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It's March 8, and I would like to salute all the women's of CERB, Massage Attendants, Service providers, and how we appreciate what they do for us. Merci à ces femmes merveilleuses!

I had someone recently make the statement that I was responsible for their pleasure. Which started me thinking that a lot of people, not just in the SP dynamic but also in real time relationships think this way as well. I do NOT believe I am responsible for anyone's pleasure. Each person is responsible for their own, I am but an instrument of pleasure bringing my own unique talents, attitude, and body to the table. I am not a mind reader, so if something I'm doing could feel better or be done in a different more pleasing way, share this and allow me to pleasure you better. I am here for your pleasure so I want you to feel as good as possible. If your expectation is that I am responsible for your pleasure and what I do or don't do, even on first meeting, reflects my standing as an SP, then many SP's may fall on the negative side of the balance sheet which isn't fair. Yes, I know life isn't fair but shouldn't we take some responsibility for ourselves?. It's one thing when there isn't that connection or appeal, that's something you can't fake. However when I hear "it wasn't done the way I like it or how I expected" it makes me want to ask where they were because they apparently weren't fully present as a participant. So, just a frustrating happening that gave me food for thought. Maybe my thinking in flawed in that this industry does make us responsible as SP's/MP's for someone's pleasure but I really hope it's more the exception than the norm. Does anyone have any thoughts on either side of the equation?

Midnite, Excellent thread and points. In fact all the posters so far have made great points. It's unfortunate that you had a client say that to you and really it would have been my assumption that its a given that most clients (in my mind) should be sexually progressive by nature to result in them deciding to seek out an SP. Really, unfortunately it comes down to people being comfortable with their own sexuality and being able to verbalize that to their partner either SP or SO. Do to my personality I have always felt comfortable talking about sex and verbalizing my wants before, during and after an encounter. My wife on the other hand has always struggled with being able to say what she wants, (I've had to pry it out of her) luckily over the years she's loosened up alot almost to the other extreme (if i'm playing with her and I'm taking too long or not hitting her spots just right at that moment she'll give a little growl push my hand away and take over herself, very hot BTW). Once upon a time she'd have never done that for fear that she might offend me. For me as a partner it's very liberating knowing that her pleasure doesn't hinge on me as it allows me to enjoy and savour the monent much better. The more people realize that sex is natural (the most natural thing actually or we all wouldn't be here) the better it opens the door to a much more beautiful experience for everyone. We in western culture (specifically North America) still suffer from the view point that sex is private, taboo, you don't talk about it, keep it behind closed doors. Its unfortunate because its so freaking awesome. My last point on the subject is this, nobody can make me cum faster than I can myself and it's the same for every other woman and man on the planet. We all know our own buttons, life is better when we share those buttons with each other ;) As for instruments, I've got a Trombone that needs playing, slow, soft and drawn at first with a loud and boisterous finish.( I know how I like to be played and now so do all of you) That's a little bit of Friday morning rambling

I understand the stress we can put on ourselves to be "all that" and we really aren't treating ourselves well when we do it. We are responsible for having ourselves prepared and ready, upbeat, positive etc. so that we can give ourselves in the best way possible. I love sharing with someone either new or repeat and having them share with me. As Cyclo said, it's the novelty and discovery that amps up the excitement. Within that I like to also know what feels good. Sometimes in my discovery I find them and sometimes they are a little hidden or need to special treatment, this is when communication is important to me. It really is mental as well as physical too. I love the comparison to a tango as it really is that give and take and melding of energies. Do you prefer, as a client, to be asked or to just communicate if you want something a little different in terms of pressure, tongue, no tongue, faster slower? Do you enjoy being asked knowing someone is focused on your pleasure? Personally, I love to give that "smile that lasts all day" and when I know I did, it gives ME a smile that lasts all day. When unsure, I have to fight with myself not to take full responsibility.

