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Don't let it get you down nor should you let someone else's stupidity(referring to c36) decide how you live and play. Lyla is a great resource for information and for selecting responsible and safe companions. There are many intelligent and well informed ladies and gentlemen here that often post as to what's new, changing and how to proceed since the new laws have come into effect. Peruse the site in full:) But as I posted in another thread, part of Harper and his squads scheme and hope is that they'll scare many respectful and unnoticeable consenting adults out of this industry, don't fall for it and let that happen to you. You'll be fine as long as you stick with legal aged non-drug using professional companions. As the two things I mentioned are illegal and will more likely attract law enforcement/complaints. We are all here, or we should be here , to protect, indulge, educate and help one another through this. Keep smiling it's still safe, fun, and your RIGHT to enjoy consensual adult companionship:)

wow, that is harsh to deal with. Some people will never learn. Not your fault at all. Do yourself a favor though, right-click disable any of your pictures. This way it prevents people from using your pictures for purposes like this. Some info, 'defamatory libel' under Canadian Tort Law http://en.wikibooks.org/wiki/Canadian_Criminal_Law/Offences/Defamatory_Libel Knowingly stating false accusations is libel. Don't let it get you down, we're all behind you :-)

From my point of view, no, nothing has really changed and I am no more concerned than I was before bill C-36 was proclaimed. If you practiced safe hobbying before, I think you are fine.

I can tell you that if you are seeing known and established independent providers, then you are fine. Law enforcement is not interested in escorts or their clients. Their focus is where it always was... The street. This isn't great for those who work on the street, but truthfully they are likely used to it. Just be smart about who you see, relax, and enjoy :)

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I feel yah Jenny! Cancellations are bad enough, but NO shows are the absolute worse! Very disrespectful, I waited an hour and a half, just today for a client, and that was even after a telephone confirmation! When I finally got ahold of him, he said he got lost, and decided to turn around and go back home! Ironically enough, I had given him Specific directions, and where I reside is maybe a population of 12,000! Excuses Excuses!! So I have now blocked his number! As for my cancellations, I am Thinking of implementing a fee, to add on to our next encounter, many of my clients are regulars, because I do live in a small area town,so I'm Thinking that's the best way to handle them! Oh, I loved your statement about burning the pay check!! Your so right girl,, so right!!! We just have to keep going, and figure out the best way for each of us to handle the cancellations!! Hugs girl

The answer to your question lies in the fact that there are still posts happening

When I met Eden at the recent Social and had a chance to chat with her, I knew immediately that I wanted to see her again. Eden/Nymphettt has a good website and contacting her by email was straightforward. Eden is such a beautiful young woman - a lovely face, big brown eyes, a gorgeous mouth and luscious lips that call out to be kissed. Soft, brown skin, full, well-proportioned natural breasts, a narrow waist and a lovely round bum. Eden is a sensual woman who loves to be caressed. Touching and caressing her is pure pleasure! I reserved two hours with Eden because I wanted us to have time to talk and get to know each other a bit. So we talked, and we laughed, a lot - about life and love and travel. And we had some very warm moments together that I will never forget! It was wonderful to hold Eden in my arms. She is so much more than a pretty face and a beautiful body - the presence of a woman - the warmth of the sun - oh my sweet lord! I'm sure you know what I mean ;) I loved my time with Eden and look forward to being with her again! I highly recommend Eden/Nymphettt to anyone who is looking for a companion who is beautiful, sexy, sensual, smart and fun! A very classy young woman! Respect, of course, is a must. bellafan

Being rushed...nothing s worse than paying for an hour and feeling she just wants you to leave and when you do realize your hour service was actually 35 minutes. Another huge turnoff...blatantly obvious disinterest and no conversation, trash talking other MA's/S ' s etc

Just one word of caution, when a lady books a client and gives the building address, only give the guy the buzz code. Do not give them the apartment number and tell them when they do buzz up to NOT address you by your working name as others may be coming through the front door. If your real name is on the buzzer list, ask the building management to change it to "occupied" because of privacy reasons or a former relationship gone bad. And if you have a monitor on the t.v. to watch people come in, even better. This way you can see if they come through the front door when you buzz them in. Anyone can claim to be in the area but if you want to take it one step further a landmark like a strip mall, gas station close to your place with a payphone will suffice. There are gentlemen out there who jumped through my hoops because they respected my safety. And I appreciate that. :)

