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Boys, stick to CERB! In a recent last minute scramble, I went the BP route and regretted it tremendously. I took two hits for the team, and they hit hard. Forget taking chances with BP and CL and all that shit; STICK WITH CERB! Take it from a guy whose physical integrity was close to being breached. As a red wino, I know what it's like to manage an addiction, but I witnessed people so lost in their addictions that they reminded me of the soulless cannibals in the book/movie The Road.

Sorry about your bad experience hun.. Hugs and virtual kisses to you! Cerb is amazing and even for us providers is safer. I do advertise on CL and BP as well but specially lately I see soo many new adds from many ladies that oFfer their services at lower rates.., but that's excatly what you get a lower quality of service. You get for what you pay.. But many gentlemen think they are getting a deal, when in fact they are getting riped off by non proffesional subjects.... Again smiles, kisses and hugs!!!

I think what I find is that people take a lot for granted or have been spoiled by a site like cerb that has forums, feedback and admin moderation to control the advertisers, so to speak. Most advertising only sites don't have recos, reviews, discussion, or networking, and what happens it seems to me is that someone who relies on a 3rd party, in a way, to vet the posters has a certain amount of confidence that the poster is legit. But they shouldn't because really it comes down to more than just an ad posted and a phone number for most here to make a selection, so it should apply as well when you use any other site. I think what I find is that people tend to spend even less time with their selection process on the other ad sites than they would on this site, and that makes me wonder what the heck are they thinking? lol If you use this site, you are going to do a variety of things: check other ads, the profile, the discussion posts, possibly contact by pm or the sp's preferred method, check their website if they have one. Maybe even do a google search to see what the sp has on other sites. But on other ad only sites, the typical method is see ad, call sp, make appt, show up. What you could and should be doing is: see ad, contact sp and ask if they have a website to view, search the phone number on the site to view other ads, and google the phone number/sp name to see what comes up. Phone or email to get a feel for the sp herself, since there are no posts for you to view, and then and only then, make an actual appointment. Advertising sites are not created good and evil, and therefore dismissable simply because a few bad apples use them. and not every reputable site is able to filter out the bad apples or fake pic users or ad content stealers, or name stealers or any number of things. There are just as many pitfalls on this site that might come up as there are on CL, bp, or anywhere else. I do get tired of being labeled as disreputable simply due to the location of my ads, and I am sure many others are as well? I am also not that fond of having my clients from those sites being labeled as undesireable.

Vitto is sooooo right. (She always is!) Just because you see someone listed on another venue doesn't necessarily make them unworthy of your dollars - providers use the resources available to maximize potential business - it's just good business sense to use all the free advertising that you can! That being said, the lesser lights on those other sites tend not to make a big splash here on CERB - either because they lack the business sense to spread the word, or they fear review/recommendation boards of any kind. The brightest stars ascend because they are worthy of our accolades... and that's why CERB is our first and best choice for finding the quality experience that we all so justly deserve.

These last posts by Porthos and Gabriella Laurence both highlight the thoughtful and insightful nature of this thread. While the input of clients is important, the true beauty of this thread is the insight and personal revelations of the SPs. We, as clients can only know a small portion of the incredible challenges of being a SP and the more I get to know a few of the them, I realize how it can lead to a very complex and secretive life. It's wonderful for Karina to be falling in love but the challenge of revealing her true feelings to a client (lucky enough to be on the receiving end) is not always going to end up with a "Pretty Woman" ending? As Porthos and Gabriella Laurence so pointedly remarked that the parameters of their relationship may not change anything about their present lives. They may declare their love but who says Karina will stop being a SP or he will leave his wife (if there is one)?? We have to stop jumping to conclusions and just enjoy the process. Simply put, there is nothing wrong for Karina to fall in love with her client but the complexities of their lives will dictate the extent and nature of their relationship. Lastly, the intelligence, soulfulness, and the emotional range of responses that have been exhibited on this thread makes it obvious that many of the SPs and clients are thoughtful, intelligent, and emotionally secure with their feelings. A good community to know.....

