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I usually try to stay away from these threads for the reasons that they become hostile, judgemental and each city stats are quite different. I think because of certain stigmas, it's not wise for me to respond but I deserve to have a voice in this being an ebony/native companion. I do receive enough hate mail and prank calls due to my race daily, weekly or whenever an actual racist chooses to harass me, so I am always hesitant to even read these threads and respond. When I see ads on other sites the first thing that comes to my mind is, when will I see a new thread appear. In Halifax, I can understand a local lady putting such a disclaimer up but that is hopefully her choice and Halifax/Nova Scotia is not that big, someone knows a friend of a friend or cousin or family member. I never see these types of disclaimers as racist, unless you can read minds you will never know 100% why a lady has put this in their ad. The lady is entitled to see whomever she chooses. I pick and choose who I meet and not just because I was contacted, I have the final say. Now on the other hand, I have been told that some clients enjoy seeing such disclaimers due to their "so called preferences" and know said companion does not see a certain race. Many providers can tell by posting history, there is more to it besides a clients "preference". As we can read between lines and have been for a long time. I have no race or major preference besides being 19+, be respectful, kind and everything a companion seeks in a great client(s). I put my real age in my ads/website for my own client preference and that has nothing to do with race, I want to know who is contacting me is seeking a youthful, mature companion in her early 30's. I have been ID'd on a number of occasions. I don't have a personal race preference in my personal life but have dated more white, native, bi-racial (black & white) and a mix of all three. Do I think black/brown men are any less attractive or less greater partners than white men? NO. No matter the race, when we get cut we all bleed the same colour. I just haven't met a black/brown man who is not from Halifax and either a family member or knows my family and the list goes on. Honestly, I'm loving being single after being with and then married to a white man for half my life. I can state that I have never met a client who was brown/black ask for BBFS, negotiate or try/attempt to put me in harms way. I can not say this to be the case for anyone I have not met. That is my contribution to this dead beaten horse thread #3 on the same topic. I try my best not to put myself in such threads with such negativity and judgement. I'm far from new to the industry and have years of experience and I certainly did not respond to argue or be drawn in to any of this negative, judgmental drama. The bottom line is, the lady is entitle to pick and chose who she meets and doesn't. It's her body and her rules. All my love and support to all, Lexy

Indeed! If people minded their own business a little more often, and not focus so much on what others are doing, when it's no concern of theirs to begin with, life would be a little bit more enjoyable for everyone!

This line of thinking by definition is pure racism.

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My own personal top 10 "worst dates" list consists of only caucasian clients. Will I stop seeing all white men because of this? No. Could I deny my services to them, if I wanted to? Yes. Would it make me racist if I did? No.

This subject has been extensively discussed before, always heated, apparently with no right answer http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=181140&highlight=blacks http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=151618 Some things to keep in mind 1. A lady has the absolute right to choose who she is intimate with, irrespective of a clients race, creed, colour, religion, age, body size, hair/lack of it etc etc etc 2. Forcing a SP to be sexually intimate with a man she does not wish to be with is akin to a sexual assault. Doesn't no mean no...even if the reason is skin colour 3. Often ladies may have a BF/SO (some who may not know their GF/SO is an SP) who is for lack of a better phrase, part of a small ethnic group in her city, and seeing someone of the same ethnic group as a client could publically expose her to that small community where her profession as an SP could be discovered. Racism may not be the reason, it may be because of discretion and anonymity. 4. Yes maybe racism too. Not saying it doesn't happen. But that said what man would really want to see a woman who doesn't want to see him. There are many beautiful women out there that aren't racist and would love to spend time with a respectful gentleman of any ethnicity. That's just off the top of my head. I'll guarantee this thread will end up heated. I'm already feeling uncomfortable posting RG

IMHO, sex between two consenting adults, whether you pay for it or not, is one if not the most intimate and personal experience 2 ppl can share. It certainly can't be compared to other service businesses. That being said, no one as the right to tell providers who they should or should not see nor does anybody has a right to tell me who I should see. This is personal and private!

