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Some may think my statement harsh but if you know you are dealing with a 16 yr old you deserve prosecution, thats a child. In my opinion 18 is to young, but thats just me. I know in Canada you are considered an adult at 18 but that is still a teenager, so is 19 . It is alot to expect teens to deal with adults in their 30's,40's, 50's and beyond. Although I realize everyone matures differently I can only think back when I was a teen and I know I wasn't an exception to how immature and unprepared they can be.

SO they knew she was 16 ( although it was a sting) . I am glad they were caught, and I am also glad their names are published in the paper for all to see...Pedophiles should be outed. Period.

If you're not trolling for underage or trafficked girls, in my opinion you have nothing to fear from the Police/RCMP.

I agree with you Cristy. These "men" wanted to engage in sexual activities with underage girls. They aren't the victims here, and in fact, if this wasn't a sting but a real BP/CL ad, they would have ended up arranging to have sex with underage girls. The only ones needing to be careful of BP/CL are those "men" who reply to ads for underage girls...and they deserve whatever punishment the law has for them. No sympathy whatsoever for them RG

I tend to agree with Christy and RG. The men caught up in theses stings are usually seeking exactly that...the teen! If they weren't, they would be more vigilant in THEIR screening methods.

Mourning is a difficult thing to go through. Everyone is different and there's no one "right" way to do it. But if it's been more than a year since your wife died, you might consider joining a group for people who have lost a partner. These are often fantastic! You can find out about them by contacting a funeral home, and I'd suggest you do that rather than go through the standard therapist route, at least at first. In many places, they try to bring together people who are close in age, or people who have children so that there's common ground for participants. it really can help a lot to hear how other people are dealing with situations similar to your own. Finding a companion or two can also be a good thing because you don't have to get into a full-blown relationship before you're ready for one (and you're not ready right now). You can have contact, intimacy and a private, one-on-one encounter without repercussions. If you want to see a companion more than once, go for it. If not, no worries. Attending to your physical needs can sometimes make it easier to work through emotional ones. Go easy on yourself!

When I read the article It appeared to me that they knowingly communicated with and attempted to see a girl who was clearly advertised as underage (as 16) for the purpose of prostitution?. If so then they deserve what is coming to them, in my view. Additional Comments: It was so unbelievable that people would do such thing that I had to read the article 3 times to be sure that they knew about the underage and yes I am pretty sure they did. As I have mentioned in my prior posts recently best to ask for ID for unknown providers especially on BP or CL. Ask them to cover their personal info (like name and address) with their hand or fingers and all you are interested to see is their picture (must be the picture of visiting lady of course) and birthdate. Make it a pre-requisite upon arrival for appointment to go ahead. Some would welcome this request as they realize that you are safe and legal.

Since the 'Thanks' button was implemented on Cerb, is it just me or are you more aware of giving thanks to other members now as opposed to just receiving them? While I'm glad there is now a button for us to show our thanks to others here for their contributions, have you ever felt aware of thanking those much more now? And do you also feel like you should be giving thanks as much as you are receiving? Not just in your thoughts but by looking at the number on your profile? And have you ever felt inclined to up your thank-you points to others since people thank -you for your posts and perhaps haven't been aware that your 'Thanks' count is lower than your 'Thanked Points? I know they are just numbers but to me they are significant and I have found that it has made me more aware of thanking others and is much more meaningful than just getting a rep point. I admit sometimes throughout my daily life I have read posts and not thanked them and then became more aware of it. First it was a mix of finding something meaningful from a member posting and then a bit of guilt because I got more thanked posts when I was thanking. lol. Maybe it is because I am considerate of others but sometimes life got in the way. I am grateful that people appreciate my posts and now I make it a point to thank them for the signifigance of their posts and their contribution and not just because I felt obligated. So thank-you! Can anyone else relate?

i am sorry for your loss...and you miss your wife dearly....however Lola is NOT your wife, and I am afraid that your hope is to make love to your wife , and although Lola may remind you of her in pictures, I think there is a good chance you may be totally dissapointed...my suggestion would be to see someone who does not remind you of your wife, and take it from there. Down the road , once you come to better grips with everyuthing, then to play out that fantasy may be ok, but at this point, I would advise against it, unless you go in knowing full well what may happen. Again , my most sincere condolensecs.

