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I offer BBBJ and in 15 years have never caught anything. I rinse with full strength listerine after every blow job and do not allow CIM. Perhaps I am taking a risk, but since BBBJ is at my discretion, if anything looks or smells funky down there, I don't chance it. Also, there are gents who prefer CBJ, and I always ask first which they prefer. I never assume all guys want BBBJ, because many don't. The one thing I do not permit is digits because you can contract low grade (fungal etc.) infections from dirty hands and not everyone washes their hands properly. I know one lady who insists her clients use latex gloves if they want to finger her and I understand her logic totally. No offense to any ladies who only offer CBJ or those any who have posted on this thread, but I have had my fair share of judgment being passed on me by other ladies because I do offer BBBJ and I think it's a bit hypocritical. I believe if you're going to call yourself totally safe, then you would also not allow kissing, digits or DATY without a dental dam and I do know ladies who only offer CBJ who do allow some or all of those things. I believe we need to respect each others limits with judgment or or criticism. Just as many cannot understand why I offer BBBJ, I have cannot fathom anyone offerring BBFS, but there are those who do and I do not believe they are comparable.

But truth be told, and not saying this to minimize what has been said, the only safe sex is masturbation. Even with condoms, there is a element of risk (they could break, or come off) Even in so called monogamous relationships, you never know for sure for fact if your partner is faithful...there is an element of trust there. But irrespective of what the client wants, the lady's boundaries must be respected no matter what RG

I would like to nominate Tgirl Nikki as my CERB goddess of the day. The Executive Director of Sex Professionals of Canada (SPOC), and advocate for the decriminalization of prostitution via Bedford. v. Canada, I admire her beauty, poise, and obviously, her politics!

This is a thread to recommend the most thought-provoking, expressive articles you've read in the past year (or so). Any topic is open, as is any forum from which the article can be pulled (blog, news magazine, etc.). The only restriction is that other CERBites must have access to the article from your post -- so don't forget the link! You can discuss the articles recommended, or recommend your own. Most of us don't have time to read every article, so it would be a great idea to limit it to one article per post, and give a brief synopsis of the article and it's argument, as well as why you found it worth recommending. That way other cerbites can decide which articles really appeal to them. So to start things off, here is my first recommendation: Inside the Political Brain, from The Atlantic Except: "When lots of individuals blow holes in one another's claims and arguments, the reasoning of the group should be better than the reasoning of the individual. But at the same time, the individual -- or the individual in a self-affirming group that does not provide adequate challenges -- is capable of going very wrong, because of motivated reasoning and confirmation bias. Thanks to these flaws, the sole reasoner rarely sees what's wrong with his or her logic." My reason for choosing it: I've always been wary of finding myself in a mutually affirming snuggle-fest. I think it's very easy to get stuck in an intellectual rut, or to miss gaping holes in your own logic. For this reason I really like to challenge ideas, both mine and those of my friends. As you can imagine, this can lead to a world of trouble (I've had many lessons in tact in my life) but I still think it's worthwhile. I think affirmation can be a great thing when it's needed. But I think to get the most out of life (or at least the most out of your own brain) you need to keep you own side of the debate accountable by talking regularly and honestly with those who disagree with you. I'm looking forward to seeing what others will share. Enjoy!

BBFS has to be off everyone's list. After that, people need to manage their risk level. The key is to be well informed and keep yourself educated, and go for testing reasonably regularly. Each of us has a responsibility to Play safe and play smart. Porthos

