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Um... Like I said, I didn't want to assume to understand your intentions so I asked. Your explanation has come across that you've written lots of threads and posts and are trying to figure out what makes people click thank or nominate a post, and if they don't because they don't like the OP. I will speak only for myself - I am an adult, who has no time for drama or childish behavior. Therefore I don't have the time to had select which threads or posts I'm going to thank or nominate based on a like it dislike system. If it resonates with me and who I am, then I thank it. If it's considerate and touching, then I thank it. If it really touches me deeply, or makes so much sense to me it's awe inspiring, then I nominate it. And when the mood strikes I respond. Or start my own thread. I am still not clear what thanking posts and nominating posts has to do with supporting others within this industry. Yes, there are those who have formed bonded friendships. But that's not the point. I, for example, am a person who truly believes we get what we give. I believe in mutual respect and acceptance, regardless of differences. The golden rule: Do unto others... I have dignity and confidence in who I am. I encourage safe experiences equally among the sex workers I am associated with. I make recommendations to valued clients so they may have safe, pleasurable experiences too. I don't waste my time or energy on competition or ownership. I am me. Those who choose to see me do so at their own free will. Those who choose to associate with me (or not) do so at their own free will. In short, so I support SP's and hobbiests having a safe, pleasureable and mutually beneficial time in this industry? Of course I do. Do I think it has anything to do with thanking or nominating posts, or replying to threads? Not for me it doesn't!

Unfortunately, he jumped the gun out of impatience and not only on CERB. He started this thread at 05:13 PM today with the title "Would you be worried about being scammed" and an hour later, started another thread, on a different board named "Scammed by my regular girl". I really hope nothing serious has happened to this lady and I hope for you, the OP, that she is not scamming you. IF she was only unable to get back to you before your deadline (or today/tonight), with what you posted on the two boards, unfortunately, I highly doubt an apology (and retraction--if at all possible) will be able to repair what has already been done. To the OP, I hope things work out for you.

I had a delicious dinner tonight at Turtle Jacks Mississauga. I ate every morsel. When the server came to clear my plate she asked how my meal was and I responded ... "ya that was awful!" She could see I pretty much licked my plate. I'm pretty sure I didn't offend her :D And I'm 100% sure my comment had nothing to do with my self esteem.. or trying to make myself feel better :) I'm harmlessly sarcastic all the time! People better not start taking me seriously or I'm in big trouble lmfao ....

I'm not entirely sure I understand the point of this thread - so instead of assuming I'm going to ask for clarification... Are you suggesting that there are members of this board, primarily women (given what you've written here) that only "thank" or "nominate" their friends posts, and not just anyones? Please clear that up for me, as I am unsure of your meaning :)

When you are in a session and getting multiple texts from the same person and they start to get really rude and irate esp if I'm on an hour or appt or longer. I don't answer the phone when I'm with someone and I'm only one person. I wish that I could have a secretary but I don't. When you tell someone you don't negotiate or give discounts and they act self entitled. I don't want to hear about financial sitations either. It's none of my business and I don't wish to have someone put that on me. People serial texting or calling. I had someone text me 58 times the other day when I was visiting in the hospital! No joke! Picture texts of a person's junk. And..."How much for just a bj?"... "I'm young and hung". Sorry that doesn't pay my bills. lol.

just a note ... it might just be me (it often is lol) but I find the excessive use of smilies to be very sarcastic, especially if the comment preceding the smilie is up for interpretation. A smilie in the wrong place can totally change the meaning of your post. A smilie doesn't always mean your smiling. :D

Speaking for me, I support this board, this community, and consequently it's members (I hope) by my posts, and also by the use of "Thanks" "Comments/Rep Points" and/or "Nominate Post" I don't use any of these, including my own posts for any hidden agenda. My posts are my own opinions. And the use of "Thanks" "Comments/Rep Points" and /or Nominations, I use if someone's posts rubs me the right way (guess a bad way of putting it on a board like this LOL) But whether issued or not, they have nothing to do with like/dislike of a person. And I have been generous with a few people some days (they all rubbed me the right way LOL) that I had no more love to hand out, not for 24 hours at least Also, general comment, don't worry too much about "Thanks", "Rep Ponts" "Nominations". I've sometimes written what I think (my thinking may be wayyy off btw) a Pulitzer Prize winning post, and yet nothing...then a two line off the cuff comment, and lots of thanks. All I'm saying, don't read too much into "Thanks" "Rep Points" and or "Nominations"...I appreciate them when given but it isn't my reason for posting nor do I read any hidden meaning in not getting them And I give them when I think due, to another CERB member. BTW sometimes quoting and getting a agreeing post is another way to be acknowledged, and sometimes PM's and Visitor Messages too Anyhow, a rambling RG