I think using it is common courtesy. As I feel anyone that takes time to respond to your thread should be thanked and anyone who posts relevant, thoughtful, or thought provoking responses should be given rep points and anyone who posts something poignant, learned, clever,ect should be given a nomination.No matter how you see a post I think the person took the time to either create the thread, respond to a thread so they deserve a response of some sort, wether rep points, thanks or a nomination,jmo.:icon_biggrin:

While the age was not in the original ad, these guys absolutely knew she was underage. I replied to the ad, and the first sentence of the response was "Hi, I'm Chrissy. I'm 16 years old...." I immediately emailed the BP abuse account and also contacted crimestoppers.

I am sort of unclear on what it is you are looking for? This is a recommendation board, and yes it is positive. We do not post negative, as this is not the spirit of CERB. Negative reviews are not welcome as it allows some people to intentionally sabotage a ladies career. Even if you dont happen to like a certain lady, doesn't seems right to try to ruin her career and rep. Yes there are some bad apples out there, and if you encounter one, simply do not return to her. Eventually the "bad apple" will run herself out of business anyways.

I've always been voluptuous even at a smaller weight. I've always had big boobs and a big round ass. I am the only person in my immediate family who is busty with the curves. My other sisters have been skinny throughout chidhood ( myself included) and then a bit heavier ( a little chubby) and it seems as though we were always dieting. I was never preoccupied with my weight as a child or teenager. Unfortunately only when coming into the business and that issue was one of the cons. They lost the weight and kept it off but at times noticed they analyze what they eat or denying themselves. However, we have had borderline eating disorders and at one point made it worse being in this business going from 115 lbs after having a baby ( lost 40 lbs in 10 weeks) to a heavy weight that was not healthy. I quit my short term eating disorder because I got scared as it was affecting my health and went cold turkey and gained a lot of weight as a result. I went from a healthy and slim weight before having a child to starvation diets to being an emotional closet eater at one point to the point where I didn't want to work because I felt ashamed. Add in a couple of deaths in my family within months of each other and made it that much worse to deal with emotionally. The comments I had received from guys on other sites didn't help and weren't so nice and because I was very popular when I first started out, I thought I had to be perfect. What triggered it was that I was called fat at 115 lbs by some moron. I felt that I wasn't perfect and dealt with that comment the wrong way so all the weight I had lost felt like it was for nothing. So I ate to deal with all the bullshit. As time went on with the weight issues, the business made it worse. I will admit that as strong as I looked on the outside and telling those guys to basically fuck off, it did affect me and who wouldn't it affect? It's no different than online bullying. And yesI was body shamed all the time on those sites. It was ongoing for years. They made me feel like I was the Goodyear blimp. However, over time I resolved those issues and although I'm not 115 lbs as I used to be, I've come to grips with weight issues and gained self acceptance. I really don't care what they say because they are small minded and they have to say that to build themselves up because they probably are insecure or are just jerks. The reality of it is you can't be perfect, you can't change people's opinions and you can't control what people say about you because it will drive you crazy. I have a different mindset now and don't let those old feelings creep in because they will eat away at you. Obviously I have done something right in this business because if I was so unattractive at the weight I was, i wouldn't have any business. And trust me, I have enough business that I can handle. What I have learned specifically related as a service provider is that even though I'm not Hollywood skinny, that is not the first thing clients look at. I am an attractive woman with a lot of other nice qualities and someone who enjoys my job as an SP never being forced to do it for the money or coerced. That is more than enough... esp in this business.