I never ever feel solely responsible for anyone's pleasure when they come to see me and I don't let people make me feel that way even if it's in a positive way. It's also what that person brings to the table during the encounter. If that person is in a bad mood, it is going to affect them, myself as I can read a person's body language and mood very welll and ultimately will affect THEIR pleasure. Receiving pleasure is a two way street and if there is no communication, then there is not a lot of pleasure on the receiving end. To me, it's like doing the Tango. You have to be on the same page with your partner. I cannot be held responsible for a person's pleasure as there are so many varying factors brought into a session from that person whether it's their mood, personality, communication skills, etc. Pleasure isn't just a physical sensation, it's a mental one as well especially when having an orgasm. Like dancing the tango with a partner, the physical and mental aspects both go hand in hand with one another.

International Women's Day (8 March) is a global day celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. Though women in North America and Europe have made significant well deserved gains in recent years and decades so congratulations are in order however there is a long way to go before women and girls can enjoy equal rights, especially in other parts of the world women are lacking in equality. Women must have equal rights to decide on their own will what to wear, what to drink, who to socialize and whom not to, who to marry and whom not to, what to study, where to work and must be entitled to equal pay for equal work. Women must have Equality in inheritance and equal rights to divorce all over the world. Violence against women and girls must stop now and international communities must act now and take immediate steps to end violence against women and children. Celebrate women's day by supporting women across the world who are are fighting for equality and justice for women and girls. In middle east, Africa, even Europe and America there is still unacceptable gender discrimination. Long-term, sustainable development and prosperity will only be possible when women and men enjoy equal opportunity to rise to their full potential. Women are the ones with bigger hearts and minds and deserve the long overdue total, immediate and unconditional equality in all aspects of life all over the world NOW. Happy International women's day to all cerbites especially our ladies.

Oh by the title I thought there was a new sex toy out, lol. But a great subject to bring up, thank you. I always felt soley responsible for giving a man the "time of his life". Causing a bit of stress for myself before each meeting. I especially felt extra pressure to do this when meeting someone new as I thought it would leave a bad mark on my name if I didn't, which I now know isn't fair to myself. I finally realized as you said, that it takes two. No matter how talented one is or how many tricks you have up your sleeve you'll never be able to "create the perfect experience" if the other preson isn't engaged, if the chemistry isn't there, if the mood of either person or both is off, if there is an interuption of any kind,ect,ect,so many things factor into making a wonderful experience,wonderful. It is rather silly to think you can just lay back and expect someone to push all your buttons and make something happen without you "working" as well.

I agree with you. Everything I've read on the topic of sexual satisfaction, and my own personal experience supports this idea. Personal responsibilty involves feeling good about yourself and your body; knowing what gives you pleasure (physically, emotionally, mentally); and here's the kicker being able to communicate that verbally and non-verbally (moans, groans, body movement...). All of these elements are part of being responsible for your own sexual pleasure whether your masturbating or with a partner. We all hope our partners (service provider, romantic, fling, friends with benefits) are empathetic, intuitive and creative but we can't expect them to be mind readers. No one knows how to touch us or turn us on better than we do ourselves ;-) Of course sometimes part of the pleasure of being with a new sexual partner is the novelty, unpredictability and discovery of a new pleasure. When we learn something new about our bodies, minds or emotions, that's a great bonus. It plays a part in why some of us like to have multiple sexual partners. We certainly have a right to expect our sexual partners to be attentive, in the moment and open minded. Still the responsibility for our satisfaction should never be exclusively in our partner's hands. Personally I find it's a real turn on when I'm with a woman who's comfortable stimulating herself while I'm stimulating her also. The same goes for me. Sometimes it just takes pressing that special button that you know, to take you to the next level or over the top. I recall reading an advice column in which women wrote in and provided advice to men on how to perform great oral sex. It was all over the place "Stick your tongue in.... Never, ever stick your tongue in"; "Nibble on my clit with your teeth... If you use your teeth on my clit I will tear your head off"; "Use your fingers and tongue... Only do one thing at a time, it's too distracting if you're using your fingers...". The obvious conclusion of the advice column was... for both partners to communicate, especially the person on the receiving end of any stimulation. In other words... Take personal responsibility. I know the women on this board want every client to leave weak kneed and with a smile on their face that they can't hide :-) At the same time I'm sure you've seen it all from clients in terms of self awareness and personal comfort communicating needs and desires.

