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I am very fustrated...grrr...roar...lol I am a very busy person. Not just with this work, but with other important projects on the go. As a recent example: I get a PM, it says.."I will be in Fredericton tomorrow, would you be available early afternoon?" Sound simple enough? Right? So I respond with...." OK, what time are you thinking? 2 would work best for me." Then get a confusing responds back, about all the things he has to do first, then what time he is expected back to his final destination. So, I say to him. I have got few commitments on the go, I can shuffle around somethings, but need to know what time to reserve for you. I need to know by 10 am what time you need. So his responds is.... " Not too sure what time yet, will let you know..." So with him knowing I have other commitments on my agenda, and knowing I would shuffle my schedule around for him........he still doesn't just give me a time frame to work with. So am I really going to wait around to find out what time? Risking screwing up my other plans?? What if if I spend all morning waiting for someone who may not even have the time to actually visit?? Do we call a dentist and say..".ohh sometime Monday afternoon I will be there, not sure what time exactly?" As Murphy's law seems to always have his way with me.....I will go do the other commitments I have, just as I arrive to my job, he will PM or call, saying ohhh I can meet you in hour! Well that simply can not work! PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF SANITY!!! When you are booking an appt, please have a specific time in mind!!!! Especially when you are told that I have other jobs as well. I can not wait around for something that may or may not happen! If you can not narrow down a specific time, then take your chance I will not be able to see you, as there is not a day that goes by that I haven't got something I need to do. And if you are not sure of what time, are you really sure you can arrive at that time? That is my rant.....I hope that you read this and take into consideration that I do have other projects that is work for me. My schedule needs to be well timed. So if you have not a time in mind...then dont ask me to book you! All have a great day now:)

I'll be right over Katherine !! ;) You wait there ! Just need to pack a toothbrush and my speedo....3 hour drive to Wpg....connecting flight in TO.... factoring in flight delays and if there is no plane hijack like I just temporarily hijacked this thread I should be there around 1 AM....DON'T MOVE ;)

When someone wants to come over right now I laugh and say, "really, do you think I am sitting here waiting for you"? I could not care less if this is considered rude, it's rude for anyone to ask for "right now". This is not the type of client I want anyway and when I'm not in the mood to reply to such a silly request I simply delete.

So, I got one of those calls today from someone who claims to know that my computer is infected with a virus. I asked them if they were calling to help me fix it, and they said yes. Well, isn't that nice! =) I was only too happy to answer their questions such as "Are you the owner of the computer?" - yes. "Are you sitting in front of the computer right now?" - sure am. "Do you see the icons on your desktop?" - yep. Well, after I let them get to the part of wanting me to click on stuff, I casually mentioned that this call was being traced and that we were contacting the authorities. I must have caught them off guard, as they didn't quite get that. That's ok... I didn't mind repeating it again. Then, for no apparent reason, they hung up. How rude! I was hoping that they'd talk to me some more since I was rather bored. Was it something I said? *lol*

Geez, my text to a lady the day of an encounter is confirming room number and time...this coming from a guy who plans his encounters a few months ahead of time None of this last minute calling for me. Seeing ladies, it's an indulgence I like to plan and look forward to, not a spur of the moment activity to fit into my day My quick rambling RG

