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I think that asking how one could allow their partner to "sleep around" and pretty much judging other ladies who do have partners is quite offensive. First of all nobody tells me what I am and am not allowed to do. You claim to say that everyone is entitled to their opinion, but I don't see how providing an opinion about other SP's lives will get you anywhere. This thread is discussing YOUR opinion of personal relationships and working as an SP. Giving an opinion about YOUR life is great but beware of blatantly disagreeing and putting down other who live differently. This would be why you might feel the need to get defensive. "I simply don't understand a "man" wanting his partner to be with orther men,but to each their own." So not only are you putting "man" in quotations (I don't understand what you are saying, and to not assume the worst that you are saying that a man who does is less of a man) but stating you don't understand. I don't know who asked you, frankly. If you can't do it fine, but as being an SP in a relationship, and a very comfortable one at that, I find it quite offensive, and I rarely get offended. So now not only are you trying to "understand" how other SP's do it, but you are judging the men they are with?!?!?! How can you even come close to understanding, especially in that mindset. "I don't know how someone can do this and maintain a personal relationship,since this business involves sex,how can one person become that aroused?" Me personally I find the more sex I have the hornier I get. Sure some days I am tired and I communicate so, but this is rare. Sex is sex. It is fun, and the more open of a mind you keep about it, the more you will enjoy it. That is my philosophy. I meet my clients with a positive attitude, and thus receive the same from them. Some days I have 4-5 orgasms in a day. That is the perks of my job. "I mean if you are intimate with your partner,then meet with another gentleman or two or three that day I don't understand how one can become genuinely aroused with each man.Perhaps my labido is lower than most(however I don't think so) or are some just great actresses?" How is this not judgmental in the least??? To explain to you HOW I will say that once I am in a state of arousal, an orgasm does not render me not wanting anymore. Once I am in a state of arousal it actually makes my time with clients better. I am "hornified" so to speak. Any orgasms after the first one come faster and easier. If you can't imagine this, maybe you do have a lower libido...Are you saying that your not acting? Yes I will admit I provide a fantasy, and I completely put myself in that role. It's not a big secret that you must "out" us "actresses" on. It doesn't mean I'm "faking" it as you're trying to say, but I put myself in the "Julianna" mindset. I think we are complex human beings, and being an SP lets me play out my "naughty" side. We have many different sides to us. We all have different roles that we play in life. When I'm doing my taxes I am in "accountant" mode. When I am practicing, I am in "fighter" mode. I don't bring my "fighter" self or my "accountant" self to my sessions. I bring my sensual side. I have wonderful clients who make me feel attractive and beautiful, and I feed off that energy. I wear different hats in my life and love my life this way. All in all your initial post didn't really state what YOU think about YOUR OWN life, but rather how much you don't understand how others live differently. If you can't, you can't, its your life and your the only one who lives with the consequences. No need to put the rest of us down. Lots of SP's have relationships outside this line of work, and they make it work for them their own way. As per not being able to turn on or off your emotions and feelings, that is your opinion. Other women such as myself believe in the strength of my brain over my body, and I know that if I go in with a certain "attitude" I will get turned on. Is it a sin to enjoy my clients? I am not acting, I am putting myself in a certain "mindset". I'm not being "fake". I don't consider it "cheating" either. It is always me. It would be quite awkward if I brought "Julianna" home with me while I was cleaning my house, I would turn into some sort of sexy maid ;). I don't do that, I wear my sweats and get down and dirty. When I finish that I have a bath with bubbles and put on some sexy lingerie and perfume and make-up, and then I feel "sexy" and revved up. I love it when I open the door to my client, and they look at me like a Christmas gift ready to be un-wrapped. Selfish? Crazy? Weird? Yes...but it turns me on so sue me... I could go on but I think I covered most points I wanted to cover. Yes this is MY opinion, and I'm giving it. I love my job, my life, my family. All of it comes together is such a beautiful harmonious way. It works for ME. I don't judge others who live differently then I do, nor do I try to "understand" it. I am happy, and wish everyone the same thing. Lots of people wouldn't "understand" how we could be SP's in the first place, because they are close-minded. People like that don't need to know. I wouldn't bring my "SP" self when I go meet clients for my other "regular" business, especially since it is a male-dominated business, and actually need to "downplay" my sexuality, or else they wouldn't take me seriously. I am a professional and give my ALL to everything that I do in my life. I want to be the best and strive for this. Knowing I did a good job, in any part of my life, makes me happy. I definitely do not let my "emotions" rule my life. I am a rational thinker, and always use common sense. I truly believe if you strive to find happiness in anything you do, you will find it, and will in turn be a happier person.I feel so blessed in my life I really couldn't ask for anymore. I get to have my cake and eat it to!!!