I am closing this thread as it falls into the airing dirty laundry in public. I also dont like how this is escalating and is against the nature of this site

I have always tolerated requests for cbj but I'd much rather perform oral without a barrier. If someone tried to tell me I'd have to give up daty or kissing I'd retire.

Quote-The term support means different things to people at different times. It is not a one size fits all experience. Often a descriptive adjective preceding the word support is required, e.g., emotional support, financial support, physical support, psychological support.-unquote But lets speak to it as it as it relates to this thread and this online community:)Lets assume if you are a supportive member that you'd then give encouragement to all members, offer helpful advice, want to see them gain clients, friends or both, want them to succeed, have fun, have positive experiences, be productive and learn and if need be you'd correct them but in a positive and non-condescending manner, you'd want them to gain knowledge and experience not be embarrassed or to look silly. Many here have formed bonded friendships outside of this forum, beyond their business or hobby life, they are true friends. Many here only know others from their online voices and personas. Are you supportive to both? Do you thank and nominate threads and posts because of their authors, because of your relationship with the author, because they have said something to which you agree, because you feel they added value to this community, because you want to favor someone or do you avoid some altogether? Lets face it it's never easy to agree with someone you may not favor but as Voltaire said I may not agree with your word but I won't disagree with your right to say it, or something like that;) I guess my point is if someone is a supportive member that shouldn't start or end with who you like or dislike, if being supportive means you want a member(sp or hobbyist):) to flourish:)

I'm going to be blunt. My apologies in advance if I offend anyone, that isn't my intention. I thank those I agree with. I don't thank those I don't agree with. I nominate those I agree very strongly with and those that make a point so damn fine. That's a pretty simple way of putting it. I think, with all due respect, the OP needs to understand that in life..... shit happens, and people you thought would support you through thick and thin sometimes let you down. That's because they don't feel the same way as you. That's because they are as unique as you. It's very rare to have everyone in any given community agree with you or support you all the time. Learning this is a part of growing up.

Today (and the last few), crossing off a number of things on my To Do list that have been lingering for well over a year. I'm on a freakin' roll now....

From bottom to top: - It's definitely true that being part of a supportive community means not just hanging out in a corner with your best buddies, but moving through the room and listening to everyone's voice. Folks who are insecure in any community tend to build a fortress of allies, hide behind the walls of their clique, and from there hurl little barbed arrows of disdain and insult. That can be reassuring if you need it, but doesn't make a better community and wastes all of the potential to be found in diversity. It's easy to find reasons to dislike others. It's more work to find the reasons to like other people, especially people who aren't your usual crowd. But it's one of the ways we grow, and helps keep a community strong and healthy. - I use Thanks to acknowledge things that make me smile or laugh, or that say something I already feel. I Nominate posts that make me stop and think, teach me something, or do an especially good job expressing a view that I share. In all cases I click the button primarily for the content and not the author. But it's also true that I'm well-disposed to some familiar faces here on CERB, and that may sometimes tip the balance. But it's never the whole reason.

Hmmmmm.... a smiley conspiracy. Those emoji bastards. Just when you thought it was safe to trust them, they screw you.