This is a very sensitive subject but not one that should be pushed under the rug, as if it doesn't exist. Everyone has the right to choose who they have an encounter with SP and Hobbyist alike, our choice. I myself a Ebony(Black)/Native Companion was together and married to a white man for many years, we have 2 bi-racial sons. I have never dated a black male, may be because my family is so large and everyone is your cousin or distant cousin. I've always dated white men and that is just the race I'm use to or it may be because I started dated my ex-white husband when I was 15. I have no exact answer to why. I don't see many black males, 2 regulars as a matter of fact. Other races mainly Asian, bi-racial, Native and mainly White contact me. I see it as if someone doesn't want to meet me because of my ethnicity and stereotypes that is their loss and sad. They are missing out on a very nice sweet person but I don't let it bother me, I will admit it use to hurt my feelings and make me wonder what is wrong with me, why am I not good enough. Then I realized, I'm not the problem. For any one person that looks at me with those "racist" thoughts, their not in my books good enough to be even graced with my presence. There are many wonderful people who would and are delighted to spend quality time with me. To be blunt no matter the color on the outside of the SP, a kitty is a kitty and we all have unique personalities, looks, shapes, sizes, hair color and something special to offer. People are entitled to have their preferences but times have and are still changing, so may be it's time to think outside the box and try new things and types. I am open to seeing any race and legal age but it is all in the initial approach and contact, point blank. I have met a 20 year old that was more kind and respectful in person than a 40 year old. In terms of the SP not wanting to see black males, I think there are underlying issues that we will never know and that is her right and choice. SP's don't make these types of decisions for no reason, whether it was their upbringing, bad experience or whatever. She has made this choice for a reason but no two people are a like. IMHO I never base who I see because of a not so great and respectful encounter with Mr. A who is white and just crude and say well I'm not seeing Mr. B who is white because of Mr. A. Everyone is different and no two can and will be the exact same. Just my thoughts. All my Love, Lexy

Congratulations Nathalie! For your very much deserved ascent into Goddesshood. Nathalie is a wonderful companion and a very special woman. She is very down to earth and calm, with beautiful positive energy. Her recommendations speak for themselves. Nathalie's profile is here.

That you are!!! Slightly off thread - a book not an article, but try Honey Money: the Power of Erotic Capital, by Catherine Hakim from University of London (UK). She rather attacks the "classical" feminist world view as well as providing an interesting, well researched chapter on the topic from sex workers perspective. CB

The risks of BBBJ run both ways with this activity. There are cases in the medical literature of the recipients receiving a little more than they anticipated! Interestingly among young women, the risk of STI is lower with anal sex than with vaginal by a factor of two. However both are more risky by three and six times respectively if BB as compared with Covered. The only risk avoidance approach is abstinence :frown:: all else is risk management. The risks from safer practices are much lower. There are lots of other things we do that are way more lethal, say driving a car for example. CB

I shall be sending a PM this evening to all of those who have confirmed attendance at the Meet and Greet in Halifax on the 22nd. There are about 20 of us at the moment. If you might like to attend then please PM me as soon as possible. This looks like it will be a fun and evenly mixed group of people and I am getting more excited as each day goes by! :)

Today... well today I am going to hearken back to OD's first day on CERB. The very first welcoming contact that I had was that of my dear friend Meg. Meg is and always will be a cherished friend... and a damn sexy friend at that. Her contributions have been of paramount importance to the site, but best of all, her warmth, her compassion, her humour and her sparkling personality have made her dear to one and all. Ohhh... and.. ummmm... She is built like Venus... only she is much younger... and she has arms... and she is not made out of stone... and Venus could not hold a candle to Meg's bum.... cuz she has no arms. With 70 reco's, she must be doing a lot of things right!!! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=M&t=18300 Love ya hun!!!

First I'm no lawyer so don't take this as gospel. But after a gleaning of the internet, except for Quebec, there is no legal obligation. For me though, damn the law, my morals and ethics kick in, a life in jeopardy, that is what is important. Now if you have by virtue of your profession, a legal duty, (such as a doctor, nurse, paramedic, caregiver etc), you must render assistance. (I fall under this category where I work) But for those thinking about flight think about this. A dead body in a hotel room. That will raise eyebrows. Maybe the police will be called in, to find out who was the last to see him/her. Even if you get out of the room, who knows who has seen you. You may end up with the police coming, not to arrest you, but to question you. A rambling RG

It will be fun to see old faces again and meet new ones! I have a feeling this get-together will be a blast!

In dicey situations, always take the highest road you can find. Always, no matter what. Character is everything, after all. One's personal integrity and authenticity are most clearly revealed in stressful or potentially dangerous situations. In the future, focus closely on your companion when you arrive. Be sure that she's sober and level. Consent is a very important consideration: you don't want to have to defend your actions if another person's consent may not have been unequivocally given. I'm a warm and affectionate person. I always greet new and returning visitors with a hug and a kiss. It's an easy way to break the ice, and I'll also notice alcohol on his breath, lack of focus in his eyes and other tell-tale signs he may be intoxicated or on something. I have turned men away in these circumstances. I've also switched the agenda for the meeting, made coffee and provided something nourishing to eat. That wasn't necessary and I wouldn't have done it if I'd felt that I was at risk of harm, but I can be a bit motherly at times. In each case, I accepted my full fee at the door and kept it.

