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I'm sorry but this is about the craziest suggestion I've ever heard! You think test results should be posted online? My real name isn't Jessica (right?) ... how will you know when you find MY test results? Or should I post my test results along with my given name address and health card number and indicate that these are the test results for Miss Jessica Lee ... ? I don't know how that would improve branding and marketability. I do know about stalking .... or maybe I misunderstood...?

In my humble opinion, there is nothing more sexy than a mature woman who is confident in who she is. That combined with with sense of humor or wit is an unbeatable combination!

Sometimes I think I am in the porn industry...LMAO just kidding...I get tested every 3 months, and I posted my last check on my profile page from April. I would not ask an SP/MA for a test result EVER, as I never EVER had an issue in my years with ANY of the ladies over my time. What does that tell you? Providers are much more vigilant about their safety and health then most guys would be. My thoughts, and by the way...you ladies frigging rock!

Well that sucks !! Brought back a memory from my days in Edmonton. Although I didn't have scheduled times and there were a few machines....I had a load in washer and a load in the dryer. I went down to do my thing and the load from the washer was sitting in a sudsy heap on a table and my clothes from the dryer were heaped beside it nowhere near dry. Fine then. I took my wet clothes up to my apartment. I went to neighbors and got two ripe shitty diapers. Threw one in their washer and one in their dryer. Then said fuck it and went to Cook County Saloon with friends and drank beer :) and that's my laundry story.........

a turnoff for me is arriving and find that the SP or MA is either high as a kite, or drunk as a skunk. might just be me, but I don't find it professional to be doing that when your providing a service.

This site ONLY allows positive comments in public posts. If you do not have anything positive to say about a SP (or anything for that matter) when someone asks please simply say nothing at all. You can PM them if you wish with PRIVATE INFO but do not post publicly. You CAN NOT POST comments like I do not recommend Info on other site don't do it! stay away not worth it etc... etc.... etc......... That is NOT what this site is for. YES we know some of you would like it to be and YES we know some of you feel it is your god given right to post whatever you want on our members only board but the truth is... our house our rules and we DO NOT want it here. If you must read negative comments or if you must post negative comments then please do so on OTHER websites... or start your own. Do not PM me after I give you a warning or infraction telling me how I should run the site either (This is especially annoying with new members) yes of course mr. 1 post guy you can tell me how we should run the site you are so helpful! (NOT!) If you don't like our rules... start your own website and let us enjoy this one.

I find these kinds of threads about BBBJ really irritating. Not because conversation about shared intimacies and health matters shouldn't be had, but because of how talk about sucking dick quickly shifts into the 'politic of the ick' (a term coined by sexologist Carol Queen). I will speak for myself. I love making out, I love having my pussy licked, I love sucking cock, alot of the time BBBJs and CIM (oh yeah baby), and, yet I do not identify as a PSE at all. Not a meaningful term to me. I'm GFE all the way. I do not make clients wear a dental dam to give me oral, and I do not put saran on my face when playing tonsil hockey. There are plenty of service providers, including popular and highly reviewed SPs who do not do BBBJ (understandable, and a very personal decision), but the idea of being concerned over providers 'being compelled' to provide BBBJs, and then omitting the way we normalize and by and large broadly accept DFK and DATY as meaningful and commonly provided services inherent to the work, (providing GFE), is problematic. Assessing the risks, negotiating the fun to be had, and getting regular health checks including throat swabs is a must. Let's not turn all SPs into victims of risky clients, and let's focus on empowering workers to enjoy working conditions where they can refuse work they deem unsafe....not to mention increasing access to non-stigmatizing STI health screening, and ongoing education. Signed, Cum lover

I used to have a regular client I accompanied to strip clubs and other fun places, I would be most pleased to do it again as part of a longer social plus date.

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'The Dog Stars' by Peter Heller I second the recommendation for 'Tuesdays with Morrie'. The ENTIRE outlander series is amazing!!! I wanna read it all again!!!! I am currently reading 'Mockingbird', a story about a young girl with Autism learning to cope with her brothers death. I love reading. Keep the recommendations coming!!!!

