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The first question I have to ask which you have NOT cared to provide a specific answer to is WHY you are asking these questions? And why do you feel the need to know? Are you a journalist? Are you writing a book and need material? Or do you just have guilt issues with seeing SPs who are in relationships and/or those who have children? With the personal questions you are asking on an internet forum and SPs here not wanting to answer, why would she tell you point blank when asked in person? With the way you are acting right now, I would be scared too if I were the SP that you visit! And just to speculate here, if she felt open enough with you to tell you the truth about her life, she would have told you little details here and there. It's only natural when you feel comfortable in someone's company. Obviously there are reasons why she hasn't. She very may well see you as a threat. I've had one client in particular trying to do this as even went as so far to get my license plate but I really don't care. Equally important, I know enough pertinent details about him and I stopped seeing him because of certain tendancies like this. No escort likes secret agent/creep/stalker clients who feel that it's their mission to find out everything about them because they happen to take a liking to them. SPs definitely can get vibes from clients and feel them out. I have clients that I don't feel threatened by and they know a few things about my personal life. Others know nothing so what does that tell you? I am also not dating these men so this info is out of bounds if I don't care to share it. And this is where the line is drawn in the sand. I am under no obligation to disclose my personal details. And your job is very different than mine where you do the opportunity if you choose to be open with coworkers/clients about yourself. And why would an SP send you a PM with her personal private details instead of posting it here? And please don't send me a PM. Why would she even give you that info? It is posts like this that make a lot of SPs use cover stories and alot of reasons why we are viewed as being dishonest instead of being able to be ourselves. We do not post details about our private lives if we don't want to because it doesn't apply to the service we're offering. We're providing a fantasy and real life relationships and children basically ruin this fantasy. And we don't want to be put in an uncomfortable postion either. No one wants to hear how many kids you have when you're in the middle of something hot and heavy. The SPs that are professionals know NOT to do this. I really don't think you're going to get the answers you're looking for from SPs here or the SPs you see. And yes, your questions are inappropriate whether you'd like to believe it or not. This is one of the rules of etiquette in this business and the info you're looking for again is on a need to know basis. I don't need to know if clients are married, how many children they have, etc and vice versa. As long as I provide a good service, they have a good time and I get paid is all that is really important. This is the way this business works. Educating yourself on the protocol of a business that demands discretion can go a long way. )

Of course, none of us had to answer the question, what I think everyone is trying to say is this: some questions just shouldn't be asked. This business cannot be compared to any other. Not ONE other kind of business, seriously. So the rules of what is right in a restaurant, or an office, or anywhere, simply do not apply here. In this job, we share ourselves with you. And it's a wonderfully rewarding job. BUT, at times it's hard. And one of the hardest things is keeping your personal life, and your work life separate. So don't ask these kind of questions. Always remember, and respect, that we are real women, with real lives, who choose to share certain parts of ourselves with you. And the parts that we don't choose ourselves to share, are to be left alone. Because they're ours, and prying into those parts will always come off as invasive, whether that was the intention or not.

Personally speaking a "luke warm" recommendation isn't really a recommendation at all. We do not critique here and a luke warm reco. is in my mind more of a critique than a thumbs up. I prefer to keep the integrity of the posted recos. intact and not have to question just how valid or real they actually are. If your heart isn't into posting a reco. that is true and respectful than I humbly suggest not posting one at all.

The rain fell out of the night sky with a light tapping on the car's roof as I sat waiting. I looked at my watch. She was 20 minutes late. The car's windows were already fogging over, and I pulled the collar of my coat closer to ward off the fall chill. She never used to be late. Quite the contrary, in fact. She once was thrilled to see me. You could just tell. Once, she even texted me that I should come over early, whenever I was ready. And she pounced on me as soon as I came in the door. Knocking me off balance as we collapsed onto her hallway floor, her tongue probing my mouth, her fingers already nimbly plucking at my shirt buttons. By the time we finally made it to her bed, she was wow. Just wow. But that was a long time ago. I don't know when it changed, or why, but it had with time. The last time we met up, she was just going through the motions. I could see that her mind was already somewhere far away, that she was already thinking about something just over the horizon. And the last time I tried to see her, she didn't show up at all. Oh, she apologized profusely. But she told me that in a text and wouldn't take my call. I don't think she trusted her voice not to betray her real feelings. That's okay. I heard her actions speak louder and much more plainly than her words anyway. It was a late fall evening. The darkness was enshrouding me earlier and earlier every day. It was dark now, and she was leaving me too much time alone to think. I thought of the good old days, when it seemed like we could never get enough of each other. She made me feel like she was there for me and me alone. Yeah, I know that wasn't true. At least not in this silly business we're in. But I believed it then, in the deepest recesses of my heart. So many men, and so many of the ladies in this business think that this is all about simply fucking. You know, healthy exercise, something to put a spring in your step and a glow in your cheeks. Just sex. Nothing more. Don't get me wrong. I've rather grown partial to fucking. But for me, there's so much more. It's not just about fucking. I want to feel like I'm special. I need to feel wanted. I want to feel like I'm part of the human race, that I'm not an alien observer dropped onto this planet, trying to pass as normal. She used to do that for me, once. I felt alive in her arms. Whole. I looked at my watch. She's 45 minutes late now. I don't think she's going to show up. In an instant, my phone was in my hand, ready for me to type out a quick text. I looked down for a moment before tucking the phone back into my pocket. I don't think there's any point now. I don't think that she's ever going to make me feel special, ever again. I started my car, and the windows started to defog as the fans blew. I looked up at her apartment building. Years ago, a friend gave me some very good advice. It was to never feel sorry for what had passed, but feel joy for what you had the good fortune to have appreciated. And tomorrow, I'll move on, scan those ads. Read those reviews. Call a stranger. But tonight, I need to go home and get out of my nice clothes. I put my car in gear and drove away.

