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My pick for Cerb Godess of the day is Lexy Grace.. She is beautiful, witty, a great contributor to CERB and a girl after my own heart! After reading many of her posts.. I think her and I are long lost sisters! Hoping to meet you one day!

I have been going through a process of late that has given me cause to truly appreciate the time and effort behind the scenes for SP's in organizing their schedules and their dates. In assuming the lead role for the upcoming Halifax Meet an Greet and with great intentions, so far achieved, to just keep it simple I find myself doing a lot of unanticipated work. There was the requirement of starting a new thread, then keeping updates on the thread, and then as a result receiving many many PM's. Most of them were really fun and pleasant to read, but a few others were much less so. "Yeah, I want to come to the social." Or, "Tell me what SP's are coming and then I will decide." Next we come to screening. In this situation I am not concerned about personal safety, but I AM concerned about discretion, about having the people that attend be respectful of everyone and of the environment that we will be in. I want as best as possible to ensure that we have a good mix of good people, so I have been looking at the profiles of those who wish to attend. I looked at their join dates. I looked at their posting history. I read some of their contributions on threads. I asked a couple of my SP friends if they knew some of these particular people and listened to what they said. That all takes time, and then it takes personal contemplative time to come to decisions and make contact again to confirm, and then as we get closer to the event I shall be looking for last minute confirmations because I do have a waiting list. Some people respond quickly and others are slower. With all of this it has brought me to some realizations about the work that SP's do behind the scenes. As a client I can easily see the one hour or the two hour time period that we are in each others company. What I can easily overlook as a client is the time taken by the SP prior to that - PM's back and forth, screening with other SP's, taking time to make the important decision about their personal safety, ensuring that the location is clean and acceptable, the personal grooming prior to a date, the expense of dressing in just that "certain" way, and no doubt many other things that I have not even thought about. So my single solitary little exercise has brought me I think to a greater understanding of all of those other things that SP's do that most of us can easily overlook and not even consider. I have always had great respect for the women that I have met, and now that respect is even stronger having had a small taste of what they do every single day. So a thank you to all of those SP's for doing all of those things, for doing the screening that keeps you safer, and doing all of that for the most part with no recognition of the time that you invest.

Like a few other gentlemen have said if I were going to an event that say a large number of my family, friends, or acquaintances were in attendance I'd be less inclined to seek out this kind of date. However, if your talking about say going to a hockey game, concert, or even an evening out to a comedy club than sure. I could probably even see a weekend getaway. Probably not on a first meeting but after I got to know a particular lady than sure.

Peachy darling, I think you've got the school girl theme extremely well covered. Wowzer!!

Mine was a really simple one. It was early evening. I was hungry. I hadn't prepared anything, so I ordered delivery. 35 minutes later, the food arrives. The delivery guy was this nice old guy, probably in his early 70's. He told me the price, I gave him a better than expected tip... and then his face lit up and he grinned from ear to ear. It's those little things in life... when you can make someone smile just with a small gesture, that's what makes life worth living.

I don't believe that bbfs and bbbj are anywhere near being in the same league as far as risk goes. SPs who offer bbbj are making reasonable judgement calls. As an example, in the legal brothel businesses in Germany, bbbj is the NORM (with cfs) and yet STDs are very rare. If bbfs were the norm, I'm sure that chlymidia etc. would be spreading pretty fast.

The game can obviously be rewarding financially but I know fully well it isn't easy in any way shape or form and for a variety of reasons. Eventhough I'm paying for a service I appreciate some one taking time to see me and try to act accordingly. This is an intense, emotional and some what vulnerable game we play and I have no problem admitting I can feel vulnerable, I imagine my partner at times does as well. Be kind to each other.. Peace MG

A Goddess !!... a beautiful lady...a beautiful soul...a huge heart.....loves her life and lives life to the fullest ...a rockin sense of humor..... and just so happens she loves .... umm how do I word this...SEX :D A lady I knew I wanted to meet from my first few days on Cerb.... It took a loooong damn time but we finally met and she is a Goddess extaordinaire ! I do believe we will meet again Emma ;) Emma Alexandra http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=5891 A

My CERB Goddess Of The Day today is also another lady I haven't met...yet, and that is Emma Alexandra. One of the ladies I first noticed when I joined CERB, and definitely someone I want to meet. Her posts are insightful, positive and a contribution to this community Here is Emma's Profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=5891 What Some Gentlemen Think About Emma http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=E&t=4156 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=E&t=4910 And a pic oh, ok, a second pic RG