Well, since nobody's replied to this yet, I'll take a stab at it :) First, and probably most important: take the time to work out what you're looking for, and how much those things matter to you. There are plenty of folks who have preferences for body type, age range, hair color, tattoos and piercings (or not), although they may not talk about it all that much. But also, don't be too restrictive here, or you'll eliminate almost everyone before you start. Secondly, what kind of an encounter do you want? Quick, or multiple hours? PSE? GFE? Something else? Are certain things important to you (kissing is one that comes up over and over again, here)? I've mentioned these categories of things first because its usually (not always, but usually) relatively easy to work out whether a given lady will be right for you or not, based on her pics, ads, website and recos. So, on to the more difficult but also more important stuff... the personality aspect of things, and finding someone you'll actually get along with - which pretty much all of us agree matters, but is nevertheless very hard to do. First of all, accept that this isn't an exact science, and however good your research you'll inevitably have some encounters that just aren't that great because you have no chemistry with the lady concerned. There's nothing wrong with this. It doesn't mean that either you or her did anything wrong. It's just a reflection of the fact that we're all different. On this one, I've found that the best bet for a rough guide is the ladies' ads and, especially, websites; some SPs put a *lot* of time and effort into their websites and you can get a pretty good idea of what they're about from them. However, the best way of working out the personality stuff I've found is just being on CERB, and having conversations with people. Over time you'll get to know them, and you'll start to get an idea of which people you might be interested to meet. And then you'll probably find that they're on the wrong side of the country and don't travel, but nothing's perfect... You'll also see pics and ads and recos go by, and as you read those you may well stumble across gems that you'd like to get to know a little better. I have a list in my head of ladies I'd like to see, as and when the opportunity arises, mostly based on something I've seen here on CERB that piqued my interest. Alas, that list is more extensive than my financial prowess, and that's before you consider the ladies I've seen who I'd like to see again. *sigh*. The one thing you actually mentioned ("right lady verses the right now type") sounds like one of those intangible things; I'd suggest looking through ads and websites until you find someone who feels right. It sounds like you're looking for the type of person who *would* have interesting ads that reflect her personality, and probably maintain a website, rather than just a cellphone and "Free tonite, cum see me" style ads. Not that there's anything inherently wrong with the latter, of course - it just doesn't sound to me like what you're looking for. Finally, a disclaimer, which you've seen before: YMMV. What I've described above is what works for me. I'm sure other people have different methods of doing things. So, there you have it. Hope those ramblings were useful!

We all work differently. Our decisions about the information we give to new clients may depend on many things including where our incall location is--in an apartment tower, a townhouse complex, a house or a hotel--as well as parking and other considerations. When meeting with a new guest for the first time, my biggest initial risk is when I tell him where I am. He needs to be able to find me. I need to be sure that he's actually going to arrive without any unpleasant surprises accompanying him. Usually, there's no problem making the connection. But unfortunately, while rare, there are men out there who collect SPs' addresses. For some, addresses are trophies, of a kind. There are others who seem to think that having the address means that they're entitled to visit whenever they choose to do so. Most troubling of all are those who publish the addresses online, circulate them a little more privately, sell them to other men or use them to trump up a complaint to the police or landlord. These shenanigans wouldn't even occur to most men, and that's a big relief. Nonetheless, we always have to be on our guard for the few who do have curious ideas about what they might be able to get away with. Simply no-showing for a meeting is rude. Too many men aren't concerned about etiquette, though. I'm certain that the majority of the ladies have received return calls, e-mail or text messages from prospective clients who were irritated to have been asked what happened when they didn't keep an appointment. The most unpleasant fellows are those who say or imply that good manners aren't important when dealing with whores. When a man has the companion's address, not showing up and not calling to say he won't be there is highly disconcerting for us. Because I am in a quiet residential neighbourhood, I never give my address to anyone. Guests are asked to call me from a specific intersection three blocks away. I give them directions to my place from there. If they seem to be the least bit confused, I meet them outside the house. Sure, they could figure out what the street address is, but it won't be the easiest thing for them to do. If I lived in a big apartment building, I would be less protective of the building address, but I wouldn't give out the suite or buzzer number until my visitor had arrived. I'm not criticizing the way that Emerald handled things with her prospective client. She has her own reasons for what she does and the way she does it. Not hearing from the fellow within 5 minutes is likely quite reasonable in her particular circumstances. What's most telling, to me, is that he doesn't seem to have replied when she told him the meeting was off. If he'd been right outside her building, he probably would have called or texted her, apologizing for the delay and hoping that they could still meet, wouldn't he? I understand about getting cold feet. That certainly could be an explanation for what happened. I would hope, though, that if someone decides, at the last moment, that he's not able to go through with what he'd planned, he would say so before he has specific information about where I'm working. If he makes that decision after he knows where I am, I would hope he would tell me so, in person. And, of course, pay the feel for the meeting that he's cancelling.