Depending on what time of the day or evening you are looking for,a few ladies who take same day appointments and whose names come to mind are: LuxeMulvari Cleo Catra Ashley Myers MatureJen

Sarcasm, when best practiced, is an art form. There is nothing more amusing than seeing words turned ever so subtly into a humorous dig, especially when the words are meant not to harm, but to lighten the tension in a heated debate. The problem? When written, it takes a concerted effort to discern whether the words were meant in a hurtful sense or as probably intended, in a light hearted manner. As Gabriella has so eloquently put it, the use of smilies, emoticons or a well place LOL or hehehehehe enables the reader to take the written word not at face value, but as they were originally intended, as a bit of fun. This of course works with all sexes, races, and religions except for people of Saskatchewan and nationals of Latvia, Zimbabwe and Bosnia Hercegovina. Those fuckers have no sense of humour. ;)

They were charged with human trafficking, proof that current laws are adequate

When I post the hours I work and I always put I require 30-60 minute prep time and they expect me to be ready in 5 minutes...I am so sorry but I like to take a shower put on something sexy and prepare my room before inviting you over(candles music and clean linen) I unfortunately do not sit around in my lingerie waiting for my phone to ring(I would go mad) that is why I request pre booked appointments or notice Also if we had already discussed my dos and donts please do not request something I had already told you I do not do during our session(for instance I do.not.offer bbbj so why.see me if that is what you want...makes no sense to me) because I will not do something I.do not feel comfortable with

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Maybe it's just me .... but my first assumption in this case would be that they were not ok, that something serious must have happened to prevent them from getting in touch. I would not first assume that someone I am this familiar and comfortable with has "scammed" me. But then I'm a glass-half-full kinda girl ...

If she is a lady you know and have a regular "relationship" with, you both have discussed ahead of time and want to go on the trip together, then yes, prepay her and book the trip If you haven't discussed the trip or committed to it, yet then don't make any financial commitments, either in booking the trip or paying her I have to say though, if I saw a companion that pre paying was not an issue, I wouldn't after the fact be posting "Would you be worried about being scammed" Your relationship isn't that trusting if you post publically especially phrasing as a scam JMO this should have been handled more discretly between you and the lady, and even if she's late (in your mind), like for example one day, would that be a problem as long as trip is booked and you both go You should have had more faith in her before thinking the worst, or if she deserves thinking the worse, why would you want a trip with her JMHO from a guy who pre pays encounters most of the time, and never assumes the worst, because I know I'm not the only one with a life, the ladies have lives too RG

I am still here but haven't been on Cerb much as my Father is very sick right now. :(

Glad to see you were able to see a distinction between the two. But I still have to disagree with you that sarcasm is ONLY meant to "put down" others. I will give you two concrete examples (should have done that in my original post. It might have helped provide a clearer understanding): 1. My sister and I have a very close relationship. She is more than a sister to me. She is also a best friend. One day, we were cooking at her house and she asked me to take out the milk from the fridge. I grab the milk and, what do you know, the container slipped through my fingers and it spilled all over the floor. Instead of getting mad and annoyed, she used sarcasm to make a joke. She said: "Nice job! I couldn't have done a better job myself!". She gave me a wink and started laughing. Instead of me getting upset and hurt (seems to be the appropriate reaction to sarcasm, according to you), believe it or not, I laughed with her. We finally cleaned up, finished cooking and shared a great meal together and that was the end of it. My feelings weren't hurt and there was absolutely NO ill intentions with her words. It was all in good fun. 2. An example related to this industry... A genleman and I were in bed talking and enjoying a glass of nice champagne. I asked him if he would like me to refill his glass. He says "yes, of course" so I grabbed the bottle sitting in the ice bucket from the night stand. I filled up his glass half way and then did mine. While filling up mine, by accident, the gentleman "hit" my arm and champagne spilled on me. It's at that point he decided to use a sarcastic comment: "Ahhhhh, Gabby, you are so clumsy. What am I going to do with you. I guess I'm going to have to help you fix this mess and lick it off your body". My gentleman had a huge smile and grin on his face and started laughing. Again, was I supposed to get upset at his comment and take it in a way that was the opposite of his intention because his used sarcasm??? I have a great sense of humor. I don't take myself too seriously neither do I take others too seriously all the time. I think taking the blinders off, being able to see multiple sides of something, keeping an open-minded about possibilities, etc. is a choice and way of life. It might be more difficult at times but, in the end, well worth it, at least for me. Life is not always so black or white; it holds many shades of greys in between.