But there are indeed places where there are laws that regulate sex work, and in no country will a sex worker be forced to provide services against her own consent. Employers simply do not have the power to force them.. It has been written into the regulations, in fact, that sex workers have the final say about who they will or will not see. In this country, at least right now I believe there are laws against procuring, meaning the agency cannot be involved with promising sexual services to clients on behalf of the sps. The provide an escort for companionship, but to suggest they can assure and promise the sp will deliver sexual services would be against the law. It would be interesting to see how it will be enforced, in the example you suggest. I think you will find there are few courts who will be willing to get involved in such cases.

I say go with pure badass.

A Western theme is always a good excuse for chaps and cowgirl!

Even with social events put aside (just for a moment), some ladies have an hourly rate and then a highly reduced rate for additional hours. They recognize that rather than charge the full rate for the 2nd, 3rd or 4th hour, a lot of the rate for a one hour appointment was to properly compensate them screening, booking, getting ready, getting there and even the danger pay they so much deserve for dealing with some of the hazards. So whenever I see this graduated scale for additional hours I am impressed. A 4 hour appointment probably isn't going to involve any more work (on station) than a one hour appointment, just additional time, so why squeeze it into an hour and then go home and be idle making no further remuneration? Oh course I think it is only reasonable to assume that if a gentleman books 4 or 5 hours of purely social time, one of the hours at least needs to be higher to cover the costs of getting there or getting ready and dealing with all the other aspects of setting up an appointment. It is also reasonable to assume that he may, having planned only social time become more interested in something more. So as long as there is good communication and understanding of the lady's expectation for compensation and what the boundaries are or can be changed to I think there is no life like it! Some ladies offer something similar to this when once a month they get a visit from nature and make it both discreetly but clearly clear that FS is not available and why this is so. In some ways I find these appointments desirable as I understand her temporary boundaries but it's a lucrative way to get to know her and for her to get to know me. I agree with RG though, the clients never set the rates, gentlemen never try to negotiate one, I even find it uncomfortable inquiring as to what it is but it beats getting it wrong if it isn't completely clear to me. So I usually have to ask her very directly (web sites can be out of date) and if she can't tell me, or I get a wishy washy answer then I have to move on.

That is crazy!!!! I love it

One week ago my little girl...not quite 4 years old had her finger slammed in a door by her cousin. Broken pinky and tore the end off her finger. They re-attached the tip of her finger which was trauma for her and I both in the emergency room ! I had to literally pin her down so they could stitch it on. I was the one that cut the dressings off everyday because she wouldn't let the doctors and nurses get scissors near her. Then she would let them dress her finger. Today on a Sunday even.....the surgeon and doctor came to look at it and the results were beyond their expectations and she should regain most of the use if not full use :) although she was a remarkable trooper ...now she has a permagrin again !! A happy day ! Not sure why....but thought I would share :D

I'd like to join Lexy and Sophia in expressing my appreciation for all the behind-the-scenes acrobatics that MN2 and Katherine have been doing, mostly unbeknownst to us... and of course anyone else that has helped out in some way towards the cause of this social. Thank-yous and kudos to you both and see you all in 12 days! BYOPH (Bring Your Own Party Hats) FR

I have slightly different slant. I'm a mature widower and as such don't have the secrecy problems of others. I use SP/MA services on a regular basis to fill a healthy need in my life, and like to make friends and have quite personal relationships with the women I see. If I needed a date for a social function or a trip I can see myself doing so. There are a number of ladies my age who are not in this profession that I can call, but my problem is that many are like me widowed and they might take my invitation the wrong way. I'm quite comfortable with my life as is, a reasonable marriage and children, and am not necessarily looking to hook up for another long term relationship. So to your question, all the guys here are different, so I'm sure there's a limited market for this type of service. The problem is how to market this service. In Ottawa we've had close to dozen socials and I've got to meet many great ladies socially who might be up for a social type of date.

Waking up early to watch the sunrise with a cup of tea and a good book. I love and appreciate the simple pleasures in life, and don't want to forget that they can be the highlight of my day.

