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So I think what we've learned is... Best: Acceptable in a pinch: And this is right out:

Anything positive and said with sincerity and praise I'm going to appreciate but "you have nice tits" or "I'm sure you hear this all the time you have a nice body" or you're pretty. Those don't do much. However, any compliment praising my appearance is pleasant, as I do take time to primp before seeing you, but the ones that touch me and make me the happiest are compliments for how I've made my client feel, what he thinks of me as a person, my humor or intelligence, sincerely compliment those and I'll remember you for sure;)

Just like the other ladies mentioned...a simple click to the website and everything is there :) BJ

YES..!! I got a new career opportunity... I start on May 5th.. Thank-you lucky stars and Angels..!! D.

personally, I prefer that someone go through my website to see rates, and that is just a simple click on my ad. This way you can see my pics, and services I offer, and then make a decision as to whether or not you want to make a date or not. Just having in ads leads to some looking at ads that are weeks or months old wanting the same rates, when the services could be something more than they expected or wanted. I find its always best to check websites to see rates, this way you will have a better picture of the person you wish to see.

The reasons will probably be as varied as the providers. One reason might be because the sp feels it more discrete to discuss them one on one. I post my rates on my site but seldom do I in my ads. I want men to view my site before they book with me. After all, the point of setting up a site is to inform potential clients of my rates. services, how best to contact me and a little insight into my personality. So prior to contacting me they'll be informed. It does seem lately though an effort for a lot of men to take a minute to read , lol. In the end every sp advertises in her own special way, frustrating or not, she/he has chosen to do it for their reasons, which are important to them, so they should be respected. I have one service that I'll only give the rate via phone. I'm picky about who I offer this service to and want to speak to the potential client first. I prefer this for all my services, as talking to someone can give you much more insight than an email or text, imo. So inconvenient or not this is the way I want it:)

Thank you. You've included it all, and for those reasons I charge what I do. But I do feel that a lot of this is not taken into account by many men when they value our rates. I believe some men think "oh she is just having sex", or "playing for an hour", how hard is that? Above all of the business there is also the physical strength and stamina needed along with the emotional where with all one needs to maintain. Staying in a profession that many frown upon and deem immoral, one that many feel is for those who are less than, is itself a challenge, even when you like/love what you do. Quite honestly all these points = priceless. But yet we price it, so to those you wrote this for please appreciate this thread and those who choose this profession and offer of themselves. Remember many of us do choose:)

My #1 turn off-Men who for some reason WON"T read a lady's website. Perhaps they don't think of me as a lady, lol, because I can't fathom that when I place those words-please see/read/visit my website before calling-, any other reason! Nearly 3/4 of those who contact me don't and this I simply don't understand. I like Kylie will simply end it at that point because if you can't follow my written instructions who's to say you'd follow any other? Another turn off is a smelly man, and yes this happens. I'm not speaking about a man who needs a shower but a man with a yeast infection or something stronger. Men need to be vigilant about any changes in their scent, discharge, itching etc. I don't want to be the one to have to tell you to visit the doctor and not an sp:( I am forthright yet I don't like to be put in an awkward position, unless it's a sexual one and fun;)

My ad, allows a brief introduction to me. I then ask you view my website for additional information. Its much easier to keep all the details in one place - Donations, photos, email, booking form,etc)

Thank you ladies and gents for your thoughtful and experienced replies and for not judging me for asking such a silly question lol I have accepted extensions a few times.. and I always wondered what the consensus was with that part of the extension. For me, if he books a 2hr date and doesn't want it to end, I quote him my 3hr rate not the 1hr rate.. that just seems fair and besides, I am already there and obviously enjoying myself if I too don't want to leave lol (my 50th post!!! yeah me!!!)

As a person that is new to using a SP, and also having the disadvantage of being very shy, I find it very difficult to make initial contact. It may be very impersonal but I find it much easier to either email or text for initial contact. If I can't find the SP website I would want to ask for it to learn a much as I can before going any further. To compound matters worse I don't have a smart phone so texting is even more difficult. Don't get me wrong, I understand perfectly what is being said, but for some new customers it can be a daunting experience trying to meet an experienced SP.

