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MC... we take these threads seriously. Boundaries are very important.

I'm wondering if there is often a link when men who pay for it and have those feelings like they are ashamed/not good enough often think the same as the SP and that she doesn't like her job?? I had one person I see which isn't too often say to me not too long ago "Don't you wish you could quit this job?" What? Are you implying that this is all I can do and I have no other options? To me, this is an insult. It's simply not true and have left this business a number of times to do other things. I always find my way back here not because I couldn't handle other things but because I want to be here. Most people here know that I speak my mind and trust me, I'm not going to do something that I don't want to do! If I hated this job, I would have been gone long ago. It takes a special kind of woman to do this job and I am one of those women. I am a very stubborn and strong willed person! lol. I've been around for a while and am good at what I do. If you don't find me here one day, you will know I've become bored and decided to go another route which I have done in the past. The hours are great, the pay, each day is always different and I call the shots. So I often wonder when some men come to see SPs with negative feelings, do they automatically assume that we don't like what we're doing either? I realize not every hobbyist feels this way but due to the secrecy and taboos of the business, many may feel that this is a negative thing. I've met some great men and I've never made them feel bad because they were paying for it and they never made me feel like I was just doing this because I had no other choice. There are choices in life and this is one I made on my own accord which I don't feel bad about. We as service providers are here to satisy needs and urges and you pay us to leave without any b.s. I would say we are easier to deal with than one night stands or having a high maitenance girlfriend who rarely puts out. And our services are much less expensive in the long run without the headaches or complications as opposed to going the traditional route of getting laid. You only live once so enjoy it while you can! :)

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man donate the present contents of his Pooning Fund towards the purchase of a new laptop for his daughter. She and her husband make modest incomes. Her old laptop died and her prospects for a replacement are dim. Food and mortgage before laptops. She is starting an at-home business this summer and is trying to work out how she will do the records and bookkeeping. She doesn't know she is getting this tomorrow. This is going to be fun! :) Plus Papa gets to learn how to set up Windows 8!

Bars? I'm sure you can pick up as many escorts in a bar as you can in church. Just saying...lol

The biggest things are crossing someone's boundaries and I don't mean in a sexual kind of way. I think you have to let things fall naturally into place or you're going to seem like an eagar beaver which can be annoying or someone with an agenda which gets the spidey senses going with the ladies. To be honest and just a little constructive criticism here ( not a personal attack) is that you've mentioned things in passing about the ladies in your posts like when such and such a lady told you something. She said that in private and I'm a firm believer that it should never be relayed to anyone else let alone on an internet forum. If you want to piss off an SP and never see her again, this is one of the biggest things you can do. Once you write a recco of that lady and the nice things that transpired, whatever private convos or services that happened that day, should never be spoken of again. The only exception is when someone is asking for a good SP to spend time with. If you speak too fondly about a lady over and over, many may think you are a 'shiller' for her and then others members may begin to question this. Whatever conversations I have with clients in private have never been posted in a thread which I very much appreciate. If a woman is comfortable with you and trusts you, she will open up to you. If she finds all her dets splashed across threads on Cerb, I know if it were me, I'd never be seeing that person again! Personal boundaries and another person's privacy are of the utmost importance in this business and without that you don't have any credibility or trust. No one is out to get anyone here and while we realize you have come into a hobby that you enjoy and are excited to share things but please don't share with us that a lady feel comfortable to tell you her real name. This is not necessary and can be harmful to her and her business. Being too inquisitive will make an SP feel uncomfortable and want to head for the hills. Don't ask too many questions and should you two begin to develop a "business relationship" and the operative word here is "business", then over time she will share things but please whatever you do, don't ask things like it's the Spanish Inquisition. It's the number one pet peeve of providers and while you seem like an open person, please understand that the person you are spending time with may not be. A little goes a long way in this business.