I am sorry to hear that and I understand your frustration. But Unfortunately there is only that much you can do about it. It is impossible to discern if someone is cancelling because of a genuine reason or not. Some really good ideas have already been mentioned. I would recommend the following:- - Repeat offenders or last minute cancellations: after two or more last minute cancellation or reschedule, Just stop booking them. if they don't respect your time, they don't deserve it. - 24 hour cancellation notice policy where applicable, otherwise a small "cancellation fee" gets added to your next time. Now you can be a little lax with your regular clients vs new clients. But I would let you decide that. But this is the nature of any service providing profession. Don't take it too hard and like cristycurves mentioned look at the good times :)

Disrespect is disrespect... I see nothing wrong with asking repeat canceling client to either pay a deposit or pay full in advance. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

It pisses me off EACH time I hear of stories like this, but there is always rotten apples in a basket. I truly hope this did'nt scared you off the hobby, since we are far more well reviewed ladies out here... But one thing I REALLY appreciate is the calm and respectuous tone you used. No names, no details... If you see somebody asking for details about this girl, you can always help by sending a PM to whom is asking, and yes the B&S section would be a way to go. CK is a very good refferal aswell, but if it was a VERY dangerous encounter, you can always ask MOD about it... I would host you with great pleasure (if I was around), since you have a true gent behaviour... I'm sorry this happened to you.

Slight hijack... for those guys who don't feel inclined to leave extra in the envelope for whatever reason, writing a reco usually seems to be appreciated. It helps the rest of us out, too :)

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Hey ladies what is a major turn off when someone is looking to book a time with you ? One thing I absolutely hate is when someone texts me and says....What's up? Like really lol that will not grab my attention First impressions mean everything and I prefer a gentlemen being respectful and courteous when inquiring about my ......... For an example; Hello how are you or Hi I am .... and I am interested in knowing more about you and your ........!......so much better

Welcome new members and visitors. This section is for Lyla newbies (New Users and people new to this industry). Here are some steps to get you started... 1) Please be sure to read the RULES and FAQ. We try to keep this as up to date as possible so answers to most of your initial questions should be found there. 2) When you sign up as a new user, your first 5 to 10 posts will be manually moderated by us. This stops spammers, abuse and any negative slander that we do not allow here. It can take up to 24 hours excluding weekends and holidays to approve your posts so please be patient with us! 3) Take some time to thoroughly read this section. We have included some great posts here from our members and made them sticky so they show at the top of this section. Feel free to jump into the conversations - that's what Lyla is all about! 4) This is a community and we are all working to make the community better. Your contributions and participation in the discussions should be positive and enjoyable. We do remove negative comments as this is NOT a review board or a place to air your dirty laundry. Please do not use Lyla to slander, call out, fight or flame anyone. SPREAD THE LOVE, THE WORLD NEEDS MORE OF IT! 5) Please no promotion of sexual services here. You can advertise escort services, but no explicit sexual acts. That includes abbreviations. 6) In the words of Thumper... "If you do not have anything nice to say... don't say anything at all". This is the Lyla policy and anyone who breaks this rule is given a suspension or banned from the site. No warnings. Thanks everyone and enjoy the forum! Lyla xx

I just saw Kelly on Friday and she told me she has to go back to China to look after her dad for a year. But she is expecting to be back. So, if this is news to you, and you like her massages (if you've seen her this is likely), you might want to make sure you see her again before she goes. I think she plans to work until April 28 and then she's got to start packing things up. Normally I see her about once every 3-4 weeks but I'll be adjusting that so I get my proper fix. I'll definitely miss her.

Gents (and Ladies) Here's another newbie question but probably everyone is interested to see what you think on this topic. Obviously all of us are aware of the notion of tipping for great service received, however tipping often has customary practices that are unique to the surrounding circumstances. What are the 'best practices' re: tipping in the SP space? For example... - always tip except in the face of worse possible service (like tipping in a restaurant) - only tip if the service was 'blow you away' good (Not a BJ pun!) - never tip because the donations are "all inclusive" (this would seem unlikely to me) And lastly, is tipping generally percentage based (like a waiter or a cab) or a fixed amount based, or whatever you think it was worth based? Sorry to bring up money when so many more fun topics are at hand, but these Ladies deserve Best Practice and personally, I definitely do not want to miss the mark on this important point. Thanks in advance for all of your thoughts.

