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MC... we take these threads seriously. Boundaries are very important.

I'm wondering if there is often a link when men who pay for it and have those feelings like they are ashamed/not good enough often think the same as the SP and that she doesn't like her job?? I had one person I see which isn't too often say to me not too long ago "Don't you wish you could quit this job?" What? Are you implying that this is all I can do and I have no other options? To me, this is an insult. It's simply not true and have left this business a number of times to do other things. I always find my way back here not because I couldn't handle other things but because I want to be here. Most people here know that I speak my mind and trust me, I'm not going to do something that I don't want to do! If I hated this job, I would have been gone long ago. It takes a special kind of woman to do this job and I am one of those women. I am a very stubborn and strong willed person! lol. I've been around for a while and am good at what I do. If you don't find me here one day, you will know I've become bored and decided to go another route which I have done in the past. The hours are great, the pay, each day is always different and I call the shots. So I often wonder when some men come to see SPs with negative feelings, do they automatically assume that we don't like what we're doing either? I realize not every hobbyist feels this way but due to the secrecy and taboos of the business, many may feel that this is a negative thing. I've met some great men and I've never made them feel bad because they were paying for it and they never made me feel like I was just doing this because I had no other choice. There are choices in life and this is one I made on my own accord which I don't feel bad about. We as service providers are here to satisy needs and urges and you pay us to leave without any b.s. I would say we are easier to deal with than one night stands or having a high maitenance girlfriend who rarely puts out. And our services are much less expensive in the long run without the headaches or complications as opposed to going the traditional route of getting laid. You only live once so enjoy it while you can! :)

Greater love hath no man than this, that a man donate the present contents of his Pooning Fund towards the purchase of a new laptop for his daughter. She and her husband make modest incomes. Her old laptop died and her prospects for a replacement are dim. Food and mortgage before laptops. She is starting an at-home business this summer and is trying to work out how she will do the records and bookkeeping. She doesn't know she is getting this tomorrow. This is going to be fun! :) Plus Papa gets to learn how to set up Windows 8!

Bars? I'm sure you can pick up as many escorts in a bar as you can in church. Just saying...lol

The biggest things are crossing someone's boundaries and I don't mean in a sexual kind of way. I think you have to let things fall naturally into place or you're going to seem like an eagar beaver which can be annoying or someone with an agenda which gets the spidey senses going with the ladies. To be honest and just a little constructive criticism here ( not a personal attack) is that you've mentioned things in passing about the ladies in your posts like when such and such a lady told you something. She said that in private and I'm a firm believer that it should never be relayed to anyone else let alone on an internet forum. If you want to piss off an SP and never see her again, this is one of the biggest things you can do. Once you write a recco of that lady and the nice things that transpired, whatever private convos or services that happened that day, should never be spoken of again. The only exception is when someone is asking for a good SP to spend time with. If you speak too fondly about a lady over and over, many may think you are a 'shiller' for her and then others members may begin to question this. Whatever conversations I have with clients in private have never been posted in a thread which I very much appreciate. If a woman is comfortable with you and trusts you, she will open up to you. If she finds all her dets splashed across threads on Cerb, I know if it were me, I'd never be seeing that person again! Personal boundaries and another person's privacy are of the utmost importance in this business and without that you don't have any credibility or trust. No one is out to get anyone here and while we realize you have come into a hobby that you enjoy and are excited to share things but please don't share with us that a lady feel comfortable to tell you her real name. This is not necessary and can be harmful to her and her business. Being too inquisitive will make an SP feel uncomfortable and want to head for the hills. Don't ask too many questions and should you two begin to develop a "business relationship" and the operative word here is "business", then over time she will share things but please whatever you do, don't ask things like it's the Spanish Inquisition. It's the number one pet peeve of providers and while you seem like an open person, please understand that the person you are spending time with may not be. A little goes a long way in this business.

Who the hell invented monogamy anyway ? That concept never existed all through mankind's history untill someone, a few centuries ago, decided the one and only one hypocricy. It defies all research and all statistcs. Humans are naturally polygamous. Dunno why somepeople still have an issue with that. Some natural people despite that they are married and have extra marital affairs; They will still seek variety and pay for it. Otherwise we wouldn't have the SP profession in the makeup of human society. One shoul recognize nature, accept it and enjoy living with it.