Very nice post MrNice ! Kudo's on all of the work you are doing for your Halifax social ! No doubt a lot of work but I do believe very much appreciated out there !! As for our wonderful SP's. I only visit with travelling ladies due to my location, I do somewhat realize the time and effort and many times frustration that goes into all of the organization of travels and screening, setting up appointments, pms, emails, idiots etc...etc.... I for one sincerely very much appreciate it !!! I have always tried to help make things go as easy and smoothly as I can prior to meeting from my end....and as relaxed and enjoyable as I can once you get here gals :) Keep it simple, easy and fun !!! I am all three of those ! Well at least the first two I think ;)

You're with a friend for the weekend and she rips off half of her big toenail under a door!!! So being the good friend that you are off, you attempt to carry her up the stairs. I can't stand the sight of it but helped her clean it off and bandage it up. OMG nasty! I feel bad for her. I've never heard someone swear so much in their life! LOL. Motherf****er and a couple of other choice swear words rolled right out of her mouth.

Congratulations MrNice 2.0!!

Very nicely put mrnice. There is a lot of business and organizational skill, besides charm, beauty and sensuality, that goes into being a successful SP. I frequently think that these ladies could succeed in any business they choose. But I'm glad they've chosen this one!!! :bigclap:

like his t-shirt!

The ladies of the board sure do have a lot going on that not everyone thinks about, let alone appreciates and respects. Those who don't should think about what it must be like to meet with strangers unseen and imagine themselves in that position (even as a man). So it is quite understandable that they have rules and etiquette around screening potential clients: They want to minimize the risk to their own safety. Those that ignore those protocols only make life for the SPs/MAs tough, and by extension, for themselves. Thanks for bringing this aspect to light, mrrnice2.

You know you had a good night with your girlfriend when you use 9 condoms (for the sextoys), there is two bottle of wine and a gnome vibrator on my kitchen counter

Happy Birthday castle, hope you enjoy your day my friend.

Happy Birthday Castle. May your day be one long nightmare consisting of sick things!!! (you have to be an Alice Cooper fan to "get it").

As of this moment we have 21 confirmed attendees with a virtual even split between men and women and I am very excited not only by our numbers but also by the equal representation of both SPs and hobbyists. It is really nice to see how we have so many well respected members who have decided to come. I have three additional people that I am waiting to hear from to confirm, so with these numbers and with the space that we have arranged, I declare that the social is full! :) I have also for better or worse, right or wrong, declined several members who are brand new to CERB, solely because I wish this to be a gathering of knowledgeable and informed people that have already earned the respect that I am sure will shine through on the 22nd. Hopefully these people will become active Cerb members in the future and will be able to take part in the next event, whenever that may happen. Again I do not wish to make lots of rules, but be sure to reread the initial post in the Meet and Greet thread, and keep in mind the obvious - that we are in public, that discretion is a critical part of the evening, and all the simple things as well, such as cameras would not be welcome, and so on. Two weeks from today is the first Maritime social and I am pretty excited about being able to be a part of that. I know that we will have people from four provinces attending and that is pretty cool! Those attending the social keep an eye on your PM box for an update on where things stand and eventually for a specific location. Thanks to those who have been helping in the last few days with suggestions and especially to Katherine for her help and wisdom.

Happy Birthday Castle Enjoy your special day RG

Have a great birthday Castle.

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Happy Birthday Castle ... Hope you have a great day! Porthos

I hope your day is awsome!! Filled with joy, friends and family....and of course....SPANKINGS!! Lots of them too!! LOL....hope to hear a good report on how you spent your Birthday! hehehehe, TC and have fun:)

I have two goddesses today, both of whom have been named in this thread a couple of times already, but who are so worthy of being named again. The first, is Ms. Gabriella Laurence. I had the pleasure of meeting Gabriella this week, and she epitomizes all the qualities of a goddess. Meeting this heavenly creature has been a highlight of my career in this hobby! The second lady I would like to nominate as today's goddess is the wonderful and always sparkling Sophia Varoushka. I have yet to meet Sophia, but plans are definitely in the works to remedy that situation. I always enjoy her posts, which never fail to make me smile and I enjoy the witty and flirty conversations we have. It's good to have things to look forward to, and meeting this wonderful goddess is high on my list.