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Today I had the opportunity to confront myself. I went to a local bakery on Elgin St. and purchased something for $2.95. Not a large amount, however, I believed I gave the owner a 20$ bill. Once back in my apartment, I'd realized that I gave him a ten. I went back to this gentlemans bakery and proceeded to explain what had happened. I apologized for MY MISTAKE, as I really thought I gave a $20. I gave the gentlemen his correct change, I actually thought about not going, as I was tired, feeling lazy etc., when I realized, hey, you'd not appreciate this in a reverse scenario. Hands down decision. Happy ending: the gentleman was happy for me wrestling with my conscious. It was a great, up lifting moment. Sometimes it pays not to be lazy, when you see the happy, enlightened face of honesty.

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I have no info on agencies in your area but can give you advice when calling one. When you call an agency you'll most likely always deal with an agent on the phone, part of the reason girls work for agencies is so they don't have that responsibility. They also tend to have drivers which should also be discrete. when you call don't ask what's included, this is a red flag to most agents. As what's included and legal is for you to pay for their companions time. Not very informative, but that's where things stand. But be assured that reputable agencies will only send out courteous and accommodating companions. When you call just introduce yourself politely for EX: "I'm Mr.b looking for some company. I'm staying at hotel 5 star, who would be available to join me here". Also, research your chosen agency, many are reco'ed here as are their companions. I hope this helped, stay safe and have fun:)

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I've always said, tipping is not expected, but appreciated.

I do not consider any appointment as being confirmed until the client calls a minimum of an hour for prebookings and half hour for same day bookings ahead to let me know he's on his way at which time I will give him the address of my visitor parking. When he arrives there then he needs to call again for my unit number.

Things do happen but if I can i always try to give 24 hours notice and re schedule. If it's a re occurring problem I agree with the comment above...deposit isn't a bad idea at all.

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I don't want to steer the conversation in a different direction but I thought I would add to Kate's point about the address and location when giving it out to clients. Sometimes if I have doubts I will make the person call from a payphone to make sure they're in the area. Many ladies who used to escort years ago and before cell phones would make clients call from the nearest payphone to make sure they were in the area. In fact, I knew one gal who told me that she had a bird's eye view from her balcony apartment to the payphone she would get her clients to call from. With technology these days, spoofing numbers and texting apps, privacy is always a must but you still have to go with your gut instincts which is why I always make sure I speak with them on the phone and I ask to call them back. It's kind of like being a bloodhound sniffing them out so to speak and if my intuition is yelling "No!", I excuse myself and hang up without booking them. I know within 20 seconds whether I want to meet a person or not. They could sound like the nicest person in the world but if something really throws me off whether it's how they speak to me, the type of questions they ask, I listen to that inner voice, always! Same goes for text with the type of questions they ask. I will never book strictly by text or give out the address in text in case someone's wife were to find it or people who have no boundaries, etc.

It depends on if you're booking in advance such as hours in advance on the same day or days before. Personally I have given up on booking days in advance and I no longer use email because it's useless for me and just one extra step of going back and forth. I like direct contact with limited texting which allows me an more of an understanding of who I'm dealing with and a phone call to officially book. If they don't call to book, I know they're not serious and I end the texting conversation immediately. I have found a lot of men want to see someone when the mood strikes and I figure that's something you can't schedule. Unless of course they really do want to meet an escort if they are coming from out of town for example and are working around an itinerary. I will only book appointments in advance now if they are a regular I have been seeing for a long time. There are a few of my clients who do this but they are very consistent. If it's anyone else, I don't know them and I tell them if they want to meet me a certain day to call or text in the morning to schedule a time. This way I know they are half serious. The likelihood of a client cancelling on the day of meeting as opposed to days in advance is much slimmer. If the person doesn't schedule a time that morning, there will always be someone else who wants to book. If they do book a time the same day hours in advance, I will get them to confirm with me by text an hour before meeting and of course I tell them that if something comes up to please give me as much advanced notice as possible. If I don't hear back after they specifically asked for time then they are considered a waste of time to me and I will not bother to book with them again. My cancellations are very low because I like to schedule within the hour or two and if they cancel or no show it's not as great of a loss as if it was income that was anticipated in advance. I do mostly massage now and most of the men who visit me stop by on their lunch hour, after work on their way home or on a weekend when they're out running errands without their spouse. These are the type of clients who have been good because although it is short notice that is how I'm running my business now and it works for me with a lot less headaches. :)

Hang in there girl we all feel your pain on this one ,for me the real butt burner is the ones that don't bother to cancel and just no show but I agree this is happening much more often now not sure why. I find getting them to call the hour before as suggested earlier helps but it isnt fool proof. Good luck and drop me a pm anytime if you have question or just need to bend an ear.