Being insulted by someone you see asking for a free session when you rarely see them. and you've been very good to them when you do see them. Sorry my bills don't get paid with gifts in exchange for my rate or giving free sessions. Would you go to work one day without being paid? I don't think so... And when the answer is no.. the response is "It's been nice knowing you." Yeah it has been nice knowing you. Not! Now lose my number!" Not very becoming for someone to ask this. This is my job just like everyone else has a job. I know I'm preaching to the choir here but what a piss off! This hobby is a luxury and I'm not a credit union!

Nicole does have a point, if fake photos were posted somewhere after her apology it would be good to see the photo here -- I DO ASK THAT IF SOMEONE POSTS SOMETHING THAT COULD BE DAMAGING IN REGARDS TO FAKE PHOTOS THAT EVIDENCE BE PROVIDED AS WELL -- (and you can always PM it to me for review with a link to the ad if you do not wish to post it in public). I would like to see Nichole here on cerb upload some photos to her album, post a few ads here on cerb and see if the cerb community will welcome her. As I said it will be a uphill battle for her but all hope is not lost of she can prove she has changed her ways.

HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY

I know the preference being referred to has been towards women, but what about men? I personally go ga ga over guys with salt and pepper hair I think it's so sexy. But, at the end of the day it really goes beyond that it's always someone's personality that matters.

'Nuff said.

Almost 18 months ago, I learned that my pancreas wasn't producing insulin and that I had suddenly become a Type 1 diabetic. This kind of diabetes is usually associated with children and adolescents, but it's often diagnosed in people under 55. Since then, I've had to become an expert about everything I eat so that I can take enough insulin to be healthy. All carbohydrates break down into sugar--into glucose. Glucose and fat are the fuels that our bodies use to keep us going. But we don't need glucose at all. We can live perfectly healthy, long lives without sugar, including fruit and fruit juices. The thing that causes the problems for North Americans is the combination of eating lots of carbohydrates with very little fat. The result is heart disease. But reducing the carbohydrate intake and increasing the amount of fat is very good for you and will reduce the plaque built-up in your arteries. When the amount of carbohydrate is low enough, the metabolism switches over and burns fat instead of glucose. Eating carbohydrates does create the craving for more, to be sure. It can be difficult to figure out how much carbohydrate is in things like sauces, salad dressings, marinades and the batter that may be used to cook fish and chicken. Labels aren't always as easy to read or understand as they should be, and some studies show that the information may not always be accurate, either. What I think is truly scandalous is that, while these things are long-established nutritional facts, the information doesn't get out to people because of the incredible influence of the big drug companies and organizations like the American and Canadian Diabetes Associations. People usually believe that the Diabetes' Associations are on the side of patients, but the fact is that they're funded by the drug companies and the manufacturers of processed foods. They have an enormous influence over the curriculum dieticians are taught and, by extension, over the menus in hospitals and public institutions. A high carbohydrate diet isn't good for anyone. For people who have either Type 1 or Type 2 diabetes, it's impossible to maintain normal blood sugar levels while eating high amounts of carbohydrate, yet that is exactly what they're told to do. They will inevitably develop nasty complications, as a result, and will be prescribed drugs to try to lower their blood sugar and manage the damage to their hearts, kidneys, eyes, central nervous system, etc. I enjoy sweets. I'm particularly fond of dark chocolate. Small amounts of chocolate, or small amounts of fruit won't hurt me if I can take the right amount of insulin at the right time to deal with the sugar. But if I eat much fruit or other carbohydrate, the amount of insulin I will need to take will cause me to gain weight. So, in the end, it's important to keep a close eye on things. I cook food instead of buying it packaged or already prepared. I do drink diet colas sometimes but there the issue is really the amount of sodium in them. I have to say that I feel terrific now. It took awhile to get comfortable with this new way of eating. But nowadays, no sugar? Not a big deal!

Last I heard, she was returning around Easter.