Who the hell invented monogamy anyway ? That concept never existed all through mankind's history untill someone, a few centuries ago, decided the one and only one hypocricy. It defies all research and all statistcs. Humans are naturally polygamous. Dunno why somepeople still have an issue with that. Some natural people despite that they are married and have extra marital affairs; They will still seek variety and pay for it. Otherwise we wouldn't have the SP profession in the makeup of human society. One shoul recognize nature, accept it and enjoy living with it.

I have followed this discussion and told myself I was not going to get involved in it simply to be on the safe side of the board. I understand what mister_crufty is going through in his marriage because I am also in the same boat, I love my wife very much and we are totally compatible except for sex. Let me try to explain a bit more without going into details. Something in our relationship happened over 10 years ago and she became depressed (its not something I did) and refused sex completely. I figured I would give her time to get back to normal but as time went by every thing stayed the same. We had a great sex life, 2-3 times a day anywhere in the house, outside, in the pool, in the car, public park etc. When all of this stopped for me I tried my best to cope with it without leaving her and this "hobby" gave me the solution to my dilemma. Nothing about her changed except for the sex, she is a very very attractive women and it HURTS me not being able to have her to myself like I used to. She is starting to give me intimacy now but it took forever to get here. There is more but those are confidential things I don't want to share with all of you. We love each other and I know I would have a difficult time to find someone to give me has much as she does, we have a long time relationship and that is worth so much to me. Sorry if I made this a long story for you all to read. Don't be judging anyone and if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. That's the rules here. To finish I just want to say to answer the OP's question, Yes I feel bad but I have needs like everyone here and I cope with it and take in the best from what I do in my life. My decision I have to live with the consequences if she finds out.

Hello Gentlemen, I sent Nova a friendly message regarding this thread and she is now a member:icon_biggrin:. I don't know her but she seems very nice and was flattered to hear you were asking about her, so I'm quite sure you will welcome her and treat her well!! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=80190 Big Hugs, Lexy

I don't think that these generalizations apply to most of us, Harrywatch. Speaking for myself, as one who has had more than "many" partners, I have no difficulty whatever enjoying the sex. I often enjoy it a great deal. Perhaps this is because I take time to get to know the men who visit me and to create an atmosphere where we can be comfortable together and our mutual pleasure increased. In fact, I think that time and experience has enhanced my ability to enjoy everything that goes on between us.

It is believed that men invented monogamy, as a way to control and know if the kids their women have are indeed their own. A natural maternal based society has women having multiple lovers in order to have healthy babies. http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/2000/10.19/01_monogamy.html

imkrissy for sure! Large breasts and very sexy.

My food being cross contaminated with shellfish on January 17th landing me in the hospital for almost 2 weeks. Worst and scariest allergic reaction to date. The few times I leave out the house for dinner without taking my first line of defense Benadryl this happens but I'm lucky to always have an epi-pen on hand. All better now:icon_biggrin:!!

I vote for option #2. It would be good for the "subject" to meet potential clients too :D

This is the most WTF thing I've read for quite a long time...

Only 1 week until the social. Who's excited?

Cleo, perhaps?

i know that people prefer to think of sps and escorts as just a set of acronyms provided, but yes, indeed a lot of us do a lot more than just a bj.

The same goes for early mornings. As a guy who works the night shift I appreciate a provider that can see me early in the morning when I get off work and have found a few that are happy to if properly notified. If your "play" time falls outside the accepted norm, you can't expect to have your choice of available providers at the last minute. I always call a day or two in advance to set up an appointment and usually call to confirm the morning of just to make sure they're up. Most girls will make time for you if you show them that you respect their time enough to per-book! And of course, make sure you SHOW UP for your appointment!

Sort of reads like a bad episode of Oprah..... It's all about taking personal responsibility for one's actions. Peace MG

I just blame the dog and carry on. This works even if there is no dog.

If I were you I would stay away from CL, period.

