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I am appalled at some responses and attacks the OP is getting for asking a valuable question. I am sure he isn't the only one wondering what to do in this situation. He did not name who the lady was or which Spa was involved so he had every right to ask this question in public. Many have provided great responses which are different on how to handle this situation which is fine. We all see things differently and that is one of the purpose on the Board, to exchange ideas about the business so we can all improve our knowledge of the industry! Maybe some need to be reminded this is not the other board where we attack other members and call them names. For the one that think he is stupid for asking, shame on you and look at yourself in the mirror. You might not see perfection! Nobody here is forced to agree with everyone. However this Board is about respect, learning and not being intimidated for asking a valuable question. DO NOT FORGET!

Hey guys, First off I want to say how great it feels to read such positive exchanges between gentlemen and ladies on an escorts review board... I haven't been able to spend too much time on the boards in the past year as I was busy with the booking services I was offering other ladies (fyi - now over, ill elaborate soon). I am sure I would have seen conversations like this one more often if my time wasnt dedicated to booking and problem fixing, and I am looking forward to participating much more!! Ok.... I felt like its OK to share my thoughts.... Not in details, sorry, as there is certain experiences, like this one, that are so special and so intimate that I keep for myself like a beautiful treasure... First, the way I have always approached working as a companion is to be myself. I have a lot of love to give and truly care about the people I meet, and make sure I only share this experience with those who want to be with a person over a list of "services". I see my role as yes, a sexual fantasy, but also as a confidante, a woman that truly cares about my clients well being, whether its physical, psychological, emotional... I have met many people who I felt useful to and that also helped me tremendously without not even knowing about it, and created many friendships along the way... Gloryhole (LOLLLL how can I be serious after calling you that), you and I only know what experience we shared... It was indeed particularly great! It also felt really special to me. You know that already... You touched my heart with the beautiful person that you are, your strenght as a man yet your sweetness and the fact that you worried about me and not for a second made me feel pressured or uncomfortable. It was just great, as pleasurable for me (more?lol) as it was for you. I also felt like for the time we were together all the world around us, all my worries, all of yours, disappeared. This truly was something that doesn't happen very often and I will stop there. :-P Since we are 2 emos we already took the time to talk about all of this... I think we both have great respect towards another, and Im thankful of the honesty of all of our exchanges! What I have to say is this: Was it real? For sure! Was it special? For sure! What was it? who knows! Do we care? hell no, we shared a moment, it felt great for both of us.. Are we letting life and expectations and labels ruin that moment for us? Nope! What does the future hold? Who knows, but for sure the beautiful memory of that time together! Guys, live life to the fullest, let beautiful moments happen to you without the need for explanation or expectations, just live and enjoy! :) Thank you again babe, you have a friend in me forever! xoxox

3 Québécois in Maritimes within a week well within last 2 days I have to say this is quite a coincidence.They must have read your tread and want to prove you wrong :icon_cool: Good for you:biggrin:

I will be honest with you, YES, there are still many stigmas attached to both sides of this industry which is why most people are very discerning about who they tell about either being a client or an SP. There are still so many people who have no idea about this industry or who is involved in it making judgements every day based on what they were told or past stigmas. much of that isn't true but there are some minds you can't change. I will say this, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to indulge in this industry for whatever reason. It has been proven that sex is a need and is one of the things the human brain craves along with water, sleep and food. Everyone has a different reason for being here and all are legitimate and worthwhile. This is why CERB is such a great place because all the stigmas are left to those outside and we are a like minded community supporting one another in the pursuit of whatever we need. SP's support clients just as clients support SP's...they also support one another client to client and SP to SP. Within this industry, you are free to explore and enjoy without stigma. Outside the industry there are still many stigmas that many work daily to alter, fix or change, promoting sex worker and client rights, liberties and safeties. If you are concerned about stigmas, indulge carefully, wisely and be discreet. This is your choice therefore it is good for you. Share it with those who will also see it that way not with those who will judge you....unless of course you want to pick up the gauntlet for the industry. Good luck!

i agree with everyone, no way would i cancel or not see someone based on a bruise or scrape or bad hair....i probably wouldn't know the diff on a bad hair day if it was a new person anyway lol...and for a regular, pfft nothing to sweat with me, i'm there cause we get along. life happens.