I think what needs to be remembered is racism is but one form of discrimination There is also discrimination because of age, sex, sexual orientation, weight, disabilities etc But there is also sexual preference, not racism, because of age, sexual orientation, weight, disabilities and race, and there may be a very valid reason for someone's sexual preference. Unless those clients and ladies who label others racist are absolutely without any form of discrimination themselves not just in words but in actions,there should be no painting of others as racist. And I'm sure their preference's could equally be painted as discriminatory God I hate this thread RG

Ok I was going to stay away from this thread, but after reading this I feel I need to speak up. At the end of the day no matter what the reason, if a provider is not comfortable with a particular race ( at times even age groups ) then there is no point to booking with that client as it will make for a very uncomfortable experience and resulting in an awkward session for both parties. Do we all not want to have connection and chemistry?? Do you not want A genuine interest, not forced and faked? Also, if a provider chooses not to see a particular race or age group and by putting it on her web site or ads, then it is eliminating the time wasted and being rejected on your enquiry. I would say these are preferences and not racism. As shown in the example below.... I know a lady who LOVES to be with black men personally, but as for working NO. This is because we are in a very small town and for her to accept black clients it is increasing her chances of "outing" herself to their own group of friends. SHE IS NO WAY raciest.

In my opinion, I see who I want to see, when I want to see them. End of story. As it has been said before on this thread, my body, my rules. My requirements are this: - be of at least age of majority in the area of where I am at any given time - be courteous and have read my 'policies' (rudeness gets you nowhere) - don't ask for things that I explicitly do not offer - don't ask for reductions What I give back: - a splendid way for you to spend time with me - an experience that you won't soon forget - provide you with the best luxuries and sensations that I can - answer your sincere inquiries in a timely and courteous manner I don't believe that I have ever asked a potential client what their racial/ethnic background is, it just never occurred to me to do so. I take a look at in which manner a gentleman has approached me, their attitude in conversation (whether that be PM, contact page, or email), and if they have read my website for further information. I carry on conversations with the potential client in such a way that I can get an accurate picture of 'are we going to be a good pairing'. Questions or emails that just have 'rates and are you available at xxx time' leads me to believe that said person has not read anything, and is just looking for a quick 'lay'. Providers give experiences, good ones. If I feel from the first few initial responses that we are not a good pairing, I will convey that to the client. But I do it carefully so as not to offend. Prejudice and racism is always going to exist in any business, I just choose not to participate in it. I am pretty sure that I will not meet the requirements of what clients are looking for sometimes, but I sure don't get offended by it. I am certainly not a spinner, nor am I 19, and this is what some clients want. As long as the 4 'requirements' are met, your background has nothing to do with how good a time we will have together. It will be your attitude and maturity that will lead to a great session. :)

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My approach is different. With experience, one gets to feel who are the serious ad legit providers. Even being a newcomer, a serious provider will have a structured and direct talk with you. With these ones I would book for 1h, even if they don't have any raving reco here or elsewhere. The ones who play tricks tend to be easily detectable acting being evasive and unresponsive on many details. I see ads every day for SPs who claim to be well-reviewed. When you ask them, they remain silent. Those ones, I don't book at all, as hot as they can look on their pics. You can guess pimps aren't too far. Let's not endorse these guys' activities. It goes back to applying common sense: grab the phone and give the lady a call. Intuition is your best guide, particularly after having been screwed a couple of times, like most of us clients have been when we start in this hobby. Live and learn. I have met companions who were doing this for a very brief period of time, but gave me the most memorable time I could think of, and even beyond. Students mostly. I am always on the lookout to meet new ladies, but without losing my sense.

I don't see really young guys, because I have sons in their 20's and one of their friends could show up at my door, I'd rather pass on that possible outcome. One time I was working in Calgary, a guy called me to prearrange an appointment for the next morning. The next morning I show up and a young pimple faced kid answers the door and I'm like, think I got the wrong house and he's like no I had my friend call you. I'm super uncomfortable at that point but proceeded anyway, asked him for ID, the whole nine. That was the MOST uncomfortable session I ever had and I've dealt with my fair share of weirdness in the almost 30 yrs I've been working and I gave him some advice while I was leaving and told him to ensure that next time he tells a lady how old he is. Something else to add to this with the ethnicity aspects, I don't think it's anyone's business to judge anyone else for not wanting to see certain ethnicities people have a right to refuse anyone they don't want to see. Just like pooners have the right not see someone either for whatever reasons. And some people get really rude and ignorant, even threatening when they are refused service during the screening process. And when some people think they are entitled to service just because they have money, I'll pass on that, as well as their condescending attitudes with yelling at you on the phone and YES people do that to some of us. There's nothing like getting a one word text RATES!!! AVAILABLE???

Why are these guys so argumentive about an SP not wanting to see them? If you are browbeating a lady into seeing you, or you arrive with a chip on your shoulder it is not going to be a great session. Instead of arguing and insulting a lady because she does not want to see you go see someone who WANTS to see you.