1. Whats your "real" name? 2. How many men have you been with today? 3. So, have you been busy? 4. Is your real hair color/breast size/nails/tan real? 5. How did you get into the business? 6. Do you have a boyfriend/SO/partner? 7. Why don't you go Indie? 8. Can I stand you on your head while you give me a bj? 9. Why do you have to put the condom on now? 10. Can I have a tour of your place? 11. Who is that in the picture? 12. Are the sheets clean? 13. Did you shower? 14. Tell me the difference between the 1hr and 2hr option besides time, I might want to readjust our session. 15. Is that what you are wearing? 16. I thought you would be _________ (taller, shorter, skinnier, fatter, younger, older) 17. I brought rolled change for part of my donation, is that a problem? (paid $250 in rolled pennies and dimes) 18. Do you own this place? 19. You should take yoga. 20. Have you ever considered having your breasts done? 21. Do you have a bong? 22. Can you drive me home afterwards? 23. I have a friend in the car, is it ok if he waits in your livingroom? 24. How many children do you have? 25. Do you REALLY enjoy it or are you an awesome actress? 26. Can we "just hang out" cause I think we have a real connection. 27. What are the perks if I become a good regular? 28. Can I leave my shoes and socks on for the whole visit? 29. Whats the weirdest request you've ever had? 30. Has anyone ever hurt you during an appointment? 31. Does your family know what you do? And my all time favorite! 32. Your such a smart woman, why don't you get a real job? These are all questions I have been asked personally and they range from mildly annoying to WTF is he thinking! cat

Mandy just started at Paradise and has been completely booked. She squeezed me in between appointments. First I noticed how giving she is, trying to accommodate and make me feel comfortable. Next in the room I noticed how pretty she is. Her body is amazing. Her natural breasts are works art. For a boob lover, its heaven. Her massage was good, but more importantly she is really at home with herself and her body and you immediately feel at home with her. She is not new to massage, you can tell but new on the Ottawa scene. Great finish and a very warm and friendly departure. She is worth seeing for sure - I plan to repeat and do a much longer session.

There is a girl promoting her self on craigs_____ for the freddy area by the name of leeane she is underage!!!!! I askedd her age said she was 18 than 19 than that she she eft her Id in montreal than ontario than i google her phone number linking it to a kijiji ad posted in december for. 16 yr old girl i contacted that ad just to doube check same email was used to respond which means she is the same poster. First time i ever flagge an ad and i deleted the pics she sent. so be careful people including sps i get id'd qlot i havent aged in about 15 years lol and an sp told me recently a 16 yr tried booking an appt with her if she didnt screen him who knows.what ould have happened.

Yes leave it to me to bring this subject up, lol. But lets face it we all have had, I'm sure, moments when our bodies unexpectedly act and respond in ways we don't expect. Certain sexual positions, foods, conditions can cause noises at inappropriate times. Do bodily noises cause you embarrassment or do you appologize and just carry on?

Why don't you pay the travel fee and have someone from Ottawa, Kingston or Cornwall, etc. come and see you?

OMG so so so sorry to hear this:( I hope you can overcome this with grace! Best wishes and most sincere condolences to you and her loved ones.

I would recommend Jude. Jude is the master at massage and slow tease. In the last session she built up for quite awhile knowing when to stop and when to restart. It was awesome. Takes minutes to recover from sessions with Jude. Plus she is really hot....

Getting a call at 7 am to find out a close friend was killed in an accident. going to miss you Kechara

You really should monitor your own threads: Silver Dollar - CERB - Canadian Escort Recommendation Board

Personally, I find the best bet is to watch the advertising section, see who is active. When you find someone who catches your eye, look at her profile. She might have a website link or more information. Lots of independents here so you'll have plenty of choice. Once you've found someone, go take a look and see if she has a recommendation thread. This will be your best way to see what kind of experience others have had and decide whether she's the one. Then it's simply a matter of contacting her. Be polite and put your best foot forward. These ladies don't HAVE to do anything with you. They CHOOSE to. Not sure what you mean by 'low-key' but I sense it might be a line of questioning that you should be careful with. Here there be dragons.