I have a dog, I am quite active, I'm fair-skinned, and I bruise easily - so, I often have bruises or scrapes. I would never cancel an appointment for a little bruise or two! That's going a little far, to call it an imperfection, IMO...

First, even when I look my very best I'm not 'perfect'. So of course my 'imperfections' haven't kept me from working :) I just wiped out on a mountain bike trail the other day... and I have a scrape on my ankle, a bruise on my forearm and a couple scratches but I worked. I also have a couple of bug bites. LoL I am sporty... I ski, cycle, rollerblade, kayak ... and ya sometimes I bruise. All in good fun!! and you guys can't catch a bruise lol If I was sick with a cold or something I would take the day off :)

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If you want to give more than what you're supposed to as an MA go be an escort, or go indy(Im sure you will make more!) . It's not fair to the other ladies who follow the rules and aren't giving bbbj ECT. And as for the client who got offered, you should definitely tell the owner in private im sure they would maintain your privacy.:)

After several emails back and forth and then a phone call to seal the deal I had the pleasure of meeting Clarissa yesterday at her temporary location while she is here in Halifax. Greeted me at the door , welcomed me in with a nice hug and kiss and we sat and chatted for a while. Conversation was easy , she is a very articulate woman and we talked about many different things. We then went into the bedroom and that's where the fun began. Clarissa made me feel like I was the center of her world and gave me the true gfe experience. She is very petite and has a very sexy body. More than that she has the maturity to match her skills and that's what I enjoy about being with someone of her age and experience. After we were done we talked a little more while we did a little more touching and unfortunately my time was done but never once did I feel rushed. Overall just a wonderful encounter. Thank you Clarissa for coming to NS Hope you come again !

I've had a lot of 15 min appointments and there has never been any disrespect between me and the SP. Not everyone can afford costly sessions, and you can go more often to the same SP if the cost is lower. Some SPs don't mind this at all. It is totally arbitrary to say that 15 min is treating someone like "cum dumpster" whereas 30 min is respectful! Each case is different and it depends on your rapport.

Sick is one thing, and yes, even I cancelled (I did pay the lady her donation in full btw) once because of it. But bumps, bruises, scars, you know signs of a lady living day to day, another, and for me at least not a reason to cancel an encounter And best and quickest cure I found (coming from a fisherman who has been bug bitten more than one ;-) ) for bug bites...calamine lotion. It's cheap, tried tested and it works RG

I have at times decided that I was not up to par . Feeling bloated is one reason, you simply are uncomfortable and not feeling sexy. Once I had a bad bruise across my thigh, and was worried a guy could think someone hurt me on purpose, so I cancelled till it healed. Even somedays my spring allergies can be bad too, and rather then trying to massage and sniffle, I would cancel. Nothing worse then someone thinking you are doing drugs cause your nose is sniffling lol.... But also if my energy is not right, could be moody, or extra tired, and then I will cancel out, as I never want to give only a piece of me, but rather give all of me! This way, I never end up giving a so-so session.

My God!!!!!! :-) You ladies take me and look past all my imperfections.....and there are a few...well quite a few ;-). Even if you have a bad hair day (and you have hair btw) you take this follicly challenged guy, and make me feel like a King. I've been asked if I would prefer to postpone encounters for one reason or another at times by ladies, but as of yet no imperfection has been cited as reason not to meet Don't be too critical on yourselves ladies...even on a bad hair day or other similar type bad day, you're Goddesses to me, and brighten my day A morning rambling RG

I kinda hope I am going to see a "real" person so if they are not offended by my body issues I won't be by theirs lolol. For me the meeting is about way more than just the physical.... it's about the connection and I don't think you get that connect on less the person is "present in the moment" and i think that can be done with or without the bruise. Now if the lady does not feel well I would expect she knows herself best to be able to decide when to cancel and I respect that. Just my opinion

I must be color blind havn,t seen "delicates" in a color I didn't like !