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Richard and Jim sound like interesting fellas, I'm a lefty, if ever they'd want to hang with me;)

I'm a feminist. Always have been and always will be. Do I agree with every statements other feminists say? No. That's what being a feminist is in my mind. Being able to hear others points of views, and deciding for yourself what you believe. Are women still being exploited and held back by a patriarchal society? Hell yes. Will I speak my mind about this? Of course. Society is constantly evolving. I still remember not being able to open a bank account without a husband's permission. We still have a long way to go.

I once suggested to a gentleman that we share a bottle of a wine we both loved during our 10 o'clock appointment. He wrote back saying, "Really? Before lunch?" I hadn't seen that he said 10 AM and not PM! We laughed but that is SURE to turn off any hobbiest! Time for my wake-up bottle of wine, ha ha ha, it was pretty embarrassing.

My hit list: Majority of SP's call their client "Hun" or "Babe" real turn off. Drives me crazy Cigarette smoke...so much I won't stay as it gets into my clothes Perfume - most of us I assume have private lives to return to...who wants to be subjected to the questions?? How come yu smell like smoke? How come you smell like perfume? How come there is lipstick on your shirt collar? Rushed and rushed...pay for an hour and over and out the door. SP's who don't wash themselves afterwards...makes you wonder.... BAIT AND SWITCH. This is such a pain. I have turned SP's away at the door...and I have left an appointment. I only pay for what was promised. The pictures and description should match. Websites that list many girls but none are working that night.."but I have "Blank" available. Sorry no pictures up yet on the site, she's new Hun, really pretty , cute face, and I can send her right over"...RUN AWAY! Those that are promised in X time and take forever to arrive...lateness I really don't appreciate.

1-There is nothing worse than having her say "We only have a minute or two left." Instant boner killer. 2-Constant fiddling with cellphones. I don't think the ladies even realise they are doing it. I had one girl check her phone and text almost constantly through a one hour session. As I left she asked when she'd see me again and I said never, because of the texting. She insisted she had only looked at it once or twice. 3-Perfume. A one ounce bottle is not a single serving size. 4-Respect for my time. Sat in a lobby once for half an hour past the agreed-on start time. But she wanted me out at the agreed on endtime. Another off the list. 5-Photos that look like centrefolds and when you get there they are in sweatpants and dirty t-shirt. This was the same girl in #4 above. And we had agreed that she would wear a specific set of lingerie that were in her ad photos. Her defence was that she "hadn't had time to unpack". The ones who really need to tune up are likely the ones who would never read this thread. Kinda sad eh? But there are some fabulous and professional ladies out there! The fails only make me appreciate the good ones even more.

The only turn off I've ever experienced was just a few weeks ago when a repeat SP had not freshened up. I could smell it on her and it was a total turn off. I won't three-peat with her!. Other than that one occasion, I have nothing to complain about.

I think the idea is very good. Maybe even important. Most of us learn through trial and error, which can be fun, and can also be embarrassing. We end up knowing what we know. But we do not know the things we don't know, a sort of sexual or relationship aphasia. Yes, the exploration with partners certainly helps. But that does not mean we cannot learn more. I would suggest that many of the members on this site (was that a pun?) have a wider range of experiences than those who do not explore. As an example, Berlin recently posted from an SP's perspective about the physical interaction during a date, explaining (to paraphrase) that the best cars have many gears other than race, and that includes park. That tells me that we can all continue to learn. I will state my bias, and suggest that information/instruction is certainly needed when we are young (in age or experience - whichever comes first). But as a hobbiest I would expect that like any "expert" there is a constant curiosity to develop one's skill and knowledge. Hmm, the next poly might turn into a hands-on workshop?