To the gentlemen:) When you visit an sp's profile and she thanks you by leaving a comment on your profile page do you like/dislike and how often is to often. Meaning if you visit her profile once a month, for example, would you object to her leaving a comment each time, once or... Ladies feel free to comment as well:)

Yes, I love Cher. Went to her Dressed 2 Kill concert last night. It was much tamer than her farewell tour concert some 4-6 years ago. Less glitz and more Cher just singing. She did a duet with Sonny to I Got You Babe, something she had never done before. Her finale was truly stunning-never ever seen anything like it. I suppose my fascination with Cher started with my love of her deep husky voice. Cyndi Lauper opened for Cher and did 60 minutes. Such immense talent. She had the house rocking too. Girls were just going nuts over her Girls Just wanna Have Fun. Likely 70% of the audience were ladies, most obviously in the 30 to 70 age range. They looked pretty damn good too. Thank You Cher and looking forward to the next farewell tour.

I have no problem with the SP's dropping me a line each time to say that she caught me peeking -- again! lol In most cases I will send a reply to her message. I am always a little reluctant to leave a message on the SP's profile page to let her know that I was checking her out. I am worried that the system might send her an alert that she has a message waiting. Then she is disappointed to learn that I was not looking for a date. I have no problem with the ladies sending me PM's to ask me questions or just to say hi, how are you, miss you, hugs..... Especially if we have met before or she is on my friends list.

All you have to do is pm the lady for her rates and details. Some just prefer to discuss their business in private nothing.wrong with that

Great question and I have heard this exact type of logic your friend is talking about. I would not do this. I can afford to travel on my own when the time is right for me . The time I would be away on my paid vacation I would be losing money here at home of wherever I may choose to visit that week.

Hey ladies what is a major turn off when someone is looking to book a time with you ? One thing I absolutely hate is when someone texts me and says....What's up? Like really lol that will not grab my attention First impressions mean everything and I prefer a gentlemen being respectful and courteous when inquiring about my ......... For an example; Hello how are you or Hi I am .... and I am interested in knowing more about you and your ........!......so much better

I have extended let's say from three hours as previously agreed to four or five hours on the spur of the moment during our tryst and paid advertised rates IAW the SP's website with no problem. Where I found it difficult, (personal problem) is when I arrange a three hour rendezvous with a new date and want the option to extend to an overnight if we connect. Every SP I have asked to consider this has agreed. However, 90% of the time I end up emailing my decision to go for the full overnight - a bit of a gamble from both perspectives but then she can plan and there is no hassle later.:) If I have the time and occasion to do so, I prefer conversation, some intimate time, a shower, dinner, more mutual fun/massage, sleep and morning sex with orange juice and Moet. In the end end I guess it is about communication, comfort level, planning and availability.

I'll admit the first time I received such a message on my guesspage I felt like I had my photo on a milk carton and was caught with my hand in the cookie jar. As I become more comfortable as a hobbiest I enjoy a quick message more. Especially when it is from someone I have met, and have enjoyed their company. Then it is actually very flattering.

I don't get tired of compliments, but sometimes i do take them with a dose of reality. at my age, and shape, etc etc. But still, when someone is touching your intimate parts, and the lights are dim, she is going to be beautiful and you are going to compliment her, lol. I appreciate them all, it is always a treat to be appreciated. I am never tired of regulars or the same clients. Regulars are what we strive for, there is less benefit in seeing new people each and every time, you don't want to go thru the giving out info, giving out address, wonder if they are going to show up, wonder when they are going to call you to say they are lost, etc. re: the envelope, i am always surprised when someone still mentions using this method due to legal issues. There are no legal issues in the discussion of payment for sexual services, getting paid for sexual services, and paying for sexual services. That is what prostitution is legal means. This is not up for debate. I do know yet don't understand why some people know about the solicitation law (which the SCC overturned mind you, so it was discussed many times) and not understand that solicitation isn't prostitution, and that the criminalization of solicitation is only in regards to 'public' solicitation, as in any attempt to discuss $ for sex in pubic, outside, in a hotel lobby, in a bar, on a street corner, etc. public is public, the insides of the incall or outcall location is private.

Well, i moved to my current location at least 11 years ago, it could be more so i will leave it at 11 years. Within one week of my move, maybe my first or 2nd client since moving, someone showed up. And has continued to show up 3-5 times each month since that first time. So best guesstimate is between 525 and 550 times repeating. :)

It sounds like someone needs to explain to those handful of dancers that this is not the type of 'GFE' guys are looking for when they go to a club...

I can't speak for anyone else but i'm always a bit nervous meeting a client for the first time. So i break the ice right away with a nice hug and a big kiss. This always seems to work. From there i'll lead the way...Making people feel comfortable is part of what we do. ;) If we can't do that then we shouldn't be in the business.

