hours at a time but at least for that time I get to take a complete vacation from worrying about anything and just revel in the company of a wonderful lady and we are the only two people in the world for that time. So it is the very lack of a relationship combined with a purely "professional" friendship that makes this so special. Her personal relationships or mine don't have any impact whatsoever. They don't even enter the room.

I agree Emily ... these are some of the same issues that was raised in the thread about cheating husbands, although from a slightly different perspective. It's about separating out concepts of sex, from concepts of love. Sex is about ... well, sex. A physical act of intense pleasure. And all of the things that go along with that are important. Sex without kissing (for me at least), just isn't the same. Kissing someone during sex, however, is different than kissing someone you love. That is because the act is imbued with the emotion when you kiss your partner. A physical act, becomes an expression of an emotion. I fully realize that it can be very difficult to separate those two things out, and this may just be rationalization on my part. But hey, at the end of the day rationalization is how we get through life! Porthos

I personally find it in way any more difficult to be a companion whether I am involved with someone or not. I provide the experience I provide, because I am comfortable with what I offer, being involved with someone has no impact on that. My experience I provide will always be exactly what I have always offered. Do you possibly think that maybe your impression of the encounter was clouded by the fact that the companion in question revealed that she was not personally available? This business is still in some aspects a part of a fantasy and it has been mentioned before in a thread that when some gentlemen find out a particular companion they know well is married or involved, that it is a turn off or they are no longer into them. It goes back to the old saying of "it's best not to ask questions that one does not want to hear the answer too"

Well, they had 30 days to file an appeal, so technically, there's nothing wrong with taking their time, I suppose. I think the feds will have a tough, uphill battle before them since the Ontario Court of Appeal upheld the lower court's affirmation about workers' rights to work safely. The government will have to figure out a way to argue that prostitutes are a special class of people who, though working legally, shouldn't be able also to work safely. The OCA didn't buy it and I don't think the SCC will, either. Not surprising, though, that the feds are employing scare tactics, invoking the specter of ladies of the night damaging otherwise quiet, law-abiding neighbourhoods with constant traffic and disturbances from our myriad bodyguards and drivers! The notion that the streets will be littered with used condoms is also ridiculous since, if the women are working indoors, any condoms scattered in lanes and alleys must come from somewhere else.

Having a panic attack because I thought that I forgot my work phone at home whileI was in the train. Look in my travel bag for a book,what do i find? My phone:D I just realize that I woke up in the middle of the night to put in my back cause I forgot to pack it yesterday night before going to bed. :D

There are many fine, intelligent ladies who know how to market themselves and have been doing so for years on the Internet on various sites and boards such as CERB and all perfectly legal. I also believe most of them know how to please a man too, or they wouldn't still be in business. On another note, when referring to paraphernalia on the lawn, they were referring to used condoms, etc. left behind by street walkers. I used to rake nasty things up from behind the hedges bordering my dad's property which backed onto a cul-de-sac in Vanier where some of them would take their johns. I don't think this applies to anyone advertising online unless they're working outdoors.

You are making it sound like I am not coming back!! I will be back soon, hopefully make a trip to Halifax during the summer for some fun. Any sexy ladies that want to cum visit me are more then welcome to ;) Hint hint Cristy

Sunny hug to all of you:) What a good day to be in Fredericton! Life is good today:)

I actually advocate the same wording especially if there is a remote expectation of said SP visiting the US. Helps reduce border crossing issues.

Currently on my way to Ottawa in the train. Just realize that I left both my work phone at home. Fuck me. How am I suppose to work now....ARG

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I just ran 8 Miles on my favourite wooded trail, all the while listening to the lovely song birds. The rest of the day will be hard to beat!!