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Since I posted this I've met 3 very lovely gentlemen from Quebec, none of them haggled!! Life is so ironic!

This is a very helpful thread. I've steered clear of most of the hazards here but I think I could improve my initial contact conversation (primarily related to texts). I'm pretty sure I always at least started with a greeting. However, I had figured that you probably get a lot of texts (mostly time-wasters) and much back-and-forth would get annoying fast. Thanks for educating me. :)

I have a couple of gents who contact me every few weeks by text, to say things like: "nice new pics, I hope I can come see you soon!" "happy easter, want to book some time soon!" "happy mothers day beautiful ... maybe we can get together soon!" "merry christmas babe, I will come see you in the new year!" "more sexy new pics? you're gorgeous babe! see you soon!" "happy Hanukkah sweetheart ...." ... ok I'm kidding with that one ... but seriously... .... guess when was the last time these guys actually booked a visit? My curiosity makes me wonder if I'm one of fifty ladies these dudes text. Maybe he sits on his phone all day every day ... sending happy holiday wishes to all the girls. fml... Additional Comments: I don't think it's a big deal because there's plenty of gents who don't necessarily require a website to book. Another note to keep in mind however, I don't provide references to ladies I don't know if I can't find a website. It's a way to determine legitimacy for us, too :)

People who use texting short-cut language when writing pm's or emails. Drives me crazy. Whoops - caught myself - used the word "UR" instead of "your" when I sent someone a pm this morning from my iphone.

I've also sent payment to secure my spot. Looking forward to the social

The MA undercover SP should go be an indy escort rather then confusing clients that go to massage establishments. Also, if the owner is turning a blind eye and allowing this illegal activity to occur due to greed, that individual is putting all of their other staff at risk of being charged, not to mention all of their clients and bringing unwanted attention of the entire industry. The laws are in limbo but are still in affect. If the owner isnt aware, then I would suggest sending an anonymous email and giving them the heads up would be highly appreciated I am sure.

Wow this is getting so far out of hand it is ridiculous. Lets start with the fact that despite claims to the contrary, no spa in Ottawa, licensed or not follows the regulations set out by the city. Other jurisdictions are more explicit in stating that attendants should not touch the genitals etc of the client. Nowhere in this country is it legal to get a hand-job from nude employee. Whether or not by-law and the police turn a blind eye is a different matter. So now we are talking about "conventions" and breaking house rules. That is a totally different matter. True if word got out that a spa was openly offering FS then maybe LE would scrutinize more closely, but that is merely a supposition. If you feel that being a snitch is the way to go, and you want to turn an employee into the boss then go ahead and do it. It is not something I would do. Of course the word would probably get out, and I don't think many people would trust you much any more, or ever try and be a little generous with you. If you feel uneasy about an offer, tell the person offering you and then put it out of your mind.

I was going to try to make a joke about "plaid lingerie", but did a google image search first and turns out that, yup, that's sexy too! For me, black wouldn't be my first choice just because it is so common. Being less usual makes other colours more eye catching and memorable. But it's true that the style and how well it compliments a particular lady are probably more important. And while some colours may generally be more appealing than others, at the end of the day I wouldn't say there's a bad. Lingerie is like sex and pizza. When it's good, it's great. When it's bad...it's still pretty great.

Like I said in responses to your Pms..Good for you !its great that they are attractive to you. You started the tread with a strong opinion about the québécois clients..Which seem by posts that you resented them for a while..Like we say in French ""une crotte sur le coeur" in last 2 days you met nice québécois ..Good You say they are attracted to you.. Good not sure what else you want me to add to your tread:icon_question:

@ Jessica Lee Maybe make the client putting sooooothing calamine on you as part of the encounter...sort of a game of playing doctor...reward him for soothing you ;-) And to the ladies generally, well I recall back in my dating days, girlfriends having bad hair days...and a bad hair day can be sexy you know RG

A half walked marathon this morning! 22 kilometres or 13.1 miles in 3 hours and 14 minutes, had been training for past month and half, and morning weather was perfect at 5am, now off for a long hot epsom bath. Anything is possible when you put your mind to it!