So I woke up early this morning to go to an all-day planning meeting for a volunteer initiative I'm part of. I was all "Grr, why am I doing this, do I even care anymore?" Fast forward one carpool, two cups of coffee and a muffin later: I find myself standing in the sunshine with a ragtag band of fellow volunteers and one very enthusiastic outdoor education professional. And all of a sudden, I remembered why I do this. Welcome back, sense of purpose!

Greetings gentlemen, I recently had the pleasure of a fabulous and fun photoshoot, and just got the proofs back from the photographer. I'm absolutely thrilled, and couldn't wait to show them off... so here is a sneak peek! Looking to relax and unwind after a busy day? Seeking some sexy pampering to get you geared up for the week ahead? I'm happy to announce that I am now offering sexy, slippery, sensual massages as an independent provider. My location is private and discreet, just for the two of us, and is located in the downtown core. I can be reached by email at [email protected] for the fastest response. Excite your senses and join me for an erotic full-body massage that will leave you relaxed from head to toe and everything in between. Come unwind with a playful, sensual blonde... Let's heat things up with a steamy shower, perfect for getting acquainted, before moving on to a body-tingling, relaxing massage, slippery bodyslides, and a tantalizing touch that is sure to leave you with a smile... This week: Monday April 30th: 5:00-10:00pm Wednesday May 2nd: 5:00-10:00pm Thursday May 3rd: 5:00-10:00pm Friday May 4th: 5:00-10:00pm Sunday May 5th: 9:00am-noon or 5:00-9:00pm Consideration: $140/45min $170/hr $230/90min $290/2hrs A little bit more... 5'8" 34B-28-38 Blonde hair, blue eyes, and a few lovely tattoos. Read what others have to say... http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=A&t=63938 xoAmelia

A real Gf would want more then money...she would want dinner,nights out,vacations,presents and most likely to get married...so yes she is getting paid...lmao..just saying..;-)....and even with all that you may not have sex...hahah ...that's when we come in..:-D Additional Comments: haha yes G...babies...lmao

The one thing that GFE does offer is kissing...so if you don't kiss you shouldn't say Your GFE.:icon_wink:

Hun, you take some of these differences of opinion a little too personally. No one is telling you how to run your business. We are exchanging thoughts, experiences and perspectives. Posted via Mobile Device Additional Comments: Precisely! Debate is NOT synonomous with argue! Posted via Mobile Device

A little house with three bedrooms, one bathroom and one car on the street. A mower that you had to push to make the grass look neat. In the kitchen on the wall we only had one phone, And no need for recording things, someone was always home. We only had a living room where we would congregate, unless it was at mealtime in the kitchen where we ate. We had no need for family rooms or extra rooms to dine. When meeting as a family those two rooms would work out fine. We only had one TV set and channels maybe two, But always there was one of them with something worth the view. For snacks we had potato chips that tasted like a chip. And if you wanted flavor there was Lipton's onion dip. Store-bought snacks were rare because my mother liked to cook and nothing can compare to snacks in Betty Crocker's book. Weekends were for family trips or staying home to play. We all did things together -- even go to church to pray. When we did our weekend trips depending on the weather, no one stayed at home because we liked to be together. Sometimes we would separate to do things on our own, but we knew where the others were without our own cell phone. Then there were the movies with your favorite movie star, and nothing can compare to watching movies in your car. Then there were the picnics at the peak of summer season, pack a lunch and find some trees and never need a reason. Get a baseball game together with all the friends you know, have real action playing ball -- and no game video. Remember when the doctor used to be the family friend, and didn't need insurance or a lawyer to defend? The way that he took care of you or what he had to do, because he took an oath and strived to do the best for you. Remember going to the store and shopping casually, and when you went to pay for it you used your own money? Nothing that you had to swipe or punch in some amount, and remember when the cashier person had to really count? The milkman used to go from door to door, And it was just a few cents more than going to the store. There was a time when mailed letters came right to your door, without a lot of junk mail ads sent out by every store. The mailman knew each house by name and knew where it was sent; there were not loads of mail addressed to "present occupant." There was a time when just one glance was all that it would take, and you would know the kind of car, the model and the make. They didn't look like turtles trying to squeeze out every mile; they were streamlined, white walls, fins and really had some style. One time the music that you played whenever you would jive, was from a vinyl, big-holed record called a forty-five. The record player had a post to keep them all in line and then the records would drop down and play one at a time. Oh sure, we had our problems then, just like we do today and always we were striving, trying for a better way. Oh, the simple life we lived still seems like so much fun, how can you explain a game, just kick the can and run? And why would boys put baseball cards between bicycle spokes and for a nickel, red machines had little bottled Cokes? This life seemed so much easier and slower in some ways. I love the new technology but I sure do miss those days. So time moves on and so do we and nothing stays the same, but I sure love to reminisce and walk down memory lane. With all today's technology we grant that it's a plus! But it's fun to look way back and say, Hey Look, guys and gals, THAT WAS US!