To the comment "more reviews=sure bet". Not necessarily. As Angela said, some ladies prefer not to have recommendations. While a lady can't be a cerb member if she chooses to be on the DNR list, I am sure there are a lot of ladies who turn down the offer of a review (for what ever reason). Every single person who has given me a review has asked my permission first and a large majority have sent it to me before posting it. My recommendation is to forward the review to the lady prior to posting it and getting her opinion on whether or not it is post worthy. Lets be honest people, there are ALWAYS three sides to the story and messing with a lady's reputation is not only financially damaging to her but so very wrong on so many levels.

'Don't call us, we'll call you' - CORRECT An SP should never be cold-calling or cold-textinga client, unless he has said this is fine to do. I have a couple of clients who enjoy getting the occasional text from me just saying hello!, but I've only done this at their encouragement. Otherwise, the only time I may call/text a client is at an agreed-upon time, such as, I'm supposed to contact them the morning of an appointment to let them know my location. They're expecting my call. This is a business of discretion, and I assume, unless told otherwise, that every one of my clients has a spouse/family/coworkers with them at all times, so I would never place their privacy at risk by contacting them randomly.

I've been lucky enough to see Nathalie Lefebvre before. So I decided to risk my future health and heart function and arrange a time with her and with her friend Georgiana Sweet together. I wanted this to be something a little bit special, so I grabbed a bottle of sparkling wine and some Pringle's (seriously, trust me, it's great) and showed up at Nat's downtown location, a little early, because I was eager and nervous. She had kindly brought a tray of fruit, so while I did a quick bit of work (distractedly), we caught up until Gia arrived. Physically, the two are very different women. Nat is tall, lean, and looks the part of a graduate student -- which, conveniently enough, she is. Gia arrived looking as if we could be going to a business meeting together to make a deal. Which, conveniently enough, we weren't. She is not as tall as Nat; where one woman's hair is short and slightly punky, the other's is black and slightly reminiscent of Liz Taylor in Cleopatra. Where Nat's body is lean and long her skin is a bit tawny, Gia's is a classic hourglass with truly spectacular breasts and ass and lovely ivory skin. We chatted and sipped wine and got a bit comfortable with each other... and then, we got much more comfortable with each other. I didn't want something as shallow as two cooches to pound side-by-side, two mouths to suck me. What I had hoped for was some real interaction and mutuality. And wow. Without doing an inventory of this and that and the other, we spent the better part of two hours enjoying each other in various combinations and permutations. One would become the focus for a time; then the focus would shift. Both Nat and Gia are fans of the strap-on, and that is a bit of a thing for me, so to see these two gorgeous women simply WEARING them was enough to make me feel as if my skin had been transformed into a lit sparkler. Add on the tastes, the smells, the visuals... Then, when the toys and the fingers are used, in various but safe manners... well. Oh my. Why was it amazing for me? Okay, two stunning women. Yeah. But more than that, these are two stunning women who are funny and smart and like each other. And then there's the luck and intangible stuff -- chemistry. We three were able to laugh together. To tease one another -- verbally and otherwise. To enjoy each other's company as well as the sex. All of that heighened the experience. At least for me. And I think, for my two friends as well. An experience like this is like going to the best restaurant in the city - name the city. A memorable treat that you'll think about forever, and is almost too special to do ALL the time. But when you have the time, and the money, and you feel you need or deserve an experience -- you really need to do it. My heart function still appears to be normal. But bring along a defribillator just in case, okay?