Sudbury: Alexandria's Tommy's Not Here Timmins: Gallery Dining Room (sounds blah but it's freaking amazing) Osaka Sushi Sault Ste Marie: View (Delta Hotel) Cesira's Italian Cuisine Muskoka: Wabora Tepanyaki / Sushi Bar Dock at the Bay Tall Trees Georgian Bay: Henry's Fish n Chips (water access only, boat or plane) Ottawa: Beckta Dining & Wine Aroma Small Plates & Wine Still trying to find good food in North Bay ... anyone got any leads???

Happy Birthday DoctorLove I hope you get sum sweet lovin from a sexy doc or nurse ;) Have a Super Fabulous Day xxo

I like black because it is so sexy, mysterious and classy. I like it even better when black is mixed with off-white or ivory color. It feels so good to run my fingers over this piece of lingerie or dress made of satin especially on a beautiful cerb lady or any lady for that matter. :icon_wink:

Happy Birthday doctorlove Enjoy your special day RG

Have a great Birthday Doctorlove

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Most of us are guilty of overlooking and sometimes taking advantage of one another and what it takes for any of us to get through the day, especially in this line of work. I think some men especially, can take for granted, the hardships presented in this business and they are many. Even for those of us who do this on the side, so to speak and for pleasure it can be made difficult and cause us to question from time to time it's worth and if all it takes is really adding to the enjoyment of our lives. When you are a provider who wants to give more than just a quick roll in the hay(which is great and has it's place ) and offer herself as a true girlfriend, it takes a lot of planning, rescheduling, self maintenance, financial costs, confidence, physical strength/stamina, self awareness/strength of character, acceptance beyond the norm, along with all the other activities and must do's it takes to prepare yourself and ones locale. All this while fighting against the "do gooders" of society, catty girls, assholes who like to fill up schedules, waste time sending stupid texts, asking questions that are answered on webpages, cancelling for stupid reasons, cancelling last min, wanting an appt tout suite(because it only takes 5min to do all this!), men who want us to give them weeks of notice as to when we will arrive in their city then they want to give us 10 mins to get ready to see them, lol! Those who want to negotiate even after you tell them NO negotiating, even better those who tell you/me what we should be charging and are worth, yes they are the most loved;) Yes this is what most of us go through every time we open our emails, advertise and answer our phones. It is those men who treat us as if we are just another bus, forgetting that we are actual human beings, with feelings, responsibilities, needs and desires. To them I say take a step back because we ARE someone's daughter, someone's mother, niece, sister, friend, lover, wife, and maybe yours. So next time think before you speak and think even harder before you do-please. Then there are those wonderfully generous gentlemen who for no reason other than because they are gentlemen and thoughtful human beings take a moment of their precious time to send an upbeat note, make a post of thanks, keep their appts and make them ones you want to repeat, over and over, yes those are the men who make all those efforts worth it. The only problem is they are outweighed by the latter:( A thank you or kind word is such a simple thing to do and can give the receiver so much, why not pass one on today:)

Since I am from Montreal (born and raised) and since I've been a companion for a few years and have experienced different markets (local, out of town, out of province markets), I can tell you this: - The Montreal adult/SP industry is over saturated and has been for quite a long time - To stay competitive, a lot of ladies (but not all) and agencies will drop their price and offer more "services". This is where the supposed VFM (value for money) comes in. A fair amount of the guys all want the "best", the most beautiful (whatever that is), the most reviewed, the most popular, the most (insert whatever you'd like here), the most services included in the price and that, for the cheapest rate possible. The mentality is: If I can have sex with (insert lady's name here) that is highly reviewed and is (insert her qualities here) and provides (insert all the services here), why should I pay a penny more for someone else? If the lady they are contacting doesn't fit that "perfect" standard and doesn't hold that same "status", then they think they should be paying less for her. Not for her time but for her (yeah, lovely). Just read some other boards and you'll see what I'm talking about. My general observation is that these guys are just looking to "get off" with someone who they think is "hot" (and not much else), for as little as possible.. Are Montreal men cheap? No, not at all but when it comes to the SP industry, some will pick according to perceived VFM and some will pick the actual lady they are truly interested in spending time with. I guess this is true and can be said about many other large cities too.