In 10 days I get to meet Lee Richards --wiggle eyebrows--

I understand that you're feeling impatient and want answers to your questions, as well as some tips and strategies about how to do things. Every question you've asked about the law is answered, several times, in the Legal discussion and most are referred to extensively in other areas, as well. For the most part, the best information comes from established, long-time members of the board so pay particular attention to their posts. When it comes to things like strategies for working outcalls, transportation, etc., those are important considerations and most are also discussed on the boards, here. Frankly, the best way for you to learn how to deal with these things would be to start with a good agency. Since you've not said where you are, it will be difficult for anyone here to make a recommendation in your area. Please don't take offense at what I'm going to say, but this part of your post is likely to be considered deeply insulting, not only to many of the ladies here, but also to many of the gentlemen as well. One critical thing that you need to understand is that the best so-called "high end" paid companions defend and are protective of women who work outdoors and those who have health problems and addictions. You won't find much tolerance on this board for denigrating any SP, anywhere, because of her looks or personal habits. We do discuss safer sex all the time and while we generally advise prospective clients to seek companionship from a reputable independent or a good agency, we don't put down women who, for many serious and difficult reasons, face so many challenges that they must work in compromising conditions. Your assumption that many companions offer poor quality and/or unsafe encounters is troubling. I don't know which sex workers' blogs you have been reading, or where you get your information, but as someone who has worked as an independent for many years, both in Toronto and in Vancouver, what you describe is not my experience, anywhere. No one should have to engage in activities she deems to be unsafe. Ever. I have to say, though, that I think your problems will have to do with not knowing how to screen potential clients and not knowing how to manage the volume of requests you would receive as a "new girl." These are also reasons to begin to work with a good agency. Starting out as an independent is tempting, but it's frequently a very bad idea. Yes, you'll make less per call with an agency. But you'll also have lower expenses and you'll be working with people who do know what they're doing and how the industry works. You need that knowledge and expertise behind you and, frankly, you don't have it yet. Without it, you will inevitably get into trouble. Are you aware that this statement verges on hostility? If you truly believe these things, I have to say that you don't really understand what the misconceptions and myths about the sex trade are. Speaking for myself, I have been a paid companion for over a decade. I have never engaged in any activity that I felt was unsafe--assuming, that is, that you're referring to things that increase one's potential for exposure to STIs. I'm also old enough to be your mother. I have never considered myself to be in competition with anyone. I work hard and I make a good living. I attribute my success to accepting the realities of this profession, to identifying my particular market niche and serving it very well, and to gaining the respect of my colleagues. That last thing--the respect of colleagues--is essential. If you do decide to work as a paid companion, no one, no matter how well-meaning or close to you, will understand what your life is really like. You will need the support and care of other companions so that you can stay safe, make good decisions and get support when things go wrong. No one ever avoids having things go wrong, regardless of what they may say. But there are ways to avoid some problems that you may not even imagine exist and there are ways to manage the things that you can't avoid. In general, we don't discuss these things in public forums. You will need to gain others' support in order to have access to this information. If you're just investigating this as an option, I would recommend that you find something else or some other way to take care of your problems. The sex trade is not the right thing for most women. If you're seriously considering becoming a paid companion, my advice is to step back, take some calming breaths and clear your mind. Only a minute percentage of women enter the sex trade because it's their ideal, intended career path. Nearly everyone has had some significant problem in her life and suddenly needs to earn a lot of money fairly quickly. In other words, most don't start out in the best frame of heart and mind. You can still do it, but you need to be careful, you need to be thoughtful and you need to learn to listen. An arrogant attitude will be a liability. Over-confidence is a mask for fear that prevents addressing the things that cause fear to begin with.