Alright, some of you may know what I'm talking about, for the rest, here's a bit of an explanation. There is an online community of people who talk about anything and everything called reddit.com. In it, there is a particular section which has become one of my favourite sections to check out called IamA. People create a thread, and the purpose is to simply answer questions people have about you/your profession/condition/or other interesting fact about you. Among those who've done an IamA Obama (But only answered 9 questions...lame) Zach Braff Engineers/Scientists of Mars Curiosity team Burn victims Porn actress Girl with no hair 101 year old man (Just to give you an idea of there being no general criteria of who can do one) Link for those interested Anyhow, I was just wondering if anyone here would like to do one, and thought it would be interesting. Tbh, I got the idea last night watching yet another show about a woman who was an escort, and being so vilified. And I thought if anyone was up to it, it might be an insightful topic for those who are unfamiliar with the entire industry. Anyway, thought I'd share if anyone would be willing to do it whenever they want. Note: I do not need to be notified if you do decide to do it, it would be anonymous.

I think there is a grey area to this and often timing is the issue. I myself will send a thank you email (email is my preferred and often only form of communication) to my dates after having met them, not a week after but often an hour or day after. Sometimes if I have had extensive communications with someone then I am well aware that sending a message is not only okay but often welcome so I will send a message at a random time, simply because I saw something that may be of interest to them but that is a date that I've been exchanging a number of messages with and I know it's a welcome thing. Some ladies message after a date to genuinely thank you for your business and for spending (quality) time with them, this is likely their way of letting you know you were an enjoyable guest. Other ladies likely message you after a date as a marketing tool, a way to drum up business when times are slow, if you find that it's an unwelcome way for a lady to market herself then you may want to let her know that you are not in a position to receive these messages and in future would appreciate no longer being contacted. You can also decide if it was a serious enough violation of your privacy to no longer see her and eventually she will see that it is not an effective marketing strategy. If however you believe it was a genuine thank you then perhaps give her the benefit of the doubt and take it as a compliment, she likely does not reach out to everyone and you can smile to yourself that you are one of the few that 'made the cut.' You can still let her know that though you appreciate the thank you it put you in an awkward position but since there was no harm this time (it doesn't sound like you were caught by anyone) then just smile about the thanks and enjoy the ego boost that she felt the need to write you a personal note of thanks. :-)

The result of this behaviour almost always means that the lady declines to see the client again. The client by trying to exploit a friendship, creates a situation where both sides lose a valued and sexy "business" relationship. The thing we all have to remember, is that exploiting friendships, leads to friendships ending. That happens in all sorts of contexts. I can be friends with my lawyer, but if I'm on the golf course and start asking questions about my legal issues, I should expect a bill for those services. Legal advice isn't free. And if I continue to do it, I should not be surprised if my lawyer soon suggests that, rather than getting together for a round of golf, I make an appointment to see him at the office. Same thing here ... but of course the sexual nature of the services makes it far more complex, and hurt feelings on the part of client usually makes it far preferable to just sever the relationship. Respect, respect, respect. Respect the lovely ladies as service providers. And if you are lucky enough to become friends outside of that, then respect the parameters there as well. I would never suggest time off the clock. If a lady suggests it to me, well that's a different thing. I'm flattered and honoured. But I am fully aware that it involves nothing more than the time for the cup of coffee or lunch. Nothing beyond that.

The reason you are getting this kind of response is because.. unlike myself (and a few others who are 'out there') most sp's live double lives. Sometimes their spouses/boyfriends never mind close friends even know what they do. When they're keeping many secrets about who they are to their family and friends why in the world would they be comfortable spilling their personal details to a stranger on a board? As for the question of dating outside of the job. The 2 are completely different. Using the example of the restaurant. If you're a cook.. you're cooking and hopefully enjoying it for stranger who also hopefully enjoy your meal. When you're at home you may be too tired to cook.. or you may enjoy it 10x more because you're cooking for (or with!) a loved one. The same is true for sex in our personal lives. I for one am a better escort when I'm getting loving in my personal life I have found.. but the more sex I get.. the more I want :) But back to the sharing personal details. You may not realize it.. but many escorts don't even share their personal details with other escorts! Privacy is paramount in this business.. for some more than others. I'm lucky in that I don't have the worry about someone 'outing' me to a family member if it ever comes to that. That was done for me (to me) many years ago.. and as unpleasant as that was at the time.. I'm rather happy to not have that hanging over my head now. Others are not so lucky (or unlucky if you see it that way of course).