I've done the following 1 3 6 11 13 14 16 17 22 24 27 28 32 33 41 42 43 48 49 I'm ashamed that as a former boat owner I never did 19 RG

I guess it's all a matter of opinion. When I think of the 40's I don't think of Cary Grant I think of the WW2 and the heroics of the many Canadians and other soldiers that fought in that war. My parents lived through the depression years and my father served during WW2. I'm not trying to be overly dramatic, hope it's not coming off that way.

Good points. Reminds me of a Woody Allen film from a couple years ago, "Midnight In Paris", which explores these themes (really good flick, if you haven't seen it). We are often nostalgic for the eras past... maybe a "simpler time" or something of that likeness, etc... But every era past experiences it's own nostalgia too. Some now are nostalgic for the 1920's... But most do not consider that in the 1920's many were nogstaglic for the 1890's, and that in the 2050's they will be nostalgic about our own era. It's all meaningless really, but an interesting concept to consider when thinking about the big picture. :)

Last day of work after 18 months which were a hell of a ride, particularly the last 2 weeks. Brushed up and closed a few files till mid-late afternoon, did my milk run to get signatures to pack my office, only to have my colleagues waiting for me to give me a good-bye card. As i did my round of the floor before leaving, i realized i'll miss my coworkers. Between the ups and downs at work, it's the best group of people i ever worked with at this point.

Indeed. From a purely romantic standpoint, I would have loved to be alive in the age of exploration. When new worlds were being discovered by brave men on sailing ships. Pretty shitty time for the average person but cool nonetheless.

fingers crossed that everything goes well. Definitely you'll be our hearts and thoughts. Porthos

I hope everything goes well. You're in my thoughts and surely in the hearts of many!

We do have an Erotic Photography group that Berlin started. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/group.php?groupid=91

I need a real hobby. Maybe I'll start doodling again, or even painting.

Precisely. That's exactly what I was getting at with my comments in regards to body type being irrelevant. And just so we are clear, "skills" in this industry go far beyond sexual capabilities. Let's be honest, would you see the girl who "screws best" if she was addicted to crack and wanted to get high during your sessions, a lady who makes you feel unsafe by having other questionable adults or children present at the time of your encounter? Those are just 2 of the many, many, many different examples of how things like personality, demeanor & attitude, lifestyle, mutual respect, discretion, (the list can go on) many things come into effect when an SP provides you with a "service".... And to clarify : Do not mistake my personality and attitude as the same thing. My personality is WHO I AM, my attitude depends on who you are. DISCLAIMER: YMMV.

It's not a waste if you realise what you have been missing, make changes and start enjoying life the way you want... One of my favorite quotes: Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start. -Nido Qubein Cheers xox

I don't want to jump on the bandwagon MC, but being a person who never likes to discuss my salary with ANYONE, if someone asked me this question I wouldn't like it. Unless you're in a union or the type of business where you know what a person makes based on their title or position in a company it isn't a question you should ask. You say you're a computer programmer, have you asked all your co-workers their take home pay? That you're new (as am I) and curious is totally understandable but this isn't something you should be learning now or here.

I get this question, too, but, like Phantom, I assume it's the influence of US TV. I usually give the guy a link to a description of the laws in Canada, and let it go. Sometimes, I've said, "No, I'm not a cop. But some of my clients are." :icon_lol:

I find it funny how some members of the other board and some members who are members of both boards always manage to put down CERB recommendations. No negative feedback allowed on Cerb doesn't mean that every recommendation for every single lady is sugar coated. I find the comment I quoted above in bold is disrecpectful towards the gentlemen who take the time to write recommendations and for the ladies who receive them. My two grains of salt ;)

http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=416333#post416333 Don't feel bad. Everyone falls in love with her at some point. Just read all her reviews.

I have done webcam shows and would love to provide peep shows to anyone who would like one. I would offer the whole erotic show. Mya Rain xoxox

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Well since I pressed the wrong key by mistake and didn't finish writing my note before it got posted, I will say it here: ALL ladies deserve to be treated like ladies and not like a raw piece of meat even if they receive a compensation for their time! In the end, it's all comes down to mutual respect! Thanks RG :)