Breakfast for dinner!

I adore Meg because she has great sense of humour and can roll with the punches.

I like Angela's sexy legs :)

I'm not a religious person, but I do believe that in this world there are people who are truly special. Often, they face great adversity, but the fundamental goodness and beauty of their soul shines through. It is upon these people that whatever forces are at work in this universe visit miracles. Penelope, you are one of these people. Not too long from now there will be a little baby so blessed to have such a special Mother. Congratulations Penelope. You'll be in our thoughts as you embark on this joyous new chapter in your life. Porthos

I have to say that I started this thread just to get some views on how a relationship might affect you individually, rather than start a tirade between views on this. I don't start many threads, and wished in hindsight, I hadn't started this one either. Anyways, I agree, time to move on to something else. I really enjoy the ladies, particular those that enjoy it for the sex, as I do, and bring a real passion to the encounter, as I try to do. I am most satisfied when both parties really appear to have enjoyed the experience. :smile:

I like roamingguy because he always has good things to say about others, and always gives great advice

I like a 10 inch dildo preferably in pink and one I had that I affectionately referred to as "Mr. Pink". Unfortunately Mr. Pink has been many places and in a lot of ways you could compare him to "Where's Waldo". Always going in and out of entryways, getting caught in the rain, enjoying a visit to Niagara Nicki ( opps I meant Niagara Falls) and sliding under a condo partion balcony on Somerset St where he fearlessly fell down 12 floors and hit the head of an unsuspecting passerby yelling "WTF" in such force more so than a penny dropping 100 floors. Mr. Pink continued rolling down Somserset towards Bank St and kept on going with such precision and rhythm as he does best. Two weeks ago after a night of unbridled passion and fun with a few participants, he was left behind in the wee hours of the morning in a hotel suite. Mr. Pink's owner misses him dearly and there will be a reward for his return! ;) Missing!

I haven't worn cologne since I was probably 18 but I do always have some aqua velva aftershave in my travel bag in the truck... perhaps a splash of that might perk up some nipples ;) ;) However until further notice I won't try it ! heh heh

Really? Learn something new every day... Anyway, my favorite: We're trash, you and me We're the nipples in the trees, We're the lovers on the streets Suede, Trash I have no idea how I ever mis-heard that so badly, but I did. Repeatedly.

To me it's about the style of encounter and intimacy. I encourage the lovely gents to let me know what they like and what I will provide during an encounter but really it's all about a fantasy and to some it is what you experience with a girlfriend before the "honeymoon" stage ends and in this business as a companion and this day in age to have unprotected sex is insane IMHO. We provide the fantasy and experience of what a girlfriend may do, not everything a girlfriend does. In actual fact or my opinion when a gent buys his SO a purse, shoes, cash to go shopping or drinks with the gals and gifts, he is paying to keep her happy, so really what is the difference from being a paid companion or a partner? The only difference is we as paid companions have fun, leave hopefully with no drama or headaches, until our next hot steamy encounter. Just my thoughts:icon_smile: Additional Comments: I have to strongly agree with Emma and her comment. Nice one Emma!! Nothing like a paid companion to save the day and cure blue balls!!:-D

And what are we having for dinner?? Lol.....I would love a T-bone steak please? hehehe My highlight was receiving such great advice on my How to enter the work force.....then sending out my resume, first one in 5 years, lol...

Hello everyone! Tonight is the last day of my 20s....that's right boys, tomorrow I am turning the big 3-0! Now I've heard a rumour that some boys don't like girls over 30, and I'm hoping this cannot be true...but if it is, come see me tonight cause it' the last time you can catch me at this age! I'm available tonight at a massage studio downtown for sexy, slippery, sensual massage that will have you smiling right in to next week. I am 5'2, 135lbs, with natural 36Cs and soft skin covered in beautiful tattoos. Come let me slide my body over yours and show you how a man should really be treated ;) You can reach me at 613-695-8005 (no texts) or [email protected] See you soon! xoxox Cleo Please note I am not an escort and do not provide services such as kissing/FS

Do you want double denials from each account??? I think we should insist. Lol I will pronounce here and now that there is only the one Musketeer Porthos .... And I don't even know those layabouts Aramis and Athos. I think they keep sneaking into my rooms and using my computer. I'm positive the Cardinal Richelieu is behind it all.

Clean shaven men mmmmmm... I love to rub my tata's on a soft face. I get wet just thinking about it. I love to laugh so I have a certain fondness for men who who can make me laugh, especially when it's hanging and banging time. People get too focused on the "sex" part and forget about how much fun and memorable the experience can be if something crazy happens. What else... Men who can cook, smell sexy, be romantic and respectful. Women always have always been the soft alluring temptresses, or the wild little... well you know. Otherwise we wouldn't be getting hoochie coochie. The question should be what can men do to be more attractive to women! If more men would take pride in themselves they'd probably get laid more often. I have a male who is not attractive in a physical way but his personality speaks volumes and women flock to him. Oh and by the way he gets alot of honey.....

Just a quick note that the SCC has agreed to extend the stay on the striking down of the Living on the Avails - S.212(j) - provision for an additional 30 days. It seems increasingly likely the SCC will agree to hear the case, and from what I've heard, the government will drag their heels on this one, and will take their sweet time allowing it to be heard. One rumour I've heard is that Harper is terrified this will become an election issue, given the wide gap between public opinion (the large majority whe now favour decriminalization) and his party's social conservative base (who do not). If they have their way, the final judgment won't come down for at least three years. In other words, if you were hoping for a quick resolution to this issue, don't hold your breath. On the bright side, at least this gives us lots of time to start developing dialogue with the municipal governments, in hopes of avoiding overly-restrictive bylaws for when sex work is finally decriminalized - something we've already started doing. Fingers crossed and stay tuned!

I LOVE this song and video

Good evening! I recently had the pleasure of a fabulous and fun photoshoot, and just got the proofs back from the photographer. I'm absolutely thrilled, and couldn't wait to show them off... so here is a sneak peek! Looking to relax and unwind after a busy week? Seeking some sexy pampering to get you geared up for the week ahead? I'm happy to announce that I am now offering sexy, slippery, sensual massages as an independent provider. My location is private and discreet, just for the two of us, and is located in the downtown core. I can be reached by email at [email protected] for the fastest response. Excite your senses and join me for an erotic full-body massage that will leave you relaxed from head to toe and everything in between. Come unwind with a playful, sensual blonde... Let's heat things up with a steamy shower, perfect for getting acquainted, before moving on to a body-tingling, relaxing massage, slippery bodyslides, and a tantalizing touch that is sure to leave you with a smile... This week: Friday April 27th: one availability at 5:00pm Saturday April 28th: one availability at 9:00am and 1:00pm Monday April 30th: 5:00-10:00pm Wednesday May 2nd: 8:00-10:00pm Thursday May 3rd: 5:00-10:00pm Friday May 4th: 5:00-10:00pm Sunday May 5th: 9:00am-noon or 5:00-9:00pm Consideration: $140/45min $170/hr $230/90min $290/2hrs A little bit more... 5'8" 34B-28-38 Blonde hair, blue eyes, and a few lovely tattoos. Read what others have to say... http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=A&t=63938 xoAmelia

I have to agree with you Emma. The whole experience to me is about being very intimate and kissing helps to create that "temporary girlfriend experience" during an encounter and what do you do with a girlfriend? Kiss!! Kisses and Hugs, Lexy

I'll try to give you an example. It might not be the best one (most likely not) but it's the only thing I can come up with right now... Let's say you've decided to treat yourself to a night out and go for supper. Your choice for this evening is a casual restaurant offering this able d'hote: 7 layer chip dip served with grilled naan bread Home made chili with sprinkles of cheese on top Home made dessert A 7 layer dip is made with 7 different ingredients. Now, if the restaurant decides to make a dip composed of 2 ingredients with 7 layers I'll be disappointed. Even more so if it comes with regular nacho chips instead of the grilled bread... Not what I was expecting. If the chili turns out to be vegetarian instead of using ground beef I'll also be disappointed as it was not what was advertised (the word vegetarian was omitted). If the dessert was bought through a supplier instead of being homemade I'll be even more disappointed and at this point I don't care what type of music is playing in the background or how many candles are burning and how nice my waiter was. My point? Don't mislead your (potential) clients... If you are SAFE GFE (covered bj only) then say so. If you don't kiss also say so because most gentlemen love this part of the experience and sometimes more than anything else. Vegetarian chili can be very tasty and quite good but not when you are craving a chili with meat in it. It's just not the same!

Just from a logistical standpoint, it wouldn't work. There are only so many ladies (paid or not) whose ad can appear on the first page, so if you are the 21st one who wants to pay, it won't matter, you'll still end up on the top of the 2nd page. I am grateful we are able to post every 12 hours and not have to pay.

I don't know if it's been said here or not but as a provider myself, I do not associate sexual acts with love. Some women view kissing as something more intimate than just sex so it's personal to them. I was always a sensual person to begin with so it just comes natural to me. If there was some sort of sexual thing I wanted to do but only with someone I was personally involved with, I wouldn't offer it. Having said that, things like kissing with an SP are services offered with the ladies nowadays. I don't find kissing any different in a physical sense ( more or less or lfk or dfk) on the job than when I'm involved with someone except more of an intense emotional feeling. Now if I walked away from an appt and had more of an emotional response after being with them, I'd really have to wonder. This is how I guage things. My personal relationships are not only based on physical factors but more of an emotional connection. My clients are great and fun to be with but I don't have an intense emotional connection as I do with boyfriends and vice versa. This is how I seperate it since I don't associate sex with love. To answer The General's question... the kissing doesn't slow down either way. When I'm involved with someone, I'm always in a happy, giddy mood more than usual so I'm sure the clients will reap the benefits.lol. I just like to kiss anyways and shows the passionate side of me.

I believe it is up to each and everyone of us to manage the times we post at and if need be, take advantage of the '1 post per 12 hour' rule. I see no reason to pay a fee to be bumped to the first page as it wouldn't be fair to the ladies who post a new ad and automatically end up on the second page because of it. First page, second page... If someone is interested in spending time with us they will find our ad and contact us for a rendez-vous.

I have to vote nay. I think as a client, we would generally see the same ladies all the time since there are only twenty lines of ads and once the ladies who had paid, had posted all other ads would be on the subsequent pages. I might be inclined to go directly to page two knowing automatically who to expect on the first. It might discourage the occasional posters as they'd always be page two ads. The rule of unintended consequences As a rule I now browse the ads thru to the start of the day knowing that if busy they do roll over.

The sun is shining, the birds are singing, it's time to log out and go work in my garden...

I am in a personal relationship and I assure you my service is not the least bit affected. Kissing? You will be kissed and loved from the moment you walk in my door until you leave. This is our special time together and if I were not prepared to give you my 100 percent I would not have my name offered to be of service and be your companion. A lot of the gentlemen I see are married and I do not feel in the least our time is affected by thier personal relationship. Why would this be true for a lady?

I like Lee because he is a brother from Manitoba

I have always tipped in cash or gift cards (La Senza mostly) on top of bringing some wine, beer or flowers depending on what the girl likes. The cash tip is a thank you for the great time and I have never been disappointed. I have heard from many SP's that some guys bring toys as gifts which is fun, but in actually fact is that some guys are buying the gifts for themselves to be used on them by the SP. ie buttplugs, strapons dildos etc. I believe that its tacky and although the girls may look happy when receiving such a gift they usually end up throwing in the toy drawer and never use it. I don't consider that a gift. I had one experience when an SP mentioned that during her move her DVD player was stolen, so I picked one up before our next meeting. Needless to say she was very happy and I was very pleasantly rewarded and to this day she still thanks me for the thought. Cash always wins and will get you more satisfaction on your next visit. ATH

I was surprised to this thread revived, but for all the newcomers who don't visit the old threads it's always good reading. I add to it because during my last visit to Ottawa I had a wonderful conversation with a guest. He was new to the hobby and had a million questions and I tried to answer all of them to the best of my ability. A 2 hour visit ended up being much longer because our chat made the time fly. He has a wonderful spirit and was really eager to understand the nuances. We talked about considerations, the vast differences in fee structures and why it's necessary. He had looked long and hard at his options before booking our time together, but he isn't here on the board so many of his questions were issues that are covered in threads here. The three points that I tried to drive home were this... 1. My considerations are not "payment" for my time. The envelope is left because my guests enjoy visiting with me and if I had another job I would not have time to entertain. If my financial responsibilities are not taken care of then I can't entertain, the consideration is their contribution to ensuring we have the time to enjoy. I know this isn't the way all providers look at this, but it's accurate for me. 2. Tips, no matter how much they are, are always symbolic and allow providers to know they are appreciated. They are not expected and never impact the quality of our time together. 3. Respect is the key. Showing respect to a provider and treating her well will go further than any amount of money in the envelope. I can tell those that are accustomed to treating people well, and those that don't. Do not think a tip is expected, most providers do not look for them. But even a $20 makes a girl smile. If she is in the lower end of the consideration scale the little add ons definitely add up and can make things easier at the end of the month. I've always said I would rather ask a 1000 people for a dollar than a $1000 from one person... Catherine