I drove out of my driveway afterwards to run some errands and the two kids (aged between 9-12) are on their front yard waving goodbye to me. So I drove around the block and came back. They were walking across the street. When they saw me coming they pretended they were just walking down the road. This morning I wake up and their two cats are sleeping on my upholstered patio furniture on my deck. So I think today I will just walk into their house, crack open a beer, put my feet up and start changing TV channels. Think they will get the hint?? LoL on a serious note ... I have drafted a letter and I think I will try that route first. It's polite and simply explains the liability issue and that the quiet, private enjoyment of my own yard is being compromised. I've also got a live trap for the cats, which I will return to them when caught. Once. After that they can pick them up at the humane society. I feel like super bitch. But I've had enough.

Not to mention just the basic Privacy issues. Is EVERYONE (client and provider alike) supposed to post their STI STD tests. Where posted? A website...??? Now possibly big brother will have access to private medical information (yes STD/STI testing is medical) I don't know about you, but the only ones I want knowing my medical history is my doctor(s) lab personal and any other medical professionals. And would public posting of STD/STI tests be the thin edge of the wedge that all health records become public. Not to mention that with test results posted publically then it publically outs EVERYONE involved in this lifestyle, ladies and gentlemen alike...under their real name But my medical history is mine to see, not for the whole SP/Client community to see. A rambling over my first cup of coffee...geez is being a caffeineaholic a medical problem to be publically posted too...Tim Horton's may keep an eye on the list too LOL RG

Don't insult an SP by requesting this. If you feel there is too much risk for you to go see an SP, don't go see one. Anyone can get an STI, not just a service provider and this is a great way to never hear from an SP again. There is always risk and the only risk free way is abstaining from sexual activities and intercourse all together. Don't expect an SP to clear your mind where STDS are concerned. You are responsible for your own sexual health as is everyone else.

But you are still trying to explain in the context of consent, or in the context of being willing or not willing. When something is legislated or regulated for the good of the public health, it isn't a question of being willing or unwilling to risk health and safety. So "ladies' are not the ones telling people what to do or not do. The whole point of this exercise is to describe what is already happening in a country that has decriminalized the same laws we had, and regulated it at the governmental level. It isn't like sp X is coming along and wagging a finger at sp Y and calling her dirty or whatever, which is what all this sounds like. It is simply one thing that actually could happen should the industry be regulated. Just as it already happens at brothels in Nevada, and so on. In other words, don't shoot the messenger, it's the law: https://www.healthed.govt.nz/resource/health-and-safety-information-sex-workers I am not sure about why this even should be hashed out so much: it's a health and safety issue. I don't think anyone is misinformed about the std transmission information, and the reality that bbbjs or any uncovered services come with higher risks? That's what is confusing to me, that we seem to be debating at the personal choice level, when the examples given take the choice away. If you knew 100% that every time you drove your car you had a 100% risk of permanent physical injury just because you chose not to wear a seat belt, would you then follow the law that requires using the seatbelt, or would you simply continue to not use it and run the risk of a fine? Even if you drove your car 100 times and you didn't get in an accident, and you never got stopped by LE to check if you were complying? It is a high risk activity, and that is all they need to know about it. Just as hard hats and steel toed boots are required for workers in construction, for their health and safety, so are barriers (which include dams and condoms) required for the health and safety of sex workers. It's a regulation because sex workers deal with the public in a commercial transaction setting, therefore, just like food servers, they are subject to increased or higher levels of regulations for the protection of the worker and the public. It's really a common sense issue and quite logical. It doesn't deal with emotions or feelings or desires, just common sense. A + B = C. If A is done without B, then there is no C. Just like if bjs are done with condoms, risk exposure is minimized, i.e. no C. It isn't about choice, just as I mention before, if the government is regulating an industry, it regulates it period, whether we personally agree with it or not. And hard hats and steel toed boots are also, not a morality regulation. It has been determined that due to the specific risks 'inherent' in the construction industry, those safety features decrease the workers risk. And, since oral sex without barriers is proven higher risk, therefore a health and safety regulation as laid out by the NZ OHS folks, regulate that high risk activity by requiring safety equipment. I have a hard time believing that any sp who is well educated about stds, risk factors, etc, doesn't know that bbbjs are higher risk. For me, I appreciate that they don't deny it is higher risk but they simply have chosen to accept the risk. Which again, is not the same thing as saying Canada is going to regulate anything at the OHS level. The whole point of this is someone saying that they can't, when in fact, they certainly can take the choice away from the clients and the sps, and the employers, as they have in NZ. Vancouver area is interesting because agencies are not as popular as some other cities. So even if an sp is actually an employee, so to speak, the manager will probably post 10000% independent in many of their sp ads. A micro is a 'mini' but illegal brothel. almost always run by an older woman or young man, usually Chinese, and staffed by Asian sps who are brought in from Asia on tourist or student visas. They usually live/work out of the apartment or house that is set up with various rooms. Some of the managers have more than one location, so an sp may be moved around from one to the other, based on how many they need at each location. The services are expansive, and the rates are low, even lower than low, like 140/hour nowadays, tho the typical micro offers a 45 minute rate, which always used to be 140, but now is typically 100-120. Even tho the rates are low, the sp herself usually gets more for each session here than she would in China. The sps are typically older like 30 plus, which is not an ideal age to be working in China. Ads also typically say the age is low 20s, and the pics are always 90% fake. At just about every way you look at a micro, it is highly illegal, from being a bawdy house, to living off the avails, to working without a proper work visa, and probably unregistered tenants in the location. And the managers do get charged with the expected criminal charges that come along with running a micro.

