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I am one of those SP's who truly believes in building a rapport between client and SP. It adds to the experience for me, as well as for the client. However, I have my limitations. When a new client I've never seen before wants to email or text back and forth for weeks on end with no intention to book, I tell him to stop contacting me. I don't have TIME to be chatting my time away for free. With a client I've seen before, I rather enjoy keeping in touch. I like hearing how they are, and getting the occasional hello. However, again there are limits. When communication starts to invade my personal time, when communication and actions therein start to invade my personal life, when communications suggest that I engage in things that are inappropriate or when communication, after 5 months, becomes obvious that there is NO intent to book again, with lots of mixed messages and dishonesty confirmed by my colleagues, then yes. You are a time waster. Period. I have always said... When clients are respectful of MY time, I will be glad to look after them. Respect is earned, not a given. Trust, once lost, is difficult to recover and for most SP's, not worth the headache.

It really does depend on the provider. I am an email person, I send an introduction which is a small book if you're on a handheld but it contains just about everything you need to know plus links for other information. I prefer a gentleman spend a minute and send a reply with a bit of detail about himself, what he's looking for and any other questions. I will exchange emails after an appointment is booked as my time permits if the flow of communication is engaging. I have cancelled appointments because the emails presented red flags that weren't displayed during the initial booking emails so it can help with my screening. Inquiries that continue to ask questions already answered in prior communications are deemed Askholes and written off. Guests who insist on over communicating between appointments are at times annoying simply because of time constraints on my end. If I see someone 4 times a year but receive emails weekly, then it's disproportional to the relationship we have but I have several who have more than earned the privilege of daily communication and it's something I enjoy and look forward to. The better the client, the more time I'm willing to invest answering the comm's. In my books, a WOT is an actual time waster. Booking an appointment then rescheduling, moving the time, cancelling and rebooking etc. These are Wafflemeisters in my books. Move an appointment more than once and I raise an eyebrow. The next time I put a yellow flag on it, one more then I'm out. Wafflemeisters are second cousins to Twatwaffles from the far reaches of the Ozarks and not people I need to entertain. Ever. Be aware of the relationship you have with your provider and that will guide you in the communication style she prefers. If you haven't met her yet, then keep it simple and concise... cat

I don't think anyone is brushing the situation off, there is a B&S/Dangerous section to post the information in. There are places online to post this kind of information on other boards, that is their forte where any and all are welcome to post details. The other option is to call LE. It was an outcall to a hotel, no laws were broken and even if no violence occurred or indictable offence happened; a report is on file in the event there are future incidences to show a pattern of behaviour... cat

To be honest, I do not like emails and do not have it lasted as a method of contact. I'm alo not a fan of the back and forth banter or the long winded messages. I don't have time for this and am someone who likes to get straight to the point with as much info as possible. I am someone who has a presence on this site and figure they should know me well enough and have read my ads to gain some sort of insight as to who I am as a provider. I expect that when a person PMs me, they are ready to book or close to it. I look for their questions to be geared towards my services as an SP and not those that are considered playful or not a serious inquiry. I am also open to addressing and anwering questions especially from gents who are new to this and need to know a few more things yet I can read between the lines when I know it's not going anywhere in a PM. While I am aware and appreciate those who follow me on this site, I am not here to seek out personal friendships. I am here to establish a friendly business relationship between myself and my clients and it is a respected one. I am very good at what I do but I also don`t think that just because I am an SP and a member of this site, that it`s a free for all for having others take advantage of my kindness. That`s where I draw the line. Im not interested in members who want to create some sort of "Romeo" type online personna who sends PMs to every SP wanting to meet`only to follow through with failed promises and gets caught up in his own ego stroking to the ladies that he actually tends to forget what is he doing and how it makes him look. Those SPs who do take time to cultivate relaitonships with male members here do not appreciate having their time wasted with empty promises. Being on the this site and communicating with others here can take up a good portion of an SP`s time and it`s the cost of doing business. However, being here has its advantages so one can only hope that the time spent here does work out for her in the end to some degree. If you're going to contact an SP, do so with good intentions. And not contact a dozen other SPs at the same time with promises to meet and not follow through or get them in the chat room to try and have them become your own personal 1-900 sex operator at any given moment. No one appreciates taking the time to speak with someone who could be a potential client and then having their time wasted or be taken advantage of. We all know why we are here so lets call a spade a spade. I`m not someone who is considered all business and I definitely enjoy what I do but I also don`t work for free either. Having said all that, I appreciate all my customers and feel appreciated when they end me a "Hello" type message once in a while or a "Thank-you" message but I just can't get involved in the endless back and forth conversation. It's just not who I am and I'd rather be honest than grin and bear this sort of thing. People know me for saying it like it is and I think I did just that.lol. I hope people can understand that.