Politics aside... (yes, I vote NDP)... I LOVE this video from today in the halls of the House of Commons... :) RIP Stompin Tom! Can you imagine this happening at Capitol Hill in the US? Never! Just another reason to be proud to be Canadian! :) Also reminds me of this... . I actually saw it on CNN first... They thought it was awesome and wished that their own government would have such a sense of humour too. :)

My dad yet again admitted to hospital with obstructed breathing:(

I could joke that I have never got used to mine, and that is because I occasionally have to "hunt" for the right head angle to see something in focus last year I got a pair of reading glasses, set for 2 to 3 feet away, and they really help with reading a book or computer screen

Maybe he can slip away at the Star Wars parties. Do you think they will still let him play the Emperor, even though he left the big job??? I must admit that the resemblance is uncanny....

my wish list for 2013 and my 3 choices would be #1 Malika #2 Catherine #3 Emerald Winters and much much more

It is found everywhere and so addictive. I am one of it's victims. Some may wonder why as I'm already sweet enough! LOL, just kidding. But seriously, lately I have been consuming more and more, which is apparently what you do, you eat it and it causes you to want more. I was shocked to discover my favorite soda-stewarts- is laden with it. A whopping 41 grams-9teaspoons+ in one 12oz-355ml bottle! I've been drinking at least 2 a day, plus all the other products it's hidden in. Canned soups, pasta sauces, salad dressings, ketchup, bread, cereals, the list goes on and on. It really is a poison, feeds cancer, robs our skin of it's youth, creats inflamation in the body-promoting disease, drains your energy, and that list goes on and on. So why would anyone want to eat it? Well because it makes everything taste better. But now, finally, I am publically vowing to give it up, anyone else want to join me or vent about sugar?

I'm not sure if I could or would want to compile a "list". In my limited time here on CERB I've actually been blown away by the beauty and diversity, every lady awesome in her own way. I don't have a type but I have to say that I'm a sucker for intellect and when SP's run off on a thread with some great comment it really hooks me. Also SP's that exude selfconfidence and sensuality get me hot as well. For me everytime I log into CERB I discover another amazing lady that I vow to meet eventually. Being the gallant guy I am I don't think it would be fair to list them out like mountains I want to climb and conquer. Stay awesome ladies!

I've got that movie Flight with Denzel washington in it and bought it weeks ago but haven't had the time to watch it yet. Maybe this weekend.

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There aren't many decent women in Winnipeg, I'm baffled where you would have found 30 different ads to inquire about. My current fave has her hands full meeting the demands of her regulars, she has no need to advertise. And like many, she has a real life that severely limits her SP time. Manitoba, you say a professional woman would respond. That is irrelevant. You just do not get it. You have no idea what a volume of inquiries some SPs get, they could easily spend hours per day answering them. If she has all the business she can handle, why would she? FYI, I drove one local SP home from the airport after her holidays. She had HUNDREDS of messages in her phone and her computer. Do you really think she would waste her time answering them all? I had lunch with another popular lady on Saturday, in the space of an hour she had about ten inquiries.

its not out yet But I will be Watching when it comes out I just found out there is a Hangover 3 and I figured this would be the appropriate thread to post it in

Mapquest... when you punch in somewhere you want to go like really directions should start at #5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my own neighbourhood.

This generally varies by club (some don't cut song lengths, others cut them at 3.5 minutes, others at 4, etc.) and, to a greater extent, by dancer. Some dancers will offer you more of a "deal" than others, so unless there is a posted price (like at Pigale and Barefax as mistert mentioned), you'll just have to work it out with her. Still, even at clubs with a posted price, you'll encounter girls charging more or less for various reasons. Actually, some girls may not even offer a block of time and simply prefer to charge by song. Personally, I prefer it (for the reasons outlined in the post mistert linked to), but not all dancers do! Now, whether you get a "deal" in terms of amount of time for money largely depends on the length of songs at that club. You can always ask the DJ, though IME clubs tend to cut them in the range of 3.5-4.5 minutes. In an hour, that's 13-17 songs or $260-$340 when paying by song, so let that be your guide, so to speak. Of course, a "deal" is also incredibly subjective... More bang for your buck is often synonymous with a dirtier dance, but it can mean different things for different people, like getting undivided attention, spending time with an in-demand dancer, feeling unrushed, not having to worry about being overcharged or losing count of songs, getting a less repetitive experience because the dancer knows how much time she has to work with, having a more intimate dance since there's time to get to know each other's likes, etc., etc. So, as with everything in the club, YMMV! I'd always recommend getting a lap dance or two by song before committing to a block of time with a dancer, just so you know you're on the same page and will enjoy yourself.