Clearly not their parents! I suggest blaming the education system and voting in Tim Hudak. He wouldn't stand for this bullshit!!

Next step is to speak to the parents. They are the ones that need to be spoken to.

Turn offs? Not many. At my age, I am always pleasantly surprised that a woman will not throw up when we are naked in the same room. These are more general observations than anything else. If there is any advice I can pass along, these would be a few things that I would suggest: 1. Time: Hobbyists are consistently reminded that they are not compensating a provider for a specific service, they are compensating her for her time. Keeping that in mind, the idea of "shoot and scoot" just doesn't fly. A two hour appointment should last two hours unless the hobbyist leaves early at HIS discretion, unless of course he has been a total dickhead. If he has been a dickhead, you have the right to kill him and dissolve his body in the bathtub. 2. Punctuality: These days, everybody has time pressures. As much frustration as it is for a provider when a client is late, it is equally as frustrating when a provider shows up late. Life happens. We all make mistakes. We all get delayed. Just remember, when things start on time, everyone is a lot more relaxed and happy. 3. Social Media Interaction: This is a biggie for me. Whether you are writing here on CERB, on Twitter or on a subscribed Blog, your words are a window into your provider personna. The most beautiful person becomes ugly if they express themselves in a hateful manner. It cuts both ways. Some providers use what we say here as a screening tool - they don't want to deal with assholes and misogynists. Keeping that in mind, we won't see you if you have shown that you don't respect us. We won't see you if you are mean spirited. We won't see you if you twist our words against us. Food for thought. 4. Live rabid monkeys: Don't have them in your incall. They are intimidating. 5. Divided Attention: Everybody has a life. Sometimes we have stuff on our minds that we can't shake. The mark of a true professional in ANY line of work is to put that stuff on a mental shelf and get through the day. It's especially true here, where intimacy is so much harder to achieve when a provider's mind is obviously elsewhere. 6. Unnecessary commentary: Eeeeek. This is a tough one. Have you ever been in an intimate moment that has an undertone of soft and romantic when all of a sudden the badly delivered porn movie dialogue starts? I'm getting the shivers of discomfort just thinking about it. Ohhhhh... and please. Don't speak if your mouth is full... mid BJ commentary is kind of a boner killer. 7. Turkey Bacon: Only if every pig on the planet has died of a horrific flesh eating disease will turkey bacon be acceptable. 8: Outside communication: Turn off your cell phone. Do it. Now. Unless you have a friend or family member that is dying, your attention is with me. I've ended two encounters early because the provider was constantly checking her messages. In virtually EVERY other business, that kind of behaviour would merit discipline or termination. It's a disservice to your professionalism if you can't give me our time. The person on the other end of the line is NOT paying you now. I am. 9: Talking badly about other providers: This is tough. It's a very competitive business. Like many other hobbyists, I don't necessarily provide reviews or recommendations for the majority of providers with whom I have spent my time. Keeping that in mind, you have no idea of the nature of my relationship with nearly any other provider. I may absolutely adore a provider that you have just torn a verbal strip from... and that really doesn't help your cause. 10: Just another client: The biggest mistake any provider can make is to treat a client like "just another client." I have chosen you because you represent something desirable. I have brought my hard earned cash with me because I think you are special. I sought you out because I think you are going to be wonderful to and with me. Treat me like more than a donation envelope. Act as if you want to be with me. Make me feel like you want ME. The best providers (and we have so many great ones) know that the encounter is so much more than an intermingling of moistened body parts. They understand that the fantasy is passion and desire. If you want hobbyists to respect the fact that you are so much more than just a series of desirable body parts, treat HIM like more than a penis with an envelope. Jeebus. I was on a roll there.