If you were not her customer you may want to just skip this and move on to next thread. If this upsets or offends anyone I apologize. Out of respect I am asking you keep any comments of poor taste to yourself and simply ignore this post if it bothers you in any way. If the mods decide this isn't appropriate I understand and apologize. Ok, lots of guys have been asking about Jen and out of the blue she called me the other day. She is doing well and thanks everyone for asking. She asked me to pass on a message and to be honest I am not real comfortable doing this or even sure it's appropriate but as a good friend of hers, here goes ..... Some of you know that she suffered a tragedy a while back, shortly after she left work in Ottawa. She lost her youngest son and BF in a car accident due to a drunk driver. They were on the way to see Jen who was in the hospital, her older kids were hurt pretty badly but recovered nicely since. There is WAY more to this story than meets the eye and this is where I struggle to know how much or what to say. I had seen Jen a few times after the accident as a friend to support her and we talked a lot as she knew I had lost a son as well. But 5 months later I started a project for work that involves travel. Upon return her phone numbers no longer worked and I decided she wanted to be left alone so I did not pursue contacting her in any way. I'll just mention that her son predicted his own and his father's death (this was confirmed to me by Jen's daughter) and in a strange twist of fate contributed to the accident which took their life. All of these unusual events have caused Jen to find religion. She quit massage and is doing hair only in BC. This all sounds unusual I am sure but keep in mind I am relaying this for Jen. Before his death her son told Jen that he was going to go to heaven soon but warned Jen that she was going to hell with her customers. This is what has Jen concerned and why she has changed her life but feels VERY strongly that her former customers need to be warned of this. She feels she can't truly be at ease until this is said so here I am feeling very conflicted writing this. She misses her customers who were also friends and wants them to know. She also extends an invitation to call her if you like, I will pass on her phone number via PM if you can convince me you were a friend of hers who will not call to upset her. Keep in mind she lives on the west coast and this is long distance, so it will cost you to call her. And don't expect a quick call if you want her to elaborate :) Those of you who know me will know this is no hoax and I do not endorse or condone the sentiments or beliefs expressed by Jen. This is her request and as a good friend of hers I am putting myself out on a limb to help her, much as I have done through the years.

I also advertise elsewhere. You know I can always tell if I am talking to someone from CERB without asking them? They are always more polite, respectful and appreciative. I would love to use CERB exclusively, but here in the Maritimes, there is not enough members here to get consistent business. The requests from the other sites bring in some really wonky people and my screening for these are more stringent. Sorry you took a bad hit. Virtual hugs and kisses! xoxo

Today was my sisters birthday and we had supper. I ate all the things that are bad for me, totally enjoyed myself and I am now crawling to bed. :icon_biggrin:

An anthropologist proposed a game to the kids in an African tribe. He put a basket full of fruit near a tree and told the kids that who ever got there first won the sweet fruits. When he told them to run they all took each others hands and ran together, then sat together enjoying their treats. When he asked them why they had run like that as one could have had all the fruits for himself they said: ''UBUNTU, how can one of us be happy if all the other ones are sad?'' 'UBUNTU' in the Xhosa culture means: "I am because we are"

Im sure we can ALL relate to this. Even Men. They seem to leave men out of these campaigns supporting self esteem. Men have heart, brains, and soul too. Only I guess it's less socially acceptable for men to have 'feelings' or 'body image issues'. Either way just wanted to share this link on how self critical people can be on themselves, yet the world sees them differently. ;-) Everyone has SEXY in them ;) Giddy Up!

Being disabled and a client of sex workers over the years means, for me, a conscious effort to avoid using labels and stereotypes in order to keep the issue focused on people's humanity, and indeed the right to great sex for everyone regardless of their standing in society. In other words all people are human beings first and foremost and all are entitled to full expression and experience in carrying on their lives. For me a date with someone who has made sex and eroticism their profession, is in many ways far more meaningful than just the physical aspects. There is a large emotional very personal aspect. As you might have guessed I am a romantic, and wouldn't have it any other way :). I have spent time with true masters of their field. Indeed "artisans" in the highest sense in the work. But that too is just another form of label. One which is meant to infer high praise in this context. Initially, and with the urging of a few wise friends, I went on my first eight as a form of rebellion against the not-so-subtle forms of marginalization the health-care system implies. It very quickly evolved into "Wow, this is what I've been missing!" It quickly evolved into something which is very integral to my life. Earlier today I noticed the terms "hobby" and "hobbyist" which denote for me a much more casual [perhaps less important] perspective. Which got me thinking: Where does the sex worker/date experienced fit for you? From both the client and worker perspective. So let the discussion commence. From casual, hobby, art form, or is it a "a life's calling" as one person referred to it years ago, how far-reaching is the spectrum? PatrickGC