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That's your opinion and you're entitled to it, but I disagree and let me clarify this is collective data from a couple hundred ladies, NOT just one. If there are possible risks that involve a ladies SAFETY and if she can reduce those risks, that is her right do so and half those points are safety risks, some more serious than others. You're also on the other side of the phone and process, numbers don't lie. Your concern as a client is how a lady treats you and the clients she does choose to see is it not? I think you would be very shocked at how some people act and speak towards ladies. If 3 out of 4 men of a certain ethnicity asked for BBFS between the ages of 27 to 40, that's a very dangerous number to be playing with and I can tell you in one city, that does happen. Risk is higher in some cities based on numbers and sorry if you think it's racist, but unless you experience it firsthand you really have no right to pass judgement wherein a lady may be putting her safety at risk. Safety is always a number one priority. For the record craig and to those reading, I'm certainly not saying that ladies should make a generalization of certain ethnicities across Canada, that would be racist imho. I'm saying wherein some cities the risk of potential harm can be reduced then ladies should do what they feel is best for them and judgement shouldn't be passed.

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It would depend on what city you are living in and some cities have much higher ratios of certain ethnicities than others do and the data is based on several sp's experiences via ladies lounges, not just one ladies experience. My point is, that some people are suggesting that a decision was made to not see certain ethnicities due to a sole ladies personal preference when in fact that may not be the case at all. White is an ethnicity and my data could be about them. I'm not going to say which it is, however, I can't say to those of you that have problematic issues with white men in Eastern provinces that your choice not to see them wouldn't be justified, if you so chose to do that. Just like you can't say if some lady in a western province makes a decision not to see brown guys because the majority of problematic clients are brown. I've worked in almost every province in Canada, so my data is not limited.

Everyone is different and experiences different things, so if one lady experiences all of the items from the list above from mainly coloured men, then sure, I can see why she'd generalize them and become a bit biased. But in my short time escorting, the most unsavory, rude, unhygenic, and just all-around not pleasant have been white men, so why are they not targeted in ads? Perhaps I'm experiencing a different side of people, but just about all of the men of colour I've met have been nothing but nice, clean, and respectful. If we're going by statistical data, I might argue that white men should be the ones SP's are refusing(which they will never do as white men are pretty much the majority). Posted via Mobile Device

Racial preferences reduce people to their ethnicity and reinforce racial hierarchies by insinuating that race alone is a powerful enough factor to negate everything else that someone has to offer. Claiming that someone is unworthy of associating with you because of race and hiding behind the flimsy excuse of sexual tastes or lack of hypothetical romantic chemistry is racist. Some preferences are fine. Blanket assumptions based on race, ethnicity, and culture, particularly when these qualities are perceived as inherent deal breakers in forming a potential relationship, are not.

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It's not racism, it's personal preference. I choose the ladies that I want to spend time with and certain skin colours do not get my attention because it does not turn me on. Does that make me a racist? I don't believe so, at least I hope not.

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Actually it is your opinion, you as pooner don't get to dictate how ladies can take safety measures and state who we can and not see for whatever reasons, just like we don't do that to you. I could equally cry racism for guys who don't see squirters, mature ladies or curvy ladies, same thing, different pile. BTW I don't ask people's ethnicity when they inquire either, never have. I just tried give you a different perspective of why some ladies choose not to and they have that right to choose not to based on whatever information they are given in terms of safety. Have a nice day.

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I'm going to add some information to give some enlightenment a bit further. I've been working in this industry for almost 30 years, I've also been a member and moderator of a few ladies lounges. So let me ask those of you who claim that it's not appropriate to not see members of a certain ethnicity, if you had statistical data of lets say the following; -rude and verbally abusive clients -clients that ask for bbfs -clients that have very poor hygiene and refuse to shower -clients that repeatedly do no-shows -clients that have the highest tendency to do walks outs -clients that are aggressive and physically abusive -clients that have the highest tendency to haggle or name their own price And lets say for arguments sake they were all of one ethnicity and a certain age bracket. Would you want to waste your time allowing that to continue when you net pretty much zero income from that ethnicity anyway or would you just scrap the idea altogether? My personal screening process is based on attitude. However, I'm just trying to bring in a new perspective as to WHY there is a VERY great possibility that some ladies will not see certain ethnicities either.

The reminder is also for those who partake in bbbjs. The one thing gay guys in this category and sps have in common is the possibility of multiple partners, and unprotected oral sex. Unprotected oral sex is becoming one of the biggest known activities that is resulting in the spread of stds. Keeping in mind that the gay community was amongst the first to be reporting HIV/Aids, not sure that people who are not gay can continue to think that they are not at risk. :) Also, Winnipeg is not the only major Canadian city to be reporting this increase. Every major Canadian city from BC to PEI has had a similar story in the past 2 years. This is a growing trend across this country, it is certainly a growing trend in others as well. 2010 saw a big story about syphilis in China, for examples, as married men took it home from sps, and children were being born with syphillis. It is also increases the risk of contracting HIV, if you have syphillis you have a higher risk of infection. http://cid.oxfordjournals.org/content/44/9/1222.long http://www.biomedcentral.com/1741-7015/9/111

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Just like the other thread on this topic probably time to close this thread.