Thanks for the rambling @nlwoodchuck and the wonderful points on trombone playing, very informative! LOL. Love your view on sex and agree completely and love how your wife has become this sexually liberated creature...I think your patience was rewarded!

My all time favorite tv character is Hawkeye Pierce from M--A--S--H--. My current favorite is Barney Stinson from How I Met Your Mother.

A classic 80's Canadian rock tune... Harlequin - Innocence The entire chorus sounds like ANAL SEX! :) Ooooh the irony! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cMeM2YTfa7c You will never hear this song the same again.

Joan from Mad Men! I spend hours dreaming of her wardrobe...

Hehe those are awesome. I also love this one:

Maxwell Smart....AKA Agent 86 ..... Brilliant Man............. He mastered the use of the Ishoe....which is now the Iphone.... And he worked through the kinks with The Chief and the cone of silence............which is now called "Skype" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=APyut2B7tdo

When my kids were born, lots of people were talking about putting the placenta in the ground and planting a tree. Lots of talk about freezing the umbilical cord for future issues in the kid's life. Eating the placenta or having taxes on junk food, which is more screwed up?

My Husband and I tried a couple experience at paradise spa, it was a blast. It seems weird to me that swinging seems predominate, but the SP experience seems safer to me. You know what your getting into and who you are meeting.

that is a really good point. people are so quick to blame Sugar and don't think of salt. Processed foods are horrible for you I don't care how lean and fat free they claim to be. last thing I want to hear is "do you want to go to subway its healthy" no hun its ALL processed meats, that 6' deli trio is the same as a big mac, sorry ;) just like a large ceasar salad is

I am a sugar addict and really had to slow down on it. As a result, I've lost 7 lbs in under 2 weeks by not doing anything and just cutting back on what I eat as well. I can completely relate to you Christy because I was the same way. Anything like bread, no problem giving up....Sugar to me, if I didn't have it, the nasty side of me would come out comparable to someone trying to quit smoking. After the 3 days, I was alright and now that I'm off of it, I feel good but those 3 days were fucking torture. Sugar is like the damn devil. There are many diabetics in my family... now is the time..

I'm not an expert but I do know the body does need sugar but natural sugar and not processed. Example fruit contains natural sugar which is good to a certain point. Stuff like soda has sugar added and isn't good for you. It won't kill you but increases your risk of developing health related problems. Ex diabetic. Also you got be careful not to over do it and end up having low sugar in the blood which can cause you to faint or even in extreme cases into a coma. Me its been about 2 months I've quit drinking soda. I used to consume 2-3 a day sometimes more. I just stop buying it and now if its in the house I don't even care about it and I drink water or concentrated juice 1 glass a day. If you're like me and need flavour add mio to your water no sugar and no calories. I've lost 35 Lbs in about 3 months with a bit of dieting and a little more exercise. Not only do I have more energy but I feel like I'm 10-15 years younger. So you don't need extra sugar in your diet you can get plenty of natural sugar from fruit.

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Having a broken heater. My apartment is warm but my room feels like an icebox.

A 6:11 clip from a weird Finnish comedy cooking show... I didn't make it very far....

initial attraction is visual of course, how well the hair is taken care of is the next thing, and there are a lot of bad colour jobs out there

Kris makes an excellent point. I am amazed (maybe embarrassed is a better description) that there are so many guys that want to hit on the RMT's thinking that deep down inside, these girls MUST be itching to jerk a guy off for a change.. And as for guys that think they are going to find an RMT that will jerk them off and then process the billing thru their Blue Cross coverage?? OMG... Please, do us all a favor. Stop imagining that every RMT that advertises is going to miraculously provide you with a happy ending. These people are in this business as registered practitioners. This pisses off the RMT's, their Association, and the cops. Give it a rest, fellas...