I just want to say, for the record, that while I don't provide bbbj, I don't look down on those who do. As far as I'm concerned, it's a difference in options, that's all. I do offer Greek, at my discretion. Not all companions do. I don't think that I'm better than anyone else because of these differences nor do I think that anyone else needs to change what she does because of what I think is best for me. There are more risks in offering bbbj than cbj, it's true. At the same time, those risks are not enormous and with good care and testing I fully believe that a companion can manage things beautifully. In fact, I know that many absolutely fabulous companions do. They have my utmost respect. I've been working in this industry for a long time. I've never had an STI in my life. Perhaps I was simply lucky when I was younger and not working. Since I began to work, it could be that a combination of assiduously-applied safer sex rules and good luck have helped. I don't know. I can't know. What I'm certain of is that, given the number of men I've seen over time, the odds are that someone may have had an infection, whether he knew it or not. I accept that risk and work hard to limit my exposure both to bugs and to the need for any kind of antibiotic--I'm allergic to many such drugs. That sounds good, in some ways, Peachy, but I don't think it will happen and, if it does, I don't think it will make a difference. Most of us won't accept regulatory intrusion. Pertaining as they do only to the moment when the tests were conducted, we know that test results are worth the piece of paper upon which they're printed. The apparent assurance that test results prove us to be healthy may actually increase the pressure to perform uncovered acts. Moreover, most of us will not willingly endorse the false notions that independent paid companions are a source of sexually transmissible infection--we're not--or that we are responsible for the health choices made by any adult other than ourselves.

Exactly my point. Kissing, digits, and daty do not involve my interaction with semen, so the risk of catching an std from those three are minimal to none, there has never been a reported case of women catching HIV from DATY, ever. There are, however, reported cases of women, and photos if anyone cares to google, of women with std's from bbbj. This is proven medical fact. The disease is in the semen. No semen, no HIV. Very simple. My point was this, very simply, if you will put an unprotected member into one hole in your body, why is it any different in another? Your body is all connected, one unit. You mouth and your cookie aren't separate, the all belong to one organism, you. That's like saying, "oh ill inject heroin into my arm, but not into my foot." It's all connected, so I'm just trying to understand the reasoning/logic behind this thought process, of why one orifice is "safe" but another is not. I used to get mad about girls who did bbbj when i first started, I used to blame them when clients would call me, book an appointment, we're all set to go, and then they ask " oh btw, you do do bbbj right?" My response, as many can attest to, is always "as my health and safety, as well as the health and safety of my clients is my #1 priority, I do not engage in any unprotected services." and some would cancel on me. I do not hide that I'm a safe gfe, it's on my website in black and white. Some really respect me because of this. I had more than a few they tell me they're terrified of bringing something home, and I'm one of the few they can truly relax with, my business practices put their mind at ease. Some don't care either way. Others cancel on me. Why do I say all this? Because my perception has changed over the last my few years in my time in this industry. I realized getting mad at the ladies who do BBBJ is irrelevant, it will not change the fact that ladies will still offer it, and men will still ask for it. If you want to take risks like that, that your perogative. Just as I no longer get upset at the ladies who BBFS. There was at time when bbbj was taboo, someone told me they got in trouble working for an agency for a letting a guy cum on her chest. Now, fast forward 10 years, BBBJ is now the norm. In the U.S. SAFE GFE is norm, as well as Australia. Why did it change here? Because the ladies offer it, quite simply. If ladies didn't offer it, then no one could buy it. I remember one lady said "Back in the 90's, no guys had problem cumming with a condom on." Somewhere along the line, someone started offering, more guys asked for it, more ladies offered it. Us safe gfe's are few and far between, I am one of the last of a dying breed. So I wonder, why should BBFS be any different? Now, someone offers it, so now it's being purchased.I don't understand how can you get upset at guys for asking for BBFS when BBBJ's are the norm. It's just a natural progression. I think the logic is "if she does it unprotected in one orifice, she might let me in another." Dangerous logic, but logic none the less. For the sp, the risk factors for both are pretty high, you are the receiver of ejaculatory fluids, no matter which orrifice you get it in.The roads may be different, but they all lead to the same place. Being angry is pointless. I'm not knocking anyone's business practice, like i stated it's your body your choice. I honestly don't care what another lady does, its her life she can with it as she pleases. My point is, you can't get mad at guys asking for BBFS or ladies providing it anymore than us SAFE GFE's can get mad at ladies for providing BBBJ's. If we want to change guys asking for BBFS, the only way to do so is to stop the ladies that offer it, much like the only way to stop people from asking for bBBJ's is to stop offering them.Good luck with that. The ladies in countries like Cambodia do BBFS, so people ask for it and it's rampant. However, in countries like australia where SAFE GFE is the norm, unprotected services are frowned upon, and the ladies that do offer it (much like the ladies who offer BBFS here) are shunned. Whats the difference? The ladies in Cambodia are willing to do BBFS, the ladies in Australia are not. So really at the end of the day, what is asked of us by our client base is a direct reflection of what we are willing to offer. So we cannot get mad a them, the guys asking or the sp's that provide. We as sp's are the ones to blame.