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Honestly, I have no idea how common it is. There are a very few providers who put restrictions in their ads; there are a larger number who explicitly state that they don't discriminate based on race. As RG said, all providers have the same right as anyone else to reject anyone they don't want to get it on with, no matter how good or bad their reasons may be. But clients decide who to see or not see for all sorts of reasons, and there are probably quite a lot of us who find overt racism to be rather distasteful...

I had a wonderful experience this past weekend with a lovely lady but her actions during our time together seemed weird at the time. However, now that I've had the time to reflect and let the bigger brain analyze the session, I think she was high on drugs. I should have been able to recognize it so what happened. Did I subconsciously ignore the signs because she was hot and was work magic on the little guy? I am so bummed out about this now.

Fewer women pay for sex because a) women aren't taught to explore their own sexualities and desires b) women still earn less than men and have less income to toss around c) women are still the primary caregivers when children are involved, so those women also have less time to spend looking for a decent male escort.

Well, I'll throw my opinion in, and I hope I don't come off as bitter or rude! To touch on the part mentioned how it's so easy for women to have sex, no, I'm sorry, I completely disagree. Yes it is more easy to a certain extent, but why is that? Because there's a higher demand of men looking for sex, so the women have lots to choose from. Now why is that?! Well, to put it bluntly, we have to blame it on the patriarchy. But we'll get to that in a minute.. Men and women are taught at young ages very different things. Men are taught that they should be having sex, it's be all, end all in their lives, and they are praised for having it, lots of it! Women on the other hand(at least for the most part) are taught to save themselves, because if they sleep around, they loose a certain amount of their dignity(this is also a contributing factor as to why women selling sex is seen as so bad). We're taught not to sleep around or we'll be a whore, and who wants that?! So women are basically shamed into having the same carnal desires as men, so they decide to either supress them, or not care and live a fulfilling sexual life. Either way, they don't usually go looking for sex quite as much as men, since there still is that stigma and shame in the back of their mind. Another reason(not sure if I'm right or wrong with these, just spewing my ideas!) is this: for the most part, when men are choosing a provider, they at least usually try and find someone that is nice, caring, affectionate, etc. so it feels genuine to them. Men, in this sense, aren't just looking for a quick lay either, but something real, or that at least feels real. Women would be the same as well. For the most part, we don't run around screwing everything we can, we try to find someone who at least likes us before we sleep with them. This is why I have to disagree that it's so easy for women to have sex if they want it. If they're looking for really bad sex with someone they don't know and who probably doesn't even remember their first name, then yes, it's super easy! If they want to find someone to sleep with who at least slightly likes them, the odds slim down by A LOT. Trust me, I've been in the dating game for a long time, and the only availabilities are men who really could not care less about you, they just want in your pants. Now, back to the original subject.. One other huge contributing factor as to why there is such a lower demand for male escorts is simple: women don't usually make enough money to afford it. Most of the hobbiests in this business usually have a good business, or at least make a very comfortable living. I know the times are a-changin' but for the most part, the men are still the main breadwinner for most families while the women take care of the kids. Women, for the most part, do not make near as much as men, and are not nearly as high up in businesses as men(sorry, call me a feminist!), so they don't usually have hundreds to spare for pleasure. Sorry for my rambling, just my two cents on the matter! :) Posted via Mobile Device