For me, this is what I have experienced. I am a very attractive woman who is always dressed very nicely and also groomed the same. In my 9-5 career-I am someone with a very strong work ethic. I always go the extra mile-always obtain top notch references, have strong experience in a variety of sectors, plus I also have the maturity that ensures that I am there for the long haul, looking to establish a solid career by being dependable and efficient. IMHO, I would think thats what an exec would want for his assisant. Many times , for the past few years-I have obtained many ineterviews for jobs-that excuse my arrogance, but were perfect for me, my skills and personality too. However, once I arrive to the interview-there would be a pool of us ladies, waiting to be interviewed, and once the interviewer opens the door to call in the candidates-they start to give us the total look over from head to toe. You see many of these interviews, consisted of men who were basically only interested in having an assistant who fit their idea of hot. Forget the skills, attitude or experience. I personally feel that I have lost out on quite a few jobs due to my appearance-but at the sametime, they did me a favour because I would have a hard time working for people like that. Whenever I go to a bar-probably cause people are drinking-and just plain stupid-I always get at least one insult, regarding my appearance-because some loser in the bar thinks its so important for me to know that I am not his type-meanwhile the person who is spewing stupid shit is usually someone who I would not even touch with a ten foot pole-so whatevs... Within this business-I have been shunned a little bit-and I dont mean cause certain men wont see me due to my size. I am not referring to this -I am not trying to change anyones mind about what they like ;) What I mean about that is that there are quite a few guys who I see on occassion and regularly that would NEVER let other hobbiests know that they see me and like me too. Yes there are plenty of ladies who fit the bbw image on this site and other sites too, but very very few individuals will fess up to liking us. I realize the return visits are imperative for my business, but I gotta say nothing stings more than when you see one of the guys that you spend time with always make it a point to rec the ladies who are no more than 130 lbs, but never you...ouchy -wouchy ;) But hey-I deal :boobies:....could be alot worse ;) I really love the way I look-and do not have any desire to be what is usually considered hot. I love my giant breasts-my tummy, heavy bottom and thick thighs and will not change that for ANYBODY...that is what is most important!

Gloryhole I really don't think that you are ready for an intimate encounter right now. You will most likely come out of it with a pile of guilt thinking that you have been unfaithful to your wife. Join a support group or see a professional therapist for your grief issues. You will never get over your loss but someday you will be able to move on and to have encounters with some of the fine ladies here or with a regular girlfriend.

Anyone who decides to see someone who advertises themselves as 16 years old deserves to be caught. Its not like they didn't realize the girl was underage and got caught. She advertised that she was underage and therefore the pedophiles needed to be apprehended. No sympathy here. Sorry, they knew that what they were doing was wrong, but decided to go thru with it and got caught.

To be honest. When I first started hobbying and into this lifestyle, I questioned why I would pay $$ for a handjob at the end of a massage. It seemed like a high price to pay for a finish at the end. That was until I tried it. It was sensual. Full of sexual and positive energy relieving stress all over my body. Some of the massages I've received have been out of this world amazing. So until these guys enquiring about it actually try it. You'll always get doubters, unfortunately.

It always amazes me when people will not seek medical advice because of their fear of being judged. Quite frankly, your doctor doesn't really give a damn. He/she is there to help you with any and all health issues which are kept confidential.