I think it's human nature to send a few inquires and gather information without booking. I have had several pm's from members that say they would like to see me, but have not gotten around to it yet for their own reasons. I'm ok with a quick hello even though an appointment is not booked. I do my best to keep track of messages from members I have not met yet or others that it's been awhile with. However, I do so at my own pace as it's on personal time. Much like the retail market, window shopping happens everywhere and all we can do is our best to respond in a timely fashion, regardless of the outcome. I don't think anyone should expect to have a pen pal in this hobby unless it's rewarding to both involved.

I hates to bring it this way but..Do you bring this topic because yo feel you may have burned few chances with so ladies or just curious Personally? I am a person of a short words when booking app..As Genevieve. I am French and sometime a lot of communication can lead to Wierd discussion plus when you tour you somehow expect serious guys to not be lazy read your ads and website and mostly know the answer to their questions Anyone can be polite and do not respect how to follow instructions or ask questions that all been answered I. Ads and website...It doesn't mean saying please and thank you.That it may not be annoying. And consider a waste of time If a lady travel in 6 or 7 cities you have to X the amount of ext,emails,Pms she will get to actuall get a serious person that will book an app I strongly believe that men should know if they are available or not and serious about getting an app before their inquiries Why sending and email inquiring if you won't be available ? At the end ...it should be simple. If someone desire to engage in a mind game..I am not the sp for them VJ

Love a waste of time is someone that does it receptively....to one or several ladies..that lies about the reason of canceling and it doesn't add up..Ya know like my dog ate my homework type of thingy To anyone out there they feel they may I have take that turn..Make good to the sp you have done it the most before shopping elsewhere I for myself a big believer of sisterhood and if they got screwed it hurt me I will stick my neck for them

You couldn't have read the FAQ's at all Here is the appropriate line from the first question with the appropriate word highlighted for you "I love to meet a gentleman in the comfort of his suite in an upscale hotel" If it is his suite in an upscale hotel who do you think books the hotel room. If the lady booked the suite it would be her hotel room Or do you think a lady should use her credit card to reserve a client a room? RG

To be blunt, and sorry for butting in however - if you the gentleman want an OUTCALL (an outcall means I come to YOU, not YOU come to ME) then you must provide the location as how else is it going to be an outcall to a hotel? If I was asked this question over and over, I too would not be impressed, and even if it was listed on any of our websites, the gentlemen who need to read that tidbit of info - rarely if ever do. Please do not take this as an attack WriteOn, as that was not my intention.

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I can totally relate. Being a long time compassionate muffin man (look it up in the urban dictionary) I find my own level of excitement is directly proportional to the pleasure of my partner. Also, I was taught from a very young age, that ladies come first. I try to live by that code always.