These are all incredibly intimate and potentially invasive questions. But this in particular rubs me the wrong way: Just like everyone? Perhaps you didn't mean this to be offensive, but I certainly find it distasteful. Would you ask your coworkers about their sex lives? Your clients at work? The barrista at your coffee shop? As Nicolette said, WHY do you want to know these things? http://not-a-jerk.blogspot.ca/2011/09/how-to-interact-with-sex-worker.html and because I really enjoy reading this: http://shittheysaytosexworkers.tumblr.com/

I would say he shouldn't have to do anything like this. The sp is already supposed to know all this. Barring any technological delay in her sending the text and it being received, the OP's privacy here has been seriously violated. The sp has proven herself to be seriously indiscreet, and probably just lost a repeat client. She has shown herself to be a bit clueless as well as to how to be a professional. I hope she does read this and knows that it is about her. In fact, I hope that other sps who think this is a normal or OK thing to do read it and believe it is about them. The only way any sp can send out random texts or emails is ONLY with the client's prior permission, or in reply (within a reasonable amount of time with text or phone calls, more flexible with emails) to first contact.

Inspired by a recent picture of Paz Vega by Touch in the Beautiful Lingerie thread, I was trolling images of Paz and came across these. What stood out for me was her smile ... and I thought "we should have a thread for this!" So here it is. If you find a pic showing a smile that makes you swoon, or that just brings a smile to your own face, post it here!