I've heard from many women who were considering entering the sex trade but none of them has ever started the conversation by focusing on the kind of blowjob she thinks she might be expected to offer. Many men, however, do start with sexual activities when they ask about our profession. Even women who have had many boyfriends or casual sex partners generally find the notion of entering the sex trade to be daunting. They usually have many questions about what it means to be a prostitute; how they will feel engaging with many clients in a day or week; how other people in their lives would react to knowing what they're doing and how they plan to deal with that. Physical health and safety are important and the relief that comes from being able to address a serious financial problem is enormous, but there are emotional and psychological considerations involved, as well. For example, most of us find this to be a very lonely, isolating profession. How good are your relationships with friends and family right now? When have clear and constructive boundaries been a challenge for you? What did you learn? Where are your points of greatest vulnerability when it comes to engaging with other people? What are your coping mechanisms when you're under stress? How might your stress-management techniques be compromised or enhanced by working as a paid companion? What have your relationships with men, including boyfriends, lovers, teachers, employers, siblings, your father and grandfather been like? How have you managed pressure you've felt from men about important things like school work, employment, or their expectations of you because of your gender? You say that you're a small, slender woman. How have you handled men who are much larger and stronger than you are and who are, or have the potential to be, physically threatening? When a man is angry because he wants something from you, how do you respond--that is, how do you feel, deep inside, what do you do and how do you work through things later? When in your life have you found it difficult to say no to someone? What happened and why? When have you found it difficult to say yes, when you really wanted to? What happened then? Generally speaking, in your life do you tend to be obedient when someone tells you to do something? How important is it to you to please other people? If someone tells you to do something that you don't want to do, how do you feel? How likely are you to give in rather than take control of the situation constructively? Whether a covered bj is conservative or enlightened is a matter of debate. In our industry, every woman needs to decide for herself what she is and is not willing to offer when she entertains. There are plenty of women at every price point who are making a living, providing safe GFE including condoms for oral. There are also a lot of women who offer uncovered oral, but use condoms for everything else. You need to decide what your own risk tolerance is, how you will attend to your health care needs and how you will respond to pressure from clients who want to engage in activities that you may not have tried before, or may not want to participate in. What kind of oral you offer--if any--is only one consideration. So is anal sex. Digits is another. What about fetishes? Which ones might you be comfortable with and which ones will you not consider? What about duos? Who would you approach to be a duo partner? What level of involvement are you comfortable with when another woman is involved? What about couples? Or two men? Or more than two men? Stag parties? Poker nights? Toy shows? What about male duo partners? Suppose a prospective client invites you to travel with him--would you consider it? How will you maintain your safety and limits when you're not in a situation that you control, potentially far away from home and dependent on a virtual stranger? How do you imagine working? Will you do half hour meetings? What about quarter-hour quickies? Do you prefer to accept only two-hour engagements or longer? What is your preferred age range? If you think that the majority of your clients are likely to be guys in their early 20s, think again! Are you comfortable with older men? How old? Consider, for example, men in their 50s, 60s and 70s. How comfortable are you with men who may remind you, in some ways, of your father or grandfather? This is actually a very important consideration, particularly if, as I suspect, you plan to be setting your rates near the upper end of the range in your part of the country. Who do you think can afford to pay your fees? Are there enough of them where you're living and working to provide enough of the sort of work you imagine doing? How do you know? This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to things a new SP needs to think about. Very little of it is about blowjobs.

This thread and those of a similar sort trouble me deeply. Body image and in particular negative body image and its terrible negative effects I have unfortunately experienced in loved ones. It's an area that is very easy for me to go off on a rant about condeming all main stream media (internet now included) for distorting and perverting the minds of generations with distressing perceptions of beauty and body image. I weep for my daughter. That said, I'll move in a different direction. Cliche, chiche, chiche, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", blaw, blaw, blaw. Deep down we all know that every one of those chiche's is correct but we too often let our own good sense get washed over by the wave of popular perception. As SP's each of you should easily grasp the never judge a book by its cover as I'm sure you all on many occasions have met someone that doesn't fit the physical mold so to speak but throughout the encounter develop the feeling that this is a truly wonderful person and vise versa. Beauty, sensuality, sexiness, hotness, has no foundation in the physical form and is derived completely from within. One of the most attactive, sexy women I have ever known happens to be a wonderful volumptous, buxom beauty. She first seduced me with only her eyes and smile and now I would love to just tear off her clothes and make love to her (she's now a dear friend so that's out but the thought crosses my mind just the same). Although, she definately would not fit into the mold that society has set for physical beauty (she'd probably need three molds) she exudes confidence and comfort in her own skin and within minutes thats what spoke to me. Lesson, own your body and love it. Once you do, that's what will be conveyed to everyone else within seconds. Hellen Keller saw more beauty in this world than most of us will ever see. Thats because she saw everything with her heart not her eyes. There have been numerous scientific experiments where individuals sat and looked only into the eyes on another individual, no other contact and could not see any more of them. After a short while those people reported feeling a romantic connection to that person and found them attractive. (I guess the eyes are the window to the soul.) Maybe I'm an old soul at heart and see the world differently but thats just me. Love yourself, embrace yourself and others will do the same.