Well, I am so proud of myself.....I am good at figuring things out, but sometimes will overthink things and can't figure anything out...Normally I try, can't do it, try again, and if I can't do it, I will then ask for help. However, I decided to do this on my own. Not a big issue, really not an issue of technical support, just figuring out how the software on the site works. Well, this is about the daily email notifications I get about the threads I replied to. So I go in, read the threads, and then have to delete the emails. This didn't usually create a problem before, because I was only ever on the library computers, for no more then 15 minutes. So, I never really had time to reply to threads and so never really had an issue of deleting emails too. Now that I have a computer of my own, and internet access at certain times, my thread replies and involvement on this site have exploded. Now I was deleting so many emails, after I had already read the thread (after all that's the first I look at), I thought there has got to be a better way. Well, low and behold, there really is a better way. I found out (on my own I might add) that there is a link that you can choose that says "no email notification". Can you believe it? All this time, I have been deleting these emails, when I could have prevented them from coming? Kinda like putting a condom on your email account..... I like it.

Good afternoon my lovely Cerbies!!! Let me brighten up and be the highlight of your week, here is where to find me.. Tomorrow I will be available by appt at the location of your choice from 9am to 7pm... Pick ur place and allow me 20-30 min to arrive ;) Tuesday 8-7 East End Wednesday 8-7 downtown Thursday 9-7 VIP South Friday 8-8 West Saturday 9-4 VIPSouth (only a couple more saturdays) In april the Specials are for the EARLY BIRDS wanting to see me Before 9am on Tuesdays, Wednesdays or Fridays only.... Appt Required and must be booked at least the night before.. Dont forget to visit my profile and check my albums..., and whe you do.., dont be shy and say hi! Here is what Cerbies think about me http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=V&t=69954 Other related links.... http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=448766&highlight=vitto#post448766 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...766#post448766 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...739#post439739 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...665#post441665 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...060#post427060 http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=441665&highlight=vitto#post441665 To reach me and find more information or book an appointment.... Call/text 6132610054 Txt only 8195130877 Email [email protected] or PM Or come meet me in chat...

I can usually tell what people are like by the way they interact with others. On CERB, I interact with the ladies and also see how they get along with others. That's important to me...... I want to know the person behind the screen. Here, I get the chance to do that and they also get the same chance to observe me. Knowing a bit about the person definitely enhances the chance of a great get together. I've had good luck with the above mentioned venues, but I have had GREAT relationships with the ladies of CERB. Honestly cannot say enough good things about this site and the members.

The scent of coconut on a womans hair. I too love to relish in the scent of a womans pussy on my skin after a romp. That's the main reason I don't like to shower immidately after encounter with an SP. Additional Comments: I also love to smell and taste a womans fingers after she's played with herself.

I am not sure if this is weird or not, (not that I really care - lol) but I really like the smell of my own pussy. :) It reminds me of special times, past and present, and gives me a good feeling. Often when I am laying around by myself, I like to dip in a finger or two every so often and take a little whiff. Especially if I have been alone for the day and haven't showered since the morning and it smells very pussy-like... mmm.. This really turns me on. Recently I had someone request that I wear cotton panties for an encounter because cotton traps the yummy pussy scent better than polyester or other materials. This had never crossed my mind before, but the idea really got me going while I anticipated the session. Once we were together, I kept my panties on for a while when we played and I rubbed my cotton covered pussy all over his face. The friction and thought of him inhaling my scent into his nostrils was enough to drive me over the edge! Yum. I also really like the smell of my pussy on someone else's face. After enjoying a man pleasuring me orally, and then going up for a kiss and his face is covered in my scent... Fuck, that's hot! ;) I always appreciate a man who truly loves the smell of pussy in general too. It's almost always a sign that he is passionate and appreciates all of the special little things about women. A man who relishes the smell of a delicious fresh pussy is always a good lover too. :)

She is here Cato !!! Next vacation follow the sign and come see us at FB BBM Lodge !! She has a tremendous rear view as you posted there above... Her name is Sissy McBumbum . Here is her front view ...... she practices safe sex and is on birth control so to speak as well... Her uncle Red Green sent her here for us to take care of ;) Cya soon Mr Cato.