I have to preface this with a bit of a blurb about myself to make it more coherent... I'm an early 30 something guy, well off, not unattractive, been in long term committed relationships most of my adult life, and live a normal life by day. I have a perfectly good sex life outside of the hobby, to the point where I am usually spent by the time night arrives and I find myself free. I've also been working at night my entire life. Imagine a life where for 8 hours every day you live normally, with normal social interaction, and halfway through every day you end up alone. Completely cut off from everyone, nothing to do, with a job that has very few requirements and lets you do basically whatever you want. It's lonely, extremely lonely, I'd say enough to drive a sociable person mad in the long run. So I found my way to cope, in gambling and the hobby. Since my late teens I've lived a double life, and never let either one spill over into the other. I fund the one part of it (hobbying) with money made in the other part (gambling) No one in my normal life knows I hobby or that I have a gambling addiction, no one at night knows I have any strings attached to anyone and that I'm doing anything wrong or cheating on anyone. No one in my daytime life even know that I'm a smoker. My 2 lives are so different at times I've wondered if I suffered from some kind of psychosis, but it doesn't seem to fit anything I've read about. For me, the hobby has never been about sex, it's been about companionship. I mostly stuck to asian companions as the language barrier prevented any feelings from developing and messing things up for me. I tried to avoid having regulars in strip clubs for the same reason, and I completely avoided "menu" or "extras" girls there. For the most part I never even become aroused during dances, and try to make it all about their experience, something they're usually extremely thankful for. Apparently I'm quite good at it. Last February I realized it had to end. 6 months prior I'd proposed to my girlfriend and instead of the expected answer she broke things off. Then we worked things out and I found myself engaged. I didn't want to be the guy that cheated on a wife, I needed to stop hobbying. But stopping was harder than I thought it would be, the nights were back to being empty, and while my daytime life was completely fulfilled, I was miserable at night. So I made a deal with myself, a compromise, strip clubs don't break any laws, there's no chance of bringing home anything nasty to share with a loved one, and it permits the intimacy I crave to fill the void of that empty part of my life. It worked out fine, and I thought I could carry on like this indefinitely. Then I met "her". A stripper, extremely beautiful, smart, interesting, completely different from any of the other girls in the club... and she has the same gambling addiction as I do. I won't go into too many details but I broke my rule and started seeing her regularly... how complicated that was did not help matters, and some of you will make a mental link here, but that's besides the point. She started regularly suggesting we meet socially outside the club, and I avoided it as long as I could. Then I made the big mistake. Saw her outside the club and suggested we go eat, and exchanged numbers... Didn't realize it at the time but that was opening Pandora's box. I'd avoid mentioning this part but its integral to the story, so I have to mention that the next day she called me asking to borrow a ridiculously large sum of money, so thinking she was a scammer I did my research and found tons of information about her online, details about her past life, how to contact many of her friends and family members, etc... I didn't lend her the money at that point and thought I'd never hear from her again. Instead, she called regularly. Maybe I encouraged it, with some drunken text flirting, maybe she thought she could soften me up and eventually get to "borrow" more money, maybe she genuinely liked me. I've yet to come to a conclusion regarding that. So I kept seeing her, in and out of the club, and spent many nights talking to her on the phone when she was out of town. This was perfect in many ways, filled that void in my life at night without me needing to even head out of the club. Some would say I was using her, others would say we were mutually using each other, as we both live lonely lives dictated by a job, cynics would say I'm an idiot that was being lead on by a stripper. I did lend her money multiple times, much smaller amounts, and she did always return the money within reasonable timeframes. She also had quite a group of friends in the club, which I ended up meeting. She trusted me, so by association they trusted me, and I got somewhat close to all of them. I spent my entire summer in the club almost every night and hanging out with many of girls after closing time. I concocted a story mostly based on truth about living with my ex, which I had done prior to getting back with her, which set a clear boundary about ever coming back to my place, something they suggested doing pretty regularly. I left out the part about me being engaged... Had to keep my phone on silent at all times as on the average day I'd get contacted by at least 3 of the girls. Things were complicated but I kept them separate. Problem remains the first girl. She is amazing, and the more I got to know her the more I realized I was in trouble. She lied about some stuff to protect her privacy, gaps I filled in with knowledge I'd gotten when I did my research right at the beginning. I didn't hold that against her, I had my own lies to balance things out. I felt horrible about it and wanted to tell her the truth, but I really couldn't. Other things she opened up to me so much I started caring about her way too much. Once again, cynics will say she was just opening up to eventually fleece me or to keep a really profitable customer. Maybe. One thing that came up all the time was how afraid she was of her non-work life finding out what she did for a living. I could relate seeing how I've been living my life. I also realized one thing, if I was able to find all that stuff about her in half an hour of online research, anyone could. Every single time she gave out her number to a customer she was putting herself at risk of a pissed off guy taking revenge by outing her to her friends and family. Then I messed up, alluded to knowing her outside the club on another of these forums where she's really popular. (she works in many cities) She saw the post and was extremely mad at me. She didn't communicate with me at all for 2 weeks. This time was enough to make me realize the horrible truth, all I could think about was how to fix things up with her, I barely functioned during the daytime and neglected my normal life. Lost my appetite, couldn't sleep more than a couple of hours at a time. Fuck, I'd let myself fall in love with a stripper. I cared about her more than my own fiance. Then she called one day to chat, and as usual the topic of a close call with her family came up. I had to end things, and I wasn't thinking clearly, so I did what seemed logical at the time. I told her of all the stuff that could be found about her online, I knew it would end things and I hoped she would take steps to protect herself and her privacy. 2 birds with one stone. She was livid, more so than I would ever dream of, and I'd forgotten one little detail, she currently owed me some money. I asked about the money and her answer was "you've lost alot more than your money, you've lost me!". I assumed that meant I'd lost both. I let 2 weeks go by, during which I stopped by my usual club, got all the girls together, told them I'd let myself get too close to "the girl", had to end it, bought them all one last drink and explained I was too hurt and had to stay away from the club from now on and wouldnt see them again. All of this was true, I stepped out of the club, deleted all their numbers, and expected never to step back in there or see or hear from any of them anymore. Many of them did keep in touch, but I still didn't return to the club. I spent my nights in lower key clubs and made a point of not getting to know any of the girls. I was completely messed up, and getting angrier about the borrowed money every day. One night it burst out and I ended up doing exactly what I had hoped to protect her from, contacted her and told her if she didn't return my money I'd out her to her friends and family. I dont know what made me do this, anger, the need to communicate with her in any way, I've spent hours thinking about it and I can't come to terms with what I did, it really wasn't that much money. I should have just let it go. Her answer made me realize how much I'd hurt her, and I ended up telling her to keep the money. I dont know if that was just her hustling her way out of a bad situation, but I chose to believe she was being truthful and that my actions really had screwed up her life too. I thought she'd tell her friends about what I'd done and that it would at least make all the other girls hate me as well, which would have made things alot simpler for me, but instead she broke off contact with everyone, and all the others kept in touch still. Then one night at one of Ottawa's lesser clubs I ran into two of her friends who had been two of my regulars. One of them came to see me and actually started crying, saying how I was one of the only nice guys they ever met in the clubs and how they all thought I'd just used them to get closer to "the" girl and now that things were over I'd just stopped caring about any of them. I took her to the CR and tried to calm her down, explaining nothing could be further from the truth, I missed hanging out with all of them but just couldn't bare being in their club because of what had happened, which was entirely true. I felt horrible, and having found out that "she" hadnt been back in Ottawa since, ended up falling back into the routine of going to the first club, and hanging out with all these girls. I tried not to cross any lines, and mostly managed it, except one night after supper with one of the girls, who happened to be extremely drunk and apparently horny, ended up latching on to the idea of having me park the car somewhere so she could, in her words, "rape the fuck out of me". I defused that situation as best as I could and she thanked me for not taking advantage of her drunkenness the next day. This went on for another 2 months, during which I picked up even more regulars that I see outside the club regularly, and I kept everything at arm's length, and everything was fine. I was still trying to quit, but addiction is a tough thing to break. I even quit my night job thinking to end this double life I lead by simply needing sleep at night. Its surprising how little sleep the human body needs, and I just kept being out every night. Then this week I got the dreaded message, "She's back." Seeing her hurt more than I thought it would, and I'm back to being completely messed up. I sent her a text asking if she'd prefer I avoid her club and the casino until she leaves town again, and she hasn't answered. Instead, as far as I can tell, she just leaves both the club and the casino when I arrive. I never meant to hurt her, so seeing this hurts even more. And the last thing I want to do is mess with her livelihood. So here I am, a heartbroken asshole who's been cheating on his fiance and pinning after a stripper while planning his wedding. I'm writing this because its a way to sort out my thoughts and some may find it interesting. If I'm being honest with myself, I'm also hoping one of the girls will stumble upon this, recognize me, and tell all the others. Maybe at long last that would drive a final nail into the coffin of my second life and I could move on, albeit broken and humiliated. I can't think of any other way to break this addiction.