Darlign gloryhole, I am truly sorry for your loss. I worked as a grief recovery facilitator for 13 years and I don't think you are ready for an intimate encounter at this point. I gently suggest you take a peek at The Grief Recovery Institute. They are leaders at helping people move thru loss and it's important that you address the situation head on. There are programs across the country and their handbook The Grief Recovery Handbook that you can pick up at any book store. Here is the website... http://www.grief.net/ I wish you all the best, please know there is a path forward... cat

In this case, I'm glad to see those guys got exactly what they -wanted to- pay for...

I like using the Thanks button to say I appreciate a post, or to thank someone for contributing to a thread I started or for referring to something I've said. I also like that we now have three options: thanking people for their thoughts, giving rep points with a comment and nominating a post because it's timely, important or well-written, etc. It will be interesting to see how the Thanks button affects the Nominations. Will nominations be fewer but seem more significant? As for being thanked, I like that, too. It lets me know that I'm in tune with others' perspectives.

Hey there sweetie. I love that you are still devoted to your wife and understand the pain you feel. I am not out where you are, but wanted to drop a line. Sometimes, it is easier to start new with someone different then someone similar then the love of your life. You have felt some deep losses and it is always hard to move on. Just take it one day at a time, grieve your losses, love the gift she gave you (your child) and understand it is ok to feel like why..... One day you will be ready. In the meantime, give yourself some time to heal and grow. It does not always make sense, but eventually you will meet someone you can share a new intimacy. Love and blessings. Meaghan xoxo

Thought this was pretty funny What do you enjoy in a hand job?

Hopefully this isn't considered bumping the thread, but on the theme of sex work and disability, CBC's The Current had a segment this morning on the topic. To listen, click here. It's super good and hosts the author of the book "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability" mentioned above. Enjoy! Nat

The Current CBC Radio One In search of equal opportunities in sexual expression: Sex & Disability Anan Maria interviews Dave Symington, Kirsty Liddiard, Cory Silverberg in this amazing segment on sex work and disability.

All I want right now is for this snow to melt so I can take my motorcycle out for a ride.

Body shaming can happen to anyone at any size...too big or too small. The point is We have to love ourselves. I believe We can be our own worse enemies.

Founded to bring awareness to and to help stop bullying. Do you think there has been progress? If not what more do you think can be done to stop it?

I agree with this. The Thanks feature allows me to either thank someone for saying what I would have said, or for posting a reply in my thread, or just making a joke, etc. I like it better than Nominate, because I used nominate for the reasons I now am able to use Thanks, even tho that wasn't what Nom was intended for. But sometimes, often you run out of the approval option, have to spread it around or let it recharge. Thanks fill in the gaps, also when you don't really have a comment to add with the approval smiley. In short, thanks to mod for bringing in the Thanks button.

yes it is not mercedes, because i just seen mercedes last week. But yes, this can conclude this question, unless someone on here would like to share their session experience with us?

The other night (Sunday night) getting a drink from the kitchen. My cat walking under my feet. I shooed him away and walked out towards the living room from the kitchen. He runs back under my feet, tripping me. I caught myself, but not before the drink spilled over my laptop. I cleaned up the laptop and turned it upside down tp drain out any liquid...no luck, my computer died Fortunately my android phone has email and internet and will do till I buy a new laptop RG

Zoe, thank you SOOOO much for bringing these two amazing women into my life. Garfunkel and Oates are simply hilarious! Did you check out "Go Cart (Accidentally Masturbating)" or "Fade Away" or "Weed Card" and many more... LMAO over and over and over bk