I saw Miss Leesha (luxeroyal) yesterday for a nuru massage and all I have to say is wow! I don't want to get into the details but she provides a great experience and environment. She is gorgeous and is very sweet, welcoming and friendly. If you go see her, treat her well because she is special!

The keys to making encounters extraordinary is actually quite simple. First, do your homework to ensure you understand your guest's expectations then do follow thru to make it happen before he arrives to the best of your ability. The next thing is THE key... STAY IN THE MOMENT from the minute you open the door until you close it after he leaves. By staying in the moment I mean... 1. Do not allow random thoughts floating thru your head to take hold. They are clouds, just let them float thru while you focus your attention on your guest. Don't allow the "am I doing this right?", "does this angle make my stomach look fat?" or "I need to go grocery shopping as soon as he's done." to interfere with your time with your guest. This time is about the two of you together and nothing else matters at this point. There is time to process a worthy unrelated thought after he's gone. 2. See the humanity in your guest before all else. This is the part of him you want to touch deeply. He isn't a business guru, construction worker, accountant, father, brother, son when he is with you. He is simply a man, with all of the qualities that makes him strong and vulnerable at the same time. Recognize this, let him be himself with no expectations that he is anything else. The human connection is the one that he will feel and not forget. 3. Follow the bouncing ball. Watch, listen and respond to the story that his body and tone of voice tell. Words can be deceptive but the body always tells the truth. He gives you all the clues you need to make a visit spectacular, you just need to be open to seeing them; to do that you need to follow the moment and trust your intuition to decipher what he is actually needing rather than just what he thinks he wants. It's easy once you practice it a bit, like karaoke. Just watch the little red bouncing ball of "right now". 4. Remember the humanity in him first and foremost. Make a mental file on him. After he leaves, think about what you learned about the real him and file that gold away. If you connected with him, he'll be back and you then have the keys to getting him to shed to masks he wears in the outside world, allowing him to once again just be himself but more efficiently than the last time leaving more time for genuine connection. Follow these steps with every visit and before long you are the Sanctuary he seeks when the outside world is closing in on him. You are who he turns to, to forget, to reconcile, to release all of the stresses that hunt him. These may or may not be conversations of words but more often with my guests they are a ballet of touch, movement and physical expression... Remember that this interaction isn't about you, it's about the both of you. It certainly isn't all about the sex. The physical is simply a vehicle to express ourselves together; it's about releasing what is needed and renewing one's life energy so we can meet the world another day from a positive frame of mind. A man comes to us because of a physical urge but that is merely symptomatic of the underlying need for connection without negativity whether your guest realizes it or not. He never needs to understand your process but he will never forget the time he shared with you if the connection to the real him is made... This is what I think makes an experience memorable... cat

This scenario excites me BIG TIME! I've been to strip-clubs a few times, I would probably go more often if I didn't have to be accompanied by a man. The few times I have gone, I really enjoyed myself in the CR. One time the dancer bought my drinks all night. Awesome! I'm game!