I never used to open the envelope in front of him and I never once had an issue. A few months ago there was a lot of talking floating around about using envelopes and some guys were posting (not on this board) how you could rip a girl off who prefers envelopes. So, I got a little paranoid I guess you could say, and I didn't like it ... but I am ok now because I realize that I have great clients who would never intentionally scam me or anyone else for that matter

I'm someone that can partake in this lifestyle once a month on average. My introduction to this lifestyle began in July 2010 to present day, although 2013 for personal reasons, I only had two (GREAT!!! :-) ) encounters. With that said, the two ladies who I have seen the most was one who I have seen five times, and the other four times, and then I saw them both together for a very memorable ménage a trois. The one lady I continue to see, our next encounter will be a weekend sleepover. The other lady, well she retired. I'm happy for her, her life turned a new good chapter, but I do miss her. I likely would have seen just these two ladies but in my early days of this lifestyle one appeal is it's poly amorous nature. And I continue to enjoy seeing other ladies. At the same time I feel/felt a certain chemistry/connection with these two ladies. It is about the chemistry/connection for me. Just looking through the ladies' profiles on CERB there are a lot of beautiful women all offering a similar menu of services. But a special chemistry, that is an intangible that just happens. I can't see me ever being bored. But for me as a regular, that also means seeing her every couple months for longer encounters, not every couple weeks (if I did that she'd likely be bored of me LOL) Don't know if that answers your question A rambling RG

It happened to me a few times yes :) but I refrain myself...why? Coz a lot of them are married so I just hope they will come back to see me :) I'm single and have feelings so yes it can be challenging to not reach out... When they get in touch with me telling me that they wrote a review and ask me if it's ok and if I approve :) I do love to see a reco that I did not expect...kind of a nice suprise :) I never ask that but would presume they would want to know that it's you calling...good thing I'm sure :) Just tell the sp before and go with the flow...most ladies here would know how to make you feel at ease...for me I would start with a conversation to break the ice...usually it does wonders :) I would absolutely love to hold hands and walk arm in arm :) that would be the real gfe. I'm sure they're important to a certain point...when you start it helps get you established...for me now... I appreciate a gent who takes time to write a reco, it's flattering and it makes my day :) I've done it before but never took pic snd never will... Additional Comments: I love receiving a gift card...it takes less room in luggages lol, I love wine too to share during encounters :) I used to show my face at the beginning but decided not too coz I don't want to be recognized in public. Yes of course :) i always enjoy seeing a repeat client...some more then others coz of the chemistry we have built together :)but seeing a new client can be very thrilling too :) BJ Additional Comments: Yes it happened to me a few times...I'd rather not know too much and find out for myself :)

Meg, do yourself a favor and instead of having a Beaujolais (can't stand Beaujolais lol) try a nice Pinot Noir. La Crema offers a nice variety of Pinot Noir: http://www.lacrema.com/2011-ninebarrel-pinotnoir For $25 you can get a beautiful Pinot Noir from Sonoma Coast. Even though I'm not a huge fan of Pinot Noir (I prefer a wine with more structure, texture and body), from time to time, I do not mind it with fish or a light pasta dish. It's also delicious with seafood and/or can be easily be enjoyed without any food at all because of its soft lightness.

Yes putting "too much thought into why", only takes away from a friendly hello. It doesn't have to be pages and pages of messages ( I see that a lot on some ladies pages by one guy and its almost stalker like...LOL ;) ), but a sweet hello here and there, brings a smile to those that sometimes need a lift or it lights up a fond memory of a time they shared,or a pm/email shared ;) So"Why Not" regardless if we are provinces away?

I notice everyone who visits my profile and enjoy visiting back especially if it's someone new. I tend not to leave a message if it seems every other person has done so that day or within a few hours or if the person is from many provinces away and we don't seem to have anything in common. From reading this thread, maybe I'm putting too much thought into why not instead of "why not".

She certainly has staying power :) I've always liked her because of her "I don't give a shit attitude". She has always struck me as someone who will and has done it her way, like it or not. I think she is beautiful, edgy and someone I'd like to meet:) Glad you enjoyed:)

I always enjoy when a lady comments on my visiting her profile and yes often is never too often.