I know I began advertising on CL before I discovered CERB and I have watched it degenerate into a hate filled negative place where people just want to spew filth onto others. Definitely not a place to find the kinds of connections we're all looking for here, that's for sure. Glad to see you came out of it alive oldblueeyez!!

We've all met shallow people, those who judge the people around them by the aesthetic beauty on display... and usually we find them distasteful. They fail to see what YOU see in others. The problem is, most of us are incredibly shallow when it comes to our own aesthetic beauty. We focus on the aspects of ourselves that fail ... whether it be dark circles under our eyes, a heavy midsection, a receding hairline or whatever - when WE look at the mirror and see ourselves, we don't concentrate on the fantastic, we micro-analyze the miniscule. The problem with that? We sell ourselves short. A little Old Dog story.... I was a heavy kid. Not morbidly obese, but HEAVY. At the age of 18, something happened within my metabolism and BOOM. I wasn't heavy anymore. Problem was... HEAVY Dog was still in my brain. I sold myself short. I was interested in so many young women but HEAVY Dog said, "you're not worthy. She can do better." I was fit. I was tanned. I was a golden blonde and had all my hair. But still HEAVY Dog ruled. Eventually I became more confident, and became engaged to a beautiful woman... (I didn't know then she was Lucifer's handmaiden) ... but when the word got out that I was getting married, something happened. Women came out of the woodwork. Women that I always felt that were completely out of my league... and all of them in one way or another asked a single question, "Why didn't you ever ask me out?" I was flabbergasted. I had no idea. These were women of my dreams - beautiful, charming, funny and at one time or another extremely available - but I was so sure that I was too hideous to even merit their attention, I was oblivious to the fact that there was indeed, a great deal of attention. The moral of that story? Be happy in who you are. Be happy in how you look. Be confident and charming and witty and beautiful... because somewhere out there, right now, is someone that is thinking about YOU. They don't see your imperfections. They see the beauty that resides in each and every one of us. They see your beauty whether it is on the surface or surrounding you like a glow.

Mine is simply quite simple! lol.. I feel so blessed and fortunate to be able to enjoy this hobby and the companies of so many fine beautiful ladies here - some of them have become my regulars and some of them I am discovering one by one gradually. I don't know how else to describe my feelings, hence Luckyme.:biggrin: Sometimes, I feel like I am the luckiest guy on the planet!

Good afternoon gentlemen, First I would like to greatly apologize to the CERB members for posting misleading photos on BP. My name is Nichole and I am a Quebecoise advertiser (Was on Escorts Canada but they removed my ad because I was using these photos on BP causing them to receive complaints). My description and pictures on Escorts Canada were always 100% real and truly me as I have verified with Escorts Canada. Some of the pictures on BP of costumes and fantasy pieces were not me and they have now all been ERASED. I WILL ONLY POST ACTUAL PHOTOS OF MYSELF ON ALL SITES GOING FORWARD. I will clearly state my services and restrictions so that there is no confusion. I will only be able to offer mild to moderate submissive services, no longer hardcore due to some traumatic injuries. I am apologizing and asking the members to give me another chance. I will work extremely hard to rebuild my reputation with this community. Thank you for this opportunity. Deepest apologies, Nichole :icon_cry:

To me is an Art form.. The art of seduction, the art of pleasure, the art of feeling and making feel, the art of connection, Becoming an MA, was never in my plans but life has so many turns that here I am... Before I worked as an MA there was too many things I didn't know about the proffesion itself and just saw it through the eyes of the society... With all the stigma that made me see it as a bad thing... Now I see it from a very different prospective, I see that there is more than just the physical part(like you said Patrck) I have since I started working as an MA discovered many things about myself I would have never found otherwise...

Michaella's Caress (MA), Miss Whitney (SP), Maddison (Switch) (SP), Im sure theres others too. Especially if you connect with someone who does not advertise these services- Ya never know what can happen- ASK! ;) Roar!

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This pic of Leanna Decker has to be one of my favourites! :) She makes me....enthusiastic. Thanks to MellyBelly for finding it.

http://helpthepigs.ca/page.php?id=introduction I saw this on CBC and thought it was pretty sad. I buy only free-range meats when I indulge in carnivorism, but I did it mostly for nutritional reasons; now I know that there's another good thing to come out of it, that the animals I consume live a good quality life before becoming my food, instead of living a life of torture as most factory farm animals do. Happy animals mean positive energy food; suffering animals mean negative energy food.

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I'm not gay but... you serve me that, and I might just do ya. Just sayin'.

