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Men who try to give us advice on this very particular business seem to miss the most important point: every woman has her price, and there will always be a man ready to pay it.

It amazes me how often this topic seems to come up in one form or another. If I've learned only one thing in the four years I've been on this site, it's that the surest way to piss off most sp's is to try to negotiate their rates. This is not a possession you are buying, it's a service. (And a damn amazing one at that!) Insulting the lady and making her feel bad about herself before a meeting is only going to lessen your own experience. (If it doesn't prevent you from having it altogether). Do you really think she is going to give you her all when you started the relationship in this manner? In many cases we are talking about maybe saving $20. If that $20 is that important to you, then you need a different hobby. I won't say that cost is never a factor in my decisions. I don't have an unlimited budget for this, as much as I would like to. If I find a lady is out of my budget at this time, I move on. I simply could never imagine asking a lady to reduce her rate. When she tells you her rates, she is saying "I feel I'm worth $X" , and you're replying "I disagree! I think you are only worth $Y. Turned on yet?" Seems like shooting yourself in the foot if you ask me.

I didnt post anything yet as I couldnt add more of what being said. Negotiation is a no-no. Comparing a house (few hundred thousand purchase) vs "sp rate" doesnt make sense! Bragging for 20-40$ is just plain cheap. Seeing escorts is not a necessity, but a luxury. Life is expensive, yes! But it is for everybody, Sps included! Btw, why should I take off 20$-40$ of my rate for YOU when other gentlemen will pay my full rate? Some guys will say its better than nothing but its funny how everytime I refuse some "generous" offer there is always another respectful gent who is happy to pay my full donation (wich I believe totally deserve) + tips! This is what I call karma!! :icon_razz:

When I first started, it was through an agency. There was a gentleman who called regularly & when we were asked to call him to try & book, it was stressed that we only use his name. He was a travelling businessman who met new people all the time & hated anonymous platitudes. He felt them terribly impersonal no matter what the industry & only ever called us by name too. Super guy, great manners. Since then, I only ever address a gentleman by his name in any & all communications & make an effort to use it often. Of course, I have been known to scream out " Holy Christ " or " Sweet Jesus " mid happiness. But that I can't stifle & so far, no one seems to mind .:wink: Sandi

I had an idea! To all those who believes its fair to negotiation someone salary, I will call your boss on Monday morning to take off couple hundred dollars of your paycheck. I can guarantee you that you will complain when its gonna be pay day!! This is EXAXCTLY the SAME thing! Fun isnt it???

To answer a question that was asked in this thread and as someone who writes explicit ads I will attest naughtier doesn't always get more business nor does a high volume of clicks. Some of my most viewed ads got no appointments and some of my less viewed ads got lots, go figure. I post my ads with my mood at the moment, the hornier I am the more graphic my ad. Sometimes I'll take a few moments to think of something more creative but most times I'm just posting how I feel at the moment which is how I feel most comfortable, some will like others won't. C'est La Vie:)

I love it when a man refers to me with a "term" so long as its complimentary I'm happy to hear it. As far as me referring to a man sometimes, I use babe or sweety, but I get the sense that a lot of men just like to hear their given name:)

This is a question for everyone. I'm curious at what point in the process of arranging an encounter are your nerves most on edge? Though perhaps 'anticipatory' or 'expectant' would be a better word. Basically, when does your heart start to beat just a little bit faster? For me, it's actually the wait after I send an initial email/pm that gives me a bit of the jitters. I spend what is probably a silly amount of time writing, rewriting, editing, deleting, going for a walk, and then writing again that first message. And I still end up wondering if I didn't include enough information. Or perhaps too much! Or inadvertently said something inappropriate. I still find myself holding my breath a moment each time I check my messages to see if there's been a reply. And my pulse never fails to pick up when one does arrive!

You are so sweet, your kindness, honesty and sexiness comes through all your posts and you should never question if someone will like what they see, for if they don't see you for all you are well their loss and a big one-just had to say:) Sorry Brad not hijacking just had to comment:)

Thank you Brad - good poll. To me it is opening the door. So many things are going through my mind. Will he like what he sees? Will he be happy? Is he going to be a nice guy? Am I going to be safe? Will there be problems? As soon as we hug though, it all goes away and I just enjoy myself.