Another book series I really enjoyed was The Mayfair Witches by Anne Rice. Never liked her Vampire novels but the Witches series I found to be really good, especially the first book. Read it after having spent a week in New Orleans and being familiar with the settings referenced in the book made it all the more interesting. New Orleans has a very haunted/creepy side to it that Rice brings to life in her novels.

You may be right.... I think the issue is not if people in the industry (SP'S and Clients) should get regular tests... of course for their own safety they should... but is this info of any value to client except as a demonstration of the individuals commitment to their own health.. asking for and seeing someone's "recent test results" means nothing unless there has been no sex since. Posting results on a website is totally useless as it compromises the privacy of the individuals and does not provide any benefit as noted above. Just my opinion

Meeting a wonderful new client. Had a blast!

Watching a documentary on the The History of the Eagles... my all time favorite band.

Getting caught up on emails and relaxing in the sun....A perfect Sunday to be home....

Tease welcomes unaccompanied women.

There is a serious safety issue here and might suggest speaking with the local authorities. There could be some liability problems here if someone lost their life and you knew what they had been doing. Perhaps something as simple as no trespassing signs which could address the liability issue.

I communicated at great length once with a gentleman about a meeting. It was his first time with a paid companion, and he had many questions and concerns, as I'm sure you can all appreciate. He explained he owns his own successful and busy company and that he was tired of the bar scene and casual pick ups that stayed over one night and never left. I explained I was no gold digger, that I had my own pot of gold and that his payment ensured I would a) leave, and b) not call him the next day. Despite living alone, he was reluctant to have me visit his home (again understandable) and he booked a room at an upscale resort hotel. When I arrived I knocked, and could hear him finishing up a phone call on the other side of the door. When he opened it he still had the phone at his ear... his jaw dropped open and he said "oh my gawd! it's YOU!" He was a senior in highschool when I was a junior. He was my sisters' age, and although we weren't buddies we sure knew eachother. He quickly recovered from his shock, invited me in and said he was so glad it was me, he'd been so nervous but now he felt better. I explained that discretion was my middle name and of course it was a two way street... which of course he confirmed. We continued with the visit and I've seen him several times since. Nice guy :)

Interesting to see that both sides react passionately to this thread. Very interesting debate. Although I haven't seen too many providers over the past few years, there are 2 that left very memorable memories in my mind. One was in Vancouver, and the other one was here in Halifax. The kind that filled me with physical, sensual and psychological wonder for the rest of the day, and even many days after. The kind of session that still makes me become hard and:jackoff: still today even if it happened almost 3 years ago for one of them. I am sorry to say there is no specific recipe or magic formula. Chemistry happens or it doesn't. It is a combination of things that put all together make you totally forget this is business first. Regardless of an open-mind posture, your physical attributes, an endless list of services (none of them had any but sky was the limit when reading between the lines), an endless stock of lingerie, professional pictures, etc. A few things tips for the build up though. First, be professional by being ready on the agreed time. I have met too many providers who were asking for extra time with a last minute notice. Then, make your client feel welcomed, regardless of the location (private residence or hotel room). Finally be attentive and fully involved. Some basic chat and initial physical contact are good ice-breakers. This is when I know if this will be a good or a poor session. Body language doesn't fool the experienced hobbyist. Pre-session communication is also crucial. I have enough experience now to be able to say is there is potential for good fun with an email exchange or a phone conversation. Don't get me wrong, there's always a certain unavoidable awkwardness when perfect strangers talk about intimate details for the first time. But strangely, chemistry can already be at work at that stage. The rest feels so much easier once that initial feel is there. This is when a provider becomes a partner with whom you can develop a durable intimate business relationship.