I have followed this discussion and told myself I was not going to get involved in it simply to be on the safe side of the board. I understand what mister_crufty is going through in his marriage because I am also in the same boat, I love my wife very much and we are totally compatible except for sex. Let me try to explain a bit more without going into details. Something in our relationship happened over 10 years ago and she became depressed (its not something I did) and refused sex completely. I figured I would give her time to get back to normal but as time went by every thing stayed the same. We had a great sex life, 2-3 times a day anywhere in the house, outside, in the pool, in the car, public park etc. When all of this stopped for me I tried my best to cope with it without leaving her and this "hobby" gave me the solution to my dilemma. Nothing about her changed except for the sex, she is a very very attractive women and it HURTS me not being able to have her to myself like I used to. She is starting to give me intimacy now but it took forever to get here. There is more but those are confidential things I don't want to share with all of you. We love each other and I know I would have a difficult time to find someone to give me has much as she does, we have a long time relationship and that is worth so much to me. Sorry if I made this a long story for you all to read. Don't be judging anyone and if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. That's the rules here. To finish I just want to say to answer the OP's question, Yes I feel bad but I have needs like everyone here and I cope with it and take in the best from what I do in my life. My decision I have to live with the consequences if she finds out.

Hello Gentlemen, I sent Nova a friendly message regarding this thread and she is now a member:icon_biggrin:. I don't know her but she seems very nice and was flattered to hear you were asking about her, so I'm quite sure you will welcome her and treat her well!! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=80190 Big Hugs, Lexy

I don't think that these generalizations apply to most of us, Harrywatch. Speaking for myself, as one who has had more than "many" partners, I have no difficulty whatever enjoying the sex. I often enjoy it a great deal. Perhaps this is because I take time to get to know the men who visit me and to create an atmosphere where we can be comfortable together and our mutual pleasure increased. In fact, I think that time and experience has enhanced my ability to enjoy everything that goes on between us.

It is believed that men invented monogamy, as a way to control and know if the kids their women have are indeed their own. A natural maternal based society has women having multiple lovers in order to have healthy babies. http://news.harvard.edu/gazette/2000/10.19/01_monogamy.html

imkrissy for sure! Large breasts and very sexy.

My food being cross contaminated with shellfish on January 17th landing me in the hospital for almost 2 weeks. Worst and scariest allergic reaction to date. The few times I leave out the house for dinner without taking my first line of defense Benadryl this happens but I'm lucky to always have an epi-pen on hand. All better now:icon_biggrin:!!

I vote for option #2. It would be good for the "subject" to meet potential clients too :D

This is the most WTF thing I've read for quite a long time...

Only 1 week until the social. Who's excited?

Cleo, perhaps?

i know that people prefer to think of sps and escorts as just a set of acronyms provided, but yes, indeed a lot of us do a lot more than just a bj.

The same goes for early mornings. As a guy who works the night shift I appreciate a provider that can see me early in the morning when I get off work and have found a few that are happy to if properly notified. If your "play" time falls outside the accepted norm, you can't expect to have your choice of available providers at the last minute. I always call a day or two in advance to set up an appointment and usually call to confirm the morning of just to make sure they're up. Most girls will make time for you if you show them that you respect their time enough to per-book! And of course, make sure you SHOW UP for your appointment!

Sort of reads like a bad episode of Oprah..... It's all about taking personal responsibility for one's actions. Peace MG

I just blame the dog and carry on. This works even if there is no dog.

If I were you I would stay away from CL, period.

1. Whats your "real" name? 2. How many men have you been with today? 3. So, have you been busy? 4. Is your real hair color/breast size/nails/tan real? 5. How did you get into the business? 6. Do you have a boyfriend/SO/partner? 7. Why don't you go Indie? 8. Can I stand you on your head while you give me a bj? 9. Why do you have to put the condom on now? 10. Can I have a tour of your place? 11. Who is that in the picture? 12. Are the sheets clean? 13. Did you shower? 14. Tell me the difference between the 1hr and 2hr option besides time, I might want to readjust our session. 15. Is that what you are wearing? 16. I thought you would be _________ (taller, shorter, skinnier, fatter, younger, older) 17. I brought rolled change for part of my donation, is that a problem? (paid $250 in rolled pennies and dimes) 18. Do you own this place? 19. You should take yoga. 20. Have you ever considered having your breasts done? 21. Do you have a bong? 22. Can you drive me home afterwards? 23. I have a friend in the car, is it ok if he waits in your livingroom? 24. How many children do you have? 25. Do you REALLY enjoy it or are you an awesome actress? 26. Can we "just hang out" cause I think we have a real connection. 27. What are the perks if I become a good regular? 28. Can I leave my shoes and socks on for the whole visit? 29. Whats the weirdest request you've ever had? 30. Has anyone ever hurt you during an appointment? 31. Does your family know what you do? And my all time favorite! 32. Your such a smart woman, why don't you get a real job? These are all questions I have been asked personally and they range from mildly annoying to WTF is he thinking! cat

I noticed that in all reccomendations that a hobbyist writes, there is no link to the lovely ladies profiles. You have to go search for her name. I for one would like to have a direct link to her profile, does anyone else feel this way?