It's not an inappropriate topic at all. In fact, if more people were well versed in money management, Canadians likely would not have the staggering debt loads that they do. Unfortunately, it's not something they teach you in school. How you handle your money is both a learned behavior and a choice. Both of my parents were good with money and imparted their ways on myself. However, once upon a time when I was young and foolish, I became enthralled with the novelty of the hobby and tended to spend a wee bit more on it than I really should have. Luckily, I realized the error of my ways and henceforth have stuck to a budget. Money management isn't rocket science; all that's needed is a bit of rudimentary knowledge. First, make sure you pay yourself. That is, whatever you earn - put aside at least 10% in savings and investments. It may seem like a daunting task at first but you'll get used to it. Case in point, I now invest over a third of my income and don't even flinch. You also need an emergency fund for, you guessed it - emergencies! Try to have on hand at least six months of income in your daily bank account in case something drastic happens and you can't work. At least you'll have money to live on without going into debt. Next , hire yourself a reputable financial advisor and listen! Some good starting points include setting up an RRSP so you can benefit from the tax breaks, maxing it out if you can, opening up a TFSA, putting excess monies into non-registered investments, and finally when you're on secure financial footing - investing in real estate. Granted, that's a lot to take in, and it won't happen overnight. It took me years to get to where I am today, but I can tell you without a doubt, it's all worth it. Your future self will thank you - trust me on this. The key is to start off slowly, but make sure you start - the sooner the better. Also, pick up some good books that will guide you through the basics ; "The Wealthy Barber" by David Chilton, The "Automatic Millionaire" by David Bach and a book by Kevin O'leary - I think it's called "The Truth On Men, Women and Money" will be greatly beneficial to you. Good luck!

Salma Heyak and Antonio Banderas in Desparado! I was 14 when I first saw it and have been hopelessly in love with Miss Heyak ever since!

The whole freaking process is incredibly erotic and exciting. Then the lady opens the door and I see her beauty and catch her scent.... Then for me it ratchets up from there.

I'm the most nervous/excited a few hours before an encounter. Once I get checked into my hotel and am getting the suite ready (gift bag with donation out, wine chilling etc) heart is pounding...surprised I don't slip and fall in the shower LOL just waiting for the knock on the door. About a half hour before the lady is to arrive the tv is turned off (more I want to make sure I hear her knocking) and my head turns, looking at the clock, looking at the door, back and forth, back and forth, heart a pitter pattering away. And I'm this way whether I'm seeing a lady for the first time or fifth time or fiftieth time And on occasion when I'm seeing a lady at her incall, heart is pitter pattering from the time I leave home till I arrive on time at the lady's place...and those trips are usually about 3 1/2 hours long, heart pounding all the way. One of those trips I even had Carly Simon's song "Anticipation" playing in my head And the day I don't feel that way about an encounter, well that is the day I pack it in A rambling RG

She has two pictures that strikes you immediately as too good to be true and, yes, tineye reveals the pictures are wallpapers of a professional model. Here's her ad on BP: Arriving the 25th... New From Toronto Mia - 20

With the exception of the MOD, you have the most posts of anyone on this board and I find that amazing because your posts reflect so much of you, your thoughts, your support, your respect and your all around awesome sauce! You are there for everyone, old and new, and share your thoughts and insights to both help, inform and to make us smile or laugh. You are a true community leader, one post at a time. Thank you for everything you do!!! PS. Sorry I was 25 posts late! tee hee

Wow my last post but who the fudge created a poll when I am the original op. had I known the impact I would have. Anyhow.....have fun y'all!

I find it's the person who is most comfortable in their own skin that is sexiest. Someone who knows their worth and isn't afraid to be themselves whether it be what they wear, what they say, how they say it or any number of things that make them who they are. Someone who is not out to impress anyone but is down to earth, authentic and open. A sense of humor is a must and especially the ability to laugh at themselves when needed. Taking oneself too seriously is definitely NOT sexy. Treating people well, intelligence, imagination, easy going, playful, non judgmental, accepting people for who they are....these are all things that I find extremely sexy. Looks play a part to sometimes guide you in but it's the personality that will keep you there.