It would be good to record them, if you did plan to speak with the parents.

they are also attracted to dark clothing, especially if you wear them next to someone wearing white

When I met my first CERB lady (actually my third encounter) and not only my first good encounter, it was a GREAT ENCOUNTER!!! but I felt as if I should But that would leave the lady too long in the hotel corridor. So in my heart I am greeting the ladies like this even though I invite them into my hotel room and to the couch. And those ladies well they make old me feel like my younger self (going back to last century now LOL) And all the ladies I've seen in this lifestyle...well I thought I knew what was meant by a 10 But I was wrong...the ladies on CERB, well they don't deserve a 10, that would mean they lost points. These ladies are so much more than 10's to me, and if they were running down a beach, well Bo Derek would be left in their dust :-) CERB has introduced me to a community of like minded people, but especially kind caring affectionate ladies who value the gentlemen they see as more than just clients. Cliché as it sounds, and I said it before, but a brightness entered my life, because of the ladies of CERB Thank You RG

I Guess that means my wife is sweet (She is) and I am not.... lol... hopefully I have some other redeeming qualities :)

Too much make up, implants, dated photos, one-two word responses to emails, generic huns or babes, fly by nighters, disinterest, faking, conceit for no reason and generally poor customer service. Peace MG

I think that media and advertising plays as big a role as it always has. We are force fed certain standards every day and sometimes, whether we want it to or not, it sinks into our thought patterns and we slowly start thinking a different way. It takes effort to think your own thoughts in this electronic age. Not only that but I think when we're young, we view older in REALLY skewed ways so when we GET to older, we remember those comments. On top of that because we're human, our bodies start doing things they never did before and behaving differently and looking differently. At that point, many people have to deal with the whole ego shift and it can be a hard effort that weakens us to all the stuff we're inundated with. It's then that we think, maybe it IS better or if I had that I would be better. PS. In regard to Mrrnice's comments, there seems to be a gender specific thing I see a lot where woman are more accepting or maturity and aging in men then men are in woman. As always, there are exceptions, this is just a trend I have personally seen and experienced. There are so many facets to beauty, sex, aging, youth and they all have impact. I would love to see the real goal be to see beauty and sexy in everyone regardless of age, sex, race etc. It is a real gift and I'm very thankful to be blessed with it. Sexy to me is more than an outward appearance. It's personality, playfulness, the curve of a body that's normally hidden, the twinkle in an eye, the teasing smile or deepness of a laugh. NO, there is no age limit on sexy or beautiful, there is sometimes an age limit on mental ability to be accepting and open. I hope never to find that one! In response to Mrrnice...I do believe there is a gender issue, and I comment from personal experience and observation, that women are more accepting of maturity and aging in men then men are in woman. Always exceptions of course.

I suppose it depends greatly on what you choose to expose yourself to. I don't watch much mainstream media. Being in my 40's, I surround myself with my peers and I find their experience, maturity, sense of humour and "live-and-let-live" attitude to be refreshingly sexy. When I am with my mid-20's son and his friends, I'm often reminded that I'm too hot to be his mom. However, I don't find any of those young men to be very sexy I'm afraid. Confidence in a man or woman is a trait I find incredibly sexy, and it appears to me to be something that develops with age ;)

As fiskaa said, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo trilogy was awesome, with each book being better than the previous one. At the moment I am well into "Outlander", by Diana Gabaldon. It is the first of a seven book set and I think I am hooked.

As an agent, I clearly state that each lady has a choice in what kind of service they are comfortable with. I also encourage girls choose what rate is best for them, as long as it doesn't under cut my regular going rate. Like one lady with me now prefers CBJ with the regular rate, but will consider BBBJ upon meeting and with an extra fee. And loves to kiss. Now this lady sometimes finds it harder to get her bookings, but at the same time knows that if she impresses them, then he will return because THAT client also prefers CBJ too. Meanwhile...I have another that does offer BBBJ as a part of her GFE rate but does not kiss, so men do not like the fact that she does not kiss...so I have to clearly state this to them. so at the end of the day, it is all about making sure both client and provider are completely satisfied in the style of service they offer. If an agent is precise in how and who to book CBJ or BBBJ should not be a problem, from my stand point. I suppose this does mean that I have to work harder, but then again I WORK FOR THE LADY...NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND.