Yes leave it to me to bring this subject up, lol. But lets face it we all have had, I'm sure, moments when our bodies unexpectedly act and respond in ways we don't expect. Certain sexual positions, foods, conditions can cause noises at inappropriate times. Do bodily noises cause you embarrassment or do you appologize and just carry on?

Why don't you pay the travel fee and have someone from Ottawa, Kingston or Cornwall, etc. come and see you?

I'm very sorry to hear this. May you find peace in this most difficult time and my condolences to you.

I would recommend Jude. Jude is the master at massage and slow tease. In the last session she built up for quite awhile knowing when to stop and when to restart. It was awesome. Takes minutes to recover from sessions with Jude. Plus she is really hot....

It never hurts to cross reference your info with other sites. But if you are new to the hobby, it may be wise to stick to this bored. As it is tried, tested and true. New hobbiest are often times tricked as they are not familar with the industry and who is who. NOT TO SAY that ONLY ladies here are worth it meeting...but if you can not cross reference the ladies info then please go in with eyes wide open just as this poster did. You did the correct thing in double checking her age and contact info, good work! I wonder if she is working on her own will? This is a concern with such a young lady!! Perhaps the LE should be notified? I would hate to think she could be a victum of child abuse in anyway:(

I'm good for all of them but the two lingerie items. I've had a lot of time to work through that list. :)

Thank you DrLove. I'm actually doing much better and haven't annoyed anyone too much in quite a while. Sucks being a socially awkward penguin. I'm always so nervous when I meet someone new and I tend to babble when I'm nervous. I thought it might be nice to have some 'canned' conversation starters to fall back on if I feel like I'm too nervous. Either way, I'm hijacking this thread...it's not about what TO say, it's about what NOT to say. And hey, I just learned a new one! Offtopic jokes in a serious thread! Sorry all.

i have seen a few ladys from here and really only had one bad experience. check out the posts and then the ladys profile and give one an email if you need more info, like where she might be located. then just give her a call. as i say the majority are very friendly and very easy to talk to and get along with. some times you just have to take the jump. good luck and just enjoy

Personally, I find the best bet is to watch the advertising section, see who is active. When you find someone who catches your eye, look at her profile. She might have a website link or more information. Lots of independents here so you'll have plenty of choice. Once you've found someone, go take a look and see if she has a recommendation thread. This will be your best way to see what kind of experience others have had and decide whether she's the one. Then it's simply a matter of contacting her. Be polite and put your best foot forward. These ladies don't HAVE to do anything with you. They CHOOSE to. Not sure what you mean by 'low-key' but I sense it might be a line of questioning that you should be careful with. Here there be dragons.

Insomnia. I don't sleep very well. After a while, it really starts to grind you down.

Ive Done all but 3! And Im not telling you which ones! :P They were all great! I'd recommend them all. :D Especially one in particular, its my all time favorite :) J xo

I've done the following 1 3 6 11 13 14 16 17 22 24 27 28 32 33 41 42 43 48 49 I'm ashamed that as a former boat owner I never did 19 RG

Last day of work after 18 months which were a hell of a ride, particularly the last 2 weeks. Brushed up and closed a few files till mid-late afternoon, did my milk run to get signatures to pack my office, only to have my colleagues waiting for me to give me a good-bye card. As i did my round of the floor before leaving, i realized i'll miss my coworkers. Between the ups and downs at work, it's the best group of people i ever worked with at this point.

Indeed. From a purely romantic standpoint, I would have loved to be alive in the age of exploration. When new worlds were being discovered by brave men on sailing ships. Pretty shitty time for the average person but cool nonetheless.

I think it's safe to say nobody really wants to go back in time and actually live in the times they're citing; I'm rather fond of modern medicine after all. :) Plus the marriage equality thing, and the like. But other eras can lay claim to something that's missing or absent from ours; it's all a matter of perspective. Plus, the cost of our elaborate digital lives is the eroding of personal contact. When your community is virtual, it's less inclined to be local; how many of us know more people more deeply on other continents than we do within 500m of our home? And e-mails aren't handwritten letters, each a little work of everyday art. Losses, for sure. Outweighed on the whole by gains, I think... but losses nonetheless. Hence, perhaps, this thread. ;)

Probably better than being on for 7 years and having only one post to your name. :)

fingers crossed that everything goes well. Definitely you'll be our hearts and thoughts. Porthos