Long time member, first time poster. Have visited several Asian agencies in the area. All have provided great service. I started after reading a great review of Yoko written by Slurp. I have been hooked ever since. Apple is a favorite of course. Today I saw Yuko for a half hour. Yuko is taller than the typical Asian beauty at 5'7. Let me say, this girl is young and extremely beautiful. Very pretty, incredible hair, soft slim body, great breasts (B cup, maybe C). She looks exactly like her pictures in the ad. She is a very sweet girl who provides great service. I have never been disappointed with Ottawasweetheart. Yuko stands out as one of the best I have seen. I highly recommend giving her a try.

Yes I was in a natural mood today and then I saw a sure bet as when I saw the ad for Yuko (someone I had seen before) I knew she will satisfy my natural fetish today. She was with Candyland as per this recommendation: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=125736&highlight=yuko And now coming back to Ottawa but with SweetHeart. She came back like a lion with lots of kisses and big hugs. Very friendly and felt like re-uniting with a decade long GF madly in love!!!. Genuinely happy to see me. Got into bathroom and changed into something very sexy she brought with her and jumping in bed like a lion too. So much kisses and affection in an hour I think I was satisfied for at least one week of kisses. Some get better with repeats and some get worse. Yuko is among those who will get a lot better!!!. In summary had a good time and she left smiling too.

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Thank you all for your concern. I did report it to the police as well as my insurance carrier. Spent a few hours at urgent care and, yes, mild case of whiplash. Ouch! Thankfully I am a quick healer!

I totally agree with the above (and Samantha's post) and I am quite surprised to see that such a double standard exists when it comes to an "sp falling for a client" versus a "client falling for an sp" or one that would like to change the terms of the current relationship; I sincerely doubt that if a gentleman expressed the same concern as Karina did, that the answers and advice offered would have been the same... Good luck to you, Karina! I hope it all works out for the best!

Well I'm happy to say I've has an overall warm welcoming from all of you here! Although one gentlemen, has told me their opinion that I took quite offensively.. He asked if I was single, and I said yes, and he said if I wasn't would I tell my partner what I was doing? Or anyone else that I choose to be with in my personal life? I told him I wouldn't but it all depends on the situation... He immediately replied that I was being unfair and disrespectful, and that other men had a right to know what I do for safety reasons. Now this really offended me, I think (most) SPs are one of the cleaniest women you can sleep with (we shower right before our appointments, scrub every inch of our body, and get tested more often at the clinic) Also most of our clients do not wish to see street or unclean/healthy girls. It would actually be safer to be with an SP since you can look at her reviews to see if she has any hygiene issues or gave any clients any diseases! I didn't have a chance to reply to this man, but I would tell him exactly this, and that an SP has the right to her privacy! Let me know what you think about this issue!

Could not agree more with this statement! I feel this type of person is one that could cause a lot of issues for you or another lady. BOUNDRIES are key here! If you gave him a simple answer as you did, it should be dropped right there and then, but how he continued on after that sends red flags of someone who does not know the meaning of respect, boundries, or possiably the word NO. Someone like this, I sometimes give them a wild and crazy answer to throw them off thier game, or simply say " I do not discusse my personal life!" Then I say to him, "please do not make me uncomfortable like this again in the future, or I will choose not to see you again" Then I would report him...

Welcome! If you are looking at chat, it does not matter what city you are in. Just go in, say hi and start talking. You can private chat if you want too. Just dive in. If you want to post on the forums, decide if you want to talk in the General section, the newbie section or on the province you reside in. You can also go into the tech section, the news section and a whole bunch of other sections. There is even a joke section. Just remember, if you don't have anything nice to say, please don't say anything at all! That is the golden rule here. Again, welcome!