FO, I have read most of the thread so far and both sides have very valid points. Where I have an issue with (always will) is when someone mentions that SPs don't have the liberty to choose, independent or not. We are all free to choose what works best for us and choose to do what makes us feel comfortable, what makes us feel safer and what makes us feel happier! I remember before I first started in this industry. I googled "Montreal escorts", did extensive reading and contacted quite a few agencies. I learn about terms like SAFE GFE, GFE, GFE+ and PSE and what they meant according to Montreal standars. Long story short, some agencies told me I HAD to be willing to provide BBBJ and preferably with CIM too (with swallow optional) to join their team. At the time, I wasn't comfortable with the idea of providing BBBJ so I thanked them for their time and kept looking. I did what was best for me, personally and I believe everyone can do the same if they truly desire. The agency has "service requirements" that you don't agree with? No one is forcing those ladies to stay, and preventing them to go elsewhere (or even become independent). It is a CHOICE we make to stay or go or look for an agency that will respect our boundaries and comfort levels. *Side note: of course, I am not talking about ladies with controlling pimps and/or who are being trafficked. These ladies are victims. It only drives what they provide IF they let it! They are the ones making that decison. It is their choice. Not the industry's choice. I do not know how many requests "I lost" because I do not offer CIM and/or GREEK but I did not let that loss of income get to me because that income wasn't meant for me in the first place. I was not about to compromise on anything to get that income. I can easily play the powerless victim here, start providing those activities and blame it all on the pressure of the business but I know deep down that it would be unfair and an easy way out. I could say the same about my rates... Maybe I should lower my rates to attract the general hobbyist population but my rates are my rates and I am satisfied with them, same as to the activities I share with my patrons. We all have the power to choose!

I enjoy Greek, I am evening going to add it back to my menu. First time I did it I was pretty shocked on the entry feeling then once it got going it was magically enjoyable. For me it's about glass butt plugs, even steel butt plugs, and maybe a vibrator and lots and lots of lube thanks H2O. You can never have to much lube. that is the big thing since that area doesn't lubricate on it's own even though it might seem like it is. Now I did a quick search and was able to find some of my old videos around. and this one is pretty much one of my best Anal scenes I've done. http://tinyurl.com/RDGvid As for my experience in it I always stop counting when I've done something more then 3 times :)

That would be a valid argument except: all sps are not at liberty to decide for themselves what services to provide or not provide. Some are employees, many in fact, and they are and will be marketed and advertised as to offer popular services. There are some who do not wish to provide bbbjs, but due to pressure of the business, do so for the sake of their business. The pressure of what others provide, and provide cheaper, drives what they provide. Plus the reality is, that in the work place, and if sps want to be taken seriously as a business, businesses get regulated for worker health and safety. It is what it is. If the std clinic is telling you to cover up for the bjs, and the cdc is telling you, and random news articles are telling you, then it doesn't take much to figure out that the Worker safety board is also going to be saying the same thing. :) They may also say that employees have to get tested weekly, or that the employer is required to provide free weekly testing. Whether sps are able to police this for themselves for their own services is irrelevant to this discussion, of worker safety health policies. Sps are not always providing services in ways that are in their own best interest, health wise. Just as drivers aren't always driving in ways that are in their best interests: speeding, undue care and attention, and not wearing seatbelts. They have a license, they took training, it doesn't mean they won't break the law, but in the interest of the public, there are still laws against speeding, undue care and no seatbelts.

Like women, I have never found a breast I didn't like. They all have some redeeming feature. :) However, certainly not the defining feature of a lady.