Sometimes professional help is warranted.

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This is what the police reiterated to me, and told me to re-read my law. Because at the time, I thought it was still illegal. Turns out I was wrong.

I agree completely ... I only write a reco if I would, in fact, want my friends to see the lady. I wouldn't write a reco for a lukewarm experience. I've also never had a lady ask for a recommendation. But if asked why I didn't write one I would, politely, explain my reasons.

Have been with her several time and found her to be nothing but a great host.Looking forward to my next visit.

I'd be careful about relying on a police officer's interpretation of the law. You would think they'd know, but frequently they don't. Outcalls ... where the client has the SP come to his place of residence or hotel room, are perfectly legal in Canada. No issues at all. Incalls, where the client goes to the SPs location, even where it is a hotel room, may be a violation of the keeping a common bawdy house provisions of the Criminal Code. Those provisions basically say that the keeping of the bawdy house (a location where prostitution takes place) is against the law. In theory it doesn't matter if that is your actual residence. It doesn't have to be a separate place kept only for the purposes of your business. Similarly, it can be a hotel room, even if you don't use the same hotel room, or same hotel, all the time. There are actually cases of hotel owners being prosecuted because they knowingly let SPs use rooms in their hotel, but those cases are really old and reflect a very dated morality (1910s and 20s) The thing is, it becomes very difficult to prove these things, especially against independent SPs. The transactions all take place behind closed doors,and unless there are other reasons for complaints ...drugs, unruly behaviour, underage girls, pimping, etc. the police generally are not interested in incalls. Often, massage parlours, because of the volume of business, and locations in residential neighborhoods with high volume, often attract the attention of the police and this may result in bawdy house charges being laid. But, one should be aware ... technically under our current prostitution laws incalls are a violation of the criminal code. And there is the provision that being "found in" a common bawdy house is also against the law. Having said all of that ... I almost exclusively do incalls, and have never felt worried or concerned in the least. An independent SP, in a discrete apartment tower/condominium complex or large busy hotel, is ideal. Stay away from sketchy hotels!

nvm problem solve:)

My collection of Hallowe'en gear is getting a little tired, so I'm looking to kick it up a notch or two. Last year, I had a fog machine, some lights strung-up over the front door and the pumpkin (naturally). Actually scared some poor kid away from the door. I was thinking maybe I could get some red LEDs for the pumpkin eyes, articulated jaw that moved to an evil laugh track & of course, the fog machine. What other kind of crap can I do this year?

A few years ago after taking out the flowers from the front flower garden I made a lump of ground and got a few pieces of light blue styrofoam cut it out like a head stone used a black marker and wrote things on it like "Here lies the body of Jason" and such. I would take an old suit that I had, fill it up with those noodles used in the pool and put a fake hand on at the end and made it stick out of the ground, used a spot light on it. I got many good feedback from adults.

Keep in mind that commenting in a negative way about a ladies rates is not only extremely rude its very much agaisnt the rules here. The ladies have every right to charge what they wish and you have every right to see them or not. Not everyone can afford to own a lexus but can be very happy driving a kia or a even a 40 year old lada, we all work and play within our limits. I am sure many people in sudbury are wealthy and live well above average income status and play within those limits.

My apologies but called to work and forgot my glasses... I also have a lazy eye ...so my interpretation is Angela likes Mistert's cock and and he delivers the goods. He also is a fantabulous cook and he is a bad ass. I like Porthos cause he is an all around awesome Cerb contributor....From soup to nuts....helpful, informative, considerate, fun, funny, babes, boobs, bums.......well just an all around helpful fella ;)

I actually decided to take some of 2011.s holidays and took 10 days off. Started this morning. I was at a function tonight and was politely called out by the top dog of my company to troubleshoot...ya whatever. Temporary fixed the problem and we are running but now I am here for the night :( Fuck, fuck, fuck and FUCK !! Okay that's all I got.....