Saw Avah last night. For some reason I've never heard of her before but she's quite popular and busy at paradise. Formerly from ALO and AAA. Booked my usual 45 min at $65 door fee. Looks: I would say she's got this Amy Winehouse/Kim Kardashian thing going: black thick hair, dark makeup, some tats, kicking body, natural D's, not spinner not fat, just perfect. Awesome ass. Session was pretty awesome. Firm BS, using all her weight on me that felt great. Then she does this thing where she turns over so her back is contacting my back and she slides everywhere with butt rubbing on my back. Nice. Then I flip and she's front to me and flips again so her back is facing me. When I look in the mirror it looks and feels like RCG. Tons of oil, holy shit. Throughout the whole thing I'm actually thinking "I hope I don't slip inside her!" Lol. OK guys, I will say only this: her menu is extensive. PM me if you don't understand what that means. I left satisfied. Damage was on par with what I'd expect. Repeat: sure. However, I'm not sure if I'd repeat every time with her. I'd have to be in the mood for her energy level. Her attitude was amazing, and she's not shy at all. Closest thing I've ever had to what I'd call PSE in a MP setting :). If you're in the mood for a bad girl, go see Avah.

Hello everyone! I chatted with several of you at our last event to gauge interest in regards to having a social to celebrate the upcoming summer season - and before we all head out on vacation. I know most of you are quite flexible when it comes to attending these events, but i'd still like to hear of preferences (if any). As always, it'll be held on a thursday night: May 29th, June 5th, or June 12th For those wishing to express a preference, you can either post here, or send me a private message by Friday, April 11. I'll post the date in this thread to make it more official. The earlier i know, the earlier i'll post! :icon_lol:

Sending best wishes for the best birthday ever!!

Brilliant, Emily! Thank you so much for this! Here's one of my favorite myths..... "Sex workers are too lazy and stupid to do anything else..'" I may be new, but the sex workers are caring, kind, and exceptionally bright. Canadian sex workers are bringing about changes to the Canadian constitution that are being recognized internationally. Lazy whores are making history! Learn THAT lesson, naysayers!:biggrin:

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Well with the time constraints being the consideration you'd have to ask the lady if she is interested But I have had some Great Encounters with the following ladies Kylie Daniels is a Toronto companion, and if you pay her transportation fee she will come out to the airport Kylie's Profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=73262 Emily Rushton is a touring lady, who's locale is Canada ;-) but has been known to come to Toronto airport Emily's Profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=22822 Victoria Jolie is another companion who tours and has come to Toronto airport Victoria's Profile http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=17627 I don't know if Emily or Victoria are touring in Toronto, but you can ask You would have a memorable escape with any one of these three ladies Good Luck RG

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Large ones, tiny ones, Firm ones, not Round ones, flat ones, They please a lot. All are good and all are great, Add chocolate syrup and we'll make a date I'm easily pleased and love em all, But truth be told, I love them small.

Hope your day is as special as you are! Have a good one my friend! xoxo

It is quite interesting to follow these threads that open up genuine fun discussions. I thought it was time to throw in my nickles worth here. I have to agree with the original post in this thread and christycurves take on the article and the subject. Sarcasm is meant to be demeaning and belittling, but thinly veiled as humor....the first thing that pops into my head when I hear or read someone being sarcastic is....you sarcastic SOB. I think there is often confusion between the various forms of "wit", the examples that Gabriella Laurence and Miss Jessica Lee use are more along the lines of being facetious, and are meant to be humorous and playful. Just an opinion.:icon_wink:

Photos of your junk, if anything shouldn't that be why ladies get a donation...guys' junk is so called because.....LOL And in my case at least I look much better covered up, once naked, well that's where the ladies earn the donation, just from looking at me, and I've heard the word, geez that is junk, well junky (said tongue in cheek btw) Anyhow, no junk photos, you may just scare the ladies away, they might think no amount of money is worth this LOL Young and hung, well I'm old and not...btw to those guys ever notice a lot of ladies prefer guys 30 and up...heyyy wonder if there is a CARP discount (Canadian Association Of Retired Persons) btw just joking Just a BJ!!! WTF!!! A lady is doing one of the most intimate, personal caring activities for you...just a BJ WTF are you thinking even asking that. Getting a BJ should be treated as a lady's priceless gift to you. Repay that gift by treating her with the utmost respect, including obviously paying the donation in full, a tip and gift nice, and say Thank You. Just some half tongue in cheek half serious ramblings RG