There seems to be a new trend on the rise. A very unsafe new trend. Numerous ladies, including myself, have reported an increase in a request for BBFS. These requests are often accompagnied by offers of increased donations or promises of their youth and good looks. Please note that no reputable lady will have intercourse without a condom no matter the offer. It is degrading, dangerous and just plain stupid to be seeking unprotected sex with any stranger! Get yourself into a monogamous relationship if no condom is what you require to get off!

During my recent trip to Oz, I had marked in my agenda "to do" list: a rendezvous with the delectable Hayley Maison. The many very positive reviews and recommendations placed her number one on my extra curricular activity list. I emailed her a request to meet before I even had wheels down in Sydney. Unfortunately our schedules didn't agree and it looked like I might be disappointed. However, after a couple of weeks communicating back and forth with Hayley the moons finally aligned and I was able to meet her just before returning home, and I am really glad that I did - thanks for taking the extra effort Hayley. I met Hayley just outside of my hotel as arranged. A young confident lady approached, tall, long straight blonde hair, black form fitting dress, black high heels that encased her ankles and sparkling jade eyes, highlighted with eye shadow and mascara that quite successfully sucked you into her world. A world that I was soon to find intoxicating. I think I was a bit tongue tied with anticipation as we entered the elevator and made our way to my room. Once inside we kissed, she has a perfect smile, soft lips and damn, how can anyone miss those eyes. We engaged in conversation over ice water and lemon and I lit some scented candles. I was standing; Hayley approached kissed me, took command, unbuttoning my shirt, releasing my belt, hands exploring telling me with her body language that she was ready. I took off her dress releasing her beautiful natural breasts, next her G-string dropped to the floor. Then to the bed her heels still on, I run my hands, my lips, my tongue over her body, exploring, teasing, she is ready, she tasted so good and was so responsive I found myself lost in her passion. She returns the favour, but I hold back wanting to enter her missionary so I can look into those eyes. It was so hot to be with Hayley, someone new to me, someone so interesting, intelligent, so beautiful, so physically responsive, vocal; I glanced at the mirror beside the bed seeing long legs wrapped around me with heels in the air, back to her face the expression of lust, or mischievous contentment in her face, her lips almost in a sexy sneer, and those eyes......she knew I was having one of the best times of my life. Then to doggy where it did not take long to fully release pushed hard against her, deep inside. We followed with a relaxing hot bubble bath for two in candlelight, her leaning back on my chest with my arms around her. I loved it and it gave me some time to recuperate and fully appreciate her company. We talked and listened to music and relaxed lost to the issues of the world outside. In one of my emails I mentioned to Hayley that I was fond of white thigh-high stockings, and the schoolgirl look. After our bath she indulged me with a classic outfit that certainly got my attention. It was fun stripping off her ensemble except for those white stockings. I left those on as they perfectly accentuated her long shapely legs. I once more devoured her and loved the sight of her legs around me. She then finished me off with a blissful bbbj with cim seeing me over the top. We lay there for a while, it was well into the early morning hours and it became time to part our ways. It is a good thing that I am so far away; but one thing is for sure, I will always remember this special and extraordinary late night/early morning rendezvous with Hayley Maison. I hope we will meet again some day. RD01 - a new pic with permission:

Besides all the informative and exciting threads on the main board, there are over 100 social groups on cerb, covering everything from regional discussions (BC, Montreal, Toronto, etc.), to travel, to strip clubs, to favourite sex practices, breasts and bums, to dogs and cats :), and of course redheads! If you're new to cerb or are unfamiliar with the groups, just click on the Social Groups button under the banners at the top of the page, and it will take you to the group area, where you can explore, find people who share your special passions, and have discussions on a huge variety of topics. I spend a lot of my time on cerb in the group area, and the reason for posting this thread, besides a general reminder to people about the groups, is to say a warm thank you to all the members and participants in the social groups I interact with. It's a big part of my positive experience here on cerb, and I owe a lot to all those who post and who correspond with me about our common interests. Fun, information, great pics (really, really great pics :)), and interesting links abound. So thank you to you all, in RHAG, in AW, in IRE, and all the other groups.