I think you are misreading Gegefatale's post or misunderstand the difference between incall vs outcall. A hotel outcall (not incall) means the date is at the man's hotel room. Why would or should a lady book a hotel room for the guy. Now if going to a city where I don't know the hotels I may ask a lady about suggested hotels in the city (more so because I don't want a dive) but I book my own hotel RG

Lets be honest, things happen at times in our second life that we lead (clients and companions) and sometimes things are out of our reach. I can say I have had a few clients over the years that have disappeared for when our date was to happen. Days later I heard from them with an explanation of what happened. Real people sincere people provide answers, maybe not today - but in a few days. I am sorry you were stood up, however I think this post could have been avoided or at least you could have waited a few days before posting as if she is as Reputable as you say, her name is her business and if something in life happened, once she is able too she will contact you. How hobbying is a secret in mens lives it is the same for most ladies as well and sometimes you just cant get to your phone. NO Shows piss me off to no end, however real life is a priority and not every person that no shows does it on purpose, I say give her the benefit of the doubt.

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1.For me, since I'll give whatever info you request for first time booking I ask it kept between us. 2.For phone calls or txt I ask that you don't unless initiate or I give instructions otherwise. 3.Email or pm anytime I don't care. 4.For ladies who have special request as discretion please let me know or a friendly reminder is appreciated. Would hate to start off on bad term. 5.Most important when I'm searching for porn i expect not to find a secret home video of us. ;) I think its pretty well common sense but then again some people have none.

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For me is .... 1) If I give you a number to contact me,it is for your use only and not to be shared with anyone. If I initiate a hello text, it is fine to text me back,but don't out of the blue simply text me and ramble on, I could be in another meeting...at work :) 2) If I give my email address to contact me, it is for your use only and not be shared with anyone. 3) What ever might transpire in our get together remains between you and I and not for the lady to share the information unless I was a bad date, a total dickhead through the encounter.If the lady would like an recommendation from me I will ask firstly from her to ensure it is okay to post. Just treat the discretion as the upmost importance between both parties it simply makes ME wanting to come back for MORE, if NOT then I may not have the desire to come back. Lastly, I can honestly say that 99% of the women I have had shared info with such as contact info, are exceptional at it and they fully understand the guidelines to follow for discretion.

Personally I dont think discussing hotels in the public section is good for your safety or any of our who tour to those cities (There are FEW good options to stay at as it is). This is not something that should be discussed in public for any of our well beings and safety. If someone says stay at the super 8 for example and you do, what are the chances that some nut bar may be waiting for you in the lobby (as someone who had clients watch her check in, you dont want this)

I see nothing wrong with his post , it's his opinion just like you have yours. I think they call it freedom of speech.

When people stop in a hallway, doorway or any place that can cause congestion to chit chat with others. How hard is it to move to the side to allow others to pass by without having to zig zag and squeeze by. Then they have the nerve to give a dirty look as if I interrupted them.

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People who text, email or PM requesting info and then are never heard from again....common courtesy should exist online!!! No thanks is better than silence.

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Yes, i agree. I failed to see anyone being anything but helpful. Working within the rules and guidelines of the site as well. of course the majority of replies came before the post with more details of what actually occurred at the hotel room door.

You have to wonder about the accuracy of the phone book in this day and age too. Some people don't even have landlines anymore, relying on cell phones instead. Or alternative phone companies for lack of a better word (ie Vonage) Phone books don't carry those listings. So the phone book of today isn't nearly the phone book of yesterday, and wouldn't have a lot of information on it as it had in earlier years For me, Google and Canada411 on the internet far more useful, and I have the internet on my phone too. Can't remember the last time I used a phone book RG

24/7 epitomizes that dark deceitful and dangerous side of the industry where clients and providers are put in danger and taken advantage of.