Meeting my new dog!!!!!!!!!!!! Application submitted to adopt a little old lady pug girlfriend for my little old man pug :D :D :D He LOVED her, I can't wait to bring her home

I think I've always found something sexy in just about all the women I've ever met. I agree that sometimes it confidence, sometimes it's attitude, humour, how someone is dressed and all the other things the previous posters mentioned. Sometimes for me it how eager or interested they seem to be in me. Sometimes as simple as a touch on my arm when they are talking to me (for some reason I find that very hot). Perhaps how they tilt their head or brush the hair from their face. Could be a smile. Eye makeup. Their perfume might drive me wild. Often as simple as a lady looking me in the eye and smiling. As I re-read this, I think I just find the opposite sex, SEXY! Maybe my age. Maybe I'm just weird, but on any given day, any given woman will do something that I find sexy! :)

I find confident, well dressed women incredibly sexy!!! Yet a woman who can be relaxed and at ease while sitting on the sofa and carrying a conversation with me is also very sexy. A great sense of humour and the ability to laugh out loud is very attractive as well. :)

Oh Cristy, lady after my own heart. Those scenes were amazing. They had such Chemistry. My favorite from Wild Orchid has always been the couple in the abandoned building under the water while being watched by Carrie Otis' character but there were so many sexy scenes in that movie. Henry and June had some brilliantly sexy scenes as well. Actually so many movies do. I actually prefer an R rated scene to porn a lot of times because they capture that essence of sensuality and anticipation that porn doesn't have.

I feel that this is most certainly a learned behaviour. I was once a spendaholic, buying silly things, without really noticing the amount per month I would spend. But as I grew older, I learned thst the moment of thrill or satisfaction of buying these unnecessary items just did not buy happiness. I have learned the value of a dollar, and now buy bigger items, cars, houses, rrsp, etc is now my new obession. Bulding my bank, credit and therefore feeling like I have much more freedom. So in effect, I have traded my spending habits, into a making and saving habit. I had come to terms with the fact thoes jeans I really want, are only going to buy my hsppiness for about half a day, vs raising my credit score so that I know can buy houses, etc.. I feel this comes with maturity. I am happy that I figured this out at my age now rather than waiting till it was too late. I still have a ways to go, but I am getting there:)

I just wanted to give a give a big shout out to Katherine and Penelope for doing a bang up job organizing this year's social. I know things were a bit rocky for awhile, but you managed to pull it off in spades! It was great seeing old friends again, as well as meeting some new ones. It's so nice to be able to spend some quality social time with trusted and respected members of our little community. I hope it's a tradition that will continue...

I think a lot of it is learned behavior. My parents grew up in relative poverty (over half a dozen siblings each probably didn't help either). I'm actually not so sure if we had it better or not. Sure I wore hand-me downs from my uncles, and we recycled bikes and some toys, but why waste perfectly good stuff? Same stuff with food, we cleaned up our plates -- no waste. When I said I wasn't sure I had it better, is simply that while I was a child I had everything I needed, and a few things I wanted. My wants were kept reasonable, otherwise they'd just be fantasies. Now as a parent with decent income I feel very confused. I'll buy the generic brands at the grocery store to save a few dollars on that bill, and then go buy an electronic gizmo I don't really need for hundreds. I'll buy generic brands for groceries to save a buck or two, but order take-out two or three times a week. Sit on an office chair a buddy of yours picked up on a curb while playing on a high-end computer. Give the kids a hard time about wasting their allowance while secretely planning my next CERB encounter... (CERB isn't a waste of money, it's wellness therapy)

An old one ... Marlon Brando in "Last Tango in Paris" (great anal scene) and another old one ... Clint Eastwood in "Play Misty for me" (great daty scene)

I don't get nervous, sometimes I get excited though. I made it a practice in the past not to look at a mans profile before meeting him as I liked to be surprised but I've since learned that its a much better idea to read his posts, recos, and search to see who he's visited with to decide if a meeting would be a good idea. This saves great disappointments and awkward moments. Then I can get excited about the thoughts of how we will interact and all the other naughty details to come;)

I'm with you Brad, I'm constantly rewriting and proof reading when I send an email or pm. Then if I don't get a prompt response, I always think I said something stupid or offensive. And then when I do get a response, I think I get the most nervous right before I open it! I've gotten better in the year and a half that I've been doing this but there are still some nerves.