I have never had it requested when I see someone as an SP but when I meet someone as a non-SP they expect it to happen. I don't understand why some males suggest it outside of SP work. *SMH*

I love bareback activities...orally speaking. Full service ... yikes. Never ever a factor or consideration with whom I meet with.... I never have asked or never will....what happens .... happens. This is why I am very particular with whom I meet with ....I get to know who I will meet with and have a comfort level and go with it....never ever a guarantee and life is one big gamble. But at the end of the day and if common sense prevails ..... if everbody is smart and genuinely cares about the lives of the people around them....then life can be good for all of us !!! Truthfully I have become very much a repeat visitor because I want to spend time with ladies that I love their company yes....but also ladies that I feel safe and comfortable being with sexually. I hope they feel the same. BBFS - Try this Bareback activity.....probably safer...

Sounds like an awesome event MrNice !!! Well done !! Most definately a feel of excitement in the air ! I know you have been getting some advise from past organizers from the West like Angela and Naughty Nicki and Old Dog and purdy's like that ;) But we at the FB BBM Lodge have held some meet Meet and Greets in the past !! IE.... Any help I can be to you MrNice just give me a ring dingle :D oops hijack

my highlight for today is reading an announcement about myself that starts with this sentence ... After 22 years, XXXX XXXX will retire from XXXX at the end of 2012. ... I have this strange mixed feeling of excitement and dread

I have never nor will I ever offer bbbj or bbfs...you could look clean but that doesnt mean anything to me or my life...looks are decieving and even still I prefer to be safe either way...its such a turn off to me when a man will ask for either of those services...but because of so many who offer bbbj and bbfs they assume I do as well...to each their own and yes you have the right to do as you please but being safe is a major turn on for me...lets be safe my fellow cerbs..xo

A recent return trip to Sydney, Australia found me contacting Macy at Bedroom Eyes Escorts (BRE). After some friendly banter, I was re-established and I accepted a recommendation to meet Brooklyn at my hotel for a couple of hours the next night. For discretionary reasons, my situation dictated me to meet Brooklyn at an arranged drop-off point to give her a second key to my room so she could negotiate the elevators on her own. She accepted the mission and carried out instructions to the tee. She was looking very cute and somewhat vulnerable as she waited in front of the designated building. I approached her at the drop-off and made contact, she smiled and looked somewhat relieved and we joked about the situation. Ten minutes later she was in my room presenting me with a bottle of white wine, a very nice gesture to start things off. She removed her trench coat and we embraced with a kiss. After some conversation and a toast she disappeared into the bathroom and changed into a newly purchased sexy school girl uniform with mesh stockings. She displayed herself in front of me moving closer to straddle my legs as I sat somewhat mesmerized at her youthful beauty and exuberance. I gladly accepted all her attention as she pulled off my shirt and I nuzzelled my face between her pert breasts. Soon I was on the receiving end of some oral attention as she looked up at me from her knees. Then it was my turn to strip off her uniform and lay her out on the bed before me. I engaged in some sweet oral while stimulating her nipples and then we engaged in a variety of positions. I pulled out and she finished me off while on her back with a forceful cob leaving me spent for the time being. We then enjoyed a rest in the large tub in the ensuite bathroom. I was enjoying Brooklyn's company and we enjoyed taking our time so I extend for a third hour. More fun ensued starting with 69. With the help of a favourite toy I used my tongue and was rewarded as she achieved a shuddering orgasm, so much so she gasped and pulled away to regain composure. Then it was my turn again. What fun. My thanks to Brooklyn and BRE for a fantastic evening. If you are ever in Sydney check out BRE .

My Goddesses of the day/week! SHELLY LANE! This prairie girl is one of the sweetest ladies I have met. She is very beautiful, smart and funny. She is blast to be with and her natural beauty is unbelievable. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=34643 And Chantal (Chantal Love) She is the very first person I have ever met from this wonderful site. She took me under her wing when I was just a newbie and made me feel at home. She is very stunning lady who is so quiet and shy it's hard to tell she is there. But she always has your back. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=20005

I like Lee because he said he likes me...oh, and he's good for a daily laugh or two to lighten up the day RG

I am in total agreement Royalfun. This is exactly what I was going to post. I mean, I respect that people have different prejudices and for whatever reason. No matter what reason she has though, it will not reflect well on your agency. She should go Indy IMHO.