Let's see....City and Colour, Arkells, I Mother Earth, The Sheepdogs, Hey Rosetta!, Young the Giant, Metric...so many bands to see!!!! :D

It's not a stupid question, at all, Summer. A lot will depend on the hotel's policies. You can often book a hotel room and pre-pay the fee with a credit card. It won't matter what time you leave as long as you're gone by the check-out time the next morning. Many hotels also have a "day rate" which means that you won't be staying overnight. This can be a good way to have a room during the daytime. I've never tried to do it for evening meetings, however. Call the hotel(s) you're interested in and ask them about checking out the night before, about day rates, etc. They won't be anxious about you for asking questions. I only visit or stay in large, busy 4 and 5-star hotels because I feel that they're usually the safest places. The front desk security is as close to absolute as is possible and the staff are discrete and unobtrusive. People are coming and going for all kinds of reasons. No one pays attention to what's going on unless it causes a problem. It's important not to disturb other hotel guests: they may complain and you don't want to draw attention to yourself. When I used hotels as incall locations, I rotated among several different places. That may not have been necessary, but it wasn't difficult for me to do it and so was just one additional precaution for me. Innkeepers and paid companions have been in cahoots since this industry began. We're good for each other's business. Not only that, but people have illicit sex in hotels all the time, even when no money is changing hands.

Guys remember we do not make negative comments about any of the ladies here on cerb. Focus on the good only please, i know some new members cant grasp the concept but this is NOT a review board and it is NOT a rant / flame board. ... If you feel the need to post negative comments please find another site to do it on (or start your own board) it is not appreciated or permitted here. I have had to delete posts on this thread and a recommendation thread cause it was a bad review disguised as a recommendation. Anyone doing this risks being banned from the site. Sorry for the hijack but it was nessassary. If you have questions read he rules then pm me (do not reply to this thread if you wish to comment on my post)

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So you have to take time off work, shoulder the expense and hassle of going to court to defeat this guy's false testimony, and he wants there to be "no hard feelings"? He should get some sort of chutzpah award for that. Time is money. He's clearly a waste of both.

As many of us know, Chanel is going through a rough time, and is going to be saying good-bye to her dog this week. If ever there was a time to reactivate the CERB group hug machine, this is it. A million hugs to you Chanel, and all the love and good will this community can muster. Porthos

Irrelevant. The truth of the claim is not in dispute, the act of calling out by name a specific SP is. We don't do that around here.

Keep in mind the said persons age,really, when any of us were that young I'm sure we made a flurry of mistakes!I agree to out someone negatively in this forum is not necessary,if your encounter was unsatisfactory discuss it with the said provider,then move on.This site is a recommendation board,not a review board as it says at the top of the page.I think some forget how some young,very young people do not act or respond the way more mature people do,they see the world through different eyes.I say give her a break,and again remember her age.

He's been watching too much American TV. Prostitution is not now and has never been illegal in Canada. While I agree soliciting for the purpose in a "public place" is, several court cases has established a prescient that a web site is not a "public place" as it relates to this section of the Criminal Code. Emails, telephone calls and any other method of communication were there is a "reasonable expectation of privacy" also do not apply. I have noted that many ladies misinterpret the law in this regard in that they state on their web site they won't discuss anything on the phone, but as they have a "reasonable expectation of privacy" they are free to discuss anything on the phone they like.

New college and university grading system. Don't we all?

Cristy, you used the term "old fashioned" as a complete term, in no part of your post did you call yourself partially old fashioned. I guess I cant see how you cant be "real" as you put it, with your encounters if your involved with someone. we are providing a service (a job or career choice it can be called as well) at the end of the day it is a business transaction with benefits (not meant to offend anyone) Its not a real date with emotions and love.

Welcome to the rose coloured glasses site. A great place to interact with many a hobbiests or providers. It is quite unique in it's own way as all is quite positive. Been here for a number of years and will continue to visit for many more.

I do greatly enjoy both pretty much equally...but when I start to think about sex and get horny...it's always rough sex...it doesn't make me selfish. Just more kinky than the average folk.