Glad to hear you had a terrific encounter. Excellent memories are part of what this is all about in my opinion. "I am head over heels and I know many of you will say I'm silly but this feels real." I don't think you're silly but--remembering the emotions you expressed when you first started this thread--I hope you won't mind if I presume and offer a few words of caution. This can be a healthy lifestyle and you may find some healing and happiness here both...but don't let your heart run away from you or you may end up hurting yourself. "Feels real" and "real" are very different things, and while it's great when we make a connection with someone here, and while that connection can be real as far as it goes, just don't forget the "as far as it goes" part. :) Take a few deep breaths, enjoy the memory and feelings, but keep your head and don't lose sight of the boundaries of these relationships. If I'm reading too much into that last sentence, then I apologize, and I hope you know I say this with the best intentions. Good luck to you!

Last week I setup a meet with Lola Cherie, she accepted my request to meet. I informed her fully who I was to my surprise she had agreed to meet. Now my nerves really kick in. Anxiety, fear excitement. As the door opened she greeted me with a gentle kiss arousing every sense in my body. She is stunning and captivating everything I hoped it may have been and so much more than I had ever expected. For almost 4 hours I had the most passionate sex of my life. The way she looked into my eyes and how her body responded to every slight motion I made. Her scent, her voice and her smile resonate in my mind and send shivers down my spine everytime I close my eyes. I fell hard mixed emotions and many fears all subsided when my lips were pressed on hers. Lola you are simply amazing, a rush of life in me a deep desire to see you again and again. Where did you come from? I am head over heels and I know many of you will say I'm silly but this feels real.

You're making the assumption that the client or the provider are smoking in the room. Stating 420-friendly does not necessarily imply that the provider is in contact with someone smoking pot; it may be that if someone shows up under the influence of marijuana, that is okay with her. I don't know this lady. I am not going to make assumptions or pass judgment. Whether I agree with her personal choices or not, it's not my place to make those comments publicly.

I guess comfort level with the ladies plays a great role here. Build that trust and comfort level with them and chemistry n instincts will kick in. With that said I am nervous myself in trying to break myself into this experience.

They say what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. What happens behind closed doors should remain between you and the MA. The spa owner probably has a pretty good idea what's going on, and you aren't going to do yourself any good by "kiss and tell". The reason you go to the owner when you obviously don't get the level of service your're paying for.

Amateur strip contests is a great idea.. Now that you have your license maybe topless or nude female bartender and hostess. That would be nice..

Officially, 30 minutes is the minimum time I offer for incalls (1 hour if Outcall). However, I sometimes offer quickie sessions for a few hours to mix things up. I've also made an occasional exception for a regular guest. Because we've already met several times and gotten to know one another, it doesn't feel weird to me at all. To each their own is how I see it. Some ladies have restrictions that others are totally comfortable offering as a regular service. Some ask for higher rates than others. Some bill based on service while others set a flat rate based on time. Who has the right to judge which is right/wrong? How can one's character be determined by how much time they buy/sell with/to a SP/hobbyist? If Bob is horny and just wants to blow his load and it only takes him 2 minutes to pop his top, why pay for an extra 28 mins? I just really wish we could stop chastising and judging opinions that differ from our own. Live and let live. Cum and let cum.

Not only from the comments so far, I'm sure many would agree that you are making a good argument for June ;-) Some of the leg work has already been started to continue delivering on a great party all of you (we hope), will still get to enjoy. With that said, we'll have a firm date before the end of the week. Cheers for now! :)