Good luck with the operation, I hope everything goes the smoothest possible. Sending you warm wishes, and I'll be keeping you in my thoughts all day Tuesday! xo

Well I like mister_crufty because as a newish member he has had great confidence to initiate threads and to respond to so many others. Geeze, it took me six months after I began here to have enough confidence to even say hello! Now I realize that whenever I open one of his posts I will never have any idea what it is that I am going to read! It seems as though I like unpredictability. :) Now, he did rush ahead without reading instructions from post # 1 so he overlooked Samantha Evans and I shall try to make that right. I like Samantha because her presence here is like a breath of sunshine. I wish I could write as she does in such a thoughtful way and with such depth. She is simply a wonderful person and has been and continues to be an inspiration for all. I must have missed the posts from Lee about the Croatian Penis Warmers. Are they yet another of his entrepreneurial endeavors? I expect that he is wearing one today!

It is indeed a fetish and there are those that seek it out. Years ago I had a client that was a master at making girls expel. It made me nuts because the entire session was just a long series of queefs and I would giggle throughout it which kills the mood for me. I finally offloaded him to an agency because having my uterus filled with air once a week was a little much and my instinct said it wasn't healthy. I'm not sure if that's a medical fact but when my little voice says something I listen; even if the medical community doesn't back her up. I don't worry about it happening as it is unavoidable in some positions and if a playmate gets offended if I do it, then he's in the wrong place with the wrong person! I look at queefs like I do burps, gas and hiccups. They happen to everyone at some point and can be a catalyst for a good giggle break. If you can't laugh at these things, then you are way too serious to play at my house... cat

Oh my god...I mention that in my alphabet poem: Q is for queef...some times kitties burp. I love them...I think they're hilarious. I had an ex with whom I could use certain angles (legs in the air) to basically make them on demand, like making fart noises with your armpit. We would laugh and laugh...she said it tickled. Good times. Thanks for the memory.

Precisely. That's exactly what I was getting at with my comments in regards to body type being irrelevant. And just so we are clear, "skills" in this industry go far beyond sexual capabilities. Let's be honest, would you see the girl who "screws best" if she was addicted to crack and wanted to get high during your sessions, a lady who makes you feel unsafe by having other questionable adults or children present at the time of your encounter? Those are just 2 of the many, many, many different examples of how things like personality, demeanor & attitude, lifestyle, mutual respect, discretion, (the list can go on) many things come into effect when an SP provides you with a "service".... And to clarify : Do not mistake my personality and attitude as the same thing. My personality is WHO I AM, my attitude depends on who you are. DISCLAIMER: YMMV.

It's interesting because I never say to myself "I don't know why I don't feel bad about being an SP". I just don't and never have. If I did, I wouldn't doing what I'm doing. So if you're hobbying and feeling bad, perhaps you shouldn't do it. If you're hobbying and you don't feel bad, then you have nothing to worry about. Enjoy!

for the couple of members that are new to this and whos eyes are opened by what is legal or not, here is a great link to familiar yourself with...which might even change soon if they lift the ban on incalls. Canada is pretty much the opposite of the states....outcalls legal yet incalls or brothels illegal in canada...I've had to lecture friends of mine many a time and reference this link when they thought they were running around being friends with a "criminal" (ie. me) according to US television standards http://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/C-46/section-212.html

I find it funny how some members of the other board and some members who are members of both boards always manage to put down CERB recommendations. No negative feedback allowed on Cerb doesn't mean that every recommendation for every single lady is sugar coated. I find the comment I quoted above in bold is disrecpectful towards the gentlemen who take the time to write recommendations and for the ladies who receive them. My two grains of salt ;)

I dont know if its illegal but... its very disrespectful!

Came out of the shadows this year... so to avoid sounding like a shill on my first review.... combined three into one try and not seem like I am being one. First: St. Vital Asian: Nice Condo, Last minute, she is no longer here, ok time, she was the one that coo'ed like a pigeon for those who had visited her. :icon_redface: Second: Hana - Asian In the Village Nice Condo/Apartment - Taller than I expected, warmed me up from the outside cold just right. Big head was distracted, affected the little head, Hana was wonderful and lent a helping hand with some gfe cuddles and helped ease my troubles. Lastly: Tessa or Toocutee My most recent friendly visit. Did not find anything true about some of the words spoken previously. Soft, sweet (in both ways), responsive, good conversation. Would repeat. It's like watching a movie gentleman, the reviews help you decide if it is what you are in the mood for, in the end it's all about wether you walk out of it saying to yourself... wow!