I find it disturbing that an sp would be making or taking phone calls during an encounter. When I am with someone, my phone goes on silent mode and I will answer any inquiries after the client has left, never during. At the same time, if a clients phone rings and he must take the call, I will excuse myself for privacy, let the call take place, then continue, adding a few minutes of time. I do not 'clockwatch', I find it rude and offensive to my clients. Only if they ask me how much time we have left will I look at the time. To say to someone that they only have a few minutes left I find repulsive. If your 'not into it', don't be in this business. If you accept clients requests for items you offer, you damned well better have them. Stating you have something then not producing such is fraudulent to the client. I have been asked for certain things I may not have, but I am upfront with this, and offer what I do have. Every client deserves special treatment, not a feeling like they are slotted into the day for a mechanical time with someone that obviously didn't want to bother. Its a scenario I call the 'revolving door', taking client after client just for the money, instead of offering an experience of some quality at least. If you take late appointments, be as prepared as for any appointment. Sorry the guy had a bad experience, hopefully it doesn't reflect on the rest of us sp's that are not like that.

I knew services like this existed, but I never really paid too much attention to them. Insert the last two months which were absolutely terrible. Business/School/Personal stuff that was related to business, I had just started to figure it out, and then sometime in the last week I decided I'd get in touch with Megan from Megan's touch. To be completely honest, I couldn't see myself going through with it, but I went through the motion, I'd contacted her through email, withdrew the cash amount and then set up an appointment to talk. Then I got her call, and after talking for a minute or 10? we set up an appointment for the next day for the actual session. I've never cancelled on anything unless it was for a good reason, and when I confirmed over the phone, and the call ended, I couldn't believe what I had done. To give you a perspective of how big this was for me, I come from a part of the planet where people get killed for suspicion of much less (or at least that's my background). I've never known anyone to do something like this (although maybe some have) The appointment was in the afternoon, and annoyingly, I had finished all the work I needed to do by the previous night. I had nothing to do, and I couldn't stand hanging out with a friend since I could barely speak. Now I've done some scary stuff in my life (And I'm not just talking about skydiving, although I did that too), but none of them made me this nervous. Was it a trap? Would I offend her in my sheer nervousness somehow, what do I say, how do I sit, what if I project on her, am I clean enough (Seriously I showered 2 times that afternoon before going, and brushed 3 times), and so on. A last minute confusion about the location partially distracted me, and when I saw her for the first time, I seemed to have forgotten everything and just relaxed. She was amazing to say the least. Later while talking, she said the experience can be liberating and I agreed. I just didn't appreciate how much. I did something that challenged me, and I didn't give in to my fear, and thank goodness for that!

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I just commented on the other board, and just to echo things. People often complain about selection in Ottawa. And when a new company is poppin up everyone is paranoid. My question is this, how would any agency get off the ground if ppl were slammin them before they even started? Glad we didn't start when the market was so aggressive. Don't get me wrong, sometimes, (many times) there are new agencies that flop. But there seems to be a few "micro agencies" that are operating recently, and many have some attractive talent. I think healthy competition is good for the market, otherwise it goes flat and stagnant. ( we have seen it happen in Ottawa) Some of our competitors look like they are upping their game. It will make us up ours and get creative. Clients win.

I strongly disagree with this statement. PSE as a style of service has no bearing on the safety of the service performed. This has been covered several times in the forum. See this reference.

Good for you for not letting anyone coerce you into doing something you don't want to do! There are quite a few threads on this very topic that have been started. I'll look up the links after and post them for you. I will say this quickly before I'm off to search for the threads about GFE and it's meaning; GFE is a STYLE, not a list of SERVICES (i.e. bbbj, daty). It's a more intimate encounter between the SP and the hobbyist...and by intimate, I do notmean unsafe. From my understanding, many SPs wish the term had never been started because it is often misinterpreted and some gentlemen assume it means they can get more in terms of unprotected sex acts. I could go on and on, but then I'll end up ranting :rolleyes:. Back soon with the links!