Yup! Much older men have always fascinated me because sometimes... just sometimes, you can get them talking afterwards. And they tell you about things you won't find in any history book. They were there and lived it. When I first started, back in the 70s, I was privileged to listen to men who'd lived through the Great Depression, WWII, and survived the Holocaust. My soon-to-be 90 friend was an adolescent on the verge of manhood in Holland during WWII and told of how his parents had to hide him and his brothers from the Nazis, who rounded up young men and sent them to labour camp. Another friend told me of eating mashed parsnips mixed with isoamyl acetate (blech!) to make a sort of fake bananas, they were so desperate for any food variety in Ireland during WWII. One of my earliest regulars was a sweet little old man (who's eyeballs were just about at nipple level on me). He'd done well for himself in commercial real estate but was almost pathologically cheap. He also _always_ had food stashed away in his pockets. A half eaten sandwich. A bit of pastry. It was kinda gross. One day I asked him about it, and he explained that he'd lived through the Depression. He was just a kid, but his family had it rough. A fear of being hungry never left him. One thing that impresses me in many of these personal accounts is the resiliency of humans, and I realize just how lucky I was to be born in the exact time and place I was. Twenty or more years, one way or another, or a few thousand miles made a whopping difference in the opportunities I could expect.

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Well looking at Gegefatale's website under her FAQ, the very first question would indicate she does outcalls. http://www.genevieveofottawa.com/faq.html but she even goes further and provides prospective clients a list of preferred hotels http://www.genevieveofottawa.com/address-book.html RG

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Welcome to Cerb, Viccowboy :) MisterT posted about a Montreal swing bar recently: http://en.eclipse-night-club.com/club/ Don't worry about the part where it says "sexual acts are not tolerated" because the recent news video published on October 3rd states the exact opposite. I think they just haven't had a chance to update their website yet. If you decide to go, let us know how it was!

When I read your posts, I feel like I should be lying on a couch. That's a huge compliment, btw. You make me think. Congrats and thanks for being here.

I'm pretty indifferent. If it happens...great. If it doesn't....equally great. My main concern is just making her cum. If an amazing O was achieved I am more than satisfied.

I don't book far in advanced, and generally take same day bookings. So, if you reply 3 weeks in advance, and then every day send me texts, I will probably be rolling my eyes upwards. I enjoy the pm's saying hi, hope you are having a great day. Even, a pm, telling me what is happening, I enjoy that too. However, if after you and I have set a date/time, please don't send me a thousand text messages saying "what I want you to wear, do, etc". Tell me that when we set up our appointment. If I am trying to get ready to see you, I can't keep answering your text messages. It actually drives me bonkers when this happens. I have been late for appointments because someone decides to bombard me with these text messages while I am getting ready. Do you know how hard it is to put on mascara while reading text messages? For me, short and sweet works great! I consider a tire kicker as someone who repeatedly asks "rates, services, restrictions (or something similar)" over and over again (some are every day, others are every couple of weeks), but never actually book. Make sure you have reviewed her profile, website etc, before asking questions that are already answered on her site.

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Yeah, well, I think I read somewhere that Hitler was a teetotaller and a vegetarian. On the other side of the coin, FDR died in his mistress' bed, Jack Layton visited massage parlours, and Bill Clinton ... well! I look at some of those stick-up-ass self-identifying Christians south of the border, with their uterus obsessions, and I think, please spare me from virtuous leadership!

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Hello lover, I'll write to you privately a little later but for now know that your in my thoughts. I wish you love, friendship and happiness and the strenght to spread the same in this world. In the end it's all that matters. Bright Blessings my dear.

I am adding to this thread in hopes that gentlemen will do their research before seeing an unknown SP/agency in order keep themselves safe by avoiding Bait&Switch, scams and dangerous encounters (like this one). http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=151989 This is about the 24/7 agency

I have not seen anyone brush this situation off, or treat it as a joke. It has been mentioned several times that there is a section to post information about bait & switch or dangerous encounters...what else is there to say? If it is a dangerous encounter (as the late-revealed details appear to indicate) then it is certainly appropriate for this section. If it was a case of b&s, then post away. If the poster was unsure, he could always ask the mod, or even post a thread asking members for opinions on the limits and boundaries of dangerous encounter/b&s posts. If it was being seen as a joke, why were there so many expressions of sympathy and understanding?