Well, I've seen her.... .....and I can not recommend based on my experience

It's easy to launch trial balloons in the form of "What if..." questions, especially online where no one knows who anyone is or what their ulterior motive may be. But if I've taken a room at, say, the PanPacific Hotel here in Vancouver and someone goes to the front desk and says that the lady in room 1811 is a prostitute and is entertaining clients there today, I expect the hotel management will laugh long and hard. "Prove it," they will say. "Start by first telling us who you are (and showing some ID), then tell us the name of the person registered in that room and give us a concrete reason to believe that this person is working there." What will you do? Provide your identification? Somehow, I find this difficult to imagine. Can you furnish the name under which the room is registered? I guarantee that you won't be able to do that. Will you be able to provide evidence that someone called Samantha Evans has invited you to consort with her at the PanPacific Hotel this afternoon? Maybe you can. But you won't have a room number and in any case the PanPacific has never heard of Samantha Evans. You can get frustrated and pound the desk. You can roll your eyes and storm around a little bit. You can say that maybe you have the room number wrong, but you know that there's a prostitute in the hotel and you want them to take action, to call the police or at least go and check that room or other rooms. This might be an interesting way to entertain yourself for about five minutes on a rainy Vancouver afternoon in the dregs of winter. But from the hotel's standpoint you will look like a spiteful boyfriend or a malicious ex-partner or someone who's just got it in for a woman who turned him down when he tried to pick her up in the bar. If I do say so myself, no one has ever visited me anywhere and complained about it afterward. Oh, wait. That's not true. See, I had this stalker awhile back.... The police took care of that problem for me. But otherwise, the gentlemen who visit me and who see my colleagues in similar circumstances are no more interested in causing harm to me than I am in harming them or anyone else, anywhere, anytime. We meet. They pay me for my time. We engage in mutually agreeable things, whether we have a meal, play some chess, debate what passes for politics in B.C. or indulge in a wide range of delectable, erotic activities. Usually it's a combination of things. And at the end of our appointed time, we part company amicably. It's that simple. It may transpire that the gentleman and I discover that we're really not quite as compatible as we'd expected. The meeting may go very well, but one or the other of us may not want to repeat. Maybe he was looking for a one-time encounter, nothing more. Astonishingly, a man could discover that a verbal, opinionated woman isn't his preferred cup of tea regardless of her other skills and assets. Whatever the reason, it won't be because one of us has robbed the other, or because either of us was assaulted or has ventured to blackmail the other. Fear-mongering helps no one. But if you believe that most people are out to get you, if you imagine that everyone is hatching some dire plan to bring about your ruin... sweetheart, this is not the right profession for you. You will either take foolish risks that bring about exactly what you hoped to avoid or you will take no chances at all and earn nothing. At the least, you will end up feeling bitter, used and degraded because that's all you expected to feel, no matter how much cash you've got in your hand. More than 99% of the time, if screened effectively, the client is not an enemy.

Spraycan...if you're repeating in hopes of a happy ending, i wish you a lot of luck. Stephanies rmt skills and experience are excellent. Enjoy that skill she has. Do not initiate a happy ending. She is strictly professional, and good at what she does. I even think if you asked for a tease and denial you would be out the door, I'm in full belief, everything is strictly professional in her house. Let me know when your next appointment is, i want to watch the cops fly to her house. She's touch enough on her own handle any out of line guy. Tough and professional deep tissue. Best in home service in this city.

On the lighter side... Ever been stood up for a date? It's something I think we all hate When you're early and not even late? And you're ready to just penetrate? You called and confirmed You had planned to lose sperm! So to hell with it, go masturbate!