But RG, the whole entire point of sps/clients versus civilians is the business side, the commercial transaction, and the fact that the sp is 'at work' while performing these services. And like any other workplace, conditions and regulations can be (and in some countries are) applied. It is what it is. It isn't about stamping out stds, and it isn't about controlling morality, it is a simple case of worker safety. The example of Home Depot is of course exactly the same. We aren't controlling what civilians or even the Home Depot worker is doing at their own home, only regulating what they can do in the work place, for their safety. Once a regulation is in place, this means also that an employer cannot demand the worker get up on that ladder, at the workplace, without the proper safety equipment. Nor in NZ or similar places can any employer demand that an sp provide uncovered sexual services. And that is what it means to protect a worker with regulations. Whether a worker would voluntarily do it, they will have to do it on their own civilian time, not at the workplace. Comparing it as a morality issue is not at all accurate, when the fact of the matter is that stds are real, and std transmission occurs without barriers. As a health and safety issue, it is a pretty clear line. Sps aren't high risk because they are sps, sps aren't being morally judged and found faulty due to the fact that they are sps, The focus is that the risk is in the activity >>> uncovered sexual activities. You take the bbbj out of the work place, and the work place is a safer place for the worker (the sp). I really have a hard time believing anyone thinks it is OK to not protect sex workers just like any other labour force just because they are sps, and not regulate the safety issues of commercial sexual activity.

You are talking about a prescription drug that is intended for men. Has she seen her doctor. Has her doctor prescribed it for her? You surely aren't thinking of slipping it to her without her knowledge Just shaking my head here RG

Anything done with love and kindness is memorable. We may not remember the specific person or events, but we remember that it happened with sincerity.

Um ... all a test provides is that AT THE TIME OF THE TEST that nothing would come up. STD tests aren't exactly while you wait, so between the test and visit you're have to be prepared to cover a loss of income if you're expecting celibacy between then and the encounter. I know with experience from the porn industry, some contracts require you not be sexually active between the test and the production, so that the test is kept accurate. I've been part of one production where the entire set crew had to take part. There's absolutely no point in asking for a test result because it would be inaccurate or VERY expensive to cover the income between the test and the encounter which is pretty much going to be required.

Well, speaking strictly from a local lady perspective Savannah Lane and Ava Lynn are the only local ladies who have advertised PSE services. Both are fantastic ladies in their own way and depending on your physical preferences I believe either can provide an experience that you'll enjoy. Both, make it feel very real and non-mechanical. That said there are also options from some of the traveling ladies that visit that I think you'd enjoy as well. If you're looking for any other info let me know.

I think its totally fair and makes complete sense to consider BBBJ along with other services (Greek, DATY, kissing...) part of a spectrum of services SPs have every right to refuse to provide for any reason as a legitimate claim on their rights to optimal health & safety. And, yes, while this thread is about gonorrhea, it's also become about issues of risk relative to BBBJ and other services as well. The NZ model represents the most ideal model in practice which we can draw and build on here in Canada. But, it does not mean a copy and paste approach is warranted. The idea that we will see success by outright banning sexual practices such BBBJ is nonsense. Again, creating markets, and expanding the rights of providers, including those who work for agencies to refuse ANY services they feel uncomfortable (or any client they feel uncomfortable seeing) with is alot more realistic. Aggressive educational campaigns and access to services that promote personal responsibility for ones's sexual health, including clients doing so will be another important piece. Along with increasing access to STI testing....hassle free clinics etc, and better educated and more receptive GPs. To go with this, mandatory health testing will also be a huge mistake despite many people saying it's a great idea, as it will create illegality where it did not exist before....where those disenfranchised from the formal registered system will be on society's shit list....and where all of the blame and medical control will be placed on the bodies of sex workers, instead of on clients and the general population. So, what's the connection between the mandatory testing and regulatory measures against BBBJ? What are we going to do?: Start fining workers who provide BBBJs to their clients?....How do we go about determining their 'risk levels'? Do we start tracking all SPs sexual partners in private to see whose bare cock they are sucking, maybe who they have screwed bareback on their own time and then use that as a reason to say, hey, no kissing and no daty with your clients....cuz you COULD have gonorrhea and/or you COULD give your client herpes. Banning BBBJs is going to create a specter of illegality and stigma. Bad idea! Sex work is not and has never been a level playing field. And standardizing sex acts like McDonald's happy meals is not going to resolve that.

Age is not an issue. . On the contrary is great to spend time with an articulate and mature gentleman. ..