Thank you so much to everyone for all your kind words and best wishes. Yes, emiafish, Issy is right, I am "older" than you! lol. I have been a cerb member since 2009. I just hope that she doesn't mean I am really really "older" in age! ;) But I do appreciate very much that you noticed my post counts. You can tell I am not a prolific poster here; 1k posts after almost 5 years! I was more a lurker especially in the first couple of years. I found cerb only because of an oversea friend of mine. Each year, he would visit me and he would plead that I find some fine ladies for him. I stumbled across cerb by accident after rummaging through newspaper ads for a few years. Finding cerb was like god-send, it was such a breeze to find a beautiful lady with all the descriptions and photos. In the beginning, my goal was to look for SPs for him. Then one thing led to another, and I soon found myself participating in this amazing hobby as well in earnest. What I mean is I was not new to hobbying - I have done that in various parts of Asia, Europe and USA. But those were done on occasional basis. Now I have become a regular hobbyist and am finding myself participating more in various posts. I feel like I should try to give back to this community as much as I have gained from it. Thank you everyone for making me feel at home. As RG says, some ramblings! :icon_wink:

To me it is always nice when someone takes a few minutes to say thanks or leave a comment so to me there is never to often.... but thats just me.

Aww Pete!! I know you like my ass, but you don't have to get it tattooed on you!!! ;)

I don't mind texting at all as long as it's respectful and conversational. I don't even mind a simple "when are you available?" I do, however hate the "rates location" type. If I am feeling generous, I will respond with my web address but I usually won't bother responding. I hate talking on the phone and avoid it as much as possible. I really get turned off by guys that assume that we must all do drugs. Ya wanna party type conversations, whether email text or voice get an immediate ignore from me.

I would hope that if a lady has an advertised 3 hour rate posted on her website (or ad) that she charges exactly that. As per your example, $550 total and not $600. It has happened to me many times in the past where a gentleman reserved my time for 3 hours and inquired, before we got together, about the possibility of extending. I always told him/them to have my 3 hour donation in one envelop and the difference in a second envelop; if my donation was $850 for 3 hours and $1050 for 4, to have an extra $200 in a separate envelop. Spur of the moment extensions? Same principal regarding rates, at least for me. A discounted rate (less than what I advertise) because of a last minute extension? I don't see why...

Oh, I know what you mean lol I even created an ad for it some time ago: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=123724 I look at it on the bright side though: it makes my screening much easier/faster that way and I don't hesitate to mark the email as spam and then gladly send it to the trash folder :) u know sweet baby darlin'... coz im a buzy gurl i dont w8ste my time, evar ;) lol

I'm not an SP, and don't meant to break the intent of the thread; but to offer some perspective... just being around a stranger for an extended time is WORK. Imagine the question was "hey, can my friend come live in your house for a week? There'd be no sex, promise! He'd just be around you ALL THE TIME." The locale, food, and shelter are not sufficient compensation for the service he's looking for; and frankly if the lady wanted those things, she could just buy them herself thanks very much. Your buddy is asking for someone to be around him and be a pleasant companion, 24/7. His companionship in a strange place is not as enticing an offer as he thinks. (Plus, he sounds like a bit of a dick and kind of clueless.) He needs to pay the companion to be there and "on the clock" for the duration of the trip.

Absolutely and without hesitation... NO. I have extended times on my website, including a week, and might I remind you that upscale escorts, the likes of which you'll find here on CERB, don't charge for "services". We charge for our time which is valuable. It's time we are taking away from our family, our friends, OUR lives and that comes at a price. For myself, I have a set price for extended amounts of time. This is purely for my time only. I also require that ALL of my travel expenses are covered (meals, flight, accommodations). In addition, I ALWAYS negotiate an agreed upon amount of alone time for extended dates. I need time to myself as does the person I'm traveling with. Regarding chemistry, I wouldn't consider a weeks vacation with a client I hadn't established some connection with already. That means we've talked, we've had dates already, we've gotten to know each other and established ahead of time that we enjoy each other's company, sexual or otherwise. Hope this helps your friend :) xo

Im always excited to see my regulars. It's such a compliment when someone wants to see you more then once. That's a big turn on. Meeting someone new certainly is exciting but in a different way. I'm always hoping I live up to and beyond their expectations.