Hello Dear..... First of all, Welcome to CERB!!! I am sure you will have a great time here once you figure it all out.... hehe I know CERB can be a bit confusing when you first get started.... Fell free to PM me your questions and I will do what I can to help you figure it out! lol Best of Luck, Tiffany xoxoxo

Is this the lodge you're referring to? Definitely might be a problem. You see, I'm gearing my product towards the big city boys because they sayin' that you can cook wings and iron yer clothes at the same time with my grill. Y'all need some electricity for my grill but if you can convert it to gas, I don't think there will be a problem especially if Old Dog has just spent the weekend eatin' some chilli! ;)

Well after months of debating and thinking I missed my shot; I finally got to see Katrine today. I have wanted to see Katrine before she had gone independent and I have to say the wait was worth it. I met Katrine today for an hour session and it was by far the best therapuetic massage I have ever had. She worked out all the kinks. I have to admit the moment I saw her I thought that her photos did not do her justice. I was in awe. When I got off the table it took me some time to get my sea legs let me tell you. I can't wait to see Katrine again to work out all my kinks. thank you Katrine :)

This thread hits close to my heart. Thank you, Karina, for being so forthcoming and honest about your feelings. It has created a safe environment for people to post about their own experiences. Hopefully we can all learn from one another, and move forward with compassion, kindness, and love for ourselves. Perhaps this isn't the appropriate place or time to discuss my experiences, but this story might illuminate the complexities of loving people, regardless of whether the relationship is bounded by the particular circumstances of the SP/client relationship. I hope this helps, Karina, and I hope others who are reading are compassionate and understanding. In May 2011, a client and I fell in love. Was it wrong? Definitely not. Was it complicated? Very. We had so much in common and he inspired me. He encouraged me to apply to law school, write poetry, start a blog, and share my thoughts with the world. At one point he bought me a beautiful leather bound journal and said I inspired him as well. We wrote e-mails to each other endlessly, and saw each other approximately every two weeks. He was writing a novel, and I was reading it and providing him feedback on it. The novel's love story turned out to be representative of the love he and I shared. As he learned more about my life, he would integrate those moments into the narrative. It was beautiful to see our love story unfold both on paper, via e-mail, and in real life. The problem: he was single but contemplating getting back together with his ex and I was in a relationship with a woman I married several months later. While on a trip to Chicago, he and I decided to part ways. After a morning of blissful relaxation, lovemaking, kissing, and caressing, we went out for lunch. I looked at him and said I felt very confused and conflicted. I told him I loved him, but that it was complicated. I asked him what we were doing, and whether we wanted to move forward with a 'relationship'. With hindsight, I recognize that we were already in a relationship, simply a relationship of a different nature. Neither of us had satisfying answers. My relationship with this client was bounded by the financial exchange, but I knew I would lose my relationship with my partner if I continued to see him. We walked to Millenium Park and sat on a bench, and watched people walk by. We held hands, and we both cried and mourned the end of our relationship. While he and I were negotiating my departure from Chicago (and the relationship) we had doubts. He said "even how we have discussed this, with so much love, compassion, and understanding, makes me wonder whether we are making a mistake Nathalie" I shook my head, I wasn't sure. I went home to my partner, told her what happened, and that was the beginning of the end of my relationship with her. We separated in the summer of 2012. At the time, I made the decision that made sense for me. I have no regrets. However, Karina, I would ask that you not romanticize relationships that aren't bounded by a financial exchange. Money does not necessarily corrupt authentic love and intimacy, rather, it's our discomfort with the idea of mixing both that causes tension. I think it's important to keep in mind that most relationships have unnegotiated financial dynamics (for example, many marriages and long-term relationships) which can cause much more tension than the honest and open communication that's possible with clients in this industry. If it feels right to you, then tell him, whilst simultaneously keeping in mind all the questions, comments, and concerns raised by Samantha Evans as well as others. None of us are walking in your shoes (or his). Wanting to keep love, intimacy, and care in one world, and money in another is what most people do, but we should all have a better understanding of what really happens in this industry... it is so much more complicated than that, isn't it?

I've always had a personal motto/saying: "We cannot control who we fall in love with. We can only control what we do about it when we do." Personally, I would be open and honest with him. Keeping it inside could make things more difficult as time passes. That being said, Old Dog made a good point when he said that men don't share well. Some do, but I've never met anyone that's 100% ok with it. Si take that into consideration too Best of luck!

I was invited out to a friends house yesterday for drinks for the first time in a long time....he never invites anyone out !!! so I went hmmmmmmmmmmmm Turns out he needed money and I am the proud owner of 4 cows now ?? Geez... Not till fall till I fatten them up in another friends feedlot.... but....steaks anyone ? ;)

I blacklist clients who ask for this, as to me, it signals not only a disrespect for my health, but their own and potential partners as well.

I'll bet (hell I know) there are SP's that are wary of some ethnic groups, because of their prevailing views on women. terb22 you have manners, and if the same for everyone, your ethnicity is not a concern.