Yes, Phaedrus, you are so right here! I should quote, but someone a few back post suggested that perhaps the lady could go INDY.... that way she does not compromise her own work ethic, nor does the agency?? However we dont know if this lady has chosen AGENCY over INDY for a personal reason as well?

http://makesmethink.com/ this site is a nice twist on the FML site which is sometimes good for a couple of giggles, whereas this one actually makes me feel more connected with my emotions (when I want or need to be).

I love Nathalie!!!! Met her at a social and she is as sweet as pie and as cute as a button!!! Her insights are always appreciated AND she has nice boobies!!!

My CERB Goddess Of The Day today is a lady I have yet to meet. She impresses me with her common sense posts, and positive contributions to CERB in general. Not to mention she is very beautiful and sexy. And that is a lady from down east, Lexy Grace Here is Lexy's Profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=29136 What some gentlemen have to say about Lexy http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=L&t=21511 A photo or two RG

Thanks for sharing Lexy... I actually attended a professional development workshop based on the Virginia Satir Model once. Very impressive...

Georgiana Sweet has an incredible beautiful bum, not to mention excellent taste in lingerie. *blush* she's so beautiful.

Hmmmm.......I now kinda want to change my handle to "Pervert Introvert"...or vice versa. Additional Comments: I too am very much an introvert. But the odd thing is all of my best friends seem to be extroverts. I tend to get along better with extroverts than with other introverts. Wonder why that is? Maybe it creates the perfect balance of "verts"? lol

Quite fond of this wonderful young lady and her wonderful ass !! ;) Our very own Malika .... Bum ditty bum ditty bum bum bum....bum ditty bum ditty bum bum bum.....bum ditty bum ditty bum bum bum ....ditty bum ...ditty...BUM BUM BUM ;)

I think everyone on CERB is a little perverted ;)

She should go Indy; that way she will have the freedom to define her business plan and select the kind of customers she wants and those she doesn't. For an agency, that kind of "selection" may cause a problem for the credibility or the reputation of the agency. For the SP, she has the right to choose the customers she wants to offer her services, but, maybe, the agency setting does not suits her.

Well her reasons could be simple prejudice or something completely different, but what ever they are I respect her right to have them. In particular because this is posted under FS providers, I think it is every woman's choice to see or not see anyone they choose (clients also). Perhaps it isn't at all what it one might think, maybe she had an "African-American" boyfriend who treated her badly and she doesn't need to be reminded of this. Some more mature SPs won't see younger men? Hem, should we complain to the human rights commission based on age discrimination? In an intimate setting, racial prejudice is acceptable to me; (heavens, did I just say that, yes, I did and only because I am both stupid and fearless) but in fact it is the only circumstance under which I will tolerate or stand for it even if I don't agree with it. I think she has the right to discriminate on any bases she chooses (in this case only), most of which would be completely unacceptable under any other circumstance. I also think it is possible to not be prejudice but not believe in or be comfortable with inter-racial couples (when one of them is you).

Yikes, great shots! A hard act to follow for sure.

Well two ladies who are currently not with us, but I'm looking forward to their return to CERB, I'll nominate as my CERB Goddesses of the Day The first is Alexandra Sky. A CERB contributor, came up with positive threads such as the "I Like/Positivity Thread" Enjoyed reading her posts, and looking forward to her return to CERB A photo of the lovely Alexandra What some gentlemen think of Alexandra http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=63135 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=A&t=40830 The second lady (just mentioned) who is also not with us, but I'm looking forward to her return to CERB too, is Isabella Gia. A lady who has a heart of gold. How many ladies like, as a gift, to receive a contribution to a food bank, something that helps others. Here is a photo of the lovely Isabella And what some gentlemen think of Isabella http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=I&t=22900 In spite of their time out, both ladies' positive contributions to CERB can't be overlooked, and I for one will welcome them back when they are out of the penalty box :-) RG