There is also the expenses associated with travel to other cities when on tour. No one has mentioned the cost of private medical and dental insurance. Lets not forget about a private pension plan. I hope that most of you ladies have these things covered? It is not easy living on just CPP alone. I am glad Cristy mentioned the physical and emotional costs. I am amazed at how well many of you ladies stay sane with some of the nonsense you have to deal with from society and some less than gentlemanly clients. I am pleased to see that some of you track your income and expenses. I am sure that Stats Canada and Revenue Canada appreciate your efforts. ;)

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Like Midnight as mentioned...I dont leave any messages myself. There are always lots of messages from ladies and I dont feel comfortable doing so...thats just me. But really suprised to read that gents dont mind receiving a "thanks for having a peek at my profile" But feel free to post on my guess wall whenever you like :) to say a simple hi or have a great day :) BJ

It's like walking by Victoria's Secret store, or even back and forth as I'm shopping in the mall, and each time a Beautiful lingerie model (I wish they were DDD models) comes to the window and ask if I see anything that I want. Hot Damn! "I wasn't thinking about seeing anyone like you, but maybe I'll stop in for awhile." As pipercup said above "often is NEVER too often". Remember, us guys only have one thing on our minds, so we are always receptive to a Sexy Lady reminding us to stay focus on that one task, which is, being in the company of Honeys!!!! I too feel bad, if our constant clicking on their profile causes the Ladies to receive a bunch of notices that we were there, again & again. :( BTW, how do the Ladies get notified? Is that only a feature for Ladies and not for the Gents? Must be. That makes sense, but I would love to get notified when a Lady visits my profile. Hope some one can answer my questions. In the meantime, I'll check the FAQs & Rules section, but that too boring to search through. lol

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This may be a bit unexpected, so I want to make sure the question is clear. Do SP or MA take it personally if the client can not 'finish' with a bang? I'm *not asking hobbyists. I've asked this question to a few providers, and the answer I get is; " it's ok as long as you don't feel cheated." I say I'm there for the experience of their company, whatever happens during the 60mins must only be mutually desired and safe. And what may or may not happen in the last 2 minutes, does not weigh heavily on the previous 58minutes. However, I have sensed disappointment from them that 'it' didn't happen. I've never complained. Our time together is always enjoyable. Thoughts?

Exactly and in this business thinking of tomorrow, next week and so on is very important.

Not to sidetrack this thread, but I'd like to take a guess at that. I suspect the rationalization that goes through a gent's head is that whatever travel destination and activities he has planned will be so enjoyable that simply getting those expenses covered will be enough to satisfy the donation amount. If a fellow feels like the experience and vacation itself are going to be fun, they assume the lady will as well (and yes, she might) and that this enjoyment will be sufficient compensation for her time. The thought is likely that she'll enjoy the experience just as much as if she was paying--and controlling--her own vacation. Such gents may have the best of intentions, but what I think they don't realize is that this is a form of bartering. In the end, how is offering a trip for a lady's time instead of her donation amount any different than offering a dinner out, fixing her computer, bringing her some good books, or anything else other than her requested donation amount. It is true, the trip itself may be enjoyable. But then, most of us gents hope that a lady enjoys the time she spends with us! This doesn't mean we then get to request a discount because she had fun. :)

I would have to say that some of the things I like least about my work have to do with stigma and judgement....as some of the other lovely ladies have already spoken to on this thread...but, in particular, for me, I find myself most impacted when it has unfolded during sessions with certain clients over the years....thankfully, not frequently enough to remotely make me stop loving my work...but there have been certain moments, often in the unsaid, the subtle glances and words where I can tell that it has been important for a client to maintain a sense that he is above me; somehow morally superior, more knowing and able to remove himself from some sense of the 'unsavory' he finds about my work. I suppose I am most impacted by this because, despite the obvious fact that there is a sacredness in sharing myself in pleasure and intimacy with my clients, and clearly something about those experiences that are ultimately valued even by a client who would engage in this behavior, that it is even an option to to judge and patronize...that there is a currency to it, is bothersome....hurtful The other judgement piece that irks me is when it's been inferred that my expiry date is about to come up, as though being anything past thirty puts me in a danger zone of becoming spoiled milk, lol! Interestingly enough, I have experienced this with a number of with clients who would find me to be on the younger end of the age range they prefer in an SP. So, the judgments, the inferences, don't even have to match up with the reality (of course they don't)....but there is a sort of paternalism there...and, I've noticed that it sometimes has occurred in contexts where a client is expressing romantic interest in me, and uses that as a card to discredit the idea that I should chose this as a longer term vocation.....to somehow make it seem unnatural. Odd! Sometimes the opportunity presents itself for me to have openly challenged such crap, but sometimes, there is no space for that...and then I chose to exercise the privilege of declining a repeat 'playdate', because there is no replacement, no price tag that can stand in place for dignity and self-love. Great thread Summer! Thanks for starting it :) Ox