Me unequivocally NO NEGOTIATING Something a gentleman wouldn't do to a lady Even if a lady says she allows negotiating (something I haven't run into btw) her first opening rate if you will is what I'll pay. I won't negotiate. Only she knows what her time is worth, what her expenses are and so on. It's IMHO devaluing a lady for me or any man to even suggest a donation when the lady is providing her companionship, which has an intangible value far exceeding any donation that could be asked for RG

Jessica Lange and Jack Nicholson The Postman Always Rings Twice RG

It has been a while since I last saw it, but I first saw Body Heat when I was at an impressionable age and I guess it stuck with me.

http://news.ca.msn.com/local/newbrunswick/codiac-rcmp-strikes-task-force-on-sex-trade-workers The Codiac RCMP is striking a task force and is promising to take a gentler approach when it comes to dealing with sex trade workers in Moncton. The police arrested 11 sex-trade workers last week in downtown Moncton, a move that angered many groups who help vulnerable people in the city. Angie Arsenault-Daigle, a nurse practitioner at the Salvus Clinic in Moncton, a medical clinic for disadvantaged people, said she met with the RCMP this week following the arrests. Arsenault-Daigle said the police are creating a task force and have agreed to take an alternative approach when dealing with sex-trade workers. "I think those are really important steps by the RCMP, so I'm hopeful that this task force that's going to happen is going to be a positive step forward for the girls," she said. Arsenault-Daigle said the meeting with the police was important so they could articulate their points of view. "We did kind of get together to say, 'OK, what can we do to try to help the girls a little bit,'" she said. "We do want to make sure the girls have a voice and that they get the same respect for their human rights as anybody else would." The RCMP refused to do an interview about the task force or how the police will deal differently with sex-trade workers in the future. However, a police official said in an email it has been working on this initiative for a while and it says the new approach is unrelated to the recent arrests. Laws need to be changed, sociologist says One expert in the sex-trade industry said naming task forces and changing policies only go so far. Gayle MacDonald, a sociology professor at St. Thomas University in Fredericton and an author of the book, Sex Workers in the Maritimes Talk Back, said the laws need to change before the lives of sex-trade workers can really improve. "Police are destined, by the nature of their job description to go after the most vulnerable, that's the problem, even if a police officer doesn't want to arrest someone, that's their job," she said. Prostitution itself is not illegal in Canada, though many of the key activities surrounding it are banned under three sections of the Criminal Code. For instance, there are prohibitions on keeping a bawdy house, communicating for the purposes of prostitution or living off the avails of prostitution. The Supreme Court of Canada heard a case in June, challenging the laws restricting the sale of sex.

A house is a tangible object but NOT THE PERSON SELLING IT! Its apparently ok to negotiate and shortchange this PERSON but in this industry it is disrespectful. With a lot of ladies advertising rates non- negotiable what does that say about the ones who don't? Were suppose to think that they forgot to mention this in their add but the same applies to them? The ladies here are quite intelligent and give a lot of thought to their adds. If its not written in their adds its not silly for one to ask. Simple solution here. Put it in your add.

I'm not a CMJ regular, far from it, but i've been attending some of CMJ's monthly parties recently, out of curiosity, and they certainly can throw them! This reco is a bit overdue. I visited CMJ at their June party, and, like their Luau party, it was a great one. As a last minute decision (excendingly rare for me), i spent some time with Brittney after seeing her pole show. As a previous dancer, her dancing skills show, and she is full of energy - she likes to dance and it shows! Spending some time with Brittney was quite fun, and its easy to see she'll become quite popular! If you have a chance while at CMJ, book some time with her. Cheers!