I recently got a PM that made me smile. In it, a lady referred to me as respectable because she knew that I had visited many ladies in the business. I knew what she meant. It was that over time, I had demonstrated that I wasn't weird, creepy, dangerous. Not excessively so, anyway. At least as far as I can tell, in what could be posted publicly for broad consumption. But I jest. I know this already. I can see it in the way that ladies respond when I ask to see them. I can tell because often they don't even bother to contact the references that I'd supplied. Every once in a while, I get a subtle and sometimes not so subtle question about when I'm going to come calling. But what had made me smile is that exactly the things that have made me respectable in this world is exactly the the thing that would make me disrespectable in the outside world. Here, having seen many ladies, having well and truly sown my wild oats, makes me trustworthy. And in the outside world, that would make me untrustworthy. Associating with ladies of questionable respectability is frowned upon. Not settling down, focussing most of my attention on one woman and one woman alone. I'm comfortable in both worlds. But it is when the worlds intersect outside of me that I become perplexed. I never know where the lines are when a lady gets rather more interested in interacting outside than the paid service transaction. I struggle to find things to say when I lunch with the lady who always wanted me to do things that I could never talk about in the outside world, and I know little else about her. Perhaps it's because lately I've been spending a lot more time in the outside world than this one, that I was more conscious of these opposites. I am a different person in each world. But each of these people are both a part of me, yin and yang, mirror opposites. My hobby persona is as much a part of me as the color of my eyes, the gap in my teeth, my crooked smile. I cannot be fully me without the outlet for creative desires, and of course the more carnal desires, that he provides. So I thanked the lady of my PM for the compliment. And smiled.

I see no reason as to why an SP cannot be mentioned for this, unless she has asked not to be. If she was, I'm sure the mods would be on it BJs (as in any service) can be subjective, but there it's nice to hear who's peoples favourites are.

Tickets are now on sale! Please PM me if you age going to send the fee via e-mail with the password you are going to use. The e-mail to send it to is: [email protected] Please read the details in the posts above. Hope to see you there! Additional Comments: Hey folks! Just wanted to shout out a big thank you to everyone who purchased/booked tickets today. I know that some of you don't like the whole pay-by-internet thing, but we will work it out! So I'd call our first day a success, we are 20% booked already! If you are still sitting on the fence about booking, please decide soon. When these tickets are gone, you`ll be left out until the next social. (Please see the posts above for booking details) We have over a dozen lovely ladies signed up for the event and they are all Hot! Hot! Hot! :shehot: Don`t miss out! P.S. If any ladies out there are interested in signing up for the social and haven already done so, please PM me for a spot. It`s free!

And nothing worse than being welcomed to a nightmare Welcome To My Nightmare-Alice Cooper http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iQE0pfBAYQ8 RG

I get these in texts and in pm's. Hey babe, you free today? I so want to reply, 'no, I'm available, but I'm not free' It does irk me when I get these type of messages, as not only do I have to stop what I am doing to answer them, but then it takes about 50 texts or pm's to get details! I answer every message with the same questions: What are you looking for? Date and time frame you are seeking? Length of engagement? I will check my schedule and let you know what I available Obviously I don't know their schedule, but I certainly know mine and I can't always juggle around other appointments to suit someone else's schedule, I do try. It's when I get replies like "I'll try back later in the afternoon to see if you have a late afternoon available." Chances are if you message me in the morning and I tell you have have 2 specific times available in the afternoon, more than likely I will not have those 2 specific times anymore if you leave it til later. If your thinking about booking with someone, know your schedule. There is nothing worse than the messages that state, 'I can be there in 15 minutes' if I am out doing personal errands, I could be 45 minutes away.

I have a thing for womens legs and have always enjoyed admiring them. Personally I don't have long legs but they were always strong and I can run long distances. I like to see the definition in a woman's legs including my own.lol. Stockings or no stockings, they are all sexy in one way or another.