I've used Rosetta Stone also and found it useful. One of the best features is that it can "hear" your pronunciation and correct you. If you're planning a trip, you should look at some apps for your smart phone. Rosetta Stone is good for general conversation, but there are useful phrases that you'll want to master or have at your fingertips when travelling that Rosetta Stone doesn't focus on such as "I want to book a room for the night", "I'd like a table for two", asking and receiving directions etc. I found that using an app to practice phrases before the trip was an effective and easy supplement to using Rosetta Stone. You can use the apps to practice while you're out for a walk or cooking for example. In a real pinch you can even use them to "speak" for you when you're travelling. In the case of the iPhone some of the newer apps use Siri to translate your speech instead of having to stick to a fixed number of standard phrases. Some good app translation brands are Odyssey Translator, iSpeak, iTranslate, codegent. Good luck

Frank7 -- It's a question a lot of guys have, especially at first as this all can be very mysterious and intriguing. What you are going to find is very much a cross section of ladies and all the variables as answers to the questions you raise. If you are interested in knowing these things, I suggest you get to know some of the ladies well enough that they may be comfortable sharing some of these details without giving away information that might personally identify them. Never be pushy about it as the highest priority should always be to make a lady feel comfortable and safe with you. One thing I would mention is that it isn't unusual to talk about sex-related topics with the ladies I have seen, but those conversations are always lighthearted and fun. Again, never make anyone feel uncomfortable. Good luck and best wishes.

:biggrin: You could pose yourself by your front door as a scarecrow or a ghost, stuffed pumpkin person, ect. as if your were a "statue", then when kids approach move and scare them , or pop out of a coffin. For decorations I the stuff that looks like cob webs, big fake spiders, grave markers, skeletons. Shoppers has some cool things each year. Once they had a life size witch stirring a pot, you could buy. Love halloween, so much fun!

Wouldn't it be great to have a Zombie line dance with like, 50 dancers doing their thing to Thriller?...on my front lawn

My Honda hit 300 K and still going!!

Yes set boundaries absolutely ! Be honest and straightforward in regards to this...as is the lady in the same regards. It really is no big deal....What works for one is not necessarily good for another. I prefer texts as opposed to emails and I use my personal phone so obviously I place a high level of trust in who I visit with. and yes yes I am nuts... My point is be upfront and all will be good. The ladies will actually appreciate knowing your preferred choice of contact and your taboo choice of contact.

I once spoke to the police about what I do, and about working in hotels. What they told me: what I do, and what I do in hotels is NOT illegal. At all. I even said I thought it was in a way - they told me I needed to re-read my laws. So. No. I do not think incalls are risky, at all. Not sure what risk there could be, because it's not against the law...soo...relax! Have fun! Get laid! :D

I've always had this idea about planting a 4x4 or telephone pole out front, shred it to hell about six feet off the ground, and put a "beware of cat" sign on it.

I would say the risks are minimal compared to the number of sps who do outcalls and get ripped off in some way, or assaulted. The examples you give are really isolated incidents. Reminds me of those Urban Legends, everyone knows a story like this. Does it happen? Not nearly as often as some would believe, or spread the rumours. In over a decade, I've met only two people who have had something like this happen. One of those guys has seen literally hundreds of different sps, all of whom advertise on CL or BP or other free ad sites. Oh wait, I'm one of those terrible awful rip off high risk bp advertisers who will only offer private incalls, never at a hotel/motel. So maybe don't listen to a word I say on this matter. :D

I'm going to have to say, OP, that for a guy who thinks the client needs to tell an sp to not contact him first, these questions seem also a bit out of touch. I hope that you understand that we expect you respect her private life by simply not asking, nor asking other sps about their lives. In fact we shouldn't have to ask you not to. When it comes to privacy and discretion, the requirement goes both ways. Don't ask, and she won't have to come up with some kind of cover story to protect her own privacy..

You could get some initial hints from Henri. He is, after all, a cat... I: II: III:

If they don't want the whole internet to know, they can send a PM! =p I just feel in person, the lady might thinking i'm a stalker trying to learn about her personnal life for weird purpose. I know most girls don't use there real name on purpose. The other thing, i'm really shy(too stressfull meeting new peoples) so i mostly just see the same girl( and she's amazing! =D). That wouldn't give me much answers.