Best wishes to Malika on her birthday. Wishing you a great day, and a great year with plenty of travel to exotic destinations! toine

I understand, for safety reasons, an SP texting or phoning once at the beginning and\or perhaps near the end of a session, and maybe even during a break in the action. I am also a proponent of texting in general and text much more than any form of communication. If an SP's phone is continually ringing\vibrating during a session, I've even encouraged them to attend to the phone if they'd like. But, if I'm 30 minutes into a 1 hour session, is it "acceptable" for an SP to continually text for 15+ minutes? I can't fathom it, especially since I had provided a $ 50ish tip at the beginning of the session; last time I'll do that. I didn't know how to react, so I just politely left. On another appointment, not nearly as offensive, but while I'm dressing and getting ready to leave, she texts until I'm leaving and stays on the bed while I show myself out, however, she did pry one hand off the phone to "wave" goodbye to me from across the room; without any verbalization. I guess my question is, to what extent, is texting acceptable during a session? I'm at the point of wondering, if, when booking an appointment with an SP, if I should ask how many of the 60 minutes will they be spending texting? However, I wonder if asking that question would be appropriate.

is not acceptable! This isn't a flea market. Take the time to find out what options a lady offers (ie length of time and corresponding donations) and either book with her or continue your search! BTW "can you do x amount of time for x amount of donation?" is akin to negotiating!

Congratulations on your first 100 contributions Stevemcqueen Looking forward to your next 100 RG

@Cristycurves: You wrote : but I've since learned that its a much better idea to read his posts, recos, and search to see who he's visited with to decide if a meeting would be a good idea. This saves great disappointments and awkward moments. Oh, yes, it does save disappointments and awkward moments. I give to a prospective date certain physical info about myself - race, weight, and height. There are times ( if the lady is from out of town) that I even go further and send a face pic. I also mention interests, in case we share the same which can then be a conversation topic when we meet. By so doing, the lady can have some idea of who she is meeting. When reality doesn't meet expectations, the encounter can be awkward or even unpleasant for both.

No, you weren't replying for nothing. I was also curious about this, and can only assume there are other people that are new to this who are interested as well. So by all means, keep answering all our noob questions :)

I'll second that. I like that a lady calls me by my real first name...and yes, all ladies I see know my real first name, and most know my last name too Although I have been called by a couple ladies....no wait I've been told by a couple ladies that I look like John Malkovich, but I haven't been called that. I guess the most flattering name if you will, I get, is being called a gentleman, and I always try to be one, although with the ladies here, it's pretty easy to do. Mind you I've always, I think, been a gentleman A morning rambling RG

I think sex scenes were much more memorable in the days before readily available internet porn. Now nobody cares, plus they use too much photoshop and body doubles anyway, its all fake. If I had to name one id say Diane Lane in unfaithful, she proves to everyone that 'older' women can be insanely sexy

Happy Birthday Malika!!! Have yourself a fantastic day!!! :D

Please do, the question is for everyone and it's always good to get all perspectives.

Undecided if this is troll comment or not but common sense says if anyone prices themselves out of a market they will move to a better market or they will lower rates... But... That has nothing to do with negotiating. Some people have a hard time accepting that others make more income or have more of a entertainment budget then they do. If you can't afford a Lamborghini then buy a corvette (both lots of fun to drive) or save your pennies and eventually you can get what you want. If her rates are too high for you but she stays in business and earns what she wishes to earn that means she has a market that supports her rates without you. Many markets exist in even the smallest cities and towns.

I just came back from watching "The Conjuring". The audience found it scary and funny at the same time. They were jumping out of their seats. It was a pretty good horror film as horror films go. very Suspenseful at times.

I watched the movie ''42'' yesterday. (sorry if it been mentionned before). Really good and touching movie about Jackie Robinson's life. You will enjoy it even if you are not a baseball fan!

Congratulations Eva on your contributions. I enjoy your posts and look forward to many more!

I think all those who mentioned confidence have it right and that's certainly the prime component. Though I will say it's important to remember there's a difference between confidence and arrogance, as the latter is certainly not sexy in my books. I find flirting extremely sexy, though I suppose that's related to confidence too, as confident people tend to be better at flirting too. I'd also mention happiness. People who are clearly enjoying themselves and seem to be having a good time always seem more sexy to me. Interesting that--on tv at least--male characters stereotypically considered sexy are often the quiet, broody, intense type, but is that what people really want? Personally, when I'm spending time with a lady, I find a sincere smile and laugh a lot more sexy.