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I have a couple of gents who contact me every few weeks by text, to say things like: "nice new pics, I hope I can come see you soon!" "happy easter, want to book some time soon!" "happy mothers day beautiful ... maybe we can get together soon!" "merry christmas babe, I will come see you in the new year!" "more sexy new pics? you're gorgeous babe! see you soon!" "happy Hanukkah sweetheart ...." ... ok I'm kidding with that one ... but seriously... .... guess when was the last time these guys actually booked a visit? My curiosity makes me wonder if I'm one of fifty ladies these dudes text. Maybe he sits on his phone all day every day ... sending happy holiday wishes to all the girls. fml... Additional Comments: I don't think it's a big deal because there's plenty of gents who don't necessarily require a website to book. Another note to keep in mind however, I don't provide references to ladies I don't know if I can't find a website. It's a way to determine legitimacy for us, too :)

Just a quick note about chewing gum: please spit it out before we start kissing/getting down to business. Once a gent got gum in my pubes, no joke.

The keys to making encounters extraordinary is actually quite simple. First, do your homework to ensure you understand your guest's expectations then do follow thru to make it happen before he arrives to the best of your ability. The next thing is THE key... STAY IN THE MOMENT from the minute you open the door until you close it after he leaves. By staying in the moment I mean... 1. Do not allow random thoughts floating thru your head to take hold. They are clouds, just let them float thru while you focus your attention on your guest. Don't allow the "am I doing this right?", "does this angle make my stomach look fat?" or "I need to go grocery shopping as soon as he's done." to interfere with your time with your guest. This time is about the two of you together and nothing else matters at this point. There is time to process a worthy unrelated thought after he's gone. 2. See the humanity in your guest before all else. This is the part of him you want to touch deeply. He isn't a business guru, construction worker, accountant, father, brother, son when he is with you. He is simply a man, with all of the qualities that makes him strong and vulnerable at the same time. Recognize this, let him be himself with no expectations that he is anything else. The human connection is the one that he will feel and not forget. 3. Follow the bouncing ball. Watch, listen and respond to the story that his body and tone of voice tell. Words can be deceptive but the body always tells the truth. He gives you all the clues you need to make a visit spectacular, you just need to be open to seeing them; to do that you need to follow the moment and trust your intuition to decipher what he is actually needing rather than just what he thinks he wants. It's easy once you practice it a bit, like karaoke. Just watch the little red bouncing ball of "right now". 4. Remember the humanity in him first and foremost. Make a mental file on him. After he leaves, think about what you learned about the real him and file that gold away. If you connected with him, he'll be back and you then have the keys to getting him to shed to masks he wears in the outside world, allowing him to once again just be himself but more efficiently than the last time leaving more time for genuine connection. Follow these steps with every visit and before long you are the Sanctuary he seeks when the outside world is closing in on him. You are who he turns to, to forget, to reconcile, to release all of the stresses that hunt him. These may or may not be conversations of words but more often with my guests they are a ballet of touch, movement and physical expression... Remember that this interaction isn't about you, it's about the both of you. It certainly isn't all about the sex. The physical is simply a vehicle to express ourselves together; it's about releasing what is needed and renewing one's life energy so we can meet the world another day from a positive frame of mind. A man comes to us because of a physical urge but that is merely symptomatic of the underlying need for connection without negativity whether your guest realizes it or not. He never needs to understand your process but he will never forget the time he shared with you if the connection to the real him is made... This is what I think makes an experience memorable... cat

Weekly poker tournament sound amazing. I don't know how well I'll be able to keep my poker face though lol. Another suggestion that was made in a different thread was jello/oil/pudding wrestling... I think that would be an awesome idea. My two cents :-)

Hope you do open up here;) It truly is a unique site, with dynamic, interesting good people. To share with, and be able to connect with people whom are like minded:) I for one, find being apart of cerb as a privilege that has become very meaningful to my life. Hope you spread your wings, and get what you need from this community and in turn participate and let us get to know you too!