CERB is a tough place to defend this, in the context of working as an escort, but outside of my work I do not like to be sexualised by strangers wherever I go. Even if you don't understand it I think it's pretty clear that women do not find random bum-related comments complimentary, so no man should expect to be thanked for a comment that he knows will not be appreciated. I will say thank you for compliments on my dress, but not my ass. That's just telling men that I like it when they objectify my. I understand it, because I view women sexually as well. But I don't thrust my sexuality at them while they are shopping for lettuce. I don't want to single out poor boomer, but I want to address the idea that women dressed in a sexy manner are fishing for these "compliments". It really opens a can of worms. Should every man she passes tell her what he thinks of her body? If it is okay to say your ass is spectacular is it also okay to say, "Wow, I would love to fuck you"? Where do we draw the line? How many men get to talk about her ass or tits in the grocery store before she's allowed to stop thanking them? If it is not acceptable for every man should say "great ass" who gets to be the exception? Should she wear jogging pants if she doesn't want men commenting on her body? (Btw, this doesn't work.) How sexy is sexy enough to warrant being objectified publicly by strangers? I am an escort, I am far from a prude, and I HATE getting these kinds of comments from men when I'm going about my day. Nuances make a huge difference, and there is a not-so-subtle nuance between smiling and making lewd comments about a woman's body. It is very easy to smile and say nothing, and that is always recommended. Women have said again and again, for decades (probably centuries) -- with near perfect unanimity -- that we do not like these comments. I think you can take us at our word that we're not fishing for them, no matter what we're wearing. I hope that didn't come across as too negative.

There is a time and a place for paying those kind of compliments and costco is just not one of them. You did well to resist the urge. Smiles from strangers are appreciated by most women, I believe. But lewd remarks from strangers walking up to you out of nowhere are generally not popular. It is pretty objectifying. You probably wouldn't make a girl feel complimented, but rather dehumanised. Appreciate her quietly -- we all look and there's nothing wrong with that. But don't walk up to a woman and make any remarks about her body. How is she supposed to respond to a comment like that? She knows, and she's probably happy you enjoy how she looks. But she doesn't want to hear your opinion of her ass while she's going about her day.

My CERB Goddess of the Day today is a lady already mentioned in this thread, but I'm mentioning, because she's "my" Goddess of the Day That is Amelia Middleton. A upbeat lady who makes positive contributions to CERB, her posts I look forward to reading I wish she'd make a tour to Ontario in the future, but Ontario's loss seems to be Yellowknife's gain Amelia's Profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=48783 What some gentlemen have said about her http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=A&t=6118 A photo of the lovely Amelia or two RG

This is beyond the concept of a thrill, and a crazy risk for everyone. Why or why, some guys think this is even an option to ask, one has to wonder... Ladies, stick to your guns, you are right to tell this guys take a hike and keep on going...

Gena's pretty new here, like me. But I like her a lot! She's friendly, smart, likes to play word games, and she taught me something I never knew about bananas. I imagine she would be a lot of fun to hang out with. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=62047

"beautiful, sultry, sexy, intelligent ladies of CERB" No Brainer for me. For introducing taking me to the other side with care, understanding, and sheer awesomeness, for breaking a barrier in my mind with an "Oh yeah!" moment, for her humility and kindness, the very sexy Peachy. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=18359 And for legs to drool over (well, body in general) http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=4637&pictureid=29704 She has a strong participation on this board which makes her approachable. Her approach to her work is professional which I admire and respect. And like she says in her ads, she is really a nice girl with a naughty (oh so very naughty) side. On a more personal note, that "Oh Yeah!" moment has helped me immensely. It's improved my confidence to a level that I've never thought earlier possible, and I've noticed a difference, or at least a difference with the reactions I've gotten from people.

It is absolutely disgusting that you even needed to post this but I commend you for sticking up for yourself. Be well, keep your head up and enjoy the shit out of life. That is the best revenge!

When I was a teenager my brother, who is a few years older than me, told me that every time he went to the local strip club near where we grew up he ran in to girls he went to high school with who were dancing. So, the first time I went to that SC was shortly after I was of age, which was less than a year after I graduated from high school. I went with a buddy of mine and a mutual girl friend of ours. My buddy went to a different high school than I did in the same area. As were were going in I told him about what my brother told me. After sitting down for about 10 minutes, sure enough my buddy sees a girl he went to high school with who was dancing. As she was walking by my buddy calls out her name. The girl looked really surprised and some awkward chit chat ensued. Within half an hour I saw two girls I went to high school with who were dancing. I wasn't really friends with them, so it wasn't terribly awkward. So, my brother was right. It's not like this was a really small town. There were about 40,000 people in that area. When I was in high school I had some naive sense that everyone was in the same boat, so I guess it was somewhat of a shock to see how much people's paths diverged in the short time since we graduated.