My CERB Goddess Of The Day today is a lady I have only met through posts and pm's. She has a interest in ropes and suspending, colours her hair, and is a upbeat positive contributor to CERB. And that is Malika Here is her profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=50296 A photo (told you she likes ropes and suspending) OK a second pic But don't be mislead, Malika really is a innocent woman at heart RG

I love bareback activities...orally speaking. Full service ... yikes. Never ever a factor or consideration with whom I meet with.... I never have asked or never will....what happens .... happens. This is why I am very particular with whom I meet with ....I get to know who I will meet with and have a comfort level and go with it....never ever a guarantee and life is one big gamble. But at the end of the day and if common sense prevails ..... if everbody is smart and genuinely cares about the lives of the people around them....then life can be good for all of us !!! Truthfully I have become very much a repeat visitor because I want to spend time with ladies that I love their company yes....but also ladies that I feel safe and comfortable being with sexually. I hope they feel the same. BBFS - Try this Bareback activity.....probably safer...

I offer BBBJ and in 15 years have never caught anything. I rinse with full strength listerine after every blow job and do not allow CIM. Perhaps I am taking a risk, but since BBBJ is at my discretion, if anything looks or smells funky down there, I don't chance it. Also, there are gents who prefer CBJ, and I always ask first which they prefer. I never assume all guys want BBBJ, because many don't. The one thing I do not permit is digits because you can contract low grade (fungal etc.) infections from dirty hands and not everyone washes their hands properly. I know one lady who insists her clients use latex gloves if they want to finger her and I understand her logic totally. No offense to any ladies who only offer CBJ or those any who have posted on this thread, but I have had my fair share of judgment being passed on me by other ladies because I do offer BBBJ and I think it's a bit hypocritical. I believe if you're going to call yourself totally safe, then you would also not allow kissing, digits or DATY without a dental dam and I do know ladies who only offer CBJ who do allow some or all of those things. I believe we need to respect each others limits with judgment or or criticism. Just as many cannot understand why I offer BBBJ, I have cannot fathom anyone offerring BBFS, but there are those who do and I do not believe they are comparable.

The risks of BBBJ run both ways with this activity. There are cases in the medical literature of the recipients receiving a little more than they anticipated! Interestingly among young women, the risk of STI is lower with anal sex than with vaginal by a factor of two. However both are more risky by three and six times respectively if BB as compared with Covered. The only risk avoidance approach is abstinence :frown:: all else is risk management. The risks from safer practices are much lower. There are lots of other things we do that are way more lethal, say driving a car for example. CB

Some personal underrated favorites The Machinist with Christian Bale and Jennifer Jason Leigh http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0361862/ Four Rooms, Tim Roth is brilliant as Ted the Bellhop! http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0113101/ Good Night, and Good Luck with David Strathairn and George Clooney...great cast and amazing story!!! http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0433383/

I love how this applies not only to CERB, but life more generally. It only takes a moment to make a difference in someone's life. A passing hello, a "how are you?", a "do you need help carrying your groceries?". Sometimes it's recognizing a person's vulnerability, or giving them back their dignity when someone is being disrespectful. It's those little moments that are so important, and they are apparent on CERB (and in our lives) everyday. When we're rushed we have a tendency to forget how a moment can change someone's life. We're so impatient as a society, and I try as best as I can to take my time and be mindful of those around me.

Mr. Nice, I could not agree more, I have said it many times "Cerb" is my hobby. Mod, Sorry to say it again, but you are kinda like a Dad. You read our posts and laugh at us/with us. You keep us in line when we need it, but are always there to help us when needed. I luv my Cerb family! Many of you (some of which I have never met and maybe never will) have become so close to me. Cerb has been here when I was sick and needed a laugh, it has been here when I having a bad day and needed a distraction. To all new members, Be proud to be a Cerbite! I know I sure am. Always ask for help when needed, we will always be there to help. Together we STAND, divided we FALL!