Much frustration is being aired here, and I empathize. However, as a transexual girl I was raised as if I were a boy, and for some years I actively tried to fit into guy culture, trying to live as a guy even though I'm a girl, brain-wise. So, I have an unusual perspective from which to contribute: I've basically seen things from both sides of the "gender" divide. Very few people intentionally misbehave, and I'm not talking about them in the remainder of this post. And so ... the reason why terse gentlemen come across as they do is .... they literally don't know any better. They actually think it's OK or it's the best they can do. There might be some contextual issues such as they're pressed for time, or tired ... but for the most part, the recipe that gentlemen use, as to how to treat a girl is ... how they treat their buddies. They just don't know any better. So, I see my work to include being a diplomat and gentle educator. Even though gentlemen might not know the cultural nuances, they're very smart people and they're often acutely aware of their lack of social skills, so a little kindness from me tends to be much appreciated. Example #1: One of my clients is a nice man, but he's super-awkward socially especially in the bedroom. The first time I met him, he confessed that he'd needed a glass of wine to soothe his nerves before coming up to meet me. During the session, he was socially very awkward but I gently guided him in the right direction. After the session, he paid cheerfully and insisted on tipping me so high an amount that it was the most money I've made per hour in this business, ever. Example #2: He re-booked and the second time it was a doubles session with a close lady friend of mine. She's a lot less patient than I am, so I was spending some of my time smooth ruffled feathers. At some point she had a not-so-happy look on her face, and the reason why is that, fingernails and all, the client had decided the next logical thing to do was to stick his finger inside her butt. It was obvious that she wasn't happy about it. So, I let a few seconds pass and then I offered him a fresh condom and said "for if you want to perhaps stick your finger up her butt" and he said "oh, it's already there" as in "I'm fine, I don't need one, too late" but just by keeping it offered to him, I got the message across and he removed it and reinserted with the lady being less unhappy with the improved approach. At the end of the session, he paid well, and he wants to book yet another session. Example #3: This happened today, literally. The small print in my ad is detailed and it needs to be. That includes "I'm not available in Vancouver until the 30th." But, even so someone just emailed me and wants to come over. So I could think "read my ad first, dummy" or I could think "wow, he's so enthused due to my pictures that he didn't even want to read the ad before making contact." Example #4: This happened today too, literally. This weekend a client was immensely enthused. He sent me more than 100 emails in a 3-day time-span. He said some very nice things. Then, Monday and Tuesday he was terse and quiet. It was a huge contrast. I figured he was getting cold feet and just didn't know how how to end it nicely, so I wrote him a "good-bye" email that would offer him a gracious "out": "Hello again, you've become rather quiet and I'm inferring you need some distance and I respect that. :-) Thank you for everything." ... and then he wrote back explaining his enthusiasm was as high as ever but he was inundated with crises at work. So, again, being nice and having empathy saved the relationship. Last point: when I was eight years old, one of the comics I read showed a scene between a boy who was in love with a girl, and he gave her flowers but was too tongue-tied to say anything. He just blushed and sat there and responded non-verbally. So, it's a pretty well-known phenomenon that guys get shy and terse and socially awkward when they like the girl a lot. So, when a guy is behaving as such, I entertain the notion that it's his way of saying "you're so hot, I can't even function as I normally would." And it's that actually very, very nice?

For me and most guys, this is a hobby. If I have to do without for a while it is not the end of the world. For a lot of women this is their livelihood. Losing this income is going to really hurt them. I really feel bad about this, I know a couple of ladies personally who really count on this for extra income. They are not buying fur coats or Benzes, they are feeding their kids. How does C36 "help" them? Frankly it pisses me off that Conservative politicians can play games and exploit vulnerable women just for a few votes.

The trick is weeding them out. I know of a couple of popular SP's who are at the point in their lives of wanting to retire due to being sick of putting up with men's crap (harassment, no-shows, etc.). They are only staying in it to pad their retirement savings and already seem to be on autopilot in their sessions. They don't need to stay in business. Are they a risk? Dunno. The way the law is written and the propaganda, SP's are victims and will be given "help". Clients will be tarred, feathered, and dragged through the dirt. And that's if they have a good lawyer. As victims, SP's probably won't have anything to lose, such as having their name published would only further exploit them. Not so for the criminal, pervert clients. The risks are going to be many. A new(not LE) SP that gets into the biz and during her first client decides that she made a big mistake. Maybe she freaks and calls the cops. Or a long time SP that wants revenge for some reason. How about blackmail? "Give me $500 or I call the cops and tell them how you exploited me". It's a criminal male's word against a female victim. The balance of power has moved completely to the SP, which forces the client to put total trust in a stranger who's job is acting. (no offense intended) There has to be risk and reward for both parties for the arrangement to work. Then there's the reality that the law does curb the hobby. The LEO's will have more time to stake out and "rescue" SP's that don't need or want rescuing. One thing for sure is it's going to be an interesting winter.

Maybe sit on the sidelines and see how things go for awhile. IF, and that's a big if, I see anyone it will be someone I have a long term relationship with and that I know and trust. No way will I be seeing anyone new.

Get a room at the Hilton Bonaventure in the winter time, and then swim in the outdoor rooftop pool, with big bonfires on the deck and watch the snowflakes fall.

i pay my accountant by the hour - i pay my lawyer by the hour -i pay my house cleaner by the hour- all professionals -why would your services be any different- except more enjoyable