I understand that you're feeling impatient and want answers to your questions, as well as some tips and strategies about how to do things. Every question you've asked about the law is answered, several times, in the Legal discussion and most are referred to extensively in other areas, as well. For the most part, the best information comes from established, long-time members of the board so pay particular attention to their posts. When it comes to things like strategies for working outcalls, transportation, etc., those are important considerations and most are also discussed on the boards, here. Frankly, the best way for you to learn how to deal with these things would be to start with a good agency. Since you've not said where you are, it will be difficult for anyone here to make a recommendation in your area. Please don't take offense at what I'm going to say, but this part of your post is likely to be considered deeply insulting, not only to many of the ladies here, but also to many of the gentlemen as well. One critical thing that you need to understand is that the best so-called "high end" paid companions defend and are protective of women who work outdoors and those who have health problems and addictions. You won't find much tolerance on this board for denigrating any SP, anywhere, because of her looks or personal habits. We do discuss safer sex all the time and while we generally advise prospective clients to seek companionship from a reputable independent or a good agency, we don't put down women who, for many serious and difficult reasons, face so many challenges that they must work in compromising conditions. Your assumption that many companions offer poor quality and/or unsafe encounters is troubling. I don't know which sex workers' blogs you have been reading, or where you get your information, but as someone who has worked as an independent for many years, both in Toronto and in Vancouver, what you describe is not my experience, anywhere. No one should have to engage in activities she deems to be unsafe. Ever. I have to say, though, that I think your problems will have to do with not knowing how to screen potential clients and not knowing how to manage the volume of requests you would receive as a "new girl." These are also reasons to begin to work with a good agency. Starting out as an independent is tempting, but it's frequently a very bad idea. Yes, you'll make less per call with an agency. But you'll also have lower expenses and you'll be working with people who do know what they're doing and how the industry works. You need that knowledge and expertise behind you and, frankly, you don't have it yet. Without it, you will inevitably get into trouble. Are you aware that this statement verges on hostility? If you truly believe these things, I have to say that you don't really understand what the misconceptions and myths about the sex trade are. Speaking for myself, I have been a paid companion for over a decade. I have never engaged in any activity that I felt was unsafe--assuming, that is, that you're referring to things that increase one's potential for exposure to STIs. I'm also old enough to be your mother. I have never considered myself to be in competition with anyone. I work hard and I make a good living. I attribute my success to accepting the realities of this profession, to identifying my particular market niche and serving it very well, and to gaining the respect of my colleagues. That last thing--the respect of colleagues--is essential. If you do decide to work as a paid companion, no one, no matter how well-meaning or close to you, will understand what your life is really like. You will need the support and care of other companions so that you can stay safe, make good decisions and get support when things go wrong. No one ever avoids having things go wrong, regardless of what they may say. But there are ways to avoid some problems that you may not even imagine exist and there are ways to manage the things that you can't avoid. In general, we don't discuss these things in public forums. You will need to gain others' support in order to have access to this information. If you're just investigating this as an option, I would recommend that you find something else or some other way to take care of your problems. The sex trade is not the right thing for most women. If you're seriously considering becoming a paid companion, my advice is to step back, take some calming breaths and clear your mind. Only a minute percentage of women enter the sex trade because it's their ideal, intended career path. Nearly everyone has had some significant problem in her life and suddenly needs to earn a lot of money fairly quickly. In other words, most don't start out in the best frame of heart and mind. You can still do it, but you need to be careful, you need to be thoughtful and you need to learn to listen. An arrogant attitude will be a liability. Over-confidence is a mask for fear that prevents addressing the things that cause fear to begin with.

This might have to be my wish list for 2013, 14 and 15. Mainly an MA guy and JessicaMassage, Michaella Carress, Katrine Cannon top my wish list. Should I embark a little further I am very curious about Taylor Monroe, Emily J, SaraMQ, Megforfun, Nicolette Vaughn, Gabriella Laurence, Nathalie Lefebvre, Georgiana Sweet and Berlin. Long list, jeez. MA's I hope to revisit are Bethany, Didi and Pauline. SP/MA's I hope to revisit are Cat, Peachy and Cleo. It will clearly be most efficient to handle this wish list in duo's. :icon_razz: