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I think we all have multi identities and many ways of being in the world. I'm an escort, but I'm also a lover, sister, friend, student, and yogini. Some things aren't relevant in certain contexts, and we all have things we would simply prefer not to discuss. All of my friends and family know what I do; unfortunately, being able to live life openly is a privilege only few share in this industry. The only time I've ever lied is with an intimate partner who did not support me seeking my financial independence through escorting. Suffice it to say, we are no longer together. For some people, the 'double life' is necessary for their mental, physical, and emotional health. It's not necessarily bad, and it doesn't necessarily cause dissonance. For some, it can be very healthy and I've heard many gentlemen echo (both on the board and face-to-face) that the experiences they have with service providers help create and maintain a balance in their lives... Despite the 'double life' at times (managing/mitigating risk and making sure not to get caught), I think that's a really beautiful thing.

Again I agree that the "best of" threads are unfair and subjective but my point again is that those who are referring to this being an inappropriate question are some of those who thanked and seemingly appreciated the best bj / ultimate bj thread, to me this is inappropriate and hypocritical. Can you like one and not the other, I suppose, as you can like what you choose but I just find it unfair. Yet again, just my point of view:) Also this is a new member, someone who isn't a seasoned hobbyist so perhaps it might have been nice to pm him as to appropriate questions instead of a somewhat public scolding. We all want new members to feel free to come here to enjoy and post. :) In his defense, if I were a newbie and I looked around this site and saw other posts saying this person is the best at, or is great at and many thanking them and ads outlining their talents and what they love, why would I think asking a question about the same subject inappropriate? Thanks for your input I hope you appreciate mine:)

I don't like shallow or phony people even if they are paying me. It's a total turnoff. Looks are not what does it for me. I like people who have personality and who are genuine. I don't want a guy visiting with me who thinks he is the cat's meow and bases the entire encounter around that. Arrogance is another turn off. I prefer clients who seek out qualities of a lady aside from looks. Everyone has their preferences but as a service provider, I cannot be judgemental based on a client's looks. However, respect, cleanliness and personality go a long way. Looks aren't everything and I don't base chemistry of an encounter based on them either.

We all do what we have to do. I had this discussion with a friend, regarding escorts etc. His take was "using their body for money". I asked him, and any of you, what is the difference then between and escort who uses her body sensually and someone like me, who was a truck driver and abused his body for years? Broken feet, toes, hands sore backs, knees, hips. I am 48 and feel 68 some days. I used my body, size (6'3 250) as a means to an end. I was an ape who lifted heavy things for years. I call that abusing myself!! I guess the difference is I can say I was a truck driver, while ladies often have to use caution in revealing their profession. I for one, am thankful there are ladies providing comfort, companionship and intimacy.

Beer. There is nothing better on warm days than to consume beer. Okay there are better things to do, but beer should be included. Wait. Wait..... WAIT!!!! Brilliant idea!!!! PATIO CHAMPAGNE ROOMS!!!! I love my brain.

I personally have never been a fan of the best of threads...be it who gives the best (fill in the blank)______, who is the most beautiful etc etc etc Companionship, even paid companionship is about two people getting together for a private intimate encounter. And no two encounters, even with the same two people can be exactly replicated, each encounter is unique. Companionship and encounters are definitely YMMV. Making it about who's the best makes it a competition between ladies. Best of threads demeans, IMHO encounters which can be very special and intimate A professional companion should be focused on providing the best companionship she can provide. She shouldn't have to worry if she is as good or better than another lady. Put another way, I know when I see a lady I try, and hope I am, the best gentleman and client I can be, I don't worry about what some other guys do. And I wonder how many guys would be fans of the ladies putting out best of threads such as "who's the best client" and so on. A rambling RG

I would compare looks with food..., we haveva saying back home..., "food always comes i. First through the eyes...". And this is the explanation..., as being human beings our any first impression we are attracted or not by the our vision.. Ex: two plates on the table one with gorgeous presentation and decoration, and one thta just have food on plate nithing fancy..., what would you choose? most likely the one with the beatiful decoration..., but lets say.., next u open up to the rest of your sences... And you start discovering that even if the other plate has better outside looks.., the one that is not so pretty has a better aroma, texture..,etc... So is same whit people, we have a tendency at looking the outside, but the more we explore the inside, you can start liking or disliking a person more..., and that person that on first look impressed you may not so much anymore and that person that you never expected end up really winning yoir heart! In conclusion: to make a long story ahort..., looks do affect but at the end like many said before, personality, intelligence, good sence of humour, inner beauty can be much more important!

I don't want to speak for anyone here, but I don't think there's as much disagreement here as it may seem. Emily, no one would deny that everyone has the right to express their opinion, and you've a lot of wisdom to offer. And yet Cristy's original question is a fair and well meaning one, I would say. I'm quite new to posting here myself, and before I made my first one I read through much of the "new to this" section. As you suggest, it was very helpful and probably saved me from a few missteps. But there is a *lot* of information in there, and it can be easy to miss things. And things are more confused when you do indeed see many other threads asking for opinions. It may not be easy to know where the line is drawn, or at least how to best phrase questions (and answers) so that no unintended offense is given. Again, I'm new, but one of the things I appreciate about CERB is how helpful people are to clarify and gently nudge one in the right direction when needed. And of course things are made even more difficult when expressing thoughts in writing, where tone can be hard to convey. I do think we can all agree that no one in the discussion has intended offense. Virtual hugs to everyone (as an aside, I give the *best* virtual hugs :redface:)

True true, question is a question, a thread is a thread. Not sure if this is CBJ VS BBBJ tho? I personally do not really care for the " best of " threads, as it can exclude some SP's ( unintentionally) and leave some feeling hurt or left out:( This is where it usually goes all astray, with hostility and feelings of competitiveness rather than comrades and support.

Dont really think that is an appropriate question, as services depend on the lady offering them and what one finds the best another may not.

My biggest celebrity crush is Louis C.K. That means, if I could meet, have lunch with or suck the cock of my choice of any celebrity it would be him. 'Nuff said! ;) I have always appreciated the qualities in men that are less easy to spot at first glance (sense of humour, among others), but especially since I started fucking such a wide variety of men, my tastes have definitely broadened and I find myself checking out all kinds of different guys when I am out and about. At the grocery story, waiting in line, I'll be checking out the chunky balding dude with his wife ahead of me, who is joking around with the cashier, and seems very friendly and polite, thinking to myself... I wonder if he likes to eat pussy...? ;)

Well you could have a toads head and the body of a cow, I could care less. What I do like is a well dressed person, something very sexy about a well dressed person, and someone who exudes confidence, kindness and understanding- a well rounded person, someone who has their shit together is what I find the most attractive, looks fade, body's expand and shrink, our outer shell is just that a shell, what it houses is what I find most important. :)

Yes...well said. As people strive to be politically correct with this query, the post above saying beauty is subjective and beauty means everything sums it up well too. Of course, given a choice, my pick will always be to be with a pretty lady, and fortunately there are lots of them here on CERB to choose from.

I find that the better looking she is, the better we get along :)

My favorite Super Hero of all is Sara McQuestion! She is a real life sexual superhero right here in our very own realm! She can make the sun come out by just opening her mouth and keeps evil away by her very presence! cat

I do see what your saying Cristy, however, I feel that this is such a subjective topic, that it is difficult to say who gives the "best" . For some, gaging is hot, for some it is a turn off. Some like sloppy, some like a bit of teeth, where other's shiver at the idea of teeth. In this case, I think it is a trial and error, and be sure to communicate to your SP what you like the best. This is the same for any activity. But dont think asking a question is stupid at all, we all learn from asking. But perhaps a less subjective question would produce more accurate result? As RG said, best to look in reco, then PM the lady that you feel would be your ideal playmate:) Communicate with her, then give it a try:) I am sure any kind BJ is going to ultimate experience:)

I think if we are honest there has to be some attraction before we start to look beyond the physical. Unless you are in a position to spend time with someone (say a friend of a friend) how would you get to discover these deeper qualities? That being said we do ourselves a disservice if we stick only to a narrow physical ideal. As the previous posters have said there is some much beyond looks that becomes important if you are to see someone again. Fortunately for people like myself who don't make a great first physical impression it is the nature of the buisness that SPs are more tolerant.

This is a great thread. It points out that when some guys ask for just a "hand job", there is much more to it than just a HJ.

Honestly for me I think looks would be about 20% factor for me. For example if that person reminds me of someone I know in real life it may be awkward. The person can't look too young or too old it just doesn't feel right. I've worked near at colleges and universities and I've seen students that looked like they were 12. Nor do I want to be with someone who looks old enough to be my mother. So ya looks play a small part but personality and chemistry mean a lot more to me.

I've recently learned how unimportant looks are to me with playdates/partners.. After realizing "my type" wasn't quite working out as such, personality wise, I'm not so picky with looks now, even in my personal life, provided the gent is hygienic, respectful, and has a good personality. My experience, especially in this industry has been that the coolest, most fun people I've met, were not always who I would have thought from physical appearance, they just have awesome personalities. I'll take my average Joe who's a great time, than the cocky or rude man with the sculpted body anyday :)

Well I have to join those who say this is not a double life. I have been involved with SPs/MAs for many years in Canada and abroad ( some that will read this weren't born when I saw my first SP lol) and I am not ashamed of that. I might even add that I have develop some great friendships with some of the ladies I met. I actually had one SP over to visit my family last year. Sure never told them she was an sp but that's just so she could be judge for who she is not what she does to earn a living. I strongly believe in judging people by who they are not what they do. Unfortunately society in this part of the world is not there yet. Many would learn from travelling to Europe as we seem to be 30 years behind here. So although I don't talk to family about this part of my life, I cherish and am damn proud of the friendships I made over the years!!!

A confession, yes I do look at the ladies' photos. But what is it that attracts me to a lady, and makes me want to meet her? It is her personality, and it is personality more than anything that makes a lady beautiful. I get an idea of her personality through her posts on CERB, and our subsequent emails/pm's back and forth. And for the most part it has worked. It is fair to say that I have been fortunate to meet many beautiful ladies in this lifestyle. That they also look beautiful is just for lack of a better word, a bonus. A rambling from a middle aged, bald, eyeglass wearing overweight, average looking guy RG

That's a really loaded question. Looks could mean anything from the way you maintain yourself, the way you carry yourself or the lucky numbers you received from the genetic lottery pool. As Mr Green has pointed out, "to each his own taste." What I may find stunning may do nothing for someone else, and conversely what you find gorgeous may do nothing for me. My preferences? A beautiful person. It's a combination of everything mentioned above, not necessarily balanced but magnified by a beautiful personality. That beautiful personality shines through every veneer of external beauty; conversely, an ugly personality will tear down beauty to a point where nothing exists. The providers to whom I am most attracted generally possess a charm that is endearing - it's that intangible element that intelligent women possess. There's a playfulness, a wit, and a sensuality that supplements natural beauty. It forces you to see the positive in everything about them. It blinds you to what they may feel are their imperfections. Oh... and nice boobs. I like nice boobs.

I love a nice firm grab on my ass. And a kiss on the back of my neck.

After doing a little site browsing and not really finding what I was looking for, I decided to ask my question. I enjoy this aspect and have been told I have great hands. When it comes to a hand job, I'm making an assumption everyone likes an attentive SP ie: varied tempo and pressure, attention to the balls, varied grips. But when it cums to a finish, do you like to build straight to it or do you like multiple builds? Or like anything else, does this depend on what you're in the mood for at the time? In addition, is there anything you REALLY enjoy about it (certain grips, strokes etc)?

Like literally two hours ago, and it was great! As of this morning, I was a 26 year old virgin. I never felt ashamed or unaccomplished being a virgin, I had reached this point as a choice. But I was not confident with intimacy, most if not all girls I've met have been pretty sexual or have a sexual past which always intimidated me (I never saw them lower, but felt a bit in awe). I avoided relationships because I was worried about the physical intimacy part, I was going to fall flat on my face. And I created this mind block. I noticed a few threads on this forum about guys who are virgins looking for an SP, but there was no mention if they went through with it, and if they did, how they felt about it. So I thought I'd share for anyone who are in the same shoes I once was. In a nutshell, I loved the experience, and I have no regrets. I got in touch with Peachy a week ago, and explained that I was a virgin, and that was something I wanted to change. She was incredibly thoughtful, and put me at ease with asking her to take me to the other side so to speak. I was nervous, actually, I was anxious for her to come. I booked 3 hours, and I asked her to stay an hour longer once she was here (I was having a great time and didn't want to rush it). So my reasons for doing what I did. 1) I'm more confident with safety when it comes to the women here then the general public. If anyone knows about safety, these ladies do. This was my number one priority always (even before I came up with this idea) 2) I wanted a positive non-judgemental environment (at least in my mind). I didn't want to think and over think everything I did, and with her, I was more then comfortable. I was able to explore, try out stuff that I wouldn't have done with maybe a girl I was dating. 3) I was confident in asking her how I could be better. And I took everything she said constructively, and it was a lot better then I imagined! 4) Confidence! I met this girl a couple of months ago that seemed to be very interested. Back then, the old me kept things between us friendly but non-sexual. I think given the situation now, I'd act much differently. My confidence in this department took a massive beating the last couple of years for reasons too long and boring to share here. I feel as if one evening took all of that self doubt away. Downsides? I don't feel as if there were any. I don't feel any regret, or remorse or anything of that sort. I was hoping when I asked Peachy was that she be someone awesome (I've read some stories here about people having soso dates). Peachy was AMAZING in that she was so understanding about my fears, and newness. I bring this up because I found her through going through pages and pages of reviews. There are some awesome women here, but I found one with very complimentary reviews, and it worked for me. Which I guess leads on to my next part. Would I recommend a virgin meet an SP? To each their own. I wrote down a list of reasons why this would be a good idea vs a list of why this was bad. My bad side of the list had some religious objections, but then the good side had religious support for getting help any way possible (my confidence was shot). There are some that say that this experience should be with someone special. And I think that applies for some people for sure, but I treated this as a learning/therapeutic visit more then anything else. The rate I was going, I was not going to be able to meet that someone special ever. Recommendations: 1) Take your time, read reviews, talk to who you are interested in 2) Take your time, don't book just 1 hour. For the first two hours, we took it slow, talked a lot, and made it more intimate. 3) Figure out your reasons. I was brand new at this, and I think if this is your first time, trying to go into this to fulfil a fantasy might be putting too much pressure on you and her. Just explore the sensation, explore your body (I discovered things about my body I was pleasantly surprised about). 4) Tell her you're a virgin! And that's when you first get in touch with her, not when you meet. I can't think of anything else. This being a recommendation board, this is mine :)

Thank you for your contributions as I have enjoyed many of them. You are thoughtful, caring, touching and have made me laugh. Looking forward to many more!!

Was on chat earlier but is hard to relax an tan on mu bikini while keeping all conversations lol

You beat me to it Cat !!! It's amazing when you meet Sara the awesome sexual super hero !!! ..... then if you are lucky enough to meet Saurus... and she changes super hero outfits....well...."undresses" .... whoa baby !!! Then you are totally helpless under her superpowers :) Woo Wooooooo

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Since Superman already has his fans and because I'm pretty much the only one who likes the character, I'll give a nod to Cyclops of X-men. That said, after seeing PassionVitto's version of Wonder Woman I suspect she could probably use the Lasso of Truth to change my vote...

Eye contact dureing orgasm wouldn't matter to me but I do enjoy a brief locking of eyes during BJ's but not constant eye contact as its not natural. I like good eye contact throughout the entire session in a natural way as it builds on the sensation of a real "experience" with a girlfriend. That means that from talking to locking eyes while in the throws of passion. I find that there is an intensityand a connection that can be found when eyes meet. I do look into a ladies eyes and often find myself looking at her lips. Lips can tell a wonderful story as you progress through a sexual encounter. That said, if I'm with a lady and her eyes are open but just blankly stareing off into the distance (like she's just waiting for this to be over) I'd just prefer to get up and leave because that's totally not what I expect from GFE. If that's how a lady feels I'd perfer that she just hide her lack of excitement by keeping her eyes closed.

Well back in my high school days it was Wonder Woman, well this Wonder Woman I Wonder why RG

My favorite for a long time has been Wolverine. Not so much for his exploits or even adamantium skeleton, but his mutation seem the most interesting for day-to-day life: you always look "mature adult", perfect muscle tone, don't get fat, don't get sick, not near-immortal (better than really immortal, considering the human psych).

In case you didn't hear, Martha Stewart joined match.com this week. SNL last night had a hilarious spoof match.com commercial featuring "Martha". :) Funny. http://www.gossipcop.com/martha-stewart-match-com-snl-commercial-video-dating-ad-saturday-night-live-2013/

Looks mean everything. Beauty is subjective.

Been with Cristy three times. Excellent satisfaction,

I have a triple life really....business life where I'm quite serious, my non-business life which is more of a hippy type of lifestyle and is the complete opposite of my business persona, and my this game life. No one has a clue about my lives, the bus types don't know the hippy persona and the hippy type friends have not the seen the business persona and none know about my participation in this game. After all I am a Pisces :) Peace MG

I have always classified myself as odd when it came to looks. I was always attracted to different aspects than most of my peers. The big Hollywood heart throbs weren't mine. From a young age I realized that personality played a huge factor in making people beautiful or not so beautiful. I was lucky enough to be exposed to a number of people on both sides of that coin so it hit home and stayed with me. Attractiveness and beauty to me has always been more about personality. That vibrant energy that surrounds someone and makes you feel at home with them or that smile always lurking abut the mouth and eyes. Sense of humor, caring, the ability to share and be open to people even if those people are not the type you really like. I've been blessed with some of the most amazing clients. They make me smile and/or swoon depending. Each one has such wonderful beauty in them that adding a sexual aspect just amps that up a thousand fold. Yes, we all have personal preferences and for some people they are more ingrained then others. I'm thankful for my ability to look inside first then outside because as stupid as it might sound to some people, it makes my world better.

I can't deny looks, especially initially, make some difference. Part of the fantasy is getting to spend time with someone I find head-over-heels attractive. That said, there are so many attributes I find attractive that just about every woman has at least something sexy and attractive about them. And there's truly no denying that--after the initial impression--it's the personality that determines whether that initial attraction fades or goes through the roof. It's another thing I appreciate about this site. Yes, there's no shortage of beauty to be found hereabouts, but how many of you haven't found some of the Ladies even more desirable and admirable after talking to them or reading their opinions?

Actually, for me porn stars are a turn off. I don't like fake. Looks are important, and I like sweet and natural looking. I don't desire a super model. Just a pretty sweet looking girl anyday over a Jenna Jamieson. Men are Pavlovian at times, but sweet gets to me...

Superman of course and I can't wait to see the new movie next month! I'm checking out the new Iron Man movie this afternoon.

Don't forget Gilbert Gottfried as the voice of the Afflac Duck for years. Also a voice sounds so unlike the person would be Mike Tyson.

My Dad and I are very very close. Always have been. 3 days ago my dad was told he has a brain tumor. He and I discussed at great length yesterday....cancelled a little go for a drive getaway the two of us....for now....he is at peace about it, moving forward and will do what needs to be done. Soooo reason for my post. A very good friend of mine hadn't talked to his Dad for several years. Silly the reason why...IMO.....I called up my friend last night and told him about my Dad. I asked him...."So Mark. Do you want to get this news about your Dad someday, realizing he only may have a short time to live, knowing that you two aren't at peace? Forgiveness buddy forgiveness " He hung up on me. Mark's mother phoned me not long ago today crying and said "Thankyou....I don't know what you said to Mark but he is here and they are hugging...Thankyou Thankyou" Made my day :)

Agreed for sure I had that happen I swiftly left that agency And here I was apologising for their lies. Now I post my own true picture.

Ok, I just posted this for fun. Now back to the topic.

Unfortunately many of us hobbyist from KW use other boards, but after recently using this board to find one of the finest ladies I've ever met I feel compelled to share the wealth. Roxanne's & Manor as suggested above are both nice enough strip clubs but don't meet the standards of Pigales for hotties. Manor is higher contact, Roxanne's better eye candy. If you're looking for any other info or recommendations feel free to PM me.

Well piano has kind of inspired me to make a confession of my own. When I read his post my jaw practically dropped at first because so much of what he said and wrote down reminded me of my own situation and what happened to me not to long ago. I was pretty much in the exact situation, I was 27 years old and was still a virgin. Now I will admit that this did make me feel uncomfortable and awkward, especially around women who were very sexually open. And I can remember more than a few conversations with people where I kind of had to skirt the issue. But in all honesty my reasons for going this route were that I honestly felt that this was something that was affecting me in a negative way, almost like an anchor dragging me down. It was something that I felt I needed to do to liberate myself and I can honestly say that I felt it did. I have absolutely no regrets and like piano I am very glad that I did this. I did learn some things about myself and to be honest just feel more comfortable in my own skin now. The other reason that my jaw dropped was that like him I just so happened to visit Peachy on my first encounter. I had done some searching on the forums for recommendations and read various opinions on this topic. Now I'll admit that the timeline was decidedly more rushed, but I had done some soul searching before hand and had actually discussed this option with a trusted friend who I think of as a brother. I had started talking to Peachy the night before and exchanged a few messages but it wasn't until the next day that I finally decided to go through with it. What really made me feel like I was talking to the right person was her concern over whether I was ready or not. That really meant a lot to a guy in my situation and the fact that she put so much effort into making me feel comfortable helped more than I can describe. Would I, will I repeat, definitely, hopefully :) All I can say is thank you Peachy :) To echo what both Peachy and Piano have said it is good to do some soul searching before hand. This route may not be for everyone but at the same time you shouldn't feel stigmatized either by going this route. One thing that made this easier for me was that one of my friends had actually gone this route and confessed that it had helped him and I have to agree with him. Also, read the recommendations on the ladies and get in touch with them. After that it's up to you to decide.