Thanks for the advice everyone! I think I'll try the Rosetta Stone. I actually would prefer learning the Parisian French, because I do travel a lot and a trip to Paris/Morocco is planned in the spring. Once I master that, you Quebecers can help dirty up my French a bit ;)

If you think ladies will feel it inappropriate during a session to answer these questions.. I think most ladies will feel rather uncomfortable disclosing their personal business online to the whole world. Just letting you know why the responses will be minimal. I'm one who is fine discussing it in person.. but it's a tricky thing I'm sure to figure out whether it's okay or not. I have no interest in spouting off about it here. You might say.. why answer this at all then? Because I know many of my fellow escorts and most of them are less open than me :) However.. I will say. I'm single at the moment by choice.. but when I'm in a relationship I'm very open about what I do. I don't date often but that's simply because I have no interest at the moment. When I have done.. I either do it online or someone I've met through friends. My last serious relationship was with a client who I asked out right after our first session ended. I don't have kids.

The day before my trip to Halifax, having a phone call from my bank to inform me my funds are frozen for 72 hours due to the fact that my card was ``skimmed`` (the strip on the back was copied and my pin was somehow copied) and had been used fraudulently. I am happy that they noticed this and that my funds are being replaced, but to not be able to access my account right before my trip sucks ass! Oh well thankfully I have a horny client who needed to see me as soon as I get there!

I find most men enjoy 1. If I'm warming him up for a strap-on session though, I'll slip a second one in :)

Coming home from a trip and finding piles of shingles all over your yard. Upon investigation you find out raccoons have make four huge holes in your roof!!

I like all five!!! lol. Just a joke!

I agree completely Angela! I've always said when a woman is faking an orgasm that is encouraging bad behavior. I would rather not fake it so that the man knows than when I actually do have one he is doing something good

This a interesting thread. Relationships are part of our daily lives, and we entertain so many different levels with so many people. For instance, when we go regularly to the bank, the bank director or the bank clerk may "know" you and a mutual nice and warm kind of relationship can happen, in a more "personal' way. It's the same with a co-worker where we can develop a very nice and, in a way, a profound relationship that goes over the strict purpose of the job. It may also lead to a personal friendship. It may most of the time end when the job, the purpose is over. Real friendship, the one that goes over a purpose, a job, a reason, is rare and, and in a way, a gift of life. But it is rare. I'm not saying that a friendship between a Sp and a Hobbiest is not possible, but it's a rare thing, and we cannot expect that because we develop a true connection within this hobby that this will lead to real friendship. And the true connection is a crucial part of the relationship between a SP and a hobbiest; without this kind of connection where would be the pleasure to hobby ? And one of the specificity of this hobby is to have a sexual encounters without the commitment between the two persons. So we are in the middle of a paradox; at the same time we want a connection, and we don't want it. I look forward to hear from others, either SPs and hobbiest on this thread.

If I were any good at monogamy, I would have never found this site! LOL. I suspect that the same is true for many here.....

If an SP does that, she needs to do a reality check and realize we don't own our clients. If a client comes to see me and I know I provide a good service, he will repeat. Then if he expresses a desire to see someone else, I encourage him and even make suggestions for SPs who I think would be a good fit. If he has a good experience with them, he's likely to see me again anyways. And if the SP finds it positive as well, she will in turn refer me to others. If a client is determined to see other ladies, there is nothing I can do to stop him, but if I can recommend someone to him who I think he'll click with, I do not hesitate to do so. I'd rather send the business to someone I know will give him good service than to dissuade him thinking I can keep him to myself and him possibly having him go to see someone regardless and possibly have a bad experience. Appreciative clients and SPs will always make sure they let me know they are grateful even if it's just a simple "thank you". Recently I have been the recipient of been treated to dinner, two road trips, reiki treatment, clothing donation, gift cards, and referrals. The only time I might have a problem is if a client promised to see me and cancelled the appointment in favour of another lady. That might sting, but hey it happens as well. Additional Comments: I am so glad that I have you as my "neighbour" in Orleans. You are one of the classy ones!

If to you, open minded means additional services then check with the provider who has caught your eye. For me "open minded" can mean any number of things... 1. You want me to drip honey all over your body, slash a feather pillow and coat you in down then remove them with a pair of tweezers? Sure I can but you're cleaning up the mess! 2. You want to slip into something more comfortable like a pair of my Pradas? Not unless you wear the same size as me and come with a gift certificate for new shoes! 3. You want to hang upside down by your ankles while I play ringtoss with your erection with donuts then have me eat them off you? Sure, you bring the donuts. 4. You want to play naughty librarian and rip my clothes off? Absolutely but advance notice is required so I can get disposable clothes. 5. You want to shave my head and play V for Vendetta? Ummm, that requires serious advance notice and a very hefty envelope. And maybe a gift certificate to a wig shop. 6. You want to have your bottom powdered and diapered then fed a bottle while getting rocked and serenaded "Sleep little baby" while masturbating you thru leak proof plastic diaper guards? That can be arranged. Open minded simply means that we are not judgemental and whims with fancy to you are really nothing to blush about for us so go ahead and ask... cat