I had it happen to recently. I've heard the service providers have a private section just for them to warn each other of bad dates. I wonder if a private section should be created for the hobbiest? I do agree however that just because the pictures are of the actual person it should still be considered a bait and switch because they are deceptive. And the fact that there was an enforcer means the possibility of danger. I for one would like to know so I don't make the same mistake.

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I told the boys at Fat Bastards we have to market ourselves better... not on a single list!!!! Did we mention that we are running a lite beer special??? You get all the BFE you want which normally would cost you a regular beer, but we will actually take a lite beer and let you have the can for return!!! We may even offer a bacon sammich special which means that you GET a bacon sammich, BFE and cuddle time for the price of a regular BFE experience. Now, watch boys... here come the lists.... OHHHHH yeah.

I hold a special place in my heart for the soldiers. Being from Windsor originally, Fort Wayne is right across the water in the States. Alot of the men coming home from Iraq would get dropped off at Fort Wayne, and the go their respective hometown from there. I was a dancer at the time, an I met tons of soldiers from all over the U.S., some having returned to North America as little as 2 hours ago. They were from places as far as Texas and california, and probably would never get the opportunity to see Canada again, so they came to meet us naked Canadian girls and drink our beer lol. Anyways, they were so appreciative to be home and be with us ladies, and after the sacrifice they made, plus how sweet they were, it was always such a pleasure too entertain them, and so flattering that the first thing they did was come see us lol. I will always remember one in particular though. It was the summertime, a very hot night. He came into my club, I was onstage. He was in uniform, and something about him caught my eye. It was like the song magic man by heart " I never seen eyes so blue......"He watched me so intently, not with a look of lust, but sense of intrigue and bit of confusion,like I was something different or strange to him.I've never gotten that look before or since, and didn't know what to think of it at the time. After my show, I went over to talk to him. He was from Alabama, and i LOVED his drawl, so different from the Michigan accent i was so accustomed to.We sat at table in the corner, and he bought me drink. I looked into his eyes and this man was haunted, it was like i was there but i wasn't.........he spoke to me intently and with conviction but he was almost vacant...... He had just returned from his 2nd tour in Iraq. His wife had left him, she couldn't take him being gone and worrying if he was killed or not, and when he went the second time, she couldnt take it. He had no one waiting for him at home, so he decided he was going to stay in Canada for a bit. He would come see me almost every night, and we would hang out after words, go to a club or out for dinner or whatever. One night, we were at the hotel, and there were fireworks on the river. We were in the room, and they started going off. He ran and practically dove under the counter in the bathroom. He was holding his ears and he turned all red and was breathing heavy. The fireworks had clearly triggered a panic attack.I climbed under that sink and sat with my arms around him rocking him and humming until it was ok for him again. He was very reserved before, we only talked about me. He just broke down and told me everything, the stories from Iraq that night, stories of things he did i wouldn't wish on my worst enemy to have to commit, and the guilt he felt about those things.......his conscience was heavy and he was a tortured. We were together everyday that summer, it was strange, we weren't lovers but we weren't friends either, it was like......... i dunno it sounds weird but he needed someone to care for him and i was supposed to do it......it was just a strange unique and intense human connection.......... He gave me his dog tag and he left. My life went on. A little less than a year later he called me out of the blue. He was going over again, for his third tour. he wanted to see me before he left. I met him when he was getting off the bridge, and we had the best night........he wrote me while he was there and his letters just stopped coming. A few months later, one of his friends wrote me and told me he was on a routine mission to a village and someone blew up their truck, him along with 2 other were killed and three other wounded. He told me he had talked about me often, and i found out while he was back in the states he had a major drug problem and that's why i didn't hear from him for 7 months. The friend had found an envelope addressed to me so that's why he wrote, and he included his phone number to call and encouraged me to do so, but i never did. I had a great respect for that man, and I'll always always remember him........... If he had had the support he needed when he want back to u.S. maybe he'd still be alive today.......................