You'll have to take a trip to Halifax. I can deepthroat like a champ without gaging and love it. I've even taught lessons on how to properly deepthroat. Swallow it whole is my motto. Additional Comments: I prefer not to use my hands at all:redface: unless requested but that is so very rare.. This is in no way shape or form of advertising. Just stating a true fact. Lexy

Years ago, this would have been a problem but now that there are vast numbers of cell providers offering pay as you go plans for a low all inclusive rate every month, there is an alternative now. I agree with others. If an SP doesn't answer blocked calls, you can get a throw away phone and your name will not show up when you call someone. I think if you want to meet the SP halfway where discretion and trust is concern, get a throw away phone and keep it in a safe place if you are married or have a gf. You get to keep your privacy and the SP feels her requirements are met. Having a throw way phone is not a guarantee that the Sp will be safe or not have a no show client but what if a client calls from a blocked number or payphone and a situation arises that the client is late or the SP has to cancel for some reason. She can't call him back. This happened with an SP I work with and the client calling from a payphone got lost when he was 3 minutes away from her place. 25 minutes later, she thinks he is a no show and books someone who happened to see her before and was in the area. The second client got there quickly and lo and behold the first guy finally finds her location and rings the doorbell while she is in session with the second client. She told the first guy he was late and she was seeing someone else. It's not her fault because he put her in a situation where she had to make a quick decision. Why should she wait around for someone who may not be coming? She is running a business and time is money. Even though he insisted on booking by payphone and she took a chance with this because she went with her intuition, it didn't work out. I personally don't book through blocked calls and payphones and feel if a guy wants to see me, he will have cell phone. I don't like giving out the address and I certainly won't give it to someone who may feel like he is trying to be too secret agent. If I feel someone has something to hide, what else are they going to do? SPs and clients have their ways of how to go about doing things but I think they have to meet each other half way and everyone is satisfied. If a guy hobbys regularily and doesn't want to get a cell phone then that's their problem but it makes sense to get one if they will use it more than once.

errrr I do get lost even with a GPS. Its a signature trait.

Further to what Luxie was saying, assaults and robberies and other altercations are rare, but they do happen and it only takes that one time that could be difference between life and death. I can recall at least 3 or 4 times in the past few years when girls (mostly new to the business or desperate for cash) called me up crying to tell me something had happened. And when I asked for the guy's number so I could at least bad date list it, they sheepishly admitted the guy called blocked or from a payphone or using a calling card. In one instance, the guy grabbed her wallet out of her purse (even though she had no money in it), and chucked it in the garbage in the front of her building, so she was lucky to get it back, but still.... So, even though a callback number is not a guarantee of safety, it's just one minimal measure most of us have as a record of something rather than nothing. It's a very little thing to ask for. No offence, but you are just not "that important" for me to want to screw around with privacy or ruin your life by me having your number. I don't even care if your name is Tom, Dick or Harry, but a number - yes, that's all I ask for is a callback number. Regular hobbyiests have known the drill for years that if they want to book an appointment, the minimal they have to provide is a number. When you start thinking you are more special than others and we should give exceptions, you are already not respecting a lady's boundaries, so no wonder she isn't going to be too warm to the idea of even seeing you. Unless the guy or lady (stick with reputable providers) has a agenda, this should NEVER be an issue. Period.

Whenever I read these threads, i always try to put myself in clients point of view. Honestly, if it were the other way around, I probably wouldn't want want to see a lady who doesn't respect herself enough to keep herself safe. With no screening methods, she clearly doesn't have enough common sense to protect herself as she lets anyone into her zone, really how safe could i feel spending time with her? If she has such clear disregard for her safety in that manner, in what other areas is she this careless too? Not to be dark here, and I know this is depressing to talk about but if I can clarify, at least from my perspective, why we screen. As sex workers, people murder us, plain and simple. Because of the stigma put out by society; that what we do is morally wrong, and therefore, we do not deserve the same respect as any other human being. Some men, like Robert Pickton, think its OK to hurt us. Our profession has one of the highest risks of death and/or serious injury. Our assault rates, next to nurses is the highest in the country, and the number #1 cause of death in this line of work is murder. If you look up statistics, the numbers for abuses against us are staggering. We, like police or fireman, blindly and selflessly put our lives on the line to serve the public for the greater good. I know when I see my client, the time we spend together is beneficial to him in some way shape or form, i make him happy and he likes to spend time with me. I cherish the thought that I am adored by these amazing gents who spend their very hard earned money to visit with me, talk to me about their lives and share their inner most fantasies, thoughts, hopes, dreams, fears and day to day lives with me. Whatever the reason, they gain something from their visit with me that is why they come, and I am flattered everyday by these wonderful people. That being said, there is alot of crazies out there, who do not treat us in the same manner. They have issues with whatever, and for some reason use us as an outlet for that rage. I know whenever someone walks through my door , I like a cop or fireman, am taking the risk of potentially being hurt or potentially losing my life. I do not know the risk of the situation, this person could be crazy, drunk, high, upset, angry etc. In my short time in this industry, I have delt with a few, and had a few close calls that scared the crap out of me, if it had gone left instead of right, I wouldn't be sitting here typing this now. Every incident was when I worked for an agency in another city, but I digress..... Because i value my safety, the safety of my clients, and the safety of my place of business, I do not just let any random person into my space with zero accountability. Every gent that has seen me has gone through my screening process, and provided me a number. Some one who told me a long time ago "those who cannot trust cannot be trusted". If you are wary of providing me a number, in my head, that tells me you do not want me to have any information about yourself. If you do not want me to have any information, and want to remain anonymous, you want to able to do something to me without any accountability, much like why a bankrobber wears a mask when he robs the bank. When you do not want to provide me with number, I think you have ulterior motives. As an sp, you talk to other sps, and in my short time in this industry, I have heard many a horror story of ladies accepting blocked calls and it having detrimental sides effects to her. Please don't think we do not get assaulted, beaten robbed etc, it happens more than you think. Every major city has a police line for us to call for "bad dates". If assaults on us never occurred do you think the police would spend all that money to have these specialty phone lines and units dedicated to crimes against sex workers? I am not trying to be a downer here, nor am I a trying to be on a soap box, I realize you gents have lives to protect and could be a little concerned with giving information. However, you are not the ones taking the risk of physical harm to yourself. We are women we are not as strong as a man, that why so many of us fall victim, we are in a vulnerable situation. You would not expect a police officer to walk into a dangerous situation without a gun, nor a fireman into a fire without protective gear. Is it really fair to expect us to see you with no protective means? We screen so that in some degree, you are not anonymous, so in the case you do assault us, we can report that to the police and protect other ladies from a predator. Knowledge is power. That's it, plain and simple, the only reason we want your info is to keep ourselves and others like us safe, and obvious practical reasons, like calling if there's an emergency en route and we need to cancel. Honestly, I have regulars I've been seeing for years that I still don't recognize their number when they call ( i must start programming them lolz) I honestly don't care what their number is. Some guys think we save all these numbers and were going to call you or something. I would never call my clients, I have no reason to. We are professionals, not "citizen" women; if you give us a number, after you are intimate with us we are not going to fall head over heels in love with you and start calling you all the time. We have our own lives and no reason to interact with you outside of the contact you initiate. I have never called a client unless i was asked to, period, that makes no sense to me, as well as most of the other ladies here. Sorry for the long rambling, this is not meant to be offensive or preachy,please dont take it as such, just meant to shed some light for you gents so you can understand an sp's perspective :)

In all the years of that I have indulged in the hobby I have never had an issue with using any phone that has displayed a number including cell phones. I understand the need for a call back number. Discretion is the key here, it goes a long way to understanding "Blocked Calls" The Service Provider is trying to run a business based on appointments. The only way to keep the business running smoothly is to be able to confirm appointments, provide locations and in the event of a serious problem, delay or cancel them. I consider this a legitimate need for a contact number, land line or cell phone or otherwise. Most members of CERB seem to seek out information on Providers before taking the plunge and booking the appointment and even in some circumstances will have gone through a Pre Screening. By then one should have a pretty good rapport with the Provider and an understanding of the need for a number that can be called. I have no issues with "Blocked Calls" Any type of a Business that is based on Services has a legitimate need for contact phone numbers. Why should the Business that the Providers are running be any different. Try booking an emergency after hours call to a heating technician without a call back number... Rodehard

I have very long legs and used to be a sprinter..I love wearing short skirts in the summer to show of my legs. But stockings are fantastic in the bedroom.

Nicolette Vaughan can certainly squirt!!!

Is there such thing as a bad squirter?