The link to the site EmilyJ posted is very interesting. We are all beautiful individuals and while no one is perfect, I believe our quirks, our scars and our flaws is what makes us who we are. Buying into the whole Hollywood look is not only obsessive but tiring and I think there is finally an awareness that skinny does not necessarily mean beautiful. What really constitutes as beautiful? Beauty is like art. it is so subjective that what one person may not find appealing to the eye, someone else will. Over the years and as I've gotten older, I've come to accept myself for who I am and not what I look like despite the business I'm in. In terms of the escorting business and body types and body image, what I never understood is all these little people who come on other sites slamming women. No one is putting a gun to their head to see any woman, but of course they have to get their 2 cents in. It could be that they're lacking something in their life so they have to put others down to make themselves feel better. And to their advantage, they can do it under the guise of a bogus internet handle which of course brings little to no consequences for them and makes them cowards imo. In my mind makes them a little person and I feel sad for them. I don't have to justify or defend why I'm not skinny. Frankly I don't think I look good when I have a gaunt face and elfphin body under 110 lbs. I try to focus on my weight now in a healthier manner and not about what's on the scale or who says what about me. If I wanted to be skinnier, I would do it and not for anyone else and I am a healthy person. One of the things I have come to experience lately is self acceptance. It is one of the most freeing things in life. And if someone doesn't like how I look, they can kiss my big fat ass! Hehe.

I want a house elf. Like in the Harry Potter books. If anyone knows one, or is one, applications are welcome!

To three fabulous board members congratulations to you 3! Your input to the board is greatly appreciated!

Thanks, all! And congratulations to my friends NJ and Gabriella!

Congratulations luv on reaching the 3000 mark!!! :D

No one has talked on this site in a while. Have to mention Stella for an award. This athletic little spinner really know how to use her body in the CR. A session well worth repeating again and again. She was MIA for a while but is back as a regular again. Thank you Thank you Thank you.

All I want right now is a big thick penis!:biggrin:

The one and only Sweet Shay!!!

I have at least two places I could think of at the moment where I feel more at home or at peace. First, sitting on the deck in my backyard surrounded by trees, flowers and shrubs in the summer and watching all kinds of beautiful birds chirping away and feeding on the many feeders and fluffing their wings in the birdbath. Watching the humming birds feeding on nectar always makes me smile. Standing on top of Whistler, Blackcomb, and some other summits in the winter time at a height of 7000 ft and looking down - so traquil, so majestic, so serene!

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Thank you so much for posting this documentary, Shawn! I'm quite certain I've seen it before, but at the time I wasn't an escort and it was really nice to watch it again not only with my experiences as an escort, but also my experience as an escort with clients who have (dis)abilities. At 13:42, when the client being interviewed mentions that "tonight is very important" and he has the most wonderful smile on his face I couldn't help but tear up... Sex and disability is something most people don't think about seriously. In fact, it's often brushed off as something 'impossible' and/or 'unknowable'. People with visibile/invisible (dis)abilities are often believed to be 'asexual' and not in need of love and intimacy. This is especially the case with people who have invisible disabilities (autism, down syndrome, etc)... If people with (dis)abilities are sexual, it is considered perverse, wrong, 'abnormal'... it's really sad. I love when one of the women in the documentary states that "everyone has a right to sexual expression, including those with (dis)abilities". Very true! When I screen new patrons I almost always ask whether they have any mobility issues I should know about, and/or other (dis)abilities I should be aware of. If there are, I often research the best way to ensure we both have a good time. A book that has been really helpful for me is called "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability" by Miriam Kaufman, Cory Silverberg, and Fran Odette. It was referred to me by my friend, Tgirl-Kay. It's really good and I would encourage anyone interested in having pleasurable sex with someone with a visible and/or invisible (dis)ability to read it!

Livewire32 is excellent if you are in North Bay. She is very kind and easy going.