Congrats! :) January 17 will be 2 years smoke free for me, and I know for sure that I will never smoke again. I prepared mentally for several weeks and then just went completely cold turkey. For a while, I replaced the physical habit with a piece of fruit, which worked well, and was obviously a healthy tradeoff. Everyone has their own methods that they say for work for them, and if they actually do work, that is great.. everyone is different, and if it works, great! However, I am of the belief that all nicotine replacement therapies, prescription drugs, "cutting down" methods, e-cigarettes, etc just prolong the pain and madness more than necessary (or exactly as PassionVitto said, replacing one bad habit with another). Just end it. Be a non-smoker. Nicotine is physically out of your body within 72 hours; after that it's just the mental battle. I just constantly reminded myself that I was stronger than the addiction. One thing that really helped me was The Canadian Cancer Society's Smokers Helpline Online. There is lots of great info there, and it's all personalized and interactive. The best resource I found there was the online forum. It's like CERB, except for people quitting smoking. It tracks your progress in a variety of ways, and can be very motivational and helpful to talk to others in the same situation, share experiences, tips and ideas, push each other, etc. I also read a few books which I found helpful. Reading a few chapters everyday, early on in my quitting journey, kept me on track, and made me want to stay a non-smoker, and not have to start all over again (remember - 72 hours is key). Alan Carr - Easy Way to Stop Smoking Joel Spitzer - Never Take Another Puff I knew I would *feel* better physically after quitting, but what I didn't expect, and the best thing that happened, was the amazing feeling of freedom I felt. It was so good to know I wasn't tied down to the addiction anymore, and I didn't have to constantly find a place to smoke, go out in the cold, find a store to buy them, spend my hard earned money on this bullshit that was contributing to my early death, and be a slave to these disgusting multi-million dollar death corporations anymore.

I've been contemplating whether or not I should add my 2 cents on the topic. I had pretty much decided to stay silent because I was afraid I'd be judged but then I realized that I really don't give a flying.... Let me elaborate. I've spent the past year and a half really getting to know myself. It was a laborious and surprising journey but at the end of it I found out that I like me. I have many wonderful qualities. I'm a good person. I respect myself as well as my body. I accept others as they are and don't judge them if they have beliefs or exercise practices that I personally don't feel comfortable adopting for myself. I've read mostly negative remarks about SPs who offer 15min sessions and the men who love them. If that's how they feel, fine. Nothing they say or feel will change the price of tea in my world nor will I lose sleep over it. At the end of the day my clients are happy and I have no problem looking myself in the mirror. As you may have guessed, I do offer 15 minute sessions. Granted, I don't offer them all the time because it's a pain in the rear to take the time to get freshened up and primped when the client probably won't really have time to notice that I look good. I only offer this option Mon-Fri from 10am - 2pm. The clients who request this option are looking for some sexual attention under the radar so they come see me during their lunch break. The time it takes to drive to me and back to work afterwards uses up a good percentage and stopping quickly to actually pick up something to eat takes up even more. How much time is left for hanky panky? About 15 minutes I'd guess. In my experience, it's rarely about money as was suggested earlier in the thread. In my opinion, these comments were completely uncalled for. I take great pride in what I do and I do it well. I can and have given quite amazing quickie sessions. I have a considerable amount of respect for myself as well as for my body and I would never be found on a corner. As for getting what you pay for, I've had clients tell me that I gave them a much more satisfying experience than they've had elsewhere and I did it in half the time or less. Granted the quickies are nothing compared to a full session but they do have their place in our community. One last thing... I'm curious. This reads as if to say unless you've been "trained" by agency (and I'm not familiar with this training. My old agency didn't offer any classes) you aren't an escort. If this is indeed what you were trying to convey then what are these un-trained ladies to call themselves? I have so much more to say on the subject and about the comments that have been posted. However, in the interest of peace I'll digress but before I do I'd just like to ask everyone to please remember that we're all human beings with our own unique thoughts, ideas and preferences. Suggesting or making insinuations about another's character based on how much time they decide to spend with a SP or on a SP for offering options/services that you don't feel comfortable offering (or for any reason) is just plain not right. Afterall..... We cum dumpsters have feelings too! :icon_mrgreen:

This is informative. I have something to add though. I have seen maybe 5 SP's. Only a couple of them directed me towards the washroom to prepare myself. To all the SP's out there I think insisting a quick scrub is a must. If the guys are not classy enough to obey then they do not belong in your company.

aw ya it is